你未能成功的头号原因

嘿。

Hey.

我是利奥，来自actualized.org。

This is Leo for actualized.org.

今天，我想聊聊为什么你可能没有成功，或者没有在生活中得到你想要的结果，这背后的头号原因。

And today, wanna talk about the number one reason why you're probably not succeeding or getting the kind of results that you want in your life.

那这个原因是什么呢？

So what is this reason?

其实很简单。

Well, the reason is very simple.

你行动得不够。

You're not taking enough action.

你需要采取更多行动。

You need to take more action.

这个问题最糟糕的地方在于，你不仅行动不够，你的大脑还在骗你，让你以为自己已经行动得够多了。

And what's really bad about this problem is that not only are you not taking enough action, your brain is tricking you into thinking that you are.

所以你根本就没意识到这里发生了什么。

So you don't even realize what's going on here.

那我们就来聊聊这是怎么回事。

So let's talk about how this works.

你得确保，无论你在学习、研究，还是想在生活中落实什么，都要真正去行动。

You have to make sure that you take action on whatever it is that you're studying or researching or trying to get in place in your life.

人们往往只是在那儿空想，做很多无谓的脑内活动。

There's this tendency just to do a lot of mental masturbation about it.

你会读一些书，看一些讲座，和朋友聊聊，写写日记，什么都做了，就是不做那件真正能帮你得到想要结果的事。

You're going to read some books, you're gonna watch some seminars, you're going to talk to some friends about it, you're gonna journal about it, you're gonna do everything but the thing that you need to be doing to get the results that you actually want.

说到底，行动比什么都重要。

And in the end, the action trumps everything else.

你可以做那些其他的事，我觉得那也挺好的。

You can do all that other stuff and I think that's awesome.

我觉得和教练聊聊你想做什么，这很棒。

I think it's great to talk to a coach about what you wanna do.

我觉得把你想做的事情写下来，然后想象一下，这挺好的。

I think it's great to journal about what you wanna do and visualize it.

把那些练习都做了。

Do all the exercises.

我很喜欢做那些事情。

I love doing that stuff.

我觉得那些东西挺重要的。

I think that stuff is important.

但是呢，也有一种倾向，就是容易被这些事带偏，然后陷入一种思维模式，觉得做那些准备工作、做计划、思考本身就已经足够了。

But there's also this tendency to get sidetracked by that and to to fall into this into this mind frame that doing that kind of stuff, doing the pre planning phases, doing the thinking is enough by itself.

结果就是，你太沉浸在那里面了，在理论上花了太多时间，而在实际操作上花的时间不够，没有真正走出去，把那些步骤落实到位，让想要的事情真正发生。

And what happens is you get so drawn into that, you invest too much time in the theory and not enough time in the actual practice and actually going out there and putting the steps in place to make whatever it is that you want to come about actually come about.

这挺棘手的，因为你容易陷入理论，而不去行动，但真正带来结果的恰恰是行动。

And this is very tricky because you have a tendency to to go into the theory and not do the action when the action is what brings you the results.

然后最后呢，你就会开始怀疑自己，开始跟自己说，这个计划没用。

And then what ends up happening is you start wondering and you start doubting yourself and you start telling yourself, well, this planning doesn't work.

我一直在反复琢磨这些东西。

I keep I keep rehashing this stuff.

我一直在读资料。

I keep reading material.

我获取了更多信息，但似乎对我都没用。

I get more information and none of it seems to work for me.

这些都是营销废话。

It's all a bunch of marketing bullshit.

这些都没什么实际帮助，我似乎就卡在原地，对现在的处境感到沮丧。

None of it really helps and I seem to be just be stuck and frustrated with where I'm at right now.

现在，这方面有几个例子，我想仔细讲几个例子，确保你在执行上对自己严格。

Now, there are a few examples of this and I wanna really go through a couple of examples to make sure that you're being strict on yourself with your follow through.

如果你没有执行到位，那你真的没资格期待结果。

If you're not following through, then you really have no no right to expect results.

所以关键是要确保你真的在坚持执行。

So the trick here is to make sure that you actually are following through.

比如说，你开始节食减肥，还去健身房。

For example, let's say you've gone on a diet and you wanna lose some weight, and you're going on a diet and you're going to the gym.

这就是你决定减肥的两种方式。

Those are the two ways that you're gonna you've decided to lose your weight.

好，那我们就现实一点。

Well, let's get very real about it.

如果你以前试过，或者现在正在试，也许你说你已经坚持了一两周，问问自己，行动到位了吗？行动持续了吗？

If you've been trying this before, if you've been trying in the past or you're trying it right now and maybe you say you've been on on it for a week or two, ask yourself, is the action there And is the action consistent?

我说的行动，必须是持续的行动，尤其是在减肥这种事情上。

When I'm talking about action, it needs to be consistent action, especially in something like losing weight.

所以，比如你真的问问自己，你开始了新的节食计划，开始了新的健身安排，那你连续坚持了多少天？

So for example, if you really ask yourself, you started your new diet, you're starting your new gym regimen, well, how many days in a row have you stuck to it?

有意思。

Interesting.

答案是什么？

What's the answer?

你有没有连续坚持五天？

Have you stuck to it for five days in a row?

连续十天呢？

Ten days in a row?

连续二十天呢？

Twenty days in a row?

如果你没有连续坚持三十天，那你除了现在这个样子，还能期待什么结果呢？

And if you haven't if you haven't stuck with it for thirty days consistently, what kind of result could you expect other than what you've got right now?

这基本上就是你现在的状态，维持现状。

And that's basically the way that you were, the status quo.

如果你去健身房，比如说你需要每周去五天，但你隔一天就缺一次，那你能期待什么结果呢？

If you're going to the gym Let's say you need to be going to the gym five days a week, and you're missing one day every other day, what kind of results could you expect?

这听起来很简单，感觉好像很明显。

This sounds very simple, and it seems kinda like, duh.

如果你去健身房总是缺勤，那你就不该期待有什么效果。

If if you're missing days going to the gym, then you shouldn't be getting results.

但你的大脑会骗你。

But your mind tricks you.

你看，你的大脑会告诉你，嗯，你知道的，我真的下定决心要去健身房了，也下定决心要吃得健康。

See, your mind tells you that, well, you know, I've really made this commitment to be going to the gym now and I made this commitment to be eating healthier.

但是，你知道，我周五晚上还是会出去喝几杯，偶尔还是会吃冰淇淋，深夜还是会溜进厨房拿点薯片，而且一周可能有两次，我就是太懒太累，就不去健身房了。

But yeah, you know, I I still I still go out Friday nights and have and knock back a few drinks, and I still have those ice creams once in a while, and I still I still I still go into the pantry late at night and grab some chips, and maybe twice a week, I just I'm I'm too lazy and I'm too tired and I don't I don't go to the gym.

但你知道，然后你还在抱怨你的饮食没效果，体重没减下来。

But, you know, and and then and then you're complaining that your diet doesn't work and that you're not losing weight.

你知道，不知怎么的，我就是减不了这个体重。

You know, somehow, I just can't lose this weight.

你当然减不了，因为你根本没行动，而且也不坚持。

No shit you can't lose the weight because the action is not there and it's not consistent.

你对自己采取的行动不够自律。

You're not you're not being disciplined with yourself about the action that you're taking.

那如果你想戒掉一个坏习惯呢？

How about if you're trying to quit a bad habit?

比如说你想戒烟。

Let's say you're trying to quit smoking.

那么，我的问题是，如果你正在尝试戒烟，或者你以前试过但没成功，而且为此很苦恼，我的简单问题就是：你戒烟的持续性到底有多强？

Well, my question for you is if you're trying to quit smoking or you have in the past and it hasn't worked for you and you're frustrated about it, my my simple question is how consistently have you kicked smoking?

所以，如果你现在正在抽烟，你实际上有多少天没有抽烟，而且是持续性的？

So how many days if you're taking smoking right now, how many days have you actually not smoked consistent?

五天？

Five days?

十天？

Ten days?

二十天？

Twenty days?

如果你连连续三十天不抽烟都做不到，那你凭什么期待除了维持现状以外的任何结果呢？现状就是你一直以来的样子。

If you couldn't make it through thirty days of consistently not smoking, then how the hell can you expect any result other than the status quo which is what you've always had.

对吧？

Alright?

如果你隔一天抽一根烟，那你根本戒不了烟。

If you're popping a smoke every other day, then you're not gonna quit smoking.

就这么简单。

It's just as simple as that.

你没有真正坚持去做这件事。

You're not following through on the action.

不管你听了多少讲座，不管你贴了戒烟贴还是嚼口香糖，或者跟心理医生聊，这些都没用，除非你真的坚持一段时间不抽烟，并且一直坚持下去。

No matter how many seminars you listen to, no matter no matter if you're taking if you have the patch on or if you're taking gum or whatever or you're talking to your therapist about it, none of that matters if you're not actually stopping to smoke for a consistent period of time and following through with it.

还有呢？

What else?

比如说你在读一本书，但你一直很难读完你开始读的那些书。

What about let's say you're reading a book and you've been struggling with finishing the books that you've that you've been starting.

有些书你想读，但你现在对自己很失望，因为你一直没能读完。

And there's some books that you wanna read, but you've you're down on yourself now because it hasn't been coming through for you.

那我的问题是，你要对自己诚实。

Well, my question is, get real with yourself.

你一天当中真正坐下来看书的时间有多少？

How many times during the day do you actually sit down and read?

看多久？

And for how long?

几个小时？

How many hours?

你每天坐下来读一个小时的书吗？

Do you sit down once a day and read for one hour?

而且你坚持这样做吗？

And do you do that consistently?

你每天都坚持吗？

Are you doing it every single day?

你有没有坚持两周、三周或者四周？

Have you done that for let's say two weeks or three weeks or four weeks?

如果你没有这样做，你怎么能指望读完一本书呢？

If you haven't done that, how can you expect to finish a book?

你是不是觉得，只要你在想这本书，你的朋友在聊这本书，你也跟他们聊了，在电视上听到了，还写了日记，想象自己在读这本书，还跟教练谈过读书的事，这本书就会自己读完，而不用你真的去读那该死的东西？

Do you think that just because you're thinking about a book and your friends are talking about a book and you talk to them about it and you hear about it on TV and you've journaled about it, and you visualize yourself reading a book, and you've talked to a coach about reading a book, that the book is gonna get read without you actually having to read the damn thing.

好吧，如果你连续几周坚持这个习惯，你会发现那本书真的会被读完；如果你不坚持，它永远也读不完。

Well, if you make a consistent habit of it for a couple of weeks, you're gonna find that that book gets read and if you don't, it never will.

还有别的吗？

What else?

那完成一个项目呢？

How about completing a project?

比如说你正在做一个项目。

Let's say you have some project that you're working on.

可能是在工作上，或者你自己创业，不管是什么。

Maybe at work, maybe you work for yourself, whatever it might be.

也许是翻新房子，也许是建网站，也许是写一本书。

Maybe it's remodeling the house, or maybe it's building your website, or maybe it's writing a book.

随便哪一种。

Any of those.

如果你没有连续至少三十天，每天坚持做那个项目，至少三十天。

If you haven't been doing that consistently for at least thirty days, at least thirty days working on that project every day for thirty days.

也许你周末休息，但每天投入大量时间，至少两三个小时，甚至四五个小时，连续三十天。

Maybe you take the weekends off and you've been working at it a substantial number of hours every day, like at least two, maybe three, maybe four, maybe five hours every day for thirty days.

项目没完成，你能指望什么？

What can you expect with an unfinished project?

所以如果你因为项目没完成而沮丧，也许是因为你没有正确规划。

So if you're frustrated that your projects aren't being completed, maybe it's because you're not planning them correctly.

也许是因为你没有足够的信息来知道怎么创业或完成那个网站。

Maybe maybe it's because you don't have enough information about how to how to start that business or complete that website.

也许吧。

Maybe.

但最可能的是，你失败的原因就是你没有坐下来，持续地投入时间。

But most likely, the reason that you're failing is simply because you're not sitting down and putting in the time on a con in on a consistent basis.

还有什么？

What else?

那怎么把自我提升的建议真正用起来呢？

How about integrating self help advice?

这个特别重要。

This is a huge one.

对我来说，这真的是一个很大的障碍。

Been a really huge block for me.

可能你去书店买了一本自我提升的书，或者听过一些CD和讲座，从中得到了很多有用的信息。

Maybe you go into the store, you buy a self help book, maybe you've listened to some CDs and some seminars, and you got some excellent information from that.

也许有人告诉了你一个特别好的点子，你读的时候觉得，对，如果我照着做，生活真的会变得更好。

Maybe there's a little gold nugget that somebody told you and now you've when you're reading it, you feel like, yeah, this this will really improve my life if I apply it.

然后几个星期过去了，你又这样反复了好多次，年复一年。

And then a few weeks pass and you do this again and again and again over the years.

你读了一些东西，几个星期后，你随便试试，但从来没有真正把它变成自己的东西。

You read something, a few weeks pass, you kind of play around with it, and then you never really integrate it into yourself.

你从来不觉得它成了你的一部分，几年后，就好像你根本没读过那些书一样。

You never feel like it's a part of you, and then years later, it's just like as though you haven't even read those books.

你从它们那里得到的收获很少。

You got very little from them.

你只是知道它们，但并没有真正把它们变成自己的一部分。

You know just about them, but you haven't really made it a part of who you are.

那么，这就很简单了。

Well, in that case, it's pretty simple.

问问自己，你真的在坚持执行并吸收这些建议吗？

Ask yourself, are you actually following through and integrating the advice?

你有没有反复阅读那本书？

Are you reading the book multiple times?

你有没有真正去做书里推荐的练习？

Are you actually going and doing the exercises that the book promotes?

比如说，我们谈的是吸引力法则。

Let's say we're talking about law of attraction.

这个挺流行的，我自己也把它归到这一类里。

This is kind of a popular one and I've, I've put it with this one myself.

比如说你读到一些关于吸引力法则的内容，读的时候觉得它听起来很棒。

Let's say you read something about law of attraction and law of attraction sounds great when you read about it.

你会积极思考，建设性地思考，不去想你不想要的东西，而是去想你想要的东西。

You're thinking positively, thinking constructively, you're not thinking about the stuff you don't want, you're thinking about the stuff that you do want.

当你读到那些内容时，当下你会觉得，对，这真是个很棒的概念。

And when you read that, in the moment you're like, yeah, this is a really awesome concept.

这真的会在很多方面改善我的生活。

This will really improve my life in so many areas.

它能改善我的人际关系，改善我的事业，改善我的健康，方方面面。

This can improve my relationships, this can improve my business, This can improve my health, everything.

而且我会对自己感觉更好。

And I'm gonna feel better about myself.

所以你知道吗？

So you know what?

我打算去实践这个吸引力法则。

I'm gonna go do this law of attraction thing.

结果呢，他们就是特别兴奋。

And what ends up happening is just they're so excited about it.

你跟朋友聊这个。

You talk to your friends about it.

你读那本书。

You read you read the book.

你听那些讲座。

You listen to the seminars.

你在这上面花钱。

You spend money on it.

然后过几天，你出去，真的稍微用一下吸引力法则。

And then for a few days, go out and you actually apply a bit of the law of attraction.

你真的开始想了。

And you actually start thinking.

你开始转变思维，开始用一些意志力，有意识地控制自己的想法，开始想那些你想要的积极、有建设性的东西。

You you start to shift your mind and you start exerting some willpower and some conscious control over your thoughts, and you start thinking about all the positive constructive thought stuff that you want.

你开始想那些你想要的东西，而不是那些你不想要的。

You start thinking about the stuff you do want rather than the stuff that you don't want.

然后有那么几天，你发现自己感觉很好，你觉得这吸引力法则好像真有点道理，但接着你就被打回原形，对整个事情失去兴趣了。

And for a few days, you notice that you're feeling good, you're you're feeling like there's something to this law of attraction stuff, but then you get knocked off track, and you get disenchanted with the whole thing.

然后你就会觉得，吸引力法则嘛，

And it's like law of attraction.

听起来不错，但实际没啥用。

It sounds great on paper, but it doesn't really work.

那它到底为什么没用呢？

Well, why does it really not work?

我问你，你有没有持续地采取行动，还是只是在那儿空想？

Let me ask you, have you followed up with consistent action on this or have you just done some mental masturbation about it?

这两者差别可大了，而且你的大脑会骗你，让你以为你已经行动了，其实你根本没有。

Very very big difference and your mind is gonna trick you into thinking that you have taken action when you haven't.

检验自己的方法就是，比如说吸引力法则，你有没有真的连续两到四个星期，每天都坚持实践它？

The way to test yourself is, well, with the law of attraction, have you actually applied law of attraction attraction for let's say two to four weeks in your life consistently?

我是说，整整四周，你脑子里不能有任何关于你不喜欢的东西或者你不想要的东西的念头。

Like, I mean, for four weeks, you don't have any thoughts about the stuff you don't like in your life or the stuff that you don't want.

你只能想着你想要的东西，持续四周。

You are only thinking about the stuff that you want for four weeks.

这真的超级难做到。

That's freaking hard to do.

我跟你说。

Let me tell you.

我试过这个。

I've tried this.

这真的很有挑战性。

This is very challenging.

所以，除非你真的在这上面挣扎过，并且经历了那个过程，否则你不会知道自己到底有没有真正坚持下来。

So unless you've really struggled with this and gone through that process, you're gonna know if you went through it or not.

如果你没有真正坚持，只是随便玩了一两天，可能读了一本书，然后跟朋友聊聊，之后就忘了，那你能指望这种行动带来什么结果呢？这种不持续的行动，除了让你维持现状，还能带来什么呢？

And if you didn't go through it, if you just toyed around with it for a day or two, and maybe read a book and then talked with your friends around it, and then forgot about it, well, what can you really expect from that kind of action, that kind of inconsistent action than what you've gotten, which is again the status quo, what you've got.

所以如果你只是断断续续地行动，那我就能预测你的结果。

So if you're gonna take inconsistent action, then I can predict your results.

你的结果会和你到目前为止的人生一模一样。

Your results are gonna be exactly what you've gotten so far in your life.

所以如果你对此满意，那就继续做你一直在做的事吧。

So if you're happy with that, by all means, do what you have been doing.

如果你不满意，那你就得开始行动，而且这个行动必须是认真的。

And if you're not happy with it, then you need to start taking action and that action needs to be serious.

这个行动必须是最重要的，要持续不断。

That action needs to be consistent above everything else.

所以这当然就是为什么市面上有那种常见的说法，说自我提升没用。

So this is of course why there's this common common notion out there that self help doesn't work.

我绝不是在这里戴着玫瑰色的眼镜吹捧自我提升的好处。

And by no means am I saying am I here to to tout the benefits of self help with with rosy rosy colored glasses on?

我的意思是，我在这条路上已经走了很多年，现在还在走。

I mean, I've been on this side of the fence for years and I'm still there.

我在这方面还是有很多挣扎。

I've still struggled with this a lot.

比如说，吸引力法则远没有成为我习惯的一部分，也没有成为我日常的生活方式。

Like, by no means is law of attraction something that I've integrated in my in my habits, in my habitual way of being.

这是我仍然需要努力的地方。

And that is something that I still need to work on.

但我想说的是，关于自我提升，大家普遍有一种看法，就是觉得它没用。

But what I'm what I'm my point about the self help is that there's this common notion out there that self help doesn't work.

我觉得这完全是胡说八道。

And I think that's total b s.

它确实有用。

It does work.

你只需要坚持去实践。

You just need to apply yourself consistently.

我觉得问题在于，很多自我提升行业利用了一个事实，就是人们很容易对某件事产生热情，但很难坚持到底。

I think the trick is that a lot of the self help industry preys upon the fact that people will are eager to jump on something, but then it's very hard for them to follow through.

我觉得自助行业变得不道德的地方，就是当它真的利用这一点的时候。

And the self help industry, I think where it becomes unethical is when it when it really plays into that.

比如有人卖给你一些研讨会录音带或者书，然后给你一个快速解决的方案。

Like if someone is selling you some seminar tapes and or some or some books and they're offering you a quick quick fix solution.

他们说这就像创可贴一样。

They're saying that this is gonna it's gonna be a band aid.

说这很容易，很快就能做到，不费力气，还能带来巨大的效果。

It's really easy and all this, and that it can be done quickly and effortlessly and give you massive results.

但我觉得，如果你做过足够的自助学习，你就会意识到要做好它需要很多自律，你必须有条不紊。

Well, I think that if you've done enough self help that you realize that it takes a lot of discipline to do it well, then you have to be methodical about it.

你得慢慢来。

You have to be kinda slow.

你得有意识地去做，不要被那些炒作冲昏头脑。

You have to be deliberate, and you don't wanna be buying into the hype of it.

虽然很多产品确实是用那种夸张的营销方式呈现的，但其中很多其实很不错，比如托尼·罗宾斯那些。

Even though a lot of those products actually off that offer are presented with that kinda hype y marketing, a lot of them are actually really good like Tony Robbins and stuff.

从某种程度上说，这确实非常花哨，营销味很重。

On some level, it's like super super gimmicky market y.

但另一方面，内容本身确实很扎实。

But on the other hand, it's really solid stuff.

比如，你真的去研究他的材料并付诸实践，会带来很棒的结果。

Like, you can actually go through his material and apply it, it's gonna lead some amazing results.

问题是，99%的人不会这么做。

The problem is that 99% of people don't do that.

他们只是买了书，翻一翻，读几段，因为听说了托尼·罗宾斯，或者在电视上看到过，或者被书封面或课程上的承诺打动，感到兴奋，但之后缺乏坚持，无法持续行动。

They just buy the book, they flip through it, they read a couple things because of what they heard about Tony Robbins or because of, what they saw on TV about it or because of the promises that were made on the front cover of the book or the program and they're excited about it, but then they don't have the sustainability to actually carry it through with consistent action.

这也是为什么励志演讲者有时会被人诟病，我自己也有过这种经历。你去听一场励志演讲，被调动起来，那个人让你兴奋，你准备好回去大干一场，或者改善关系、健身，不管是什么，但一周后，那些热情都消散了，你的生活没有任何改变。

And this is also why, for example, motivational speakers are sometimes disparaged because I've had this experience myself too is you go to a motivational speech and you get riled up, the guy excites you and you're ready to get back to work and kick ass or you're ready to improve your relationships, you get fit or whatever that might be, and then the next week all that stuff fades off and nothing in your life has changed.

这种事发生几次后，你自然会变得失望和麻木，因为看不到实际效果。

And after that happens to you a couple times, you naturally just tend to get disillusioned and jaded, of course, because you don't see the results from it.

你继续去听那些励志演讲，他们只是让你兴奋、激动，然后什么都没发生。

You keep going to the motivational speeches, they just get you riled up, hyped up, and then nothing happens.

如果你不坚持持续行动，光听励志演讲又能指望什么呢？

Well, what can you really expect from motivational speech if you don't follow-up with consistent consistent action?

所以，想想这个。

So think about that.

好好想想。

Think about that.

如果你对这些感到沮丧，对自己现在的处境不满，有点挣扎，得不到想要的结果，可能起起落落，像坐过山车一样，那就想想你的行动有多持续。

If you're frustrated by these things, if you're frustrated by where you are in life and you're kinda struggling and not getting the results that you want, maybe you go up, then you go down, you're you're in this yo yo, then think about how consistent your action is.

其实，我想提出一条新规则。

In fact, I wanna propose a new rule.

这条规则是：除非你有持续行动的可靠记录，否则你没有权利抱怨结果不好，也没有权利因为结果不好而沮丧。

And this new rule states that you have no you have no right to complain about lack of results, and you have no right to be frustrated about lack of results unless you have a proven track record of consistent action.

我发现最好的方法就是拿一张纸，在上面画个表格。

And the best way I found of doing this is actually getting a piece of paper, making just like a grid on it.

在纸上画个表格，把一周的每一天都列上去。

Making a grid on a piece of paper, putting putting the ways days of the week on it.

从周日到周一、周二、周三，一直到周五、周六。

Sunday through Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and all the way to Friday, Saturday.

基本上就像日历一样画个表格，每次完成该做的事情就打个勾。

Make a grid like a calendar pretty much, and start checking it off every time you do the thing that you need to do.

比如减肥的话，就打个勾。

So if it's about losing weight, check off.

在表格里那天你确实去了健身房，就画个叉。

Put an x through that that day in the grid where you actually went to the gym.

第二天再画一个叉。

And then the next day, put another x.

如果没做到，就什么都不写，或者写个“没做到”。

And if you miss it, don't put anything or just write missed.

突然之间，你坚持一个月后，就会看到自己真正做了什么，而不是你以为自己做了什么。

And all of a sudden, you do that for a month and you're gonna see what you have really been taking action on and what you thought you were taking action on.

所以，你可能觉得整个月你在健身上都做得不错，坚持下来了，但实际看到的可能是一个像瑞士奶酪一样的表格，几天去健身房，几天没去，几天去，几天没去，就是这样。

So while you might think that that whole month you've been doing good on your on your fitness and following through, what you might see is you might see this Swiss cheese looking grid where you have a few days to the gym, a few days off, few days to the gym, a few days off, and there you are.

现在，健身房是一个非常明显的可以用这个方法的例子。

Now, the gym is a pretty pretty obvious case where this can be used.

在健身房这件事上，如果你没有采取行动，那是非常明显的，所以你往往能清楚地感觉到自己什么时候没有坚持下来。

With the gym, it's so noticeable when you don't take action that you tend to have a a good sense of of when when you're not following through there.

但还有一些更微妙的事情，这个方法对它们特别有效。

But there are more subtle things for which this is really powerful.

比如说，在坚持做某件事上，比如实践吸引力法则。

For example, with following through on something like, integrating law of attraction.

每天你做了吸引力法则的练习，就在那一天上画个叉。

Go through every day you do law of attraction, put an x through that through that day.

而如果你忘了做，或者只是敷衍了事，就不要画叉。

And every day that you forget about it or you do a half assed, don't put an x through it.

然后过几个星期，回头看看，看看自己是不是有一连串连续的叉。

And then after a few weeks, take a look at it and see, do I have a string, a consistent string of x's?

换句话说，就是看自己有没有持续的行动。

Do I have consistent action in other words?

如果没有做到，那就是你得不到结果的原因。

And if I don't, well, that's the reason that you're not getting your result.

所以这个方法真的很有效。

So this can be really effective.

我在健身方面就是这么做的。

I've I do it with gym.

对于任何我真正想融入生活的事情，或者任何我认真想做出的改变，我都会这么做——你必须追踪自己行动的持续性。

I do this with with anything that I really want to to integrate into my life and any kind of change that I wanna make and that I'm really serious about is you gotta track the consistency of your action.

那么，为什么这很重要呢？

Now, why is this important?

为什么持续性很重要？

Why is consistency important?

这让我想起亚里士多德的一句经典名言：你反复做的事情造就了你，卓越最终只是一种习惯。

Well, this kind of brings me back to classic Aristotle quote which says that, you are what you repeatedly do and excellence is is ultimately just a habit.

它不是一次性的行为。

It's not a one time thing.

你不是只做一次就突然拥有了它，它就属于你了，就真正成为你的一部分了。

You don't just do a thing once and all of a sudden you own it and it's yours and that that is now really part of who you are.

你这个人，说到底，就是你每天每一秒所做的一切的总和。

Who you are is ultimately simply the collection of everything that you do every second of the day.

那就是你。

That's who you are.

没有什么真正的自我。

There's no who.

没有什么神秘的、虚无缥缈的自我。

There's no magical ethereal who there.

你就是你做的事。

It's just what you're doing.

如果你想要拥有那样的身份，想成为那个身材好、健康、经常去健身房的人，除了尽可能频繁地去做，没有别的办法。

And if you wanna have the identity and you wanna be the person that's fit and that's healthy and that's going to the gym, there's no other way to do that than to do that as frequently as possible.

如果你每天都去，那你就是一个去健身房的人。

If you're doing it every day, then you're someone who goes to the gym.

而且很简单，如果你不做了，那你就不再是了。

And quite simply, if you stop doing it, then you're not.

不管过去你做了多少。

No matter how much you've done that in the past.

所以如果你过去几年一直去健身房，但今天因为某些原因决定不去了，那你就是那种不去健身房的人。

So if you've gone to the gym for years years in the past and today you decide to stop and not go for some reason, you're the kind of person that doesn't go to the gym.

而一旦你开始去，你马上就变成那种去健身房的人了。

And as soon as you start going, you'll immediately become the kind of person that's going to the gym.

所以我们不需要在这上面想太多。

So we don't need to do a lot of mental masturbation around it.

你要么在做，要么没在做。

You're either doing it or you're not.

这让事情变得非常简单，非黑即白。

Makes it really simple and black and white.

这就是为什么你得不到你想要的结果。

This is why you're not getting the results that you want.

相信我。

Trust me on this.

人很容易自欺欺人，所以用这种图表或者某种客观指标来记录，能帮你确认自己是否真的在坚持。

There's a tendency to really deceive yourself, which is why it's helpful to use this kind of chart or some sort of objective metric that will tell you if you're actually following through.

不然的话，你总会给自己找借口，觉得自己昨天练得不错，但实际上你只是敷衍了事。

Because otherwise, you'll tend to give yourself the benefit of doubt and you're like, yeah, you know, I did a good workout yesterday when in fact you half assed it.

或者你会说，昨天吃得挺干净的，但同时也吃了一整桶冰淇淋。

Or like, yeah, I ate pretty clean yesterday, but I also ate a quart of ice cream.

就是这类事情。

Like that kind of stuff.

它们会悄悄溜进来，而你又不够自律去真正管住自己。

It just kinda creeps in there and you're not disciplined enough to to really enforce it.

所以就是这样。

So that's it.

这就是我关于为什么你得不到你以为自己应得的结果的一点小看法。

That's my little spiel about why you're not getting the results you're you think you should be getting.

看看你的生活。

Take a look at your life.

看看你所有挣扎、不开心的方面，分析一下你采取了多持续的行动。

Take a look at all the areas where you're struggling, you're not happy, and analyze how much consistent action you've taken.

我觉得你会发现，如果你在挣扎，你会注意到行动非常不持续，而解决这一切的办法就是开始采取持续的大规模行动，并对自己负责。

I think you'll find that if you're struggling, you'll notice that the action has been very inconsistent and the answer and the solution to all that is to to start taking consistent massive action and holding yourself accountable for it.