AEE 2594：我们打赌你无法抗拒这一集！

这是All Ears English播客第2594期。

This is an All Ears English Podcast episode twenty five ninety four.

我们打赌你无法抗拒这一期。

We bet you can't resist this episode.

欢迎收听All Ears English播客，已有超过两亿次下载。

Welcome to the All Ears English Podcast downloaded more than 200,000,000 times.

你是否觉得自己的英语进步停滞了？

Are you feeling stuck with your English?

我们将教你如何通过注重交流而非完美，变得自信而流利。本节目由美国主持人奥布里·卡特、雅思达人琳赛·麦马洪以及英语冒险家共同为您呈现，来自美国亚利桑那州和科罗拉多州。

We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, not perfection with your American host, Aubrey Carter, the IELTS whiz, and Lindsay McMahon, the English adventurer, coming to you from Arizona and Colorado, USA.

如需每周通过电子邮件接收文字稿，请访问allearsenglish.com/subscribe。

And to get your transcripts delivered by email every week, go to allearsenglish.com forward slash subscribe.

有哪些东西是你无法不喜爱的？

What are the things you can't help but love?

今天，我们将分享如何从表面到深刻地回答这个问题。

Today, we share how to answer this from the superficial to the profound.

仔细听，学习如何用英语表达得更亲切，以建立更深的联系。

Listen in to learn how to be relatable in English for more connection.

在你的母语中，你是个什么样的人？

Who are you in your native language?

很能干？

Competent?

很有趣？

Funny?

很有主见？

Opinionated?

那在英语中，你又是怎样的人？

Now, who are you in English?

如果你觉得自己在英语中更渺小、更安静或更不善于表达，那并不是因为你英语不好。

If you feel smaller, quieter, or less expressive, that's not because you're bad at English.

这是因为流利度与自我认同紧密相连。

It's because fluency is tied to identity.

当你不确定时，你会退缩。

When you're unsure, you hold back.

而当你退缩时，别人就看不到真实的你。

And when you hold back, people don't see the real you.

你不需要完美的语法。

You don't need perfect grammar.

你需要清楚是什么在拖慢你的步伐。

You need clarity about what is holding you back.

只需两分钟，你就可以免费了解自己的英语水平以及阻碍你进步的原因。

In just two minutes, you can discover your English level and what's slowing your progress for free.

前往 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

Go to allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

那就是 allearsenglish.comfluencyscore。

That's allearsenglish.comfluencyscore.

嘿，奥布里。

Hey there, Aubrey.

今天怎么样？

How's it going today?

我很好，林赛。

I'm great, Lindsay.

你呢？

How are you?

还不错。

Good.

奥布里，我有个问题想问你。

Aubrey, I have a question for you.

好的。

Alright.

说吧。

Let's hear it.

对你来说，有什么是你忍不住喜欢的东西吗？

So for you, what is something that you can't help but love?

哦，我的孩子们。

Oh, my children.

忍不住爱我的孩子们。

Can't help but love my children.

不管他们多么调皮或烦人。

No matter how naughty they are or annoying.

我忍不住爱他们。

I can't help but love them.

真美。

Beautiful.

真美。

Beautiful.

这对于一位母亲来说再正常不过了。

That makes perfect sense for a mother.

对我来说，我忍不住爱巧克力和花生酱的组合。

For me, I can't help but love the combination of chocolate and peanut butter.

我的意思是，这简直太棒了。

I mean, it's just killer.

太棒了。

Is killer.

这也是个很好的回答。

Also a good answer.

我确实很喜欢，尤其是在烤棉花糖上。

I do love, especially on a s'more.

我知道我们以前聊过这个。

I know we talked about this once.

喜欢

Love

Reese's花生

Reese's peanut

在烤棉花糖上用好时巧克力替代花生酱杯。

butter cups on a s'more instead of Hershey's chocolate.

还记得你曾在播客里提到过一次，我当时就想，是啊。

Remember when you shared that once on the podcast and I thought, yeah.

我做过一次。

Did it sometime.

我会试试。

I would

试试看。

try that.

美味极了。

Scrumptious.

我们做过一集，就在《连通沟通者》课程里讲过关于烤棉花糖三明治的内容。

We did an episode, we did a lesson about s'mores in the connected communicator course.

而且

And

我们很多学员都上过这门课。

many of our students have been in that course.

他们和我以及杰西卡一起完成了穿越美国的12000英里旅程，并且学到了关于烤棉花糖的所有知识。

They've taken the 12,000 mile trip with me and Jessica around The US and you learned all about s'mores.

所以去看看这个课程吧，你们所有人都可以看

And so check out that course, All you guys can see

是琳赛制作烤棉花糖的可爱视频。

is the adorable video of Lindsay making s'mores.

是的，如果你还没上过这门课，那你可就错过了。

Yes, if you haven't been in that course, are missing out.

是的，太有趣了。

Yes, so fun.

网址是 alleartsenglish.com/connection。

It's at alleartsenglish.com/connection.

好的。

Alright.

对，我们现在开始回答今天的问题。

Where Yeah, are we starting we're answering a question here today.

这真的很有意思。

This is really interesting.

琳达，你能为我们读一下这个问题吗？

You want to read the question for us, Lindsay?

好的。

All right.

是的。

Yeah.

这是来自我们优秀的听众吉安卢卡·玛丽亚·莱奇在YouTube上的提问。

And this is from our wonderful listener, Gianluca Maria Lejci on YouTube.

各位，别忘了，我们在YouTube上哦。

And guys, don't forget, we are over on YouTube.

所以去找一下这个视频，搜索“All Ears English”，然后订阅吧。

So find the video, type in All Ears English, hit subscribe.

这是问题。

Here's the question.

非常感谢Lindsay、Michelle和Aubrey。

Thanks a lot, Lindsay, Michelle, and Aubrey.

这可能已经过时了。

It may be outdated.

我五十多年前在学校学过这个。

I studied it at school more than fifty years ago.

有人告诉我，我被教过‘我忍不住爱你’。

I was told I was taught I can't help but love you.

这正确吗？

Is it correct?

是的。

Yes.

我非常喜欢这个。

I love this.

这很有趣，因为我们最近刚讲过‘can't help it’这个短语，它的意思相似，但语法不同。

And it's interesting because we recently taught the phrase can't help it, can't help it, which has a similar meaning but the grammar is different.

所以如果你错过了那一点，请坚持看到最后，会有详细说明。

So stay to the end for details if you missed that one.

但我们还会解释‘can't help it’和‘can't help but’这些结构的语法，以及一些相关表达。

But we're also going to share how the grammar works for that, can't help it, and for this one, can't help but, and some related phrases.

因为是的，我们确实还在使用这个表达。

Because yes, we do still use this.

对。

Yeah.

所以如果你最近几周听过关于‘can't help’的那期节目，这期是全新的内容，朋友们。

So if you did hear the other episode in the last few weeks about can't help, this is a new episode, guys.

完全是不同的节目，这里全是全新内容。

Totally different episode, so brand new content here.

那我们今天就开始吧，Aubrey。

So let's get into it today, Aubrey.

太棒了。

Awesome.

别忘了点关注。

And be sure to hit follow.

如果这听起来不熟悉，而且你错过了关于‘Can't Help It’的那期节目，那你很可能错过了很多期，所以一定要点关注。

If this doesn't sound familiar and you missed the episode about Can't Help It, you are likely missing a lot of episodes, so be sure to hit follow.

是的，顺便给我们留个评价，对吧？

Yeah, and leave us a review, right?

告诉我们你对这个节目的看法。

So tell us what you think of the show.

我们尽力在应用、Apple 和 Spotify 上公布评论者的名字。

We try our best to announce reviewer names from the app, from Apple, from Spotify.

告诉我们你对节目的看法，我们会提到你的名字。

Tell us what you think about the show and we'll shout out your name.

明白吗？

Alright?

当然，没错。

Absolutely, yes.

好的。

All right.

那我们开始吧。

So let's get into this.

这两个表达，'can't help it' 和 'can't help but'，都是用来表示你觉得自己无法避免或停止做某事。

Both of these, can't help it and can't help but, are ways of saying you feel unable to avoid or stop doing something.

而且通常都是比较积极的事情，对吧？

And it's usually something pretty positive, right?

我忍不住爱你。

I can't help but love you.

我忍不住爱我的孩子们。

I can't help but love my children.

是的，完全没错，完全没错。

Yeah, totally, totally.

一件积极的、很棒的事情。

Something positive, something that's great.

这可能是深层次的，比如你的例子，也可能比较肤浅，像我的例子。

It could be deep, like your example, or could be a little superficial, like mine.

这没关系。

And that's okay.

这里有一个完整的范围可以探索。

There's a whole spectrum here that we can go for.

让我们简要回顾一下我们之前教过的短语‘can't help it’的语法。

So let's just briefly share the grammar of the phrase we already taught, can't help it.

它通常后面跟着你无法避免的事情。

It's often followed by the thing you can't avoid.

它后面可以接 if、that 或者一个新的句子。

And it can be followed by if or that or a new sentence.

所以我们简要地分别说明一下这几种情况。

So we'll share just briefly each of those.

你可以说：‘如果我兴奋了，我也控制不住。’

You could say, I can't help it if I'm excited.

如果我兴奋的话，我也控制不住。

I can't help it if I'm excited.

是的，这很有趣，因为当你真的感到兴奋时，你就会这么说。

Yeah, that's funny because in this moment you would say this if you actually are excited.

你说‘如果’，这有点奇怪，对吧？

It's kind of weird that you're saying if, right?

对，因为你想表达的是

Right, because what you

我就是兴奋。

mean is I am excited.

如果我兴奋的话，我也控制不住。

I can't help it if I'm excited.

没错。

That's true.

确实如此。

True.

我们可以用不同的方式来表达这一点。

There are different ways we could word that.

我们可以说，我无法控制自己感到兴奋，对吧？

We could say I can't help that I'm excited, right?

这是对的。

That's true.

或者我无法控制自己害羞。

Or I can't help it that I'm shy.

对吧？

Right?

或者就简单说：我控制不了自己。

Or just I can't help it.

然后新一句：我总是直言不讳。

And then new sentence, I always speak my mind.

或者反过来：我总是直言不讳。

Or reverse this, I always speak my mind.

我忍不住。

I can't help it.

是的。

Yes.

好的。

Okay.

然后呢，奥布里？

And then what, Aubrey?

我们来做一个角色扮演。

We have a role play.

是的，它也可能完全没有任何后续。

Yeah, it may also be followed by nothing at all.

那我们来做一个简短的小角色扮演吧。

So let's do a quick mini role play here.

琳赛，你来开头。

Lindsay start us out.

好吧，你为什么笑得这么厉害？

Alright, why are you laughing so hard?

我忍不住。

I can't help it.

那个笑话太好笑了。

That joke was so funny.

对吧？

Right?

所以可能只是我忍不住。

So it could just be I can't help it.

就是说，我不知道，我根本抵抗不了。

Just to say like I don't know, I can't resist.

对吧？

Right?

是的，当你去喜剧演出时，就是那种感觉，你笑得快死了，对吧？

Yeah, that's when you go to comedy shows and it's just like, you're just dying, you're in Right?

实际上，上周五晚上我们全家去看了喜剧表演。

Stitches the whole went to a comedy show on Friday night actually.

有一位来自纽约的脱口秀演员来演出，喜剧效果特别棒。

There was a comic from New York that came in and it was great comedy.

哦，太棒了。

Oh, that's awesome.

真的吗？开场嘉宾也都这么好笑？

Really All the openers too?

还是只是

Or was it just

压轴演员？

a headliner?

压轴演员也特别出色。

Headliners were really good too.

我觉得从压轴演员选择的开场嘉宾身上，就能看出不少关于压轴演员的水平。

I feel like you can tell a lot about how the headliner is gonna be based on the openers that they choose.

而且质量很高。

And they were quality.

太棒了。

That's awesome.

哦，我喜欢精彩的喜剧表演。

Oh, I love a good comedy show.

太棒了。

That's awesome.

是的。

Yeah.

这很有趣，因为这个表达，你知道，我们之前教过，但当我们使用‘can't help but’时，语法是不同的。

So, this is interesting because that one, you know, we had taught, but the grammar is different when we use this can't help but.

它后面跟着一个动词。

It is followed by a verb.

所以，我们来举一些例子吧，Lindsay。

So let's give some examples, Lindsay.

好的。

Okay.

每当发生这种情况时，我都忍不住笑。

I can't help but laugh whenever that happens.

对吧？

Right?

或者我忍不住把自己的工作和她的比较。

Or I can't help but compare my work to hers.

这意味着我无法阻止自己做这件事，但我们总是后面跟一个动词。

It means I can't stop myself from doing this, but we always follow it with a verb.

对，又是一个表示动作的词，对吧？

Right, again a doing word, right?

我忍不住对这次面试感到紧张。

Can't help but feel nervous about this interview.

所以，这有点像你表现出一点脆弱，直接说出自己的缺点。

So it's kind of when you're being a little bit vulnerable and you're just saying here's my flaw.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

这很有趣，因为这个表达已经存在很久了。

And this is interesting because this expression has been around forever.

就像我们的YouTube听众五十年前就学过，我们现在还在用。

Like our listener in YouTube learned it fifty years ago, we still use it.

这是一种感觉稍微更正式或更精致的结构，但我们在日常对话中也经常听到。

It is a construction that feels slightly more formal or polished, but we also hear it in daily conversations as well.

当然。

For sure.

然后是无法抗拒。

And then can't resist.

很相似，对吧？

So similar, right?

而这个后面跟的是动词的-ing形式或名词。

And this one is followed by either verb ing or a noun.

所以有趣的是，这些表达虽然意思相同，但在句子中，根据你使用的不同，语法结构也会不同。

So it's interesting how these all mean the same thing, but in a sentence, depending on which one you use, the grammar is different.

它后面接的内容是不同的。

What follows it is different.

我认为这才是关键所在。

I think that's the key piece here.

我们可能知道词汇，但绝对需要知道这个词在句子中该如何使用。

We can know the vocabulary, but we absolutely need to know how that vocabulary word gets inserted into the sentence.

它前面和后面分别该接什么。

What comes before it, what comes after it.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

Exactly.

这是一个非常常见的错误：人们会把这类可以互换使用的词汇，想当然地认为它们的语法规则是完全一样的。

And that's a very common mistake to take something like this that is very interchangeable vocabulary and assume the grammar works the same.

如果只跟着动词却不接名词，就很可能会在后续搭配上出错。

And then you may have a mistake with what comes after if it's just a verb instead of a noun.

说得太对了。

It's so true.

那我们举几个和resist有关的例子吧。

So some examples with resist.

我听到他的笑话总是忍不住笑出来。

I can't resist laughing at his jokes.

或者说我完全抗拒不了巧克力蛋糕。

Or I can't resist chocolate cake.

对吧？

Right?

那关于加动词ing形式的情况，laughing（笑）这个例子里，“我忍不住笑”这句话里，动词ing形式就是被当作名词来使用的。

So for the verb ing, laughing, I can't resist laughing, we have verb ing being used as a noun.

或者一个真正的名词。

Or an actual noun.

我无法抗拒巧克力蛋糕。

I can't resist chocolate cake.

是的，很有趣。

Yeah, interesting.

所以‘resist’在使用方式上稍微多样一些。

So resist is a little bit more diverse in terms of how you are going to use it.

对，语法是关键。

Right, and then the grammar is key.

你不会想说：我无法抗拒笑他的笑话。

You wouldn't want to say, I can't resist laugh at his jokes.

它不能是原形动词。

It couldn't be a bare verb.

确保后面跟的是正确的形式非常重要。

It was really important that you have the right thing follow it.

这就是为什么这集看起来可能很简单，朋友们，但当你真正要把这些用起来时，可能需要听两到三遍，甚至做一些记忆卡片，对吧？

That's why this might seem like a straightforward episode, guys, but when it comes to putting these into place, you may need to listen two or three times and maybe make some note cards, right?

是的，这是个好主意。

Yes, that'd be a great idea.

好。

Good.

好的。

Okay.

我们来做一个角色扮演吧。

Let's put it into a role play.

我们在All Ears English非常喜欢角色扮演。

We love our role plays here at All Ears English.

你和我是面包店柜台前的朋友。

You and I are friends at a bakery counter.

哦，我能想象我们在面包店柜台前的样子。

Oh, I could imagine us at a bakery counter.

我喜欢面包店。

Love bakeries.

我其实刚去过那里，以前我家附近有个柜台，我进去只是想买个司康饼，结果他们把面包柜台换成了早餐吧，现在只能坐着等服务员来服务。

I actually just went there used to be a counter not far from my home and I went in to just buy a scone and they had replaced the bakery counter with a breakfast bar and you can only be seated and have a server come now.

他们拆掉了那个面包柜台，我真的很失望。

I was really bummed that they removed that bakery counter.

好吧，可能是为了最大化每单位收入的顾客数量，对吧？

Okay, probably trying to maximize customer per revenue, right?

是的，没错，我确实很失望。

Because if you Yes, sit I'm down sure, I was really bummed.

我当时就想，算了，转身就走，连司康饼都不买了。

I was like, I am just going to turn and walk myself out without my scone.

我喜欢这样。

Love that.

我没时间了。

I didn't have time.

真让人失望。

That's a bummer.

对了，我刚注意到一件事，这可以成为一个很棒的节目创意。

By the way, I just noted something which would make a great episode idea.

我想我刚才说的是，可能是想最大化每位顾客的收入。

I think I just said probably trying to maximize customer per revenue.

那里有问题吗？

Was there a problem there?

哦，这

Oh, Makes

没道理。

no sense.

我给调换了。

I swapped them.

收入 per 顾客。

Revenue per customer.

你

You

注意，那就是你

notice, that's You

你没注意到，但我们在英语中有时会这样做。

didn't notice, but sometimes we do this in English.

literally，我们会调换词序。

Literally, we swap word order.

我经常听到母语者这么做。

I hear native speakers do this all the time.

我们会

We do

经常这样。

that a lot.

而且我觉得

And I feel

听你说话的人，大脑会自动把语序调整回来，让它变得合理，而不是指出来。

like the brain of the person listening to you just swaps it back, makes it make sense rather than calling it out.

是的。

Yep.

我仍然觉得这可以做成一集非常精彩的内容。

I still think there could be a great episode about that.

奥布里，

Aubrey,

是的，我同意。

what do Yeah, agree.

那会很有趣。

That would be fun.

我们得开始留意平时听到的这些不同表达方式。

We'll have to start both observing the different phrases we hear this.

那会很有趣。

That would be fun.

是的，非常好。

Yeah, really good.

所以大家记得关注一下这个即将推出的节目。

So guys hit the follow button for that episode in the near future.

好吧，我们开始吧。

Okay, let's get into it.

我们先从我开始。

We're at the I'll start us out.

哇，这里的一切看起来都太棒了。

Wow, everything here looks amazing.

我都不知道从哪儿开始好了。

I don't even know where to start.

我也是。

Same.

我忍不住。

I can't help it.

我总是直接拿巧克力牛角包。

I always go straight for the chocolate croissants.

它们是我的软肋。

They're my weakness.

我也忍不住想吃。

I can't resist those either.

我告诉自己只吃一个，但你看那盘奶油泡芙。

I told myself I had yet just one, but look at that tray of eclairs.

哦，知道。

Oh, know.

我忍不住要拿两个。

I can't help but grab two.

一个现在吃，一个留着以后吃。

One for now and one for later.

这听起来像

That sounds like the

最好的主意。

best idea.

说实话，你怎么选马卡龙、布朗尼和纸杯蛋糕呢？

Honestly, how do you even choose eclairs, brownies, cupcakes?

我都想要，每样都来一个，拜托。

They're all I'll take one of everything, please.

我知道。

I know.

这些说法用在这里很棒，因为通常都是积极的事情，对吧？

This is great for these phrases because it's usually something positive, right?

忍不住想吃布朗尼。

Can't resist a brownie.

我控制不住自己。

I can't help it.

我想把所有甜点都吃掉。

I want all the treats.

这些也可以用于负面情况，但大多数时候是用于你无法抗拒但实际上非常积极的事物。

These can be used for negative things as well but most often it's with something you can't resist but that's actually pretty positive.

我们的诱惑，我们的小小诱惑，我们的脆弱之处。

Our temptations, our little temptations, our vulnerabilities.

这些就像是拿来开玩笑的。

These are like make fun.

生活的乐趣在于展现你的脆弱和不完美。

Life fun and you show your vulnerabilities, your imperfections.

所以我们谈论的是连接，而不是完美。

And that's why we talk about connection, not perfection.

人们喜欢你的小缺点，对吧？

People like your little imperfections, right?

我们喜欢这样，因为可以产生共鸣。

We like that because we can connect.

我们可以把你当作一个真实的人来理解。

We can relate to you as a human being.

你对糖有抵抗力吗？

You have a weakness for sugar?

哦，我也是。

Oh, me too.

没错。

Right.

正是如此。

Exactly.

想象一下，当我谈论我要买的所有零食时，你却说：‘Aubrey，你难道不该吃份沙拉吗？’

Imagine if I'm talking about all the treats I'm gonna buy and you're like, shouldn't you just have a salad Aubrey

当午餐？

for lunch?

我从来不去面包店，是啊，太无聊了。

I would never go to the bakery Yeah, It's so boring.

即使你现在觉得你应该这么说。

Even if you think that you should say that now.

没错，我同意。

Exactly, I agree.

买个牛角面包吧。

Just buy a croissant.

如果你觉得你应该只吃沙拉，就把面包带回家送给别人。

Take it home and give it to someone else if you think you should only be eating salad.

就随口说说吧，随口说说。

Just play along, play along.

当然。

For sure.

对。

Right.

好吧，我们再重新梳理一遍。

Alright, so again, just to go through this one more time.

所以你说，我都不知道从哪儿说起。

So you said, I don't even know where to start.

我说了，我也是。

And I said, same.

我控制不住。

I can't help it.

对吧？

Right?

你说你控制不住。

You said, I can't help it.

我总是直接拿巧克力牛角包。

I always go straight for the chocolate croissants.

对吧？

Right?

所以这很有趣，居然可以互换。

So this is interesting how it can be swapped.

你当然可以先这么说。

You could definitely say that first.

我总是直接拿巧克力牛角包。

I always go straight for the chocolate croissants.

我忍不住。

I can't help it.

或者你可以先说你无法抗拒的事情。

Or you can say it before what you can't help doing.

是的。

Yes.

非常有趣。

Very interesting.

然后你说，你也无法抗拒那些。

And then you said, I can't resist those either.

所以你在产生共鸣。

So you're relating.

这就是这里的连接。

This is connection right here.

对吧？

Right?

伙计们，英语里没必要搞得这么复杂。

It doesn't have to be more complicated than this, guys, in English.

对。

Right.

注意一下，我们刚才在讨论语法。

And take note here, you know, we were talking about the grammar.

当然，你可以像这样用代词代替名词。

Of course, you can always replace a noun with a pronoun like this.

我忍不住那些。

I can't resist those.

对。

Right.

那就是那个名词的替代。

That is a stand in for that noun.

而且说实话，如果你什么也不说，那会很奇怪。

And honestly, it would be weird if you said nothing.

那就像是沙拉的氛围。

It would be like the salad vibe.

这就像是，你知道的，如果我说我总是直奔巧克力羊角面包，那是我的软肋。

It'd be like, you know, if I said I always go straight for the chocolate croissants, they're my weakness.

然后如果你对此毫无回应的话。

Then if you just didn't respond to.

站在那儿评判你。

Stand there judging you.

太奇怪了。

Totally weird.

这是个非常好的观点。

That's a really good point.

这是一种非常重要的连接技巧，即使只是像这样微小的脆弱，如果你什么也不说、不同意，或者做其他任何事，都可能破坏这种联系，对吧？

That's such a connection skill that even if it's a tiny vulnerability like this, if you say nothing or disagree or whatever it might be, you could break the connection, right?