AEE 2595：你是否发现自己爱上了英语？

这是《All Ears English》播客第2595期。

This is an All Ears English Podcast episode twenty five ninety five.

你是否发现自己特别喜欢英语？

Do you find yourself loving English?

欢迎收听《All Ears English》播客，已有超过两亿次下载。

Welcome to the All Ears English Podcast downloaded more than 200,000,000 times.

你是否觉得自己的英语进步停滞了？

Are you feeling stuck with your English?

我们将教你如何通过注重交流而非完美，变得自信而流利。本节目由美国主持人奥布里·卡特、雅思达人琳赛·麦马洪以及英语冒险家共同为您带来，他们来自美国亚利桑那州和科罗拉多州。

We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, not perfection with your American host, Aubrey Carter, the IELTS whiz, and Lindsay McMahon, the English adventurer, coming to you from Arizona and Colorado, USA.

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你觉得自己必须去做的那些事情是什么？

What are the things that you feel compelled to do?

那么，说你‘必须’做这些事，和你说‘想要’做这些事，有什么区别呢？

And what is the difference between saying you have to do these things?

找出答案，学习如何更准确地使用英语表达。

Find out the answer and learn how to speak more precisely in English.

在你的母语中，你是一个怎样的人？

Who are you in your native language?

自信的吗？

Confident?

幽默的吗？

Funny?

有主见的吗？

Opinionated?

那么，在英语中，你又是怎样的人？

Now, who are you in English?

如果你觉得自己在说英语时更内向、更安静或更不表达，那并不是因为你英语不好。

If you feel smaller, quieter, or less expressive, that's not because you're bad at English.

这是因为流利度与自我认同息息相关。

It's because fluency is tied to identity.

当你不确定时，你会有所保留。

When you're unsure, you hold back.

而当你有所保留时，别人就看不到真实的你。

And when you hold back, people don't see the real you.

你不需要完美的语法。

You don't need perfect grammar.

你需要清楚是什么在拖慢你的进步。

You need clarity about what is holding you back.

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In just two minutes, you can discover your English level and what's slowing your progress for free.

前往 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

Go to allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

网址是 allearsenglish.comfluencyscore。

That's allearsenglish.comfluencyscore.

嗨，奥布里。

Hey there, Aubrey.

你今天怎么样？

How are you today?

我很好，林赛。

I'm great, Lindsay.

你呢？

How are you?

我今天过得还不错。

I'm doing pretty good today.

奥布里，有什么事情是你不得不做的吗？

Aubrey, what is something that you have no choice but to do?

我每天早上不得不帮孩子们准备上学。

I have no choice but to help my kids get ready every morning.

几天前我和他们谈过一次，因为他们都11岁了。

I had a talk with them a couple of days ago because they're 11.

觉得他们已经足够大了，可以自己做很多事，但他们就是不愿意。

Feel like they're old enough to do a lot of it on their own, but they just don't.

他们还是希望我叫他们起床、给他们准备午餐——

They still are wanting me to wake them up and make their lunches and-

有意思。

Interesting.

我说：孩子们，是时候该更独立一点了。

I'm like, It's time to get a little more independent here, kids.

是的，我觉得这个年龄挺合适的。

Yeah, I think that's a good age.

到11岁的时候，你完全可以自己装个花生酱三明治，对吧？

By the time you're 11, you could pack a peanut butter sandwich, right?

而且你知道，

And you know,

有时候他们确实会，但很多时候，如果事情没办好，他们就会怪我。

sometimes they will, but a lot like they if if something doesn't happen, they're like they're blaming me.

我说，现在这事儿得你自己负责了。

I'm like no, it's on you now.

坏习惯，坏习惯。

Bad habit, bad habit.

是的，没错，这样挺好。

Yeah, no, that's good.

这样挺好。

That's good.

那谈话进行得怎么样？

And how did the talk go?

他们接受得还好吗？

Did they receive it okay?

是也不是。

Yes and no.

他们说，哦，但你来做的话更容易，妈妈。

They're like, Oh, but it's easier if you do it, mom.

知道，但无论如何。

Know, but regardless.

这太有趣了。

That's so funny.

是的，生活中总有些事情是我们别无选择只能做的，对吧，有时候。

Yeah, in life, there's always things that we have no choice but to do, right, sometimes.

然后我们可以决定，实际上，有时候我们并不一定要做那件事。

And then we can decide, actually, we don't have to do that thing sometimes.

没错。

That's true.

正是。

Exactly.

对吧？

Right?

作为妈妈，这件事再也不会是我别无选择只能做的事情了。

As a mom, this is no longer going to be something I have no choice but to do.

对吧？

Right?

很好。

Good.

是的。

Yeah.

那今天我们聊什么？

So what are we getting into today?

是的。

Yeah.

很有趣。

Is interesting.

第一部分是像'can't help but'和'can't resist'这样的短语。

Part one was phrases like can't help but and can't resist.

所以，你知道，这些短语通常用于表示无法抗拒某事，但通常是积极的事情，或者至少是中性的；而今天的内容是延续之前的，讲一些更偏向负面、你无法避免的事情的表达。

So, you know, for being unable to resist something but usually something positive or maybe So today, this is a follow-up with phrases that are more for negative things that you can't avoid.

你某种程度上有责任去做它。

You sort of have an obligation to do it.

我喜欢这个说法。

I like that.

我喜欢这个说法。

I like that.

这会很有趣。

This is gonna be good.

所以是那些你无法避免的负面事情。

So negative things you can avoid.

我的意思是，对我而言，我别无选择，只能每天三次带我的狗出去上厕所，这就是一个例子。

You I mean, for me, I have no choice but to take my dog out to go to the bathroom three That's times a example.

当然。

Of course.

我的意思是，我喜欢带他散步，但你知道，只是为了出去上厕所，有点烦人。

I mean, I like taking him for walks, but you know, just to go out to pee, it's kind of annoying.

照我这么做，对自己说：基弗，你已经几岁了。

Do what I did and be like, Kiefer, you're a few years old.

现在你得学会自己解决这个问题。

Now you need to be able to figure this out.

是的。

Yeah.

这就是养狗和养孩子的区别。

That's the difference between raising a dog and raising a child.

最终，希望孩子能变得独立。

Eventually, hopefully, the child becomes independent.

狗却永远不会。

The dog never will.

对吧？

Right?

对。

Right.

没错。

Exactly.

这很有趣。

That's funny.

所以，是的。

So, yeah.

所以我们现在正在探讨一种不同的变体，即你必须做某事这个观点。

So we're getting into like a a different kind of permutation of this idea of saying that you have to do something.

没错。

Exactly.

并且要坚持到最后。

And stay to the end.

如果你错过了第一部分，完全可以不按顺序收听这些内容。

If you missed part one, you can definitely listen to these out of order.

我们会提供详细信息，以便你在听完后可以自行查找。

We'll share details so that you can look it up after you listen here.

如果你错过了那一集，一定要点关注。

And be sure to hit follow if you did miss that episode.

这意味着你很可能错过了我们很多精彩的节目。

It means you are likely missing a lot of our amazing episodes.

你肯定不想这样，对吧？

You don't want to do that, right?

所以，点一下关注按钮。

So hit the follow button.

如果你是在YouTube上收看，你也可以选择点击订阅按钮。

If you are consuming this over on YouTube, you also have the option to hit the subscribe button.

如果你更喜欢通过视频学习，那太好了，因为我们在YouTube上每周发布五期节目。

If you prefer to learn by video, that is great because we publish five episodes a week on YouTube.

明白吗？

All right?

当然。

Absolutely.

好的，我们来深入学习这些词汇。

All right, let's dive in with this vocab.

所以你第一个用的词，是问我有没有什么非做不可的事情。

So the first one you used when asking me if there's something I have no choice but to do.

这个表达稍微正式一点。

This is a little more formal.

它强调必然性，或者某种必要性，表示你别无选择，只能做某事。

Emphasizes inevitability or something, the necessity of something to say you have no choice but to do something.

是的，没错。

Yes, exactly.

所以我别无选择，只能道歉。

So, I had no choice but to apologize.

所以我做错了事。

So, I did something wrong.

显然，道歉是我的责任。

Clearly, it was on me to apologize.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

而且这暗示了通常我们其实可以选择是否道歉。

And this kind of implies that because usually we do have a choice whether to apologize or not.

也许这件事发生在工作中，你被要求必须道歉，关于什么，谁知道呢？

Maybe this happened at work and you were mandated to apologize Who about something, knows?

对。

Yes.

是的。

Yeah.

或者你只是觉得有道德上的义务，对吧？

Or you just felt like the moral obligation maybe, right?

也可能就是这样，对吧？

That could be too, right?

可能是没有人强迫你，但你个人觉得别无选择。

It could be that someone's not forcing you, but you felt personally like you had no choice but.

是的。

Yep.

还有截止日期，错过截止日期后，我别无选择，只能向经理解释延迟的原因。

And then deadlines, After missing the deadline, I had no choice but to explain the delay to my manager.

好的。

Okay.

是的。

Yes.

一样。

Same.

所以在这里，它的意思和我说‘我不得不做这件事’是一样的。

And so here, it means the same as just saying I had to do this.

必须做这件事。

Needed to do this.

这是必要的。

It was necessary.

但我们经常会用这个表达来强调它确实是必要的，强调它有多必要。

But we'll often use this chunk almost to emphasize that it was necessary Emphasize how necessary it was.

是的。

Yes.

然后我喜欢下一个。

And then I like the next one.

这是一个搭配。

This is a pair.

它们是一起出现的。

They come together.

它们不一定非要一起出现，但意思是一样的。

They don't have to come together, but they mean the same thing.

对。

Right.

感到有义务做某事，或感到不得不做某事。

To feel compelled to do something or to feel obliged to do something.

相同的结构。

Same construction.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yes.

这很有趣。

This is interesting.

它们都稍微少用一些。

They're both a little more rare.

你知道，当你这么说的时候，人们能明白你的意思，但我们平时不常听到。

You know, people will know what you mean when you say these, but we don't hear them as often.

它们也稍微更正式一些。

They're also a little more formal.

有时候他们会更关注你的内在动机，对吧？

And sometimes they'll focus more on your inner motivation, right?

如果你说你感到有责任道歉或有义务道歉，这意味着这是你的内在动机。

If you say you feel compelled to apologize or obliged to apologize, this means this is inner motivation.

并没有别人要求你这么做。

No one else is requiring it of you.

是的，当然。

Yeah, for sure.

所以你可以说，我感到有责任发言，因为可能没人其他人在说，而那个人做了一个精彩的演讲，然后他邀请大家提问，这时全场陷入了沉默：你有没有感到过尴尬？

So you could say, I felt compelled to speak up because maybe no one else was speaking and the person gave a great speech, and then they asked for questions, and then the room was Do you ever feel awkward?

在没有人提问的那一刻。

There's a moment when there are no questions

有人需要说点什么。

Someone and it's needs like to say something.

对。

Yes.

你觉得自己有责任站出来说点什么。

You feel compelled to be the one to say something.

是的。

Yes.

或者当我感觉有人被欺负或不公平对待时，这种情况也会发生在我身上。

Or this will happen to me if I feel like someone is being mistreated or treated unfairly.

我会觉得有责任站出来发声。

I'll feel compelled to speak up.

我不会默默沉默。

I'm not going to silently Yes.

站起来。

Stand

是的，这真的很好。

Yeah, know that's really good.

为那个人发声，尤其是当他们自己没有声音的时候，对吧？

Speak up for that person, especially if they don't have a voice themselves, right?

对。

Right.

或者如果他们不敢，你知道，他们看起来不会说什么，那我就来说。

Or if they don't dare, if they're not, you know, they seem like they're not going to say something and then I will.

我会站出来说话。

I'll speak up.

很好。

Good.

是的。

Yeah.

另一个例子是什么？

And what would be another example?

当他听说慈善机构的紧急需求时，他感到有义务捐款。

When he heard about the charity's urgent need, he felt compelled to donate.

所以，这可能是你在Facebook或其他地方看到的，比如众筹或有人需要资金做某事，可能会感到有责任或义务捐钱。

So, this is that maybe you'll see on Facebook or somewhere, like crowdfunding or someone needing funds for something, might feel compelled or obliged to give money to donate.

是的，是的。

Yep, yep.

所以，这是一种内在的驱动力，对吧？

So, it's like an inner pull, right?

就像你的道德指南针在告诉你，有些事必须做，而你就是那个该去做的人。

It's like your moral compass is telling you something needs to be done and you're the one to do it.

是的。

Yes.

我喜欢你提到的‘内在驱动力’，因为我们也将会用‘被推动’这个动词。

I like that you shared inner pull because we'll also use the verb pulled here.

我感到被推动去做这件事，或者被逼着去做。

I felt pulled to do this or pushed.

我们会说‘我感到被推动去做这件事’，所有这些都意味着我有这种内在的动力去做它。

We'll say I felt pushed to do this and all of that just means I had this inner motivation to do it.

是的。

Yep.

下一个就不太有意识了。

And this next one's a little less intentional.

嗯，是更没意识了，对吧？

Well, a lot less intentional, right?

发现自己在做某件事。

Find yourself doing something.

所以它描述的是一种更非自愿的行为或习惯。

So it describes a more involuntary action or a habit.

也许我们处于自动驾驶模式，对吧？

Maybe we're on autopilot, right?

没错，就是这样。

Exactly, right.

比如，我发现自己总是频繁地看手机，对吧？

For example, I find myself checking my phone too often, right?

所以这跟……没关系。

So this has nothing to do.

我不会说，我感到有强迫感去查看我的手机，那意味着完全不同的东西。

I wouldn't say, I felt compelled to check my That has a very different meaning.

这是你无意识地在做，意识到自己在做某事时并没有刻意为之。

This is you're just doing it involuntarily, realizing you're doing it without meaning to maybe.

是的，你是在默认状态下做的。

Yeah, you're doing it by default.

我认为我们都处于这样一种状态：只要一有空闲时间，就会不自觉地拿起手机。

I think we're all in this place where we just go to our phones by default when there's a blank space of time.

对。

Right.

你只是随手拿起来看一下。

You just pick it up, check it.

你甚至有一半的时间都没意识到自己在这么做。

You don't even realize you're doing it half the time.

没错， definitely。

Yeah, for sure.

或者我经常发现自己重读同一段话，因为我容易分心。

Or I often find myself rereading the same paragraph because I get distracted.

你也这样吗？

Do you do that too?

奥布里？

Aubrey?

当然。

Absolutely.

我也是这样。

That's what happens to me.

我正在看书的时候，不知道是孩子要来了，还是其他什么在干扰我。

I'll be reading a book And then I don't know if my kids are coming or who knows what else is distracting me.

我记得上大学时这种情况经常发生。

I remember this happening all the time when I was in college.

我会在教科书里同一段话读上三十遍。

Would read the same paragraph in a textbook 30 times.

我也是。

Same here.

我知道。

I know.

最糟糕了。

It's the worst.

就好像我没吸收进去一样

It's like I'm not absorbing it

某种程度上。

in a way.

它无法吸引我的注意力，所以我容易分心，然后不得不一遍又一遍地重读。

It's not keeping my attention, and so I get distracted and then find myself having to read it again and again.

是的。

Yep.

你甚至可能会发现自己开车去了旧住址。

You could also potentially find yourself driving to your old address.

比如，如果你搬到了城市另一头，你可能会完全进入自动驾驶模式。

Like, if you moved across town, you could just go totally on autopilot.

我发现自己明明已经不住在那里了，却还是开车去旧房子。

I find myself drive found myself driving to my old house when I don't live there anymore.

你可能会站在冰箱前发呆，却不知道自己为什么要看，想找什么。

You could find yourself staring into the fridge when you don't know why you're look what you're looking for.

各种各样的事情。

All sorts of things.

所有这些事情都是不知不觉中发生的。

All of these things are just sort of involuntarily doing it.

我昨天就遇到了这种情况。

That happened to me yesterday.

我以前总是右转去接孩子放学。

I used to take a certain right turn to pick my kids up from school.

是的，昨天我离开社区时，就下意识地在那里右转了。

Yeah, and yesterday I was leaving the neighborhood and I just turned right there.

完全是肌肉记忆，我发现自己又转了弯。

Pure muscle memory found myself That's turning

这就是我们知道大脑何时关闭的方式。

how we know when the brain switched off.

小憩一会儿。

Taking a little nap.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

Exactly.

是的。

Yeah.

太喜欢了。

Love that.

好的，奥布里。

Okay, Aubrey.

我们休息完了，回来了。

We are back from break.

我们来做一个小角色扮演吧。

Let's do a little role play here.

所以现在我们就像朋友一起喝咖啡聊天。

So here we are friends talking over coffee.

好的。

Okay.

那你想先开始吗？

So wanna start us out?

是的。

Yes.

昨晚我在派对的甜点桌旁，无意中看到你和莎拉在聊天。

So I found myself by the dessert table at the party last night, and I happened to see you and Sarah talking.

进展得怎么样？

How did it go?

哦，是的。

Oh, yeah.

我别无选择，只能提起她上周跟我说的话。

I had no choice but to bring up what she said to me last week.

是时候把话说开了。

It was time to clear the air.

可以理解。

Understandable.

如果我和别人之间有矛盾，我通常会觉得必须把问题谈清楚。

If ever there's bad blood between me and someone else, I usually feel compelled to talk it out.

对。

Yeah.

我也是。

Same.

这件事一直压在我心里，很高兴我们把事情解决了。

It was really weighing on me, so I'm glad we worked things out.

是的。

Yeah.

与其让问题积累，不如朝这个方向走。

Better to go in that direction than let something build.

对吧？

Right?

绝对如此。

Absolutely.

是的。

Yeah.

我非常有这种感觉。

I feel this way very much.

我就觉得，得把话说开。

I'm like, need to clear the air.

我们得把事情谈清楚。

We need to talk it out.

很难让事情就这样悬而未决。

It's hard to just let something linger.

是的。

Yeah.

让它悬着。

Let it linger.

或者我本来想找另一个词，但一时想不起来了。

Or there's another word I was looking for, and I can't think of the word.

但当它只是悬着，就会积累、停留，甚至迅速恶化。

But where it just it lingers, it builds, it sticks around, it festers too fast.

恶化。

Festers.

对。

Yes.

就是这个词。

That's the word.

是的

Yep.

今天这真是个不错的意外收获。

That's a good bonus for today.

是的

Yeah.

当然。

Definitely.

好的。

Alright.

在这次角色扮演中，我们说了什么，奥布里？

What did we say in this role play, Aubrey?

所以你首先说，昨晚我在派对的甜点桌旁遇到了自己。

So you first said, so I found myself by the dessert table at the party last night.

我喜欢这一点，因为你目睹了我和别人的对话，想问一问。

Love this because you have witnessed conversation between me and someone else and you want to ask about it.

所以你是在给出一个理由，暗示你并不是在偷听。

So you're sort of giving the reason like you weren't eavesdropping.

是的，你并不是故意走过去的。

Yeah, you didn't intentionally go over there.

没错，

Exactly,

你只是恰好在那里。

you just happened to be there.

而且你其实是在开玩笑，因为我们常说，哦，我发现自己站在甜点桌旁。

And you're kind of making a joke because we say, you know, like, oh, I found myself by the dessert table.

所以你是在暗示，是甜点桌在吸引你。

So you're sort of saying like the dessert table was drying me.

我根本没打算过去吃那么多甜点。

I didn't even mean to go over and eat all those desserts.

你说得对。

You're right.

当你想表明自己并没有故意去偷听对话，而只是恰好出现在那里时，这种说法非常有用。

This is pretty useful when you're trying to show you didn't have full intention to go and overhear a conversation, but you just happened to show up there.

对吧？

Right?

这就像是在说，你根本无法控制自己最终出现在那里这件事。

It's like you're saying like you didn't have any control over the fact that you ended up there.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

Exactly.

这很有用。

It's useful.

嗯。

Mhmm.

然后我说，我别无选择，只能提起她上周跟我讲的话。

And then I said, I had no choice but to bring up what she said to me last week.

所以，这其实就是一种说法，意思是有什么事让我很困扰，我觉得是时候把话说开了。

So this was just a way of saying like something was bothering me and I said it was time to clear the air.

这顺便意味着要坦诚交流，以恢复积极的氛围，对吧？

That's kind of a bonus that means to talk openly to restore a positive atmosphere, right?

就像你说的，有什么事情一直在积压着。

There was something, like you said, festering.

当时发生过一些对话。

There was some kind of conversation.

我们没有细说具体发生了什么，但我说我别无选择，只能和她把事情谈开。

We don't go into details about what happened, but I say I had no choice but to talk it out with her.

今天这期节目冒出好多好词啊，奥布里。

A lot of good vocabulary coming out of today's episode, Aubrey.

这期内容对应用来说太棒了。

This is going to be a great one for the app.

哦，当然了。

Oh, definitely.

这里有很多不错的关键词。

Lot of good keywords here.

希望你们已经下载了这款应用。

Hopefully, you guys have downloaded the app.

如果没有，可以到 allearsenglish.com/app 下载。

If not, you can get it at allearsenglish.com/app.

是的。

Yes.

最后一句，我说了，可以理解。

And the last line, I said, understandable.

如果我和别人之间有过节，我通常会觉得有必要把话说开。

If there's ever bad blood between me and someone else, I usually feel compelled to talk it out.

所以，就像我们之前说的，我感到有一种驱动力。

So I feel pulled, as we said before.

对吧？

Right?

这种内在的动力促使你去解决矛盾，以便你们还能做朋友。

This internal motivation to work it out so that you can be friends.

对吧？

Right?

因为如果你任由它恶化，让这样的事情持续下去，可能会毁掉这段友谊。

Because often if you do let it fester, if you let something like that linger, it could ruin the friendship.

你说得对。

You got it.

所以，各位，另一个值得收听的精彩节目是第25.94期。

So another great episode to check out, guys, would be 25.94.

我们打赌你无法抗拒这一期。

We Bet You Can't Resist This Episode.

是的，这是第一部分，讲的是我们常用来形容那些积极、让人无法抗拒、忍不住去做的事的短语。

Yeah, and that was part one with of the these phrases that we would use more often for something positive that you can't resist, that you can't help but doing.

对。

Yeah.

所以一定要看完整个系列。

So make sure you complete the full series.

奥布里，我们说过会有第三部分吗？

Aubrey, did we say there's going to be a part three?

我们说过这部分就到此为止了吗？

Did we say that's over on business?

不能

Can't

我记得这个系列就只有这两部分。

remember I think just these two for this series.

好的。

Okay.

就这两部分。

Just these two.

好吧。

Alright.

确保你完成这个系列，把事情闭环。

Make sure you complete you know, close the loop on this series.

别忘了观看全部两集，并关注这个节目。

Make sure you get both episodes and hit follow on the show while you're at it.

有什么最终的感悟吗，奥布里？

Any final takeaways, Aubrey?

是的，我非常喜欢这个。

Yeah, I love this.

我觉得当我们使用这些表达时，确实展现了一种脆弱感，对吧？

I think it does show sort of vulnerability when we use these phrases, right?

我忍不住要做某件事。

I can't help but do something.

我发现自己。

I found myself.

我别无选择，只能这么做。

I had no choice but to do this.

而且这样还能避免使用像‘我不得不做这个’这样更枯燥的表达。

And it also just keeps you from having to use more sort of boring language of like, I had to do this.

而且，有趣的是，说‘我不得不做’或‘被迫做’这种话几乎有点太强烈了。

That also, it's interesting, that's almost too strong to say, I had I to do was forced to do this.

我们表达这种意思的其他方式，其实并不太符合语境。

Some of the other ways we would say this wouldn't really have the right tone.

而且也不够准确，对吧？

And it's also not precise enough, right?

‘不得不做’或‘被迫做’，和‘我感到有义务做’是不一样的。

Had to do something, was forced to do something versus I felt compelled to do something.

不够准确。

It's not precise enough.

‘我感到有义务’更准确。

I felt compelled is more precise.

对吧？

Right?