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这是《All Ears English》播客第2601期。
This is an All Ears English Podcast episode twenty six zero one.
我很高兴我们做了这次录制。
I'm so glad we did this.
悄然结束聚会的几种微妙方式。
Subtle ways to end a gathering.
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你是否在英语学习上感到卡住了？
Are you feeling stuck with your English?
我们将教你如何通过注重交流而非完美，摆脱恐惧、流利说英语。本节目由美国主持人奥布里·卡特、雅思达人琳赛·麦卡锡和英语冒险家琳赛·麦卡锡为您带来，他们来自美国亚利桑那州和科罗拉多州。
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几周前，我们向你们展示了直接明了地暗示聚会结束的方式。
A few weeks ago, we showed you blatant and direct ways to suggest a party is over.
但大多数时候，我们需要更加含蓄，并且要捕捉语言中的暗示信号。
But most of the time, we need to be more subtle, and we have to pick up on language cues.
这些信号是什么？
What are they?
今天就来了解一下。
Find out today.
即使你在英语中语法上完全正确，也可能听起来不自然。
You can be technically correct in English and still not sound natural.
也许你的句子语法没错，但总觉得生硬、有点机械，不像母语者会说的那样。
Maybe your sentences are grammatically right, but something feels stiff, a little robotic, not quite how a native speaker would say it.
这就是语感。
That's nuance.
流利度体现在搭配、短语动词和词语选择上，而不仅仅是语法规则。
Fluency lives in collocations, phrasal verbs, and word choice, not just grammar rules.
如果你一直使用同样的安全表达，也许该尝试突破了。
If you keep using the same safe phrases, it may be time to stretch.
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Find out your level and what vocabulary skills you're missing in our free two minute quiz.
前往 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。
Go to allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.
就是 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。
That's allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.
你好，米歇尔。
Hello, Michelle.
你今天怎么样？
How are you today?
最近怎么样？
How's it going?
我很好，林赛。
I'm doing well, Lindsay.
你怎么样？
How are you?
我今天过得还不错。
I'm doing pretty good today.
米歇尔，我有个关于性格的问题想问你。
Michelle, I have a personality question for you.
哦，好的。
Oh, okay.
那么，当你对别人设定界限时，你通常更直接还是更含蓄？
So do you tend to be more direct or more subtle when you're setting boundaries with people?
我觉得这取决于对方是谁。
I think it depends who it is.
好的。
Okay.
首先，设定界限到底是什么意思？
Well, first of all, what does it mean setting boundaries?
说清楚什么是可接受的，什么是不可接受的。
Say what's okay and what's not okay.
比如，一个界限就是不让人未经通知就突然来你家。
Like, for example, a boundary would be not having people just pop over to your house unannounced.
对吧？
Right?
比如，你需要对方提前邀请，或者至少先问一下你之类的。
Like, oh, you require a certain invitation or that someone asks or something like that.
我觉得这可能还是取决于对方是谁。
I think maybe it just it depends who it is.
我觉得对一些亲近的家人，我可能会更直接一些。
I think in some with somebody, like, close family, I might be more direct.
对不太熟悉的人，我会更委婉一些。
People I don't know as well, more subtle.
你觉得呢？
What do you think?
是的。
Yeah.
我认为这也取决于一个人的情商和觉察力。
I think it also depends on the person's level of emotional intelligence and awareness.
有些人对事情的感知能力较差，根本察觉不到，所以对于这样的人，我确实需要更直接一点。
Some people just don't have the best feelers for things, and they just don't get And so with people like that, I do have to be a little bit more direct.
是的。
Yeah.
对。
Right.
但有些人天生在共情和感知方面就像忍者一样敏锐。
But some people are just ninjas when it comes to empathy and sensing things.
所以对于这些人，我可以更含蓄得多。
So for those people, I can be a lot more subtle.
是的。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
这是个好观点。
That's a good point.
所以今天，我们将作为一集进行跟进。
So today, we're gonna do a follow-up as episode.
第一集是第2589期，标题为‘派对结束了：如何表达某事即将结束’。
The first episode was on 2589, and it was called party's over, how to say something is coming to an end.
是的。
Yes.
所以一定要去看看那一集。
So definitely check that one out.
还有，朋友们，请务必在你们收听《All Ears English》的平台点击关注按钮。
And guys, also, please be sure to hit the follow button wherever you are listening to All Ears English.
或者如果你是在YouTube上观看，请点击订阅。
Or if you're listening on if you're watching on YouTube, hit subscribe.
是的。
Yes.
永远不要错过任何内容，因为我们经常做这类系列，比如第一部分、第二部分。
Just never miss anything because we do a lot of these, you know, series or part one, part two.
所以这是一点后续内容。
So this is this is a little bit of a follow-up.
所以不要错过任何内容。
So don't miss anything.
好的。
Yep.
在这集中，我们教了直接告诉别人某事结束的方式。
So in this episode, we taught direct ways to tell someone something's over.
对吧？
Right?
是的。
Yeah.
派对结束了。
Party's over.
嗯。
Mhmm.
对。
Right.
但我们在这一集中提到过，我们想某种程度上做第二部分。
So but we mentioned on the episode that we wanted to kind of do a part two in a way.
林赛，这一部分主要讲什么？
Lindsay, when what is this focusing on?
在那一集的第一部分中，正如米歇尔所说，方式非常直接。
So in that episode of that first part, you know, like Michelle said, it was very direct.
说的是类似‘该走了’这样的话。
Phrases were like screaming, it's time to leave.
比如，再见。
Like, goodbye.
是的
Yeah.
对吧？
Right?
是那个关于泳池的吗？我们之前聊过的
What was that the one about the pool that we talked
所有人离开泳池。
Everybody out of the pool.
是的
Yeah.
就像有人拿着个大喇叭似的。
Like, someone's there with like a practically a megaphone.
对吧？
Right?
是的
Yeah.
对。
Right.
所以今天正好相反。
So today is just the opposite.
所以我们意识到，生活中有时需要一种更微妙的‘对’。
So we realize there is a place in life for a much more subtle Right.
暗示一下，你是在暗示那些可能具有更高层次同理心、能感知你言外之意的人该走了。
Implicate like, you're implying that it's time to go for those people that are probably have a bit more high level empathy and can sense what you're saying.
对吧？
Right?
对。
Right.
或者有时候，根本没必要把事情说得那么直白。
Or you just sometimes it's just not the time to be blatantly obvious about things.
对。
Right.
对。
Right.
对。
Right.
而且，在之前的直接对话那集中，我们更多是在谈论告诉别人某件事结束了，而作为客人也是其中一部分。
And and, you know, in the direct episode, it was also we were focusing more on telling someone something's over and being a guest was part of that.
今天这一集，我们要聚焦于微妙之处。
This one today, we're gonna focus on the subtleties.
是的。
Yeah.
具体来说，是如何与客人结束夜晚的互动。
Specifically, of ending the night with with a guest.
结束夜晚。
Ending the night.
是的。
Yeah.
好的。
Okay.
所以，今天我们和米歇尔讨论的是如何让客人离开吗？
So are we are we talking today, Michelle, about getting someone to leave?
比如，你又在家招待客人了？
Like, you you're hosting a guest at your home again?
是同样的情况，但我们更
Is it the same scenario, but we're being more
微妙一些，还是更广泛一些？
subtle, or is it more broad?
是的。
Yes.
好的。
Okay.
好的。
Okay.
好的。
Okay.
很好。
Good.
这取决于一些不同的因素。
And it does depend on a few different things.
我们要直接还是委婉，米歇尔。
How direct and how subtle we're going to be, Michelle.
对吧？
Right?
我的意思是，这取决于什么？
I mean, what does it depend on?
没错。
Exactly.
是的。
Yeah.
我的意思是，有时候需要直接，有时候则需要委婉。
I mean, there are times to be direct and there are times to be subtle.
就像我们之前说的，这取决于你们的关系。
And like we were saying, it depends on your relationship.
此外，还提到了对方的情商、你的性格，以及你需要有多直接？
Also, has mentioned the emotional intelligence of the person, your personality, how direct do you need to be?
有时候对方根本没领会你的意思，而你却一再委婉、委婉、再委婉。
Sometimes someone's not picking up what you're putting down and you're going subtle, subtle, subtle.
然后你就觉得，我之所以因为
And then it's like, I because
是的。
yeah.
没错。
That's true.
没错。
That's true.
有些人之间的关系很讽刺，所以他们可以直接表达一些话。
And some people have a very sarcastic relationship, so they can say things in a direct way.
人们可能认真对待他们，也可能不认真，因此他们可能需要更含蓄一些。
And people may or may not take them seriously, so they may need to be more subtle then.
我不知道。
I don't know.
每个人在做这件事的方式上都真的非常不同。
Everyone's just really different in the way they do this.
但我们希望你们能够用英语表达自己的个性。
But we want you guys to be able to express your personality in English.
这正是B2到C1级别要达到的全部目的。
That's the whole point of the b two c one level.
对吧？
Right?
是的。
Yes.
没错。
Exactly.
所以今天，我们要探讨一些微妙的方式和线索，你可以用这些方式暗示自己准备结束今晚的活动。
So today, we're gonna get into some subtle ways, some cues that you might say to hint that you're ready to end the night.
我们会逐一分析这些方式，以及为什么它们可能表明是时候该离开了。
And we're gonna talk through all of these and why they may indicate it's time for someone to leave.
事实上，我觉得我们大多数人90%的时间都处于这种状态。
And the truth is, I mean, I think many of us live in this place 90% of the time.
我想我是这样的。
I guess I do.
你知道的。
You know?
有一些线索。
There are cues.
线索。
Are cues.
这就像一种共同的、说不上来的东西，一种语言，但更像是某种子语言。
And it's like a shared I don't know, a language, but it's like a a different sub language or something.
不是吗？
Isn't it?
有点吧？
Kind of?
是的。
Yeah.
其实，你知道吗？
Well, actually, you know what?
这让我想起我们之前请人来家看超级碗比赛的事。
This makes me think of so we had people over for the Super Bowl.
是的。
Yeah.
但那些人都是有小孩的。
But they were all people with young kids.
所以到了晚上结束的时候——不是 halftime 之后，所有人都离开了。
And so at the end of the night well, not after halftime, everyone was leaving.
我们知道这种情况会发生，而这正是我们想要的，因为已经很晚了，你知道的。
And we knew that that would have happened and that's what we wanted because it's late, you know?
嗯。
Mhmm.
我记得当人们开始离开时，丹对大家说：‘这真是太好了，因为我不用特意提醒，每个人都知道什么时候该走。’
And so I remember Dan said to the crowd as they were starting to leave, he said, oh, this was so great because I didn't have to like everybody already knew when it was time to leave.
根本不用告诉任何人。
Didn't have to tell anyone.
我们真有意思。
Was we all funny.
是的。
Yeah.
所以这真是太棒了。
So so it was great.
就像你知道的，本来也会是这样的。
Like, you know, it would have been yeah.
如果有人还坐在那儿，等着，而别人都走了，那就会很奇怪。
It would have been weird if somebody was just sitting, you know, waiting around and everybody else is leaving.
你知道，你得学会捕捉这些暗示。
You know, you have to pick up on these queues.
是的。
Yeah.
要跟上节奏才行。
To be on the yeah.
比如，有一对没有孩子的夫妇，他们留了下来，一直待着，
Like, if there was a couple that didn't have kids and they were, you know, they stayed and they stayed and and they're
开始准备睡觉了，
starting to get ready for bed and,
就像，是的。
like Yeah.
超级碗在东海岸播出时间非常晚。
The Super Bowl is played very late on the East Coast.
是的。
Yeah.
我的意思是，比赛在星期天，所以是上学的晚上。
Mean, it's on a it's on a Sunday, so it's a school night.
所以你知道，你得赶紧行动，孩子们开始闹腾，该是大家休息的时候了。
So, you know, we you you gotta get you gotta get moving, and all the kids start going crazy, and it's it's time for everyone.
是的。
Yeah.
对。
Yeah.
所以我觉得我们的听众已经准备好了。
So I think our listeners are ready then.
所以这些情况可能会在派对上发生。
So these these can happen at parties.
这些情况也可能发生在电话结束时。
These can happen oh, these can also happen at the end of phone calls.
我之前和一个朋友通电话。
So I was on a phone call with a friend.
我正在浏览我们周五要教给听众的内容。
I'm trying to I'm just scanning what we're gonna teach our listeners on Friday.
或者，我们通常会有大约两小时的Zoom通话。
Or, like, we usually have, like, two hour long Zoom calls.
我和我的朋友——她住在阿肯色州。
My friend and I my friend who lives in in she lives in Arkansas.
但你知道，你总能察觉到通话即将结束的信号。
And, you know, but there you can always tell the language of wrapping up is coming.
对吧？
Right?
你可能会听到类似‘很高兴我们这次聊了’这样的话。
Might hear something oh, I'm so glad we did this.
对吧？
Right?
我很高兴我们做了这次交流。
I'm so glad we did this.
我们尽快再做一次吧。
Let's do this again soon.
这些就是线索。
Like, these are cues.
那么还有哪些其他的线索呢？
So what are some of the other cues?
好的。
Alright.
其中一个就是非常微妙的。
So one is just this is very subtle.
哇。
Wow.
现在几点了？
What time is it?
是的。
Yes.
哇。
Wow.
几点？
What time?
那个有点是的。
That one's a little yeah.
再稍微多一点，我想它更微妙，但在某些方面它更
A little more almost I guess it's more subtle, but in some ways it's more
我知道。
I to know.
这很有趣。
It's interesting.
对吧？
Right?
因为这就像是是的。
Because it's like Yeah.
你其实并没有说出什么具体的话，但意思却非常明确。
You're not actually saying something, but it's also very clear.
比如
Like
你在表达某种意思。
You're saying something.
没错。
Right.
我的意思是，我知道丹前几天有朋友来，他们全都忘了时间。
I mean, like, I know Dan had some friends over the other day, and they actually all lost track of time.
所以他和它就这样发生了。
And so he and it so that that can happen.
然后你就说，天哪。
And you're like, oh my gosh.
是的。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
这种情况确实会发生。
It can happen.
是的。
Yeah.
当然。
For sure.
然后我特别高兴我们做了这件事。
And then I'm so glad we did this.
对吧？
Right?
这正是我之前提到的。
It's what I mentioned earlier.
那这里的关键词是什么？
And what's the keyword there?
做了。
Did.
对吧？
Right?
对。
Right.
所以它是在说：哦，我已经把这件事当作过去了，因为你就要走了。
So it's saying, oh, I'm already considering this to be in the past because you're leaving.
对。
Right.
你说这是
You're saying it's
过去时。
in the past tense.
对。
Right.
所以很明显
So clearly
对。
Right.
而不是‘我很高兴我们正在做这件事’。
Instead of I'm so glad we're doing this.
对吗？
Right?
听起来有点不一样。
It's a little different sound.
你可能会在聚会开始时听到这个。
You might hear that at the beginning of the gathering.
对吧？
Right?
或者在中间。
Or the middle.
对。
Right.
你这一周剩下的时间怎么样？
How's the rest of your week looking?
所以我们现在来看，我不太可能在聚会或电话开始时这么说，但在结束时可能会。
So now we're looking So I'm unlikely to say that at the beginning of a gathering or a phone call, at the end I might.
对吧？
Right?
是的。
Yeah.
对吧？
Right?
或者你一定很累，因为一整天都在工作，或者做了很多运动，或者。
Or you must be tired from so you must be tired from working all day or from all the exercise you did or.
对吧？
Right?
所以你在慢慢放松下来。
So you're putting it on down.
是的。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
当然。
For sure.
或者你可能只是，嗯。
Or you might just yeah.
你可能只是打个哈欠。
You might just yawn.
我的意思是，有时候当我准备离开某个地方，或者希望别人离开时，我就会这样。
I mean, I do this sometimes when I am ready to leave somewhere or have someone leave.
我不是故意假装打哈欠。
Not I don't fake a yawn.
我不确定。
I I don't know.
不。
No.
不。
No.
不。
No.
不。
No.
这很难。
It's hard.
假装打哈欠根本不可能不被人看出来。
It's it faking a yawn is there's no way to fake a yawn without it being obvious.
但你真的做不到。
But You really can't.
是的。
Yeah.
我为什么这么累？
Why am I so tired?
你知道的吧？
You know?
没错。
Right.
正是如此。
Exactly.
所以这在语言中是存在的。
So it's in the language here.
我们只是需要留心去听。
It's just we have to be listening for it.
对吧，米歇尔？
Right, Michelle?
这样我们就不会错过这些线索。
So we don't miss these cues.
而且你指出的这一点很有趣，林赛，这些方式在某些方面更微妙，但在某些方面又非常直接，因为是的。
And it is interesting what you pointed out, Lindsay, that in some way, these are more subtle, but in some ways, they're very direct because Yeah.
它们是众所周知的。
They're kind of known.
对吧？
Right?
就像它是这样，但只是不说出来，好吧。
Like, it's it but it but it's just not saying, alright.
派对结束了。
Party's over.
是的。
Yeah.
只是不同而已。
Just different.
没错。
Exactly.
很有趣。
Interesting.
好的。
Alright.
那么，我们来谈谈如何实际使用这些，米歇尔。
So let's talk about how we would actually use these, Michelle.
所以当对话出现冷场时，你就可以抛出这个话题。
So when there's a lull in the conversation, you would throw this in.
对吧？
Right?
尤其是在聚会快结束的时候。
Especially getting towards the end of the gathering.
对。
Right.
它会显得低调、平静。
It's gonna be subtle, calm sounding.
我们在这里需要知道什么？
What do we need to know here?
是的。
Yeah.
我的意思是，你也可以仅仅使用肢体语言。
I mean, and then I mean, you could also use just body language.
对吧？
Right?
所以你可以看看手表。
So you could look at your watch.
你甚至可以开始站起来，收拾整理一下。
You could even just start getting up and kinda cleaning, tidying up.
你知道的。
You know?
你还能想到其他类似的肢体暗示吗？
Anything else that you think just like a physical cue?
是的。
Yeah.
你说到整理东西的时候，让我想到了
It just makes me think when you said the tidying up thing, it
让我想到我
makes me think of my
弟媳，她总是在厨房里不停地收拾，但我们从不介意。
sister-in-law because she's constantly tidying up in the kitchen, but we never mine.
我们留宿时，从来都不走。
We stay over, so we never leave.
我不确定她是不是想让我们走。
I don't know if she wants us to leave.
是的。
Yeah.
对。
Yeah.
好。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
这很有趣。
It's funny.
是的。
Yeah.
我不知道这是怎么回事。
I don't know what it is.
只要厨房里有什么东西放得不整齐，就会立刻开始擦洗。
It's like anytime something's out of place in the kitchen, there's there's a scrubbing happening.
有
There's
我们是不是有同一个嫂子？
a Do we have the same sister-in-law?
有可能，米歇尔。
We might, Michelle.
我不知道。
I don't know.
我们可能过着平行的生活。
We might live parallel lives.
是的。
Yeah.
不。
No.
她有吸尘器和拖把，而且她总是忙着打扫，这太搞笑了，因为大家都还在闲逛，她却在收拾。
She's got she's got the vacuum and the mop and, like, she and she, it it it it's just hilarious because it's everybody's still just hanging out and she's cleaning up.
所以这是真的。
So it's true.
在这种情况下你根本看不出来。
You can't tell in that situation.
真的看不出来。
You really can't tell.
嗯，我的意思是是的。
Well, mean yeah.
所以是一些有趣的怪癖。
So interesting quirks.
人们都有自己的怪癖。
People have their quirks.
是的。
Yeah.
那就开始打扫吧。
So start cleaning up.
然后其他一些身体上的线索，我觉得有一些肢体语言。
And then other other physical cues, I think there's some body language.
是的。
Yeah.
我不知道。
I don't know.
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手势比如，你知道的，就像说‘嗯’这样。
Gestures like, well, you know, like just saying well.
然后呢，你知道的，我们已经给听众提供了这些表达。
And and then well, you know well, we've already given listeners the phrases.
我只是在试着想象身处这样一个情境中。
I'm just I'm just trying to imagine being in a scenario.
对。
Right.
是的。
Yeah.
你知道的，比如，哇，这真是太棒了。
You know, something like, wow, this has been great.
对吧？
Right?
这真是太棒了。
This is so great.
对。
Right.
对。
Right.
对。
Right.
或者甚至说，哦，比如做一些评论。
Or even even saying like, oh, like even commenting.
有时候你甚至可以评论一下天气。
Sometimes you could even comment on the weather.
你知道，哦，天气，你知道，是的。
You know, oh, it's, you know, yeah.
这周剩下的时间怎么样？
So what's the rest of this week?
你知道，比如对。
You know, like Right.
关于未来，你知道的，任何事情。
The you know, anything about the future.
对吧？
Right?
关于未来的事情。
Anything about the future.
我的朋友和我周五结束通话时，我们说，或者我觉得我问过她：这个周末你有什么安排？
I mean, when my friend and I finished up our call on Friday, we said, you know, or I think I asked her like, what's on tap for you this weekend?
我喜欢‘你这个周末有什么安排’这个说法。
I like the phrase what's on tap for you.
挺有趣的。
It's kind of fun.
这个周末你有什么安排？
What's on tap for you this weekend?
你知道的，你有什么计划？
You know, what are what are your plans?
你打算做什么？
What are you doing?
对吧？
Right?
没错。
Right.
没错。
Right.
正是如此。
Exactly.
我觉得这些属于比较微妙的类型，因为有人可能只把它看作一场对话，但值得一试。
And I think these are on the more subtle side of because it because somebody could just see it as a conversation, but it's worth a try.
但这是了解文化的一部分。
But this is part of getting to know culture.
我的意思是，在另一种文化中，这很可能就是对话的中间部分。
I mean, in another culture, it could very much be the middle of the conversation.
对吧？
Right?
对。
Right.
但我认为在美國文化中，人們有時——我確實覺得也許人們相處得少了，我不確定這是否正確，但我觉得也許人們更少聚在一起。
But I think in American culture, people sometime I I do think maybe people I don't I don't know if this is true or not, but I feel like maybe people hang out less maybe.
這是一個非常寬泛的說法。
This is a very broad statement.
但我覺得在其他文化中，人們會出去待上幾個小時、幾個小時、幾個小時，只是花大量時間在外面。
But I feel like in other cultures, people will go out, like, for hours and hours and hours and hours and just spend tons of time just out.
在某些文化中，晚餐會持續六個小時。
Dinners will last six hours in certain cultures.
我不覺得在我們的文化中會經常這樣。
I don't really think that happens as much in our culture.
你明白我的意思嗎？
Do you know mean?
我觉得当你计划和别人出去吃饭时，通常就一两个小时。
I think when you're when you're planning on going out with someone for a dinner, it's like an hour or two.
比如，
Like,
不会长达六小时。
you're It's not six.
也不会是五小时。
It's not five.
是的。
Yeah.
对。
Right.
那可能有点道理。
There might be something to that.
也许我们可以给米歇尔在调查里加个相关问题。
Maybe we put something in the poll, Michelle, about that.
比如，多久
Like, how long
通常的聚会会持续多久？
How long is the typical hangout?
是外出吃饭还是在家吃饭？
Dinner out or dinner in at someone's home?
你期望它持续多久？
How long do you expect that to last?
是的。
Yeah.
那里可能有些东西。
There could be something there.
所以这也有文化因素。
So this is cultural too.
对吧？
Right?
是的。
Yes.
没错。
Exactly.
所以，是的，我认为我们应该开始进行角色扮演了。
So, yeah, I think we should go ahead and do the role play.
你觉得怎么样？
What do you think?
我们开始吧，米歇尔。
Let's do it, Michelle.
所以，现在你在我家，我已经准备好了，你可以走了。
So here, you are at my house, and I am ready for you to go.
我准备好了，你却没明白我的暗示。
Ready I am you not taking the hint.
好吧。
Alright.
走吧。
Here go.
好吧。
Alright.
我们开始吧。
Here we go.
这就是我决定出国留学两个学期而不是一个学期的原因。
That's why I decided to study abroad for two semesters instead of one.
哇。
Wow.
真有趣。
How interesting.
那你这一周剩下的时间安排怎么样？
So how's the rest of your week looking?
哦，忙得不可开交，但一切都很好。
Oh, busy busy, but it's all good.
是的
Yeah.
嗯，你肯定因为忙碌的工作安排而累了。
Well, you must be tired from your crazy work schedule.
不。
No.
其实没那么糟。
Not really too bad, actually.
它让我充满活力。
It gives me energy.
哦，那就好。
Oh, good.
哦，哇。
Oh, wow.
现在几点了？
What time is it?
哦，才九点。
Oh, only nine.
你能相信吗？
Can you believe it?
我以为已经更晚了。
I thought it was later.
我为什么这么累？
Why am I so tired?
你检查过甲状腺水平了吗？
Have you had your thyroid levels checked?
我应该去检查一下。
I should.
嗯，我很高兴我们做了这件事。
Well, I'm so glad we did this.
哦，我也是。
Oh, me too.
哦，好吧。
Oh, okay.
嗯，我想我该走了。
Well, I guess I should be going.
哦，别啊。
Oh, no.
这么快？
So soon?
好吧。
Okay.
这真的很有意思。
This is really interesting.
所以你花了三轮才搞定。
So it took you three rounds to get it.
对吧？
Right?
三个队伍必须变得越来越长。
Three queues that had to get more and more.
而且，我在本系列剧集第一部分的开头分享了我的故事，当时我的朋友萨姆不得不假装打哈欠。
And again, the I shared my story at the beginning of the first part of this episode series when my friend Sam had to actually resort to the yawn.
对吧？
Right?
是的。
Yeah.
这样我们就能离开了。
So that we would leave.
我对自己这么做感到尴尬。
Embarrassed that I did that.
对。
Right.
对。
Right.
对。
Right.
是的。
Yes.
没错。
Exactly.
而且你花了好一阵子才到那儿。
And it took you a while to get there.
你终于到了。
You finally got there.
但有趣的是，我说：‘哦，不。’
But then interestingly, I said, oh, no.
这么快？
So soon?
小心点。
Be careful.
这是一个陷阱。
That's a trap.
从文化上讲，这确实是个陷阱。
Culturally, that's a real trap.
因为如果你我我让你离开。
Because if you I I you to leave.
对吧？
Right?
但我稍微有点在抵制。
But I'm sort of pushing back slightly.
是的。
Yeah.
你只是在试图表现得礼貌。
It's just like you're trying to be polite.
你就像说，好吧。
You're like, okay.
她明白了。
She got it.
但我觉得，如果我在这种角色扮演中，可能会想，哦，好吧。
But like, I could also imagine me in this role play being like, oh, okay.
实际上，我想我可以再多待几分钟。
Actually, I guess I could stay a few more minutes.
是的。
Yeah.
你那里有点玩火了。
You're playing up with fire a little bit there.
你在玩火。
You're playing with fire.
对。
Yeah.
但我的意思是，这真是个伎俩，是个陷阱。
But I mean, that's a real trick, real trap.
那么我们来梳理一下，米歇尔。
So let's go through it, Michelle.
我首先采用的第一个策略是什么？
What is the first strategy that I resorted to?
所以谈到未来时，你说：‘你这一周剩下的时间怎么样？’
So talking about the future, you said, how's the rest of your week looking?
是的。
Yep.
我们提到这一点非常好。
That's a really good one that we're bringing that up.
你知道的。
You know?
如果我们谈论未来，十次里有八次都是这样。
If we're talking about the future, eight times out of 10 Yeah.
尤其是当它接近夜晚尾声时，这暗示着：嘿，我们来看看未来吧。
Especially if it's falling towards the end of the night, that's an you know, we're implying, hey, let's look to the future.
意思是，接下来十分钟内，我希望你走出门去。
Meaning, in the next ten minutes, I want you walking out the door.
对吧？
Right?
很撩人。
Slutty.
天哪。
Oh my gosh.
我认为，从文化角度来看，这真的相当复杂。
This is really quite complex, I think, culturally speaking.
这真的很有趣。
It's really interesting.
然后那招没奏效。
And then that that didn't work.
你说忙个不停，但一切都好。
And you said, busy busy, but it's all good.
我说，是的。
And I said, yeah.
嗯，你肯定因为忙碌的工作安排而累了。
Well, you must be tired from your crazy work schedule.
所以现在我也一样。
So now I'm Yeah.
与其我说，是的，这真的很累人。
Instead of me saying, yeah, it is exhausting.
对。
Yeah.
我应该去睡一会儿。
I should get some sleep.
我说，哦，不。
I said, oh, no.
其实也没那么糟。
Not really too bad, actually.
它给我能量。
It gives me energy.
是的。
Yep.
现在我要更激进一点了。
Now I'm gonna get a little more aggressive.
对吧？
Right?
然后说，哦，太好了。
And say, oh, good.
拿出杀手锏。
Pulling out the big guns.
我正在看我的手表。
I'm actually looking at my watch.
现在还有谁会把手表戴在手腕上呢？
Who even has a watch in their on their wrist anymore?
我不知道。
I don't know.
也许我正在拿我的手机。
Maybe I'm grabbing my phone.
哦，哇。
Oh, wow.
现在几点了？
What time is it?
对吧？
Right?
对。
Right.
但我没有顺着那个话题说下去，而是只说了九点。
But instead of me saying picking up on that, I said only nine.
你能相信吗？
Can you believe it?
我以为时间更晚了。
I thought it was later.
天哪。
Oh god.
你真的完全听不出音调啊，米歇尔。
You're really tone deaf, Michelle, here.
是的。
Yes.
我没明白。
I'm not getting it.
我真的没明白。
I am not.
你没明白。
You're not getting it.
然后我就用了那种最后的招数——打了个哈欠。
And then I went for the old, like, last resort yawn.
对吧？
Right?
也许我的胳膊要伸出来了。
Maybe my arms are coming out.
我为什么这么累？
Why am I so tired?
呃。
Ugh.
但即便如此，我还是没明白。
But then I still didn't get it.
我说，你检查过甲状腺水平吗？
And I said, have you had your thyroid levels checked?
天哪。
Oh gosh.
那可不是我想听到的。
And that is not what I wanted to hear.
对吧？
Right?
不对。
No.
然后我说，我应该的。
And then I said, I should.
嗯，我很高兴我们做了这件事。
Well, I'm so glad we did it.
现在我实际上 just 结束了。
Now I'm actually I'm actually just ending.
我只是结束了，因为我非常高兴我们做了这件事。
I'm just ending it because I'm so glad we did this.
不是我非常高兴我们正在做这件事。
Not I'm so glad we're doing this.
对吧？
Right?
对。
Right.
对。
Right.
结束了。
It's over.
派对结束了。
Party's over.
所以到这个时候，你可能需要说一句‘派对结束了’。
So at this point, you might need to pull out a party's over.
所有人都出泳池。
Everybody out of the pool.
是的。
Yeah.
你有朋友吗？
Do do you have any friends?
我不确定你有没有告诉我们这一点。
I'm not sure if you've told us this.
你有没有朋友经常这样，或者以前也这样过？
Do you have any friends who tend to do this or have done this before?
就是当你试图让他们离开家的时候，他们总是错过所有集合时间？
That they just miss all the queues when you're trying to get them out of the house?
我不这么认为。
I don't think so.
没有。
No.
我想，我想，我想大部分时间在努力思考。
I think I I think I think for the most trying to think.
我不觉得，我觉得在大多数情况下，人们在这方面都还不错。
I don't I I think for the most part, people are pretty good about when they Okay.
离开。
Leave.
但但我知道我父母曾经跟他们的朋友聊过，说他们就在那儿待了几个小时、几个小时。
But but it but it has I know my parents have talked about, you know, with with their friends, like, they just were here for hours and hours.
你知道的？
You know?
感觉像是
Feel like it's
如果人们有孩子，他们可能更容易注意到这些信号，因为他们也在为孩子着想，而孩子没那么多时间。
probably more common if people have kids that they would pick up on the cues because they're also thinking about their kids and kids don't have time.
是的。
Yeah.
对。
Right.
是的。
Yeah.
对。
Right.
但也许，比如那些没有责任的单身情侣。
But maybe, like, single couples that have no responsibilities or something.
对。
Right.
那可能
That could
会不一样。
be different.
最大的危险，最大的危险就在这里。
Biggest danger biggest danger there.
是的。
Yeah.
没错。
Exactly.
没错。
Exactly.
天啊。
So oh my gosh.
这真有趣，林赛。
This was fun, Lindsay.
这很有趣。
This was fun.
随着我们深入这一集，我意识到这一点有多么重要、多么微妙、多么具有文化性，米歇尔。
And I as we got further into the episode, I realized how important this is and how subtle it is and how cultural it is, Michelle.
是的。
Yeah.
所以，对。
So Yeah.
关于连接，你对我们听众有什么最终的建议吗？
Any final takeaway for our listeners in terms of connection?
林赛，我很高兴我们做了这次对话。
Well, Lindsay, I'm so glad we did this.
不。
No.
我只是不。
I'm just no.
我那个
I the
我明白了。
I get the hit.
你知道，这个，是的。
You you know, this yeah.
琳达，我真的喜欢你关于文化所说的，我们必须思考这一切。
Lindsay, really, I love what you said about culture and we have to think about all of that.
而且，你知道，有时候需要更含蓄一些。
And, you know, there's a time to be more subtle.
有时候则需要更直接一些。
There's a time to be more direct.
但有趣的是，那些微妙的方式，我们在某种程度上教的是非常直接的。
But the interesting thing is with the subtle ones we taught, in some ways they are very direct.
然后你有像我这样在角色扮演中的人，说：去检查一下你的甲状腺水平。
Then you have somebody like me in the role play that's like, get your thyroid levels checked.
你其实不知道。
Are I you don't know.
也许你只是在向我寻求帮助。
Maybe you're just asking me for help.
是的。
Yeah.
我认为另一点需要补充，我们可能会就此做一个投票问题。
And I think the other piece to supplement, and we're gonna probably make a poll question about this.
想想你通常和人相处多久。
Think about what is a typical amount of time that you hang out with people.
我的意思是，我知道印度的婚礼会持续整整两周。
Like, I mean, I know weddings in in India go for like two weeks.
对吧？
Right?
而在美国，它们只持续四个小时。
And in The US, they go for four hours.
这是一个极端的例子。
That's an extreme example.
但我的伴侣上周刚去过柏林，我听说那里的人们在一起待的时间比我们在美国习惯的要长得多。
But my partner was just in Berlin last week, and I heard stories of people, like, spending a lot of time out together more than than we were used to, you know, in in The US.
所以那里是否存在这种差异？
So is there like a difference there?
比如，如果有人邀请你出去吃饭，或者到你家来，
Like, what if someone invites you out for dinner or over let's say over to your
因为你可以更好地控制时间，你预计这种聚会会持续多久？
house because you can control the timing more, how long do
你期望这种聚会持续多久？
you expect that gathering to last?
我的话，我觉得最多三个小时吧。
I mean, you know, for me, I would say probably max three hours.
但我感觉有些听众可能会说五个钟头。
But I have a feeling some of our listeners might say five hours.
我们有朋友。
Have friends.
我不是想新开一集，但我们确实有一些朋友，经常一整天都待在一起。
I mean, not to start a whole new episode, but we do have friends where, like, we we end up spending the whole day together.
有时候我们会一起吃两顿饭。
It's like sometimes you do two meals.
我的意思是，这通常是和特别要好的朋友才会这样。
I mean, that's for, like, really close friends.
所以这种情况是会发生的。
So it can happen.
是的。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
这种情况是可能发生的。
It can happen.
如果你真的关系很近，那根本不是问题。
And if you're really close, like, that's not a big deal.
对。
Right.
对。
Right.
这有点不像你最好的朋友。
This is kind of like not your best best friends.
因为这根本不是问题。
Because it wouldn't be an issue.
你只会说，嘿，我该去睡觉了。
You would just say, hey, I gotta go to bed.
你得回家了。
You gotta go home.
是的。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
对。
Yep.
没错。
Exactly.
没错。
Exactly.
还有，各位记得观看第2589集。
And guys, remember to check out episode twenty five eighty nine.
是的。
Yeah.
那个更直接一些。
That's the more direct one.
所以别忘了也听一下那一集。
So don't forget to listen to that one as well.
好的。
Alright.
我们可以没完没了地说下去，但现在就到这里吧。
We could go on and on, but let's drop the mic.
米歇尔，我听出你在暗示了，那我们就此告辞。
Michelle, hear you are dropping hints, so we're getting off.
现在几点了？
What time is it?
是的。
Yeah.
好的。
Okay.
好的。
Alright.
我们很快会再和
We'll talk to
你聊聊，米歇尔。
you very soon, Michelle.
祝你今天愉快。
Have a good day.
好的。
Alright.
再见。
Bye.
再见。
Bye.
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