AEE 2612：你若愿意，我就参加！如何邀请朋友一起参加社交活动

这是《All Ears English》播客第2612期。

This is an All Ears English Podcast episode twenty six twelve.

如果你也愿意，我就没问题。

I'm up for it if you are.

怎么邀请朋友一起参加社交活动。

How to recruit your friends to join you at social events.

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Are you feeling stuck with your English?

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We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, perfection with your American hosts, Lindsay McMahon, the English adventurer, and Michelle Kaplan, the New York radio girl, coming to you from Colorado and New York City, USA.

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当你收到邀请时

When you are invited

如果想让朋友一起去，该怎么跟他们说你只在他们去的情况下才去？

to an event, how can you say to your friend that you want to go only if they go?

今天，学习这项关键的社交技巧，和好朋友一起享受活动。

Today, build this key connection skill to enjoy the event alongside good friends.

嗨，米歇尔。

Hey there, Michelle.

最近怎么样？

How are you doing?

我挺好的，林赛。

I'm good, Lindsay.

你呢？

How are you?

还不错。

Good.

挺忙的。

Busy.

一直挺忙的。

Busy.

但一切都好。

But all good.

是的。

Yeah.

今天咱们从哪儿开始聊？

Where are we starting today on the show?

对。

Yeah.

Lindsay，你会不会因为朋友去不去，决定自己要不要参加某个活动？

So, Lindsay, do you ever decide whether or not to go to an event based on if your friends are going?

当然了。

For sure.

对。

Yeah.

因为朋友要是去的话，活动肯定会更有趣。

Because events are always more fun if your friends are actually going.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yes.

没错。

Absolutely.

是的。

Yeah.

绝对如此。

Definitely.

所以今天我们要聊的是，当朋友也参加同一个活动时，该怎么说才能表达一种彼此支持的感觉。

So today we are going to talk about what to say if to your friend to show kind of solidarity in attending the same event.

这事最近就发生在我身上，我们被邀请参加一场正式晚宴，而且还得自己掏钱。

And this came this happened to me recently because there was a dinner, a formal dinner that we were invited to, and it was something we had to pay for.

我们当时在纠结要不要参加，因为价格比我们预期的高了不少。

And we were trying to decide if we wanted to pay for it, and it was kind of, like, a lot more than we were hoping to spend.

是的。

Yeah.

后来我跟朋友联系，发现我们俩都只想在对方去的情况下才去。

But so I was in touch with my friend, and we both realized that we we only really wanted to go if the if the other person was going.

所以……

So

对。

Yeah.

这很合理。

That makes sense.

差不多就是这么回事。

Sounds about right.

是的。

Yeah.

那我对朋友说了什么？

So what did I say to my friend?

我说了，你去我就去。

I said, I'll go if you go.

所以你这是在跟对方谈条件啊。

So you're kinda making a deal here.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

Exactly.

没错。

Exactly.

所以今天这一集真正讲的就是这个。

So that's really what the episode is about for today.

有意思的是，我意识到我并没有说‘你去我就去’。

What was interesting is I realized I didn't say I'll go if you'll go.

是的。

Yeah.

我觉得挺有意思，我根本没去想语法这回事，可能根本就不是语法问题。

So I I thought that was interesting that I'm not it wasn't really and maybe about the grammar here.

对吧？

Right?

对。

Yeah.

这更像一个固定搭配。

It's more of a chunk.

对吧？

Right?

这是一种地道的表达方式。

An idiomatic chunk.

对。

Yeah.

我要是去的话，你也许会这么说吧。

I'll go if I guess you could say though.

确实可以。

You could.

从技术上讲，确实可以这么说。

Technically, you could.

你可以说：‘你去我就去。’

Could say, I'll go if you'll go.

没错。

Right.

那就会是另一种说法了。

That would just be a different chunk.

对吧？

Right?

所以这些都是一些地道的表达方式。

So these are just idiomatic pieces of language.

明白吗？

Okay?

没错。

Exactly.

对。

Right.

我觉得这样理解挺好的。

I think that's a good way to think about it.

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没问题。

You got it.

我肯定是这么说的。

And so, I I mean, I say this for sure.

这是一种很直接的说法，清楚地表达出你只想在那个人也去的情况下才参加这个活动。

This is a good way to be direct and just make it clear that you only wanna go to this event if that other person is gonna go to.

对。

Right.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

Exactly.

是的。

Yeah.

那么，Lindsay，你会对谁说这句话呢？

So Lindsay, who might you say this to?

比如朋友、家人，或者关系比较近的同事，一般是跟你比较亲近的人。

I mean, friends, family, maybe close coworkers, generally someone that you're closer with.

这话说给陌生人就不合适了

It's not really meant for a stranger or

对。

No.

你是想见到那个真正让活动更精彩的人。

It's someone that you actually wanna see there that would enhance the event.

没错。

Right.

是吧？

Right?

对，就是这样。

Exactly.

所以我当时想，唉，我这决定其实是冲着预算去的。

So I felt, oh, you know, I'm trying to make this decision based on budgeting.

是的。

Yeah.

我觉得，只要能和这群朋友待在一起，这钱花得值。

And I felt that, okay, it will be worth it to me, but if I get to spend time with this group of friends.

我还想，这会不会跟文化有关？比如，一个人去某些地方，或者和朋友一起去，这种差别。

And, yeah, I I also wonder if there's a cultural piece to this, you know, perhaps about going to certain things on your own or with friends and Yeah.

做决定的时候，其实挺受这些影响的。

You know, making decisions based off of that.

所以我很好奇，世界各地的人都是怎么想的？

So I'm curious, like, how that is around the world.

是的。

Yeah.

米歇尔，你一个人去过看电影吗？

Have you ever gone to a movie by yourself, Michelle?

没有。

No.

你呢？

Have you?

没有。

No.

不过我好像还真没去过。

I don't think I have actually, though.

我倒是想过这事。

I've, like, thought about it.

但我估计我不会去。

But I don't I would.

我的意思是，当然可以。

I mean Sure.

对。

Yeah.

但如果我真的想去看，其实也没多少机会非得一个人去。

But if I if I really wanted to, but I don't really find too many situations where Yeah.

其实我刚跟一个朋友聊过，他经常一个人去看电影。

Actually, was talking to a friend who does go to movies by himself.

就是说，如果他工作日偶尔有空，有时候吧。

Like, because if he has random days off during the week, some if Yeah.

如果你是个影迷，特别想看某部电影，那随时都能去，对吧。

Guess if you're, like, a movie buff and you really care about a certain movie and you can go, you know, stuff.

关键是冲着电影本身，而不是为了出去消遣。

If it's more about the movie and less about an evening out.

没错。

Right.

对。

Yeah.

就是这么回事。

Exactly.

所以，再说一遍，对我来说，不是因为没自信，纯粹就是钱的问题。

So, yeah, again, for me, it wasn't about confidence, so it was just about money.

对。

Yeah.

那我们来看看这会是什么样子。

So let's show how this would look.

好的。

Okay.

行吧。

Alright.

你去参加派对吗？

So so are you going to the party?

都这么晚了。

It's so late.

我知道。

I know.

不过可能还挺有意思的。

It could be good, though.

好吧。

Okay.

你去我就去。

I'll go if you go.

好。

Okay.

就这么定了。

Let's do it.

你们俩说好了，一起参加。

So you make a deal together, and you're both gonna go.

说好了一起去。

Agree to go.

不错。

Nice.

对。

Yes.

没错。

Exactly.

琳赛，你能不能也说一句，你去我就去？

Lindsay, could you also say, if you go, I'll go?

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

我觉得是这样。

I think so.

没错。

Yep.

你说也可以把这一起混在一起。

Said you can mix you can mix this up as well.

当然。

For sure.

是的。

Yeah.

当然了。

Absolutely.

所以，这其实是一种和朋友建立默契的方式，达成共识，让活动更有趣、更有意义。

So, again, this is just way a way of creating a bit of a social contract with your friend, making an agreement, making an event more enjoyable, making it worth it.

对吧，米歇尔？

Right, Michelle?

没错。

Right.

就是这样。

Exactly.

是啊。

Yeah.

我们还可以用其他说法来表达同样的意思。

So other things we could say to communicate the same idea.

而且也不一定非得跟具体活动挂钩。

It also doesn't have to be necessarily about specific events.

对吧，米歇尔？

Right, Michelle?

没错。

Right.

那我们再举几个例子。

So we're gonna give more examples here.

第一个是什么？

What's the first one?

好的。

Okay.

你去我就去，或者你也可以换个说法。

I'm in if you're in, or you can switch it up.

你去我就去。

If you're in, I'm in.

我喜欢这句话——我参加。

I like this expression, I'm in.

我有点想参加。

I'm kinda in.

听起来不错。

Sounds good.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

It is.

就是这么回事。

It's just yeah.

你肯定会做。

You're you're gonna do it.

对吧？

Right?

所以就这样定了。

So Mhmm.

我真的不想去锻炼。

I just don't feel like exercising.

我太累了，

I'm so tired,

但今晚有课。

but there's a class tonight.

哦，我真的很喜欢这些课。

Oh, I do love the classes.

好吧。

Okay.

你去我就去。

I'm in if you're in.

太好了。

Nice.

太好了。

Nice.

是的

Yeah.

健身课总是更容易坚持，因为得跟着教练做。

Exercise classes always make it easier because you have to do what the teacher says.

是的

Yeah.

不像自己硬拖着去健身房，勉强上跑步机那样。

Rather than just dragging yourself to the gym and trying to get on the treadmill, I think.

对

Yeah.

哦不，那可是我最爱的。

Oh no, that's my favorite.

虽然没机会去太多次，但我真的很喜欢，感觉完全不一样。

Don't get to go to too many of them, but I love it really feels different.

别人也在做的时候，自己更容易有动力。

It's much easier to motivate yourself when other people are doing something.

那当然了。

Oh, for sure.

你还可以这么说：如果你想去，我也去。

And another way you might say it is I'm up for it if you are.

或者你要是想去，我也一起去。

Or if you're up for it, I'm up for it.

或者你要是想去，我也一样。

Or if you're up for it, I am too.

对吧？

Right?

这也是种说法。

Is another way you might say that.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Right.

没错。

Right.

是的。

Yeah.

你去上那个烹饪课吗？

You up for going to that cooking class?

你要是去，我就去。

I'm up for it if you are.

好。

Okay.

这里的背景是我们之前 probably 已经聊过这个烹饪课了。

So the context here is that we've probably already talked about the cooking class.

我们其实已经反复琢磨过这个想法好几次了。

We've kind of molded over, like, throughout the idea a few times, tossed it around.

对。

Right.

但我们一直没真正决定要不要去。

But we never made the actual decision if we were gonna go.

没错。

Exactly.

我觉得我们之前提到的那个事，完全能做个整期节目来聊。

I think the the thing that we Meek, we could do a whole episode on this.

是的。

Mhmm.

有一个挺常见的误区，可能会让人产生误解：别人邀请你参加活动，你却问‘谁去啊？’

One, you know, kind of faux pas, I think, which could give people the wrong impression is if someone invites you to something and you say, oh, well, who's going?

这个观点真好，Michelle。

Oh, that's a really good point, Michelle.

谢谢你提出来。

I'm glad you said that.

应该再做一期。

Should be another episode.

对。

Yeah.

咱们就这么办。

Let's do that.

把这事记下来。

Let's this down.

我们来制作

Let's make

确保听众现在点关注

sure our listeners hit the follow button now

这样

so we

才能收到提醒，因为不同文化对这个的看法可能不一样，我也不确定全球其他地方是不是也算失礼，但在美国肯定算。

get that because that could be culturally different around the I actually don't know if it's a faux pas around the world in different cultures, but it is in The US for sure.

这可能会非常冒犯人。

It could be very insulting.

好的。

Okay.

我们接下来再做一期关于这个话题的，因为这确实是个不该说的话。

We're gonna do we're gonna do another episode on that because, yeah, that is that is a what not to say.

不该说的话。

What not to say.

我们会回头参考这一期，因为现在你只是在后台工作，对吧？

We'll refer back to this one because this is not the This same is doing your work in the background, right?

你现在又不是在跟活动主持人说话，也不会有人因此被冒犯。

You're not talking to the host of the event right now and there's no one that's going be offended.

没错。

Exactly.

只是你的朋友被邀请了，也许你也收到了邀请，你正在确认他们会不会去，对吧？

It's just your friend was invited, maybe you were invited, and you're deciding, like you're finding out if they're going, right?

不一样，是的

Different Yes,

如果他们去，那就不一样了。

if they're going, so it's different.

不过，这确实是个很好的方式，能让你让对方感受到自己对你很重要，对吧？

But yeah, this is just a great way here to connect by showing someone that they're important to you, right?

这体现了一种亲密感。

It shows a certain closeness.

是的。

Yeah.

如果你去做，我也会更有动力去做。

I'll be motivated to do x y z if you are.

对。

Yeah.

所以我觉得，这种方式真的能拉近彼此的距离。

So I think that it can it can kinda connect you in that way.

是的。

Yeah.

我完全同意。

I totally agree.

所以在这个角色扮演里，你和我都收到了婚礼邀请，正在考虑要不要住酒店。

So in this role play, we you and I are both invited to a wedding and trying to decide if we wanna stay at the hotel.

对。

Yeah.

参加婚礼的时候，你经常会收到邀请，但就是拿不定主意。

So attending a wedding can sometimes you get these invites and you're just not quite sure.

你认识那对新人，也想支持他们，但去参加婚礼确实花销不小。

Like, you know the people, you wanna support them, but it is expensive to go to a wedding.

对吧？

Right?

特别贵。

Very expensive.

而且如果婚礼离得还远，大家还得坐飞机去。

And then if on top of it, it's not near you and people are going to I mean, fly.

要是婚礼离得近一点，反而更纠结，比如一小时或一个半小时车程。

If an if a wedding is like what's tough is is if it's kinda close to you and not that, you know, so maybe it's an hour away, an hour and a half away.

是的。

Yeah.

他们就会说，哎呀。

And they're like, oh.

不过我觉得参加婚礼其实挺有意思的，你说呢？

Although weddings are so fun to attend, don't you think?

哦。

Oh,

我很喜欢参加婚礼。

love I love going to weddings.

但确实，要不要住酒店这个决定有时候挺让人头疼的。

But, yeah, it's that deciding about the hotel that's hit sometimes.

订酒店这事。

The hotel decision.

行吧。

Alright.

来吧。

Here we go.

行吧。

Alright.

你先说，米歇尔。

You started off, Michelle.

好的。

Alright.

挺贵的。

It's kind of expensive.

我知道。

I know.

不过我听说第二天还有派对和早午餐。

I hear there'll be an after party and a brunch the next day, though.

哦，听起来挺有意思的。

Oh, that does sound fun.

你去我就去。

I'll go if you go.

好。

Alright.

挺好的。

Sounds good.

那派对巴士呢？

What about the party bus?

我觉得坐车比自己开车方便。

I guess it's easier than driving ourselves.

好。

Alright.

你要是去，我就去。

I'm up for it if you are.

好的。

Okay.

对啊。

Yeah.

在美国文化里也很常见。

That's common in American culture too.

举办婚礼的那对夫妇如果安排了婚后的派对，或者有酒店之类的，通常会包一辆大巴接送宾客。

The the couple hosting the wedding would book a bus to transport their guests if there's there's an after party, if there's a hotel or something.

没错。

Right.

因为婚礼上大家喝得都很多。

Because people do drink a lot at weddings.

我记得我们结婚那会儿，大家喝得不少，幸好没人开车。

I know at our wedding, people drank a lot, and thank goodness people were not driving.

对，就是这样。

Yes, exactly.

这真是个保证安全的好办法。

So good way to stay safe.

是的。

Mhmm.

没错。

Yeah.

那好吧。

So alright.

所以我们现在在讨论要不要留下来，你说听说之后会有派对，第二天还有早午餐，我觉得你加这一条挺好的。

So we're talking about if we wanna stay, and you said, I hear there'll be an after party and a brunch the next day though, which I like when you added on.

我说听起来挺有意思的，你说你去我就去。

And I said that does sound fun, and you said, if I'll go if you go.

是的。

Yeah.

所以这就是我们得住在酒店的原因，毕竟之后有派对，第二天还有早午餐。

So that's a reason to stay at the hotel because there's gonna be an after party and there's gonna be a brunch the next day.

是这样吧？

Right?

没错。

Yeah.

这就是我刚才在话尾补充那些内容的原因

So that's why I added though at the end

就是那句话的结尾。

of that sentence.

对不对？

Right?

你想想看

Think

听众们肯定都听明白这话的意思了。

our listeners definitely picked that up.

然后我说，我觉得自己开车反而更麻烦。

And then I said, I guess it's easier than driving ourselves.

然后你说——

And then you said,

如果你愿意，我也没问题。

I'm up for it if you are.

太好了。

Perfect.

真不错。

Nice.

所以你看，这其实体现的是一种沟通能力，能让对方感受到他们在你心里很重要。

So again, this shows I mean, this is truly a connection skill because it shows the other person that they matter to you.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

当然了。

Absolutely.

我觉得这确实是一项非常重要的连接能力。

So it's I think it is a huge connection skill.

没错。

Yes.

就是表达出：你对我很重要。

It's just saying, you matter to me.

你的存在会影响我的决定。

You you make a difference in my decisions.

对。

Yes.

咱们互相鼓励，不管什么事都一起加油。

You know, let's motivate each other for whatever it is.

是的。

Yeah.

再强调一遍，这仅仅是你们和另一位受邀嘉宾——也就是你的朋友——之间的对话，不是和主持人。

And again, it's important to reiterate, this is only a conversation going on between you and another guest that's been invited, that's a friend of yours, not the host.

是的，各位。

Yes, guys.

所以一定记得关注，我们下次会再聊这个情况。

So definitely hit follow because we'll be talking about that other situation another time.

对。

Yes.

当然。

For sure.

我们可不想闹出文化上的误会。

We don't wanna break any cultural faux pas.

对吧？

Right?

各位，去2587号。

So guys, go to 2587.

你的个性已经上线了。

Your personality has entered the chat.

这真是太棒了。

This was really cool.

我觉得我之前和奥布里做过这个。

I think I did this one with Aubrey.

对吧？

Right?

不是。

No.

那是我。

That was me.

不是。

No.

你和我一起做过这个。

You and I did this one.

这太有趣了，因为我之前对‘enter the chat’这个说法不太了解，但现在我懂了，而且

This was so fun because I don't I didn't know a lot about the phrase enter the chat, but I learned and so did

我们的听众也一起学到了。

our listeners right alongside.

第一。

One.

特别时髦。

Very trendy.

真的很

Very

时髦的表达。

trendy expression.

特别有意思。

Really fun.

所以大家去试试吧。

So, guys, go check it out.