AEE 2613：筋疲力尽时？5种表达挫败感的英文方式

这是《All Ears English》播客第2613期。

This is an All Ears English Podcast episode twenty six thirteen.

快崩溃了？五个地道表达英语中挫败感的方式。

At the end of your rope, five ways to express frustration in English.

欢迎收听《All Ears English》播客，全球下载量已超过两亿次。

Welcome to the All Ears English Podcast downloaded more than 200,000,000 times.

你是不是觉得自己的英语进步卡住了？

Are you feeling stuck with your English?

今天我们请来美国主持人奥布里·卡特——雅思达人，以及英语冒险家琳赛·麦卡锡，她们来自亚利桑那州和科罗拉多州，教你如何放下完美主义，专注于真实交流，从而自信流利地说英语。

We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, not perfection with your American host, Aubrey Carter, the IELTS whiz, and Lindsay McMahon, the English adventurer, coming to you from Arizona and Colorado, USA.

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建立连接的一部分，就是让别人知道你的情绪并不是总是一成不变的。

Part of connection is showing that your emotions are not always the same.

今天教你几个新表达，让你在英语里说出‘我受够了’。

Today, get new phrases to show that you are done or fed up with something in English.

很多英语学习者特别关注语法。

Many English learners focus on grammar.

他们希望自己的句子完全正确。

They want their sentences to be correct.

但流利度不只是关于对错。

But fluency isn't just about correctness.

关键是说得自然，选对表达，快速回应，不用在脑子里把每个想法都翻译一遍。

It's about sounding natural, choosing the right phrase, responding quickly without translating every thought in your head.

所以有些人语法懂很多，聊天时还是觉得不自在。

That's why someone can know a lot of grammar rules and still feel uncomfortable in conversations.

真正的流利来自于掌握语言的模式、语气和地道表达。

Real fluency comes from understanding patterns, tone, and natural expressions.

我们的免费两分钟流利度测试，能帮你了解自己的水平，以及哪些技能能帮你进步。

Our free two minute fluency quiz helps you discover your level and what skills will move you forward.

去 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore 看看。

Go to allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

网址是 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

That's allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

嗨，奥布里。

Hey, Aubrey.

我有个问题想问你。

I have a question for you.

准备好了吗？

You ready?

行啊。

Alright.

对。

Yeah.

说吧。

Let's hear it.

你平时容易感到沮丧吗？

So are you someone that often gets frustrated?

你是那种很容易生气的人，还是不太容易？

Do you become frustrated very easily or not so much?

不太容易。

Not so much.

我觉得我在这方面还挺拿手的。

I think this I'm I'm pretty good at it.

其实上个星期六我女儿打篮球比赛时，要是真有哪次我该爆发的话，那就是那次了。

In fact, at my daughter's basketball game last Saturday, if ever I were going to fly off the handle and get really frustrated, it would have been then.

结果你猜怎么着？裁判都生病了，也没人顶上。

Guess what happened was the refs were sick and there were no backups.

于是就找了个邻居家的孩子来当裁判，才十五岁，不但从来没吹过比赛，连篮球都没怎么打过。

So they just like someone had their neighbors kid ref was like 15 year olds who not only had never refed before, had never played basketball before.

天哪，那俩孩子根本不知道该怎么判。

So my gosh did not know what they were doing.

他们根本不知道该怎么吹哨。

They didn't know what to call.

简直太乱了。

It was crazy.

发生的事都荒唐得不行，但我还是保持了冷静。

The things that were happening were crazy, but I kept my cool.

我当时就懵了，心想这到底在搞什么，还跟旁边的人一起琢磨到底是怎么回事。

I was kind of just like what is happening and I would like was talking to we're like trying to figure it out, but.

其实我也没怎么生气。

I wasn't, you know, I wasn't even that frustrated.

我更多是觉得挺有意思的。

I just more was like entertained.

发生啥好事了？

What's happening good?

你能做到这样不被激怒，内心平和，这真不错。

That's good when you can it's a sense of inner peace when you don't feel like you need to kind of explode at something like that.

对吧？

Right?

很多家长也是这样。

And a lot of the parents were.

我能看出来，有些家长都快气炸了。

I could see parents that looked like their heads were about to explode.

他们特别沮丧。

They were so frustrated.

而我呢，确实如此，但你永远说不准。

And I, yeah, so but you never know.

在某些情况下，我确实更容易生气。

In some situations, I can definitely get more frustrated.

幸运的是，我觉得大家都处理得还不错。

So luckily everyone, I felt like everyone handled it pretty well.

没人胡搅蛮缠，也没发生什么让我觉得非得去纠正不可的事。

No one was being like unreasonable or there wasn't anything that was happening that I felt like I needed to set straight.

你明白吧？

Makes sense?

很好。

Good.

这样就对了。

That's good.

知道这个挺好的。

That's good to know.

我们刚才在讨论感到沮丧、忍无可忍这个概念。

So we're talking about this concept of becoming frustrated, becoming fed up.

因为我们的学生杰里在每周的问答环节提了个好问题。

Because there was a good question from our student, Jerry, at our weekly q and a.

顺便问一下，谁参加每周的问答环节啊？

And Aubrey, who gets to go to the weekly q and a, by the way?

是的。

Yeah.

这是给所有私人教练课程学员的。

This is for all personal coach students.

如果你购买了我们的课程，基础版会提供这些模块、视频和社区的实时口语练习。

So for those who, purchase one of our courses, there's the basic level where you get these modules and videos and our community live speaking practice.

而选择私人教练版本，你就可以参加这个问答环节。

And the personal coach level, you are able to come to this Q and A.

你还能获得老师对你的课程反馈。

You get teacher feedback for your lessons.

所有报名私人教练课程的学生，我每周在问答环节都能见到，只要能来，他们总能提出特别棒的问题。

So all of the students who are in personal coach, I see at Q and A every week anyone who's able to attend, and they always have these amazing questions.

最后往往变成一场特别精彩的讨论。

It ends up being a fantastic conversation.

没错。

Exactly.

我们的大部分课程，尤其是主打课程，都提供私人教练选项。

And most of our courses, most of our main courses, our flagship courses have a Personal Coach option.

你可以选择基础套餐，也可以选择私人教练服务。

You choose Basic Plan or you choose personal coach.

所以留意一下这两种选项。

So keep your eyes open for those.

那我们接下来读一下杰里的问题吧？

But shall we go ahead and read Jerry's question?

奥布里，你来念一下？

Aubrey, you want to read it?

好的，我来说说内容。

Yeah, I'll share what it was.

他说，曾经听到有人用‘我受够了’来表达他们很沮丧。

So he said that he had heard people say, I'm done, to mean they were frustrated.

然后他想知道还有没有其他说法，以及当事情进展得特别顺利时，我们通常会用什么表达。

And then he was asking for other ways to say this and what phrases we would use for the opposite meaning when something is going really well.

这次问答里我们已经聊过这些表达，我也想在播客里再讲一遍。

So, we were able to cover them in this Q and A and I want to cover them here on the podcast as well.

今天咱们先讲讲表达沮丧的几种说法，记得关注，第二部分会分享那些更积极的表达。

Today, we'll cover the first, these ways to say you're frustrated and then hit follow for part two with those more positive phrases.

这个主意真不错。

Yeah, I love that idea.

咱们分成两部分讲，因为不同场合需要的说法差别挺大的，对吧？

We're going to break it into two parts because very different things you need for different contexts, right?

没错。

Exactly.

其实我们平时用的可多了。

There are so many of them that we say.

今天特别想把它们都跟大家分享一下。

So I'm excited to share all of these today.

第一个是，我受够了。

Yeah, so the first one is, I'm done.

我受够了。

I'm done.

这信息量也太大了。

This is a lot of context.

能举几个例子吗？

What are some examples here?

是的，比如他们已经三次涨价了。

Yeah, for example, they've raised the prices on us three times now.

我受够了。

I'm done.

也就是说，你不想再管这事了，对吧？

So this just means you are no longer interested in having this issue, right?

你可能会取消服务，或者打电话去投诉客服，类似这样的举动。

You are probably going to cancel the service or call and complain to customer service, something like that.

这就是你的意思。

That's what you mean.

这只是表达你很烦，但这是一种比较新的流行说法。

Just mean I'm frustrated, but this is sort of a new trendy way to say it.

你说我不干了。

You say I'm done.

是的，过去几年里，很多人对价格上涨都特别不满，对吧？

Yeah, I think a lot of people in the last couple of years have been really frustrated with price increases, Right?

质量没见提升，价格却一直在涨。

Because quality is not getting better, but prices keep going up.

所以这现在是个挺常见的例子。

So this could be a really common example right now.

没错。

Absolutely.

我一早上都在等客服接电话。

Or I've been on hold with customer support all morning.

我真的受够了。

I am so done.

我真的受够了。

I'm so done.

对，没错。

Yes, right.

所以我们要么说‘我受够了’，要么说‘我彻底受够了’。

Well, so we either say I'm done or I'm so done.

我喜欢这种说法。

I love that.

我喜欢这种说法。

I love that.

就是加点强调，对吧？

Just adding a little emphasis, right?

没错。

Exactly.

是的。

Yeah.

我们不会对那种无关紧要的小事用这种表达。

And we really won't use this for something that's just no big deal.

就像我举的那个篮球比赛里裁判的例子，我大概不会这么说。

Like the example I gave of these refs at the basketball game, I probably wouldn't have said this.

我受够了。

I'm done.

我彻底受够了。

I'm so done.

我要是这么说，那就说明我真快气炸了。

If I said that, that would mean I was really frustrated.

我当时都快对人发火了。

I was like about to blow up at somebody.

而且可能连门都直接摔出去了，对吧？

And probably walk out the door too, right?

或者干点别的什么。

Or something.

我不干了，走了。

I'm out of here.

我受不了了，意思就是你已经忍到极限了。

I'm fed up is also, you know, you're at the end of your rope.

这是个说法吗？

Is that an expression?

这种表达常见吗？

Is that a thing?

是的。

Yes.

这个说法挺生动的，适合形容这些情况。

That's a fun idiom for all of these.

你说这些话的时候，比如忍无可忍，其实就是生气了，一点耐心都没了。

When you say any of these things, are at end of your rope, you're frustrated, you have no more patience for it.

对，比如说，这个应用我一打开就崩溃，我都烦透了。

Yeah, for example, I'm fed up with this app crashing every time I open it.

对吧？

Right?

谁没经历过这种事呢。

We've all been there.

是啊，这种事确实会发生。

Yes, that can happen.

电脑突然崩溃，WiFi偏偏在最要紧的时候断掉，对吧？

Crashing, computers crashing, WiFi cutting out at the worst time, right?

这些事真的让人忍无可忍。

Things that make us really fed up.

或者她每五分钟就改一次主意，我真是受够了。

Or, she changes her mind every five minutes, I'm fed up.

如果你快和对象分手了，对对方的某些行为忍无可忍，你就会这么说。

You might say this about someone you're dating if you're on the verge of breaking up, if you're fed up about something they're doing.

当然。

Sure.

还有这个，我特别喜欢，经常用。

Or, I love this one, I use this a lot.

我受够了。

I'm over it.

我实在忍不了了。

I'm over it.

对吧？

Right?

我受够了这天气。

I'm over this weather.

已经连着下了三天雨了。

It's been raining for three days straight.

这是一种很生动的说法，表示实在扛不住了。

It's creative way to say you just can't handle it anymore.

没错。

Exactly.

我经常这么说。

I say this one a lot too.

我真的受够了。

I'm over it.

我经常对孩子们这么说。

I say this about my kids a lot.

比如他们行为出问题的时候。

Like, something will be happening with their behavior.

我实在受不了了。

I'm over this.

我真的撑不住了。

I can't I can't handle it anymore.

我

I

太棒了。

love it.

还有个挺有意思的用法，比如在约会时。

Or another fun one for dating.

这人已经好几次把我消息设为未读了。

This guy has left me unread one too many times.

我真受够了。

I'm over it.

现在发短信都有已读回执，你发出去的消息对方看了却不回，这就叫被设为未读。

So that to be left unread, people have read receipts on text now and it shows if the text you sent has been read and they don't respond, this is called being left unread.

所以他把我消息设为未读了。

So he's left me unread.

意思就是他看了我的消息，但就是不回。

Means he read my text and hasn't responded.

真棒。

Nice.

我喜欢这个说法。

I love it.

那我们之前跟听众说的‘我受够了’，这和现在说的有什么区别呢？

And what is the difference between so we've we've taught our listeners I'm over it.

而且我觉得他们可能听过‘放下一段感情’或者‘原谅某人’这样的说法。

And then I think they've probably heard to be over like a relationship or to have forgiven someone for something.

是的。

Yeah.

这挺有意思的，对吧？

This is interesting, right?

我们也会说‘我放下了’，意思是我已经翻篇了。

We also say, I'm over that to mean like, I've gotten past it.

我已经原谅了。

I've forgiven that.

就是说，我不再生气了。

Like, no, I'm not upset anymore.

我不在意了。

I'm over it.

所以这其实是个挺微妙的表达，根据上下文，它可能意思是‘我受够了’。

So this is really one of those tricky ones where depending on the context, it could mean I'm fed up.

我不干了。

I'm done.

或者意思是我不再生气了。

Or it could mean I'm no longer upset.

我已经放下了。

I'm past it.

我向前看了。

I've moved on.

真难搞。

So tricky.

这确实是个很重要的点。

Oh, that's a really important thing to highlight.

这完全能单独做一期节目，因为这两个意思几乎是相反的。

This could have its own episode entirely because they're almost opposite meanings.

对。

Yes.

这全看语气和上下文。

It all depends on the tone, the context.

你能听出来，对方是真生气了，还是已经不生气了。

You can tell if someone means they're frustrated about something or if they're no longer frustrated.

他们已经不在乎了。

They're over it.

他们翻篇儿了。

They've moved on.

他们不再生气了。

They're not upset anymore.

甚至在完全相同的语境下，意思也可能不一样。

It also could be in the exact same quote, unquote context.

比如说，我正在跟客服打电话。

Like, let's say I'm on the phone with customer service.

对吧？

Right?

天啊，我跟客服打电话打了三个小时了。

God, I've been on the phone with customer service for three hours.

我还在等接通。

I'm on hold.

我真的受够了。

I'm so over this.

对吧。

Right.

但挂了电话后，问题居然解决了。

But then you get off the phone and the issue has been resolved.

也许你伴侣会问：你还生气吗？

Maybe your partner says, Are you still upset?

不，我现在不气了。

No, I'm over it now.

事情已经处理好了。

We took care of it.

没错。

Exactly.

你会注意到你用的词有点不一样，对吧？

And you'll notice the words you are using are a little bit different, right?

有点不一样。

A little different.

‘I'm so over it’ 意思是我真的气坏了。

I'm so over it means I'm really frustrated.

‘I'm over it now’ 意思是我已经放下了。

I'm over it now means I'm past it.

所以他们用的词虽然有点不同，但更关键的是语气，对吧？

So their words will be slightly different but it's more about the tone, right?

能听出来对方是真生气了，还是已经不介意了。

Can tell if someone means they're frustrated or not.

而情境呢，当然还是同一个情况，只是背景稍微有点不一样。

And the context is, of course, it's the same scenario, but the context is slightly different.

当下的处境其实有细微差别。

The moment is slightly different.

这个总结得很宏观，而且特别有意思。

But that's a really high level interesting piece there.

所以你要记住这点，

So, keep that

把这个放在心上。

in mind.

要知道这个表达两种情况都能用，别被它搞晕了。

Aware that this could be used for both, and don't let it trip you up.

对。

Yeah.

我特别喜欢下一个，因为这句话现在太常用了。

I love the next one because this is everywhere.

可别提这事儿了。

Don't even get me started.

对，完全正确。

Yes, exactly right.

比如，有人问你路况怎么样，你别说了。

So for example, if someone asks how the traffic was, don't even get me started.

这意思就是路况很差。

That means it was bad.

这种回应方式真有意思。

That's such a fun way to respond.

是啊，这明显就是说路况很糟。

Yeah, it definitely means it was bad.

它可不是让你再问点路况相关的事，对吧？

It doesn't mean that they want another question or something about the traffic, right?

没错，就是说糟透了。

Right exactly, which means it was terrible.

咱们聊点别的吧。

Let's talk about something else.

是的，可能会有个动作。

Yeah, yeah, there might be a gesture.

比如重重把键盘拍在台面上，第二个例子中，我们正跟朋友聊天。

There might be like a slamming of the keys down on the countertop, something In the second example, we're chatting with friends.

他们又把菜单改了。

They changed the menu again.

别提了。

Don't even get me started.

意思是这事儿我早见过，大概率吧。

Meaning I've seen this before, probably.

我实在忍不了了

I have no tolerance

对这事儿彻底没辙了。

for this.

你早就受够了。

You're over it.

别提了。

Don't even get me started.

下一个有点儿。

This next one is a little

老派了吧？

old fashioned, right?

哦，你觉得我已经忍无可忍了。

Oh, you think I've had it up to here.

我有时候还是会对我孩子这么说，对吧？

I still say this with my kids sometimes, right?

我实在受不了孩子不听我说话了。

I've had it up to here with my kids not listening.

我可能会对伴侣这么说。

Might say this to my partner.

该你来一阵子了。

It's like your turn for a while.

我需要休息一下。

I need a break.

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

好。

Yeah.

或者她总是迟到。

Or she's constantly late.

我真是受够了。

I've had it up to here.

那么，我们到底在说什么呢？

Now, literally, what are we saying here?

这个‘受够了’是真指一个高度，还是只是个说法？

Is it like I've had it like it's a physical height thing or what?

是的。

Yeah.

这只是个很地道的说法，对吧？

It's just it's very idiomatic, right?

比如你想象一下，你的耐心有个上限，当你的挫败感涨到这儿，意思就是已经到极限了——我忍无可忍了，真的受够了。

Like if you imagine that your patience level goes to a certain place and so you know your frustration level And if you've got it up to here, it means it's peaked I've out, had it up to here, I am frustrated.

我实在受不了了。

I can't handle anymore.

我的耐心彻底耗尽了。

My patience is gone.

你用这个词的时候，我平时不太用了，但你用的时候，会不会真的把手举到那个高度？

When you use that, I don't use it much anymore, but when you use it do you actually put your hand up like that?

你是说‘我忍到这儿了’，还是不这么比划？

Do you say I've had it up to here or no?

有时候会。

Sometimes.

你当然不用这么做，但有些人说话时还是会比划一下，表示‘忍无可忍’，不过也不是必须的。

You definitely don't have to, but sometimes people will gesture like I've had it up to here, but not necessarily.

你打电话的时候也可能这么说。

You might say this on the phone.

你没做任何手势，但意思跟那些新说法是一样的。

Know, you're not making any kind of a gesture, but you're just saying it's the same same meaning as these newer phrases.

我受够了。

I'm done.

我不在乎了。

I'm over it.

这些是 newer、更时髦的说法。

These are newer, more trendy.

你可能会更常听到这些表达。

You might hear them more often.

就像林赛说的，这个说法已经存在很久了。

Like Lindsay said, this one's been around forever.

我父母跟我说过，我受够了。

My parents said to me, I've had it up to here.

是的。

Yes.

对。

Yes.

当然了。

For sure.

太棒了。

Love it.

好嘞。

Alright.

我们来角色扮演一下吧，奥布里。

Let's do a role play, Aubrey.

开始吧。

Here we go.

你准备好了吗？

Are you ready?

好了。

Yes.

我来开头吧。

I'll start us out.

行。

Alright.

你有收到萨姆的消息吗？

Have you heard from Sam?

真没想到他们还没到。

I'm surprised they're not here.

是啊。

Yeah.

他们刚发消息说路上耽搁了。

They just texted running late.

你开玩笑吧。

You're kidding.

这周第三次了。

That's the third time this week.

我知道。

I know.

他们大概又找不出像样的理由，跟前几次一样。

They probably won't have a decent excuse, just like the last few times.

我真的有点受够了。

I'm kind of over it.

最近我老碰到这种事。

This has been happening to me a lot lately.

我对人老迟到实在忍不了了。

I'm fed up with people not being on time.

我懂。

I hear you.

他们从来都不道歉，这事儿我都懒得说了。

And don't even get me started on how they never apologize.

对吧？

Right?

你知道吗？

You know what?

我实在受够了干等着。

I've had it up to here with waiting around.

我要走了。

I'm gonna take off.

我们在这儿等另一个朋友。

So we're waiting for another friend here.

他迟到了。

They're late.

人还没到。

They haven't shown.

我实在忍不了了，最后只好走人。

And I'm fed up, and I end up leaving.

是啊，说到底，总得有人面对这种绝望的状态吧，你都快崩溃了，彻底放弃了。

Yeah, I mean, at some point someone has to take these are kind of fatalistic phrases, Like you're at the end of your rope, you're done.

总得有人采取行动，比如离开房间、回家，别再等那个人了。

Someone has to take an action like leave the room, go home, stop waiting for the person.

对吧？

Right?

确实如此。

It's true.

迟早会爆发的。

It's going to come to a head at some point.

为了让大家更清楚，你刚才说，他老是迟到。

So to break this down for our listeners, you said, you know, he's running late.

这已经是这周第三次了。

It's the third time this week.

我说，他大概又找不出什么像样的理由。

And I said, he probably won't have a decent excuse.

我真的受够了。

I'm kind of over it.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

这明显是一种模式了。

So clearly this is a pattern of behavior.

就像前几次一样，我也已经忍无可忍了。

Just like the last few times, I'm kind of over it.

你能看出这里语气其实缓和了不少。

And you can see how kind of softens it here.

如果你直接说‘我受够了’，那就严重多了。

If you said, I'm over it, that's much more extreme.

我受够了。

I'm done.

我真的很生气。

I'm really mad.

再加上一句，我差不多也厌倦了。

To add that kind of, I'm kind of over it.

对，这么一说语气就缓和多了，是吧？

Yeah, it softens it, right?

差不多就是忍到极限了。

It's like pretty much over it.

也许我可以再多容忍一点。

Maybe I can have a little tolerance, a little more tolerance.

没错。

Right.

但我明显更不耐烦了。

But I'm clearly more fed up.

我说我真的受够了别人总是迟到。

I say I'm fed up with people not being on time.

对我来说，这显然不只是萨姆一个人的问题。

It's clearly not just Sam for me.

之前也有人多次迟到，我都忍了。

I've had other people also not being on time.

这次真是压垮我的最后一根稻草。

So this is the last straw for me.

最后一根稻草。

Last straw.

没错。

Yeah.

这说明了在大多数美国文化里，守时有多重要，对吧？

And this tells you how important being on time is in American culture most of the time, right?

然后你还会说，别提他们从来不肯道歉这事了，对吧？

And then you say, And don't even get me started on how they never apologize, right?

所以你也很清楚，大家都迟到还不道歉，一点不觉得愧疚，这让我们更生气了。

So you're clearly in the same boat where people have been late and they're not apologizing, they don't feel bad, so it's making us more frustrated about it.

没错。

Exactly.

然后你说：行了，我实在受够了，再也不想干等下去。

And then you said, you know what, I've had it up to here with waiting around.

我要走了。

I'm going to take off.

所以你真的要走。

So, you're actually leaving.

你不会再等萨姆了。

You are not going to wait around for Sam.

是啊，也许我们在酒吧喝小酒，你想留下等萨姆也行，但我可不奉陪了。

Yeah, maybe we're at a bar, happy hour or something, so you could stay and wait for Sam if you want, but I'm out of here.

干得漂亮，真明智。

Nice, good one.