AEE 2616：这怪我！坦诚错误而不让场面尴尬

这是《All Ears English》播客第2616期。

This is an All Ears English Podcast episode twenty six sixteen.

我承认错误，但不会让场面尴尬，这确实是我的风格。

That's on me, admitting mistakes without making it awkward.

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你是不是觉得自己的英语进步卡住了？

Are you feeling stuck with your English?

我们会教你如何通过注重交流，而不是追求完美，变得自信又流利。

We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, not perfection.

本期节目由两位美国主持人带来：英语探险家琳赛·麦马洪，和纽约电台女孩米歇尔·卡普兰，他们从科罗拉多和纽约市为你直播。

With your American hosts, Lindsay McMahon, the English adventurer, and Michelle Kaplan, the New York radio girl, coming to you from Colorado and New York City, USA.

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你是不是那种敢于承认错误的人？

Are you someone who owns your mistakes?

这样做既能保持联系，又不会引发争吵，真的很聪明。

This is a smart thing to do to stay connected and avoid a fight.

今天我们就来教你怎么用地道自然的英语做到这一点。

Find out how to do it in a native and natural way in English today.

你有没有听过母语者说话，觉得每个词都懂，但还是有点摸不着头脑？

Have you ever listened to native speakers and thought, I understand the words, but I still feel slightly lost.

这是因为真实的英语对话不仅仅是词汇的问题。

That's because real English conversations include more than vocabulary.

还有语速、连读、文化背景，以及各种随意的表达方式。

There's speed, connected speech, cultural references and casual phrases.

你的大脑得实时处理所有这些信息。

Your brain has to process all of this in real time.

如果有时候对话让你觉得压力太大，那可能只是说明你已经准备好进入下一阶段了。

If conversations sometimes feel overwhelming, it may simply mean you're ready for the next level of training.

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Find out your exact level with our quick free fluency quiz.

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That's all earsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

嗨，林赛。

Hey, Lindsay.

你最近怎么样？

How are you?

我今天状态不错，米歇尔。

I'm feeling pretty good today, Michelle.

挺好的。

Doing well.

是的。

Yeah.

今天节目里我们要聊些什么？

What are we talking about on the show today?

那你今晚订好餐厅了吗？

Well, did you make dinner reservations for tonight?

啊，糟了。

Oh, no.

我给忘了。

I forgot.

这怪我。

That's on me.

哦，这样啊。

Oh, okay.

那我们只能点外卖了。

We'll have to do takeout.

Lindsay，你觉得你经常犯错吗？

Lindsay, do you feel like you make a lot of mistakes?

而且你通常会承认这些错误吗？

Or and do you usually admit to them?

你会承认吗？

Do you admit to them?

我经常犯错。

I make a lot of mistakes.

而且，是的，我通常都会试着承认。

And, yeah, I usually try to admit to them.

我的意思是，有时候我和伴侣之间会玩些小游戏，你知道的，就是想尽量……怎么说呢。

I mean, sometimes I play games and stuff with my partner and, you know, try try to I don't know.

但也不总是能完全担下来。

Maybe not always fully own up.

对吧？

Right?

对。

Mhmm.

对。

Mhmm.

但总的来说，生活中承认错误很重要，可以说‘这怪我’或者‘这是我的错’。

But in general, you know, with in life, it's good to own up to your mistakes and and say something like that's on me or that was my fault.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

你是说你在玩真正意义上的游戏吗？

Do you mean you're you mean playing literal games?

就是，你真的在玩游戏？

Like, you're actually playing games?

我。

I

不太清楚。

don't know.

比如说，他可能会问：‘这事儿到底是谁的错？’

Like, maybe he's like, oh, who who did like, whose fault was it really?

你懂的吧。

You know?

就是那种事儿。

Like, just sort of that kind thing.

明白。

Know.

是的。

Yeah.

我对那事儿一无所知。

Oh, I don't know anything about that.

对吧？

Right?

我不知道你在说什么。

I don't know what you're talking about.

这挺有意思的。

That's funny.

图个乐子。

For fun.

就是图个乐子。

Just for fun.

是的。

Yeah.

没错。

Exactly.

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yep.

所以啊，我们可以聊聊，你知道的，承认错误、说某件事是自己的责任，但用一种随意的方式，这正是我们今天要聊的内容。

So, yeah, we can talk about, you know, owning up to our mistakes, saying something is our fault, but in a casual way, which is what we're getting into that to today.

我们可以说‘这怪我’，就像你之前提到晚餐预订的事那样。

So we can do this by saying phrases like, that's on me, which is what you used about the dinner reservation.

是的

Yeah.

没错

Exactly.

我的意思是，Michelle，这到底是什么意思？

I mean, essentially, it means what, Michelle?

这代表什么？

What does it mean?

就是说，是我错了。

What Yeah.

这表示是我责任。

It means it's my fault.

是我做的。

I did it.

对。

Right.

是的

Yeah.

那件事本来该我负责，是我没做好。

Something was my responsibility, and I messed it up.

没那么严重。

It's not dramatic.

这是一种轻松的说法，意思就是我犯了个错。

It's a relaxed way of saying I made a mistake.

这样说很自然，是母语者常用的表达。

It's a nice natural native way to say that.

对。

Yeah.

对吧？

Right?

而且，没错，这种坦然承担责任的态度对建立联系特别重要。

And, yeah, this is huge for connection because when you take accountability calmly Yeah.

没错，这样能体现出你的自我觉察。

Right, you can show the self awareness.

对。

And Yes.

这恰恰相反于防御心态，而防御真的会毁掉彼此的连接。

It's the opposite of defensiveness, which really kills the the connection.

确实会。

It can.

没错。

Exactly.

如果你总是防卫重重，还把责任全推给别人，那可不行。

If you're always defensive and blaming someone else in a serious way for something, that's not good.

这样永远建不起真正的关系。

That's never gonna build a relationship.

对吧？

Right?

各位，在继续下面的内容之前，如果你还没关注这个节目，不管是苹果播客还是 Spotify，记得点一下关注按钮，这样新节目就会直接出现在你的播放列表里。

Guys, before we go any further in the episode, if you are not currently following the show, if you're an Apple Podcast or Spotify, you do wanna hit that follow button so that we drop right into your listening queue.

你就不用特意来找我们的节目了。

And you don't have to come after us and find our show.

我们每天早上都会自动推送到你的播放列表。

We'll drop into your queue every morning.

差不多每天早上，米歇尔。

Almost every morning, Michelle.

每周五天。

Five days a week.

这不挺疯狂的吗？

Isn't that crazy?

是的。

Yeah.

节目可多了。

Lots of episodes.

太好了。

That's great.

对。

Yeah.

内容既有趣又有用。

Lots of fun content and useful.

对。

Yeah.

那么，林赛，该怎么用‘我来付’这句话呢？

So, Lindsay, how would we use that's on me?

哦，这就像我们说的，是个很随意的表达，但无论是工作场合还是私下都能用。

Oh, it's a casual phrase like we said, but it can be used in both professional and personal situations.

我们以前在《商务英语》或者其他播客里总说，我们刷卡进公司的时候，并不会立刻变成机器人。

We've we've always been saying over on Business English or other podcasts, we always say, we don't become robots when we swipe our card and go, into our workplace.

对吧？

Right?

是的

Yeah.

我们始终是活生生的人。

We stay remain human beings.

所以很多表达在工作和生活中都很实用。

So that's why a lot of phrases are useful professionally and personally.

来举个职场中的例子。

So here's a professional example.

报告没来得及准备好，会议就开始了。

The report wasn't ready for the meeting.

我还以为会议是明天呢。

I thought the meeting was tomorrow.

这怪我。

That's on me.

听上去挺成熟的，没错。

See, it sounds to me very mature Yeah.

当你这么说的时候。

When you say that.

对。

Yeah.

我喜欢这一点，因为它很有自省意识。

I do like I like that it's self aware.

有自省意识。

Self aware.

或者你说过昨晚会给我打电话。

Or you said you'd call last night.

是的。

Yeah.

这确实是我的责任。

That's on me.

我搞砸了。

I dropped the ball.

好的。

Okay.

对。

Yeah.

而且很多时候，我们这么说的时候，也会顺便给个简短的理由。

And a lot of times when we say it, we also do give some sort of short reason.

是的。

Mhmm.

就像这样。

So, like like this.

我们走的时候你锁门了吗？

Did you lock the door when we left?

啊，没有。

Oh, no.

这怪我。

That's on me.

我被手机分心了。

I got distracted by my phone.

天哪。

Woah.

所以说，其实就是一句话：快去锁门。

And so it's Come on.

不是说，门必须得锁上吗。

It's not I mean Gotta lock the door.

在这种情况下，这听起来不像借口，但有时候确实容易让人觉得是借口。

It it's a slippery slope between in this case, this doesn't feel like an excuse, but it could feel like an excuse.

所以，事后找理由的时候要小心点。

So just be careful when you give a reason after.

如果你总是在找理由，或者语气带着防御性，是的。

If you always find yourself giving a reason or with a defensive voice Yeah.

那可能就恰恰违背了主动承担责任的本意。

Then then that might be, like, defeating the purpose of accepting the responsibility.

对。

Right.

没错。

Right.

确实。

Right.

哦，这确实是我的责任。

Like, oh, that's on me.

抱歉。

Sorry.

我当时太忙了，这怪我。

I I, like, I was so busy or that's on me.

我就是记不清自己拿了哪些东西。

I I I could just I couldn't remember all the things I took.

类似这样的情况吧。

You know, something like that.

没错。

Exactly.

对。

Mhmm.

是的。

Yeah.

是的。

Yeah.

那除此之外我们还能用什么？

So but what else can we use here?

我们再来一个更随意的版本。

We're gonna do one that's even more casual.

更随意的。

Even more casual.

这个真的特别随意。

This one's really casual.

工作场合可能不太适合用这个。

Maybe avoid this at work.

太随意了。

It's pretty casual.

抱歉，是我错了。

My bad.

抱歉，是我错了。

My bad.

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

这个我觉得更适合小孩子用。

This one, I think, was is more for the kids.

我不确定现在的小孩还会不会说这句话。

I don't know if the kids I still say don't know.

我平时不说‘我错了’这句话。

I I don't say my bad.

我可能就开玩笑的时候说一说。

I might as a joke.

哎呀，不好意思。

Oh, my bad.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

所以它现在还存在，不过……

So it still exists, but

我们小时候可流行这个了，那时候

it was it was trendy when we were kid like, when we

那时候我们都还是孩子

were kiddos

你就是这个意思。

is what you're saying.

是的。

Yeah.

没错。

Right.

正是如此。

Exactly.

所以我不确定，是我们的世代把这东西推高了，还是年轻一代接过了它？ probably not，因为他们说的一些话，我完全听不懂。

So I don't know if it's so much that our generation has moved it up or if the younger generation took it over, probably not because they say things I have no idea what they're talking about.

说实话，我有时候还是会这么说。

I I feel like I still say it, to be honest, sometimes.

真的吗？

Do you?

是的。

Yeah.

就是永远当个青少年。

Just being a teenager forever.

我不确定。

I don't know.

我们成年后，还是保留了一些青春期的痕迹。

There's some remnants of our teenage hood that we never drop as adults.

对吧？

Right?

一直带着不放。

That we just carry on.

这完全是个人的事。

And and it's a personal thing.

比如有些东西你一直保留着，而我却没有。

Like, maybe certain things you've carried on and I haven't.

不过呢。

But yeah.

我们该这么做。

We should.

可以等一等。

Can wait.

稍等一下，林赛。

Hold on, Lindsay.

我想请你做个实验，这可能会成为一个不错的未来节目主题。

I'm gonna ask you to do an experiment because this could be a good future episode.

好的。

Okay.

如果你在生活中用到某个说法，觉得这明显是小时候的口吻，就记下来告诉我，也许……

If you use an expression in your daily life that you're like, oh, that's like kind of like from when I was young, like a like a kid, write it down and let me know because maybe

我们可以

we can

你去查一查，我也做同样的事。

do some research and I'll do the same thing.

我也可以问问奥布里，看看我们有没有发现一些从童年延续到现在的生活表达。

Maybe I'll ask Aubrey too, and we can talk about some of the things that we realize have carried over into a dog's hood.

这太棒了。

It's so good.

这个话题做一期节目简直太合适了。

That would be a brilliant episode.

各位，记得点一下

Guys, hit the

如果你喜欢这个点子，就点个关注吧。

follow button if you love that idea.

对。

Yeah.

我们可以

We could

你看，有些说法能跨越好几十年。

see, you know, phrases that cross decades.

对吧？

Right?

它们能流传一辈子，因为我们总觉得跟自己有共鸣，不过现在的孩子可能根本不说了。

They carry on for a lifetime because for some reason, we identify with them, but maybe young kids don't use them anymore.

我觉得六七岁的小孩应该不会用‘我的错’这种话了。

So I doubt the six seven crowd is using the my bad phrase.

对吧？

Right?

我觉得不会。

I don't think so.

六七岁？

Oh, six seven.

是的。

Yeah.

那好吧。

So okay.

这么说听起来怎么样？

How would this sound?

嘿。

Hey.

我们要迟到了。

We're running late.

哎呀，是我疏忽了。

Oh, my bad.

我一时没注意时间。

I lost track of time.

对。

Mhmm.

不错。

Nice.

或者直接说‘我搞砸了’。

Or the very literal I messed up.

好吧。

Okay.

对。

Mhmm.

是的。

Yeah.

这个表达可以根据情况显得随意或更强烈。

So this one can be casual or stronger depending on sit the situation.

对吧？

Right?

所以你可以用它来表达严肃的意思。

So you can use it in a serious way.

比如：我搞砸了。

Like, I messed up.

我就是那个意思。

I'm you know?

这下可真搞砸了。

Really messed up here.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

你知道的，我给忘了。

You know, I I forgot.

我们去徒步了，结果我忘带了特别重要的东西，比如指南针，现在我们正困在亚利桑那的沙漠里。

So we went hiking, and I forgot something really important, like a compass, and now we're, in the middle of Arizona in the desert or something.

太糟糕了。

Really bad.

太糟糕了。

Really bad.

就像这样。

Like this.

我觉得我们迷路了。

I think we're lost.

是的。

Yeah.

我搞砸了。

I messed up.

我刚才拐错弯了。

I took a wrong turn back there.

不过你至少敢认账。

Well, you're still owning it.

对吧？

Right?

至少你愿意承担责任。

At least you're owning it.

你懂的。

You know?

不客气。

You're welcome.

好的。

Okay.

不错。

Nice.

那这句话的语气是怎样的，米歇尔？

So what's the tone of the phrase, Michelle?

这些表达。

These phrases.

是的。

Yeah.

我觉得是轻松又自信。

I would say relaxed, confident.

而且这些说法也能缓解紧张，因为语气更随意，就是在说‘对，没错’那种感觉。

It also, they also kinda lower the tension because they are a little more casual and showing you're just saying, yeah.

就像我知道，我确实这么做了。

Like, I know like, that's that's I did it.

对吧？

Right?

我确实这么做了。

I did I did it.

就是这么回事。

It.

这样一来，就能避免争执，因为语气既不防御也不生气。

So in that way, it prevents arguments because it's not necessarily defensive or angry.

所以我觉得这些表达其实特别有用。

So I think that it it's they're really useful.

那我们要不要来个角色扮演？

So can should we do a role play?

米歇尔，下一个你来吧？

Michelle, how about the next one?

咱们先来演第一个角色扮演吧？

How about the first role play here?

好啊。

Yeah.

行。

Okay.

那我们开始吧。

So here we go.

你忘了给狗喂食了。

You forgot to feed the dog.

哎呀，是我疏忽了。

Oh, my bad.

我这就去喂。

I'll do it now.

这其实是个小事儿。

So that's a little thing.

但说实话，承认自己做错了，这种力量真的很大。

But, yeah, the the power of admitting you've done something is huge.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

Exactly.

或者我们又迟到了。

Or we're late again.

这怪我。

That's on me.

我得好好改进一下时间管理。

I need to work on my time management.

是的。

Yeah.

不太好。

Not good.

这些榜样的分量越来越重了。

Getting a little bit more progressively high stakes here with these role models.

是的。

Yeah.

没错。

Exactly.

或者对于日常的小错。

Or for everyday mistakes.

这些适合日常的小失误，不一定是那种造成严重后果的大错才需要道歉。

You know, these are great for everyday mistakes, not necessarily huge apologies that have caused for something with serious harm.

就像这种情况。

So something like this.

对。

Mhmm.

我们没鸡蛋了。

We're out of eggs.

哎呀，怪我。

Oh, my bad.

我忘了去买东西。

I didn't go grocery shopping.

对。

Yes.

或者你根本没回我消息。

Or you never replied to my text.

这确实是我疏忽了。

That's on me.

我那会儿忙，一时给忘了。

I was busy, and it slipped my mind.

是啊。

Yeah.

是的

Yeah.

我们上周录的时候还在聊这个，我常用的一个方法是，收到短信后先标记为未读，这样能确保我不会漏回消息。

We were talking about this when we were recording last week is, like, a good method that I use is when I have a text that comes in, I mark it as unread Yeah.

就是为了确保能回复每个人。

Just to make sure I get back to people.

是的

Yeah.

而且你会在心里先想好怎么回别人。

And I you reply to people in your mind.

对吧？

Right?

我也是。

I yes.

这真的很棒。

I it's amazing.

你知道吗，也许有一天，人们可以直接用脑子发短信了。

You know, maybe one day they'll have it where you can text with your mind.

那对我来说会特别方便。

That would be really helpful to me.

我

I

我肯定立马回所有人，但真要动手打字的时候

would be texting everyone back right away, but when I have to actually use my fingers

太费劲了。

It's a lot of work.

太费劲了。

It's a lot of work

确实如此。

for sure.

好吧。

Alright.

该角色扮演了，米歇尔。

Role play time, Michelle.

所以我们现在住在一起，一大早在家准备煮杯咖啡。

So here we're living together, and we're starting our morning at home trying to make a cup of coffee.

准备着呢。

Trying.

好吧。

Okay.

行吧。

Alright.

早上你非得喝杯咖啡不可。

You gotta have your coffee in the morning.

对吧？

Right?

天哪。

Oh my gosh.

好吧。

Alright.

我们好像又没咖啡了。

I think we're out of coffee again.

哎呀。

Oops.

是我的错。

My bad.

我忘了把它加到购物清单上。

I forgot to add it to the shopping list.

不用了。

No.

没关系。

That's okay.

我们上班路上去买杯咖啡吧？

Shall we go grab a coffee on the way to work?