AEE 2621：你不该放下的词汇

这是《All Ears English》播客第2621期。

This is an All Ears English Podcast episode twenty six twenty one.

这些词汇你绝对不能放着不管。

Vocabulary you should not put behind you.

欢迎收听《All Ears English》播客，全球下载量已超过两亿次。

Welcome to the All Ears English Podcast downloaded more than 200,000,000 times.

你是不是觉得自己的英语进步卡住了？

Are you feeling stuck with your English?

我们会教你如何摆脱顾虑，真正流利地说英语——重点不是完美，而是自然交流。本期节目由美国主持人奥布里·卡特、雅思达人林赛·麦马洪为你带来，他们分别来自亚利桑那州和科罗拉多州。

We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, not perfection with your American host, Aubrey Carter, the IELTS whiz, and Lindsay McMahon, the English adventurer, coming to you from Arizona and Colorado, USA.

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你现在是不是正在从某件事或某个人身上慢慢走出来？

Are you currently getting over something or someone?

今天，学学怎么谈论从重大失望中恢复过来，顺便了解为什么这其实是一种建立连接的能力。

Today, learn new ways to talk about healing after a big disappointment and find out why this is a connection skill.

懂英语和真正用英语交流，完全是两回事。

There's a big difference between understanding English and participating in English.

懂，意味着你能跟上对话的内容。

Understanding means you follow the conversation.

参与，才是主动表达想法、自然回应，让对话持续下去。

You participate by adding your ideas, reacting naturally, and keeping the conversation moving.

很多英语学习者听力不错，但说话时总犹豫不决。

Many English learners are strong listeners, but hesitant speakers.

一旦你清楚自己现在的水平，缩小这个差距就会容易得多。

Once you know your current fluency level, it becomes much easier to close that gap.

花两分钟做个免费小测验，看看你的口语水平，再知道接下来该重点练什么。

Take our free two minute quiz to discover your level and what to focus on next.

去 all.com/fluencyscore 试试吧。

Go to all.com/fluencyscore.

那就是 all.com/fluencyscore。

That's allearsenglish.comfluencyscore.

嗨，奥布里。

Hey, Aubrey.

有个问题想问你。

Have a question for you.

哦，说来听听。

Oh, let's hear it.

你最近一次看到某个词的拼写，结果跟你想的完全不一样，是什么时候？

When is the last time that you saw the spelling of something and it was actually very different from what you expected?

嗯，有这回事。

Okay.

最近我就遇到过几次这种情况。

This has happened to me a couple of times recently.

第一次是你在上一期提到的‘Pesci’。

The first was, you said in a recent episode, Pesci.

我当时在核对字幕，想确认一下拼写是不是对的。

And I was just checking the transcripts to make sure it was spelled correctly.

结果一查这个名字，发现拼法完全不一样。

And I looked up the name and it was spelled so differently.

这太有意思了。

That's so funny.

你是怎么查到的？

How did you even look that up?

你具体是怎么查的？

How did you?

我看到名字是 P E S H I，就去搜了一下，结果发现是 Pesci，后面还跟了个 tennis 什么的，全都对上了。

Like I saw the name, it was just P E S H I and so then I searched it was like Pesci tennis something and it all came up right.

是个法国网球选手，叫 Giovanni Petshi Pericard，但 Petshi 的拼法是 M P E T S H I，真没想到。

Was like French tennis player, Giovanni Petshi Pericard, but the Petshi is spelled M P E T S H I, which is very surprising.

这发音跟拼法完全对不上吧？

It doesn't sound like that, right?

是的

Yeah.

当人们这么说的时候。

When people say it.

我挺惊讶的。

I was surprised.

几天前我还看到一个例子，AI转录的内容写的是‘everyone's going to get past it in a couple days’。

And then another one I just saw a couple of days ago was AI had transcribed something and it said everyone's going to get past it in a couple days.

这里应该是‘get past’，拼成 P-A-S-T。

Which should be spelled get and then past P A S T.

但其实不是这样写的。

But it wasn't.

它写成了 P-A-S-S-E-D。

It had been P A S S E D.

哎呀。

Uh-oh.

说出来听起来完全一样，但意思根本说不通。

Which sounds exactly the same when you're speaking, but doesn't make sense.

那意思就完全变了。

Would mean something totally different.

这件事还启发了我做这一期节目。

And then it also inspired this episode.

我当时就想，这挺有意思的。

So, I was like, Oh, that's interesting.

跨过它。

Get past it.

还有其他表达克服困难的说法。

And other phrases for getting over something.

没错。

Right.

我们能越过AI犯的错误吗？

Can we get past the mistakes that AI makes?

没错。

Exactly.

必须得这样。

Have to.

我们确实得这么做。

We have to.

朋友们，AI还是在犯错呢。

AI is still making mistakes, guys.

这不是要保持警惕。

It's not Be aware.

如果你用AI学英语，那你可能会学到一些错误的东西。

If you are learning English with AI, you're pro you may be learning mistakes.

是的。

Yes.

当然了。

Absolutely.

如果你只是从某个地方获取AI生成的字幕，我敢保证里面错漏百出。

If you just are getting AI transcripts somewhere, I guarantee you they're full of mistakes.

是的。

Yeah.

当然了。

For sure.

可惜的是。

Unfortunately.

顺便说一下，‘背身击球’这个术语，指的是网球选手在转身时从双腿之间击球——这是一项非常高阶的技术。

And by the way, a petchy, just so our listeners have some context, is where you turn if you're a tennis player, if you can do this, it's a very advanced skill, you turn around and you hit the ball between your legs.

所以这个词才这么有趣，大家都喜欢这么说。

That's why it's such a fun term and everyone loves it.

这个动作真有意思。

Such a fun move.

只要有人能成功做出这个动作，我们都会觉得特别厉害。

If ever somebody pulls it off, we're very impressed.

确实让人印象深刻。

Very impressed.

不过，今天的这期节目主要讲的是如何放下过去。

But yeah, so today's episode then is really all about moving past things.

换个说法，艾莉，你会怎么说呢？

Like, what would be another way of saying that, Aubrey?

对，就是别再纠结了。

Yeah, get over it.

今天我们来分享几个说法。

We are going to share a few today.

我们整理了五个英语里表达这个意思的常用说法。

We have five different ways that we say this in English.

那我们先来看第一个。

So, let's dive into the first one here.

当然，如果刚才这些听起来很陌生，或者你没听过之前关于‘Pesci’的那期讨论，那可能你还没跟上这个播客。

But of course, if all of this sounded unfamiliar, if you missed that conversation about the Pesci, you might not be following the podcast.

你可能会错过很多精彩的节目。

You might be missing great episodes.

所以，无论你在哪个平台听，记得点关注。

So, hit follow wherever you listen.

是的，各位。

Yeah, guys.

现在就赶紧点关注。

Hit that follow button right now.

我的意思是，这取决于具体情况，比如我们能多快放下这件事。

I mean, you know, so it depends on what happens here in terms of how quickly we're able to get over something.

对吧？

Right?

我们说的是感情破裂这种事吗？

Are we talking about like the end of a relationship?

你知道的。

You know?

这倒是个不错的后续

That's a good After

好多年吗？

years and years?

我们说的是那种小小的失望吗？

Are we talking about a small disappointment that happened?

也许就是没吃到冰淇淋。

Maybe we couldn't get ice cream.

本来晚饭后打算吃冰淇淋的，结果没吃到。

We expected to have ice cream after dinner and we couldn't have it.

我的意思是，我们当然希望你能更快放下这种事。

Mean, we'd like to hope you'd get over that more quickly.

对吧？

Right?

我们纠结一件事能多久，确实要看事情有多严重，或者当时的情况有多糟。

How long we dwell on something definitely depends on how serious the offense is or how serious the situation was.

是的

Yeah.

所以，我们第一个可以说的表达是‘get past it’，意思是摆脱这个问题。

So, again, the first phrase we could use is get past it, to move beyond that problem.

还有哪些其他的例子呢，奥布里？

What are some other examples here, Aubrey?

是的，一直纠结于那场争吵没什么用。

Yeah, dwelling on the argument won't help.

你得学会放下。

You need to get past it.

我觉得我们都曾对朋友说过这样的话，他们过了好久还对某件事生气。

I think we've all said this to friends who are still mad about something after a while.

这时候我们可能会劝他们：你得学会放下了。

And then the advice might be at some point you got to get past it.

是的

Yeah.

我觉得有些人比别人更容易把事情放在心上。

I mean, some people I think tend to hold onto things a bit more than others.

奥布里，你是那种放不下的人吗？还是其实还行？

Aubrey, are you someone that holds onto things or are you able Not too bad.

有时候我会。

Sometimes I will.

有时候过一阵子我还会为某件事不开心，但总的来说，我觉得我挺能放下的。

There'll be something that I'm upset about after a while, but for the most part, I let things go pretty well, I think.

我能把事情放下。

I can get past things.

你呢？

What about you?

对，差不多吧。

Yeah, pretty much.

根本没时间老惦记那些事，得往前看。

There's almost not enough time remember You things like have to move on.

谁有空管这事儿啊。

Ain't nobody got time for that.

没错。

That's right.

这其实是英语里一种挺有意思的说法，语法上其实不讲究。

That's kind of a fun expression in English that we use with poor grammar.

就是说，没工夫去纠结这些事。

It's like, don't have time to worry don't time.

我们没时间纠结。

We don't have time.

再举个例子。

Here's another example.

我知道那错误挺丢人的，但你得放下它，专心比赛。

I know the mistake was embarrassing, but you need to get past it and focus on the game.

对。

Yeah.

我的意思是，你是运动员，必须全神贯注。

I mean, you're an athlete, you have to be present.

网球就是那种需要完全集中精神的运动。

Tennis is one of those games that requires total mental presence.

这非常考验心态。

It's very mental.

没错。

Yes.

很多运动都是这样。

A lot of sports are that way.

我现在在教篮球，有时候女孩投丢球，或者在人前绊倒了，会觉得尴尬，心里就乱了，结果越打越差。

I'm coaching basketball right now, and this will happen if a girl misses a shot or trips and falls in front of people and they're embarrassed and they get in their heads and they start playing really terribly.

教练这时候可能会说：别纠结了，专心打球。

And a coach might say this, You've just got to get past it and focus on the game.

这就是‘别’

That's the Don't

别再想了。

forget about it.

没错。

For sure.

或者教练会说，你得赶紧放下这事。

Or the coach might say, well, would the coach say, You need to get over it.

这话听起来就有点重了。

That one's a little more harsh.

这话确实更严厉，对吧？

This is a little more harsh, right?

‘放下’的意思是摆脱失望、悲伤，或者克服某种障碍。

It means to get over, you recover from disappointment or sadness, some kind of obstacle.

但确实语气更重一些。

But it is a little more harsh.

它对情绪的体谅少了一点，对吧？

It's a little less understanding of the emotion, right?

比如，他们输掉比赛后，花了好一阵子才缓过来。

So, example, it took them a while to get over it after losing the game.

对吧？

Right?

或者我会说，

Or I'm going to have a

这次分手我很难走出来。

hard time getting over this breakup.

所以，像这样对别人说‘别放在心上’，其实挺伤人的。

So, those are ways like that to actually to say to someone, Get over it, is kind of mean.

你等于完全没体谅他们正在经历的困难。

You're sort of giving no understanding for them going through something that's difficult.

但当我们说自己‘得花点时间才能放下’的时候，就不一样了。

But these, where we're saying it about ourselves, like, Oh, it takes a while to get over.

那完全是另一种感觉。

That's different.

是的，正是这样。

Yeah, exactly.

谁在说这句话，用什么语气，什么情境下说的。

Who's delivering the message and with what tone of voice, what context.

接着说吧，对吧？

Moving on, right?

往前看，对吧？

Move on, right?

向前看。

To move on.

接下来，咱们聊聊‘向前看’这件事。

Moving on, let's talk about move on.

没错，就是这样。

There you go, right?

意思是情感上或心理上放下过去的事，专注于当下或未来。

So to emotionally or mentally leave a past event behind and focus on the present or future.

挺有意思的是，我们刚才聊这个的时候，一点情绪都没有。

So it is interesting how we just talk about this with no emotion involved.

咱们换个话题吧。

Like, let's move on to the next topic.

但其实我们也会在情感层面谈论这个。

But we also talk about it for emotional things.

比如项目失败后，团队决定放下过去，重新开始。

For example, after the project failed, the team decided to move on and start fresh.

她一开始没法原谅他，但后来还是放下了。

Or she couldn't forgive him at first, but eventually she moved on.

这两种情况其实都包含在内。

And then it's kind of both examples.

第一种是没什么感情色彩的，比如工作中，我们只是转向下一件事。

The first one is sort of unemotional, at work, we're moving to the next thing.

对。

Right.

而第二个‘放下’，意思是让情绪自然消散。

And the second one, to move on, is like to let the emotion of it go.

对。

Mhmm.

是的。

Yeah.

我挺喜欢那种词，既有字面意思，又有引申含义。

I like it when a word has a literal meaning and a figurative meaning in a way.

没错。

Yeah.

挺有意思的。

It's kind of fun.

接下来是‘释放’。

Let go, again, would be the next one.

意思是放下负面情绪、怨恨，或者摆脱那些拖你后腿的执念。

To release negative feelings, resentment, or attachment to something that's holding you back.

我是学佛的，我们经常谈到放下。

I mean, I study Buddhism and we talk about letting go a lot.

这在冥想和佛教修行里是个特别重要的主题。

It's a huge theme within meditation and Buddhist practice.

对吧？

Right?

确实如此。

Absolutely.

我们每个人都有一些需要放下的事。

We've all had things that we need to let go.

总觉得它们拖着我们后腿。

We feel it holding us back.

不管是怨恨，还是老在心里反复想的事。

If it's a resentment or something that we're dwelling on.

比如，他得放下对前老板的愤怒。

For example, he had to let go of his anger toward his former boss.

比如你们可能还在会议或活动中碰面。

Like maybe you're still seeing each other at conferences or at events.

要是心里还憋着气，就会影响你建立人脉，后果可能很严重。

Events, and if there's lingering angry feelings, that could keep you from networking connections that could be having dire consequences.

是的，没错。

Yeah, for sure.

有时候你真的得放下。

Or sometimes you need to let go.

只有放下了，才能重新往前走。

You just need to let go in order to move on again.

对。

Yeah.

没错。

Yeah.

我们常这么说：要想继续前进，就得先放下。

This is kind of a chunk we use to say, you just need to let go in order to move on.

对吧？

Right?

我们的意思是，你得把过去的事放下，不然就没法向前走。

We're sort of saying you need to leave something in the past or you won't be able to move forward.

或者我们可以把它抛在脑后。

Or we could put it behind us.

对吧？

Right?

把它抛在脑后。

Put it behind you.

这其实是为了别再想、别再纠结于那些事，对吧？

This is again to stop thinking about, stop dwelling on something, right?

没错。

Exactly.

该把过去的事放下了，专心面对未来。

Like it's time to put it behind you and focus on the future.

比如，你没拿到想要的工作，或者没被心仪的大学录取。

So, this could be maybe you don't get a job you want or you're not accepted to a university you want.

别总纠结在这事上，把它放下，去抓住下一个机会。

Instead of dwelling on that, put it behind you, move on to the next opportunity.

对。

Yeah.

奥布里，如果你遇到某些事怎么也走不出来，有什么办法能帮到你吗？

Aubrey, do you have any strategies to do this if there's something that you just can't seem to get past?

有没有什么具体的方法，能帮你顺利放下这些事？

Like any techniques of how you kind of do that to facilitate the process?

找人聊聊。

Talk it out.

对我而言，我必须把事情说出来。

For me, I have to talk it out.

不管是和有矛盾的人谈，还是找心理咨询师，光靠自己闷头想是没用的。

Whether it's with a person that I have some kind of resentment with, or if it's with a therapist, I cannot just like think it through in my own head.

如果我不想跟别人聊，觉得说了可能更糟，或者还没准备好跟那个人谈，那找一位心理健康专家倾诉是个很好的选择。

And if it's not something I want to talk out with another person, if I feel that might just make it worse or if I am not ready to talk to that person, then I think a mental health expert is a great person to talk it out with.

这方法可能不适合所有人，但对我来说，通常得先把事情说出来，才能真正放下。

And this might not be a solution for everyone, but I personally often need to talk something out before I can put it behind me.

是的，你是个爱表达的人，毕竟你是做播客的。

Yeah, you're a verbal I mean, you're a podcaster.

这很合理。

It makes sense,

我是个喜欢说出来的类型。

I'm a verbal person.

确实如此。

Very true.

老师，播客主持人。

Teacher, podcaster.

我们这种人就是靠说话来理清思路的。

We're verbal people.

我也是这样。

I'm similar.

我得把事情说出来才能理清楚。

I need to talk through stuff.

而且如果是分手的话，回想我谈恋爱那会儿，确实经历过几次分手。

And then maybe also for me if it's a breakup, I remember back in my dating days, you know, there were breakups.

对我来说，那其实是重新聚焦在自己的生活上。

For me, was like recentering on my own life.

所以先说出来，然后提醒自己，我的生活其实挺好的，有那么多值得珍惜的事。

So talking through it first, but then recentering on why my life is great and like all the great things going on.

也许会开始一个新的爱好，转移一下注意力，但更重要的是，把重心放回自己身上，别总想着对方，对吧？

Maybe starting a new hobby and a bit of a distraction, but like adding just re centering on what's going on on my side, not so much thinking about the person, right, that

分手后这样挺有意思的。

has It's broken up interesting.

这算是一种健康的恢复方式。

It's sort of like a healthy rebound.

而不是找另一个人来疗伤，没错。

Instead of rebounding with a different person Yes.

你是在用爱好或活动来替代，给自己找点事做。

You're creating this rebound of a hobby or activity, something to distract you.

这是一种很健康的情绪应对方式。

That's a healthy way to cope.

对。

Yeah.

当然。

For sure.

好了，休息完我们回来了。

All right, we are back from break.

来做个角色扮演吧，奥布里。

Let's do a role play, Aubrey.

我们俩现在是朋友，刚聊完你经历了一段艰难的

So here we are friends talking after you just had a difficult Here

我们开始吧。

we go.

刚经历了一段分手。

Just went through a breakup.

这段关系至少持续了二十年。

This has been at least twenty years.

天哪。

Geez.

我知道。

I know.

我知道。

I know.

那确实很难熬，对吧？

Those are tough days, right?

约会那段日子真是

Dating and We dating days were

别羡慕那些还在经历这些的人。

don't envy anyone out there who's still going through it.

想想那时候有多难熬。

Remember how rough that was.

确实如此。

For sure.

嘿，奥布里，分手后你感觉怎么样？

Hey, Aubrey, how have you been feeling since the breakup?

说实话，我到现在还是挺难过的。

Honestly, I'm still kind of upset.

我很难从这段感情里走出来。

I'm having a really hard time getting over it.

我懂。

I get it.

分手确实不容易。

Breakups are tough.

可能需要一点时间，但你一定能挺过去的。

It might take some time, but you'll be able to get past it.

我知道。

I know.

我真的很想放下，但就是很难摆脱那些怨气。

I really need to move on, but it's tough to let go of the resentment.

也许找点新爱好分散注意力，能帮你更快翻过这一页。

Maybe a new hobby to distract yourself would help you put it behind you.

这主意不错。

That's not a bad idea.

我一直想学弹吉他。

I've been wanting to learn to play the guitar.

现在就开始最好。

No time like the present.

真巧，我连我们的角色扮演都没看，但 basically

That's so funny, I didn't even read our role play, but basically

我知道，但你说得对。

I know, but you're right.

这确实很合理，对吧？

It just makes sense, right?

找个新事情做，把时间和心思都转移过去，确实是走出阴影的好办法，不然老闲着，只会越想越难受。

This is a great way to move past something, to have something else to occupy your time and your thoughts because otherwise if you're just sitting around, you're going to dwell on it.

没错，完全没错。

Exactly, exactly.

所以我之前问你，分手后你感觉怎么样？

So I asked you how you're feeling, how you've been feeling since the breakup.

你说实话，还是有点难过。

You said, honestly, I'm still kind of upset.

真的很难彻底放下。

I'm having a hard time getting over it.

对，就是放不下。

Right, getting over it.

是的。

Yep.

然后你说，分手确实很难，但你一定能挺过去。

And then you said, breakups are tough, but you'll be able to get past it.

所以，用这些话来鼓励别人，是一种特别好的沟通方式。

So this is a great connection skill to use these phrases to encourage.

你是在给对方希望。

You're giving someone hope.

就像你说，我知道你很难受，正在经历这段日子，但你一定能走出来。

Like, I know you're struggling, you're going through it, but you will be able to get past it.

对。

Yeah.

然后你说，我知道我确实该放下了，但就是很难释怀那些怨气。

And then you said, I know, I really need to move on, but it's tough to let go of the resentment.

没错。

Yes.

是的。

Yeah.

所以你这两点都做到了。

So you got both of those.

对吧？

Right?

得往前看。

Need to move on.

很难放下那些愤怒的情绪。

Having a hard time letting go of those angry feelings.

然后你说，也许培养个新爱好能帮你放下过去。

Then you said maybe a new hobby would help you put it behind you.

是的。

Yeah.

好好生活是好事。

It's good to life.

太棒了。

Love it.

真好。

So good.

对。

Yeah.

说真的，这很人性化。

Mean, this is very human.

我的意思是，这就是为什么这期节目叫‘连接’，各位。

I mean, that's why this is a connection episode, guys.

大家啊，在人生的某个阶段，都得放下一些事情。不管是经历了一场痛苦的分手，还是没拿到心仪的工作，或者各种各样的情况，奥布里。

Everyone is y'all, at some point in life has to get over something, whether it's a big breakup or whether it's maybe you didn't get the job you wanted or so many scenarios, Aubrey.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

Absolutely.

也可能是一种更深的悲伤，心痛，比如遭遇了悲剧，亲人离世。

And it could be a more like a sadness, a heartache, something tragic happens, the death of a loved one.

生活中有太多事情，最终你都需要慢慢疗愈。

Are so many things that you will eventually have to heal from.

但每个人走出伤痛、实现康复的方式都不尽相同。

However, each person does that very differently in order to get past it, heal from it, and move on.

是的。

Yeah.

所以像我开头在角色扮演里那样，主动关心朋友，这其实是一种很温暖的连接方式。

So bringing this up with a friend checking in like I did at the beginning of the role play is a really nice connection skill.

再配上这些表达方式。

And then bringing in this vocabulary.

奥布里，你推荐再听哪一集？

Aubrey, what's another episode to check out?

好的。

Yes.

如果你没听过的，赶紧去听一下《All Ears English》播客里的第2612期。

If you missed it, go check out 2six 12 right here on the All Ears English Podcast.

你要愿意的话，我也随时奉陪。

I'm up for it if you are.

怎么邀请朋友一起参加社交活动。

How to recruit your friends to join you at social events.

这个话题特别有意思，千万别错过。

That's a really fun one, so don't miss it.

是的。

Yeah.

内容很棒。

Good stuff.

Aubrey，我们下次再聊。

Aubrey, we'll see you next time.

祝你剩下的时间过得愉快。

You have a good rest of your day.

另外，大家别忘了给这个播客点个关注。

And, guys, don't forget to hit follow on the podcast.

太棒了。

Awesome.

下次见。

See you next time.

再见。

Bye.

再见。

Bye.

感谢收听《All Ears English》。

Thanks for listening to All Ears English.

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See you next time.