AEE 2627：你在英语学习中是否过于保守？

这是《All Ears English》播客的第2627期。

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你在说英语的时候，是不是总怕出错，不敢大胆开口？

Do you play it safe when it comes to your English?

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嗨，林赛。

Hey, Lindsay.

你最近怎么样？

How are you?

嗨。

Hey.

我今天状态很好，米歇尔。

Doing great today, Michelle.

你呢？

How are you?

丹佛这儿阳光明媚。

The sun's shining here in Denver.

你那边天气怎么样？

How's the weather where you are?

我们那儿刚经历了一场大暴雪。

I mean, we had a huge snowstorm.

外面冷得很。

It's cold out.

在清雪吗？

Digging out?

你们还在清理那场暴风雪的残局？

Are you digging out from that storm?

我们已经清完了。

We're out.

没我想象中那么严重，不过确实挺麻烦的。

It wasn't as bad as I think it could have been, but yeah.

我对这天气真没什么好感。

And I'm not impressed with the weather.

不过呢。

But yeah.

昨天我真带着孩子出去玩雪了，嗯。

Yesterday, I actually went out in the snow with my kids and yeah.

比如琳西，我们以前也聊过这个。

Like or Lindsey, I mean, we've talked about this sometimes before.

就是，我们算不算特别敢冒险的人？

Like, if we're big risk takers.

是啊。

Yeah.

你是个爱冒险的人吗？

Are you a risk taker?

比如在雪地里的时候？

Like, when you're, like, in the snow?

你会吗？

Do you?

我比较谨慎。

I'm careful.

我真的很小心。

I'm pretty careful.

我在生意上当然也会冒险，我觉得。

I mean, I'm I take risks in business, I guess.

但在生活中的身体安全方面，我毕竟是个滑雪者，这本身就有风险。

But in, like, physical aspects of life I mean, I'm a skier, so that's risky.

没错。

Right.

就是这样。

Exactly.

我要是出去玩，肯定不会做太疯狂的事。

If I go out, I'm not gonna do crazy stuff.

我又不是二十出头的年轻人。

Like, I'm not a 23 year old guy.

你懂的。

You know?

对。

Yeah.

那在雪地里到底有哪些风险呢？

But what kind of risks are we talking about in the snow?

比如，玩雪地天使？

Like, jumping into a snow angel?

或者不是。

Or No.

那可不是说，你知道的，没问题。

That's not to like, you know, okay.

如果你看到一溜结冰的楼梯。

If you see, like, an icy set of stairs.

哦。

Oh.

那你都会避开吗？

Or do you avoid them?

你一般会怎么处理？

Do you like, what do

你怎么做？

you do?

如果非得走上去，我就会走。

I well, if I have to go up them, I would take them.

我会特别慢，而且紧紧扶着扶手。

I just go really slow and hold the railing probably.

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

没错。

Yeah.

我的意思是，下雪天小心点总没错，各位。

I mean, it's good to play it safe in the snow, you know, guys.

避开冰面啊这类东西。

Avoid the ice and things like that.

对。

But Mhmm.

是的。

Yeah.

顺便说一句，还是要小心为上。

Play it safe, by the way.

今天我们要聊的就是这个表达：小心为上。

That is the expression that we are talking about today.

没错。

Yes.

小心为上到底是什么意思呢？

What does that mean to play it safe?

这词儿能有好多层意思。

Well, it can mean a lot of things.

所以今天这期节目会挺有意思的。

That's why today's episode is gonna be interesting.

不只是指身体上的安全。

It's not just about physically being safe.

对吧？

Right?

有时候是留出更多时间，以免迟到。

Sometimes it's about leaving extra time Yeah.

这样你就不会迟到了。

So that you're not late.

有时候是反复核对细节，避免出大错。

Sometimes it's about double checking details so you don't make a big mistake.

对吧？

Right?

是的

Yeah.

对

Yeah.

没错

Mhmm.

就意味着要

Just means to

做事的时候多加小心

do something do something while being careful.

对吧

Right?

别太冒险

To not be too risky.

没错

Yes.

你挺谨慎的。

You got cautious.

别太冒险。

Not too risky.

是的。

Yeah.

所以比如说，咱们稳妥点，早点走吧。

So for example, let's play it safe and leave a little early.

林赛，你平时会早点走吗？

Lindsey, do you tend to leave early?

对。

Yeah.

我一般都会早点走。

I usually leave on the earlier side.

我之前在看什么东西，或者可能是社交媒体上看到的。

Was I was I was watching something or some or maybe it was something I saw on social media.

有人在解释，说他们自己是个总是拖延的人，为什么会这样。

Someone was explaining, like, how they're they were saying they're a late person and how that happens.

他们说，每当有个瞬间，他们会想：现在该走了。

That they were saying that they once they'll have a moment when they're like, I should leave right now.

对吧？

Right?

该离开这个活动了。

I should leave this event starting.

该走了。

I should leave.

但他们总觉得时间不够用，舍不得走。

But they feel the sense of greed for their time.

比如正在看书，就想把这一章看完。

And like, maybe they're reading a book and they want to finish that chapter.

于是就压下那种该走的念头，告诉自己：再等一会儿，就看完这一章。

So they'll override the intuition and they'll say, oh, no, no, I just want to finish this chapter.

我值得拥有这段时间。

I deserve this.

我是真的值得拥有属于自己的时间。

Like, I I deserve my time.

所以他们总是拖到最后才走，结果就迟到了。

And so they end up leaving late and being late.

我一直很好奇，那些爱迟到的人，到底是怎么养成这个习惯的？

And so because I've always wondered, like, late people, how does it happen?

你懂我的意思吧？

You know what I mean?

这到底是怎么发生的呢？

Like, how does it actually happen?

我有些朋友总是迟到，在美国文化里，这确实挺让人头疼的。

I have friends who are late people and it's it can be frustrating in American culture.

是啊。

Yeah.

是的

Yeah.

所以啊，我觉得我以前说过，我爸爸特别早起。

So Well, I think I've talked about, you know, my dad is very much, oh, an early person.

是个早起的人。

Person.

然后

And then

我觉得是早起型的人。

I think Early person.

对。

Yes.

我弟弟就完全相反。

And my brother is the total opposite.

他是个特别爱迟到的人。

He's a mean person.

好的。

Okay.

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

嗯，他就是不太懂得把握时间，做事总是很随意。

Well, he he just he just he does not play it safe with the time.

比如，听说他们当时去佛罗里达看我爸妈，我爸本来打算开车送他们去机场的。

Like, even apparently they were visiting my my parents in Florida and my dad was gonna drive them to the airport to leave.

我爸说，他们之前定好要离开的时间，对，就是那个时间。

And my dad said it was the time that they said they wanted to leave and like Yeah.

结果我哥说，他就打算先去洗个澡。

My brother was like just gonna take a shower.

天哪。

Oh my gosh.

是的

Yeah.

你爸和你兄弟之间闹得挺僵的。

A bad clash between your dad and your brother.

对。

Yes.

没错。

Yeah.

还有一次，我兄弟当时在离我爸爸工作地点不远的地方实习。

And so then also once when my brother like was he had like an internship, I think near where my dad worked.

我爸爸每天都送他去。

And so my dad would take him every day.

那时候确实是这样。

Oh, And so that was yeah.

这都是我小时候的事了。

And so this is when I was growing up.

有一次我爸爸正要出门，我弟弟突然喊：‘我也去！’

And then one time my dad was just about to leave and then my brother was like, I'm coming.

我也去！

I'm coming.

他连衣服都没穿，就光着上身在车道上跑，手里还搭着件衣服。

And he like wasn't wearing a shirt, like running in the driveway, like with a shirt over his shoulder.

是的。

Yeah.

有些人就是这样的。

Some people just are that way.

但我总在想，他们心里到底怎么说服自己的？

It's really But I always try to figure out like how what is the justification in their head?

他们明明知道什么时候该走。

Because they must know when they should leave.

对吧？

Right?

是的

Yeah.

大脑里到底在发生什么？

What is happening in the brain?

你

You

知道吗？

know?

有时候，这根本就不是关于什么时候该走的问题。

Sometimes anyways it's not just about what time to leave.

这可能也跟计划有关。

This could also be about planning.

明白吗？

Know?

你打算什么时候开始筹备派对？

Oh, when are you going to start planning a party?

我要给我女儿策划生日派对，结果到现在还没开始准备，拖得太久了。

Like, I have to plan my daughter's birthday party and I'm really behind.

所以这还挺有意思的。

So it's just interesting.

还有什么别的办法可以更稳妥一点呢？

What's another way to play it safe maybe?

是的。

Yeah.

听上去你和我可能都倾向于早点出发，这样更保险。

It sounds like you and I are we both play it safe by leaving early maybe.

不过呢。

But yeah.

我也说不准。

So don't know.

你是不是可能你

Are you maybe you you

我算是个中间派。

I'm a I'm a middle.

我跟我爸不一样。

I'm not my dad.

是的。

Yeah.

好的。

Okay.

那这样的话，你倒是准时。

You're on time then in that case.

大概吧。

I guess.

我尽力了。

I try.

我们可以说，我为了稳妥，选了离父母家近的学校。

We could say I played it safe and went to a school near my parents' house.

我当时还没准备好离家生活。

I wasn't ready to live away from home.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

这其实也是一种保守的做法。

And that's another way of playing it safe.

比如在感情上、在面对独立的恐惧时，都选择稳妥一点。

Like, safe with your heart, with your with your fear of of, I don't know, independence maybe.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

Right.

一下子跑那么远，比如跨州搬家，可能有点太急了。

It might be too much too soon to just go across the country or something.

对。

Yeah.

我吃饭也总是挑安全的吃。

Or I tend to play it safe with my food choices.

我从小就是个挑食的孩子。

I grew up as a picky eater.

你身边有特别挑食的朋友或家人吗？

Do you have any friends or family members who are really picky eaters?

没几个。

Not too much.

我侄女可能算一个，不过她是被教成这样的。

Maybe my niece is, but she's been taught to be picky.

对吧？

Right?

我的意思是，这确实挺棘手的。

I mean, that's so that's tricky.

这完全是另一个话题了。

That's a whole other topic.

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

确实如此。

Really is.

不过呢。

But yeah.

我觉得孩子要是被允许的话，确实容易挑食。

I I think kids can be picky if if they're, I guess, if they're allowed to be.

对吧？

Right?

我不确定。

I don't know.

是的。

Yeah.

真的很难。

It's really hard.

挺难的。

It's hard.

我懂。

I know.

没错。

Yes.

你满怀好意去做的时候，发现真的很难。

You go in with all these good intentions and it's really hard.

但我记得大学时有个朋友，特别挑食。

But I remember a friend of mine in college, she was so picky.

我的意思是，我们总觉得孩子挑食，但这种习惯可能一直跟着你到成年。

I mean, even because we think of kids as being picky, but it can follow you into adulthood.

我记得她特别保守。

And I remember that she she really played it safe.

她就吃最简单的三明治，什么都不加，不放生菜，诸如此类的东西。

Like, didn't like I mean, she would just like get like plain sandwiches, like no condiments and no lettuce, you know, things like that.

挺有意思的。

Interesting.

是的。

Yeah.

挺有意思的。

Interesting.

是的。

Yeah.

最后一个例子，我希望她别总是这么保守。

And then the last example, I wish she wouldn't always play it so safe.

我觉得她要是能走出舒适区，一定能取得很大成就。

I think she could really succeed if she got out of her comfort zone.

作为人，我们都明白，冒险之后往往会有更好的结果。

So I think as human beings, we know that there's something good on the other side of risk.

只要不总想着求稳，另一边其实藏着好东西，可我们的本能总在拼命让我们保持安全。

There's something good on the other side if we don't play it safe, but our then our our lizard brain tries to keep us safe in all these ways.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yep.

没错。

Yep.

正是如此。

Exactly.

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对的。

Yes.

不过，琳达，你生活中有没有哪些地方，我是说，你提到过身体上和事业上的区别，那其他方面呢？

But, yeah, how do you are there parts of your life, Lindsay, where you I mean, yeah, where you talked about, like, physical versus in business.

你生活中还有没有其他时候，觉得自己特别保守，或者反而敢冒险？

But is there anything else in your life where you feel like you play it safe or you don't play it safe?

天哪。

Jeez.

这问题问得好，米歇尔。

That's a good question, Michelle.

我真不太知道该怎么回答。

I'm not really sure how to answer it.

不过，确实如此。

But Yeah.

是的。

Yeah.

我的意思是，可能年轻的时候，我更主动一些，比如会直接跟想认识的人要联系方式。

I mean well, maybe, you know, I've gotten a little like, when I was younger, maybe I was better at, you know, reaching out and, you know, asking like a potential friend, asking for their number.

嘿，改天一起出来玩吧。

Hey, let's hang out sometime.

对吧？

Right?

那时候我在这方面更随性一点。

A little more fast and loose with, you know, with that.

可能年纪大了，反而更害怕被拒绝了。

Maybe I've gotten a bit more of a fear of rejection as I've gotten older.

说起来，你可能会觉得正好相反。

That's You You would think it'd be the other way around.

是的。

Yeah.

也许吧。

Maybe.

我不确定。

I don't know.

你呢，米歇尔？

What about you, Michelle?

你怎么看？

What do you think?

你有

Have you

过吗

gotten Have

我觉得作为成年人，我反而没那么怕被拒绝了，不过这得看情况。

I think I'm less it's interesting.

我觉得作为成年人，我反而没那么怕被拒绝了，不过这得看情况。

I think I'm less afraid of rejection as an adult, but it it really depends.

但当你真的遇到尴尬的社交场合时，还是会觉得自己像个小孩子一样。

Then when you do find yourself in an awkward social situation, it's can still you can still feel like a little kid again.

对吧？

Right?

就是那种，天啊，真的会这样。

Like, or a It's like, oh my god.

我都这么大了，可还是有些场合让我忍不住想：他们喜欢我吗？

I'm I'm a grown woman, and there are still social situations where I'm like, do these people like me?

或者我也不确定，你知道的。

Or I don't you know?

没错。

Right.

我们每个人都会遇到这种情况。

We all face that for sure.

这跟是不是孩子没关系。

It's not just being a kid.

这不过是做人的常态罢了。

It's it's being a human being.

对吧？

Right?

谁都希望被人喜欢，

And wanting to be liked for

当然了。

sure.

没错。

Exactly.

是的。

Yeah.

没错。

Exactly.

是的。

Yeah.

好的。

Okay.

我们还可以有其他说法。

So there are other things we might say.

可以说，为了稳妥起见。

We might say be on the safe side.

对。

Mhmm.

对吧？

Right?

比如，为了稳妥起见，你最好提前预约，别直接上门。

Like, just to be on the safe side, you should make an appointment rather than go as a walk in.

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yes.

是的。

Yeah.

其实上周我带孩子去水族馆，我只给我儿子预约了，因为我女儿和我都是会员。

That hap actually, I took my kids to the aquarium last week and I made a reservation only for my son because my daughter and I are members.

我之前没意识到。

I didn't realize.

他们问我：‘您预约了吗？’

And they said, oh, did you make a reservation?

今天人不多，但其他日子为了稳妥起见，最好还是提前预约。

Well, we're not busy today, but other days, just to be on the safe side, you should make sure you have a Yes.

不，这样挺好。

No, that's good.

这信息很有用。

That's good context right there.

这很合理，毕竟万一白跑一趟，时间就浪费了。

And that makes sense because the risk is that you've wasted this time.

你孩子一听说要去哪儿，总是特别兴奋，对吧？

Your kids get all excited about going somewhere, right?

结果你到了那儿，却进不去，搞不好还得应付一两个情绪爆发的孩子。

And then you show up and you can't go in, and maybe you have a temper tantrum on your hand or two.

不会的。

No.

根本不会。

No.

还不止这样。

Not only that.

是的。

Yeah.

在生意上，我们通常会采取更谨慎的做法。

And then in business, we might take a more conservative approach.

所以这次，为了稳妥起见，我们也该采取谨慎一点的策略。

So to take a conservative approach, we should consider taking a conservative approach this time.

所以在生意上，你可能以前犯过错，但这次你吸取了教训。

So maybe in business, you've made some mistakes, and this time you've learned.

其中一部分就是变得更聪明了。

Part of it is just getting smarter.

对吧？

Right?

多做一些有把握的风险。

Making more calculated risks.

是的。

Yes.

没错。

Exactly.

完全对。

Exactly.

所以还得保持谨慎。

So and then there's just be cautious.

对吧？

Right?

网上大额消费时，我们得小心点。

We need to be cautious when making big purchases online.

是的。

Yes.

当然了。

For sure.

我喜欢这句话和这个想法，是因为它在生活的很多方面都适用。

So there's so many what I like about this phrase and this idea is that there's so many places in life it applies to.

对吧？

Right?

没错，就是这样。

Yeah, exactly.

你可能在生活的某个方面很谨慎，但在其他方面却完全不一样。

And you might play it safe in one area of your life and the other and in others, you're totally different.

所以啊，其实并不是

So Yeah, it's isn't

你觉得奇怪吗？生活中有些方面我们特别谨慎，有些方面却完全不在乎。

that weird how like in certain aspects of life, we're really careful, and others were not at all.

这确实挺奇怪的。

It's strange.

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

确实如此。

It definitely is.

没错。

Yeah.

我其实想好好想想自己的生活，看看哪些地方我比较保守，哪些地方我又很冒险。

I actually, I feel like I want to think about my own life more and think about where I play it safe and where I don't.

挺有意思的一个反思方式。

Kind of an interesting exercise.

对。

Yeah.

听众听完今天的节目，也可以这么做。

And that's what our listeners can do after they listen today.

想想自己的生活，还有你对风险的接受程度。

Think about your life and your risk tolerance.

对吧？

Right?

你生活中哪些方面变得更大胆了？

What is your has that gotten, like, bigger?

是更敢冒险了，还是反而更保守了？

Like, have you increased your risk tolerance or have you decreased it?

你明白我的意思吧？

You know?

你年纪越大，是不是变得越来越谨慎了？

Have you become more cautious as you've gotten older?

这个问题挺有意思的。

Interesting question.

确实很有意思。

Very interesting.

好，行。

Alright.

我们来做个角色扮演吧。

Let's do a role play.

咱们现在是朋友，正聊着一起去吃晚饭的事。

So here we are friends talking about going to dinner.

好的。

Okay.

明白了。

Okay.