AEE：感到压力大？4种用英语表达压力的方法

这里是All Ears English播客。

This is the All Ears English Podcast.

感到压力大吗？

Feeling stressed?

用英语表达压力的四种方式。

Four ways to express it in English.

欢迎收听All Ears English播客，下载量已超过两亿次。

Welcome to the All Ears English Podcast downloaded more than 200,000,000 times.

你是否觉得英语学习停滞不前？

Are you feeling stuck with your English?

我们将向你展示如何变得无所畏惧、流利自如，专注于交流而非完美。你的美国主持人奥布里·卡特，雅思专家，以及林赛·麦克马洪，英语冒险家，从美国亚利桑那州和科罗拉多州为你带来节目。

We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, not perfection with your American host, Aubrey Carter, the IELTS whiz, and Lindsay McMahon, the English adventurer, coming to you from Arizona and Colorado, USA.

当一切都不顺利时，你实际上可能拥有一个绝佳的交流机会。

When everything is going wrong, you might actually have an amazing opportunity for connection.

今天，我们将分享四个短语，完美表达“诸事不顺”的意思。

Today, we'll share four phrases that are perfect to share that nothing is going right.

你有没有听过母语者说话，然后想：单词我都认识，但还是有点懵。

Have you ever listened to native speakers and thought, I understand the words, but I still feel slightly lost.

那是因为真实的英语对话不仅仅是词汇。

That's because real English conversations include more than vocabulary.

还有语速、连读、文化背景和口语表达。

There's speed, there's connected speech, there are cultural references and casual phrases.

你的大脑得实时处理所有这些。

Your brain has to process all of this in real time.

如果对话有时让你觉得应付不过来，那可能只是说明你该进入下一阶段的训练了。

If conversations sometimes feel overwhelming, it may simply mean you're ready for the next level of training.

来做个快速免费的流利度测试，看看你的水平到底如何。

Find out your exact level with our quick free fluency quiz.

访问 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

Go to allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

就是 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

That's allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

你好，Lindsay。

Hello, Lindsay.

你好吗？

How are you?

挺好的。

Good.

我很好，Aubrey。

I'm doing great, Aubrey.

今天我想问你一个简单的问题。

I have a quick question for you today.

准备好了吗？

You ready?

是的。

Yeah.

说来听听。

Let's hear it.

那你一般是不是只和朋友聊些开心的事？

So do you only connect generally with friends about positive things?

当然不是。

Definitely not right.

我觉得和朋友关系变好，很多时候是因为我们聊起彼此经历过的困难，或者某天过得很糟糕的时候。

Some of the best ways that I bond with someone is about the difficult times we both had or if a day is going terribly.

我就想分享这些。

I want to share that.

没错。

Exactly.

我也是。

I mean, me too.

我也一样。

I'm the same way.

所以今天我们要分享一期商务英语播客的节目，那期我们教大家怎么表达“一切都不顺”这个意思，对吧？

So today we're sharing an episode from our Business English Podcast, where we taught how to express that everything is simply going wrong, right?

所以这一集主要讲的是工作中出问题的情况，但这些表达我们在日常生活中也都会用到。

So this was focused on things going wrong at work, but we use all of these phrases in our daily lives as well.

所以不管我们是为了工作还是日常生活学英语，这一集对我们的听众来说都会非常有用。

So if we're learning English for work or for daily life, this episode will be super useful for our listeners.

没错。

Exactly.

你永远不知道事情什么时候会变得不顺利，对吧？

You never know when things are going to go poorly, right?

可能是在工作中，也可能是在和家人或朋友相处的时候。

It might be at work, maybe with family or friends.

而且这也是一个很好的方式，来展现自己的脆弱，拉近彼此的关系。

And this is a great way to show vulnerability and build connection.

所以如果你错过了那一集，你可能没在关注我们的另一个播客。

So if you missed that episode, you might not be following this, our other podcast.

所以现在就花点时间，打开搜索栏，输入“All Ears English”的“商务英语播客”。

So take a second right now, open your search bar and type in the Business English Podcast by All Ears English.

你会看到我们标志性的亮黄色方块，然后点击关注，这样就不会错过这些精彩的节目了。

You'll see our signature bright yellow square and hit follow so you don't miss these great episodes.

对。

Yes.

奥布里，在《商务英语》这个播客里，我们每周更新三期新节目。

Aubrey, over there on Business English, we do three new episodes a week.

出镜的有我们三个人：米歇尔、奥布里和琳赛。

It's all three of us, Michelle, Aubrey, and Lindsay.

你们最喜欢的三位联合主持人也在那档商务英语节目里。

All three of your favorite co hosts are also over there on Business English.

快来加入我们，获取如何在英语职场中建立人际关系的实用建议吧。

So come join us and get tips on how to build relationships in English at work.

没错。

Exactly.

今天我们还特别兴奋能在这里和大家分享其中一集的内容。

And we're excited to share one of those episodes with you here today.

那我们就来听听这期节目吧。

So let's hear the episode.

对。

Yes.

嘿，Michelle，你好吗？

Hey Michelle, how are you?

嗨，Aubrey，我挺好的，我挺好的。

Hi Aubrey, I'm good, I'm good.

哦天哪，今天早上真的太糟糕了。

Oh my gosh, just had a really rough morning today.

要让大家出门真的特别费劲。

It was really hard getting everyone out the door.

你有没有遇到过特别糟糕的早晨？

Have you ever just had a really bad morning?

有啊。

Yes.

前几天，我想我在 All Ears English 播客里分享过这件事。

The other day, I think I shared about this on the All Ears English Podcast.

如果之前在这儿提过就简单说下吧。我儿子去学校后，一到那儿马上就回来了。

Be brief in case I shared it here, but my son had gone to school and when he got there he immediately came back.

你还记得这事吗？我当时挺纳闷他怎么没打电话，后来才知道学校里老师那边出了点状况，搞得一切都很乱。

And then you remember this and I was confused why he didn't call and turned out there was a whole thing at school with a teacher and it really threw things off.

我得送他去学校，然后还得去见校长，本来我还得接另一个女儿放学，结果各种事撞在一起。最后更是雪上加霜，我忘了时区刚变过来，毕竟我们刚从山地时间改成太平洋时间没多久。

I needed to get him to school and then I had to meet with the principal and I was supposed to be picking up my other daughter and I had to meet like everything and then to cap it all off, I forgot about the time change because it wasn't that long ago that we switched from mountain to Pacific.

所以我完全错过了一场会议，因为我把时间搞错了一个小时。

So I totally missed a meeting because I was off by an hour.

那真是乱成一团糟。

So that was a hot mess.

那天过得真不怎么样。

That was not my best day.

哦，天哪。

Oh no.

是的。

Yeah.

确实，那真是够糟的。

That's yeah, that's rough.

你们注意到我说“to cap it all off”了吧。

You guys notice I said to cap it all off.

不错。

Nice.

另一个问题，就像蛋糕上的樱桃、糖霜一样，是压轴的那一下。

Another problem, sort of like the cherry on the top, the frosting on the cake to cap it all off.

对。

Yeah.

我因为搞错了时差，错过了那个会议。

I missed this meeting because I messed up the time difference.

嗯哼。

Uh-huh.

好的。

Alright.

今天我们来回答一位听众的问题。

So today we are answering a listener question.

这位听众没有留下名字，但我想读一下这个问题，并感谢这位听众的提问。

Now this listener didn't provide their name, but I wanna read the question and thank that listener for asking it.

信上说：你好，All Ears English团队。

It says, hello, All Ears English team.

我最近读东西时遇到了“to cap it all off”这个短语。

I came across the phrase to cap it all off.

实际上，是“to cap it all”这个说法。

It says actually to cap it all while reading recently.

你能解释一下它的用法吗？还有没有类似的表达？

Can you explain its usage, and are there any similar expressions?

非常感谢。

Thank you very much.

非常感谢。

Thank you so much.

问得真好。

Great question.

对，正如刚才提到的，这位听众提到了“to cap it all”。

And, yeah, as mentioned, so this listener wrote to cap it all.

完整的说法是“to cap it all off”。

The full phrase is to cap it all off.

就像这样。

Like Mhmm.

比如，我的闹钟没响，然后我又错过了公交车，最后连包都忘带了。

For example, my alarm didn't go off, then I missed the bus, and to cap it all off, I forgot my bag.

没错。

Exactly.

它就像是这一连串倒霉事里的最后一件。我们不会用这个词来表达正面的意思。

It's sort of like the final thing in a string of terrible We don't use this positively.

我们不会说，比如，我升职了，然后，而且，这真是锦上添花。

We don't say like, I got a promotion and that and to cap it.

我们刚才说什么来着？

What did we do?

最棒的是，我中了彩票。

To cap it all off, I won the lottery.

米歇尔，你会这样正面地使用它吗？

Would you say it positively like that, Michelle?

有意思。

Interesting.

我想你也可以这么用。

I guess you could.

我觉得它确实更多带有一种，嗯，有点压力大的意味，但我想它也可以用于

Think it does have more of a, like, kinda stressed out connotation to it, but I think it could be as

正面的情况。

in a positive way.

它更多时候是用于负面的，但对我来说那也不算太奇怪。

It is more often used negatively, but that didn't feel that off to me.

我觉得我们可以说，最后再加上一件很棒的事情发生了。

I feel I feel like we could say to cap it all off, this other amazing thing happened.

这在职场中很适用，因为它能增添个性，又不会显得不专业。

This is great for work situations because it adds personality without sounding unprofessional.

这是一种列举比如坏事的方式，但听起来不会那么抱怨或消极。

It's a way of listing bad things for example that happen but it doesn't sound so whiny or negative.

对吧？

Right?

它挺俏皮的。

It's playful.

很有趣。

It's fun.

对。

Right.

对。

Right.

所以今天我们要解释它的确切含义、使用时机，并且会提供一些类似的短语。

So today we are going to explain the exact meaning, when to use it, and we will provide some similar phrases.

所以各位，如果你们还没有关注的话，请记得在收听商务英语播客的地方点击关注按钮，这样就不会错过我们的任何内容。

So guys, make sure that if you haven't already, please hit the follow button wherever you're listening to the Business English Podcast so you never miss anything from us.

是的。

Yeah.

所以，to cap it all off，这个短语的意思是，在一系列糟糕事件中引入最后一个问题，就好像如果一切还不够糟，这里还有一件事让一切变得更糟。那么，米歇尔，我们在工作中怎么使用它呢？

So to cap it all off, this means this is a way to introduce the final problem in a series of bad events as if, like if everything wasn't bad enough, here's one more thing that made everything So how do we use it at work, Michelle?

我经常用这个。

I use this a lot.

我喜欢这个短语。

I like this phrase.

是的，我也喜欢。

Yeah, I like it too.

所以这个短语很适合用来跟同事描述压力很大的一天。

So it's really good for explaining a stressful day to a coworker.

比如你可以说，系统一直崩溃。

So you might say something like, the system kept crashing.

我访问不了我的文件。

I couldn't access my files.

最糟糕的是，就在我开会前，网络断了。

And to cap it all off, the internet went down right before my meeting.

没错。

Exactly.

或者用来跟同事讲一个故事。

Or to tell a story to a coworker.

我的航班延误了。

My flight was delayed.

酒店弄丢了我的预订，最惨的是，我的行李第二天才到。

The hotel lost my reservation and to cap it all off, my luggage didn't arrive until the next day.

这样讲就很有趣，对吧？

It just makes it fun, right?

给故事增添了一些戏剧性。

It adds kind of drama to the story.

对。

Right.

对。

Right.

确实。

It does.

或者当你想解释一个令人沮丧的工作情况时，这个表达也很好用。

Or it's really good when you wanna explain a frustrating work situation.

报告延迟了，数字有误，最糟糕的是，客户在最后一刻要求修改。

So the report was delayed, the numbers were incorrect, and to cap it all off, the client requested last minute changes.

没错。

Exactly.

所以大概就是先说一个问题，再说一个，最后再来个‘雪上加霜’的终极问题。

So it sort of goes problem, problem and to cap it all off final problem.

而且这个最终的问题不一定非得比其他所有问题都严重。

And that final problem doesn't have to necessarily be worse than everything else.

这些情况也不一定非要按顺序来。

These aren't necessarily right.

其实就是三个问题，我们只要说一句‘结果更糟的是……’，然后引出那个额外的倒霉事就行。

It's kind of just three problems We just say to cap it all off this other bad thing happened.

对，但这些事是叠加在一起的，所以情况变得越来越糟。

Yeah but it's like all compounding on one another so it's like getting worse and worse and worse.

你可以说餐厅人手不足，外卖也没送到，最后还客满座无虚席。

You might say we were short staffed at the restaurant, the food deliveries didn't arrive, and to cap it all off, we were fully booked.

比如一个在餐厅工作的人，遇到这些倒霉事，而且你把这些话按任何顺序说都可以。

So this is someone working in a restaurant and they're like, all these bad things happen and you could say these in any order.

没错，完全正确。

Right, right, right, exactly.

所以你也可以在对方已经知道你其他问题的时候，用这个句式开头。

So you can also start the sentence when some when the other person already knows about your other problems.

那我们来做个小小的角色扮演吧。

So let's do a mini role play here.

奥布里，你先开始怎么样？

You wanna start us off, Aubrey?

好的。

Yes.

那个客户比我们想象中还要难搞。

That client is harder to work with than we imagined.

我知道。

I know.

而且最糟糕的是，他们还在要求打折。

And to cap it all off, they're asking for a discounted rate.

这还挺有意思的。

So that's interesting.

对。

Yeah.

我们是在分享这个知识。

We we are sharing this knowledge.

我们看到了，你知道，我们在评论它，然后我就用它来说，还有这个。

We're seeing you know, we're commenting on it, and then I'm just using it to say, and also this.

没错。

Exactly.

是的。

Yep.

是的。

Yep.

我们在工作中经常这样用，就是为了分享。

We would often use it this way at work just to kind of share.

这样不会显得过于负面和挑剔。

It's not so overly negative and critical.

就是那种感觉，顺便提一下这个。

It's just kind of like, and also this.

对吧？

Right?

对。

Right.

不过确实，跟同事聊天或者参加非正式会议时可以用这句话，但在工作邮件或正式汇报里就不太会这么说了。

But, yeah, it's appropriate to use this phrase in conversations with worker, coworkers, or casual meetings, but I wouldn't say you're gonna be using it that much like in work emails or professional presentations.

我同意。

I agree.

有

For a

几个原因。

couple of reasons.

我们之前聊过，工作邮件要尽量简洁。

We've talked about before how work emails, we wanna be concise.

我们不会用这种习语或表达，因为它们的字数比较多，而我们写邮件时尽量用最少的字。

We're not using idiomatic language and expressions like this that have more words because we're trying to use as little, as few words as possible in an email.

所以我不会在邮件里写这个。

So I wouldn't write this in an email.

至于专业演示，那要看情况，对吧？

And then professional presentations, it depends, right?

可能会显得有点随意，但如果你在演示中从痛点开始，比如你说客户正在经历这个痛点、那个痛点，最后再加上这个痛点，那在演示中可能非常合适。

It might feel a little bit casual but if you in your presentation, if you are starting with pain points, you're saying like your clients are experiencing this pain point, this point, and to cap it all off, this other pain point, that actually might be perfect in a presentation.

所以真的取决于你怎么用。

So it really depends on how you're using it.

是的。

Yes.

好了，我们来聊聊一些类似的短语吧，Michelle。

Alright, let's talk about some similar phrases, Michelle.

首先，to top it all off。

First of all, to top it all off.

所以，意思差不多，只是把 cap 换成了 top。

So, so similar, we're just replacing cap with top.

不过这个说法更常用。

And this is more common though.

我觉得我说 to top it all off 的次数比说 cap it all off 要多。

I think I say to top it all off more often than cap it

all off。

all off.

你呢？

What about you?

差不多吧。

About the same.

各占一半。

Fifty fifty.

我觉得这在西方更常见一些。

More common in the West I think.

我住在美国西部，我确实更常听到和用到这个说法。

I definitely hear this and say this more where I live in the Western USA.

是的。

Yeah.

这让我想起，我们好像很久以前做过一期《All Ears English》节目，讲的是“to add insult to injury”。

This reminds me of, I think we did an episode of All Ears English way back like to add insult to injury.

我的意思是，那是很久很久以前的事了，如果你们不想去找那期节目的话。

I mean, way, way back if you guys don't wanna search for that one.

不过，是的。

But yeah.

所以，“to top it all off”举个例子，比如系统崩溃了，我们上不了网。

So to top it all off so for example, the system crashed and we couldn't get online.

更糟糕的是，我们本来还要直播发布新产品。

And to top it all off, we were supposed to be live streaming a new product launch.

明白。

Mhmm.

或者我们错过了截止日期，客户不高兴了，更糟的是，我们还得重做整个项目。

Or we missed the deadline, the client wasn't happy, and to top it all off, we had to redo the entire project.

对。

Yeah.

而且你可以说，我确实喜欢这个短语，更糟的是，我们还得重做整个项目。

And you could say, I do love that phrase, and to add insult to injury, we had to redo the entire project.

那用在这里就非常合适。

That would be a perfect use for that.

希望你们能回去找到那一集。

Hopefully, you guys can go back and find that one.

有趣的习语，绝对。

Fun idiomatic Absolutely.

很好的说法。

Way to say

或者第二个是“在这一切之上”。

Or the second one is on top of everything else.

所以这又给原本就棘手的情况添了个新问题。

So and this adds another problem to an already difficult situation.

比如，我们已经迟到了，结果雪上加霜的是，交通还特别糟糕。

So for example, we're already running late and on top of everything else, there's terrible traffic.

对。

Yes.

或者供应商本来就难打交道，结果更糟的是，他们还涨价了。

Or the supplier is being difficult to work with and on top of everything else, they're increasing their prices.

对。

Yeah.

所以这太棒了。

So this is great.

就像你刚才说的，这是叠加效应，对吧？

It just like you were saying, it's compounding, right?

我们感受到了第一件坏事带来的压力。单看那件事其实还没那么糟，但当我们把这些其他问题都加上去之后，情况就更糟糕了。

We're feeling the weight of the first thing wouldn't have been so bad by itself, but then when we're adding these others on top of everything else, this is even worse.

很多英语学习者都注重语法。

Many English learners focus on grammar.

他们希望自己的句子是正确的，但流利不仅仅意味着正确。

They want their sentences to be correct, but fluency isn't just about being correct.

流利还意味着听起来自然，选对表达方式，不用在脑子里逐句翻译就能快速回应。

It's about sounding natural, choosing the right phrase, responding quickly without translating every thought in your head.

这就是为什么有些人语法规则懂得很多，但在对话中仍然感到不自在。

That's why someone can know a lot of grammar rules and still feel uncomfortable in conversations.

真正的流利来自于理解语言模式、语调和自然的表达方式。

Real fluency comes from understanding patterns, tone, and natural expressions.

我们免费的“两分钟流利度测试”能帮你了解自己的水平，以及哪些技能能让你进步。

Our free two minute fluency quiz helps you discover your level and what skills will move you forward.

现在就访问 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore 参加测试吧。

Go to allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore to take the quiz right now.

网址是 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

That's allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

对。

Mhmm.

然后第三个，好像这还不够似的。

And then the third one, as if that weren't enough.

这很有意思，因为这是虚拟语气。

And this is interesting because this is the subjunctive mood.

所以你可能会听到美国人用不正确的语法，他们会说“对”。

So you might hear American English speakers use incorrect grammar actually and say Right.

如果这还不够的话

And if that wasn't enough

还不够。

Wasn't enough.

是的。

Yep.

这不是你需要纠正的，但你会听到，因为虚拟语气是一个非常常见的错误，尤其是在美式英语中，实际上英式英语也一样。

Not something you'd ever wanna correct, but you will hear it because the subjunctive mood is a very common error in especially American English, also British English actually.

但这意味着，好像之前的麻烦还不够似的，又来了一个让情况更糟的。

But what this means is as if as if the previous problems weren't enough, here's another one that made it even worse.

对。

Yeah.

所以这可以，你知道，稍微带点戏剧性。

So this can be, you know and this is a little bit more dramatic.

它经常被用在讲故事里。

It's used really a lot for storytelling.

比较随意。

It is casual.

然后，对，你可以只跟那些你相处舒服的同事进行日常闲聊。

And then, yeah, you can you just stick to casual conversations with coworkers you're comfortable with.

没错。

Exactly.

这特别适合这种情况。

That's perfect for this.

对。

Yeah.

再说一遍，别在邮件里用。

Again, don't use it in emails.

太啰嗦了。

It's too wordy.

通常你发邮件是想把意思说清楚，对吧？

You want to get the point across in an email usually, right?

但在聊天的时候，比如在欢乐时光、休息室，不是休息室的欢乐时光，而是吃午饭的时候，那种比较随意的场合。

But conversation at the in happy hour break rooms, not break rooms at happy hour and like lunch when you're meeting for lunch, somewhat like a casual situation.

这正好能给故事添点戏剧性。

This is perfect to add a little bit of drama to your stories.

所有这些短语都能增加趣味性和参与感，让你讲故事更生动。

All of these phrases add interest and engagement and make you a better story teller.

没错。

Right.

对，没错。

Yeah, exactly.

我很喜欢这个。

I love that.

那我们来看看这些例子吧？

So should we read these examples?

好，这里有个例子。

Yeah, here's an example.

我们连续开了三个会，这还不够，还得在一天结束前准备好演示文稿。

We had three back to back meetings and as if that weren't enough, we had to prepare a deck by the end of the day.

哦。

Oh.

或者我们整个星期都在跟供应商扯皮，这还不够，他们突然又改了交货日期。

Or we had issues with the supplier all week and if that weren't enough, they suddenly changed the delivery date.

哎呀。

Uh-oh.

对，就是这样。

Yeah, that's exactly right.

本来就已经够糟了，现在又来了别的事。

It's bad enough without this and now something else.

好像这还不够似的，或者如果这还不够糟，然后又有别的事。

As if that weren't enough or if that weren't bad enough then this other thing.

好了，Michelle，我们来做个角色扮演，用一下这些表达。

All right, Michelle, let's do a role play and use a few of these here.

我们是同事，也是工作上的朋友，所以彼此很熟。

We are coworkers but also work friends, so we know each other pretty well.

我们正在工作日快结束的时候进行一场随意的对话。

And we're having a casual conversation toward the end of the workday.

我先开始。

I'll start us out.

好的。

Okay.

嘿，今天过得怎么样？

Hey, how's your day going?

说实话，不太好。

Honestly, not great.

我感觉不太舒服，而且今天会议一个接一个，排得满满的。

I'm not feeling a 100% and my day was packed with back to back meetings.

哦，天哪。

Oh, no.

听到这个我很抱歉。

I'm sorry to hear that.

对。

Yeah.

我知道。

I know.

更糟糕的是，我都没时间准备跟客户的电话会议了。

And to cap it all off, I didn't have time to prepare for the client call.

哦，那压力也太大了。

Oh, that is super stressful.

是啊。

Yeah.

而且客户还要求了一堆改动，所以今晚我得加班了。

And the client asked for a bunch of changes, so I'll be working late tonight.

天哪。

Oh my gosh.

今天可真够呛。

That is a tough day.

而且这还不够，我们明天一早还要出差。

And as if that weren't enough, we're also leaving for the business trip in the morning.

哦，对。

Oh, that's right.

天哪。

Oh gosh.

这事儿之后，你真得去度个假了。

You're gonna need a vacation after this.

哇，听起来压力确实很大。

Wow, that does sound like a lot of stress.

听起来确实挺多的，但这种情况确实会发生。

It does sound like a lot right, but this does happen.

你会和同事像我们这样聊天的。

You'll have conversations like with us with coworkers.

这是一个很好的建立联系的时刻，能陪在对方身边，让他们觉得舒服，愿意分享，然后还有这个，还有那个，对吧？

What a great connection moment to use to be able to be there for that person and they I am making you feel comfortable sharing and then also this and also this right?

有时候你需要那样的人。

Sometimes you need that person.

你需要能稍微发泄一下。

You need to be able to vent a little bit.

发泄一下。

To vent.

天哪。

Oh my gosh.

当然，我们都需要这样。

Of course, we all need that.

我们来看看这个。

Let's go through this.

你首先说，而且最糟糕的是，我没有时间准备客户电话。

You first said, and to cap it all off, I didn't have time to prepare for the client call.

所以你已经分享了，你有这些连续的会议，事情进展得很糟糕。

So you're already sharing, you've got these back to back meetings, things are going terribly.

最糟糕的是，还有这件事，我没有时间准备电话。

To cap it all off, this other thing, I didn't have time to prepare for the call.

我有点喜欢，注意我回应的方式。

And I kind of love, pay attention to the way I responded as well.

如果你只是说‘哦，太糟糕了’，可能会显得太唐突。

You can be too abrupt if you're just like, Oh, too bad.

哎呀，这压力真大。

Oh, that's stressful.

确实挺需要的。

Kind of need.

稍微多给点空间吧。

You get a little more.

毕竟是人嘛。

Be a human.

要真诚，让他们感觉到你在认真听，并且能理解他们的感受。

Be a real And sure they know that you're listening and you have empathy, sympathy and empathy.

对。

Yeah.

是的。

Yeah.

没错。

Exactly.

然后是的。

And then yeah.

就像你刚才做的，你说：天哪，真是艰难的一天。

So like you did here, you said, gosh, that is a tough day.

然后我说：雪上加霜的是，我们明天一早还要出差。

And then I said, and as if that weren't enough, excuse me, we're also leaving for the business trip in the morning.

对。

Yes.

还有，你可能会听到美国人说‘as if that wasn't enough’（这还不够呢）。

And remember, you may hear an American English speaker say as if that wasn't enough.

这只是虚拟语气的一个小错误。

That is just a minor error with subjunctive mood.

在美国以及很多英语国家，这种情况非常普遍。

That's very common in The States and in a lot of English speaking countries.

他们不会去纠正别人。

Wouldn't correct someone.

我觉得是这样，而且很多这么说的人甚至都没意识到自己犯了语法错误，或者他们可能意识到了，但故意这么说，因为他们住的地方大家都这么说。

I think that would be and a lot of people who say it don't even realize they're making a grammar error or they might realize it and they're doing it on purpose because everyone else where they live does it.

所以别担心这个。

So just don't worry about it.

如果你听到虚拟语气的错误，但正确的语法是：好像这还不够似的，我们明天早上还要出差。

If you hear an error with subjunctive, but the correct grammar is this, as if that weren't enough, we're also leaving for this business trip in the morning.

对，对。

Right, right.

没错。

Exactly.

天哪，我希望这个人能歇口气。

Oh man, I hope this person gets a break.

真的。

Seriously.

我也是。

Me too.

太棒了。

Awesome.

大家一定要去看看第596集，《各有所好：如何在工作中表达不同意见》。

You guys, be sure to check out episode five ninety six, To Each Their Own, How to Disagree at Work.

里面有很多好用的表达。

Great phrases in that.

千万别错过。

You don't wanna miss it.

往上翻翻，去看看吧。

Scroll up and check it out.

米歇尔，这里有一个很好的建立联系的技巧，就是当别人跟你分享这些糟糕的事情时，你能成为那个倾听的人，而且最糟糕的是，这正是建立联系的地方。

And what a great connection skill here, Michelle, to be that person for someone else if they're sharing this with you, all these terrible things that happened and to top it all off, that's where the connection is.

让别人能舒服地跟你倾诉，给他们一些同情和同理心。

Making someone feel comfortable venting to you like that and giving them some sympathy and some empathy.

我们都经历过，所以帮他们知道，我在这里支持你。

We've all So been help them know like, I'm here for you.

你可以跟我倾诉。

You can vent to me.

对。

Right.

这真的是个特别大的技能，能帮你跟同事的关系更近一步。

Such a huge skill that is really gonna make you closer to your coworkers.

这点真的非常重要。

This this is really important.

人们需要感觉到自己可以倾诉，你知道的，就是能发泄一下情绪。

People need to feel like they can talk you know, like, that they can vent.

所以这部分内容真的非常重要。

So very very important stuff here.

很好。

Good.

很高兴我们今天聊了这个话题，也再次感谢那位提出好问题的听众。

I'm glad we talked about this today, and thank you again to that listener for that great question.