AEE：如何用英语表达三种类型的伤害

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This is an All Ears English podcast.

如何用英语表达三种类型的伤害。

How to articulate three types of hurt in English.

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Are you feeling stuck with your English?

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We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, not perfection.

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我们都是凡人，因此都会经历痛苦。

We are all human, and therefore, we all experience pain.

所以今天，学习如何用‘hurt’这个词表达三种与你经历相关的不同含义。

So today, learn how to use the word hurt with three different meanings as it relates to your experience.

在你的母语中，你是什么样的人？

Who are you in your native language?

有能力的、幽默的、有主见的？

Competent, funny, opinionated?

那么在英语中，你又是怎样的人？

Now who are you in English?

如果你觉得自己在英语中更渺小、更安静或更不善于表达，那并不是因为你英语不好。

If you feel smaller, quieter, or less expressive, that's not because you're bad at English.

这是因为流利度与自我认同紧密相关。

It's because fluency is tied to identity.

当你不确定时，你会退缩。

When you're unsure, you hold back.

而当你退缩时，别人就看不到真实的你。

And when you hold back, people don't see the real you.

你不需要完美的语法。

You don't need perfect grammar.

你需要清楚是什么在阻碍你前进。

You need clarity about what is holding you back.

只需两分钟，你就可以免费了解自己的英语水平以及拖慢你进步的原因。

In just two minutes, you can discover your English level and what's slowing your progress for free.

前往 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

Go to allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

那就是 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

That's allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

嘿，林赛。

Hey, Lindsey.

你怎么样？

How are you?

我今天状态不错，米歇尔。

I'm doing good today, Michelle.

和你一起在话筒前聊天总是让我很兴奋。

Excited to be on the mic with you as always.

今天我们节目要聊些什么呢？

What are we getting into on the show today?

林赛，你上一次身体受伤是什么时候？

Lindsey, when was the last

你上一次身体受伤是什么时候？

time you were physically hurt?

天哪。

Oh my gosh.

昨天，我的左髋部有些疼痛。

Yesterday, I had some pain in my left hip.

那感觉来得毫无预兆，然后又莫名其妙地消失了。

It was so random, and then it kinda went away randomly.

就在这里。

It's up here.

天哪。

Oh my gosh.

然后就莫名其妙地消失了。

And then went away randomly.

所以，是的。

So, yeah.

我不知道。

I don't know.

谁知道呢？

Who knows?

当这种情况发生时真的很奇怪，你知道吗？对于有些人来说，他们的第一反应可能是：天哪。

It's so weird when that happens and, you know, may I mean, if you're some people, their mind might go, oh my gosh.

我怎么了？

What's wrong with me?

我怎么了？

What's wrong with me?

然后

And then

对吧？

it's Right?

是的。

Yep.

是的。

Yep.

没错。

Exactly.

所以，琳赛，在最近的一集中，我们提到了‘hurt’这个词，意识到它对我们的听众来说非常有用且重要，他们需要学会如何使用它。

So, Lindsay, on a recent episode, the word hurt came up, and we realized how useful it is and important for our listeners to know how to use it.

所以今天我们要讨论的就是‘hurt’这个词。

So that's what we're gonna talk about today, the word hurt.

对。

Yeah.

我喜欢这个。

I love it.

我想强调一下我们刚才聊天中提到的一个额外词汇，米歇尔，这个词是‘catastrophize’（灾难化）。

And I wanna highlight a little bonus word that came up just in our little chat there, Michelle, the word catastrophize.

是的。

Yeah.

这个词听起来有点奇怪，但对我们听众来说是个好词，当你把事情当成灾难时，对吧？

Kind of a strange sounding word, but a good one for our listeners to know when you make things a catastrophe, right?

对。

Yeah.

当你觉得最糟糕的事情即将发生时，你会想：哦，我的髋部疼，所以我快死了。

When you think like the worst thing is going to happen, you think, Oh, I have, my hip hurts so I'm dying.

懂吗？

Know?

我觉得每个人多多少少都会这样。

And I think everybody does that to some extent.

我们确实会这样，而且情况变得更糟了，因为

We do and it's gotten so much worse because

我们能够，你知道，去

we have, know, we can go

上，是WebMD吗？

on to, is it, WebMD?

WebMD。

WebMD.

然后总是觉得，我得了癌症，对吧？

And then it's always like, I have cancer, right?

是的，正是如此。

Yes, exactly.

我知道。

I know.

真的就是这样的。

It's really like that.

在过去，人们只是等着，也许约个医生看看。

Back in the old days, just used to wait, maybe make an appointment with a doctor.

然后我觉得，有时候我们的内心还能保持一点平静。

And then I feel like things could just stay a little more calm in our minds sometimes.

对吧？

Right?

是的，是的，没错。

Yes, yes, exactly.

没错。

Exactly.

对。

Yep.

所以说到‘痛苦’这个词。

So getting into the word hurt.

但在深入讨论之前，我想提醒我们的听众，朋友们，如果我们节目让你喜欢，我们追求的是连接，而不是完美。

But before we get further into it, I want to remind our listeners, guys, if you love our show, we are all about connection, not perfection.

这意味着我们在这里最重要的事情不是语法，不是词汇，也不是发音，而是连接。

That means we believe the most important thing we're doing here is not grammar, it's not vocabulary, it's not pronunciation, it's connection.

因此，在每一集中，我们都会向你们展示这意味着什么，我们所学的一切如何促进连接，以及如何通过英语建立更多连接来过上更幸福的生活。

So we show you for each episode what this means, what everything we're learning means for connection and how you can lead a happier life with more connections in English.

明白吗？

Okay?

很好。

Good.

完美。

Perfect.

所以现在就点关注按钮。

So hit that follow button now.

点关注按钮。

Hit the follow button.

好的。

Alright.

那我们开始吧。

So let's get into it.

所以我们要讨论的第一种方式是身体上的表现。

So the first way that we're going to talk about it is the physical form.

对吧？

Right?

我在健身房拉伤了腿筋。

So I hurt my hamstring in the gym.

是的。

Yes.

我在健身房拉伤了腿筋。

I hurt my hamstring in the gym.

这很直接，或者她撞门框时撞到了肘部的麻筋。

Very straightforward, or she hurt her funny bone on the door frame.

那最糟糕了。

That's the worst.

对吧？

Right?

funny bone？

The funny bone?

林赛，什么是 funny bone？

Lindsay, what's the funny bone?

我知道。

I know.

funny bone 很有趣，因为它很奇怪，对吧？

The funny the funny bone's pretty funny because it's weird, right?

实际上更疼。

It's more painful, actually.

没那么好笑。

Not so funny.

它是肘部的一部分。

It's part of the elbow.

是的

Yeah.

有时候我们会撞到它。

Where sometimes we knock it out.

如果你撞到它，就会产生一种震颤感。

If you hit it, it just reverberates.

对吧？

Right?

是的

Yeah.

它有点特别。

There's something about it.

真想知道为什么。

Wonder why actually.

一定是因为

Must be like

一条延伸到你整个手臂的肌腱之类的。

a tendon that goes far throughout your arm or something.

是的。

Yeah.

因为你能感觉到

Because you could feel

它在移动。

it moving.

你有没有过那种感觉，知道疼痛即将来临，但还没传到大脑？

Do you ever experience that moment when you know pain is coming, but it hasn't traveled to your brain yet?

你有没有经历过那种间隙，就是你感觉

Do you do you like experience that gap where you're like,

比如烫伤的时候就会这样。

you're Well, happens with, well, with like burns.

对吧？

Right?

当你不小心烫到手的时候，我的意思是，这甚至可能比你所说的那种延迟还要更明显一些。

When you like burn your hand on something and I mean, that's even maybe a like a literal a little more of a delay than what you're talking about.

是的。

Yeah.

撞到脚趾头也是这样。

Stubbing your toe even.

对，就是那种瞬间，你会想：‘糟了。’

Yeah, there is that moment where you're like, Oh no.

你知道吗，至少会有一两秒的时间，你能预感到疼痛要来了。

You know, it's at least a second of a second where you're like, you can anticipate it.

但我在想，这会不会让疼痛变得更糟？

But then I wonder, does that make it worse?

因为我已经预感到疼痛要来了，对吧？

Because I'm expecting the pain, right?

是的。

Yeah.

是的。

Yeah.

这可能是一种保护机制。

It's probably some sort of protective mechanism.

也许吧。

Maybe.

我

I

不知道。

don't know.

谁知道呢？

Who knows?

或者你的头会疼。

Or your head could hurt.

你的头疼。

Your head hurts.

你可以说我头痛。

You could say my head hurts.

你是不是头疼或者有什么不舒服？

You have a headache or something, right?

所以，林迪，你现在有什么地方疼吗？你的臀部还好吗？

So Lindy, does anything hurt you right now or is your hip okay?

幸运的是，今天一切都好，米歇尔。

Luckily, all good today, Michelle.

一切都好。

All good.

一切都好。

All good.

但但适配但疼痛只是使用它的一种方式，是身体上的。

But but fit but hurt is all is just one way to use it is physical.

我们还可以用另一种方式来使用它。

There's another way that we could use it.

那是什么？

And what's that?

更情感化的方式。

The more emotional way.

对吧？

Right?

所以，你知道的，有些事会伤你的心。

So this is, you know, something hurts your heart.

有些事会在某种方式上伤害你，但并不是真正的身体疼痛。

Something hurts you in some way, but not actually physical pain.

所以举例来说，他并没有意识到，但每次他提起她的感情关系时，都会伤害到她。

So for example, he didn't realize it, but he hurt her every time he brought up her relationship.

是的。

Yes.

当你当着我朋友的面嘲笑我的工作时，我也很受伤。

Or it hurt me when you made fun of my job in front of my friends.

能够表达自己何时受到伤害，这是一种关键的人际关系技能。

And this is kind of a key relationship skill, being able to articulate when you've been hurt.

对吧？

Right?

嗯。

Mhmm.

嗯。

Mhmm.

是的。

Yeah.

我的意思是，你有没有无意中伤害过别人的感情？

I mean, have you ever unintentionally hurt someone's feelings?

你是说对吧。

Are you Yeah.

谁都遇到过，对吧？

All have, right?

当然。

Of course.

如果

If

当我们在这个世界上生活时，我从不故意伤害别人，但有时候……

we're living our lives out in the world, we might not I would never intentionally hurt someone's Right.

有时候只是一句无心的话，却可能以某种方式影响了别人。

It can happen just some comment that we don't know is affecting someone in some way.

是的。

Yeah.

我尽量道歉，坦诚相待，说：我没意识到那会伤害你。

I try to just apologize and just be like, come clean and just say, I didn't realize that that was gonna hurt you.

对不起。

I apologize.

你呢，米歇尔？

What about you, Michelle?

你通常会怎么做？

What's your go to?

是的。

Yeah.

我也会做同样的事。

I would do the same thing.

但有时候，你有没有遇到过不确定自己是否伤害了别人感情的情况？

Sometimes though, do you ever do you does something ever happen where you're not sure if you hurt someone's feelings?

有。

Yes.

你会仔细思考，心想：哦，我是不是因为那个人正在经历的事情而说了不恰当的话？

And you're and you're kind of thinking it through and you're saying, oh, I wonder if this was insensitive because of this thing that person was going through.

我该不该提一下这件事来表示歉意，还是假装什么都没发生？

And should I say something about it to acknowledge it, or should I just pretend it never happened?

你知道的。

You know?

是的。

Yeah.

我觉得我们在这一点上很相似。

I think you and I are similar in that way.

我觉得我们以前在这个节目里聊过这个。

I think we've talked about this on this show before.

就像，我们的共情能力都挺高的，确实是这样。

Like, we both have pretty high empathy levels, and it's like Yeah.

这可能是一把双刃剑。

That can be a double edged sword.

对吧？

Right?

因为这可能会让你反过来责备自己，想：我是不是伤害了别人？

Because it can mean you can turn on yourself and you can think, oh, like, am I hurting someone?

我是不是伤害了这个人？

Did I hurt this person?

有时候这会让人感到精疲力尽，对吧？

And it can be kind of debilitating at times, right?

因为我们无法向前推进，也无法清晰地思考。

Because we can't move forward and think clearly.

是的，我确实经常这样。

Yeah, 100% I do that.

对。

Yes.

是的。

Yeah.

是的。

Yeah.

没错。

Exactly.

或者我会非常担心自己没有照顾到别人。

Or I get very worried about like not including people.

好的。

Okay.

有时候我会担心别人觉得他们被排除在外，或者觉得我没有照顾到他们，所以我会试着和朋友们组织一些女生聚会之类的活动。

That, someone will feel that they like, they aren't included or that I didn't you know, so sometimes I'll, like I'm even trying to get, like, together, like a like a girls game thing with my friends.

真好。

Nice.

我在想该邀请谁，我会把所有人都邀请进来，因为当然要这样。

And my you know, I'm trying to think who would and I would invite just everyone because Yeah.

当然。

Of course.

我真的很害怕会伤害到别人的感情。

I I can't like, I'm like so scared that someone would get their feelings hurt.

当然。

Of course.

当然。

Of course.

是的

Yeah.

你不想漏掉任何人。

You don't wanna miss anyone.

是的

Yeah.

不。

No.

我明白。

I get that.

是的

Yeah.

这说得通。

That makes sense.

是的

Yeah.

因为你不想让那个人意识到自己没被邀请，从而感到难过。

Because you don't wanna think about that person realizing they're not being invited and feeling bad.

是的。

Yeah.

所以是的。

So Yeah.

这其实正发生在我不认识的一个人身上。

That's actually happening to someone I know right now.

他们住在一个社区里，感觉其他所有夫妻都在一起活动，而自己却被排除在外。

That they live in a neighborhood where it feels like all the other couples are doing stuff without them they feel quite excluded.

是的。

Yeah.

因为我们是人类。

Has we're human beings.

我们难免会因为这些事感到受伤。

We can't help but feel hurt at times by these things.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

当然。

Absolutely.

那么我们接下来要谈另一个更抽象的版本。

So then we're gonna talk about another one, which is the more abstract version.

这更多是关于伤害。

It's more about damage.

对吧？

Right?

所以她因为迟到了一小时而损害了自己的机会。

So she hurt her chances by showing up an hour late to the

面试。

interview.

面试。

Interview.

是的。

Yes.

是的。

Yes.

是的。

Yes.

这就是损害。

This is damage.

所以你阻止了某事的成功。

So you prevent something from succeeding.

对吧？

Right?

嗯哼。

Mhmm.

或者看到你这样，我会感到心痛。

Or it hurts me to see you like this.

这个可能我

This one probably I

我的意思是，这更情绪化。

mean, it's more emotional.

我会说。

Would say.

我会说它更属于那个类别。

I would say it belongs in that box more.

哎呀。

Whoops.

是的。

Yeah.

或者如果你不用热保护喷雾就吹干头发，可能会损伤头发。

Or you can hurt your hair if you dry it without heat protectant spray.

所以也有一点身体上的影响，但并不是那种明显的疼痛感。

So also a little bit physical, but like not necessarily like feeling pain.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yes.

更多的损伤。

More damage.

你可能会造成损伤。

You can damage.

你可能会因为头发而给未来带来问题。

You can cause problems for the future with your hair.

没错。

Exactly.

米歇尔，你有没有做过什么事，让你觉得影响了你在工作上的成功机会？

Did you ever do something, Michelle, you felt hurt your chances of succeeding at work?

我经历过一些情况，那里根本没人说英语，但我觉得自己虽然很外向、很社交，却总觉得没融入那个小圈子。

I've been in situations, not at all there's English, but where, like, I felt I'm I I am very social and very outgoing, but where I felt like I wasn't quite in the cool kids club.

哦，天哪。

Oh, no.

小圈子。

Cool kids.

我不太清楚。

I don't know that.

那只是中学而已。

It was just middle school.

工作中也有小圈子。

There's a cool kids club at work too.

我的意思是，我刚入行时的一份工作，不是刚毕业后的第一份工作，而是在英语教学行业。

I mean, was like in one of my first jobs at a well, not one of my first jobs out of college, but in the ESL industry.

我只是觉得，自己并没有完全融入教师休息室里的那群人。

And I just felt like I didn't necessarily, wasn't like totally in with the people in the teacher's room.

所以当你感到不舒服时，你总会想，这种感觉会表现出来吗？

And so then you always wonder like, you know, if you feel uncomfortable, does that show?

这种感觉会不会阻碍你进步？

Does that like keep you from getting ahead?

所以，是的，我觉得自己确实有过这种感受。

So, yeah, I would say that I felt that way.

有意思。

Interesting.

这非常正常。

Very normal thing.

我觉得我通常不属于任何一方。

I feel like I'm not usually in either.

关键是，我们在这里学习建立联系，常常会感到被排除在外，不属于那个‘酷圈’。

I mean, that's the thing, Like, we're learning to connect here, and often we we can feel left out and not in that cool club.

但后来我们意识到，自己在工作中可能拥有比想象中更牢固的人际关系。

But then we realize we might have stronger relationships at work than we than we think we do.

对吧？

Right?

单独来看，你知道的？

Individually, you know?

所以还是有希望的。

So there's hope.

我们还有希望。

There's hope for us yet.

有希望。

There's hope.

好吧，还有别的吗，米歇尔？

Alright, what else, Michelle?

我们实际上要短暂休息一下。

We'll take a quick break, actually.

我们先短暂休息一下，然后马上回来。

Let's take a quick break and then we'll be right back.

是吗？

Yeah?

好的。

Okay.

好吧。

Alright.

所以，有一些不同的表达方式，我们的听众可能应该了解，因为它们是一些固定搭配。

So, there are different sayings that our listeners should probably know because they're kind of chunks.

它们是一些惯用语。

They're kind of sayings.

我们有几个要分享。

We have a few of them to share.

它们有点像习语。

They're kind of idioms.

对吧？

Right?

嗯。

Mhmm.

而且各位，你们知道，关于“伤害”我们还能说更多内容。

And guys, you know, there's way more that we could even say about hurt.

哦，是的。

Oh, yeah.

不同的语法点，但我们今天只想讲讲基础内容。

Different grammar points, but we just wanted to do the basics today.

对。

Yes.

而且，是的，教这些表达方式。

And, yeah, teach these these chunks.

这些非常有用。

These are really useful.

我的意思是，第一个是“伤害某人的感情”。

I mean, so the first one is hurt someone's feelings.

是的。

Yes.

对。

Yeah.

我的意思是，这并不是身体上的疼痛，而是一种情感上的痛苦。

I mean, it's not a physical pain, but it's an emotional pain.

所以听起来有点幼稚。

So it's a little juvenile sounding.

你觉得呢？

What do you think?

对。

Yeah.

使用这个要小心。

Would be careful with this.

我觉得它确实有点幼稚。

I do think it's juvenile.

我觉得这像是孩子放学回家后哭着说的事情。

I think it's something that maybe a kid would come home from school and he's crying.

你知道的，约翰尼伤了我的感情。

You know, Johnny hurt my feelings.

去跟妈妈说，这没问题，但我大概不会把它用在成年人的工作场所中。

Talk to his mom, which is fine, but therefore I probably wouldn't translate it into the adult workplace.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yes.

不，我不会说，‘她伤了我的感情。’

No, I wouldn't say, oh, she hurt my feelings.

我会想别的说法来表达这个意思。

I would would come up with another way to say that.

是的。

Yes.

没错。

Exactly.

或者甚至

Or even

就说她伤害了我。

just saying she hurt me.

虽然‘她伤害了我’这句话语气更重一些。

Although she hurt me has more gravity to it.

所以在职场中，是的，我想这取决于你和伤害你的人的关系如何。

So for the workplace, yeah, I guess depending on your relationship with the person that hurt you.

但如果只是很随意的情况，比如你不太认识这个人，他们属于另一个部门，我觉得在工作中这么说有点太重了。

But if it's just a very casual, like you don't know the person very well, they work in a different department, I think it's a little too strong for work.

是的。

Yeah.

你怎么看？

What do you think?

是的。

Yeah.

我也这么认为。

I think so too.

有点过头了。

It's a little much.

有点太过了。

It's a little Yeah.

正如我所说的，有点多余。

Extra as I would say.

多余。

Extra.

或者最伤人的是，嗯。

Or what hurts the most is Mhmm.

对吧？

Right?

所以你在谈论你正在经历的某种情况，你说最糟糕的部分。

So you're talking about some situation you're going through and you're saying like the worst part.

最痛苦的是什么？

What's like the most painful?

比如，最让人难受的是她根本不在乎这段关系已经结束了。

So for example, what hurts the most is how she doesn't seem to care at all that the relationship is over.

是的。

Yeah.

所以，把最糟糕的部分表达出来。

So articulating the worst part.

对吧？

Right?

嗯。

Mhmm.

然后，我不知道，我们有没有做过这方面的节目？

And then, I don't know, have we done an episode on this?