AEE：用英语社交 第一部分——你是椰子还是桃子？

这里是All Ears English播客，社交英语第一部分。

This is the All Ears English podcast, socializing in English part one.

你是椰子还是桃子？

Are you a coconut or a peach?

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Welcome to the All Ears English podcast downloaded more than 200,000,000 times.

你是不是觉得自己的英语卡住了？

Are you feeling stuck with your English?

我们会教你如何变得无所畏惧、流利自如，专注于交流而非完美，由美国主持人Aubrey Carter（雅思达人）和Lindsey McMahon（英语探险家）为你带来，她们分别来自美国亚利桑那州和科罗拉多州。

We'll show you how to become fearless and fluent by focusing on connection, not perfection with your American host, Aubrey Carter, the IELTS whiz, and Lindsey McMahon, the English adventurer, coming to you from Arizona and Colorado, USA.

你有没有觉得，当你遇到新朋友时，语法、词汇和发音总是不够好？

Do you ever feel that your grammar, vocab, and pronunciation fall short when you meet someone new?

你有没有意识到，有一种无形的社交规则，决定了你多久才能和母语者熟络起来？

Are you aware of the invisible social layer that dictates how quickly you'll get to know a native speaker?

今天就多了解一下吧。

Learn more about it today.

你好，林赛。

Hello, Lindsay.

你今天怎么样？

How are you today?

嘿，奥布里。

Hey there, Aubrey.

我挺好的。

I'm doing pretty well.

你今天一切顺利吗？

How's everything going, for you today?

非常好。

Excellent.

是的。

Yes.

有个问题想问你。

A question for you.

你最喜欢的水果是什么？

What is your favorite fruit?

这个我不知道，我甚至猜不出来。

Don't know this I about couldn't even guess.

说实话，八月份的桃子绝对是最棒的。

Legitimately, it is definitely peaches in August.

就像八月里非常熟的桃子。

Like a very ripe peach in August.

没有比这更好的了。

There's nothing better.

我的意思是，好的芒果很棒，好的梨也不错，但桃子，太好吃了。

I mean, like good mango is great, good pears, but peaches, so good.

我同意。

I agree.

我岳父岳母刚从犹他州给我们带来了一箱桃子。

My in laws just brought us a box of peaches from Utah.

我知道佐治亚州以桃子闻名，美国有好几个地方都挺出名的。

I know Georgia is really famous for there are quite a few places in The States that are sort of famous for peaches.

对。

Right.

但犹他州夏末的桃子也特别棒。

But Utah also has amazing peaches in the late summer.

他们给我们带了一些，味道好极了。

And they brought us some, and they were perfect.

就是那种多汁又好吃的感觉。

Like, so juicy and delicious.

太不可思议了。

Incredible.

太棒了。

Amazing.

是啊。

Yeah.

去了，在那边，我超爱桃子。

Went to over the I love a peach.

夏天的时候，我还去了一个靠近犹他州、跟犹他州交界的地方，叫帕利塞德，那里以桃子出名。

Over the summer, I also went to a place near Utah that kinda borders Utah called Palisades, Colorado that is famous for peaches.

而且所有东西都是桃子做的。

And everything was peach.

桃子酱、桃子酒。

Peach jam, peach wine.

你去那种小镇，每家餐厅都有桃子主题或者梨主题，或者当地盛产什么就有什么主题。

You you go to a town like that and every restaurant has a peach theme or a pear theme or whatever is being grown close by.

那当然。

You gotta.

对吧？

Right?

你肯定得好好利用当地的特产，这是肯定的。

You gotta monopolize on the whatever your thing is for sure.

是的，当然。

Yeah, for sure.

这很令人兴奋。

This is exciting.

这对我来说是新的。

I this was new to me.

在文化和人们的生活方式方面，这就像椰子对比桃子。

This coconut versus peach when it comes to cultures and the way people are.

但当我了解到这一点并深入研究后，发现确实如此。

But when I learned about this and looked into it, it is so true.

这真的引起了共鸣。

It really resonated.

今天我很高兴能和大家分享这个。

I'm excited to share this with you guys today.

而且我很好奇，在听完这期节目后，大家都能思考并决定：我是椰子还是桃子？

And I'm curious for everyone out there by the end of this episode, you'll be able to think and decide, am I a coconut or a peach?

是的。

Yes.

我的意思是，你知道，我们今天要谈什么？

I mean, you know, what are we talking about today?

我们是不是要谈今天这集以及九月这个三集系列的核心主题，Aubrey？

Are we what is the core topic for today's episode and this three episode series that we're going to be going into in September, Aubrey?

是的。

Yes.

我们在谈社交。

We're talking about socializing.

这确实是学语言时最困难的部分。

This is really what's often the most difficult when you're learning a language.

你有词汇，你有语法，但真正用英语对话和社交时，可能会很难。

You've got the vocabulary, you've got the grammar, but when it comes to having a conversation and socializing in English, it can be really difficult.

文化常常也起着作用。

Culture often plays a part.

你可能遇到过这样的人，他们热情、微笑、友好，还说‘我们喝杯咖啡吧’，但你之前并没有经历过这种情况。

You have likely met someone where maybe you hadn't experienced someone was warm and smiling and friendly and saying, let's meet for coffee.

这感觉像是友谊的开始，但后来却一直没有发展成真正的友谊。

And it felt like the start of a friendship, but then it just never developed into one.

你可能会感到困惑，比如，如果他们真的不想和我做朋友，为什么还那么热情呢？

You might have been confused, like, were they so warm if they didn't really want to be friends with me?

说实话，作为一个美国人，这种事在我身上也发生过。

I mean, to be honest, you know, as an American person, this happens to me too.

而且我现在有时还是会感到困惑，对吧？

And I still sometimes get thrown off, right?

虽然我知道我们今天要讨论的是文化密码、背景、那种内在的社交层面，也就是对话底下那些未说出口的社交规则，但即使我知道这些，我还是会被绊住。

Though I know, which is what we're talking about today is the cultural codes, the context, the kind of inner social layer, right, the unspoken social layer that's going on below these conversations, even though I know it, I get tripped up.

我也是。

Same.

我知道我有时还是会误解别人的热情，然后当他们没有回我短信时，我会感到惊讶。

I know sometimes I will still misread a person's warmth and be surprised when they don't text me back.

我们其实不会真的约。

We don't actually make plans.

所以有意思的是，你从美国人、北美那边感受到的热情，看起来是真的，感觉也是真的。

So it's interesting because the warmth you'll get from an American, a North American will seem real, will feel real.

但有时候如果没什么后续，你就会想他们是不是在装。

But then sometimes if it doesn't go anywhere, you'll wonder if they were being fake.

而且有意思的是，对大多数人来说，他们并不是在装。

And it's interesting because for most people, they're not being fake.

那只是他们文化的一部分。

It's just part of their culture.

他们只是客气而已，真的。

They're being polite, really.

是的。

Yes.

有意思。

Interesting.

没错。

Exactly.

所以，各位，这个九月，我们在探讨掌握英语中不成文的社交规则。

So guys, in September this month, we are looking at this idea of mastering the unwritten social rules of English.

对吧？

Right?

这些规则是其他课程，比如英语课，通常不会教给学生的。

These are rules that other courses, English courses, Aubrey, generally don't teach our students.

对吧？

Right?

在其他课程里，我们学语法、学词汇、学发音。

In other courses, we learn grammar, we learn vocabulary, pronunciation.

但要运用这些技能去成功和沟通，还有一些不成文的社交规则。

But in order to take those skills and put them into play to succeed and connect, there are unwritten social rules.

是吗？

Yeah?

没错。

Exactly.

对吧？

Right?

所以我们很兴奋能帮你解读这些不成文的规则。

So we are excited to help you decode these unwritten rules.

对吧？

Right?

特别是跟美国人打交道时，我们确实了解美国人和美国文化，而且有很多奇怪的地方，很容易被误解。

Especially with Americans, we do understand Americans and American culture, and there are a lot of things that are strange that could easily be misunderstood.

所以我们很兴奋。

So we're excited.

我们有一个新方法，很兴奋想跟你分享。

We have a new method that we're excited to share with you.

所以如果你想提前了解这个，以及所有关于社交英语的你需要知道的内容——这些即将在All Ears English上线——就去allearsenglish.com/social，social。

So if you want early access to this and everything you need to know about Social English that is coming soon here at All Ears English, go to allearsenglish.com/social,social.

这样你就能进入早期访问名单，也就是早期兴趣名单。

That will get you on the early access list, the early interest list.

所以你会是第一个，或者第一批知道这个方法的人，它会在未来几周内上线。

So you will be the very first person, one of the very first people to to be notified when this method becomes available in the next few weeks.

所以大家，去那边，把自己加到那个名单上，这样我们就知道你已经准备好了，而且一旦准备好，你马上就会收到通知。

So guys, go over, get yourself on that list so we know that you are ready and you will hear about it as soon as it's ready for you.

Allearsenglish.com/social。

Allearsenglish.com/social.

对吧？

Alright?

太棒了。

Awesome.

所以，如果你有过这样的经历——我们肯定也有过——就是某个美国人看起来特别真诚友好，但之后却不回你的短信，他们其实并没有真正用心。

So yes, if you have had that experience like we definitely have, where an American seems so genuine and friendly, but then they don't return your text, they don't actually try.

他们并不是在装模作样。

They weren't being fake.

了解这种情况中发生的事情真的很有趣。

It's really interesting to understand what's happening in this situation.

如果你想象两种水果，就很容易理解了，对吧？

It's easy if you picture two kinds of fruit, right?

我们这里把这两种文化比作椰子和桃子。

We've this where these cultures are compared to coconuts and peaches.

所以我们先来谈谈椰子文化。

So let's first talk about coconut cultures.

是的。

Yes.

好的，奥布里。

All right, Aubrey.

椰子文化就是外表看起来有点硬、有点封闭，但一旦你打破那层硬壳，里面就是柔软温暖的。

So a coconut culture is where things seem a bit hard and closed off on the outside, but it's soft and warm once you kind of break through that hard outer shell.

对吧？

Right?

那么这对社交意味着什么呢，Aubrey？

So what does this mean for socializing, Aubrey?

没错。

Exactly.

所以也许人们不会对陌生人微笑那么多，或者他们可能会避免随意的闲聊。

So maybe people don't smile as much at strangers or they might avoid casual small talk.

而且他们可能会一开始就保持相当严格的个人界限。

And they might keep personal boundaries pretty strict at first.

如果是这样的话，建立关系就需要很长时间。

And then relationships would take a long time to build if that's the case.

是的。

Yeah.

但是一旦你被接受了，对，一旦你和某人成了朋友，真正的朋友，你就会完全被欢迎进入他们的核心圈子。

But once you are accepted, right, once you have made friends, genuine friends with someone, you're going to be welcomed fully into the inner circle.

对吧？

Right?

而且，你知道，有时候我们的个人生活和职业生活可能会混在一起。

And, you know, sometimes our personal lives and our professional lives can mix.

在这种情况下，它们并不是分开的，

They're not kept separate in this case, in

椰子听起来是不是更熟悉一点？

Might more of a Coconut sound really familiar to you.

对吧？

Right?

在你居住的国家，文化可能就是这样，你对陌生人不会那么热情友好。

The culture in the country where you live, this might be the case where you're not quite as warm and friendly with strangers.

你可能会有更多的界限，更多的防备，一开始会更正式一些。

You may have more boundaries, more walls, be a little more formal at first.

但一旦你认识了人们，然后你就能建立那些深厚的关系。

But then once you get to know people, then you can build those deep relationships.

是的。

Yeah.

但是美国人，大多数北美人是所谓的桃子文化，这非常不同。

But Americans, most North Americans are what's called a peach culture, which is very different.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

非常有趣。

Very interesting.

所以桃子文化是相反的。

So a peach culture is the opposite.

对吧？

Right?

外表柔软友好。

Soft and friendly on the outside.

对吧？

Right?

所以我觉得这并不适用于美国的每一个州和城市。

So we I think this is not necessarily true for every state and city in The US.

比如，我会想到波士顿，它更像是一种椰子式的情况。

Like, I would think about Boston, Massachusetts being more of a Coconut situation.

是的。

Yeah.

一团糟。

A mess.

比如美国的一些地方，我觉得人们很容易微笑，比如在街上对你微笑。

Places in The US, I think, are kind of smiling easily, right, at you on the street, for example.

但内心却有一层防备，像椰子一样有坚硬的内核。

But there's a guard they're guarded by a hard pit at the center.

所以需要时间来建立信任，才能走进那个内核。

So it does take time to trust to go through that pit.

是的。

Yeah.

这很有意思。

This is interesting.

你说得对，在一些大城市，比如洛杉矶、纽约、波士顿，人们可能不会对陌生人笑得那么多。

You make a good point that in some bigger cities, maybe LA, New York, Boston, people might not be, you know, smiling so much at strangers.

如果你在派对上跟人聊天，他们会很友好。

If you chat with someone at a party, they're going to be friendly.

他们会面带微笑。

They're going to be smiling.

那种随意的闲聊，即使你们之前从未见过面。

That casual small talk, even if you've never met them before.

他们真的很友好。

They're really friendly.

即使他们没打算跟你深交，因为他们就像桃子，外表柔软，但内心坚硬，他们被训练得对人友好，对吧？

Even if they have no plan to become close to you, to have this close relationship because they're a peach, they're soft on the outside, they're trained to be friendly, right?

然后他们内心其实很硬。

Then they have that hard pit.

他们心里有那层硬壳。

They have that hard pit.

你最终会碰到那层硬壳，有点走不通。

You're going to eventually hit that as a bit of a dead end.

在美国，随便聊聊是很正常的。

It is pretty normal to make easy small talk in The US.

比如说，我在美国随便哪个小镇，坐在公交站，我觉得可能会有人跟我搭话，或者有人试着跟我聊几句。

Like, let's say if I were in any town USA, I'm sitting at a bus stop, I think I would probably make small talk or someone would attempt to make small talk with me.

对吧？

Right?

尤其是小城镇。

Especially smaller towns.

对吧？

Right?

是的。

Yeah.

当然。

For sure.

而且我们会很快用名字称呼对方，马上分享个人细节。

And we'll use first names quickly, share personal details right away.

这可能会让你们这些听众感到惊讶，当一个美国人这么快就变得很私人化的时候。

This may have surprised you, those of you out there listening when an American gets personal really fast.

你会想，哇，我都不认识你。

You're like, wow, I don't know you.

你为什么跟我分享这些细节？

Why are you sharing these details with me?

对。

Right.

因为你在软桃子里面，就是桃子的果肉部分。

Because you're in the soft peach, the fruit part of the peach.

是的，容易的部分，对吧？

Yes, the easy part, right?

而且我们很快就要撞上一堵墙了。

And we're going to hit a wall soon.

所以基本上，关系建立得很快，但最终会撞上那个硬性界限，深入核心圈子的通道最终会被堵住。

So basically, relationships form fast, but they end up hitting that hard boundary where that deep access to the inner circle eventually becomes blocked.

所以我们在像桃子文化这样的文化中看到的是，我们的工作朋友和个人朋友会保持分开。

So what we see in a culture like a peach culture is that our work friends and our personal friends will stay separate.

比如，如果我们举办派对，我们不太可能同时邀请同事和多年的朋友及家人。

Like if we host a party, we're less likely to invite colleagues and longtime friends and family together.

它们是分开的。

It's separated.

是的。

Yeah.

这真的很有趣。

It's really interesting.

而且，你经常共事的人往往永远无法越过那个界限。

And often people that you work with just never get past that pit.

对吧？

Right?

你很友好。

You're friendly.

你们有很好的工作关系，但通常你不会邀请同事去喝咖啡或喝酒，因为很多北美人都把工作和私人生活分开。

You have this great working relationship, but it's not that often that you'll invite someone to coffee or for a drink when you work together because a lot of North Americans will keep that separate.

是啊，那么奥布里，桃子和椰子文化之间自然会产生哪些误解呢？

Yeah, so what are some of the misunderstandings that can arise naturally, Aubrey, between peach and coconut cultures?

我们从

What do we think from

桃子的角度来看呢？

the peach perspective?

来自桃子文化的人可能会觉得椰子文化里的人显得冷漠、粗鲁或疏远，因为他们不像自己文化中那样立刻表现出友好。

Someone who is from a peach culture, they may think that those in these coconut cultures seem cold or rude or distant because they're not as immediately friendly as they're used to in their culture.

那从椰子文化的角度来看呢？

And what about from this coconut culture point of view?

是的。

Yeah.

桃子文化可能让人困惑，对吧？

Peaches can seem confusing, right?

桃子文化可能看起来有点让人困惑，对吧？

A peach culture can seem kind of confusing, right?

所以我想到的是椰子文化。

So I'm thinking of a coconut culture.

一个好的例子是，去年我去了挪威，我觉得那里有很多这样的特点。

A good example would be last year I visited Norway, and I think it had a lot of these characteristics.

我想我们确实做过一集关于这个的有趣节目，关于聚会和邀请人的。

I think we actually did an interesting episode about that, about parties and inviting people.

这确实让我想起了一种文化，在这种文化里，你不一定会把工作朋友和现实生活中的朋友混在一起。

That really rings a bell, this kind of culture where you don't necessarily mix work friends with real life friends.

对吧？

Right?

所以从椰子的角度来看，桃子文化，比如美国，可能看起来有点让人困惑。

So a from the Coconut perspective, a peach culture, maybe like The US, could seem kind of confusing.

它可能看起来虚伪、肤浅，或者过于热情，太快、太多、太早。

It might seem fake, superficial, or maybe overly familiar too fast, too much, too soon.

对吧，Aubrey？

Right, Aubrey?

没错。

Exactly.

是的。

Yes.

所以我们很兴奋来分享，来解读这条不成文的规则，很多北美人，你知道，尤其是来自美国和加拿大的人，更像桃子。

So we're excited to share to kind of break down this unwritten rule for you guys that many North Americans, you know, especially people from The US and Canada are more like a peach.

对吧？

Right?

他们外表甜美柔软，容易交谈，尤其是初次见面时，他们很快微笑。

They're soft and sweet on the outside, easy to talk to, especially when you're just first meeting them, quick to smile.

但那个硬核，就是那个紧密的内心圈子，真正的友谊，确实需要更多时间和努力才能进入。

But that hard pit in the middle is that close inner circle of real friendship that does take a lot more work and time to get through.

对。

Yeah.

而且多种经历，对吧？

And multiple experiences, right?

如果你只是保持同样的接触，比如每天工作上的接触，那可能达不到那个程度。

If you're just having the same amount of contact, like work contact every day, that's probably not going to get you there.

所以，如果你是在一种椰子文化中长大的，那桃子文化就会让你感到困惑，当然。

So if you grew up in more of a coconut culture, that peach is going to be confusing, of course.

而这些是简单的技能，比如语法、词汇、发音。

And these are things that are simple skills like grammar, vocab, pronunciation.

正是在这方面有所欠缺，Aubrey。

That's where it falls short, Aubrey.

对吧？

Right?

这就是为什么我们……是的。

This is why we're Yeah.

说到……

Talking about

你可以拥有你想要的流利度、词汇量，但仍然困惑为什么无法与北美人士建立联系，如果你不了解这些关于社交的奇怪文化现象。

You can have the fluency that you want, the vocabulary you want, and still be confused why you're not able to connect with North Americans if you're not aware of some of these strange cultural things about socializing.

所以，这是真正需要了解的一点，因为北美人士确实有他们的内部圈子。

So this is one thing that's really vital to know about because North Americans, of course, do have the inner circle.

他们最终会形成深厚的友谊，但这需要时间和信任。

They do eventually form these deep friendships, but it takes time and trust.

你可能需要付出比与本国人相处更多的努力。

You may have to put in more work than you're used to with, people from your home country.

而且，如果我们期望别人像我们小时候的朋友那样行事，我们往往会感到困惑，甚至可能受伤或生气。

And often, if we're expecting, if we have these expectations of someone to act like our friends growing up did, we'll be confused and potentially hurt or offended.

是的。

Yeah.

但如果我们明白，这些文化脚本从我们在妈妈肚子里的时候就开始运行了，对吧？

But if we know that these are cultural scripts that we've been running since the time we're in our mother's womb, right?

我们一直在听语言。

We've been hearing language.

我们从小就在观察。

We've been observing as a child.

我们观察父母的行为方式。

We observed how our parents acted.

我们其实已经把这种观念内化了。

We kind of internalized that.

这些都属于文化脚本。

These are cultural scripts.

说到底，我们都是人，而我们在 All Ears English 的目标就是建立人与人之间的连接。

And, you know, at the bottom layer, we're all human, and our goal here at All Ears English is human connection.

但一旦了解了这些差异，我们就没必要往心里去，不过我们也明白，光靠词汇、发音、语法和习语，还不足以让我们达到理想的状态。

But once you know these differences, we don't need to take it personally, but we do know that just the words, the pronunciation, the grammar, the idioms won't quite get us to where we wanna be.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

Exactly.

这太重要了。

That's so huge.

关键是不把它当成针对个人的。

It's about not taking it personally.

对吧？

Right?

因为那份友好是真诚的。

Because the friendliness is genuine.

那些最初的寒暄、微笑，你知道的，别把它们看成是虚伪的，即使要深入友谊可能更难。

That initial small talk, the smile, you know, don't see that as fake when it becomes maybe harder to get into the inner circle to go deeper with that friendship.

这通常是真诚的，与其觉得被冒犯或受伤，不如明白那只是这种文化中的友好表现。

It is usually genuine and instead of maybe feeling like taking it personally or feeling hurt when it doesn't get deeper, recognize that that's friendliness that's just part of this Peach culture.

是的，没错。

Yeah, exactly.

没错。

Exactly.

那我们不如直接跳到角色扮演吧，奥布里，看看两个人在共同朋友的婚礼上聊天是什么感觉。

So why don't we skip ahead, Aubrey, to a role play and we will see how this feels between two people chatting at a mutual friend's wedding.

要不要试试？

Shall we do it?

好，来吧。

Yeah, let's do it.

我先开个头。

I'll start us out here.

准备好了吗？

Ready?

好的。

Okay.

看来我的搭档准备走了。

It looks like my partner is ready to leave.

很高兴认识你。

It was so nice meeting you.

我们改天一起喝杯咖啡吧。

We should grab coffee sometime.

好的，就这么定了。

Alright, let's do it.

我把我的电话号码给你。

Let me give you my number.

太好了。

Perfect.

这是我的号码。

And here's mine.

晚安。

Have a good night.

好的。

Okay.

那么，我们从这场角色淘汰赛中学到了什么？

So what do we take away from this role playoff?

这很有趣。

This is interesting.

我们想讨论的是，这之后可能会发生什么。

What we want to talk about is what might happen after this.

所以，你和我一直在婚礼上聊天。

So you and I have been chatting at a wedding.

我们之前并不认识。

We didn't know each other before.

我们聊得很愉快。

We've had a really nice conversation.

这段对话有很多种可能的发展方向。

There's so many ways that conversation could go.

这段关系就这样结束了。

The way this one has ended.

看起来确实有发展成更深友谊的潜力。

It does look like more potential to become a deeper friendship.

我们交换了联系方式。

We've exchanged numbers.

那是重要的第一步。

That's the big first step.

但如果你从不给我发消息、不安排见面呢？

But what if you never text me and make a plan?

对吧？

Right?

那是不是意味着我们之前那次愉快的交谈，其实是你装出来的？

Does that mean that really nice friendly conversation we had was you being fake?

绝对不是。

Definitely not.

不，不是假的。

No, not fake.

不是假的。

Not fake.

只是那不一定是个真正的邀请。

Just that it wasn't necessarily a real invitation.

对吧？

Right?

对。

Right.

这有点棘手，对吧？

That's tricky, right?

是的。

Yes.

如果他们发短信给你并制定计划，你可能会通过这个难关，对吧？

If they text you and make a plan, you might get through the pit, right?

这需要一些时间。

It would take some time.

这需要多次见面，真正了解彼此，找到共同点。

It would take several times meeting and really getting to know each other and finding things in common.

不过，是否发生这种事，跟他们婚礼上有多热情友好没关系。

Whether that happens or not, though, has nothing to do with how warm and friendly they were at the wedding.

这才是最有趣的地方，对吧？

That's what's interesting, right?

如果有人那么热情友好，你可能会觉得我们肯定能成为朋友，然后如果没成，你就会受伤或难过。

If someone was so warm and friendly, you might think we're for sure going to be friends and then you're hurt or offended.

你知道，如果没发生，你会觉得是个人问题。

You know, you take it personally if it doesn't happen.

这就是棘手的地方。

That's where it's tricky.

是的。

Yeah.

是的。

Yeah.

我们可能会陷入这些误区，把这种情况误认为是善意或缺乏善意。

And we can fall into those pitfalls of mistaking this for kindness or lack of kindness.

但这里的情况并不是这样的，各位。

That's not what's going on here, guys.

这就是为什么我们需要能够真正读懂现场的氛围。

That's why we need to be able to essentially read the room.

我们需要知道我们处于什么样的文化环境中。

We need to know what culture we're in.

甚至在一个国家的文化内部，也要知道我们在哪个城市。

Maybe even within a country culture, what city are we in?

比如，我甚至能看出波士顿和纽约之间的差异，即使是在这个范围内。

Like, I can see differences between Boston and New York even on the spectrum.

是的。

Yeah.

对吧？

Right?

虽然我们说美国可能更偏向于桃子文化。

Although we're saying that The US is maybe a more peach oriented culture.

对吧？

Right?

但我会说波士顿更偏向椰子那边，而纽约可能更偏向桃子那边，信不信由你。

But I would say that Boston is a little more towards the coconut side, and New York is maybe more towards the peach side, believe it or not.

对吧？

Right?

所以，有意思。

So Interesting.

我们在这个光谱上处于什么位置？

Where are we at in the spectrum?

而这些是不同的技能。

And these are skills that are different.

这些是英语社交技能，Aubrey。

These are socializing in English skills, Aubrey.

没错。

Exactly.

对吧？

Right?

你不能因为某人是美国人，就假设他们总是以某种方式回应。

You can't assume just because someone's an American, they'll always respond in one way.

有很多社交技能你需要掌握。

Are a lot of social skills that you need.

你需要学会察言观色，如何加入对话，以及如何处理课本上没教过的那些情况。

You need to learn how to read the room, how to join into a conversation, and how to handle those moments that textbooks don't prepare you for.

是的，没错，各位。

Yes, exactly, guys.

所以我们创造了一个解决方案，一种方法来应对所有这些，甚至更多。

So we've created a solution, a method to address all of this and so much more.

这还只是课程里的一小部分，抱歉口误，是我们月底要推出的这套方法中的一小部分。

This is just one tiny piece of what you get in the course in the court sorry, in the method that we're gonna be presenting towards the end of the month.

所以各位，如果想加入早期兴趣名单，以便在上线时获得优先访问权限，请访问 allearsenglish.com/social。

So guys, to join that early interest list to get the priority access when it becomes available, go to allearsenglish.com/social.

Aubrey，你还有什么最后想补充的吗？

Aubrey, any final takeaways here?

嗯，我们确实希望大家能注意到这一点。

Well, we definitely want you to be aware of that.

这只是三部曲的第一部分，接下来我们会分享一些关键策略和注意事项，帮你更好地用英语社交。

This is just episode one in a three part series where we are going to share some key strategies and things that you need to know in order to socialize in English.

第二部分会在商务英语播客上发布。

Part two will be on the Business English podcast.

所以记得在这里的All Ears English以及商务英语播客上都点个关注，这样你就能收齐这个系列的三部分内容了。

So be sure to hit follow both here on All Ears English and on the Business English podcast so that you get all three installments of this series.

没错。

Yeah.

我很期待看到这在商业世界中的应用。

I'm excited to see how this applies in the business world.

对吧？

Right?

当然。

Definitely.

在那里也非常适用。

Very, very applicable over there as well.

所以，各位，再说一次，加入提前访问名单。

So, guys, one more time, get on the early access list.

去 allearsenglish.com/social，准备好迎接我们本月系列的下一个步骤。

Go to allearsenglish.com/social, and get ready for the next step in our series this month.

好吗？

Alright?

太棒了。

Awesome.

那我们到时候见，Lindsey。

I will see you there, Lindsey.

谢谢。

Thank you.

好的。

Alright.

保重，Aubrey。

Take care, Aubrey.

再见。

Bye.

再见。

Bye.

感谢收听《All Ears English》。

Thanks for listening to All Ears English.

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Would you like to know your English level?