BE 599：想在工作中成为社交领袖？这里有方法！

这是《商务英语播客》第599期。

This is the Business English Podcast episode five ninety nine.

想在工作中成为社交领袖吗？

Want to be a social leader at work?

这里有个办法。

Here's how.

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无论是做演讲、开会议，还是参加公司聚会，这里都有地道的商务英语，由你们熟悉的美国主持人奥布里和米歇尔从亚利桑那和纽约为您带来。

For a presentation, a meeting, or your office party, this is Real Business English with your favorite American hosts, Aubrey and Michelle, coming to you from Arizona and New York City, USA.

你有没有过刚聊完天，就忍不住想：等等，他们刚才到底说了什么？

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, wait, what did they just say?

母语者说话都很快。

Native speakers speak fast.

他们经常插话。

They interrupt.

他们用很多俚语。

They use slang.

说的不是教科书上的那种英语。

They don't speak textbook English.

如果你有时候觉得跟不上，别担心，你不是一个人，也不是能力不够。

If you sometimes feel one step behind, you're not alone and you're not incapable.

你只是需要有针对性的听力训练。

You just need targeted listening training.

第一步，弄清楚你现在的水平，以及问题出在哪里。

The first step, find out your exact level and where the breakdown is happening.

去 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore 做个免费的流利度测试吧。

Take our quick free fluency quiz at allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

再次提醒，地址是 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

Again, that's allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

你好，米歇尔。

Hello, Michelle.

你最近怎么样？

How are you?

还不错。

Good.

奥布里，你呢？

How are you, Aubrey?

特别好。

Excellent.

我有个问题。

Question.

你觉得你自己算个领导者吗？

Would you consider yourself a leader?

在社交场合里，你通常能掌控全场吗？

Do you tend to command a room in a social situation?

我总是说‘看情况’，真讨厌自己这样。

I it's I hate how I always answer it depends.

但确实看情况。

But But it depends.

这真的要看情况。

It is it it does depend.

比如，得看我感觉有多自在。

Like, it depends how comfortable I am.

还得看我想多快把事情搞定。

It depends how much I wanna get something done.

是的。

Yeah.

如果我能

And if I can

就干脆放松一下，好好享受

just kinda sit back and enjoying

我是不是有点说得太多了？

Do I feel like I've been monopolizing a little bit?

我是不是一直

Have I been being

那个

the

在抢风头？

center of attention?

那我得退后一点，放松一下，让别人也当会儿主角，因为我感觉

Then I'm gonna sit back and chill and let someone else be the focus for a while because I feel

我有点扫兴。

like I'm bummer.

我和孩子们在一起吗？

Am I with my kids?

我是不是该先退一步，看看他们那边是什么情况？

Do I just need to hang back and figure out what's going on with them?

事情挺多的。

There's a lot.

是啊。

Yeah.

完全没错。

Totally.

今天会特别有意思，各位听众，你们在工作中、在下班后的聚会里、在休息室中，都会遇到这些小小的社交时刻，它们其实很有力量，而你在这些场合里能当多大程度的领导者，这事儿挺微妙的。

Today is going to be really interesting you guys because everyone out there listening, you are in these social situations at work, as well as in your daily life at happy hour, in the break room, we have these little social moments at work and they are powerful And how much you are a leader in these situations is tricky.

你该不该当领导者，又该怎么当好。

How much you should be a leader and how to do that well.

今天我们就来聊聊这个。

So we're talking about that today.

有个很好的问题想跟大家探讨。

Got, a great question about this.

这个想法其实来自我们五月的一场语言交流活动，有位学员提到，他在母语环境中天生就是个领导者。

This was actually inspired by in one of our fluency parties in May, a student expressed that he is a natural leader in his native language.

他住在美國，也在那裡工作。

He lives and works in The US.

他在用英語工作時，自然就成為了領導者，說話清晰又自信，因為這對他的職業成功至關重要。

And when he is working in English, he becomes this natural leader speaking clearly with confidence, because it's crucial for his success at work.

他別無選擇。

He has no choice.

但當涉及到英語的社交場合——比如在休息室，或者下班後聚會時——他卻總躲在角落裡。

But when it comes to these social connections in English, maybe in the break room, maybe at happy hour, he finds himself hanging back in the corner.

他腦子裡一直在翻譯。

He's translating in his head.

他沒辦法像在母語裡那樣，自信地參與這些更輕鬆的英語對話。

He doesn't have that confidence to dive into those more social conversations in English.

所以今天我們要談這個，因為這太關鍵了。

So we're talking about this today because this is vital.

工作中的這些社交機會，實在太重要了。

These social opportunities at work are so important.

是的，完全没错。

Yeah, absolutely.

你想啊，比如下班后小聚或者在休息室里，就是想跟同事多聊聊。

I mean, you think about it just like happy hours or being in the break room and just wanting to connect to people at work.

所以各位，我们真得把这些建议看得跟拓展人脉一样重要。

So guys, really, we have to treat these tips with the same importance that you give networking opportunities.

就是这些场合，对吧？

As these situations, right?

你在下班后聚餐或者在休息区的时候，

Situations you

这些场合，

are in

我们得把它们跟其他会议、研讨会，或者你处在人脉拓展状态时一样重视——你正在努力建立联系，你正在拓展人脉。

at happy hour in the breakout room, we need to give the same amount of importance to those as other, you know, meetings, conferences, you in the zone, the networking zone of I am trying to build this connection, I am networking.

这些更轻松、更随意的场合同样重要，因为你是在跟每天一起工作的同事建立真正的联系。

Those small, much more informal situations should be just as important because there you're building connections with people that you work with on a daily basis.

是的，完全没错。

Yeah, absolutely.

今天我们要分享三个有助于建立人际关系的领导力技巧。

So today we are going to be sharing three leadership skills that can help you build connections.

这个话题对建立联系特别有用，因为社交场合也需要领导者。

And this topic is great for connection because we need leaders in social situations.

说实话，有时候对话会冷场，聚会也会变得尴尬。

Because, I mean, honestly, sometimes the conversation goes flat, gatherings get awkward.

这时候你就需要这么一个人，来带头开启话题，让大家感到被接纳。

So you need that person, you need that leader to start the conversation, make people feel included.

这太重要了。

That's huge.

还能让每个人都感到自在。

And help everyone feel comfortable.

其实就是一种社交型的领导者。

So really like a social leader.

是的。

Yes.

我叫米歇尔。

This is me, Michelle.

我这人有时候真的有点过头了。

I am this to a fault, actually.

前几天我去参加一个派对，发现自己总是那个主动带动气氛的人，还常常拉着别人一起参与。

I was just at a party the other night, and I find myself, I am the one making sure that often other people do it too.

我会想办法让对话更有趣，比如突然抛个问题，或者提议玩个游戏。

But I am like making sure the conversation's interesting and I'll ask a random question to keep it interesting and or maybe let's play a game.

我有个游戏点子，就想让大家玩得开心点。

I have an idea for a game and I'm like, I wanna keep it fun.

有时候我会意识到，自己好像有点太积极了。

And then sometimes I'll do what I was saying where I'll realize like, I'm being a little much.

我得放松一点。

I'm gonna chill

让别人也来带带气氛吧。

and let

让别人暂时当一下聚会的主导者。

someone else be the social leader for a little while.

是的。

Uh-huh.

所以说，奥布里，这真的挺有意思的。

So guys, that's really funny, Aubrey.

我相信大家都会很感激你的用心。

I mean, I'm sure people appreciate that.

对，这种话我都听过好几次了。

Yeah, get that multiple times.

他们都说，太好了，你来了。

They're like, I'm so glad you were here.

这下可有意思多了。

This was way more fun.

没错。

Right.

对啊。

Right.

或者那次对话特别有意思。

Or that conversation was so interesting.

但这也挺难把握的，如果你不够留意，像我这样性格的人容易显得太抢风头。

But it is tricky because you can be a little much if you're not careful, if you have a personality like mine.

我知道自己能读懂社交信号，也总希望别人也能多表现一下，大家都能开心地分享想法。

And I recognize that I read the social cues and I want other people to also be the star and it'd be really fun and share their ideas.

所以这其实是个不断调整的过程。

So I it's kind of a constant give and take.

但在工作中建立这些联系真的特别重要。

But also this is so important at work to build those connections.

而且你在年会、团队活动里，职业生涯中有很多这样的机会，可以当社交的主导者，用上你的领导力，就像那个学生在语言派对上那样。

And you do you're at holiday parties, you're at work retreats, you have a lot of opportunities like this as a part of your career where you can be a social leader, you can use your leadership skills like this student at fluency parties.

这场流利派对所体现的领导力，也能帮助你成为更出色的社交领袖。

And that fluency party has these leadership skills that can be used to become a stronger social leader.

所以我特别期待和大家深入探讨这个话题。

So I'm excited to dive into this guys.

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Definitely love it.

那么在社交场合中，领导力具体体现在哪些方面？

So what does leadership look like in social situations?

是的，关键在于出色的沟通能力。

Yeah, strong communication.

首先，你不能只是躲在一旁小声嘀咕。

First of all, you cannot be just quietly speaking mumbling on the side.

这样可不行。

That does not work well.

对吧？

Right?

别人可能会说：‘不好意思，你刚说啥？’

Someone's like, sorry, what did you say?

还要照顾到其他人，让他们感到自在。

And also including others, making them feel comfortable.

我在对话中更喜欢多提问，少谈自己，这样对话才会更顺畅。

I ask a lot more questions in conversations than I talk about myself, and that is what builds a better conversation.

对。

Mhmm.

还要主动一点。

And also taking initiative.

比如主动说：‘大家咱们去干点啥吧’，或者提出个新话题之类的。

I think, you know, being the one to say, oh, guys, let's do this, or or may coming up with a new topic or something like that.

那我们来聊聊第一个领导力技巧吧。

So let's dive into our first leadership skill.

第一个技巧就是主动开启对话。

So the first skill is initiating conversations.

就像我们说的，迈出第一步。

So like we said, taking that first step.

很多英语学习者可能会退缩，等着别人先开口，但你其实没必要害怕。

Because many English learners might step back and let others start conversations, but you don't have to be afraid.

对吧？

Right?

别怕打破僵局。

Don't be afraid to break the ice.

别人会惊讶地说：哇。

People will be like, wow.

好吧。

Okay.

他们会注意到你主动开口聊天了。

You know, they're gonna recognize that you are starting conversations.

你敢迈出这一步，这会让你脱颖而出。

You're taking that initiative, and that's gonna pull you ahead.

没错。

Absolutely.

用第二语言做这件事真的难多了。

And this is so much harder in a second language.

我们懂，正在听的你一定有同感。

We feel you out there listening.

我讲西班牙语或法语的时候，确实不敢轻易开口搭话。

When I am speaking Spanish or French, I do hesitate to start these conversations.

但在英语里，我就轻松多了。

It's much easier for me in English.

不过只要想到交流比完美更重要，我就不那么纠结语法了。

But when I remember connection, perfection, I'm not worried about grammar.

我也不担心词汇量不够。

I'm not worried about vocabulary.

我只想跟人建立联系，所以我就直接开口聊起来了。

I just want to connect with someone and I do dive in and start a conversation.

我最近在超市的冰淇淋柜台跟一个人聊了起来。

I just recently was talking to someone at a grocery store in the ice cream.

她正在舀冰淇淋，母语是西班牙语。

She was scooping ice cream and her first language was Spanish.

她很快告诉我，她英语说得不多，因为刚从南美洲搬过来。

She told me quickly that she didn't speak a lot of English because she just had moved here from South America.

我特别兴奋，马上就搭话了。

I was so excited and I started the conversation.

我们用西班牙语聊得特别开心。

We had this amazing conversation in Spanish.

真的特别有趣。

Was so fun.

一旦你跨过这道坎，就会想：管它讲得完美不完美呢？

Once you get past that, right, you're like, Who cares if I'm speaking perfectly?

重要的是和这位很棒的新朋友建立联系。

Connecting with this awesome new friend.

没错。

Exactly.

对啊。

Exactly.

那英语学习者该怎么自然地做到这一点呢？

So but how can an English learner do this naturally?

比如说，多问一些开放性的问题。

I mean, one thing is to ask open ended questions.

对吧？

Right?

就是那种不能只用‘是’或‘不是’回答的问题。

Questions where people really have to give you more of an answer than yes or no.

另一点是选你真正感兴趣的话题，因为这样你会更愿意去聊它们。

And then another thing is to pick topics that you're genuinely interested in because you're gonna feel more excited to talk about them.

别人也能感觉到这一点。

And people can pick up on that.

当你兴奋、投入的时候，这种情绪是有感染力的，别人也会对你更感兴趣，想听听你怎么说。

You know, it's contagious when you're excited, when you're interested, and people get more interested in you Yeah, and curious to hear what you have to

我那次经历就是，我们在聊语言学习，她在学英语，我在学西班牙语。

that experience I had, we were talking about language learning because she's talking about learning English, I'm talking about learning Spanish.

我们在这方面有共同点。

We had that in common.

所以一上来我们就觉得，对，我们都对这个感兴趣。

So that immediately we're like, yes, we're both interested in this.

但对很多人来说，可能是电视剧、播客、电影——只要你感兴趣的东西，找到共同话题，从那儿展开对话就行。

But with a lot of people, it might be TV shows, podcasts, movies, whatever you're interested in, find common ground and build the conversation from there.

对。

Yeah.

没错。

Exactly.

所以啊，选的话题或者问题要跟对方的生活有关联。

So, yeah, make the topics or questions just relatable to the people you talk to.

另外，我得说，这其实是个很实际的策略。

And also find I mean, this is a real, you know, this is more a concrete strategy here.

挑三个好用的开场问题，多练几遍，让它们听起来自然，别老想着逐字翻译。

Find three good opening questions and practice saying them so they sound natural, So you don't need to translate.

对吧？

Right?

没错。

So Yes.

我来给你举几个例子。

And here are some good examples.

都是很不错的开场白。

Great openers.

你认识主办方吗？

How do you know the host?

比如你参加某个派对，或者公司聚会的时候。

If you're at some kind of party or like if you're at a work party.

像是节日派对或者下班后小聚之类的场合。

So it's some kind of holiday party or happy hour.

那种时候根本就没有主办方。

So there's not a host.

你所处的场合根本不存在什么主办方。

You're not in a social situation where there would be a host.

那你就直接问：最近在忙什么？

Instead, just what have you been up to lately?

你平时周末都怎么过？

What do you usually do on the weekend?

上个周末你做了些什么？

What did you do last weekend?

说到周末，大家在工作中总是特别有话说。

Oh, talking about weekends is always fun for people at work.

这给了你一个机会聊聊自己的私生活。

Gives you a chance to talk about your private life.

可以分享一下家人、朋友，或者平时喜欢做些什么。

Say or say share something about your family or your friends, what you do for fun.

是的。

Yes.

好的。

Alright.

第二个技巧，多关注别人。

Skill number two, include others.

这一点特别重要。

This is so important.

没人喜欢一个只谈自己的人。

Nobody likes a me monster.

在社交场合里，别只顾着说自己那点事。

Don't be that person in a social situation that is just talking about yourself.

我们都懂，这种人太常见了。

We've all been there.

那种人谁不认识啊。

We know that person.

真让人难受。

It's painful.

是的。

Yes.

没错。

Exactly.

这个是我最喜欢的一条，我觉得。

This one this is my favorite one, I think.

我的意思是，确实如此。

I mean Mhmm.

这真的特别重要。

This is so important.

如果你能照顾到别人，比如有人坐在那儿，你不太确定他们是不是觉得不舒服，你就得留意一下。

If you include others, you know, there's someone sitting there, you're not sure, you know, if it it you have to kind of read like some maybe somebody else is feeling uncomfortable.

也许他们有点害羞。

Maybe they're feeling a little shy.

你要当那个带头的人。

Be that leader.

那英语学习者该怎么自然地做到这一点呢？

So how can an English learner do this naturally though?

是的。

Yeah.

这挺有意思的。

It's interesting.

因为真正的领导者不会垄断谈话。

Because leaders don't dominate conversations.

他们会主动带动其他人参与。

They bring others in.

他们会营造一种合作的氛围。

They make it collaborative.

他们会让每个人都觉得有趣。

They make it interesting for everyone.

首先，要留意社交中的细微信号。

So first of all, listening to social cues.

注意观察对方的肢体语言。

Pay attention to body language.

还有站位和空间安排。

Positioning.

别让对话戛然而止。

Make sure not to close the conversation.

如果看到有人走过来，我总会主动让出空间，表示欢迎。

If I see someone approaching, I always will physically make space and I'm welcoming them in.

我还会赶紧跟新来的人介绍一下我们刚才在聊什么，或者直接说，‘布拉德，你认识简吗？’

And I'll also say quickly, like, catch them up on what we were talking about or, Oh, Brad, have you met Jan?

如果我都认识，那就更简单了。

If I know them both, Right.

我会尽一切努力让气氛更包容，让新来的人觉得被欢迎加入我们。

I'm doing everything I can to make it inclusive and make them feel welcome joining our circle.

没错。

Right.

这真的会带来很大的不同。

Oh, it makes such a difference.

当你感到有点不安的时候，如果有人主动说‘来，认识一下’，而且是真心在意你的感受。

When you are that person who's feeling a little bit uneasy and someone is saying, oh, meet this you know, and and actually care.

你能感觉到对方是真的希望你被接纳。

Like you can tell they care that you feel included.

你一定会特别喜欢这样的人。

You're just going to love that person.

没错。

Exactly.

还要会看气氛。

And reading the room.

留意一下

See if

有没有人看起来想聊聊天。

you see anyone who looks like they would like to chat.

他们是不是有点害羞，但又好像想说话？我之前参加一个派对就遇到过这种情况。

Are they do they seem shy, but maybe like they want to talk or this happened to me at the party I was referring to.

我们当时有四五个人在聊天。

There was we were kind of chatting.

我们聊得正开心，注意到旁边有两个人，只是轻轻喝着饮料，彼此也没怎么说话。

There were like four or five of us and we were having this great conversation and I could see that there were two people close by who were kind of sipping from their drinks and not really talking much to each other.

我就主动过去打招呼，把他们拉进来了——毕竟，他们自己贸然加入，可能会觉得不太自在。

I just was kind of like, oh, did you like I welcomed them in and they because they it probably would have been uncomfortable for them to be like, we join you guys?

所以我直接对他们说：来，跟我们一起聊吧，是的。

So I instead was like, talk to us Yes.

七个人聊天一样热闹，结果特别好。

And a group of seven is just as fun as and it was it worked out great.

对啊。

Yeah.

还有，大家多用一些包容性的问题。

And guys, use inclusive questions.

对吧？

Right?

可以问问那些比较安静的人。

So extend the question to a quieter person.

比如看起来不太融入、有点害羞的人。

So someone who seems like they're not feeling included, someone who's feeling a little shy.

你可以问：你觉得呢？

So you can ask things like, what do you think?

你呢？

How about you?

你以前是怎么试过的？

Or how have you ever tried that?

如果你知道他们的名字，就叫出来。

Or and if you know their name, use it.

每个人都喜欢听到自己的名字。

Everyone loves hearing their names.

Emily，你觉得呢？

What about you, Emily?

对吧？

Right?

你可以问的问题多着呢。

There's all sorts of things you can ask.

没错。

Exactly.

我就这么把他们请进来的。

And that's how I invited them in.

我们当时正聊一部刚看过的电影，《星际过客》，我之前提过这部片子。

We were like talking we were talking about a a movie we had all just seen, project hail Mary, which I've talked about.

是啊，我看过。

I you yeah.

我觉得你跟这部电影有利益关系。

I think you have stock in this movie.

我确实应该。

I should.

我心想，

I'm like,

我要是每提一次这部电影都能赚钱就好了。

I wish I were making money for every time I mentioned it.

我真的很喜欢这部片子。

I just loved it.

但我们聊着聊着，发现他们俩一直没开口。

But so we were talking about it and I saw them kind of not talk.

你知道吗？

Oh, you know what?

其实我们聊的是迈克尔·杰克逊的那部传记片。

Was actually the Michael biopic we were talking about, the Michael Jackson.

这话题挺敏感的，因为大家对要不要去看这部电影看法不一，毕竟他过去有些争议。

And we were kind of this was a tricky conversation because people had different opinions about whether people should be attending it because of the little bit of problematic past.

有人觉得他没被定罪，也有人说，我不确定。

And some people are like, he wasn't convicted and others are like, I don't know.

所以那两个一直没说话的人，我就问他们：你们怎么看？

And so these two that kind of weren't part of the conversation, I asked them like, what do you think?

我特意邀请他们加入，因为这话题确实值得聊聊。

And sort of invited them in because it was an interesting conversation.

大家都想听听别人是怎么想的。

Everyone wants to know everyone else's opinions.

问他们一个问题，让他们也参与进来。

Ask them a question to invite them in.

对。

Yeah.

这个建议真的非常好。

Really, really good tip there.

接下来第三个技巧是自然地回应。

And then our third skill is to react naturally.

我们常常在别人说完话后立刻做出反应。

So often we use reaction phrases immediately after someone says something.

这样能表明你听到了对方的话。

This confirms we heard them.

也展现了你真实的感受。

It shows our genuine reaction.

不管是惊讶、开心、祝贺，还是共情，都可以。

Surprise, happiness, congratulations, empathy, whatever that is.

这还体现了真实感。

And it shows authenticity.

这样会让人更想靠近你。

This attracts people.

他们会更愿意跟你聊天，这才是建立联系的方式。

It makes them want to talk to you and that is how you build connection.

是的，说得对。

Yeah, exactly.

所以，关键是要让对方感觉到你真的在认真听，对吧？

So, you know, it's just really important to actually show that you're listening to someone, right?

而且你的反应要能传达出你对他们的兴趣。

And that you're reacting in a way that shows that you're interested.

那英语学习者该怎么自然地做到这一点呢？

So what about how can an English learner do this naturally?

对。

Yeah.

一个不错的建议是，准备并练习五到十个回应短语。

One good tip is to create and practice a bank of five to

10个反应表达。

10 reaction phrases.

这里有一些不错的例子。

So here are some good examples.

真的吗？

No way.

这能表现出惊讶和兴奋。

This shows surprise and excitement.

可以是正面的，也可以是负面的。

It can be positive or negative.

如果有人说了你没想到的事。

If someone says No something that you way.

对吧？

Right?

这得看你具体说的是什么情况。

It depends on the context of what you mean.

或者‘天啊’，表达惊讶。

Or, oh wow, which shows surprise.

这些表达都很具体，对吧？

So these are specific, right?

如果事情根本没让人吃惊，你就别用‘不可能’或者‘天啊’，得是有点出人意料的事才合适。

If it's something that's not at all surprising, you would not wanna say no way or oh wow, it needs to be something a little bit surprising to say that.

对，没错。

Right, right.

或者‘真的吗？’

Or seriously?

这个，我记得我们以前做过一期专门讲这个的。

So this, I think we did a whole show on this once.

但这个表达的是难以置信。

But this shows disbelief.

这可以是正面的，也可以是负面的。

So this can be positive or negative.

比如，天哪，堵车堵了我四个小时才到这儿。

So like, Oh my gosh, the traffic, it took me four hours to get you here.

真的吗？

Seriously?

这个说法特别到位。

So that's a really good one.

用这个要小心，语调不一样，意思可能完全是怀疑，对吧？

Be careful with this one because depending on your intonation, it's definitely can be expressing doubt, Right?

如果有人说‘真的’。

If someone says True.

举个好例子，有人跟你说：‘我还没看过《星际过客》。’

You know, good example is if someone's like, I haven't seen Project Hail Mary.

我可能会回一句：真的吗？

I might be like, Seriously?

那里可能暗含着一种评判。

And there might be implied judgment there.

所以如果你不希望别人觉得你在批评他们的人生，就得小心点——比如你根本没看过那部电影，我就在批评你的人生选择。

So, be careful if you don't want someone to feel like you are disapproving But of their life also, if you never saw that movie, I'm disapproving of your life decisions.

我知道你有。

I know you are.

我知道你有，奥布里。

I know you are, Aubrey.

还有，这很棒，或者说，这说得通。

Also, that's awesome Or that makes sense.

对吧？

Right?

像这种表达，只是对某事做出积极回应，你可以经常用。

Something like this that shows just a positive reaction to something like, you can use these a lot.

它们能表现出你理解对方。

They show understanding.

这些回应方式特别好，能让对方觉得你在认真听。

They're just a great way to respond to what someone said, to show them you're engaged.

对。

Mhmm.

是的。

Yeah.

听到这个我真替你难过。

I'm so sorry to hear that.

如果对方处境不好，这种话能表达你的关心和理解。

If you're if they're in a bad situation, it shows concern or empathy.

所以啊，这些说法能帮对话持续下去。

So, you know, these phrases just keep the conversation going.

而且还能给你时间，好好想想接下来怎么说。

And they also give you time so you can follow-up with more thoughts.

比如问个后续问题多了解点，或者分享一下你的看法，又或者转到相关的话题上。

And that might be something like a follow-up question to understand more or a personal opinion or just redirecting to a similar topic.

不过咱们来做个角色扮演吧。

But let's Let's do a role play here.

你来扮演

Let's do a You

我来扮演。

role and I.

这个场景是

This is

挺有意思的一个。

a fun one.

我们正在参加一位同事的生日聚会，边喝边聊。

We're at a happy hour meetup for a coworker's birthday.

今天是克里斯的生日。

It's Chris's birthday.

大家都来参加这个小聚，为他庆祝。

We've all gone to happy hour to celebrate.

而且你知道，我们其实都不认识彼此。

And you know, we don't know each other.

所以有些是克里斯的朋友，有些是同事，都受邀来了。

So this is some of Chris's friends have been invited and coworkers.

现场有很多人，我们压根儿都不认识。

So there's a lot of people there that we don't know.

我们都聚在吧台这儿，但大家还没怎么聊起来。

And we're all gathered at the bar, but conversation isn't flowing quite yet.

那我来开个头吧。

So I'll start us out.

准备好了吗？

Ready?

好。

Okay.

大家都是怎么认识克里斯的？

So how does everyone know Chris?