BE 611：问太多问题？如何为“审讯式”提问道歉

这里是商务英语播客，第611期。

This is the Business English Podcast episode six eleven.

问太多问题，如何为像审问一样的提问道歉。

Asking too many questions, how to apologize for the interrogation.

欢迎收听来自All Ears English的商务英语播客。

Welcome to the Business English Podcast from All Ears English.

获取你在全球商务中实现梦想所需的英语技能。

Get the English skills you need to achieve your dreams in global business.

无论是做演示、开会，还是参加办公室派对，这都是真实的商务英语，由你最喜爱的美国主持人Lindsay和Michelle带来，她们分别来自美国纽约市和科罗拉多州。

For a presentation, a meeting, or your office party, this is real business English with your favorite American host, Lindsay and Michelle, coming to you from New York City and Colorado, USA.

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Fluency doesn't mean speaking perfectly.

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It means speaking without tension, with ease, and in a way that will build connection, without translating, without second guessing.

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If English still feels heavy for you, you need clarity on how to get better, not more effort.

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Take it today at allenglish.com/fluencyscore.

网址是 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

That's allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

嘿，Lindsay。

Hey, Lindsay.

你好吗？

How are you?

我很好，Michelle。

Good, Michelle.

很好。

Good.

你好吗？

How are you?

最近怎么样？

How's it going?

挺好的。

Going well.

挺好的。

Going well.

Lindsay，你喜欢被问一大堆问题吗？

Lindsay, do you enjoy being asked a ton of questions?

我喜欢被问一大堆问题吗？

Do I enjoy being asked a ton of questions?

哇。

Wow.

这真的取决于这个人问这些问题的原因。

It really depends on why it feels like this person's asking these questions.

他们是真心感兴趣，还是让我觉得有点被攻击的感觉？

Are they just genuinely interested, or do I feel under attack in some way?

没错。

Exactly.

当然，这两者是有区别的。

There's, like, there's a difference, of course.

所以，是的。

So Yes.

我的意思是，当然，如果有人问我问题，而且我们是在自然聊天，我是喜欢回答问题的。

I mean, of course, if somebody's asking me questions and we're in a natural conversation, I I like answering questions.

那挺有意思的。

And that's fun.

但如果你是……

But if you're...

如果你觉得那个人有点别有用心，那就会开始让人觉得有攻击性了。

If you feel like that person, there's kind of an ulterior motive, it can start to feel aggressive.

就像审讯一样。

Like, kind of like an interrogation.

对。

Yep.

就像你被攻击了。

Like, you're under attack.

就像我说的，攻击性。

Like I said, aggression.

有一种感觉……

There's a sense...

会让人觉得很……

It it can feel quite...

是的。

Yes.

就像这些东西像子弹一样朝你飞来。

Like, these things are coming at you like bullets or something.

所以我们在之前的一期节目里讨论过这个想法的说法，就是商务英语575期，工作中被追问，如何应对高压问题。

So we did discuss a phrase for this idea in one of our previous episodes that was business English five seventy five getting grilled at work, how to talk about high pressure questions.

那那个说法是什么来着，Michelle？

So that phrase was what, Michelle?

就是

It was to

就是 grill someone，追问某人。

To grill someone.

这个真的很有意思。

So this was very interesting.

所以这个……

So this...

那Lindsay，grill someone是什么意思？

So Lindsay, what does it mean to grill someone?

就是我们刚才说的那个意思。

Exactly what we've just said.

你知道，尤其是在那种情况下，感觉对方好像不是非要指责你。

You know, especially in a a situation where it feels like the person's trying to just, like, maybe not accuse you necessary.

这是一种负面的感觉。

It's a negative a negative feeling.

就是一连串的问题，砰砰砰地来。

It's boom, boom, boom, question.

跟我说说这个。

Tell me about this.

跟我说说这个。

Tell me about this.

跟我说说这个。

Tell me about this.

而且一直不停。

And it never lets up.

感觉压力很大。

It feels intense.

是的。

Yes.

没错。

Exactly.

所以你是在让对方为自己的行为辩解。

So you're making, like, that person justify their behavior.

他们……

They're...

就是感觉不对劲。

It just it just feels wrong.

所以，他们可能只是想获取信息，但谁知道他们到底在干什么呢。

So yeah, they might just be trying to get information, but maybe who knows what they're doing.

所以今天我们要讨论该怎么说。

So today we're discussing what to say.

这是第575集的后续，如果你还没听过那一集，一定要去听听。

This is a follow-up to Five seventy five, so definitely listen to that one if you haven't already.

在你做这些的时候，记得点一下关注按钮，这样你就不会错过商务英语播客的任何内容。

And while you're doing that, sure that you hit the follow button so that you never miss anything from the Business English Podcast.

我们每周更新三期，可不想你错过。

So we're here three days a week, and we don't want you to miss it.

那我们直接进入正题吧。

Let us hop right into your queue.

完全同意。

Totally.

所以今天的话题是，当你成为那个问问题的人时。

So so today's side is when you are the one asking all those questions.

但你其实……

But you do...

你确实是出于好意。

You actually have good intentions.

所以你担心这会给别人留下什么印象。

So you're worried how that's gonna come off.

你其实不想让他们觉得像在被审问一样。

You don't actually want them to feel interrogated.

今天的高级词汇，C1、C2级别的，就是“interrogated”，这个词很棒。

That's a great word, high level c one, c two word for today, interrogated.

Interrogated。

Interrogated.

对。

Yes.

那么，Lindsay，如果我们问了很多问题，但又不想让对方感到不舒服，我们可以怎么说呢？

So what can we say, Lindsay, if we're asking a lot of questions, but we don't want that other person to feel uncomfortable?

我们不想让他们觉得我们在拷问他们。

We don't want them to think that we're grilling them.

其实你可以直接说，我不是故意要拷问你。

I mean, you can simply say, I don't mean to grill you.

比如，我不是故意要拷问你。

So for example, I don't mean to grill you.

我只是想弄清楚这里发生了什么。

I'm just trying to understand what happened here.

所以你稍微放低姿态，去核实一下实际情况。

So you're coming down to their level a bit, and you're you're you're coming in for a reality check.

这是我这边真实的情况。

This is what's really happening from my side.

或者说，抱歉问了这么多问题。

Or sorry for all the questions.

我不是故意要盘问你。

I don't mean to grill you.

所以，对，你是在……

So, yeah, you're you're...

再说，我们聊……

Again, we talk...

我们一直在聊自我意识之类的话题。

We've been talking about like self awareness and things like that.

而且，你知道，如果你意识到……

And, you know, if you realize...

如果你真的不是想刁难别人，但你觉得，哦，这听起来有点那个意思了，这些话真的很好用，能保持那种联系，不让对方感到不舒服，或者觉得不想跟你分享什么。

If you're genuinely not trying to grill someone, but you think, oh, it's starting to sound a little bit like that, these are really good to say to keep that connection going, not make that person feel uncomfortable or like they don't wanna share something with you.

确实是这样。

It's so true.

我们刚刚……

We just did...

我们很快会推出一期关于自我意识的精彩节目，当你反复谈论某件事的时候，这跟那个话题有点关联。

We will be coming out soon with a great episode about self awareness and when you talk about something repetitively, and this kinda ties in a little bit.

所以，各位，那是在All Ears English上。

So, guys, that's over on All Ears English.

所以一定要打开你的搜索栏，搜索All Ears English Podcast，然后点击关注按钮，这样你就不会错过接下来几周要播出的那期节目了。

So make sure you open your search bar, search for All Ears English Podcast, and hit the follow button so you don't miss that episode coming up in the coming weeks.

好吗？

K?

是的。

Yes.

没错。

Exactly.

那你还能说什么呢？

So what's what's another thing you could say?

我不想追问你，但是……

I don't wanna grill you, but...

这就是这里的结构。

So that's the structure here.

我不想追问你，但我对那份报告有很多问题。

I don't wanna grill you, but I have tons of questions about the report.

或者，我不想追问你，但我需要了解即将到来的活动的所有细节。

Or I don't wanna grill you, but I need to know everything there is to know about the upcoming event.

还有一些……

And some...

这真的很有用，因为在很多职业里，你都得知道。

And this is really useful because in a lot of professions, like, you have to know.

对。

Okay.

比如有人生成了一份报告，你得检查数据是否正确，或者你心里有疑问。

Someone generated a report and you have to check to make sure the data is correct or you have doubts about it.

提问是完全合理的。

It's totally valid to ask questions.

你明白吗？

You know?

完全没问题。

It's totally fine.

关键是你怎么去问。

It's just how do you approach it?

这就是

That's the

关键。

key.

是的，没错。

Yes, exactly.

所以，就像我们在第575集里提到的“盘问”一样，Lindsay，我们一直在讨论“审问”这个词。

So, and just like in episode five seventy five that we mentioned about grilling someone, we can also, Lindsay, we've been talking about the word interrogate.

所以你可以用“审问”来显得更正式一些。

So you could use interrogate to be a little bit more formal.

比如，“我不是想审问你。”

So like, I don't mean to interrogate you.

抱歉问这么多问题。

Sorry about all the questions.

我不是想审问你。

I don't mean to interrogate you.

这里带点讽刺的意味。

There's a hint of sarcasm here.

因为你用的是更强烈的词。

Because you are using a stronger word.

比如“interrogate”就像是在某人……对，就是那种情况。

Like interrogate is like what someone does when someone's yeah.

对，就是在……对。

At the at yeah.

警察局。

The police station.

警察局。

Police station.

所以我们看到，比如在《60分钟》之类的节目里。

So we see like at sixty minutes or something.

就像有人在警察局，警察在问关于谋杀当晚事件时间线的问题。

As someone was at the police station, the cops are asking questions about the timeline of the event of the night of the murder.

所以你就是，像在选那个……

So so you are, like, choosing that select...

你选那个更强烈的词，是因为你在加讽刺。

You're selecting that more intense word because you're adding sarcasm.

哦，我不想让这感觉像审讯什么的。

Oh, I don't want this to feel like an interrogation or anything.

你懂吧？

You know?

或者，就像，我早前不是故意要审问你。

Or, like, I didn't mean to interrogate you earlier.

所以这事已经发生了，你是在试图补救之前的情况。

So this is already happened and you're kinda trying to repair whatever happened.

我当时得赶紧把那些信息都收集起来。

I had to gather all that info quickly.

所以事后这也有用，如果你……

So that's also useful after the fact if you...

如果有必要的话。

If necessary.

完全同意。

Completely.

或者下次这样说：我不想审问你，但是某某某。

Or next construction, I don't wanna interrogate you, but x y z.

我不想审问你，但我想了解一下是什么导致了延误。

I don't wanna interrogate you, but I'd like to understand what led to the delay.

好的。

Okay.

很好。

Good.

行。

Alright.

我们稍微休息一下，然后回来再聊一会儿。

We'll take a quick break, and then we'll come back for a little bit more.

好吗？

K?

你有没有在说英语之后感到筋疲力尽？

Have you ever felt exhausted after speaking English?

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Not because the conversation was difficult, but because your brain was working overtime to translate, checking grammar, searching for vocabulary, but true fluency actually feels lighter.

你花在思考英语上的时间更少，更多的时间是与他人交流。

You spend less time thinking about English and more time connecting with people.

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Find out what's standing between you and that next level that you're looking for.

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访问 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

Go to allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

就是 allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore。

That's allearsenglish.com/fluencyscore.

好的。

Okay.

米歇尔，这里我们还能怎么说？

Michelle, what else can we say here?

你觉得呢？

What do you think?

嗯，其实你可以简单地道个歉，比如说“抱歉问了这么多问题”。

Well, I mean, you can simply apologize in a way by saying, sorry for all the questions.

不过我们之前也聊过这个。

So we also talk about this though.

你知道，我们不需要对所有事情都感到抱歉，但有时候这能表现出一种谦逊，让人觉得你很有自知之明，而且你……

You know, we don't always need to be apologetic about everything, but this I think it can sometimes just show a humbleness that shows you're self aware and that you're...

你不想让对方感到任何压力。

You you don't want that person to feel any pressure.

所以“抱歉问了这么多问题”。

So sorry for all the questions.

我还在慢慢熟悉公司的情况。

I'm still getting my bearings of the company.

有时候直接一点反而让人觉得很清爽。

Sometimes it can just be refreshing just to be very straightforward.

这算是做这件事最直接的方式了。

This is kind of the most straightforward way of doing it.

他们就是简单地说声抱歉。

They're just saying sorry.

或者你可以更正式一点，说“为所有问题道歉”。

Or you could make it more formal and say, apologize for all the questions.

那样听起来更商务一些。

That's just a little more business y.

我为所有问题道歉。

I apologize for all the questions.

我没有接到这个任务的简报。

I wasn't briefed on the assignment.

没错。

Exactly.

还有一件事你可以做，就是为盘问别人而道歉，也就是“give someone the third degree”，这个词也是来自同一集。

And another thing you can do is apologize for giving someone the third degree, which was give someone the third degree that was also from the same episode.

同样，它的意思是，你知道的，向某人提出一连串尖锐的问题。

Again it means to, you know, ask someone a series of intense questions.

所以当你为盘问别人而道歉时，通常语气比较轻松幽默。

So when you apologize for giving someone the third degree, it's it's usually kinda light and humorous.

比如，抱歉在这里盘问你。

So for example, sorry for giving you the third degree here.

抱歉刚才盘问你。

Sorry for giving you the third degree back there.

我只是对那个项目特别困惑。

I was just super confused about the project.

我记得我学这个短语的时候，是看一些关于青少年的节目，他们回家晚了，父母就会盘问他们，就是那种情况。

I I remember learning this phrase when I used to watch, like, I don't know, shows about teenagers and they'd say their parents gave them the third degree when they came home late from from being out, you know, that kind of thing.

我不知道这个短语从哪来的。

I don't know where that phrase comes from.

这个挺有意思的。

It's an interesting one.

我觉得我还会听到，如果有人对别人刨根问底，或者他们觉得自己被审问了，他们可能会说，'这是怎么回事，这么刨根问底？'

I I think I I also will hear, like, if somebody is giving someone else the third degree or they feel interrogated, they might say something like, what's with the third degree?

'怎么回事？'

What's with?

那真是……

That's a really...

我们应该再做一个单独的节目。

We should do a whole other submission.

专门讲'怎么回事'。

On what's with.

那在《All Ears English》上会很好。

That would be great on All Ears English.

对。

Yes.

太喜欢这个了。

Love that.

就是简化一下，说“抱歉，刚才问得太多了”。

Just shortening it, saying sorry for the third degree.

我想我现在明白怎么回事了。

I think I understand what happened now.

抱歉，刚才问得太多了。

Sorry for the third degree.

所以你是把它简化了。

So you're shortening it.

你只是说，但很明显那些追问是你问的。

You're just saying, but it's obvious that the third degree came from you.

对。

Yes.

没错。

Exactly.

所以，是的，这些真的都非常有帮助，非常有用。

So, yeah, these are all really, really helpful and useful.

它们，你知道的，它们能建立那种联系。

They they, you know, they build that connection.

它们表明你在认真听，你知道某句话听起来可能是什么感觉，你只是想让那个人知道你已经注意到了这一点。

They show you're paying attention and you know how something may sound and you just want that person to know that you are recognizing that.

没错。

Exactly.

米歇尔，我们来做个角色扮演吧。

Let's break into a role play here, Michelle.

我们刚和同事们开完一个商务会议，在会上我问了你很多问题。

We just finished a business meeting with other colleagues, and I asked you many questions during that meeting.

所以那可能让你觉得有点紧张。

So that might have felt kind of intense.

现在会议结束后，我们私下里一对一地聊一聊。

Now we're having a little private chat just one on one after the meeting.

好？

K?

开始吧。

Here we go.

刚才那些问题，我向你道歉。

I apologize for all the questions back there.

我不是故意要追问你的。

I didn't mean to grill you.

哦，没关系。

Oh, it's okay.

我理解，合同条款确实很让人困惑。

I understand that the contract terms were super confusing.

现在都清楚了吗？

Is everything clear now?

是的。

Yes.

谢谢。

Thank you.

再次为刚才的追问道歉。

And again, sorry for the third degree.

希望我没有显得太咄咄逼人。

I hope I didn't come off as too aggressive.

哦，不会。

Oh, no.

你挺好的。

You're fine.

我很乐意帮你澄清这些疑惑。

I'm happy to clear up the confusion.

我很感激。

I appreciate that.

这次交流很愉快。

Very nice exchange.

而且大多数时候，只要你对自己的工作有信心，回答问题应该没问题。

And most of the time, if you stand behind your work, you should be okay answering questions.

关键就是，语气里有没有恶意？

It's just like, is there a tone of meanness there?

我觉得如果我们在这里道歉的话，那就没有恶意。

I think if we're apologizing here, then there's not.

只是对方需要知道，你对自己的工作有信心，所以你就回答问题。

It's just that the person needs to know and you stand behind your work and so you answer the questions.

就是……

It's...

我们可以保持专业。

We can keep it professional here.

当然可以。

Absolutely.

所以这次交流很棒。

So this was great.

所以你说，我为刚才那些问题道歉。

So you said, I apologize for all the questions back there.

然后你说，我不是故意要为难你。

And then you said, I didn't mean to grill you.

然后我说，再次为连环追问道歉。

And then I said, and sorry again for the third degree.

然后一切都很好。

And then it was great.

你知道，很包容，而且我觉得我也让你感觉好多了，因为我说，哦，没事。

Know, receptive, and I think I also made you feel better by telling you, oh, no.

那其实是……

It it was...

就像，你知道，基本上我在说，我不觉得那是那样。

Like, you know, basically, I'm saying I didn't see it that way.

我没有那种感觉。

I wasn't feeling that.

你没那么想。

You didn't see it that way.

对，就是这样。

Exactly.

我喜欢这个。

I love it.

我的意思是，这里的重点是，向别人询问他们工作的更多信息是可以的，尤其是我们很多人工作中都有依赖关系。

And I mean, the takeaway here is it it is okay to ask people for more information about their work, especially if many of us have dependencies at work.

我们需要那个人的报告，拿去给这些人展示。

We need that person's report to go take it and present it to these people.

或者它会支撑我们的产品，或者我们需要确保它是正确的。

Or it's gonna it's gonna back up our product or something that we need to be be sure it's correct.

问问题完全没问题。

That's totally okay to ask questions.

但关键只是，如果你觉得自己可能给人留下了错误的印象，或者对某人来说太严厉了，之后总是好的，去关心一下，也许道个歉。

But it's just a matter of, like, if you feel like maybe you've given the wrong impression, it's been too intense for someone, later on, it's always nice to just check-in and offer a little apology maybe.

对。

Exactly.

好的，Lindsay。

Alright, Lindsay.

今天聊得很开心。

Well, has been a lot of fun.

很高兴我们聊了这些。

I'm glad we talked about this.

这是一个非常重要的沟通技巧。

This is a huge connection skill.

是的。

Yes.

好，那我们回头再聊。

And, yeah, I'll talk to you soon.

好的。

Alright.

好的，米歇尔。

Sounds good, Michelle.

回头聊。

Talk soon.

再见。

Bye.

好的。

Alright.

再见。

Bye.

感谢收听《商务英语》，这是一个专为你——追求卓越的全球职场人士——打造的播客。

Thank you for listening to Business English, a podcast just for you, the high achieving global professional.

想从All Ears English获取更多内容吗？

Want more from All Ears English?

不要错过我们最大最好的播客，每月下载量达800万次。

Don't miss our biggest and best podcast with 8,000,000 monthly downloads.

直接搜索All Ears English播客，点击关注，每周就能收到四集新节目，内容涵盖流利度、美国文化、语法等等，非常丰富。

Just search for the All Ears English Podcast and hit follow to get four new episodes per week on fluency, American culture, grammar, and so much more.

或者点击节目备注里的链接也行。

Or tap the link in the show notes.

记住，我们相信学英语重在交流，而不是追求完美。

Remember, we believe in connection not perfection when it comes to learning English.

现在就关注All Ears English播客吧。

Follow the All Ears English Podcast now.