连我自己都感到惊讶的忏悔

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以下是您的成功导师，达伦·哈迪。

Here's your success mentor, Darren Hardy.

今天早上，我整理了一些深刻的智慧想与大家分享。

So I have come up with some profound wisdom that I wanna share with you here this morning.

这是对一个古老问题的回答，自古以来，哲学家、导师、学者、智者、诗人、小说家和理论家们一直在思考和阐述这个问题。

It is an answer to an age old question, one that philosophers, gurus, scholars, sages, poets, novelists, and theorists have been pondering and pontificating about since the beginning of pondering and pontificating.

那就是：过一种美好的生活意味着什么？

And that is what does it mean to live a good life?

心理学领域此前提出了两个关于所谓美好生活的概念。

Well, the field of psychology has previously produced two concepts on what is called the good life.

一个是幸福的生活，常被称为享乐型幸福感。

One is a happy life, often referred to as hedonic well-being.

换句话说，做那些仅仅因为让你快乐而让你快乐的事情。

In other words, doing stuff that makes you happy just because it makes you happy.

所谓幸福生活，是指充满稳定、愉悦、享受和积极情绪的生活。

A happy life, as it's called, is a life full of stability, pleasure, enjoyment, and positive emotions.

第二种被称为有意义的生活，通常称为享乐型福祉。

The second is what's called a meaningful life, often referred to as a eudemonic well-being.

这是一种有目标导向的生活，充满美德、奉献、服务、牺牲，以及对人类卓越的追求。

This is living a purpose driven life, one of virtue, devotion, service, sacrifice, and in the pursuit of human excellence.

但近年来，一种长期被忽视的生活方式正获得更多研究关注。

But in recent years, a long neglected version of the good life has been receiving greater research attention.

它被称为心理丰富的生命。

It is called the psychologically rich life.

心理丰富的生命意味着全面而复杂的心理参与，拥有广泛而强烈的情感，以及多样、新颖、出人意料且有趣的经验。

Now, the psychologically rich life is a full complex mental engagement, a wide range of intense and deep emotions and diverse, novel and surprising and interesting experiences.

这些经历有时是愉快的，有时是有意义的，有时既不愉快也没有意义。

Sometimes the experiences are pleasant, sometimes they are meaningful, and sometimes they are neither pleasant nor meaningful.

然而，它们很少是无聊或单调的。

However, they are rarely boring or monotonous.

幸福的生活和有意义的生活也可能变得单调和重复。

Both happy and meaningful lives can become monotonous as well as repetitive.

一个有稳定办公室工作、已婚并有孩子的人，可能总体上对生活感到幸福，但仍会觉得无聊至极。

A person with a steady office job, married with children, may be generally happy with their life and still be bored out of their skull.

过着有意义生活的人也可能觉得它乏味、平凡且单调。

A person living a meaningful life can also find it routine, mundane, and monotonous.

此外，心理丰富的生命并不一定涉及经济上的富裕。

Also, the psychologically rich life doesn't necessarily involve economic richness.

心理丰富性与幸福生活和有意义生活相关，但又部分不同。

Psychological richness is related to, but partially distinct from, both happy and meaningful lives.

心理丰富性与好奇心高度相关，也与更强烈地开放体验积极和消极情绪有关。

Psychological richness is much more a strongly correlated with curiosity, with openness to experience both positive and negative emotions more intensely.

当然，关于什么构成了这种美好生活，答案需要包含这三种存在状态的健康组合。

Of course, the answer to what constitutes this good life involves a healthy mixture of all three states of being.

过一种有意义的生活，一种有目标并积极贡献于他人生活的生活，同时也享受生活中带来的喜悦与快乐所带来的幸福。

Living a life of meaning, one with purpose that positively contributes to the lives of others, as well as happiness simply for the experiencing the blessings of joy and pleasure that this life has to offer us.

然后，为了好奇心、刺激和冒险，我们主动挑战自己，去经历各种多样且充满智力、体力和情感强度的体验，即使这些经历可能带来负面或浪费的后果。

And then challenging ourselves with diverse and mentally and physically and emotionally intense experiences simply for the sake of curiosity, stimulus and adventure, risking what could be even a negative or wasteful experience.

现在，当我理解了这三种不同的人生定义后，我意识到自己活得多么狭隘。

Now coming to understand these three distinct definitions for living a good life, I realize how narrowly I live.

你看，我99%的时间都活在有意义的人生类别中。

You see, I live 99% in the meaningful life category.

我所做的一切、所想的每一件事、所读的每一本书、所听的每一段声音、所交谈、相遇和互动的每一个人，每一个清醒的时刻，甚至如果我能影响我的大脑在睡眠中继续工作，也都99%致力于效率、成长进步和实现我的目标。

Meaning everything I do, think about, read, listen to, everybody that I talk to, meet, and engage with, every waking moment, and if I can influence my brain to work on something in my sleep even, is devoted 99% to productivity, making growth progress, and advancing my purpose.

我向你们透露这些，并不是为了炫耀。

I am not revealing this to you to boast.

事实上，我向你们透露这些是为了坦白。

In fact, I'm revealing this to you to confess.

这样的生活并不如它本应、可以、而我本该去打造的那样美好。

This is not as good of a life as it should be, could be, that I should be making it to be.

我在心理丰富性方面完全为零。

I do zero for psychological richness.

如果一件事没有目的，我就不做。

If something doesn't have purpose, I just don't do it.

我不读没有目的的书。

I don't read books that don't have purpose.

我都想不起来自己什么时候读过一本小说了。

I can't even remember the time I read a fiction book at all.

我不听没有目的的播客。

I don't listen to podcasts that don't have purpose.

我不会接电话、参加会议，也不会和没有目的的人交往。

I won't take phone calls, have meetings, or hang out with people that don't have purpose.

你邀请我去钓鱼、打猎、观鸟、航海或做任何其他事，除非参加的人能支持我的目标，否则我不会去。

You invite me to go fishing, hunting, bird watching, sailing, or whatever, unless the people attending support my purpose, I'm not going.

为什么我不学一门外语，或者学一种乐器呢？

Why don't I learn a foreign language, learn to play a musical instrument?

为什么我不玩电子游戏、拼图或者做数独呢？

Why don't I play video games, jigsaw puzzles, or do Sudoku?

为什么我不去冲浪、风筝冲浪、深海潜水、打网球或高尔夫？

Why don't I surf, kite surf, deep sea dive, play tennis or golf?

为什么？

Why?

因为时间、精力和生命能量的消耗并没有服务于我的目标。

Because time, energy, and life force expenditure there does not serve my purpose.

我再次告诉你这些，是为了坦白，这并不好。

Again, I am telling you this to confess, this is not good.

我一点也不后悔过一种有意义的生活。

I don't regret living a meaningful life at all.

正因如此，我们才能聚在一起拥有这一切。

It is because I do that we have all of this together.

但我逐渐意识到的是这一点，我与你分享，供你自己思考。

What I am coming to see though is this, and I share this with you to consider for yourself.

我正在错过很多生活，大写的 L I F E。

I am missing out on a lot of life, capital l I f e.

如果我直到死都只这样生活，我想我会后悔的。

And if I did die living only as I have been living, I think I would regret it.

我会意识到，我如此单一地生活，并非明智或胜利，而是目光短浅，甚至可能缺乏勇气。

I would come to see my dedication to living only one way, not as wise or triumphant, but as shortsighted and maybe even uncourageous.

不享受生活中的美、快乐与愉悦，仅仅因为它们能带来纯粹的享乐回报，这是目光短浅的。

It is shortsighted not to relish in the beauty, the pleasures, and the enjoyments of life just for the sheer hadonic rewards.

不需要任何目的，仅仅为了快乐与幸福本身而存在。

No purpose needed, only joy and happiness by itself for its own sake.

我愿意为这个目标分配我生命中的1%，这可不是开玩笑。

I might afford 1% of my life to that, and that's no joke.

我想到的、纯粹为了快乐而做的事情，只有看一部好电影、享受一次很棒的按摩，或者和妻子在阳台上一起看日落。

About all I come up with that I do for happiness sakes alone is watching a good movie, great massage, or watching the sunset with my wife on our balcony.

我的意思是，就这些了。

I mean, that's it.

其他所有事情都带有某种目的。

Everything else has some form of purpose.

是的，我会锻炼。

Yes, I work out.

我会去长时间散步或远足，也会去度假。

I go on long walks or hikes, and I take vacations.

但我告诉你，其实是向你坦白，我做这一切都是为了服务我的目标，而不是为了追求幸福。

But I'm telling you, rather confessing to you, I do all that to serve my purpose, not to pursue my happiness.

我不去挑战自己的日常和现状，不尝试更多样、更新颖、更复杂、有时甚至可能改变视角的负面经历，仅仅为了体验和探索内心世界，这实在是缺乏勇气。

And it is uncourageous of me to not challenge my routine and status quo with a wider range of diverse, novel, and complex, and sometimes maybe even negative perspective changing events, only for the very sakes of experiencing and exploring one's inner world.

所以，关于‘什么是美好生活’这个至关重要的问题，答案是：这三者的结合——幸福、意义和心理丰富性。

So the answer to this all important question of what constitute a good life is this, a mixture of all three, happiness, meaning, and psychological richness.

现在，我大概是1%、99%、0%。

Right now, I am probably 1%, 99%, zero.

我的目标是达到10%、80%、10%。

I aim to be 10%, 80%, 10%.

是的。

Yes.

我绝对希望过一种主要致力于意义、目标和贡献，以及产生积极影响的生活。

I absolutely want to live mostly a dedicated life to meaning, to purpose, to contribution, to making a positive impact.

同时，我也希望主动抽出10%的时间，专注于那些纯粹让我快乐、没有任何其他目的的活动。

At the same time, I want to proactively spend 10% of my time dedicated to activities that just make me happy with no purpose associated with it whatsoever.

我得弄清楚那些活动到底是什么。

I just gotta figure out what those things are.

我还想主动抽出10%的时间，去答应那些我根本不确定是否会让我快乐的活动，但它们就是不一样。

And I want to proactively spend 10% of my time saying yes to activities that I have no idea whether they'd make me happy or not, but they are just different.

它们是新颖的，并且在心理、身体和情感上都具有挑战性。

They're novel and they're challenging mentally, physically, and emotionally.

我得弄清楚那些活动到底是什么。

I just got to figure out what those things are.

但这些就是我的目标，全部都是为了过上一种美好的生活。

But those are my goals, all in pursuit of living a good life.

那么现在，你告诉我们，你认为自己在快乐、有意义和心理丰富的生活中，各自的占比是多少？

So now you tell us what do you think your percentages are between a happy, a meaningful, and a psychologically rich life?

既然你已经理解了这三者的区别，你今后的目标分配是什么？

And now that you understand the distinction between the three of them, what is your allocation goal going forward?

把你的计划写在你的达伦每日日记里，愿你活得精彩。

Jot down your plan in your Darren Daily Journal and here's to living large.