邻居

但我觉得这可能跟代际有关。

But I feel like it could maybe be a generation thing.

不过我也在想，比如说，我父母。

But I'm also just thinking, like, for example, like, my parents.

他们是移民，你知道，他们英语说得不太好。

They're, immigrants, and they, you know, they don't really speak super great English.

所以我觉得他们有时候可能很难主动联系邻居，即使他们可能想这么做。

So I feel like maybe it's harder for them to sometimes reach out to neighbors even if that's something that maybe they want to do.

对。

Mhmm.

但他们可能会有点害羞，或者对自己的语言能力不够自信。

But they, like, feel a bit shy or, like, not confident in their language skills.

我确实觉得我父母偶尔会试着认识左右隔壁的邻居，但我觉得他们主动去接触并不总是那么容易，尤其是如果他们在某些方面处于劣势的话。

I do think my parents occasionally try to get to know our immediate neighbors on the left and right side, but I think it's not always super easy to be the ones, like, reaching out, especially if they're at a, like, a disadvantage in some way.

明白。

Mhmm.

对。

Yeah.

说得有道理。

That's a good point.

我觉得，有些环境会让你觉得更容易去这么做，而其他时候你可能会觉得更拘束，或者会想，哦，我该不该去呢？

Like, I feel like there's a specific environment that makes you feel more comfortable to do so versus other times you might feel more restricted or kind of like, oh, should I?

比如，我不知道我是不是想去打扰别人，等等。

Like, I don't know if I wanna bother people, etcetera.

对。

Yeah.

我知道有一次，我的邻居是一对年轻的亚洲夫妇，我觉得我父母跟他们交流更容易，尤其是当他们发现对方也会说中文之后。

Like, I know for sure, at one point, my neighbors were this, like, young Asian couple, and I think it was easier for my parents to communicate with them, especially once they found out that they could speak Chinese too.

所以跟他们聊天就稍微容易一些，而不是用他们那有点蹩脚的英语去跟其他邻居说话。

So it was just, like, a little easier to, you know, converse with them versus trying to speak with their, like, slightly more chunky English, you know, with, like, other neighbors.

对。

Yeah.

所以我能感觉到，他们跟那对年轻的亚洲夫妇更亲近一些，而对另一位邻居，虽然他们也努力去认识、偶尔聊聊天，但关系明显没那么近。

So it's like I could tell they were a little closer to that young Asian couple than our other neighbor who they did put an effort to get to know and talk to every now and then.

但亲近程度上的差别还是挺明显的。

But there was just a noticeable difference between closeness.

我也觉得，每个人的性格不同，或者他们对邻居的期望不一样，这可能也是个很大的因素。

I do also think people's individual personalities or maybe even just specifically their expectations of what they want from their neighbors could also be a big factor.

因为我和James搬进我们房子的时候，我们特意去拜访了所有相邻的邻居。

Because when James and I moved into our house, we actually made the rounds of every kind of adjacent neighbors.

就是左右两边的两家，对。

So like the two on our left and right Mhmm.

还有对面那两户人家。

And then also the two homes kind of across from our house.

我们给每家都带了一棵小树，然后就说，嗨，你好，我们刚搬来。

And we brought everyone like a small tree and we were just like, hi, you know, we just moved in.

这是小小的心意，感谢你们做我们的邻居，等等，然后做了自我介绍。

Here's like a little token of our appreciation for you being our neighbor, blah, blah, blah and introduced ourselves.

我觉得有些邻居确实更容易接受，也更愿意跟我们熟络起来，而另一些邻居就不太一样。

And I think certain neighbors were definitely more receptive to it and more open to getting to know us versus other neighbors.

差别还挺明显的。

It is like a pretty noticeable difference.

对，到现在我们跟邻居也不算特别亲密的朋友，但我觉得跟有些邻居的关系确实比跟其他的要好一些。

Yeah to this day it's not like we're best friends with our neighbors but I feel like we're on better terms with some neighbors than other ones.

对，我觉得这完全说得通。

Yeah, I think that makes total sense too.

特别是，如果你有个特别内向的邻居，我猜他们不会每天都来找你，让你帮忙什么的。

Especially like, if you have a super introverted neighbor, I wouldn't imagine that they're, you know, like hitting you up every day and like asking you for favors and all that kind of stuff.

对。

Right.

对。

Right.

是的。

Yeah.

比如，有些邻居有时候会向我们借柠檬，我们也会给他们。

Like, some of our neighbors sometimes ask us for lemons and we, like, give it to them.

然后其他邻居，有时候我在街上看到他们，我会想，这个人到底想不想我打招呼呢？

And then other neighbors, sometimes when I see them on the street, I'm like, does this person want me to say hi or not?

比如，我该挥手还是不该挥手，有点犹豫。

Like, should I wave or should I there's some hesitation there.

不是敌意，但我会想，我不知道他们是否希望我注意到他们的存在。

Not hostility, but I'm like, I don't know if they want me to acknowledge their existence.

是的。

Yeah.

他们可能会想，天哪，Jisoo 跟我挥手了。

They're like, oh god, Jisoo waved at me.

我本来只想悄无声息地走过去。

Like, I was just trying to fucking walk by invisibly.

是的。

Yeah.

没错。

Exactly.

不过我真的很有同感。

I totally feel that though.

我就在想，回到我现在的邻居，我一直在琢磨这件事，因为当我问你跟James能不能帮我取一下包裹的时候，嗯。

I was like, going back to my current neighbor, I was thinking about it because when I asked you and James if either of you could, like, pick up the package Mhmm.

我旅行的时候，那一刻我意识到，我就想，天哪。

When I was traveling, I realized in that moment, I was like, damn.

我当初真应该跟邻居们自我介绍一下。

I totally should have introduced myself to the neighbors.

我们可是共用同一个车库的。

We literally share a garage.

他们完全可以帮我拿一下包裹，然后扔到车库里。

Like, they could've just picked up my package and, like, tossed it in the garage.

如果我认识他们，我就可以请他们帮这个忙了。

If I knew them, I could've asked them for that favor.

对。

Yeah.

不过我觉得这也是个很大的进步。

I feel like that's also a big step though.

因为我想起来，我们在这栋房子里已经住了三年半了。

Because I think to this day, we have been living in this house for three and a half years now.

是的。

Mhmm.

我们可能也就开口求过别人一次帮忙。

And we've asked people for favors maybe like once.

对。

Mhmm.

那次我们拜托他们做的事，也就是问能不能帮忙看一眼东西是不是还停在车道上。

And that favor that we asked them to do was like, can you just check if this thing is still in our driveway?

真的不是那种，比如‘你能不能帮我做点什么’的请求。

Like, it wasn't even like, oh, can you do something?

其实就是，你能不能往窗外看一下？

It was literally like, can you like look outside your window?

所以我觉得，哪怕迈出这一步，说什么麻烦你帮忙收个快递，再保管一天，都觉得好难开口。

So I feel like even making that step to be like, oh, do you mind getting the package and just holding it for a day feels so big.

对。

Yeah.

确实。

It does.

确实感觉挺大的。

It does feel big.

但你再想想，从长远来看，就会觉得，好吧。

But then when you think about it, like, in the bigger picture, you're kind of like, okay.

但怎么说呢，我就是他们的邻居啊。

But is it you know, I'm like their neighbor.

真有那么夸张吗？

Is it that big of

多大的事啊？

a deal?

他们只是走三步路过来而已。

They're taking, like, three steps over.

我知道。

I know.

就像，如果他们让我做这件事，我会毫不犹豫地去做。

It's like, if they ask me to do this, I would do it without even thinking

毫不犹豫。

about it.

没错。

Exactly.

那我们为什么这么害怕开口请求呢？

So why are we so scared to ask for that?

我

I

不过话说回来，我现在有个好处，就是收到的信件不多。

think, like, right now, the good thing, though, is that I don't get much mail here.

我大概一两周才去查一次信箱，结果里面全是那种广告。

I think I check my mailbox once every one to two weeks and all I get are, like god.

比如好市多的促销传单之类的。

Ads for, like, Costco.

对。

Right.

对。

Right.

所以我就想，好吧。

And so I'm like, okay.

至少我出门旅行的时候，不用找人假装住在这儿，去翻我的信箱什么的。

At least if I'm traveling, like, I don't need someone to try to dig into my mailbox and, like, make it look like someone's living here.

反正里面也是空的。

It's empty anyways.

对。

Yeah.

反正里面也是空的。

It's literally empty anyways.

但我总是好奇，邻居会不会注意到你不在家。

But I do always wonder, like, if neighbors notice that you're, like, gone.

因为至少在我看来，我不在的时候有一些明显的迹象。

Because in my mind at least, I feel like there are some obvious signs when I'm gone at least.

尤其是因为就一个人住。

Especially because it's, like, it's just one person.

嗯。

Mhmm.

比如，没有车进进出出。

Like, there's no car movement.

也许这是最明显的，因为我不在的时候有时会设置灯自动开关。

Maybe that's the most obvious thing because I sometimes automate my lights to turn on and off when I'm gone.

对。

Yeah.

我也设置了灯光自动化，但我觉得这样可能会有点让人困惑。

I also automate my lights, but I think it can be kind of confusing.

所以，比如你的车不见了，他们肯定就知道你不在家了。

So, like, if your car is missing, they definitely know you're gone.

没错。

Right.

我觉得这确实是个很明显的迹象。

I feel like that's like a telltale sign.

不过如果你的车还在那儿，比如你飞去某个地方了，他们可能就不太确定你的车到底有没有动过。

But if your car is still there and say you like took a flight somewhere, they might not know whether your car has been moving or not.

确实是这样。

That's true.

除非……我想对你来说情况有点不一样，因为你住在双拼屋里。

Unless it's your like I guess for you, it's kinda different because you live in a duplex.

对，他们肯定能看出来。

Like, they would definitely notice.

我觉得他们应该能察觉到。

I feel like they should.

他们大概会想，哎，这人好像一两周都没出过门了。

They would probably be like, oh, this person, like, has not left this home in, like, a week like, in two weeks.

比如，他们会担心人家是不是出什么事了吧？

Like, are they okay?

感觉你人还在那儿似的。

It's like you're still there.

你就在那儿，对。

You're just Yeah.

屋里的一切都没变。

Inside everything.

不过，我老在想，是不是得提前跟邻居打个招呼，说你要出门？

But, yeah, I always wonder, like, is the move to tell your neighbor that you're gonna be gone?

可能是吧。

It probably is.

我们小时候住的那个家，那个死胡同小区发生过入室盗窃。

So in our, like, childhood home, that cul de sac had robberies happen.

我觉得可能就发生过一次。

I think it was maybe just once.

但问题是，如果邻居知道你不在了，而且明显没人会来你家拜访，那他们可能会注意到，比如看到有车开进去，就能感觉出不对劲。

But the thing is, if your neighbors know you're gone and there's clearly no one who's gonna come visit your house, then they would probably know, like if they were to see a car go in, they would probably be able to tell that it's like not normal.

所以我觉得这算是安全方面的考虑。

So I think it is kind of like a safety thing.

但我有时候又觉得，特意跑去说“我要出趟远门”有点多此一举。

But part of me also is just sometimes it feels so extra to be like, hey, I'm gonna be out of town.

是啊。

Yeah.

就好像，我都能想象他们...

Like, I just imagine them

他们会觉得，对吧？

being like, so right?

就像，我干嘛要在乎？

Like, why do I care?

对。

Yeah.

我想我可以告诉邻居，嘿，我要出城了。

I guess I could tell my neighbor like, hey, I'll be out of town.

我不在的时候，你可以用我的车道停车位。

You can use my, like, driveway spot while I'm there.

哦，这主意不错。

Oh, that's a good point.

对。

Yeah.

然后我还可以说，你能顺便帮我收一下邮件吗？

And then I could be like, can you also get my mail?

这既是一个提醒，也是一个请求。

It's both an alert and a request.

对。

Yeah.

但这差不多就是我现在的目标。

But that's, like, kind of my goal right now.

我想和他们保持一种还不错的关系，这样我们旅行时就能自在地请对方帮忙照看包裹。

I wanna have, like, an okay relationship with them where we would feel comfortable asking each other to, like, look out for packages if and when we're traveling.

明白。

Mhmm.

因为我觉得我们大多数朋友住得离我并不近，所以我觉得请人开车大老远过来有点麻烦。

Because I think most of our friends don't really live super close to me, so I feel like it seems a bit of a hassle to, like, ask someone, Oh, can you drive all the way over?

而邻居就在旁边。

When I have a, like, neighbor right there.

你懂我的意思吗？

You know what I mean?

对，我懂你的意思。

Yeah, I feel that.

我觉得直到今天，有时候我和詹姆斯要出远门一段时间，我们会请他妈妈帮忙。

I think even to this day, sometimes when James and I are gonna be out of town for a long time, we ask his mom.

比如问问她：'能不能麻烦你把垃圾桶收进来？'

Like, Oh, do you mind bringing the bins in?

或者类似的小事。

Or something like that.

对，没错。

Yeah, yeah.

但这完全可以是你可以请邻居帮忙的事，特别是因为你以后也可以回报他们。

But that totally is something that you can ask your neighbors to do, especially because you can always return the favor.

是吧？

Right?

确实如此。

Exactly.

哇。

Wow.

现在想想，我们的父母真是太幸运了。

Now that I think about it, our parents are so lucky.

每次我爸妈出远门，他们总是说，哦，Crystal，你能帮忙看房子吗？

Whenever my parents are out of town, they're always like, oh, Crystal, like, you house sit?

或者，比如我还跟他们住在一起的时候，他们经常不带我出去，我就一个人在家，你知道的，就住在那儿。对。

Or or, like, when I was still living with them, sometimes they would often go out without me, and I would just be, like, home alone, you know, living there Right.

帮忙收所有的邮件什么的。

Taking care of all the mail and everything.

然后我就想，哇。

And I'm like, wow.

他们简直有个免费的看房人。

They just have a free house sitter.

他们不需要打电话给邻居，或者请朋友帮忙。

They don't need to call their neighbor up or, like, ask their friends.

嘿，你能去取一下那个送到的包裹吗？

Hey, can you pick up that package that got delivered?

好的。

Yeah.

我觉得最好笑的是，有时候他们回来，我会说，哦，你收到了几个包裹。

I think the funniest thing too is sometimes they'll come back and I'll be like, oh, you got, like, a couple packages.

我帮你拿进来了。

I brought them in.

我放在你桌上了什么的。

I left them on your desk or whatever.

然后我爸就说，我有包裹送来吗？

And then my dad's like, I had packages come in?

我都不知道。

Like, I don't even know.

对，说实话，如果身边有朋友或者家人住得近，这真是个很棒的办法。

Yeah, it's honestly a great system when you have either friends or like family close by.

对。

Mhmm.

因为这样你就不用麻烦邻居了。

Because then you don't have to bother your neighbors.

但实际上，按理说应该是反过来的。

But really, in reality, it truly should be the inverse.

天哪。

Oh my god.

说得太对了。

So true.

不过我觉得有时候情况有点不一样，比如有个好朋友或家人能直接进家里帮忙，比那种开车路过顺便取个快递要好多了。

But I guess it's a little different sometimes when it's like, it's nice to have someone who is like a close friend or a family member who can like actually go into the home versus just like drive by mail pickup or something like that.

对，对。

True, true.

哥们，但你敢让朋友真的帮你看家吗？

Dude, but would you ever trust a friend to like literally house sit your home?

我觉得信任方面，那肯定没问题。

I think trust wise, yes, definitely.

但首先，我不确定我是否想那样麻烦他们。

But one, I don't know if I would wanna bother them like that.

而且我其实也不太理解看房子这个概念。

I think I also just don't really understand the concept of house sitting.

除非我要离开好几个月，否则我觉得没必要。

Like, unless I'm gonna be out of town for, like, months and months.

对。

Right.

除了收邮件、收包裹这些，我真不觉得有必要。

I don't know if it's truly necessary besides just, like, the mail and packages and whatnot.

嗯。

Mhmm.

是的。

Yeah.

我觉得也是，因为大多数人在这里都有自己的房子。

I guess also because most people, like, have their own place here.

所以就会想，他们为什么需要找人看房子呢？

So it's like, oh, why would they necessarily need to, like, house sit?

对。

Right.

但我确实觉得最常见的情况之一就是，如果你有宠物的话。

But I do think one of the most common possibilities would be, like, if you have a pet.

对，对，对。

True, true, true.

而且我认识很多住在纽约、旧金山或者像这样的大城市的人，他们旅行的时候，要么换房住，要么找人短租几个星期之类的。

And I know a lot of people who live in, like, New York or San Francisco or like big cities, for example, when they travel, they either do apartment swaps or have someone sublet for like a couple weeks or something like that.

所以我知道这很常见，但我就是觉得内心深处会有点不舒服。

So I know it's common, but I just think deep down, I would feel a little bit uncomfortable.

是的。

Yeah.

我就在想，要是有人翻我所有的东西，那画面太美不敢看。

I'm just imagining someone, like, flipping through all my shit.

就像，哦，这就是Crystal家里有什么。

Like, oh, this is, like, you know, what's in Crystal's home.

或者，甚至有人睡我的床之类的。

Or, like, even someone sleeping in my bed or something.

我不知道。

I don't know.

就是，我老是想起上周那期节目里Dustin吐槽独生子女，吐槽得有点狠。

Just, like, I keep thinking back to Dustin roasting roasting only Only children Children a a little little bit bit in in our our episode last week.

但我觉得作为独生子女，我很难想象别人睡我的床，或者用我的显示器，或者我不知道，任何这种小事。

But I think as an only child, it's hard for me to imagine people sleeping in my bed or using my monitor or I don't know, any trivial thing like that.

我觉得这会让我有点犹豫。

I think it would give me a little bit of hesitation.

对，对。

Right, right.

有道理。

That makes sense.

就像有人在你家没人看着的时候，总是有点奇怪。

It's like it's always a bit weird if someone's in your home unchaperoned.

对，对，就是这样。

Yeah, yeah, exactly.

理想情况下，你在那里陪着他们，然后说，哦，对，这个你可以用，那些东西你也可以用。

Like, ideally, you are there to chaperone them and be like, oh, yeah, like, you know, this you can use and, like, these are things you can use.

但我觉得尤其是如果是那种长期居住的家。

But I think especially if it's, like, a permanent home.

嗯。

Mhmm.

你的家是你买的。

Your home is you've bought it.

不是租的。

It's not a rental.

如果是自己的房子，就会更在意一点，你会说，哥们，别把我墙弄坏了之类的。

It there's, like, a bit more value where you're like, dude, don't fuck up my walls or something like that.

但如果是公寓，就会觉得，哦，行吧。

Versus like an apartment, it's kind of like, oh, okay.

就算这个人弄坏了什么，最坏的情况也就是我以后反正也要搬走。

Well, this person fucked something up, but worst case, I'm gonna eventually move out of this place anyway, almost.

对。

Yeah.

而且我觉得还有一点是，我的家对我来说和詹姆斯住着很合适。

And I think another part of it too is my home is perfect for me and James.

嗯。

Mhmm.

但如果别人来住的话，我可能会希望它感觉像酒店一样。

But if someone else were to stay in it, I guess I would want it to feel like a hotel or something.

所以我会觉得不自在，比如“这住得够舒服吗？”

So then I would feel uncomfortable like, Oh, is this like a good enough stay?

比如，他们知道怎么用这些东西吗？

Like, are they gonna know how to use everything?

这种顾虑也会让人更不舒服。

That kind of trepidation also adds to the discomfort.

天哪，我都能想象你家里贴满便利贴的样子。

Dude, I'm just imagining your home covered in sticky notes.

比如，嘿。

Like, hey.

你可以用这些东西。

You you can use these things.

请随意使用。

Like, please feel free.

比如，淋浴是这样用的。

Like, this is how you use the shower.

比如，往这边转是热水。

Like, turn this away for hot water.

然后看家的人就说，是的。

And the house sitter is like, yes.

我有眼睛啊。

I have eyes.

我也有脑子啊。

Like, I have a brain.

但我觉得关于邻居特别有意思的是，有时候我那爱打听的毛病就会悄悄冒出来。

But I think one funny thing about neighbors specifically is sometimes my nosiness can creep up a little bit.

关于爱打听这件事，我不仅很关心邻居们的生活，比如他们的花园啊、房子啊之类的，而且这也让我很在意他们会怎么想我们、怎么看我们。

And the thing about nosiness is like not only do I care a lot about what is going on in our neighbors' lives or like gardens or, you know, homes or whatnot, but it also makes me self conscious about what they think and observe about us.

所以这总是一把双刃剑。

So it's always a double edged sword.

我觉得一个简单的例子就是邻居在翻修房子的时候。

And I feel like an easy example is when your neighbor is going through renovations.

我总是会问，哦，你用的哪家水暖公司？

I'm always like, Oh, who's the plumbing company you're using?

你们在做什么装修啊？

What kind of renovations are you doing?

我觉得这也是很多人去自己小区看开放日房源的一大原因。

And I think this is a big reason why a lot of people go to open homes in their neighborhoods.

不一定是因为想买新房子，而是想看看街坊邻居家里面是什么样子，或者各家各户的状况如何。

Not necessarily because they want to buy a new house, but because you wanna see what the setup is or what the status is of the different homes in your street.

但有个小气的例子就是，有时候我和James忙的时候，我们会点很多外卖。

But the petty example is like sometimes when me and James are busy, we get a lot of DoorDash.

而且我觉得总体来说，我们确实挺喜欢叫外卖的。

And I think in general, we do like to get like food delivery.

我总在想，邻居们会不会在窗户边偷看，然后心想：天哪，James和Jisoo又点外卖了。

I always wonder if our neighbors are like peering out their window being like, damn, James and Jisoo got fucking DoorDash again.

好的。

Okay.

等等。

Wait.

但你注意到邻居有没有收到外卖吗？

But do you notice when your neighbors get delivery?

有啊。

Yes.

哦，靠。

Oh, fuck.

比如，如果我看到了，我就会想，哦，他们点了外卖。

Like, if I see it, I will be like, oh, they got DoorDash.

但显然，我并不是总能注意到，或者，

But obviously, like, I don't always notice or, like,

看到。

catch it.

哦，糟糕。

Oh shit.

好。

Okay.

你观察力真强。

You're observant.

我觉得我从来都不看。

I feel like I never look.

但你说得对。

But you're right.

有时候我确实会觉得，天哪。

Sometimes I do feel like, oh my god.

比如，车停在我这边街上。

Like, the car is pulling up to my side of the street.

能看到有人从车里跑出来，把食物送到我家门口。

Like, can see this person run out of their car and deliver food to my doorstep.

对。

Right.

对。

Right.

有时候我们点外卖，有些包装袋特别显眼，一看就知道是从哪儿买的。

Sometimes if we get takeout, certain bags are very obvious like where you got it from.

比如Chipotle。

Like Chipotle, for example.

大家都认得那种方形的棕色纸袋。

Like, everyone knows that, you know, square brown bag.

那绝对是Chipotle的包装。

That's fucking Chipotle.

比如我把它拿进去的时候，我就想，天哪。

Like, when I carry it in, I'm like, oh my god.

大家都知道奇波雷那家餐厅。

Everyone fucking knows about Chipotle.

他们说，我们附近连一家奇波雷都没有。

They're like, there's not even a Chipotle near us.

你知道的，脑子里会突然冒出一些念头，比如我在想邻居们的事。

You know, these random thoughts come into my head where I'm like, you know, I'm having all these thoughts about, like, our neighbors.

比如说，他们会这么在意我吗？

Like, do they give this much

他们真的会这么在意我吗？

of a shit about me?

我明白了。

I see.

我有点懂你的意思。

I kinda feel what you mean.

因为，我的社区也是那种住宅区。

Because, like, my neighborhood is also, like, a residential neighborhood.

不是那种公寓楼。

It's not like an apartment building.

对。

Mhmm.

所以，你知道，当我在车道上卸杂货什么的，基本上每个人都能看到我。

So, you know, when I'm, like, on my driveway unloading groceries and stuff, literally everyone can see me.

比如，他们能看到我买了什么菜。

Like, they can see what I bought for my groceries.

比如，他们能看到我家门口的包裹。

Like, they can see the packages at my front door.

对。

Right.

对。

Right.

就像一切都摆在大家面前一样。

It's like it's just out on display for everyone.

哦，那个邻居买了个大箱子。

Oh, that neighbor bought something in a big box.

我好奇那是什么。

I wonder what it is.

我知道。

I know.

比如说，当东西开始堆起来的时候，我总会想，不知道有没有人看到我家门口有四个亚马逊箱子。

Like, when it starts to stack, I'm always like, I wonder if people saw that there's like four Amazon boxes.

或者可能邻居会想，哦，自从那些新住户搬进来以后，亚马逊的卡车经过我们这条街的次数变多了。

Or maybe our neighbors are like, oh, ever since those new people moved in, like, the Amazon truck passes by our street a lot more.

我在想以前住公寓的时候是什么情况，因为我住过的所有公寓楼都有男更衣室。

I'm trying to remember what the, like, apartment complex version of this was because all of the apartment buildings that I lived at had a male locker room.

所以我那时候不一定能看到别人家门口有东西。

So I wasn't necessarily seeing that something was on someone's doorstep, for example.

但也许公寓楼的对应情况是，你能更容易听到别人在开派对，因为你们可能共用墙壁，或者你能闻到别人做饭的味道。

But maybe the apartment building equivalent of it is like you can kind of hear a little bit more if someone is having a party because you might be sharing walls with people or you could smell what other people

天哪。

are Oh my god.

这个说得好。

That's a good one.

对，比如你走过走廊，就会觉得，哦，到晚饭时间了，闻起来特别香。

Yeah, like when you walk down the halls and you're like, oh, it's, dinner time and it smells fucking good.

对。

Right.

对。

Right.

你就会想，哦，你们又吃这个菜了。

You're like, oh, you guys are having this cuisine again.

但你说得对。

But you're right.

通常来说，住宅区里味道没那么重，我觉得。

It's usually, like, less smelly in the neighborhood, I guess, in the residential neighborhood.

除非你走近某户人家。

Unless you're walking closer to one of the homes.

我觉得这取决于你走在街的哪一边。

I guess it, like, depends on which side of the street you're walking on.

我想有时候在我们小区，我还是能闻到烧烤的味道。

I guess sometimes in our neighborhood, I could still smell barbecues.

比如有人在烤肉，那味道肯定能飘过来。

Like, someone is grilling stuff, that is definitely something that wafts over.

对了，我还想起一件事，就是在公寓健身房老是碰到那些邻居，但从来都没打过招呼。

But, yeah, another thing I just remembered is, like, seeing the same neighbors over and over again in the apartment gym, but, like, never saying hi still.

好的。

Okay.

是的。

Yeah.

这个不错。

That's a good one.

对。

Yeah.

其实挺有意思的，公寓楼在某些方面反而更私密。

It's actually funny how, like, in apartment buildings, it's actually more private in some ways.

因为如果有地下车库的话，你根本不知道他们开的是哪辆车。

Because, like, if they have a parking garage, you don't know which car they even own,

大概率是这样。

most likely.

停车位编号跟公寓门牌号不一定是对应的。

The parking spot numbers don't always correspond with the, like, apartment number.

走廊上那些门都没有窗户，所以没法像住在临街房子那样，随时往别人家里瞅一眼。

And there's no windows in the hallway where all the doors are, so you can never like peer into other people's homes the way you can on a residential street.

天哪，确实如此。

Oh my god, true.

我觉得你唯一能做的，可能就是像有些人会在万圣节或者节假日稍微装饰一下公寓大门，或者门垫上有点小心思。

I feel like the only thing you could really do is I know some people decorate their apartment front door a little bit for Halloween or holidays and whatnot, or your doormat might have a little bit of flair to it.

但除此之外，真的就是谁也不认识谁，特别匿名。

But really other than that, it's just so anonymous.

对，我觉得在大公寓楼里，连邻居长什么样都不知道是很常见的现象。

Yeah, I think it's a lot more common to not know what your neighbors even look like in a big apartment building.

是的。

Yeah.

你可能根本碰不到他们。

You just might never bump into them.

或者就算碰到了，你也不知道那就是你的邻居。

Or maybe you do bump into them, but, like, you don't know that they're your neighbor.

对，对。

True, true.

我记得以前我和James住公寓楼的时候，我们总是喜欢猜谁住在哪儿。

I remember when James and I used to live in apartment complexes, we would always try to speculate like who lived where.

哦。

Oh.

因为就像你说的，除非你们正好同时开门锁门，迎面撞上，否则根本不知道。

Because like you said, unless you're literally bumping into each other, like as you're both turning your key into your door, like you just don't know.

所以我们总爱琢磨谁住哪个单元。

So we would always try to suss out like who lived where.

还有件好玩的事，就是有时候你能感觉到楼上的邻居是不是在搬家。

The other funny thing too is like sometimes you can kind of tell if your upstairs neighbor is moving or not.

哦，对。

Oh, right.

或者，比如他们是不是在家，或者那套房是空的。

Or, like, if they're, like, there or if the apartment is vacant.

所以我们总是会去猜这些。

So, like, we would always try to, like, guess that.

而且你可能一辈子都在猜。

And you could be guessing for the rest of your life.

对。

Yeah.

真的是这样。

Literally.

比如，在纽约，我去过我们朋友梅尔家好几次，但我还是不知道她的邻居长什么样。

Like, I think in New York, I've stayed at our friend Mel's place a couple times, and I still don't know what, like, any of her neighbors look like.

事实上，我从来没见过她那一层的任何一个人。

In fact, I have never met anyone from her floor.

我就在想，哥们儿，这怎么可能呢？

I'm just like, dude, how is this possible?

我记得有一阵子我和詹姆斯住在一栋公寓楼里。

I know there was a time where James and I lived in this one apartment building.

我觉得可能是因为那栋楼比较新，所以我们几乎没怎么碰见过邻居。

And I think because it was kind of on the newer end, it just never felt like we were bumping into anyone.

而且你走在走廊里的时候，大部分时间都静悄悄的。

And when you would walk through the hallway, it would for the most part be like silent too.

对。

Mhmm.

我当时就想，这整栋楼里估计就咱俩住在这儿了。

And I was just like, I think it's just you and me living in this entire building.

天哪。

Oh my god.

太逗了。

That's so funny.

但我想提一件事，我觉得这对我们的未来来说可能会很令人兴奋。

But I do wanna bring up one thing that I think could be an exciting thing for our future.

与其有陌生的邻居，将来我们完全可以决定彼此住在一起。

Instead of having anonymous neighbors, in the future, we could all totally decide to live next to each other.

比如，我们一群朋友可以说，嘿。

Like, a bunch of our friends could be like, hey.

我们都买下这个死胡同里的房子，做彼此的邻居。

Let's all buy these homes in this one cul de sac and be each other's neighbors.

那不是很酷吗？

Wouldn't that be so cool?

对。

Yeah.

说实话，那太棒了。

Honestly, that would be huge.

而且我们可以，如果我们有孩子或者都有宠物，比如，我们可以一起散步，或者一起送孩子上学。

And we could well, if we have kids or, like, all have pets, for example, like, we could all go on walks together or, like, take our kids to school together.

朋友做邻居的好处真的太多了。

There's just so many benefits that come from having your friends' neighbors.

对。

Yeah.

而且我们还可以办街区派对，因为大家都是很好的朋友。

And we could have block parties because we're all, like, just good friends.

没错。

True.

没错。

True.

没错。

True.

天哪。

Damn.

那简直是梦想中的生活。

That would be the dream.

我觉得我们其实不一定非得是隔壁邻居。

Like, I feel like we wouldn't necessarily even have to be next door neighbors.

只要住得近，比如几分钟的路程，那就会有很大的不同。

If we just live maybe a couple minutes from each other, that would make a world of a difference.

对。

Yeah.

比如走路就能到的距离。

Like, walkable distance.

我们可以直接走到街那头，然后说，嘿。

We could just walk down the block and be like, hey.

我们能一起看周日夜赛吗？

Can we watch Sunday night football together?

或者如果我感到孤单，感觉没有社区归属感，我就会说，嘿。

Or if I was feeling lonely and, like, didn't feel a sense of community, I'd be like, hey.

你们能把窗帘拉开，把屋里的灯打开吗？

Can you guys open your blinds and, like, turn your lights on inside?

你会说，我得知道你现在在干什么。

You're like, I need to know what you're doing right now.

比如，我看到你们今天在做这种菜。

Like, I see you guys are cooking this kind of food today.

这确实让我想起大学的时候，因为UCSD附近有个区域，很多学生都住在那儿。

This actually does kind of remind me of college time because there was an area around UCSD where a lot of students lived.

那些地方有点像联排别墅或者公寓，很多学生最后都住进去了。

These were kind of like townhomes or like condos that a lot of students ended up living in.

而且那些社区彼此离得很近。

And these neighborhoods were really close to each other.

我记得有几个朋友就住在山坡上。

So I remember a couple of my friends lived just, like, up the hill.

所以走过去大概也就两分钟。

So it was, like, maybe two minutes walk.

所以有时候，如果我朋友的室友都出去了，她就会说，嘿，Crystal，要不要过来玩？

So sometimes if all of my friends' roommates were out, then she'd be like, hey, Crystal, like, wanna come hang out?

然后我就说，好吧。

And I'd like, okay.

我就说，我几分钟就走过去。

Like, I'll just walk over in a couple minutes.

我觉得这种方便的感觉真的很好，也让我们之间的友谊更深了。

And I think that accessibility just felt really nice and also helped build the friendship more too.

天哪，你那个想法是不是从这儿来的？就是我们都买同一个死胡同里的房子，做邻居那个。

Oh my god, is that where you got your idea of like all of us buying houses in the same cul de sac and being neighbors?

天哪。

Oh my god.

其实不是，我是在上次我们一群人去了你家之后，看到邻居的房子在卖，才想到的。

Actually no, I got that idea when the last time a bunch of us went to your place and then I was like, oh my god, their neighbors' home is like for sale.

要不要我们每个人都买一套？

Like should Very one of us buy

确实是这样。

true actually.

我也特别喜欢这一集里我们一直在说，哎呀，不知道要不要跟邻居靠得太近。

I also love how we spent so much of this episode being like, oh, I don't know if we wanna be that close to our neighbors.

然后我们就想，干脆让朋友当邻居算了。

And we're just like, oh, actually, we'll just have our friends be our neighbors.

这简直是终极解决方案。

It's the ultimate solution.

既然可以让我们自己来当邻居，干嘛还要把邻居的事交给运气去安排呢？

Like, why would we even let our neighbors be up to chance when it could just be us?

对。

Yeah.

既然能一起商量着买房，干嘛还要费劲去跟邻居交朋友呢？

Why befriend your neighbors when you can just all coordinate home buying together?

是的。

Yeah.

说真的，我完全支持这个计划。

Honestly, I am fully on board with this plan.

这就像《老友记》，但发生在郊区。

It's like Friends but in the suburbs.

湾区版的《老友记》。

Bay Area version of Friends.

对。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

但总的来说，我觉得我们学到的就是，和邻居交朋友最终是利大于弊的。

But all in all, I think what we've learned is befriending your neighbors ultimately have more pros than cons.

所以我觉得这是我需要多想想，然后试着更勇敢一点的事情。

So I think this is something that I will think a little bit more about and try to be braver about.

这期节目就像是给我们自己的灵感。

This episode is like inspo for ourselves.

对。

Yeah.

鼓起勇气去跟邻居搭话。

To gather up the courage to talk to our neighbors.

对。

Yeah.

好了，像往常一样，跟 VJ Soup 聊天真的特别开心。

Well, usual, it was super fun chatting with VJ Soup.

各位听众朋友，也欢迎告诉我们你们对邻里互动的看法。

And for our listeners out there, let us know what you think about neighbor interactions.

如果你有过任何积极的，或者甚至是不太愉快的邻里互动经历，都欢迎告诉我们。

If you've had any positive ones or maybe even negative neighbor interactions, let us know.

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We upload new episodes every Wednesday morning.

感谢收听。

Thanks for listening.

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And don't forget to eat your crust.