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嗨。
Hi.
欢迎来到 eatyourcrust。
Welcome to eatyourcrust.
我是 Crystal。
I'm Crystal.
我是 Jisoo。
I'm Jisoo.
我是 Edward。
I'm Edward.
我是 James。
And I'm James.
今天，我们请来了两位熟悉的声音。
Today, we have on two familiar voices.
我们请来了 Eddie 和 James。
We have Eddie and James.
是的
Yeah.
你好。
Hello.
欢迎回来。
Welcome back.
Eddie 和 James 其实是家里的老朋友，他们认识很多年了。
Eddie and James are actually family friends, and so they've known each other for a really long time.
我们请他们来，就是想聊聊那种典型的亚裔家庭和家庭密友之间的相处模式。
And we brought them on hoping that we can talk a little bit about, you know, the typical Asian family slash family friend dynamic.
对。
Yeah.
家庭密友啊，
Family friends are
在亚裔美国人生活中可是特别重要的一部分。
a huge part of Asian American lifestyle, I guess.
是的。
Yeah.
你们两家当朋友有多久了？
So how long have you guys been family friends?
从七岁就开始了。
Since we were seven.
算下来有十五年了。
So fifteen years now.
十五年啊。
Fifteen years.
对啊。
Mhmm.
你们两家是怎么认识的？
And how did your families meet?
我觉得我跟他上的是同一所小学。
I think I went to the same, like, elementary school as him.
是吗？
Is that?
中文学校？
Chinese school?
不是。
No.
听起来不太对。
That doesn't sound right.
我觉得不是，你们其实是上同一所小学的。
I think, no, you ended up going to the same elementary school.
但依我回忆，是我们爸妈一起去参加了一次露营。
But from what I remember, it was like a camping trip that our parents both went on.
然后好多家长都带了孩子去，就这样，我们这一群朋友慢慢形成了。
And then like a bunch of parents like brought their kids along and then like that's kind of how our family friend group was like formed.
我觉得是这样。
I think like Mhmm.
我们那时候彼此都有共同的朋友，或者他们之间本来就有交集。
We had like mutuals or like they had mutuals amongst each other.
哦，是这样啊。
Oh.
对啊。
Yeah.
这事儿跟我们那会儿一模一样。
That's same story.
没错。
Yeah.
但后来他还是转到了我读的小学。
But then he ended up coming to my elementary school like later on.
我一直好奇，亚裔父母是怎么交朋友的？
I always wonder how Asian parents make friends.
他们是去参加小学活动，然后专门去找其他中国家长搭讪吗？
Like, do they go to elementary school, events and fucking like parents Like, seek out Chinese.
是啊。
Yeah.
我其实也不太清楚我们那时候是怎么回事。
I actually don't know how it was for us.
我觉得我爸妈早就认识朋友了，那些朋友可能也听说过詹姆斯的父母之类的。
Like, I feel like, because my parents already had known their friends and then their friends probably knew of like James' parents and stuff.
所以呢。
So it's
对啊。
like Yeah.
就是那种互相认识的朋友圈。
Kind of like a mutual friend like circle.
他们差不多就是这样认识的。
That's like how they kinda all met each other.
我觉得现在他们 probably 都在同一个微信群里。
I feel like nowadays they're probably in the same like WeChat groups.
是啊。
Yeah.
他们是怎么认识新朋友的。
How they meet other people.
这就像亚裔父母身上那种微妙的特质。
It's like subtle Asian traits, but for parents.
微信里的那种微妙套路。
Subtle WeChat traits.
微信里的那种微妙套路。
Subtle WeChat traits.
我认识的那些家长，我妈是通过三星韩国人社群认识他们的。
Well, I know my family friends, my mom met them through either like the Samsung Korean community circle.
对。
Mhmm.
三星？
Samsung?
是的
Yeah.
因为我爸以前在三星工作。
Because my dad used to work at Samsung.
哦。
Oh.
还有个韩国志愿者团体。
And then there was also this one Korean volunteer group.
那是个老年活动中心，老年人可以去上课。
It was like a senior center where elderly people can go take classes.
我妈就在那儿做志愿者，然后就认识了一些人。
Then my mom volunteered there and then she met some people.
哇。
Wow.
还有成人英语班，专门教母语非英语的人。
And also, I think, adult school for English as a second language learners.
我妈妈也是通过那儿认识了一些朋友。
My mom also met some friends through that.
是的。
Yeah.
天哪。
Oh, my god.
你妈妈真是太拼了。
Your mom is so hardworking.
父母那代人根本没去上过英语课。
Parents definitely did not go to English school.
他们就是觉得，算了，英语差就差吧。
They're just like, we're just gonna have this bad English.
反正就那样吧。
Was like, okay.
对。
Yeah.
我要是去见朋友的话。
I If I went to meet friends.
我爸妈在我搬过来的时候就交到了朋友。
My parents made friends when I moved here.
我们有个远房表亲。
We have a distant cousin.
对。
Mhmm.
血缘上是挺远的，但其实我们关系特别近。
Well, distant blood wise, but, like, we're pretty close.
然后他们邀请我们参加他们的家庭聚会，我们就混进去，顺理成章地融入了那个圈子。
And then they invited us to their whole family friend gathering, and then we just mingled and forced our way into that friend group.
天哪。
Oh my god.
这让我想起个事儿。
That reminds me of a story.
我以前上韩文学校。
So I used to go to Korean school.
就在我们高中，每周六上课。
It was like at my high school on Saturdays.
其实，我那些朋友也是在那里认识的。
And actually, that was also where we made friends.
有一天上完课，我们正往停车场的车走去。
We finished class one day, and we were walking to my car in the parking lot.
突然有个瘦小的阿姨朝我们跑过来，喊了声‘欧巴’。
And this small, like, really thin lady came running towards us and was like, which means like older brother.
就是这么叫的。
Right?
天哪。
Goodness.
结果回头一看，原来是老爸那边的一个表亲。
And then we turned around and it turned out to be like a cousin of my dad's.
哦。
Oh.
他们当初在韩国的时候就已经分开了。
And they had separated when they were in Korea.
哇哦。
Woah.
我爸爸完全不知道她住在这附近。
And my dad had no idea she lived in this area at all.
我觉得他好像隐约听说她搬去美国了。
Like, I think he vaguely heard that she had moved to America.
是啊。
Uh-huh.
结果我们居然住同一个社区，还上同一所韩语学校。
But then it turns out we just lived in the same community and went to the same Korean school.
这也太巧了。
That's so cool.
是的。
Yeah.
她认出她了？还是他们分开多久了？
She recognized or how long were they separated?
我觉得他们小时候特别亲，一直持续到高中。
So I think they were really close when they were young up till like high school.
对。
Uh-huh.
他曾经辅导过她，或者他们算是远房表亲之类的。
And he had tutored her or They're something like also like cousins of cousins or something.
关系其实挺远的。
Really like far distance wise.
嗯。
Mhmm.
但我觉得我爸爸离开韩国之后，他们就分开了。
But then I think they had separated after my dad left Korea.
所以大概有十年左右吧。
So probably like a good ten years or so.
哇塞。
Wow.
真厉害又有点不可思议，这么多年了她居然还能认出他。
That's so cool and kinda crazy to think that she was able to recognize him even after all those years.
是啊。
Yeah.
我当时就想，我靠？
I was like, what the fuck?
你怎么可能认出他来？
How can you recognize him?
他现在都满脸皱纹了。
He's so wrinkly now.
这话太不礼貌了。
That's rude.
你们家的朋友在你们生活中占多大比重？
So how big of a part of your lives were your family friends?
我觉得在我生活里占了挺大一部分。
I feel like it was a pretty big part of my life.
周五晚上都跟教会的人一起。
Friday nights, saw church people.
周六晚上就见我爸妈的死党。
And then Saturday nights, I saw my parents' close friends.
周日去教会，也总能碰到特别熟的朋友。
And then Sundays at church, we also saw like close family friends.
加起来差不多一周三天。
So it's like three days a week.
这频率已经挺高的了吧。
That's like pretty often, I think.
天哪。
Oh my god.
你爸妈 probably也是通过教会认识朋友的吧。
Your parents probably met people through church too.
对啊。
Oh, yeah.
这可是韩国家庭的标配。
Dude, that's the Korean way.
我的
My
我家的朋友，我主要就是在重大节日的时候才见。
family friends, I definitely see them during all the big holidays.
比如感恩节、圣诞节、新年、春节这些。
So, like, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's, Chinese New Year's.
基本上就这些了，我觉得。
That's mostly it, I think.
偶尔我们也会出去旅行，但那可就少多了。
And then sometimes we'll take, trips, but that's a lot more rare.
但他们确实是我生活中挺重要的一部分。
But they're, like, a decent part of my life.
我和埃迪呢，主要就是大节日才见面，对的。
For me and Eddie, we saw them for major holidays and then Mhmm.
像亚洲的节日，比如吃月饼那种。
Like the Asian holidays, like, you eat mooncakes
是啊。
Oh, yeah.
还有春节。
Chinese New Year.
吃粽子，就是那种裹着的，是啊。
Eat zongzi, the wrapped Oh, yeah.
糯米团子。
Rice thing.
糯米。
Sticky rice.
是的
Yeah.
糯米
Sticky rice.
对
Yeah.
哦，我们那会儿就是前两天的事吧？
Oh, we just literally, that was like two days ago?
对
Mhmm.
是啊
Yeah.
我妈做了好多，别给咱妈送过去。
My mom made like a shit load of Like, don't give it to his mom.
等等。
Wait.
太可爱了。
That's so cute.
是啊。
Yeah.
对啊。
Yeah.
哦，等等。
Oh, wait.
因为你们住得这么近
Because you guys live so close
就住在一起。
to We live.
就在那儿。
There.
离得特别近。
Really close to each other.
我觉得我们朋友群住得都挺分散的。
I think from my friend group, we're really far apart.
有人住在联合市，有人远在北部的都柏林，还有几个在弗里蒙特。
There's some people in Union City, there's some people all the way up north in Dublin, and then there's like a handful of Fremont people.
所以咱们平时离得真不近。
So we're not super close distance wise.
对啊。
Mhmm.
所以咱们基本就靠重大节日才能聚一聚。
So that's why we mostly just see each other during the big holidays.
我和詹姆斯那边也差不多是这样。
That's, yeah, that's kind of the same case with me and James too.
我们家那些朋友啊，遍布整个湾区。
Think, like, we have other family friends spread out through, like, the rest of the Bay Area.
比如我知道有个朋友住在帕洛阿尔托，还有个在坎贝尔。
Like, I know one of our family friends lives in, like, Palo Alto and then there's, like, Campbell.
但我和我家人，还有詹姆斯一家住得特别近，所以经常能碰面。
But, like, me, my family and James' family live really close to each other, so we see each other, like, a lot too.
至于这个圈子里其他远一点的人，我们大概就只在重大节日的时候见上一面。
For the other, like, extensions of, like, that group, we'd probably just see them on, like, major holidays.
你们小时候呢？
What about in your guys' childhood?
我知道我这边，我们家那群朋友小时候经常聚在一起。
Cause I know for me, our family friend group met a lot when we were children.
但后来孩子们上了高中，功课忙起来，考试也关系到未来，大家就渐渐不怎么见面了。
And then once kids started going to high school and we had like exams and stuff and like school actually mattered for our future, we definitely started seeing each other a lot less.
我们小时候确实经常聚在一起，是啊。
We used to get together a lot when we were kids Mhmm.
一起去徒步，或者去别人家烧烤。
To go hiking, go to other people's houses for barbecues.
是啊。
Mhmm.
确实少多了，因为我们这群朋友家的孩子年龄差距挺大的。
It's definitely been a lot less because our family friend group has different ages too.
有的上大学了，有的还在上高中。
So some people would be in college while others would be in high school.
这样一来，大家就自然分开了。
And so it would separate the group a little bit.
说实话，确实如此。
Honestly, yeah.
我觉得关键节点就是孩子一上大学，嗯。
I think the cutoff point was like usually when the kid got into like college Uh-huh.
家长就不怎么再凑一块儿了，因为。
Their parent wouldn't like come around as much anymore because
天哪。
Oh my god.
这太
That's
真让人难过。
so sad.
对啊。
Yeah.
因为我觉得，亚裔父母之间特别容易聊到孩子申请大学这件事儿上。
Because I mean, I think like one thing that like Asian parents like bond over a lot is like talking about like the whole like college acceptance like
过程，等等。
process, wait.
没错。
You Yeah.
这太有意思了。
That's so interesting.
真有意思。
Interesting.
我那些朋友家人，他们聚会都不带我们的。
My family friend group, they hang out without us.
哦，真的吗？
Oh, really?
孩子们都走了。
Kids.
他们可高兴了。
They're like, fuck yeah.
孩子都不在家了，老兄。
Kids are gone, dude.
我现在真就住爸妈家。
Literally, like, right now I'm living with my parents.
对吧？
Right?
他们老是喊我：‘水晶啊，’
And they'll they'll just be like, hey, Crystal.
今晚咱们去朋友家吃饭。
Tonight we're going to this family friend's place.
我们去打个牌、吃点东西啥的。
We're gonna go play cards, go eat or whatever.
我就说：算了吧，老兄。
And I'm like, TFTI, dude.
他们说：我能一起去吗？
They're like, can I come for the Yeah?
然后他们就说：行啊。
And they're just like, yeah.
你就待家里，自己想办法吧。
Just stay at home, figure it out yourself.
我就说：好嘞。
And I'm like, okay.
拜拜。
Bye.
说到底，还是得想想他们为啥本来就是家里的朋友。
It kinda boils down to like why they're family friends in the first place.
我再回过头说说之前提到的事，在弗里蒙特，有一群核心朋友，就是我家人和詹姆斯一家。
Going back to like what I was talking about before, there's like a core group, like, in Fremont, my family and James's.
对。
Mhmm.
还有一批是外围的，偶尔会过来串门、聚一聚。
And then there's also, like, the extension ones that would, like, come over and, like, hang out.
但主要还是因为——
But that would mostly be because, like
他们就是来显摆的。
They're just there to show off.
差不多吧。
Sort of.
说实话，确实如此。
Honestly, yeah.
比如很多人
Like, a lot
好多我们的
of our
聚会根本就是用来炫耀的，有时候大家甚至还得办钢琴独奏会什么的。
gatherings were, like, flex like, we were fucking we had to do like piano recital sometimes.
我的天呐。
My god.
你太逗了。
You're funny.
然后就非要弹首曲子装一下
And then go play a fucking song.
我那时候就会直接说：才不要
Like and I'd be like No.
我就觉得
I love
完全就是在互相攀比炫技
It becomes a flex off.
天啊。
Holy shit.
你们每回重大节日聚会都得表演什么的吗？
Was that like every major holiday party you guys would have to like perform or do something?
说实话，我……
Honestly, I
这也太离谱了。
mean That's wild.
我们小时候啊
When we were kids
天哪。
Oh god.
我直接就不去了。
I would just not go.
老兄，这压力真的太大了。
Dude, it's it's a lot of pressure.
我就直接上了。
I just hit.
对啊。
Yeah.
你得熬到他们不再让你上去表演为止。
You have to like wait it out until like the
天哪。
Oh god.
他们就不让你上去表演了。
They stop asking you to like come up and
我们家其实也差不多。
We kind of had that too actually.
没你们那么夸张，但有时候爸妈会说，哎，这儿有架钢琴。
I think not as intensely as yours, but sometimes the parents would be like, oh, there's a piano lying around.
谁来弹一曲？
Anyone wanna play?
大家都直接说：别闹了。
And everyone's like, fuck no.
对啊。
Yeah.
我们家也是。
Us too.
但我们会让那个真喜欢钢琴的人去弹。
But it would be like, we would make the person who really likes piano play.
我们有个朋友家的小孩特别特别爱钢琴，而且弹得还特别棒。
We had like one family friend who's really really into piano and she was fucking good at it too.
对。
Yeah.
而我呢，就是那个练到五级就撂挑子的渣渣。
And there was like me, the shitter who quit at like level five.
她弹，我就在旁边看，边看边笑。
She would play and then I would just like watch and laugh.
好吧。
Okay.
除了你们必须参加的钢琴演奏会，你们的家庭聚餐都是啥样的？
So besides the piano recitals that you guys had to do, what were your family friend dinners like?
通常每个家长都会带两三个菜。
Usually, every parent would bring two or three dishes Mhmm.
就是那种自助餐形式。
For a potluck.
老一套了。
Typical.
我们家呢，
We
每个节日都会去指定的家庭家里过。
went to, like, designated families' houses for each holiday.
比如说，Eddie家负责感恩节。
Like, for example, Eddie's is Thanksgiving.
所以他
So his
他爸会做感恩节火鸡。
his dad will make thanks Turkey.
就是那只火鸡。
Like the turkey.
对。
Yeah.
他通常直接买现成的。
He'll usually buy it.
哦。
Oh.
我觉得其实不是真的
I don't think it's actually
秘密曝光了。
The secret comes out.
这么多年了。
All these years.
你家是怎么过的，
What's your house,
詹姆斯？
James?
我家是过春节的。
My house is for New Year's.
是的。
Yeah.
是中式年夜饭还是普通的？
Chinese or or regular?
普通的那种。
Regular one.
普通的那种。
Regular one.
但我们
But we
有台卡拉OK机。
have like the karaoke machine.
哦。
Oh.
所以我们那时候耳朵都快被震聋了，当我们的
So our ears bled when our
孩子，还有我爸妈，虽然最近他们很少再拿出来用了。
kid our parents Although recently, they don't really bust it out as much.
是啊。
Yeah.
确实不怎么用了。
Definitely not.
谢天谢地。
Thank god.
我们每个节日都有固定去的亲戚家。
We we also have that, like, designated houses for each holiday.
我家是过春节的地方。
My house is Chinese New Year.
特别有意思。
It's really cool.
我们家过年简直像流水线，一堆大人在那儿包饺子。
We have literally, like, an assembly line of parents Mhmm.
饺子都是从头开始亲手包的。
Making dumplings and we make it from scratch.
太温馨了。
That's so cute.
是啊。
Yeah.
没错。
Yeah.
我们还真没有那种每个节日固定由谁家负责的规矩。
We don't really do the whole, like, designated house thing.
对。
Mhmm.
我们一般是搞聚餐，每人带一两个菜就行。
I guess what we do is so half the time, we would do the potluck where you bring like a dish or two.
我觉得特别有意思，因为每家都有那么一道必带的拿手菜。
And I think it's really cute because I feel like every family has that one dish they always bring.
对。
Mhmm.
我们有个特别要好的朋友家，她妈妈做饭特别拿手。
So this one family friend that we're really close to, her mom is really good at cooking.
每次她都带凉拌海蜇，大概吧。
So she always brings like the jellyfish salad, I guess.
里面还会加点芥末。
And then it has like mustard in it.
哦，是啊。
Oh, yeah.
就是挺辣的。
Like spicy.
对。
Yeah.
这是道韩国菜，特别好吃。
It's it's a Korean dish and it's so good.
我每次都特别期待这道菜。
I always look forward to that.
我妈妈会做青口贝，然后在上面加辣蛋黄酱和鱼子。
And then my mom makes like mussels and then she puts spicy mayo and fish roe on top.
哦，我以前吃过一次。
Oh my way, had that once.
对。
Yeah.
是的
Yeah.
她有一次做过这个。
She made this one time.
对
Mhmm.
是啊
Yeah.
我觉得吧，每个家长都有自己拿手的菜，
Think for us, different parents have their specialty dishes that
经常带过来。
they bring over.
总有些特别受欢迎的，比如有位家长会带泰饭。
There's always I think the hot in demand ones are like, one parent brings like taifan.
炒
Fried
米饭。
rice.
对。
Yeah.
不过呢
But like
真的吗？
Really?
这个很受欢迎？
That's a popular one?
是啊。
Yeah.
意外地好吃。
It's it's surprisingly good.
就是白饭。
It's just bai tai.
我真的是
I literally
小白菜，然后就是米饭啊什么的
Bok choy and then, yeah, like rice and
我太意外了，因为我根本讨厌米饭。
I'm so surprised because I literally hate rice.
是啊。
Yeah.
可能吧，随便吧。
Maybe whatever.
对。
Yeah.
但真的超好吃。
But it's pretty bomb.
然后我们另一个家长会带牛肉卷来。
And then one of our other parents brings the beef rolls.
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哦。
Oh.
黄瓜。
Cucumber.
对。
Yeah.
你得赶紧多囤点。
You gotta you gotta like hoard up on them.
我爸妈总说他们不太会做饭。
My parents always tell me they're like, we're not good at cooking.
所以，Crystal，以后就靠你了。
So, Crystal, it's up to you in the future.
我就说，哥们儿，我真的讨厌做饭。
And I'm like, dude, I hate cooking.
你们家是那种会自带餐具的吗？
Are you guys the family that brings like utensils?
没有。
No.
我们带餐具。
We we bring dishes.
我爸妈，尤其是我妈，总说她没什么拿手菜。
But my parents or my mom, she's just like, I don't have any specific specialty.
但她
But she
总会做点我觉得还不错的菜。
always makes something that I think is like pretty decent.
对于亚裔美国人来说，食物在家庭和朋友文化里特别重要。
Food tends to be a really big part of family friend culture for Asian Americans.
对。
Mhmm.
因为很多时候，亚裔美国人都是通过做饭来表达爱，而不是靠说甜言蜜语。
Because it's like, often it's the way that Asian Americans show love to each other without having to actually say words of affection.
对啊。
Uh-huh.
因为谁受得了那个，你知道的。
Because fuck that, you know.
你们聚餐的时候，通常都是中餐，对吧？
It's usually Asian food, right, when you guys Oh, yeah.
一起吃晚饭。
Have dinners.
是的。
Yeah.
我觉得只有感恩节的时候，我们才会吃更多美式食物。
I think Thanksgiving is the only time we actually eat more American food.
对。
Yeah.
火鸡，还有火鸡。
Turkey and Turkey.
中餐。
Asian food.
天哪。
Oh my god.
你猜怎么着，我家人和朋友每年都会带一只火鸡，就图个传统。
Do you guys what my family friends, they bring one turkey and it's just kinda like for the tradition.
然后咱们每人就吃一小口，接着就继续吃中餐了。
And then we each eat a small piece of turkey and we're like, alright, back to the Asian food.
我们大多数人其实根本吃不了多少火鸡。
Most of us don't really eat too much of that turkey.
我觉得埃迪可能得吃好几天剩饭。
I feel like Eddie probably has to eat leftovers
好几周。
for weeks.
我的天。
My god.
挺好。
Good.
他们啊，我爸妈做饭啥都放点。
Like, they put it in my parents put it in everything for
大家都不太想吃火鸡，后来我们就改吃火腿了。
People didn't wanna eat the turkey so we started doing ham.
哦，原来如此。
Oh, okay.
就是，火腿啊，然后呢，
You know, ham and then, like,
配菜。
the side dishes.
火鸡太干了。
Turkey is dry.
真的特别干。
It is dry.
做起来挺难的。
It's hard to make well.
得用大量的肉汁淹着吃。
You have to drown it in gravy.
是啊。
Yeah.
我一直想试试那种turducken，
I've always wanted to do, like, the turducken,
啊？
like Oh.
啥？
The what?
就是那种，把火鸡里塞只鸭子，
The shit that's like it's like a turkey with a
鸭子
Duck
里面塞只鸭子，再塞只鸡。
inside Ducks and a chicken.
然后把鸡塞进鸭子里。
Then a chicken stuffed inside the duck.
天哪。
Oh my god.
我的天啊。
Oh my god.
这也太猛了吧。
A little intense.
那个。
The
第三个。
third one.
对。
Yeah.
我能理解火鸡里塞只鸭子，但火鸡里塞鸭子还加鸡，这有点过了。
I I can do like I can understand turkey with a duck in it, but turkey with a duck and a chicken.
这也太生猛了。
A little graphic.
就是啊。
It's like yeah.
我是不是想岔了？
Am I imagining it incorrectly?
不是。
No.
我觉得你是把这事儿想复杂了。
I think you're measuring it
对。
Yes.
你脑子里想啥都行。
Whatever you're thinking.
对。
Yes.
我听说有些亚洲家庭聚会会用鸭子代替火鸡。
I think I I think some I've heard of some Asian family friend gatherings, they do duck instead of turkey.
特别好吃。
Is so good.
确实如此。
It does.
老鸭。
Aging duck
配上点面条。
with some like bow.
对。
Yes.
家庭聚餐的时候，不好意思打断一下。
So at family friend dinners, sorry to interrupt.
你们现在肯定都流口水了吧。
You guys are, like, drooling right now.
你们家平时是把大人和小孩分开坐吗？
Do you guys usually separate adults and kids?
对我们来说，小孩就一直玩游戏或者看电影，偶尔能听见大人们在聊些什么。
And then just, like, for us, the kids would just play games or watch movies the whole time and then sometimes we could hear the adults talk about stuff.
对啊。
Mhmm.
很多时候，我们都能无意中听到他们在说我们。
And a lot of the times we would overhear them talking about us.
所以我们就会把游戏音量调低，想听清楚他们在说什么。
So we would turn down the games to like see what they were saying.
哦。
Oh.
我们倒是会把声音开大，好盖过他们说话。
I think we turned up to try to drown it out.
是的。
Yeah.
听到父母们聊我们，我们真的特别不自在。
We were really uncomfortable when we heard parents talking about us.
我们心里就想：哎哟，又来了。
We're like, oh god, they're going at it again.
老兄，说实话，我觉得这个播客话题的结论就是：家庭聚会就是为了秀孩子。
Dude, honestly, I I feel like the conclusion of this whole podcast topic is family friend gatherings are to flex kids.
对。
Yes.
我就是这么觉得的，因为以前他们老聊什么上大学啊、准备上大学啊、高中成绩怎么样之类的。
That's what I've gathered because, yeah, they used to always just like talk about like college, getting ready for college and like how you're doing in high school and stuff.
我觉得我们那儿可能没那么明显，因为我们那群朋友家的孩子比较少。
I think for us, it was less of a flex maybe because our family friend group was smaller.
对。
Mhmm.
我上初中、高中那会儿，核心的朋友圈就四五户人家。
Our core friend group when I was in middle school, high school, it was maybe like four or five families.
所以我们当时主要是向那个大女儿家讨教经验。
So for us, it was really like asking the oldest daughter's family for advice.
对。
Mhmm.
因为她是最先经历中学的，而我是独生子女，没兄弟姐妹可问，只能靠她和别的朋友家长提点。
Because she was the one going through high school first, middle school first, And then I was an only child, so I had to ask her and our other family friends because I had nothing to go off of.
你们的年龄差距还挺分散的嘛。
Your your age difference was kind of like spread out then,
是啊。
Yeah.
她比我大两岁。
So she's two years older than me.
对。
Mhmm.
我还有一个朋友，比我大一岁，但和我同年级。
I have another family friend who's one year older but same grade.
对。
Mhmm.
然后就是我，最小的那个刚高中毕业。
And then it's me and then the baby just graduated high school.
哦，真的啊。
Oh, wow.
是的。
Yeah.
我们圈子里，年纪大的是我和另一个同龄人，其他人都比我大一岁。
In my group, there's the older kids which is me and there's one other person my age and everyone else is about one year older.
再往下就是我弟弟那一拨，大两岁。
And then there's like my brother's age which is two years older.
对。
Mhmm.
所以我们这些大的都算是一拨儿的。
So we're all like the big kids and we're just grouped as one.
然后那些小的呢，就是大家的弟弟妹妹，还有一些就是年纪小点的。
And then we have the little kids which is everyone's younger sibling and then some of them are just younger.
那些人现在应该大三或者大二了吧。
And then those are people who are I think they're like third or second year in college now.
哦。
Oh.
那你们平时也是分开玩的吗？
So did you guys hang out in separate groups too?
是的。
Yeah.
差不多吧。
Kind of.
天哪。
Oh my god.
是的
Yeah.
我们小时候有专门给小孩坐的桌子。
When we were younger, we had like the kids table.
但现在我们就随便在沙发或者哪儿吃。
But now it's we kinda just eat on like couches or wherever.
根本就没有专门为小孩设的桌子了。
Like, there's no really table for the kids.
嗯，对。
Uh-huh.
对。
Yeah.
不过大人的桌子倒是有的。
There's a table for the adults though.
我觉得我们家也是这样。
I think that's the exact same thing we have.
我们就靠沙发凑合。
We just have the couch.
对。
Yeah.
但我
But I
我觉得最近情况不一样了，因为我们大家都长大了，我弟弟以前是群里最小的，刚高中毕业。
think in recent times, because we're all older now, like, my brother was the youngest of, the whole group and then he just graduated high school.
可其他人都上大学了，现在也都到喝酒的年龄了。
But everybody else is in, like, college and stuff and it's, like, drinking age now.
天哪。
Oh, god.
所以是啊。
So yeah.
现在真的跟以前很不一样了。
It's like it's actually, like, pretty different now.
我觉得去年感恩节是个转折点
Like, I think this past Thanksgiving was the turning point
就是你喝到失忆那次？
where mean when you blacked out?
对啊。
Yeah.
真的一点不夸张。
Like straight up.
那次是家庭聚会，我们小时候老偷偷喝点葡萄酒什么的。
Like, it was like a family friend gathering and then I think we we had always like snuck wine or whatever like when we're kids.
是啊。
Mhmm.
但这次我们直接跑去买了好几瓶酒，
But we straight up went out and bought like bottles and
天哪。
Oh my god.
三十瓶啤酒。
30 baker beer.
到晚上结束的时候，全喝光了。
Everything was gone by the end of the night.
我也彻底醉倒了。
And so was I.
主要是埃迪喝的，还有啊，
It was mostly Eddie who drank and Oh,
另一个朋友。
and another friend.
哦，对啊。
Oh, yeah.
是啊。
Yeah.
那是我第一次去参加他们家朋友的节日聚会。
That was my first time visiting their family friend's like holiday party.
天哪。
Oh, god.
他们就说：‘哎，你能来接我们一下吗？’
And they were like, oh, can you pick us up?
因为我陪我妈待得有点晚了。
Because I was going a little bit late after hanging out with my mom.
他们问：‘你能来接我们吗？顺便去趟CVS行不？’
They're like, can you pick us up and can we go to CVS?
对。
Mhmm.
我就说：‘行吧。’
And I was like, oh, okay.
然后我们就去买了三十瓶啤酒和一瓶烈酒。
And we go pick up, like, a 30 rack and a fifth.
老天爷。
God.
我当时真的被吓到了。
And I was just so shook.
对我来说，这简直像文化冲击。
It was like a culture shock for me.
这可不是不行。
That's not no.
对。
Yeah.
这可不是不行。
That's not no.
没在聚拢。
Not gathering.
我也会被吓到的。
I would be shocked too.
对。
Yeah.
不过克丽丝托，你之前说你家庭聚会上都喝不少酒的啊
But, Crystal, you said you drink a lot of like, a good amount of wine at family parties.
对的
Yeah.
我刚满21岁的时候就想，我本来就挺喜欢葡萄酒的
So once I turned 21, I was like, well, I mean, I really like wine.
那为什么不喝点呢？
So why not just drink some?
因为我们家永远都有好多葡萄酒
Because we always have hella wine.
对呀
Mhmm.
我刚开始喝没一会儿，我爸妈就慢悠悠逛过来了
And I started drinking and then the parents slowly walked by
没错
Mhmm.
整晚都在喝。
Throughout the night.
他们都说：天哪，Crystal。
They're like, oh my god, Crystal.
他们一直说，没想到我喝得这么多。
They just commented on they're saying that they were so surprised that I was drinking a lot.
现在呢，我莫名其妙就成了‘那个爱喝酒的’。
And then now, I'm kind of accidentally known as like an Accidentally.
就是那种一喝就停不下来的人。
Someone who just drinks a lot.
我亲叔叔还特地过来找我。
Literally, uncle came up to me.
他说：Crystal，你得悠着点。
He was like, Crystal, you need to be careful.
你知道吗，你曾祖母以前是酒鬼。
You know, your great grandma was an alcoholic.
天哪。
Oh my god.
我当时就说，好吧。
And I was like, okay.
天哪。
Oh my god.
这也太搞笑了。
That's so funny.
是啊。
Yeah.
我觉得我这形象是自己搞出来的。
I feel like I kinda established that reputation.
没错。
Absolutely.
根本不是一回事。
It's not even close.
是的
Yeah.
不过说真的，还挺好的。
Mean It's kinda nice though.
就是在家庭聚会上喝点酒。
Just drinking at a family party.
对。
Yeah.
没错。
Yes.
感觉更像个大人了。
Like, feel more adult.
没错。
Exactly.
我觉得说实话，这反而让孩子们和父母更亲近了，因为咱们爸妈平时不都爱喝点红酒、啤酒嘛。
I think it kind of honestly brought the kids closer to the parents too because our parents always, like, drink wine and beer Mhmm.
聚会的时候，我们以前总会玩《超级马里奥兄弟》之类的游戏，对吧。
In the gatherings and then we used to play, you know, Super Smash Bros and like Mhmm.
随便玩点电子游戏，现在更多是大家聚在一起的意思。
Random video games It's more of like a coming together thing for us now.
我们那时候也跟爸妈一起喝点酒。
Like, we drank with our parents a bit.
还玩了点扑克牌之类的。
We played like some poker and stuff.
是的。
Yeah.
对。
Yeah.
那种聚会明显更成熟了，我特别喜欢。
It it was like a lot more mature of a gathering and kinda liked it a lot.
是的。
Yeah.
现在大人们也能跟孩子们一起玩了。
The adults can kinda participate with the kids now.
是的。
Yeah.
对。
Yeah.
嗯哼。
Yeah.
我不确定。
I don't know.
我不确定自己能不能在家人朋友面前喝酒。
I just don't know if I could drink in front of my family friends.
我平时真不跟我爸一起喝酒。
I don't I don't really drink with my dad.
对。
Mhmm.
我和我妈喝酒挺自在的，但不会非得等我爸在场才喝。
I'm comfortable drinking with my mom, but I don't only drink when my dad's there.
对。
Mhmm.
我不确定。
I don't know.
这差不多是一种尊重吧。
It's like a respect thing almost.
哦。
Oh.
是的。
Yeah.
有一次我不小心喝得特别醉。
I accidentally got really drunk one time.
那时候我有点不好意思。
And it was I was a little embarrassed.
但我妈处理得特别温柔。
But my mom was really cute about it.
第二天早上我醒过来，下楼的时候，她就……
In the morning when I woke up, she was and I went down back downstairs.
她跟我说：‘水晶，你昨天醉得可真够呛。’
She was like, Crystal, you were so drunk yesterday.
然后她抱了抱我，我就说：‘哦，好吧。’
And she gave me a hug and I was like, oh, okay.
所以你是跟爸妈一起喝酒时喝醉的，还是喝醉了回家被她撞见的？
So you got really drunk when you were drinking with your parents or you came home drunk and she saw you?
哦，不是。
Oh, no.
那是参加一个家里的朋友聚会时。
It was at a family friend gathering.
哦，对，那时候我确实喝得挺多的。
Oh, then, like, yeah, I was pretty drunk.
不错啊。
Nice.
我爸爸在感恩节那天，我记得我下楼，他就说：你该吃点香蕉。
My dad, Thanksgiving, I think I went downstairs and he's like, you should eat some bananas.
我想那大概是……
I guess that's like
挺好的香蕉吧之类的。
good bananas or something.
香蕉。
Bananas.
对啊。
Yeah.
我还没听过这个说法。
I haven't heard that one.
没错。
Yeah.
不过呢。
But yeah.
对。
Yeah.
那天埃迪可真是疯得不行。
Oh, Eddie was a wild one that night.
真的吗？
Really?
我能想象。
I can imagine.
那话是什么意思？
What's that supposed
啊？
to mean?
是啊。
Yeah.
我觉得我不太想在家人朋友面前喝酒或喝醉，可能这有点亚洲文化的特点吧——明明他们看着我长大的，我还是觉得得在他们面前保持形象。
I guess part of why I wouldn't wanna drink or get really drunk in front of family friends is this might be a kind of an Asian thing, but I feel like I have some sort of image to uphold in front of family friend parents, even though they've seen me since I was young.
我真不太想在他们面前喝得烂醉。
And I don't necessarily wanna get really really drunk in front of them.
对不起，Eddie。
I'm sorry, Eddie.
没别的意思。
No shade.
是的。
Yeah.
现在想想，我更像是那个听话的‘别人家孩子’。
Now, like, going back to it, I'm more of like the obedient golden child.
哦，对啊。
Oh, yeah.
所以那年感恩节，我其实没喝多少。
And so that Thanksgiving, I actually didn't drink too much.
他一直在维持自己的形象。
He was busy upholding his image.
没错，完全如此。
Oh, absolutely.
我还得照顾Eddie，好让他形象更好。
And I was taking care of Eddie to Yeah.
就是为了把这个形象巩固得更牢。
To absolutely like further that image.
是啊。
Oh, yeah.
Eddie倒是挺坦然的，反正他不是那个乖孩子，我也不太懂。
Eddie's just embracing his not as golden child I don't I don't know
谈不上什么坦然，但我觉得我们从小就跟父母定下了某种角色或口碑，对吧？
about embracing, but I feel like we kinda establish these roles or like reputations with their parents growing up, you know?
所以他们也就习惯了，就像James说的，他就是那种典型的乖孩子。
So then they kinda come to expect things like James kinda said, he was typical golden child.
他戴眼镜。
He wears glasses.
我觉得吧，因为他一直看起来像个家长，所以和他相处起来特别自然。
My theory is that since he's like always sort of looked like a parent, he gets along with
是啊。
him.
天哪。
Oh my gosh.
好吧。
Okay.
我要去跟你爸说你身上的纹身的事。
I'm gonna tell your dad about your tattoo.
他知道。
He knows.
其实我早就给他看了。
I showed him actually.
哦，我几天前给他看了。
Oh, I showed him a couple days ago.
对。
Yeah.
哦。
Oh.
等等。
Wait.
他什么反应？
How did he react?
他反应其实比我妈好多了。
He actually reacted better than my mom.
他就说，哇，这纹身挺大的，但就只是问了我一些问题。
He was like, yo, that's like kinda big but like how long he he kinda just asked questions about it.
他就问，花了多长时间？
He's like, how long did it take?
他问花了多少钱？
Like, how much did it cost?
天哪。
Oh my god.
他说：行吧。
He's like, okay.
对。
Yeah.
但能撑多久啊？
But how long will it last?
什么时候会消失？
When is it going away?
不会吧。
No.
真的不会。
No.
我觉得他后来还说，其实之前就想买一个了。
I think he actually said after that that he wanted to get one before.
所以这大概就是原因吧。
So that's probably
难怪。
why.
我的天。
My god.
他说他想要一些中国风的字儿，像句格言之类的。
He's like, I want some like Chinese like writing, like a saying or
啥乱七八糟的。
some shit.
哇哦。
Wow.
你觉得你爸妈特别传统，还是说他们其实挺开明的，愿意接受现在这些新潮流？
But do you think your parents are super traditional or do you think they're more progressive in trying to accept like, current trends and stuff?
我觉得他们还挺传统的，不过有些事吧，确实也没那么死板。
I honestly think they're pretty traditional, but like for some stuff Mhmm.
他们其实也算有点开明。
They are a little more progressive.
比如我爸，莫名其妙地想纹身，这事儿上他就挺开放的。
Like, I guess, like, my dad just weirdly wanted a tattoo so he's like progressive in that.
但我妈在这方面就特别传统。
My mom is definitely more traditional for that.
她看到我肩膀上的纹身，差点没晕过去。
She was like freaking out with my shoulder.
你具体是什么反应？
What was your exact reaction?
唉，算了，我接受了。
I mean, okay.
我其实提前给她打了预防针，跟她说：妈，有件事跟你说一下。
I told I kind of prepped her for it by saying, hey, mom.
这周末我要去洛杉矶。
I'm going to LA this weekend.
我要去纹个身。
I'm gonna get a tattoo.
哦。
Oh.
然后她问我要纹多大，我就随口说在肩膀上。
And then she kinda asked like how big it'd be and I just kinda told her in my shoulder.
嗯。
Uh-huh.
其实是个半臂袖子的图案。
It's actually a half sleeve.
是啊。
Yeah.
所以当我一说肩膀的时候。
So when When when I shoulder.
当我亲自给她看的时候，她直接说：哇，这也太大了吧。
When when I showed her in person, she's just like, wow, that's really big.
别给你爸看。
Don't show your dad.
其实她还以为他会比实际反应更激烈呢。
I think he she actually thought, like, he would react worse than he did.
哦。
Oh.
这倒有点出乎意料。
So that was like a little surprising.
天哪。
Oh my god.
这让我想，也许我也该跟爸妈说一声。
That makes me think maybe I should tell my parents.
我觉得只要你跟他们坦诚相待就行。
I think as long as you're open with them Mhmm.
关于这件事，提前别藏着掖着，你知道的，因为……
About it like beforehand, don't try to hide it, you know, because
对我来说已经晚了。
It's too late for me.
我觉得你得跟他们好好谈一谈，像成年人那样。
I think you just have to have like a adult conversation about it, you know.
对。
Yeah.
没错。
That's true.
你已经不是那个事事都要问爸妈能不能干的年纪了。
You're no longer at the age of asking for permission to do stuff.
是啊。
Yeah.
而且我觉得，我们早就习惯了这种模式，毕竟从小就是这样。
And I think it's like we are accustomed to that because we grow up like that.
对。
Mhmm.
你知道的，作为亚洲孩子，父母对我们的期望往往更传统，我们总是不敢开口要什么，因为以前一提就被他们否了。
And you know, as Asian kids, your parents might have more traditional expectations of you and you're always might like kinda shy away from asking them for stuff because they always shut you down beforehand.
对。
Mhmm.
但咱们也得明白，现在我们都已经是成年人了。
But I mean, you have to realize that we're also like adults now.
是的。
Yeah.
但我觉得，你和我，现在都还
But my thought is, you and me, we're both living
跟父母住在一起。
with our parents.
对吧？
Right?
是的。
Yeah.
所以我打算等搬出去之后再告诉我妈。
So I like, I'll wait until I move out to tell my mom.
因为现在他们还在养我，这点没错。
Because right now, it's like they're still supporting me Yeah.
比如住的地方，
Like housing and
说得对。
That's true.
还有这些开销。
All that kind of stuff.
我觉得自己现在还受他们管着，确实如此。
I feel like I'm still under their like Yeah.
而且
And
而且我觉得，父母对男生一般更宽松些。
plus, I think parents are more lenient with guys.
至于女生，他们往往会更保护一点。
Oh, And girls, they tend to be a little bit more protective of
我也有这种感觉。
And my kinda see that.
是的。
Yeah.
我最老的那个纹身，现在都四五年了。
And my oldest tattoo is like four or five years old now.
没事的。
It's okay.
你妈根本发现不了。
Your mom won't know.
你就说，我刚纹了这四个。
Be like, I just got all four tattoos.
我懂，确实。
I feel yeah.
你的纹身本来就比较容易遮住。
For that, like, your tattoos are a little more easy to hide.
对吧？
Right?
对。
Yeah.
我故意选了那些好遮挡的地方。
I purposely get it in like easy to hide spots.
是啊。
Yeah.
我呢，能藏多久就藏多久。
I think mine, I hid as long as I could.
现在都夏天了，你懂的。
Now it's summer, know?
所以我现在在家就穿短袖了。
So I'm gonna wear like short sleeves around the house.
之前那件外套，算是我最后一次穿了。
Like I wore like, jackets and stuff for the last time.
你那会儿还穿着羽绒服呢。
You were wearing like a parka.
也不是羽绒服，但你懂的，每天上班空调开得足，整天披个外套都没问题。
Not parkas, but I mean, you know, you go to work every day, there's AC so you can wear a jacket the whole time.
平时想遮哪儿就遮哪儿。
You can pretty much cover it up whenever.
但今天湾区真真切切热到90度了。
But now it's it's literally 90 degrees in the Bay Area today.
所以嘛，我想在家怎么舒服怎么走。
So, you know, I wanna walk around my house Yeah.
穿啥都随我心意。
Wearing whatever I wanna wear.
是啊
Mhmm.
没错
Yeah.
我妈当初直接跟我说，再这样就跟我断绝关系
My mom straight up told me she would disown me.
害
Oh.
她还说要把我从家里除名，不认我这个孩子了。
She was like, I'll cut you out of our family.
我的天呐。
Oh my god.
说起来也挺离谱的，克里斯特尔，你也见过我妈的对吧？
And it's weird because, Crystal, you've met my mom.
对吧？
Right?
是的。
Yes.
对。
Yes.
我妈妈其实特别开明。
My mom is really liberal
嗯，是啊。
Uh-huh.
她对什么事都特别包容，Mhmm。
And she's really, really open minded Mhmm.
可就是不能接受纹身，也不知道为啥，可能在韩国，纹身就跟黑帮似的，Yeah。
About everything except tattoos for some Oh my Maybe because in Korea, it's like Yeah.
像黑帮分子，Yeah。
A gangster Yeah.
对。
Yeah.
我觉得吧，其实这也跟
I think, yeah, it's like also the
在中国也是，我觉得所有那些亚洲文化里， tattoo 都跟混混扯不上关系。
In China too, I think it like like generally all those Asian things like so gangster related.
所以我觉得挺意外的。
Which is why I'm surprised.
对啊。
Yeah.
说实话，我爸妈对这事比我想的开多了。
My parents were like a lot more chill with it than I thought they'd be, to be honest.
不过我觉得吧，你爸妈都是在这儿上学的吧。
But I do think I mean, your parents both went to school here.
对吧？
Right?
是啊。
Yeah.
他们在这儿上完大学，哦，原来如此。
They went to college here and then Oh, okay.
说实话，这些年我大概是慢慢磨得他们妥协了。
Honestly, I think over the years I've just worn them down.
比如我戴了耳环。
Like, I got earrings.
我上高中时才第一次戴耳环。
I got earrings for the first time in high school.
天哪。
Oh my god.
他们为此差点炸了。
They flipped out about that.
那是我高一刚入学的时候。
This is like freshman year of high school.
我是在浴室里，让一个陌生女孩给我打的耳洞。
I got my ears pierced in my bathroom by like this random chick.
她消完毒后，就用图钉直接给我扎了。
She just like pierced it with a thumbtack after she like sterilized it.
天哪。
Oh my god.
后来我戴上了，他们居然好长时间都没发现。
And then, you know, like I had them and they're like, what the they actually didn't notice for the longest time.
但我真没想到他们居然没察觉。
But I'm surprised they didn't notice.
对啊。
I know.
就是啊。
Just
根本没法注意不到。
hard to not.
我觉得亚裔父母有时候也没那么敏感。
I feel like Asian parents can also be like not that
他们简直是个亿万富翁。
They're like a billionaire.
对啊。
Yeah.
他们根本没留意这个。
They don't like look out for it.
是的。
Yeah.
他们发现的时候，直接懵了：这啥玩意儿？
When they did notice, they were like, what the fuck?
赶紧把它取出来。
Take that out.
所以啊，很长一段时间，我一跟他们待一块儿就先把耳钉摘了，等走远了再戴回去。
So, yeah, I kinda for the longest time, I actually took them out when I was around them and then put them back in.
天哪。
Oh god.
你喜不喜欢啊？
My Did you like it?
是的。
Yeah.
我耳朵开始肿了，感觉不太对劲。
It it didn't like, I think my ears started swelling.
天哪。
Oh god.
我当时就想，这事儿真不该干。
I was just like, this is not the right move.
我还是先让它自己养好吧。
I'm just gonna, like, let it heal.
后来一上大学，我立马又去打了个耳洞。
And then I ended up getting them pierced in college again as soon as I went off.
对。
Mhmm.
到后来，他们也觉得这事儿没啥大不了的了。
And then by then, they were chill with it too.
是啊。
Yeah.
我觉得我干脆还是戴口罩吧。
Think I ought to I honestly just wear my mask.
所以很明显，就像我们之前说的，埃迪绝对不是那个宠儿。
So clearly, you know, as we mentioned earlier, Eddie is definitely not the golden child.
对。
Yeah.
那个小混蛋。
The hooligan.
我不确定是不是
I don't know if
你小时候有没有也干过啥别的事儿被逮着？
you also get caught doing other stuff when you were a kid?
我觉得我们小时候，是这样的。
I think when we were really little Mhmm.
他总是在那儿到处乱跑。
He would be the one that did he was like running around a lot.
哦，那个北方的，对。
Oh, the North like Yeah.
然后呢，我觉得咱们之前聊的那整个互联网的事儿，我挺有感触的。
And then, I mean, I guess, like, I like the whole Internet thing that we talked about.
是啊。
Oh, yeah.
对啊。
Oh, yeah.
他老让我去跟他爸妈要上网权限。
He used to make me ask his parents for Internet.
天哪。
Oh, my god.
是的
Yeah.
家庭聚会的时候，他一来，我就跟他说：‘你去跟他们说吧，他们不抠门。’
Family friend parties, when he came over, I'd be like, yo, go ask them because they're not cheap.
结果通常都管用。
And it would usually work.
然后我想，有一回我们上中学的时候，嗯。
And then I think one time when we were in middle school Mhmm.
埃迪发了上百条短信，但没办
Eddie sent hundreds of texts but didn't have a
短信套餐。
texting plan.
天哪。
Oh my god.
结果他的电话账单涨得老高。
And so he racked up a pretty big phone bill.
天啊，我们当时每月只有200条短信的额度。
Oh my This is we we had a like a 200 text like monthly plan.
所以你只能发
So you could only send
200条
200
短信
text
家里人也算在内吗？
Like family?
家人之间也限200条？
Within a family?
后来我老爸不知道怎么知道了这事。
And then I think my dad got wind of it.
他一看账单，直接说：这事儿不能再干了。
Like, he saw the bill and he's like, you can't do this anymore.
天啊，所以我后来就少发了，但有一次他发现我明明该睡觉了还在发消息。
Oh my So like, I cut it down and then I think another time, he caught me texting when I was supposed to be in bed.
啊。
Oh.
大概是晚上十点左右吧，反正就是个破规矩。
I think like 10:00 or some shit.
等等。
Wait.
这也太早了吧。
That's so early.
那时候我才六七年级呢。
Is like sixth or seventh grade.
哦，这样啊。
Oh, okay.
你知道吗，电话账单用的是东部时间，所以看起来比实际时间晚了三个小时。
Know, I think also the phone bill was in Eastern time, so it looked three hours later than it was.
但他就问：‘你半夜十二点发什么短信啊？’
But he was like, why are you texting at 12AM?
他还说，我觉得他直接给那个我正在发短信的人回了消息。
And he's like I think he texted the person I was texting.
他居然问我：‘你为啥给我儿子发短信？’
He was like, why are you texting my son?
天哪。
Oh my god.
我的天啊。
Oh my god.
那会儿我喜欢的一个女生。
And that was a girl I liked at the time.
所以嘛。
So yeah.
她说：‘我不再喜欢爱德华了。’
She's like, I no more Edward.
是啊。
Yeah.
天哪。
Yikes.
她说：我受够你的烂摊子了。
She's like, I'm done with your shit.
对。
Yeah.
不过我觉得我和埃迪还挺像的。
I think I'm kinda similar with Eddie though.
我小时候可真是个问题儿童。
I I was a problem child.
真的吗？
Really?
嗯，是啊。
Yeah.
怎么说呢？
How how so?
当你问‘你有没有因为干坏事被逮过’的时候，我就想起了以前的事。
When you when you ask like, have you ever gotten caught doing stuff Uh-huh.
对，那让我想起一段回忆。
That, like, triggered a memory.
我以前经常偷偷溜出家门。
I used to, like, sneak out of my house sometimes.
高中时候？
In high school?
是的。
Yeah.
就是高中那会儿。
In in high school.
我会半夜溜出去，和朋友一起散步。
I'd sneak out of my house and go on, like, walks with friends.
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