本·夏皮罗驳斥了我们对婚姻的观点！为何传统保守派对现代约会的看法是错误的

他们可以让人们进入或在聊天中，这样人们就能找到它。

They can have people in or in the chat so people can go find it.

你可能会遇到一个烂乐队。

You might get a shit band.

嗯。

Yeah.

事实就是这样。

The facts.

你在欣赏德莱布拉吗？

You admiring Delebra?

是啊，老兄。

Yes, bro.

德莱布拉到场了。

Delebra is in the house.

那些家伙。

Them boys.

我们在看。

We're watching.

我们在看。

We're watching.

好的，兄弟。

Okay, bro.

谢谢你的支持。

I appreciate that.

胡桑·塔米罗，超级贴纸。

Husan Tamiro, super sticker.

感谢。

Appreciate that.

德蒙·蒂·莫，十美元走了。

Demon tie mo, $10 goes.

马林焕然一新。

Marin afresh.

说完这些之后，孩子们，记得检查一下口袋里的钱包。

Make sure you check your pockets for your wallet after talking about them boys.

Marin，你只要说一句话，一个大鼹鼠就会从绳索顶端扔下一个巨大的海地煎饼。

Marin, just say, you just say the word a big mole will deliver a big Haitian pancake off the top rope incoming.

好的。

Okay.

谢谢兄弟。

Appreciate that bro.

还是那么厉害。

Still got it.

那些家伙又说了，顺便问一下，有没有更便宜的超级检查？

Them boys again says, by the way, is there a cheaper super check?

哇。

Wow.

搞定这家伙，伙计。

Stuff that man, dude.

嘿，伙计，我们要保持这个播客的专业性。

Hey man, we're keeping this podcast professional.

好吗？

Alright?

喂。

Yo.

你们得他妈的冷静点，别闹了。

Y'all gotta fucking chill out with this shit.

喂。

Yo.

那只是

That's

不太合适，伙计。

not cool, man.

这不合适。

That's not cool.

这太不爽了，兄弟。

That's not cool, bro.

你看着，Alpha Kenny上身了。

Alpha Kenny body while you watch.

好的。

Okay.

看看那家伙的玩意儿。

Look at that nigga's shit.

搞什么鬼？

What the heck?

老兄，这到底在搞什么？

What the fuck is going on, bro?

好的。

Okay.

我们有Chris了。

We got Chris.

最后一个也来了。

And then the last one's here.

从现在开始，各位，因为这里已经有六千多人了。

Then guys from this point forward, because there was already, over 6,000 y'all in here.

从现在开始，我们只读20岁及以上的留言。

We're gonna go 20 and up from this point forward.

对。

Yeah.

我会读一下那些发来的留言，因为你们在捐款。

I'll read these that came through because you guys are donating.

我们非常感激这一点。

And obviously we appreciate that greatly.

你们知道，每一分钱我们都重新投入到了播客中。

Every single dollars y'all know we invest right back into the podcast.

对。

Yeah.

无论是旅行、邀请新嘉宾、设备等等，新的设备。

Whether it's travel, go see new guests, equipment, etcetera, new equipment.

所以，没错，我们实际上升级了不少移动设备。

So, yeah, actually upgraded a bunch of our, mobile stuff.

我知道一些人在丹的节目之后联系我们，说：嘿，音质怎么样怎么样。

So I know some of y'all were hitting hitting us up after the Dan show, saying, yo, sound, blah, blah, blah.

所以我们做了一些升级。

So made some upgrades.

好的。

Okay.

蔡斯说，在盖恩斯请一位总统梅耶要求太高了吗？

Chase goes, is it too much to ask for a president Meyer in Gaines?

老兄，那当然很棒，但我根本不可能参选，因为他们会拿出我所有说‘女性应该少得一些’的片段，我立马就会失去一半选票。

Bro, it'd be great, but I would never be able to run for office because they would get all those clips of me saying women deserve less, and I would immediately lose half the vote.

Discipline of 一直关注你们很久了。

Discipline of has been following you men for a long while now.

把你们各位、安德鲁·泰特和杰伊·沃伦的教导都付诸实践后，我的生活发生了巨大的积极变化。

Put all the teachings of you guys, Andrew Tate and Jay Warren to practice, and my life has changed drastically for for the better.

谢谢，愿上帝保佑你。

Thank you, and God bless.

永远充满大爱与支持。

Big love and support always.

我很感激。

I appreciate it.

Top G 是免费的。

Top g is free.

是的。

Yeah.

他回家了。

He's home.

嘿，伙计们，我和特里斯坦聊过了。

And, yo, guys, I I spoke with Tristan.

到目前为止，我几乎每天都和安德鲁聊过。

At this point, I I've talked to Andrew almost every day.

他们现在状态不错，朋友们。

They're doing well guys.

他们心情很好。

They're in good spirits.

你们很快就会收到他们的消息。

And you guys will hear from them soon.

好的。

Okay.

我一直在给安德鲁发新的牙买加舞厅歌曲。

I've been sending Andrew new, Jamaican dancehall songs.

他非常喜欢。

He's been loving it.

他真的很喜欢，老兄。

He's been loving it, man.

是啊，老兄。

Yeah, man.

所以他们现在很好，伙计们。

So they're doing well guys.

他们状态不错。

G they're doing well.

所以，这才是真正重要的。

So, so that that's really what matters.

我只希望他们能回家。

I'm just happy that they're home.

嗯。

Yeah.

Bossa，给Fresh and Fit打个招呼。

Bossa, shout to Fresh and Fit.

一直是长期支持者。

Been a long time supporter.

玛丽娜，捏捏你的脸颊。

Marina, grab your cheeks.

操。

Fuck.

什么鬼？

What the fuck?

嗯。

Yeah.

你们啊，真是搞些奇怪的东西。

Y'all be, yeah, y'all be on some weirdo shit.

同性恋。

Gay.

马特奥。

Mateo.

嘿，玛丽娜。

Hey, Marina.

我刚看完瑞安·道森播客上的《Sneak》。

I just finished watching Sneak on Ryan Dawson pod.

你有什么看法？

What are your thoughts?

我没看完，但瑞安·道森真的很棒。

I didn't finish watching it, but Ryan Dawson is very good.

他太硬核了。

He's based.

目前我就说这么多。

That's all I'm gonna say for now.

太硬核了。

Very based.

MoneyNet问：YouTube给你们发什么类型的报税表格？

MoneyNet goes, what kind of tax forms does YouTube give you guys?

太私密了。

TMI.

嗯。

Yeah.

麦克斯韦。

Maxwell.

第一次现场看到你们。

First time catching you guys live.

是你们的铁粉，很高兴来到这里。

Big fan and happy to be here.

好吧？

Okay?

兄弟，给你点赞。

Shout to you, bro.

可以去吧，孩子。

Can go kid.

可以去吧，孩子。

Can go kid.

伙计们，最近怎么样？

What's up fellas?

我想为之前的消息道歉。

I'd like to apologize for the previous messages.

谢谢你们对我提出批评。

Thanks for holding me accountable.

我不记得你以前发过什么消息，好吧。

I don't remember your past previous messages, Okay.

你们什么都做。

Y'all do everything.

感谢你们。

Appreciate y'all.

是的，我们确实如此，老兄。

Yes we do, man.

我们支持你们，老兄。

We got y'all, man.

我们实际上在覆盖你们各种各样的概念，

We literally covering you guys every type of concept,

老兄。

bro.

认真的，真的，老兄。

Seriously, Literally, bro.

这就是为什么那些反应频道的家伙在乱说，老兄。

That's why, like, these reaction channels talking shit, bro.

我觉得他们没法竞争，老兄。

I don't they can't compete, bro.

他们没法竞争，老兄。

They can't compete, bro.

我的意思是，真的，他们根本不在同一个水平上，兄弟。

Like, literally, like, they're not even on the same level, man.

他们主流机构和价值观在乱说。

They're main agency and values talking shit.

就这样了。

That's it.

去做吧。

Do.

就这样了。

That's it.

他们就在这儿瞎扯淡。

They just talk shit like here.

我不是要黑本·沙皮罗。

Not I'm gonna talk shit about Ben Shapiro.

我要给你们讲清楚事实真相。

I'm gonna give you all the facts of what it really is.

因为事情是这样的。

Like I, because here's the thing.

我喜欢本。

I like Ben.

我真的这么认为。

I really do.

我同意他的很多政治观点。

I agree with a lot of his political views.

我并不完全同意，但我同意他的很多政治观点。

I don't agree with everything, but I agree with a lot of his political views.

我认为他非常聪明，非常有智慧。

I think he has a very, he's a very smart guy, very intelligent.

他毕业于哈佛大学法学院，思维敏锐，口才出众，是出色的辩手。

He went to Harvard, law school, very sharp, very well spoken, great debater.

但在这方面，关于两性关系以及男性在2023年如何与女性相处，他的领域。

But in this regard, when it comes to intersexual dynamics and men dealing with women in 2023, his arena.

并不

Is not

是他的领域。

his arena.

是啊。

Yeah.

你知道吗？

You know?

我马上给你们展示为什么。

And I'm gonna show you guys why here in a second.

两次营地，你的头衔匹配了你的婚姻，所以我想和大家分享这节经文。

Camp two times, your title met your marriage, so I thought I'd share this verse.

请说。

Go ahead.

利未记21章7节。

Leviticus twenty one seven.

他们不可娶妓女或被玷污的女子为妻，也不可娶被丈夫休弃的妇人，因为他是圣洁的，归于他的神。

They shall not take a wife that is a whore or profane, neither shall they take a woman put away for her husband for he is holy unto his God.

这是旧约。

That's Old Testament.

但没错，我的意思是，现在这到处都是，兄弟。

But yeah, I mean, nowadays, that's everywhere, bro.

我们接下来有谁？迈基·克鲁兹。

We have here who's next, Mikey Cruz.

我23岁的时候结婚了。

I got married when I was 23.

我现在25岁，已婚，有三个儿子。

I'm currently 25 married with three sons.

我结婚一年后才接触到RPA的理念，因为我听了传统保守派的建议。

I didn't become RPA aware until a year after I was married because I listened to trad con advice.

我现在发现很难抽出时间来提升自己。

I now find very hard to find the time to work on myself.

是啊，这很

Yeah, It's

难，兄弟。

tough, bro.

因为老兄，想象一下在一个基督教家庭长大。

Because dude, imagine being raised in a Christian family.

那就是你所知道的一切。

That's all you know.

去上学，结婚，生孩子。

Go to school, get married, have kids.

我们心想，天哪。

We're like, damn.

我并没有等去看她是不是适合我的好女孩。

I didn't wait to see she's a good girl for me.

这真的应该由我来决定，或者为了钱。

It should really hear from me or for the money.

你其实并不了解。

You don't really know.

所以这很难，伙计。

So it's tough, man.

确实很难啊，老兄。

It is tough, man.

是啊。

Yeah.

好吧。

All right.

莫，我们差不多都跟上了。

Mo, we're caught up pretty much.

是的。

Yes.

好吧。

All right.

不错。

Cool.

所以各位，咱们来聊聊今天的话题吧。

So guys, so let's get into the today's topic guys.

所以，正如你们所知，有一段视频发布了，实际上是我注意到了这个。

So, so as you guys know a video dropped, actually this came to my attention.

让我们稍微回溯一下过去。

Let's go back in time a little bit.

对。

Right.

我弟弟发给我一段视频，是本·沙皮罗的。

So my little brother sent me a video and it was Ben Shapiro.

我当时想，哦，太棒了。

And I was like, oh, awesome.

这是什么？

What's this?

于是我打开了视频，发现他正在评论我们和Valuetainment Money做的访谈或播客片段。

So I opened up the video and I see that he's reacting to a clip from our interview or a podcast that we did with Valuetainment Money.

对吧？

Right?

亚当·索斯卡播客，对吧？

Adam Saucecast podcast, right?

索斯卡播客。

Saucecast podcast.

对。

Yeah.

也就是索斯卡。

AKA Saucecast.

在那个播客里，我谈到了结婚前你需要具备的五件事。

And in that podcast, I had talked about the five things that you need in place before you become married.

这五件事，为了提醒大家一下：年收入十万美金，有六到十二个月的储蓄，对吧？

And those five things, just to refresh your guys' memory is make a $100,000 a year, have six months to one year of savings, right?

现金流动资金。

Cash liquid.

三十五岁，身材健壮。

Be thirty five years old, Be in shape.

在健身房锻炼了一段时间，并且和50个女人发生过关系。

Have been in the gym for a while and have sex with 50 women.

50个。

50.

显然，最后这一点。

And obviously that last part.

看看吧。

Check it.

哇哦。

Woah.

每个人和他们的妈妈都在疯狂讨论。

Everyone and their mom is going crazy.

对吧？

Right?

并不是我说你需要和50个女人发生关系，而是背后有原因的，朋友们。

It's about me saying that you need to have sex with 50 women, but there's a reason for that guys.

我稍后会详细说明这一点。

And I'm gonna go into that here in a little bit.

但本·沙皮罗最终批评了这个视频，并不同意我的建议。

But, Ben Shapiro ended up criticizing the video and didn't agree with my advice.

好的。

Okay.

所以，首先，让我们来介绍一下本·沙皮罗是谁。

So, first and foremost, let's go ahead and introduce you guys to who Ben Shapiro is.

如果你们不知道他是谁，那你们真是与世隔绝了。

If you guys don't know who he is, you've been living under a rock.

本杰明·亚伦·沙皮罗，出生于1984年1月15日。

So, Benjamin Aaron Shapiro, born 01/15/1984.

所以他大约39岁。

So he's about 39 years old.

没错。

Yep.

好的。

Okay.

他是一位美国律师、商人、专栏作家、作者、保守派政治评论员和媒体人物。

He's an American attorney, businessman, columnist, author, conservative political commentator, and media personality.

17岁时，他成为美国历史上最年轻的全国性 syndicated 专栏作家。

At age 17, he became the youngest nationally syndicated columnist in The United States.

夏皮罗为创作者联合 syndicate、《新闻周刊》和 AMI 杂志（或 Ami 杂志）撰写专栏，并担任他创办的《每日电讯》的荣誉编辑。

Shapiro writes columns for creators Syndicate, Newsweek, and AMI mag or Ami magazine and serves as editor, Emeritus for the Daily Wire, which he founded.

夏皮罗是《本·夏皮罗秀》的主持人，这是一档每日政治播客和直播广播节目。

Shapiro is the host of the Ben Shapiro show, a daily political podcast and live radio show.

他在2012年至2016年间担任Brave New News的特约编辑。

He was editor at large of Brave bar news between 2012 and 2016.

夏皮罗已出版了11本书，其中他还写了一本关于辩论的书，也非常不错。

Shapiro has written 11 books, which he actually wrote a book about debating, which is pretty good as well.

所以，这就是他的简要概况，朋友们。

So that's who he is in a nutshell guys.

好的。

Okay.

一位非常著名的政治评论员。

A very famous political commentator.

他因为去大学演讲时经常彻底驳倒大学生而声名鹊起，这种情况总是会发生。

He actually got a rose of fame for pretty much dunking on college kids, when he goes and does speeches because it always happen.

每次都毫无例外。

It all it never fails.

他会去大学。

He'll go to university.

他会发表演讲。

He'll give a speech.

总会有一些自由派的观众挑衅他。

There'll be some liberal liberal heckler.

他们会说：‘我不同意你的观点，你是个偏执狂’，而他则会用事实彻底击溃他们。

Well, well, I don't agree with this and that, and you're a bigot and And then he'll basically just destroy them with facts.

太棒了。

That's awesome.

是啊。

Yeah.

他完全碾压他们，因为这些嘴炮的问题在于他们不讲现实。

He just totally destroys them because the problem with these lip tarts is they don't operate in reality.

他们不讲事实。

They don't operate on facts.

他们很多时候只讲感觉。

They operate on feelings a lot of the times.

所以他直接碾压这些混蛋，太爽了。

So he just dunks on these fucking guys and it's awesome.

这就是他为什么在YouTube上变得如此受欢迎。

So that's how he became really popular on YouTube.

对吧？

Right?

你也可以看到，马特·沃尔什在《每日电讯》上也做着非常类似的事情。

And you can see, Matt Walsh does something very similar also at the daily wire.

如果我没记错的话，马特·沃尔什是《每日电讯》的成员，他一直在谈论性别只有两种，什么是女人？

If I'm not I think Matt Walsh is a part of daily wire, you know, where he's talking about, you know, there's two genders, you know, what is a woman?

所以，这些家伙很擅长维护和推广保守价值观，以对抗日益觉醒的议程，而你们都知道，一旦变得‘觉醒’会发生什么。

So, so these guys do a good job of being able to, you know, preserve and promote conservative values to an increasingly woke agenda, which, you know, you guys already know what happens when you go woke.

总之，这就是他的大致情况。

So anyway, so that's who he is in a nutshell.

好的。

Okay.

从宏观角度来看。

Guys from a bird's eye view.

对。

Right.

那我们接着来看他制作的视频吧？

So let's go ahead and go into, the video he made, right?

我之前跟你们说过，我给我弟弟弄了个TikTok，他在里面批评了我们。

So I got this TikTok for my little brother, like I told y'all before and in it, he criticized us.

那我们先播放这个视频吧。

So let's go ahead and play this video.

我经常说。

I say all the time.

对于年纪大的人来说，你不应该在35岁之前结婚。

To the large one age, you shouldn't be getting married until you're at least 35.

这正是我接下来想问你的。

That was my next question for you.

作为一个男人，你觉得多大年纪

As a man, what age

才应该考虑结婚呢？

should you consider getting married?

所以这就是我常对 guys 说的话。

So I have this is my thing that I tell guys.

嗯。

Yeah.

我觉得35岁的时候，至少睡过50个女人，年收入10万美元。

I think 35 years old, had slept with at least 50 women, 100 k per year.

你身材不错，而且有六到十二个月的储蓄。

You're in shape, and, you got six months to one year of savings.

好吧。

Alright.

搞定。

Done.

我得结婚了。

I gotta get married.

我都做到了。

I've done all that.

那并不容易。

That's not that's not easy.

共和党就在那儿。

Here's the republic right there.

顺便说一下，朋友们，这简直是婚姻的灾难配方。

So that is a recipe for a terrible marriage, by the way, guys.

等到35岁，而且已经和50个女性有过关系，根据所有可用的数据来看，这都是糟糕的婚姻配方。

Waiting until you're 35 and have slept with 50 women, that is a terrible recipe for marriage by every available data point.

事实证明，如果你年轻时结婚，并且没有太多性伴侣，你结婚的成功率会高得多。

It turns out that you are much better in terms of getting married if you get married younger, if you do not have a wide variety of sexual partners.

关于保持身材、有钱之类的说法，总的来说，你确实应该努力做到这些。

All the stuff about, you know, being in shape and having money and all the rest of Like, you should try to do that generally speaking.

但那种认为你应该等到35岁，已经犯下了一大堆塑造了你性格、让你变得固执的错误，并且认为你应该有过几十个女性的性经验作为对比的观点。

But this notion that you wait until you're 35, you've already made a bevy of mistakes that have shaped your character and made you much more rigid as a person, and that you should have had a basis of comparison in terms of sex of dozens and dozens and dozens of women.

不对。

No.

数据并不支持这种观点，这太愚蠢了。

The data do not support this, and it's stupid.

好吧。

Alright.

哇。

Wow.

所以，你知道，他显然说数据不支持这种观点，诸如此类，但实际上数据是支持的，本。

So, you know, obviously, he's saying that the data doesn't support it, blah blah blah, which actually it does, Ben.

我稍后会谈谈这些数据。

And I'm gonna talk about the data here in a bit.

但你们可能在想，为什么他如此强烈主张年轻结婚，持有这种传统保守的恋爱观等等。

But so you guys are probably wondering, well, yo, why would he why is he so strong on getting married young, you know, having this traditionally conservative outlook on on dating, etcetera.

所以，咱们快速回看一下那个维基百科页面吧，朋友们。

So let's go back to that Wikipedia page real fast, guys.

他的背景。

His background.

对。

Yeah.

我认为他的背景对此有很大影响，当然，他的背景本身没什么问题。

I think his background has a lot to play with it, which, you know, there's nothing wrong with his background.

我希望每个人都能拥有本所经历的那样美好的背景。

I I wish every person was able to enjoy the background that Ben actually was able to tell.

太棒了。

Be amazing.

我们赶紧把资料调出来吧，莫。

Let's go ahead and pull it up real quick, Moe.

早年生活与教育。

So early life in education.

对吧？

Right?

博尔·夏皮罗出生于加利福尼亚州洛杉矶，来自一个具有俄罗斯、犹太和立陶宛犹太血统的正统犹太家庭。

Bore, Shapiro was born in Los Angeles, California to conserve a Jewish family of Russian, Jewish, and, Lithuanian Jewish ancestry.

当他九岁时，他的家人转向了正统犹太教。

When he was nine years old, his family transitioned to Orthodox Judaism.

他从小就开始拉小提琴，并在1996年12岁时参加了以色列债券晚宴演出。

He started playing violin at a young age and performed at the Israel Bonds banquet in 1996 at 12 years of age.

他的父母都在好莱坞工作。

His parents both worked in Hollywood.

他的母亲是一家电视公司的高管，父亲大卫·夏皮罗是一名作曲家。

His mother was an executive of a TV company, and his father, David Shapiro, worked as a composer.

明白吗？

Okay?

他跳过了三年级和九年级，从瓦尔特·里德中学（位于山谷地区）转入洛杉矶西区的耶希瓦大学高中，并于2000年16岁时毕业。

Skipping two grades, third and ninth, Shapiro went from Walter Reed Middle School in The Valley to Yeshiva University High School of Los Angeles in Westside, Los Angeles, where he graduated in 2000 age 16.

他于2004年以最优成绩从加州大学洛杉矶分校毕业，年仅20岁，获政治学文学学士学位，并成为优等生学会会员。

Graduated from the University of California, Los Angeles in 2004, summa cum laude, and a Phi Beta Kappa at age 20 with a bachelor of arts degree in political science.

随后于2007年以优异成绩从哈佛大学法学院毕业。

And then from Harvard Law School in 2007 as a cum laude.

好的。

Okay.

所以，他取得的这些成就显然非常令人印象深刻。

So obviously some very impressive accolades there that he's achieved.

然后，他去了古德温·普罗克特律师事务所工作。

And then he went on to work, at the law offices of Goodwin Proctor.

截至2012年3月，他在洛杉矶创办了一家独立的咨询公司——本杰明·夏皮罗法律咨询公司。

As of March 2012, he ran an independent, consultancy, consultancy firm, Benjamin Shapiro legal consulting, in Los Angeles.

就在那段时间，他开始针对大学生进行各种嘲讽，等等。

And then right, right around that time is actually when he started, you know, the dunking on these college students, etcetera.

随后，他迅速成为了一位极具影响力的社会媒体人物。

Then just became a huge, a huge social media personality.

没错。

Right.

所以，问题就在这里，各位，从他的背景可以看出，他成长于一个相当富裕的家庭。

So here's the problem, right guys, as you guys could see from his background, grew up in a, you know, fairly well off family.

好的。

Okay.

成功的家庭，双亲家庭，非常好。

Successful family, two parent household, fantastic.

对。

Right.

他的家庭也有宗教信仰，并且从小就被灌输。

And he had a religion in his family as well, instilled in his family.

我一直说，当你来自一个稳定的背景，你就会有宗教信仰。

And I've always said, when you come from a stable background, you have religion.

往往会有更积极的世界观，这有利于建立有利于稳定婚姻的关系。

Tend to have more positive worldviews and it's better for creating relationships conducive to stable marriages.

对。

Right.

但你们得记住，。

But you guys gotta keep in mind, right.

并不是每个人都能拥有这种优越的背景，

That not everyone gets this privileged background,

可以说。

so to speak.

还有他们的环境也是如此。

And also their environment as well.

我不打算提到这一点，但比如，他早在70年代或80年代就结婚了，对吧？

Not to bring at that point, but for example, he married early '7 or '8, right?

是的。

Yeah.

他二十四岁就结婚了，我只是想说，在那种文化和社会氛围下，包办婚姻很常见。

Married at twenty four years I'm just saying most of that, I wanna say culture and that type of like dynamic, you get arranged marriages all the time.

所以，差不多就是这样，挺好。

So it's pretty much like, okay, cool.

这是我的儿子本，那是你的女儿萨莉。

Here's my son, Ben, here's your daughter, Sally.

他们很般配。

They'd a good fit.

而且家庭都经过了筛选。

And the families are vetted.

他们都很成功。

They're successful.

他们都处于良好的环境中。

They're both in a good environment.

所以这自然而然地催生了包办婚姻，可以说。

So it just it just breeds an arranged marriage, so to So

我不知道他的婚姻是不是包办的。

I don't know if his marriage was arranged.

可能不是，但我只是说，嗯。

It might not be, but I'm just saying like Yeah.

但我想强调的是，本所拥有的背景，是绝大多数男人永远无法享受到的。

But the point the point I'm trying to make here is that the background that Ben enjoyed is what most men are never gonna get to enjoy.

对吧？

Right?

可惜。

Sadly.

双亲家庭，强烈的宗教价值观。

A two parent household, strong religious values.

对。

Right.

然后找到另一个也有强烈宗教价值观的家庭，他们有个女儿。

And then finding another family that has a daughter that also has strong religious values.

对。

Right.

他24岁就结婚了。

And he got married at 24 years old.

说实话，老兄。

Let's be honest, man.

现在是2023年，通货膨胀、生活成本这么高，靠一份收入根本活不下去；24岁就结婚，还要养活妻子和家庭，在今天这个时代，对大多数男人来说根本不现实。

Twenty twenty three nowadays with inflation, the cost of living, you can't live on one income and being 24 years old and marrying someone and being able to take care of her and a family in today's day and age, not viable for most guys.

我的意思是，如果你是观众，想想你所有那些这样的朋友，你知道的。

I mean, if you're an audience, think about all your friends who's like that, let you know.

我可能认识一个人，但他们现在离婚了。

I know one person maybe, and they're divorced now.

所以，这种人很难找。

So it's like, that's hard to find.

我只是说说而已。

Just saying.

还有，关于婚姻，还有另一件事。

So, and here's the other thing too, about marriage.

对吧？

Right?

让我给你们一些数据，这些数据直接来自我的书。

So let me give you guys some numbers and this comes straight from my book.

顺便说一句，《为什么女性该少得》这本书里，所有这些内容都有数据支持。

Why women deserve less, by the way, which all this stuff, is that backed up with numbers.

我在书中引用了很多研究，对吧？

I put a lot of studies in this book, right?

所以我要直接给你们这些关于现代婚姻的冷酷事实，结合一些统计数据和数字。

So I'm gonna go ahead and give y'all the cold hard facts on marriage nowadays with some of these, statistics and numbers.

好吧。

Okay.

因为本不明白，婚姻现在。

Because what Ben doesn't understand is that marriage right.

对男人来说已经没有好处了。

Is not in a man's interest anymore.

好吧。

Okay.

目前婚姻率降至历史最低点，每千人仅有5.1对婚姻，仅为自1900年以来长期平均水平的一半。

So marriage is an all time low of 5.1 marriages per 1,000 people, half the long term average going back to 1900.

那些选择结婚的人，面临的离婚率仍为45%，与过去美国婚姻的平均水平一致。

Those who do marry face the same forty five percent divorce rate that American marriages have suffered in the past.

百分之七十到八十的离婚是由女性提出的，如果女性受过大学教育，这一比例甚至高达百分之九十。

Seventy to eighty percent of divorces are initiated by women jumping to ninety percent if the woman is college educated.

而那些维持下来的婚姻中，仅有28.5%的婚姻是幸福的。

And what marriages remain intact only stand a 28.5 chance of being happy ones.

同居的情况也好不到哪去，有一半的同居关系最终也像婚姻一样破裂。

Cohabitation is no better with half of them ending just as marriages do.

家庭生育率从1960年每位女性平均生育3.6个孩子，下降到2020年的1.64个。

Family formation is down from three point six births per woman in 1960 to one point six four births per woman in 2020.

好吧。

Okay.

这还包括了传统上生育率较高的移民家庭。

And that includes immigrant families who are traditionally have more families.

婚前活动，如求爱、约会和性行为，也有所减少。

Pre martial activities such as courtship, dating, and sex are down as well.

千禧一代平均每年只有1.43次约会，而X世代和婴儿潮一代分别为9.3次和4.7次。

The average millennial only gets 1.43 dates per year compared to nine point three and four point seven for boom gen Xers and boomers respectively.

而这还没有考虑更年轻的Z世代兄弟姐妹们。

And this says nothing for the younger gen Z siblings.

好的。

Okay.

女性爽约率约为56%。

Women flake on dates about 56% of the time.

好吧。

All right.

Tinder洞察数据显示，只有约8.6%的人在约会应用上互相发消息后最终实现了实际约会。

Data from Tinder insights show only about 8.6% of people message each other on the dating apps resulting in actual dates.

所以约会应用上的爽约率高达91.4%。

So that's pretty much a 91.4% flake rate on dating apps.

没错。

Right.

而过去一年没有性生活的年轻女性比例增加了50%，从总人口的12%上升到18%，同时男性没有性生活的比例...

And then a percentage of young women who haven't had sex in the past year has increased by fifty percent going from twelve percent of the population to eighteen percent while the percentage of men not having sex.

好的。

Okay.

是啊。

Yeah.

我有数据，老兄。

I got the numbers, man.

对。

Right.

过去没有性行为的人数几乎翻了一番，从人口的15%上升到大约28%到30%。

Not having sex in the past has almost doubled going from fifteen percent of the population to about 28 to thirty percent.

而且男性处男比例也增加了三倍，从年轻男性人口的11%上升到27%。

And then male virginity has also tripled going from eleven percent of the young male population to 27.

好的。

Okay.

而且，还有，哥们儿，对吧？

So, and on top of that guys, right?

他并不是因为三到四倍的通货膨胀而来的。

He didn't come for a three or four inflation.

还有另一件事，对吧？

Here's the other thing too, right?

有一整章内容讲的是，女性现在不太喜欢男性了。

Have a whole chapter guys on how women don't like men that much anymore.

好的。

Okay.

呃，抱歉，不好意思。

Well, sorry, excuse me.

大多数湿漉漉的女性并不喜欢，好吧。

Most wet women don't like Okay.

大多数，如果你不信我，当对Z世代进行调查时，好吧，这是指1995年到2012年间出生的人。

Most And if you guys don't believe me, when polled gen Z, all right, this is people born between 1995 to 2012.

好吧。

All right.

女性将男性排在第七位，低于旅行、事业、教育、经历和组建家庭。

Women rank men seventh place behind travel, career, education, experiences, and starting a family.

所以男性几乎处于等级制度的最底层。

So men are almost the bottom of the totem pole.

好的。

All right.

说到婚姻和千禧一代女性，对吧？

When it comes to marriage and then millennial women, right?

我这个年龄段的女性，出生于1981到1996年，已经不再像以前那样热衷于这个了。

Women in my age range, they're born 1981 to 1996 who aren't even hot anymore like that.

好吧。

Okay.

仍然将找到男人排在第四位，低于事业和教育。

Still rank finding a man at fourth place behind careers and education.

如果你赚的钱比她们少，那简直不可想象。

And God forbid you make less money than them.

你完蛋了，兄弟。

You're screwed bro.

那我为什么说这些呢？

So why, why do I say all this?

好吧。

Okay.

而且，我们还没谈到离婚赡养费，90%都是男人付给女人的。

And this, this, and we haven't even talked about how alimony 90% of it is paid for men to women.

我们还没谈到，一般来说，是女性主动提出离婚的。

We haven't even talked about how women, in general initiate most of divorces.

我之前提过这一点，但女生其实不太喜欢男生，整个约会环境已经发生了巨大变化。

Why I mentioned that before, but women don't like men that much guys, the, the dating landscape in general has changed significantly.

得益于互联网、社交媒体和约会应用，如今女性拥有的选择太多了。

Thanks to the internet, social media, dating apps, the amount of options that women women have nowadays.

所以，本说的那些话——趁年轻结婚、组建家庭，等等，就是这个意思。

So the thing is, is that what Ben is saying, get married young, have a family, all that other stuff.

理论上听起来不错，对吧？

It sounds good in theory, right?

以前的想象世界，对吧？

Imagination world back in the day, right?

也许二十年、三十年、四十年前。

Maybe twenty, thirty, forty years ago.

但现在这根本行不通。

But nowadays that's a big, Nope.

这会导致一个结果，因为本没有意识到，女性在维系关系上完全没有动力。

It's gonna lead to a, because what Ben doesn't realize is that women are 1000% incentivized to not make it work with their guy.

事实上，她们与你分手后反而受益，尤其是在婚姻的框架内。

They're actually, they actually benefit from breaking up with you, especially within the confinements of marriage.

那么，这把我们带到了哪里？

Now, where does that leave us?

我们已经确认，女性并不太喜欢男性。

We've established that women don't like men that much.

婚姻对男性来说是一个非常冒险的提议，对吧？

Marriage is a very risky proposal for men, right?

因为男性承担所有风险，而女性却获得所有好处，对吧？

Because men take all the risk, women get all the benefits, right?

你不能告诉我，男性从婚姻中获得的任何好处，是他在普通关系中得不到的，对吧？

You can't tell me a benefit that a man receives from marriage that he can't get in a regular, relationship, right?

税收优惠？真的吗？

The tax benefits, is that really?

不，因为当你真正审视你所承担的风险时，这根本不值得。

No, because when you actually look at what you're risking, it's not worth it.

微不足道。

Minuscule.

微不足道。

It's minuscule.

是的。

Yeah.

所以我告诉 guys，伙计，你得先准备好这些条件，这样首先你自己会成为一个更有吸引力的伴侣。

So I tell guys, yo, you have to have these things in place so that number one, you're more attractive mate in the first place.

从而降低你被离婚的几率。

So it lowers your chances of being divorced.

而且，当你和50个女人发生过关系后，你就更能准确评估女性的性格。

And on top of that, when you've had sex with 50 women, it allows you to be a good assessor of female character.

现在我们再放一遍这个片段。

Now let's run that clip one more time.

我们开始吧。

Here we go.

伙计们，Rumbles 下来了。

Guys, Rumbles down.

我经常说。

I say all the time.

这事得留到以后再说。

Gotta run about that later.

不应该是。

Shouldn't be.

Almo。

Almo.

你刚刚中断了Rumble直播。

You just killed the Rumble stream there.

那正是我接下来想问的。

That was my next question.

好的。

Alright.

所以我们来重放一下这个片段。

So let's play let's play this clip back.

酷。

Cool.

好的。

Alright.

然后放大它。

And then enlarge it.

我经常说，在当今时代，你至少应该等到35岁再结婚。

I say all the time, in today's day and age, you shouldn't be getting married until you're at least 35.

那正是

That was

我接下来想问你的。

my next question for you.

作为

As a

一个男人，你认为什么时候该考虑结婚？

man, what age should you consider getting married?

所以我要跟男生们说的我的观点是。

So I have this is my thing that I tell guys.

我觉得35岁，至少睡过50个女人，年收入10万美元。

I think 35 years old, had slept with at least 50 women, 100 k per year.

你身材不错，而且有六到十二个月的储蓄。

You're in shape, and, you got six months to one year of savings.

好吧。

Alright.

搞定。

Done.

我得结婚了。

I gotta get married.

我都做到了。

I've done all that.

这太简单了。

That's that's easy.

这儿就是共和党了。

Here's the republic right there.

顺便说一句，伙计们，这可是导致糟糕婚姻的配方。

So that is a recipe for a terrible marriage, by the way, guys.

等到你35岁，而且已经和50个女性发生过关系，这在所有可用数据中都是婚姻的糟糕配方。

Waiting until you're 35 and have slept with 50 women, that is a terrible recipe for marriage by every available data point.

事实证明，如果你年轻时结婚，且没有过多的性伴侣，你在婚姻方面会好得多。

It turns out that you are much better in terms of getting married if you get married younger, if you do not have a wide variety of sexual partners.

是的。

Yeah.

对女性来说是这样，对男性不是。

For women, not for men.

好吧。

Okay.

这是一个非常重要的区别。

And that's a very important distinction.

女性随着性伴侣数量的增加，会失去建立幸福长期关系和婚姻的能力。

Women lose their ability to be in happy long term relationships and marriages as they have more sexual partners.

男性则不会。

Men do not.

好的。

Okay.

我们继续播放视频，我马上给你们展示这方面的证据。

Let's keep keep rolling the clip, and I'll show you guys the proof for that here in a second.

如果你没有太多不同的性伴侣，那么关于保持身材、有钱之类的建议，总体上你还是应该去尝试。

If you do not have a wide variety of sexual partners, all the stuff about, you know, being in shape and having money and all the rest of like, you should try to do that generally speaking.

但认为你要等到35岁才结婚，这已经让你犯下了一大堆塑造了你性格、让你变得僵化的错误，这就像

But this notion that you wait until you're 35, you've already made a bevy of mistakes that have shaped your character and made you much more rigid It's as a

实际上，最好在没有婚姻束缚的情况下犯这些错误，这样你就能明白，哦，我和这种类型的女生不合适。

actually better to make those mistakes without the confinements of marriage so you know, okay, I don't match and I'm not compatible with this type of girl.

好的。

Okay.

这会让你更善于评估一个人的性格，因为当你拥有充裕的心态并接触过很多女性时，你就明白什么有效、什么无效。

It makes you a better assessor of character because when you have an abundance mindset and you've been around women, you understand what works, what doesn't work.

而且，再次提醒各位，我想让这一点对每个人都非常清楚。

And again, remember guys, I want to make this painfully clear for everybody.

总的来说，近一万名观看者都是男性，在婚姻中承担了所有风险。

All of all, almost 10,000 of you guys watching men take all the risk when it comes to marriage.

没错。

Yep.

就是这样。

Period.

好吧。

Okay.

是你在拿自己的钱冒险。

You're the one that's putting your money on the line.

是你在拿见自己孩子的权利赌上一切。

You're the one putting the ability to see your children on the fucking line.

你将不得不去法庭离婚，大多数时候都会输掉，并支付赡养费。

You're the one that's gonna have to go to divorce court and take the L most of the time and pay the alimony.

所以，我之所以说你需要深入了解女性的本质，并且和多个女性发生过关系，是因为什么呢？

So the reason why I'm saying you need to have a good idea of female nature and have had sex with multiple girls is because guess what?

当你和女孩发生关系后，游戏就结束了。

When you have sex with the girl, the game is over.

你基本上就能看清楚她到底是个怎样的人。

You get to figure out who the fuck she really is for the most part.

这能让你明白，女人喜欢什么、不喜欢什么，我喜欢什么、不喜欢什么，等等。

And it allows you to understand, okay, this is what women like, this is what women don't like, this is what I like, this is what I don't like, etcetera.

你不会因为性经验不足而被女孩耍得团团转。

You're not gonna get finessed by girls because you have sexual inexperience.

我在这档播客里一直说什么来着？

What have I always said on this podcast?

好吧。

All right.

女人最大的超能力，就是你不懂自己的优势。

A woman's greatest superpower is you not understanding yours.

搞定。

Bam.

再给各位兄弟说一遍。

One more time for y'all niggas, man.

给我把这点刻进脑子里。

Get this through your fucking heads.

传统保守派错就错在这里。

This is what trad cons don't have right.

性市场已经发生了巨大变化。

The sexual marketplace has changed drastically.

你可以看看互联网、约会应用和社交媒体。

And you can take the Internet, dating apps, social media.

女性对自己的价值有着过度膨胀的认知。

Women have an overinflated sense of self worth.

你他娘的不信是吧？

You don't fucking believe me?

去问问那些现在完全没性生活的男人。

Ask all the guys that are sexless right now.

现在几乎有百分之六十的男性表示，他们一年内没有过性生活，或者还是处男。

It's almost up to sixty percent of guys reporting not having had sex in a year or being fucking virgins.

明白吗？

Alright?

当涉及到男性困境时，现实真的很残酷。

Shit is real out here when it comes to guys struggling.

明白吗？

Alright?

还有其他很多原因。

And there's a bunch of other reasons too.

男性看太多色情内容，又不走出去变得成功。

Guys watching too much porn, guys not getting out there becoming successful.

男性的责任负担正在下降。

The burden of masculinity is down.

简直是一堆乱七八糟的事情在发生。

Like there's a whole bunch of fuckery going on.