女孩闲聊：经前综合征与多囊卵巢综合征 | 女孩们读圣经

我就像

I'm like

因为施工要关闭一段时间，

close for a construction for a while,

但这是一件好事。

but it's a good thing.

是的。

Yeah.

这确实是最好的地方。

It's the best place to be truly.

你知道吗？

You know what?

我前几天跟我妈妈聊到约会的事，我说我唯一的担心是，我不想让任何人把我从耶稣身边带走，因为这两年来一直都是我和耶稣在一起。

I had the thought I said to my mom the other day because I was talking about dating and I was like, my only concern is I don't want anyone to take me away from Jesus because it's been me and Jesus for two.

就像，祂是我的丈夫，我的一切，我最好的朋友。

Like, it's just that's my my husband, my everything, my best friend.

所以当只有你和他相伴的时候，你们之间会拥有一种别样的亲密感。

And so there's just a different kind of intimacy you have when it's just you and him.

我有时候甚至会看着那些已婚夫妇，心里想着我能理解自己为什么会有点不安——因为我和耶稣的联结已经太深了。

I even look at married couples sometimes and I'm like, I get I have a little bit of nervousness in me because of the way I'm so with them with Jesus.

是啊。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

而且我明白有时候情况确实不一样了。

And I know sometimes that like it's not the same.

对，我也说不好。

Yeah, I don't know.

但如果之后你有了丈夫或者妻子，

But when you have a husband or a wife,

完全同意。

100%.

所以，当你独自与耶稣在一起时，那是最特别、最珍贵的时刻。

So it's the most special, precious time when it's just you and Jesus.

所以，这就是关键所在。

So it's like, that's the thing.

比如，我们会经历悲伤，这没关系，因为我们渴望某些东西。

Like, we we go through grief, which is Okay because we yearn for certain things.

是的。

Yeah.

但没有什么比独自与耶稣在一起更美好的了。

But there is nothing like just being with Jesus.

这就是为什么单身如此特别，不，其实并不是这样。

That's why we like singleness is so it's so no, it isn't.

这是我们拥有的最伟大的礼物。

It's the greatest gift we have.

是的。

Yeah.

如果我们只是全然投入其中。

If we just lean into it.

对我而言就是这样。

It's been for me.

你做得非常好。

You've done it really well.

谢谢。

Thank you.

你真的、真的做得非常好。

You've done it really, really well.

这并不是我的功劳。

It wasn't me.

这是耶稣的作为。

It was Jesus.

我已经告诉过你了

And I've told you

你说了那么多次了。

that so many times.

你真棒。

Good for you.

谢谢。

Thank you.

我们准备好迎接你的男士了。

We're ready for your man.

他真英俊。

He's so handsome.

他很可爱，对吧？

He's cute, right?

是的。

Yeah.

对，他

Yeah, he

是。

is.

我得告诉你一件事

I have to Can I tell you something

真的很紧急吗？

really quick?

你知道吗，那种时刻，你就是知道，就像你坐下来，毫无理由地开始哭泣。

You know, those moments when you're just you just know it's like you sit down, you start weeping for no reason.

你心想，那是什么？

You're like, what was that?

那只是上帝在爱你。

And it was just God loving you.

是的。

Yeah.

我只是坐在我的沙发上。

I just sat on my couch.

是的。

Yes.

是昨天吗？

Was it yesterday?

是前天，我就坐在沙发上。

It was a day before yesterday, and I just sat on my couch.

我不知道。

And I don't know.

这就像完全真实和坦诚一样。

This is just like being completely real and vulnerable.

过去一年里，我有太多这样的想法：我是不是应该带领别人呢？

I've had so many thoughts the past year of like, well, am I supposed to lead someone?

因为我不确定，有时候。

Because I don't know, sometimes

我曾带领一个人信耶稣。

I lead someone to like lead a guy to Jesus.

是的，我只是有很多想法。

Yeah, I just have a lot of thoughts.

我认识很多基督徒男性，有时候这会让人沮丧。

I've met many Christian men, and sometimes it can be disheartening.

我只是觉得，我来自一个完全不同的背景，我需要有人理解我的出身，然后接纳我。

And I'm just like, I come from such a different background where I need someone to understand where I come from and just be cool.

是的。

Yeah.

我希望找到一个懂我的人，而通常这样的人并不是来自基督教背景的男性。

And I want someone that gets me, and that's typically men that don't necessarily come from the Christian background.

这一直就是我的经历。

That's just been my experience.

但当我真正静下心来与耶稣同在，仔细思考时，我会想：天哪，我简直无法想象有人不能为我祷告、陪伴我之类的。

And but when I when I really sit with with Jesus and I think about it, I'm like, gosh, I can't even imagine someone not being able to, like, yeah, pray for me and leave me and stuff.

所以前几天我坐下来，闭上眼睛，突然间，他给了我一个异象——总是我丈夫的背影。

So I sat the other day and I, I closed my eyes and boom, he gives me a vision of my the it's always the back of my husband.

我从来都看不到他的脸，但总是看到他的背影，即使在我看到异象走向祭坛时也是如此。

I never can see the face, but it's always the back, even when I get visions walking down the altar.

但他跪在那里，正在敬拜。

But he was on his knees and he was like this worshiping.

我突然开始哭泣，睁开眼睛后，我想：我知道他爱你。

I just started weeping and I opened my eyes and I was like, I know he loves you.

谢谢你给我这个异象，让我知道他爱你。

Thank you for, like, giving me that vision that he loves you.

是的，我会和一个爱你的人在一起。

Yeah, I will be with someone that loves you.

太棒了。

Love that.

那真是我经历过的非常温馨的时刻。

Was it was a really sweet moment I had.

真温馨啊。

That's so sweet.

那就是那种时刻，你会想，天啊，那真是太美好了

It was it was one of those moments where you're like, Jesus, that was a beautiful

因为这真的意义重大。

because that's a huge deal.

你会觉得，上帝如此仁慈，特意这样做，因为在你等待和单身的时候，情况真的会变得很奇怪，而且你

You're like, I just feel like God is so kind to do that to be like because in your waiting and in your singleness, like, gets really weird and you're

就是觉得有点好笑。

just like It gets funny.

当然，会有妥协的诱惑，比如，他真的需要那么完整吗？他真的需要了解我们所传讲的一切吗？

And like, of course, there's temptation to compromise of like, does he really need to be that whole does he really need to know everything that we preach about?

还是说我可以……而我只是觉得，上帝赐给你这个异象，并如此强调，不要将就？

Or can I So and I just feel like for God to give you that vision and like put like such an emphasis on it, like, don't settle?

你会得到那份爱的。

You will receive that.

他真是太过仁慈了。

That is so kind of him.

这太酷了。

It was cool.

所以是的。

So yeah.

在开始之前，我们想提醒大家，我们正在举行《Girls Gone Bible》复兴巡演，非常兴奋从4月30日起再次与你们同行。

Before we start, we wanna remind you that we are on the Girls Gone Bible revival tour, and we are so excited to be back on the road with you guys starting April 30.

到目前为止，我们已经举办了41场巡演，几乎就要完成《Girls Gone Bible》巡演的全部场次了。

And we have done 41 tour nights so far, and so we're almost at the finish line of what is the Girls Gone Bible tour.

所以我们非常非常想见到你们。

And so we really, really wanna see you guys.

我们所有的新场次信息都在 girlsgonebible.com/tour 上。

We have all of our new dates at girlsgonebible.com/tour.

我们真的很想在那儿见到你们。

We really wanna see you guys there.

爱你们，抱抱你们，听福音，听神的话，和耶稣在一起。

Love you, hug you, hear the gospel, hear the word of God, and and I'll be with Jesus together.

GGB 加上你们。

GGB plus you guys.

我超爱 GGB Plus，因为它更亲密，我们可以和你们深入交流，谈论一些在《Girls Gone Bible》上可能不会聊的棘手话题。

I love GGB plus because it's just more intimate and we get to go deeper with you guys and talk about really hard stuff that we probably wouldn't talk about on Girls Gone Bible.

所以这感觉就像和最好的朋友窝在沙发上，进行深刻、真实、杂乱的对话。

And so it just feels like being with your best friends on the couch, just having really in-depth, deep, messy conversations.

所以，我希望你们能加入我们的《Girls Gone Bible Plus》。

And so, I hope you would join us on Girls Gone Bible Plus.

这真的特别。

It's really special.

我 absolutely 爱它。

I absolutely love it.

每次我们能拍摄一集，我都特别兴奋。

I get so excited every time we get to film an episode.

所以，我希望你们能到 girlsgonebible.com/plus 加入我们。

So I hope you would join us at girlsgonebible.com/plus.

我收到了很多评论，都是关于我的多囊卵巢综合征的，我知道我之前简单提过一点，但很多你们也和我一样面临这个问题。

I got a lot of comments in the comments section about my PCOS, and I know I've kind of briefly touched on it, but a lot of you guys deal with that just like I do.

我知道我的很多朋友也有这个问题。

I know so many of my friends have it as well.

你们问了各种问题，比如我是怎么应对的，我是怎么管理的，我做了些什么，吃了些什么。

And you guys ask questions of like how I deal with it, how I've been managing it, what I've been doing, what I've what I've been eating.

这有点奇怪，因为最近我的症状变得更明显了。

And it's weird because recently I have been more affected by it.

所以我不得不下定决心改变我的生活方式，彻底地改变。

And so I've really had to buckle down and change my lifestyle and just completely.

我想上周我稍微提过一点，就是彻底调整了我的饮食。

I think I touched on it a little bit last week, but changing my whole diet around.

我是个美食爱好者。

I am a foodie.

我超爱巧克力。

I love chocolate.

我非常喜欢外出吃饭。

I love going out to eat.

这是我最喜欢做的事情，比如和朋友一起吃晚餐。

It's my favorite thing to do, like dinners with my friends.

这是一种爱的表达方式。

It's love language.

但我真的不得不完全戒掉这一点。

But I've really had to cut that out completely.

我开始自己做饭，多吃水果，用水果代替甜点。

And I have been cooking my meals, cooking, eating a lot of fruits, substituting desserts with fruits.

我经常做汤。

I make a lot of soups.

早上我会吃很多肉、蔬菜和土豆。

I eat a lot of meats and vegetables and potatoes in the mornings.

我现在已经有自己的一套小习惯了。

It's like I have my little routine now.

所以早上我会做蛋白质食物，比如鸡蛋和鸡肉香肠，或者喝一份蛋白粉。

So in the mornings, I'll make protein like an egg and chicken sausage or I'll do a protein shake.

我现在非常坚持服用维生素，并且注意在家吃饭的细节。

And I'm very adamant on taking vitamins now and just like watching when you eat at home.

因为问题是，我觉得人们现在生病、患上各种疾病，都是因为食物。

Because the thing is, is like, I think people are getting so sick and developing all these things is because of the food.

是那些油的问题。

It's the oils.

我简直不敢相信，自己做饭后感觉竟然这么好。

And I can't believe the way I feel now just making my own meals.

是的。

Yeah.

知道我用的是健康油脂，而不是那些种子油，我很安心。

Knowing what I'm cooking with healthy, oils instead of all these seed oils.

我都认不出你了。

I don't even recognize you.

我刚认识你的时候，你会吃

When I first met you, you would have eaten

任何奶酪。

any cheese.

说要吃小鱼饼干。

Said take goldfish.

你们有没有过

Do you guys ever you

特别喜欢小鱼饼干。

loved gold fish.

那曾经让我。

That's what used to get me to.

是的。

Yeah.

因为我以前总会为了

Because I would get the quest for

而我就会给你买金鱼饼干，或者那些像花生酱一样的小点心。

and you I would get you goldfish or I'd get you those little writs like peanut butter.

每次我们去加油站，她都会拿出她的能量棒，然后你就会有，是的，花生酱饼干。

Every time we go to the gas station, she'd come out with her quest bar and then you'd have, yeah, the peanut butter crackers.

是的。

Yeah.

哦，能给你买到那个我会非常开心。

Oh, I would be so happy to get that for you.

但我没意识到，为什么我总是这么昏昏沉沉？

But I didn't realize why do I feel so groggy?

为什么我总是这么胀气？

Why am I so bloated all the time?

为什么我总是这么疲惫？

Why why am I always so tired?

这是因为我当时吃了太多加工食品。

And it's because I was eating over processed foods.

我一直在吃巧克力。

I was eating chocolate.

你有PCOS的话不能吃这个。

You can't eat that when you have PCOS.

它会影响你。

It affects you.

你会感到疲劳。

You're fatigue.

你会感到疲倦。

You're tired.

逆转这种情况的方法是吃得非常健康，保持健康的生活方式，因为没有药物可以治疗。

So the way to reverse that is eating super clean and living a healthy lifestyle because there's no medications for it.

所以PCOS没有药物可以治疗。

So there's no medication for PCOS.

对，没有。

No, there isn't.

我的朋友让她的朋友尝试了重饮食法，我会把所有这些内容放在描述里。

My friend put her friend on a heavy and I'm going to put all this in the description.

但有一种叫重金属排毒奶昔的饮品，里面含有许多绝佳的成分，对缓解多囊卵巢综合征非常有帮助。

But there's a shake called the heavy metal detox shake, and they have a lot of amazing ingredients that really help you with your PCOS.

所以我会把这款奶昔放在描述里。

So I'll put that in the description.

我超爱芹菜汁。

I love celery juice.

它极大地改善了我的肠胃状况，我主要吃很多肉类，饮食非常干净，吃大量水果，早上制作优质的蛋白奶昔，并且经常锻炼。

It really has helped my gut tremendously, and I just eat a lot of meats and I eat really clean and I'm eating a lot of fruits and making really good protein shakes in the morning and getting a lot of exercise.

是的。

Yeah.

我感觉非常好。

And I feel so good.

我的皮肤状态也很好。

My skin feels good.

谢谢。

Thank you.

很好。

Good.

但我感觉很好。

But I feel good.

我感觉更有活力了。

I feel more energized.

这是我能做出的最好的生活方式改变。

It was the best thing, the best lifestyle change I could have ever made.

我认为我们都应该这样做。

And I think we all should be doing that.

是的，不仅仅是因为我有PCOS。

Yeah, not just because I have PCOS.

这就像上帝给我的一个小提示，让我好好照顾自己，而我一向如此。

It was like that little nudge from God to be like, take care of take care of yourself, which I always do.

我一直以来都吃有机食品，但我经常出去吃晚饭。

I love I've always eaten organic, but I just go to dinner so much.

我基本上吃什么都可以。

I kind of just eat whatever.

所以做出这个改变对我来说是一个巨大的转折点。

And so making that change has been such a game changer for me.

那会发生什么？

And what happens?

因为有时候你会出现症状反复。

Because sometimes you get these flare ups.

是的。

Yeah.

对你来说，这看起来是什么样子？

What does that look like for you?

因为你说这种情况大约每几个月发生一次。

Because and you said it happens like every couple of months.

嗯，通常我不会来月经，因为多囊卵巢综合征会让月经变得非常不规律。

Well, so I don't typically get my period like the way PCOS works is it's really hard to get your period.

你的身体不会正常运转。

Your body doesn't regular.

你的身体不像普通女性那样运作。

Your body doesn't operate like a normal woman.

我只是想

I just want to

对正在观看的兄弟们说，请继续看下去。

say to my brothers that are watching right now, please keep watching.

你们了解女性的这些情况真的非常重要。

It's really important that you guys know this about women.

好的。

Okay.

所以，是的，如果我吃了某些食物，或者身体准备来月经时，我会出现一些不适，肚子会疼。

And so, yeah, if I eat certain things or if I'm about if my body wants to get my period, I'll have like these flare ups where my stomach is hurts.

肚子胀气。

It's bloated.

我得用暖宝宝。

I have to have a heating pad on.

我感觉糟透了。

I feel awful.

我情绪化。

I'm moody.

是的。

Yeah.

就是，你知道的，

Just, you know,

调整一下你的情绪。

fix your mood.

对，当然。

Yeah, of course.

所以很多时候我不知道自己为什么感觉不好或心情低落，因为你的荷尔蒙太不稳定了。

And so there there would be so many times where I didn't know why I didn't feel good or I was sad or and it's your hormones are so crazy.

它对你影响太大了。

It affects you so much.

所以这就是为什么改变我的生活方式变得

And so that's why changing that my lifestyle has been

在你出现症状时，关键是要注重良好的营养。

in what do do when you get those flare ups is that you just have to focus on good nutrition

通过饮食来管理，不要对自己太苛刻。

and eating Managing it with food and not being so hard on yourself.

我喜欢这一点。

I love that.

你知道的？

You know?

是的。

Yeah.

我认为，作为一个蒙主恩典、没有任何健康问题的人，我根本无法想象患有影响日常功能、降低生活质量的疾病是什么感觉。

I think as someone who, praise God, doesn't struggle with any sort of health issues, I can't even imagine what it's like to have something that inhibits your daily functioning and, like, decreases the quality of your life.

因为当你经历那些时刻时，你根本无法充分享受生活。

Because when you go through those moments, like, you're not living life to the fullest quality.

你明白我的意思吗？

You know what I mean?

所以我觉得，像你所说的那样，给自己多一些宽容真的非常重要。

So I just think it's so important for people like what you said to give yourself so much grace.

是的。

Yeah.

我对那些患有慢性疾病的人深感同情，简直难以想象他们要经历多少苦难。

I feel so much for people who have chronic illness and, like, it's just crazy what people have to go through.

这太令人心酸了。

It's so sad.

哦，对啊。

Oh, yeah.

阿里和我从未在这里讨论过经前综合症，但我总觉得作为女性，我们经历的太多了，这经常影响我们正常生活的能力。

Ari and I have never talked about PMS ing on here, and I just think it's like we go through so much as women, and it affects our ability to live properly a lot of the time.

让我们聊聊女孩们在经期可能会经历些什么。

Let's just talk about what girls may experience when they are on their period.

突然的愤怒或易怒，感觉完全不成比例。

Sudden anger or irritability that feels completely out of proportion.

你有过这种经历吗？

Do you ever experience that?

是的，当然有。

Yeah, of course.

你会感到难过吗？

Do you get sad?

是的，我会感到难过。

Yeah, I get sad.

当然会。

Of course.

我会感到悲伤。

I get sad.

我会感到抑郁。

I get depressed.

我的意思是，经前综合症可能会严重到让你产生自杀的念头。

I get I mean, you can get you can have so much PMS so bad that you start to get suicidal thoughts.

我知道。

I know.

我知道。

I know.

你看，这就是荷尔蒙、心理健康以及它们之间紧密联系如此令人震惊的原因。

See, that's what's so crazy about hormones and mental health and how everything is so connected.

literally 每个月，我都会有两天完全陷入绝望，因为我看不到自己此刻感受之外的任何东西，这其实也是我们生活中经常经历的——当我们陷入负面情绪时，就会觉得：‘是不是一直这么糟糕？’

Literally every single month, I would have like two days of absolute hopelessness because I couldn't see anything outside of what I was feeling in that moment, which is what I think we go through so much in life in general, like when we're in this negative emotion, we're like, has it always been this bad?

这真的会让人感到麻木。

And it can just like really make you feel numb.

它会让你感到不安全。

It can make you feel insecure.

你觉得自己不再是原来的自己。

You feel like you're not yourself.

而我们从不谈论的是排卵期的欲望。

And then something that we don't talk about is lust during ovulation.

不仅在经期前后你会情绪低落、悲伤，在排卵期时，你常常会变得有点疯狂、充满欲望，你的身体会渴望一些如果你未婚的话，显然不会去做的事情。

So not only do you get moody and sad around when you're getting your period, when you are ovulating a lot of the time, you can get a little crazy and a little lustful and your body is wanting things that if you're not married, obviously we don't partake in those things.

当你处于排卵期或周期中某个阶段，突然感受到以前从未有过的感觉，产生欲望的想法时，这会变得非常困难和令人困惑。

And it can get really difficult and really confusing when you're ovulating or you're at a part of your cycle where like you are feeling things that you weren't feeling before and you're having lustful thoughts.

是的。

Yeah.

你知道，我想专门做一期节目，更新一下关于欲望的话题，因为我们不搞那种千篇一律的基督教式说教。

You know, I mean, I want to do a whole episode, a whole updated episode on lust because we don't do no cookie cutter Christian knees.

这是个真实存在的问题。

And it's real thing.

这是一个很多信奉耶稣的人，尤其是在经期时，都会面临的真正问题。

And it's a real thing that a lot of us struggle with even following Jesus and especially around your period.

这太强烈了。

It's so intense.

是的，这太强烈了。

Yeah, it's so intense.

我能想象有多少女孩因为这些想法和感受而感到内疚。

And I can imagine how many girls feel so condemned for the thoughts and the way they feel and stuff.

是的。

Yeah.

所以我只能说，这是正常的，你并不孤单。

So all I can say is it's normal and you're not alone.

而且，这确实是一种挣扎。

And yeah, it's a struggle.

是的，这是一种挣扎。

Yeah, it's a struggle.

当女人真不容易。

It's not easy to be a woman.

是啊，太多了。

No, it's so much.

是的，压力很大。

Yeah, it's a lot.

所以你们男人需要好好对待我们，对我们有耐心。

That's why you men need to treat us really good and be patient with us.

是的。

Yeah.

我觉得当你有那些诱惑、处于生理周期的这个阶段时，你必须保护好自己。

And I just think when you're having those temptations and when you're at that part of your cycle, like you just have to protect yourself.

你必须保持清醒。

You just have to be aware.

小心你所看的东西。

Be careful what you're looking at.

小心你所看的内容。

Be careful what you're watching.

小心你独自一人花多少时间。

Be careful how much time you're spending alone.

如果你躺在床上感到有冲动，就起来去散散步。

If you are in bed and feeling something, get up and go for a walk.

你跑啊。

You Flea.

跑啊。

Flea.

跑啊，伙计。

Flea, dude.

给他们看看你怎么跑。

Show them how you flee.

如果你正在约会，就彼此保持距离。

If you are in a dating relationship, stay away from each other.

这就像明确一点，记录你的周期，跟你的男朋友说：在这几天里，我不能和你单独相处。

That is like something that like literally make it a point and like tell track your cycle, talk to your boyfriend and be like, I cannot be alone with you on these days.

这不安全。

It's not safe.

这没有帮助。

It's not helpful.

而且要认真对待这件事。

And like, take it really seriously.

就像阿里说的，这很正常，但真的非常重要。

Like, this is this is and like Ari said, it's so normal, but it's just so important.

在那些时刻，你可以设定很多界限来保护自己。

There's so many parameters that you can put around yourself to just keep yourself safe in those moments.

是的。

Yeah.

你知道的。

You know?

是的。

Yeah.

我有时候必须逃开。

I have to flee sometimes.

我确实必须。

I have to.

我会起身

I'll get up

去散个步，然后想：什么时候？

and take a walk and be like, when?

经期的时候？

During your period?

一般情况下，有时候确实会。

Just in general, sometimes you do.

我知道我有过

I know I have

逃跑。

to flee.

我会说，听着，我有很多问题。

I will say, listen, I have plenty of issues.

这是我生活中唯一不挣扎的领域。

It's the one area of my walk that I don't struggle in.

我觉得

I think

这太了不起了。

that is so incredible.

我不希望这让其他人感到被指责，因为我知道有很多女孩真的在受苦。

Which I don't want that to feel condemning to other people because I know so many girls who truly are suffering.

然后像我这样的人，我喜欢这样。

Then there's some like me who I do like.

我确实有挣扎。

I do struggle.

这是一种舒适感，你知道，我觉得就像是。

It's a comfort thing, You know, I think it's like.

是的，这就像是，你在寻求什么？

Yeah, it's it's like, where are you looking to?

我还有其他我喜欢的寻求安慰的方式。

It's I have other ways that I like to find comfort.

是的。

Yeah.

作为一个人。

And being a human being.

是的。

Yeah.

当你单身很久了，我认为作为人类，我们渴望亲密关系。

And when you're been single for a long time and you I think as humans, we crave intimacy.

是的。

Yeah.

当基督徒并不容易，真的不容易。

And it's not easy and it's not easy to be a Christian.

没人说这很容易。

No one said it was easy.

但老天，当你战胜那种诱惑时，那种感觉太强大了。

But man, when you fight off that temptation, it is so powerful.

那种力量，就像你战胜诱惑时我感受到的那种力量。

The power you like the power I feel when you fight off that temptation.

是的。

Yeah.

就像说，哦，这太棒了。

It's like, oh, it's the best.

这非常重要，也非常有回报，让人感觉无比胜利。

It's and it's so important and it's so rewarding and it feels so victorious.

所以每当我有那些时刻，战胜了诱惑并逃离了它，事后我都特别开心。

So whenever I do have those moments and I defeat it and I flee, I'm just so happy afterwards.

在那一刻，当你觉得必须屈服于那种欲望时，因为它感觉像是一种冲动。

And in that moment, when you feel like you have to just give into it, that desire, because it feels so it's like a rush.

是的。

Yeah.

正如圣经所说，没有任何试探是你无法克服的，祂必为你开一条出路。

Like the Bible says, there is no temptation that you can't overcome, that he will not give you an escape.

所以，即使只是大声说出来，站起来，立刻就能削弱它的力量。

So so even speaking that out loud and getting up so good, like immediately that will lose its power.

在关系中保持纯洁是如此、如此、如此、如此、如此、如此困难。

And then purity in a relationship is so, so, so, so, so, so difficult.

这并不一定意味着不，它确实很难。

It doesn't necessarily No, it is.

当你陷入爱河、感受到这些情绪并接吻时，这确实很难。

It is difficult when you are in love and feeling things and kissing like it.

这非常困难，你必须格外、格外、格外谨慎，如果犯了错也不要责备自己，但一定要认真对待。

It's so hard and you have to take extra extra extra caution and don't condemn yourself if you mess up, but like really take it seriously.

这真的非常重要，你的身体和大脑天生就会渴望某些东西，但你必须刻意去渴望相反的东西。

Like, this matters so much and the natural instinct for your body and your brain is to want certain things and you just have to like, you just have to want the opposite.

你知道吗？

You know?

你必须追求纯洁，对关系要格外谨慎，兄弟们。

You have to want the purity and just really be careful in relationships, guys.

我总是这么说。

I I always say this.

我觉得，无论我们将来进入什么样的恋爱关系，哪怕有一天我们结婚了，如果我们曾经越过了某些界限，有过一些时刻——当然，每个人都会有一些觉得‘哦，那次有点过头了，走得太远了’的时刻。

I feel like in any dating relationship that any of us will ever be in, when we get married one day, if there were any lines that we crossed, if there was any moments where, of course, for everybody, there are moments where you're like, oh, that was a little too much, little too far.

我只是觉得，结婚那天，你真的会问自己：为什么？

I just feel like the day you get married, you're literally gonna be like, why?

为什么？我们为什么要那样做？

Why why did we do that?

为什么我们不能只是再等等呢？

Why couldn't we have just waited?

就像，当你最终到达那里，真的会感到特别有成就感，天啊，我们真的做到了。

Like, it's just so rewarding to get there and be like, man, we freaking did it.

我做到了。

I did it.

我不知道还有什么比身体的纯洁更让我热衷的了，因为它就是一切。

And I don't know if there's anything I'm more passionate about than physical purity because it's just It's everything.

这是我们社会赖以运行的基础。

It's what our it's what society runs on.

嗯哼。

Mhmm.

事实上，这个世界完全建立在性、身体亲密、随意约会和满足身体欲望之上。

Like, literally, the world runs on sex and physical intimacy and hooking up and feeding your body the desires that it wants.

所以，我们更应该彻底远离这一切。

So imagine how much more we should literally run the other way from that.

看着我们的朋友走进婚礼殿堂，以如此纯洁的方式行事，看到上帝的手在其中引导，看到这一切的美好。

Watching our friend get to the altar and do things in such purity and seeing the way God's hand was upon that and seeing just the beauty in it all.

是的

Yeah.

我的意思是，我跟她聊过很多次，她说那是她一生中最美好、最棒的事情，天啊。

I mean, I talked to her so much about it and she was like, it was the most beautiful, the best thing that I've ever done in my Wow.

哇。

Wow.

是的

Yeah.

是。

Is.

这是你所能做的最美好的事情。

It's the most beautiful thing you could ever do.

这并不容易，但天啊，真的值得。

It's not easy, but man, is it worth it.

太值得了。

It's so worth it.

这真的太值得了。

It's so worth it.

是的。

Yeah.

说吧。

Go ahead.

现在，我只是觉得这太重要了。

Now, I just it's so important.

即使我昨天做了一个问答箱，有那么多人说：你能谈谈这个吗？

Even when I did a question box yesterday and so many people were were like, Can you please talk about this?

就像，我对此很挣扎。

Like, I struggle with it.

就像，我对此感到内疚。

Like, I feel condemned about it.

就像，这真的很好。

Like, I I it's so good.

我们专门做了一期关于这个的节目。

We do a whole episode on it.

经前综合症对大脑和心理健康的影响。

PMS brain and the mental health aspect of it.

在经期时，你真的会感觉彻底疯掉。

You can literally feel absolutely insane on your period.

你会觉得自己疯了。

You can feel crazy.

我听过很多人说，每次经前综合症发作时，几乎都会毁掉他们所有的关系。

You can feel I've, like, heard so many people be like, like, almost ruin all my relationships every single time that I'm PMS ing.

它会影响人际关系，因为你感觉不像自己了，状态不好，什么事都让你烦躁，我听过很多人描述说，它让每一件小事都变得比实际重要得多。

And it can get in the way of relationships because you don't feel like yourself and you don't feel good and everything is annoying you and and everything is I've heard so many people describe it as like it just makes everything feel like every little thing is so much bigger than it needs to be.

我只是觉得，作为女孩、作为女性，我们需要意识到这一点，但不要屈服于它，不要把它当成借口，比如‘我经前综合症了，所以我就可以对所有人大喊大叫，不讲礼貌’。

And I just think it's something that we just need to be aware of as girls, as women, and be aware of it and then not surrender to it, not use it as an excuse like, oh, I'm PMS ing, so I'm just gonna yell at everybody and not be nice.

我觉得我们所有的灵性操练都会派上用场：约束自己的思想、与人沟通、坦诚相待，比如‘我现在有这些疯狂的不安全感和想法，我感到很难过、很沮丧’，如果你真的深受经前综合症困扰，就找一些核心的人，每个月都去对他们说：请提醒我真理。

I think all of our spiritual practices come into play, taking thoughts captive, talking to people, being honest, like, I'm having these crazy insecurities and these thoughts, and I feel so sad and I feel so upset and have people if you, like, really struggle with PMS, have your core people that you can go to every single month and be like, need you to remind me of truth.

我感觉不太好。

I'm not feeling good.

这件事显得太大了。

This thing feels so much bigger.

这是真的，还是只是我的经前综合症？

Is it real or is it my PMS?

请对自己多一些宽容。

And just give yourself so much grace.

让你的身体休息一下。

Let your body rest.

这真的是我一直在挣扎的问题。

This is something that I really struggle with.

在我们周期的不同阶段，身体需要的东西是不同的。

Our bodies need different things at different times in our cycles.

比如排卵期时，你状态绝佳，充满活力，感觉良好，对生活充满热情。

Like when you're ovulating, you are on it, you're excited, you're feeling good, you're you're feeling good on life.

当你处于经前综合症即将来临或正在经前综合症阶段时，你需要的是不同的东西。

When you're at the part of your cycle that you're about to PMS and then when you're PMSing, you need different things.

你在流失铁元素。

You're losing iron.

你会在经期缺乏一些其他时期不会缺乏的营养。

Like, you you will be deficient in things that you are not in other parts of your cycle.

你不能像排卵期那样100%全力运转，尤其是在经期。

You can't just run a 100% like you do when you're ovulating when you're on your period.

我在这方面特别挣扎，因为我总想时时刻刻都100%投入，但事实上，你必须让身体休息。

So I struggle with that so much because I'm like, I wanna go a 100% all the time when really, like, you have to let your body rest.

当你的身体明明在恳求你休息和放松时，你没必要强迫自己去健身房。

You don't need to push yourself to go to the gym when your body is literally begging you to rest and just relax.

是的。

Yeah.

在经期时，吃适合你当前生理阶段的食物，比如吃牛排或红肉，这些富含铁的食物。

And eating the right foods for the part of your cycle that you're at, like eating steak or red meat or things that are full of iron when you're on your period.

我只是觉得，作为社会，我们与自己的身体脱节得太厉害了，而我有时也深有同感。

I just think as a society, we're so out of tune with our bodies and I'm like guilty of that at times.

我认为倾听自己的身体、在需要时好好休息，真的非常重要。

And I just think it's so important to listen to your body and rest when you need to.

是的，当然。

Yeah, of course.

我还想再说一点，关于我们现在的饮食方式，你完全可以逆转身体里正在发生的问题。

And I'm and I'll say one more thing, like about the way we're eating and you can absolutely reverse like your what's going on in your body.

我真的相信，我完全能从多囊卵巢综合征中康复。

Like, I I truly feel like I'm going to be completely healed from PCOS.

自从我只是改变了生活方式、饮食习惯和锻炼方式后，我就再也没有感到不适、腹胀或任何不舒服。

I haven't felt sick, bloated, nothing since just simply changing the way my lifestyle, my eating habits, exercise.

我们往往意识不到这有多重要。

We we don't realize how important it is.

有时候，我们会陷得太深，整天只想躺着不动。

Sometimes we can be so caught up and just like bed rotting.

这在这一代人中已经成了一种现象。

Like, that's a thing now in this generation.

躺床成瘾，刷手机成瘾。

Bed rotting, phone rotting.

我在这方面也深有体会。

I'm guilty of it so much.

有时候我真正在努力改善的一件事就是，与其静坐与耶稣同在，我反而会无意识地刷手机，这正是我感受到自己神经系统状态的方式。

Like, it's one of the things that I'm really working on sometimes, like instead of sitting with Jesus, I'm like, the way I feel my nervous system will come is like being on my phone and scrolling aimlessly.

如果我们能采取这些步骤——站起来、运动、晒太阳。

And if we can just take these steps of like getting up, getting exercise, getting in the sun.

是的，我用了Class Pass。

Yeah, I am on class pass.

你也是吧。

You are, too.

我不知道你们有没有听说过这个，但它真的让我能按时安排日程。

I don't know if you guys have ever heard of that, but it like really puts me on schedule.

我只是打开这个应用，找一些我喜欢的课程，这样就能尝试各种不同的锻炼。

I just go on this app and I find a class that I like so I can do all different classes.

我特别喜欢普拉提。

I love to do pilates.

我喜欢拉伸身体，喜欢跑步，喜欢在海滩上散步，你知道吗，不管怎样，你都得锻炼身体。

I love to stretch my body and I love to run and I love to walk on the beach and I love it's like to you have to work out, you know, no matter what, you have to get exercise.

我以前并不是特别热衷健身的人。

Like I, I wasn't a huge fitness girl.

是的。

Yeah.

我以前只是偶尔、断断续续地锻炼一下。

I would work out like, you know, here and now and then.

但锻炼现在已经成了我生活中非常重要的一部分，真的改变了我的人生。

But it's become such a huge part of my life and it's it's really changed my life.

我知道当你正在经历困难时，锻炼有多难。

And I know how hard it is to work out when you're going through something.

我知道当我与病痛抗争时，锻炼真的很难。

I know it was really hard for me to to work out when I was battling.

但确实，我们必须持续锻炼。

But yeah, exercise we have we have to constantly exercise.

锻炼会改变你的生活，我们所有人都必须变得健康。

It's going to change your life and really just we have to get healthy to all of us.

我们必须改变饮食习惯。

We have to change our eating habits.

偶尔吃个芝士汉堡什么的没关系，但不能一直吃垃圾食品。

It's Okay to like, you know, have a cheeseburger or whatever, but we can't be eating like crap all the time.

没错。

No.

是的。

Yeah.

如果你不明白自己为什么总是情绪低落、疲惫不堪，那就得看看自己的饮食习惯。

If you're if you're wondering why you're constantly depressed, fatigued, tired, you have to look at your eating habits.

这非常重要。

It's really important.

我觉得我们没有足够谈论我们

I don't think we talk about the

吃东西的方式

way we

吃得够不够。

eat enough.

是的。

Yes.

而且，你知道，糖实际上让我有点沮丧。

And, you know, sugar actually makes me a little bit depressed.

对。

Yeah.

就像我

Like what I

你总是在我吃糖之后注意到这一点。

You always notice that about me after I have sugar.

我有点情绪问题。

I have like a mood issue.

我会变得悲伤。

I become sad.

我会感觉不好。

I become it doesn't make me feel good.

是的。

Yeah.

别人可能会觉得，吃糖对我而言没什么大不了的，但我说，不，你不明白。

And people can be a little bit like, I eat the sugar to me, but I'm like, no, no, you don't understand.

它真的让我感觉不舒服。

Like, it genuinely makes me not feel good

对。

Yeah.

我吃完之后。

After I eat it.

所以即使我非常喜欢，我也不愿意这样对自己，因为根本不值得。

So I don't want to do that to myself even though I love it, but it's just not worth it.

嗯哼。

Mhmm.

如果你觉得，当然了，像我认识的很多人，他们的心理健康问题非常严重，每天 literally 喝五瓶可乐，吃得一塌糊涂。

And so if you're like, yeah, of course, if you're drinking like I know so many people who struggle so severely with their mental health who literally drink like five Cokes a day and eat horribly.

我会说，老兄，你能想象吗？如果你只是改善一下饮食，感觉会好多少？

And I'm like, dude, can you imagine if you just fix up your diet how much better you would feel?

是的。

Yeah.

我知道不是每个人都有资源去买到有机食品、最好的食物和高品质的肉类。

And I know that not everybody has the resources to, like, get everything organic and and have the best food and have high quality meat.

我完全理解这一点。

Like, I totally understand that.

你完全可以从自己现有的条件出发去调整。

You can just work with what you do have.

你当然可以做到。

Of course, you can.

你可以利用手头现有的资源，主动做出健康的选择。

You can work with what you do have and make consciously healthy decisions.

这话其实也是说给我自己听的，现在都凌晨三点了，我今天还没吃过东西，感觉很不舒服。

And I'm speaking to myself because I it's probably it's 03:00 and I haven't eaten today and I don't feel good.

所以这就好像我们大家都还有太多的事要顾及。

So it's like we all just have so much.

对，关于自身的感受，我们有太多话想说。

Yeah, we have so much to say in how we feel.

是的，确实是这样。

Yeah, we do.

没错。

Yeah.

我们很多人，包括我自己，都会说：我感觉不好。

We, a lot of us, me included, we resort to, oh, I don't feel good.

我的心理健康出了问题。

Oh, my mental health.

这个不行。

Oh, this.

那个也不行。

Oh, that.

但其实我们该问问自己：我们有没有好好对待自己？

When it's just like, are we treating ourselves well?

是的。

Yeah.

我们是否真正把身体当作神圣的殿堂，让圣灵居住其中，以发挥最佳功能？

Are we genuinely treating our bodies like a holy temple where the Holy Spirit resides in to function at optimal capacity.

嗯。

Mhmm.

我知道我很多时候并没有做到。

I know I don't a lot of the time.

嗯。

Mhmm.

我能感受到，也因此而受苦。

And I feel it and I suffer for it.

所以，是的，朋友们，把真正健康的东西摄入体内，对自己多一些宽容，这真的太重要了。

And so, yeah, it's just so important, guys, to put really good things in your body and give yourself so much grace.

哦，我去阿尔巴尼亚的时候，我永远都不会忘记，但这里的情况完全不一样。

Oh, when I went to Albania, I will never forget, but it's just not like that here.

这太难了。

It's so hard.

我知道。

I know.

确实很难。

It is hard.

我们就是这样，当我第一次去阿尔巴尼亚时，我感觉从未如此好过。

We have it so when I went to Albania for the first time, I have never felt better in my life.

我每天吃好几磅肉，还有好几磅水果。

I was eating pounds of meat every single day, pounds of fruits.

我一天能吃十五个水果。

I was eating like 15 fruits.

我吃的量是这里的三倍。

Like, I was eating three times as much as I do here.

嗯。

Mhmm.

我从未感觉如此轻盈、状态如此好、精力如此充沛。

And I've never felt lighter and better and more energetic.

我真的，而且整个人都容光焕发。

And I did I and like, I was glowing.

我永远不会忘记，但一回到美国，我就真的可能只吃了一碗燕麦粥。

I will never and the second I got back to America, I literally probably had like a bowl of oatmeal.

我不知道。

I don't know.

我立刻感觉特别沉重。

And I immediately felt like so heavy.

这太难了。

It's so hard.

确实很难。

It is hard.

是的。

Yeah.

我很高兴你提到了休息，因为我们很多人像我这样。

And I love that you talked about rest because a lot of us are like someone like me.

我觉得自己必须不停地忙碌。

I feel like I have to go, go, go.

我确实是这样。

I do.

我到了连如何休息都不知道的地步。

I got to the point where I didn't even know how to rest.

是的。

Yeah.

我最近经历的另一个故事是，当我住在佛罗里达时，有一个小花园，里面有一条小溪。

Another story that happened to me recently is I when I was in Florida, there was this little garden with this little stream.

我走进了那个花园。

And I went into the garden.

那是我见过最美的景象。

It was the most beautiful thing.

我拿出了我的圣经，坐下来，打开圣经开始阅读。

I took my Bible and I sat down and I opened up my Bible and I just started to read it.

我突然感到一阵强烈的疲惫袭来。

And I just felt this wave of tiredness come over me.

哇。

Wow.

于是我躺下，突然间我开始打盹，听见自己说：他使我躺卧在青草地上。

So I laid down and all of a sudden I'm dozing off and I hear myself saying, he makes me lay down in green ures.

他领我走在平静的水边。

He walks me beside still water.

他恢复我的灵魂。

He restores my soul.

我一遍又一遍地重复着这些话。

I started saying that over and over again.

然后我进入了深度睡眠。

And then I went into deep sleep.

真不可思议。

Wow.

我大概三十分钟后醒过来，发现自己仍躺在这个有溪流的花园里。

And I woke up probably thirty minutes later and I'm like lying down in this garden with this stream.

真不可思议。

Wow.

我感觉整个人焕然一新，之前一直低着头不停地忙个不停。

And I just felt so refreshed and I had been my head down just going, going, going.

这真是一个很好的提醒，说明休息真的很重要。

And it was just like such a good reminder that rest is so good.

我们往往意识不到自己有多需要休息。

Like we like we don't we don't realize how much we need to rest.

我们并不总是得马不停蹄地奔波。

Like we don't always have to be on the go.

我们并不总是得不停地工作、工作、工作。

We don't always have to be work, work, work.

我知道我们当中有些人确实需要努力工作，早起做自己的事。

I know some of all of us need to work and work hard and and get up early and do our thing.

但休息至关重要。

But rest is so crucial.

我很喜欢你这么说。

I love that you say that so much.

我真不敢相信，诗篇23篇真的在你的生活中应验了。

I can't believe Psalm 23 actually came to life in your life.

祂真的带你到青草地，领你到平静的水边。

He actually led you in a green pasture besides still water.

这简直太不可思议了。

It's it's that's insane

因为这是我三年来一直信靠的经文。

because scripture that I stood on for three years.

这简直就是我天天重复的经文。

Literally, that is my scripture that I repeat.

我已经把它背下来了。

I've memorized it.

每当我身处困境、需要安息时，我都会大声诵读它。

I repeat it out loud when I'm in a hard time when I need rest.

所以，是的，我觉得那是我最珍贵的经文之一，这太暖心了。

And so, yeah, I thought that was that was one of my That's so cute.