Hope Deferred Makes the Heart Sick | Girls Gone Bible

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我们太了解孩子了。

We know them.

当然了。

Do.

太搞笑了。

It's so funny.

有没有像我这样的女孩？

And are there any girls like me?

我真是个不切实际的浪漫派。

I'm such a hopeless romantic.

不管发生什么事，我都不会放弃对爱情的信念。

There's really nothing that can happen that gets me to give up on love.

我爱爱情。

I love love.

我相信真爱。

I believe in true love.

我觉得爱情太美好了。

I think love is amazing.

我觉得这世上有很多很棒的男人。

I think there are amazing men out there.

他们是我最爱的那种人。

They're I love

天哪。

Jesus.

我就说到这了。

I'm that's it.

我就是觉得。

I'm like

我也超爱耶稣。

I love Jesus, too.

你真该上去试试了。

And and you need to get up there.

你一个人待得太久，都太安逸了。

You've been you you you've gotten a little too comfortable being alone.

你知道吗，安吉？

You know what, Ange?

你同意吗？

Do you agree?

找到好东西的人。

He who finds a good thing.

他肯定能找到。

He finds it for sure.

找到好东西的

He who finds a

那个人。

good thing.

没错。

Yeah.

但如果那个好东西就是在家喂蜂鸟呢？

But what if the good thing is home feeding hummingbirds and like.

各位，我真的特别想跟你们讲个故事。

You guys, can I just tell this story real I would love nothing more?

听我说，我得赶紧跟你们分享这个事。

Listen, I have to tell you this story real quick.

我当时压力特别大，然后做了个梦，你们知道吗？

So I was dealing with a lot of anxiety and I have this dream, okay?

我躺在阳光下，头靠在肩膀上，一只蜂鸟飞过来，停在我手臂的尽头，轻轻趴着，突然间，我整个人被一种彻底的平静包裹着，只是微笑着，那只鸟——

And I'm like in the sun and I have my head laying down on my shoulder and this hummingbird comes and sits on the end of my arm and he like lays on my arm And I'm all of a sudden I'm washed with complete peace and I'm just smiling and this bird

就静静地停在手臂末端。

is just laying on the end

停在我手臂的尽头。

of my arm.

我醒过来的时候，心里一片宁静。

And so I wake up and I'm just in complete peace.

你们懂那种梦吗？特别真实，感觉就在眼前。

And you know those dreams where it was just so, you could feel it, it was so vivid.

于是我开始查 hummingbird 的象征意义，发现它代表平静。

And so I start looking up like the significance of a hummingbird and it means peace.

而且它还象征着圣灵。

And then it signifies the Holy Spirit.

我当时就想，这太不可思议了。

And so I was like, this is insane.

从此以后，每次我感到焦虑，就会想起那个梦，瞬间就能平静下来。

And so every time I would have anxiety, I would think about that dream and it would just completely put me in peace.

大概两周后，我决定把椅子搬到窗边，就是想让阳光照在脸上。

So probably about two weeks later, I decided to bring my chair up to my window because I just wanted sun on my face.

我想把那儿变成我的专属角落。

And I wanted that to kind of be my secret place.

我把椅子搬到窗边，坐着望出去，窗外全是树。

So I bring my chair up to my window and I'm sitting on my chair and I'm looking out the window and I have all these trees.

突然间，那只蜂鸟飞来了，停在了我的窗台上。

And all of a sudden, that hummingbird comes and sits right at my window.

我当时直接就哭了，简直不敢相信。

And I was like, I just start crying and I couldn't believe it.

每天那只蜂鸟都会飞到我的窗边。

Every day that hummingbird comes by my window.

于是我跑去买了个鸟食器。

And so I go and get it a bird feeder.

每天早上我都盯着它看。

I watch it every morning

前几天我正跟妈妈打电话，

and it's like my I'm on the phone with my mom the other day.

我就跟她说：妈，我得先挂了。

And I'm like, mom, I gotta call you back.

我的小宝贝来了，是蜂鸟。

The humming my baby's here.

我真把它当成我的孩子。

I literally call it my baby.

太可爱了。

So cute.

他认识你吗？

Does he know you?

认识。

Yes.

我就像是他的妈妈。

I'm like his mom.

我真的把他当儿子一样。

I feel like his mom.

他就在我家窗边的树上搭了个小窝，我一去就喊：宝贝，你好呀。

And so he has a little nest right by the tree in my window and I go, hi, baby.

他就会扭扭小屁股。

And he wiggles his little butt.

我现在就发个视频。

I'm gonna put a video up right now.

你瞧。

Look.

等等。

Wait.

我发给你视频了，可你好像没听我说起过我的鸟。

I sent you the video and you don't I I talked to her about my bird.

我给他取名叫沙洛姆。

I named him Shalom.

等等。

Wait.

这也太可爱了。

That's so cute.

我还给你发过视频呢。

And I sent you a video

她连回都不回我。

and she doesn't even respond

再也不理我了。

to it anymore.

她连

She doesn't even

一整天都给我发我鸟的视频。

send her video of my my bird all day.

这真是

This is

我如今的生活写照。

what my life has come to.

我跟妈妈说，我以为到这个年纪早该有孩子了，结果我每天却只跟你聊我的鸟。

I go, mom, I thought by this time I would have be having kids and I'm calling you about the bird every day.

明白了。

Okay.

它的屁股在摇来摇去。

It's butt is wagging.

我跟它说：嗨，宝贝。

I say, hi, baby.

它就晃晃屁股。

And it wiggles his bum.

你看这喙。

Look at that beak.

我特别喜欢这个喙。

I love the beak.

行了。

Alright.

我们马上开始，但最后我得给你看看，我刚跟它打招呼呢。

We're gonna get started, but I just need to show you this at the end So real so I'm saying hi to him.

明白吗？

Okay?

对。

Yeah.

不过你瞧这个，安吉。

But look at this, Ange.

请好好看着。

Just watch, please.

你一定会喜欢这个。

You're gonna love this.

看好了。

Watch.

瞧这儿。

Look.

再看一眼。

Look.

我是认真的，没骗你。

Like, I'm not kidding.

我没疯。

I'm not crazy.

我不是那种整天跟鸟打交道的人。

I'm not like a bird lady.

不是的。

No.

这只鸟可喜欢你了。

The bird loves you.

它喜欢这个。

He loves it.

沙洛姆。

Shalom.

我给他取名叫沙洛姆，意思是和平。

I named him Shalom, which means peace.

真可爱。

Cutie.

大家都给我发私信，说我一直都在

You are so Everyone's So everyone's been DM ing me saying that I'm

简直就是现实版的灰姑娘。

a real life Cinderella.

我就是个迪士尼式的人。

I'm a Disney

你特别擅长把生活浪漫化。

You're so good at romanticizing life.

真的吗？

Really?

是的。

Yeah.

那男人呢？

Except men?

是的。

Yeah.

别总跟我说得出去找对象了，安吉。

Stop telling me I have to get out there, Ange.

或者别去。

Or don't.

你就听从你内心感受到的召唤吧。

Whatever you feel God calling you to do.

我开玩笑的。

I'm just kidding.

依我专业角度看，你现在已经有点习惯独处了。

In my professional opinion, you've gotten a little comfortable being alone.

你有没有想过会这样？

Did you ever think that would happen?

没有。

No.

接下来我们来聊一聊《箴言》里的一句话。

So we're gonna talk about a verse in Proverbs.

盼望落空，会使人心灵沮丧。

Hope deferred makes the heart sick.

这节经文非常直白坦率。

This verse is brutally honest.

当你所盼望的事情一再拖延，真的会让心里变得沉重、消沉，甚至麻木。

When what you're hoping for keeps getting delayed, it can actually make your heart feel heavy, discourage, even numb.

所以我们今天想聊聊这个话题。

And so we want to talk about that today.

我很期待谈这个，因为我觉得大家总在讨论等候的过程——该怎么好好等候，等候能带来什么，以及等候其实是有益的。

I'm excited to talk about this because I think there's always a conversation around the waiting and like how to wait well and what waiting produces and how waiting is a good thing.

但我总觉得没人提到，等候真的可能让你——

But I just don't think anyone talks about the fact that waiting can it can genuinely make your

是的，让心变得沉重。

Yeah, heart

它可能让你变得苦毒。

it can make you bitter.

它可能让你陷入抑郁。

It can make you depressed.

即使你明白圣经里的真理，知道神为你的人生有美好的计划，要赐福给你，不降祸于你。

Even when you know biblical truths that God has a good plan for your life, plans to prosper you, not to harm you.

但有时候，这依然无法阻止你生病。

Sometimes that still doesn't keep you from getting sick.

那么，我们到底该怎么做，才能真正保护自己的心不被掏空？

So like, what do we do genuinely to keep our hearts from getting sick?

是啊。

Yeah.

没错。

Yeah.

四年前我就处在这样的阶段，那时我生命中的一切都被剥夺了，因为我一直期待着某些事情发生。

And it's a season that I was in four years ago when everything got stripped for me when I was hoping for certain things in my life.

比如，我希望能结婚。

Like I wanted to get married.

我期待一些事情能有结果，可它们就是没有。

I certain things to work out and it just didn't.

那让我难受得连身体都出现了反应。

That made me so sick to the point where like it manifested physically.

确实如此。

Yeah.

这不是假的，是真实存在的。

Like it's a real thing.

心若受伤，绝非小事。

Like a sick heart is no joke.

神也看在眼里。

And God sees that too.

哀恸的人有福了。

Blessed are those who mourn.

祂懂得什么是痛苦。

Understands sickness.

祂在客西马尼园里，曾实实在在地汗如血滴。

He experienced that in the Garden Of Gethsemane when he was literally sweating blood.

所以这确实是真实存在的。

So it's a real thing.

我三十多岁的时候也经历过，那时候所有压力都压得你喘不过气。

And I experienced that when I was in my 30s and everything got to you.

我的经历，你应该也了解。

I mean, you know my story.

我当时心都碎了。

I was so heart sick.

所以当一个应许延迟了——不管是心碎、目标落空，还是单纯的失去。

So when a promise is delayed, whether it be a heartbreak or a purpose or just a loss.

所以我们今天想聊聊这个话题。

And so we wanted to talk about that today.

我刚读完约瑟的故事。

I just finished reading the story of Joseph.

这故事我读过很多遍了，但这次重读，真的深深触动了我。

I've read it so many times, but it really hit home for me again after just reading it.

他就是那个‘希望延迟，心就忧伤’的完美例子。

And he's the perfect example of hope deferred makes the heart sick.

是的。

Yeah.

什么？

What?

我就是特别喜欢你。

I just love you.

为什么？

Why?

就是觉得喜欢啊。

I just do.

我做错什么了吗？

Did I do something?

对。

Yeah.

我刚才在想，说不上来具体是什么，真希望我们能赶紧把那个梗贴上去。有个梗特别适合形容安，可能是位男士，也可能是个女士，就是当你朋友明明错了，却还死不认账的时候。

I was thinking about, I don't know what it is, and I wish we could get the meme and put it up real quick, but there's this meme that if I had to if I had to think of any meme that would show Ang it would be this man or is maybe it's a woman and it's like when your friend's wrong when

你朋友明明错了，但她就是不肯服软。

your friend's wrong but she will

完全不讲理，还觉得自己赢了。

like all and she's in the bag

她就是那种，你懂的，就是这种人。

and she's like, you have that me.

是的，咱们分头行动。

Yeah, we'll split up.

真的，直接分开干。

Literally split it up.

如果你还没读过约瑟夫的故事，一定要去读一读。

If you haven't studied the story of Joseph, please study it.

这是我最喜欢的故事之一，也是我个人最有共鸣的一个故事。

It is one of my favorite stories, and it's probably one of the stories that I relate to personally the most.

是的

Yeah.

但上帝给了约瑟一个梦，预示他将来会身居高位，全家人都要向他下拜。

But God gives Joseph a dream that he was going to be in a position of authority, that his family would literally bow down to him.

可现实却跟他开了个反向的玩笑。

And then the opposite happens to him.

他被自己的兄弟出卖了。

He gets betrayed by his brothers.

被扔进了一个坑里。

He gets thrown into a ditch.

被卖为奴隶。

He gets sold into slavery.

被冤枉指控。

He gets falsely accused.

被关进了监狱。

He gets thrown into a prison.

而帮助过他的人，却把他给忘了。

And then he gets forgotten by the very person that he helped.

于是，每过一年，他都在监狱里被遗忘，心都碎了。

And so he's in prison every year that goes by that he's forgotten heart sick.

约瑟在监狱里可不是待了一周那么简单。

And Joseph wasn't in prison for like a week.

他在监狱里待了好几年。

He was in prison for years.

我们常常忘了，像大卫、约瑟这样的人，究竟在逃亡或监禁中熬了多少年，而我们——

We forget like how even David, David, Joseph, how many years they were on the run or in prison like and we

他们看起来就像短短的小故事。

they look like little stories.

我知道，但那都是真实的生活处境。

I know, but it's like real life situations.

我甚至会想到自己的情况，天啊，已经过去这么多年了，我想要的东西却还没得到。

And I even think about my own situation like, my gosh, it's been so many years and I haven't gotten what I what I want.

然后你想想约瑟夫这些故事。

And then you think about these stories of like Joseph.

他被关在监狱里。

He was in prison.

你想象一下这个场景。

Picture this.

他在监狱里待了好几年。

He's in prison for years.

你能想象他心里有多痛苦吗？

Can you imagine how emotionally sick he was?

他心里承受着多少不安和疲惫。

The uncertainties that he carried, the weariness that he carried in his heart.

我真没法想象他经历了什么。

I can't even imagine what he went through.

但我特别感动的是，尽管如此，他没有让内心的痛苦成为放弃的理由。

But what I love is that through that, he didn't let his sick heart be the very thing that made him give up.

他在监狱里做了什么？

What did he do in prison?

他始终以正直的态度坚持着。

He kept showing up with integrity.

他一直默默付出。

He kept serving.

他持续运用上帝赐予的恩赐，为别人解梦。

He kept using the gifts that God gave him interpreting dreams.

他一直靠着这些梦境在做事。

He kept using the dreams.

这正是《加拉太书》6章9节所说的。

That's Galatians six:nine.

不要灰心丧志。

Don't grow weary.

这话到底是什么意思？

What does that mean?

感到迷茫是正常的。

It's okay to feel uncertain.

允许自己感受情绪没什么不对。

It's okay to feel your feelings.

我之前说过，哀恸的人是有福的。

Like I said, those who mourn are blessed.

上帝并不要求我们做到完美无缺。

God doesn't expect us to be superhuman.

他也不是什么超人。

Wasn't a superhuman.

疲惫的时候，要分清是普通的累，还是累到想放弃，再也不想干了。

But through that weariness, there's a difference between being tired and growing weary to the point where you say, I don't want to do this anymore.

我不干了。

I give up.

正是在这种疲惫中，你依然没有放弃。

So it's through your weariness you don't give up.

接下来怎么说的？

Because what does it say next?

只要你不放弃，另一边就会有收获。

On the other side, there is a harvest when you don't give up.

是的。

Yeah.

收获之前是什么？

What is before a harvest?

你得先种下去。

You have to plant it.

你得去浇灌它。

You have to water it.

你得等着，因为在等待中，有你看不见的成长。

You have to wait because there is unseen growth in the waiting.

所以当我想到约瑟的时候，如果上帝在他做那个梦的那一刻就把一切都给了他，他根本不会有足够的品格去承担这一切。

And so when I think about Joseph, if God would have given him everything in that moment when he gave him that dream, he wouldn't have had the character to sustain it.

正是这些年的经历，塑造了他，磨炼了他，也让他学会了谦卑。

So it was through all of these years of what he went through that built him, that strengthened him, that built his humility.

所以当上帝赋予他生命中的使命时，他有能力承担得起。

And so when he was handed the call that God had for him in his life, he was able to sustain it.

不仅如此，你得明白，你的生命远不止关乎你自己。

And not only that, but you have to understand your life is connected to so much more than you.

那么约瑟最后说了什么？

And what does Joseph say at the end?

你们的意思是要害我，但上帝的意思却是好的，为要成就今日的局面，拯救许多人的性命。

You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done for the saving of many lives.

我特别喜欢这句话。

I love that.

他的生命，牵动着远比他自己更宏大的事。

His life was connected to so much more than him.

当你读约瑟的故事时，也会渐渐培养出对上帝的倚靠。

And as you read Joseph's story, it also built this dependency on God.

我觉得在我的人生中，那些我曾经为自己渴望的东西。

And I think that of my own life, all of the things that I wanted for myself.

我想当妈妈。

I wanted to be a mother.

我想当妻子。

I wanted to be a wife.

虽然这些确实是美好的愿望，但神为我预备了不同的计划。

And while, yes, that's a good desire that I have, God had other plans for me.

我经常说，我很感恩神不会在我们想要的时候就给我们想要的东西，因为那时候我还缺乏当妈妈的品格。

And I say this all the time, but I'm so grateful that God doesn't give us what we want when we want it, because I did not have the character to be able to be a mother yet.

是的。

Yeah.

过去将近四年，神一直在塑造我的品格，让我成长为一个更好的女人。

Like, have been able God has been working on my character and me and building me as a woman for the past coming on four years.

我回过头来看，真的很感谢神没有在我最想要的时候满足我，因为现在的我，简直让我自己都不敢相信。

And I look back and I'm like, thank you that you didn't give me what I wanted at the time when I wanted it, because I can't believe the woman that I am.

现在他把我塑造成了一个全新的女人。

And now he's worked on me so much as a woman.

我终于能打破那些深植于我骨子里的代际模式了。

I've been able to break things, generations of things that have been embedded in me.

他一直在打磨我的品格。

He's been working on my character.

我很庆幸他没有在我最想要的时候给我那些东西。

I'm so glad he didn't give me what I wanted at the time.

完全同意。

100%.

我现在简直不敢相信自己变成了这样的人。

Because I can't believe who I am now.

我内心依然隐隐渴望着那些事。

And I still have a quiet ache of wanting these things.

有些东西，我到现在还没拥有。

There's things that I still don't have yet.

盼望延迟了

Hope deferred.

我内心仍渴望生活中某些东西

I have a longing for certain things in my life.

但我知道，神的时机并不好

But what I do know is God's timing is not good.

而是完美无缺

It's perfect.

当你还没有得到某样东西时，那是因为祂正在你里面做工

And when you don't have something, it truly is because He's doing something in you.

我清楚一点，即使现在还没得到，神仍是良善的，祂信实不变

One thing that I know, even though I don't have it yet, is that God is good and He's faithful.

过去，我会因此陷入沮丧、消沉，但经过这些年，祂在我生命中建立的信靠和祂一贯的作为让我明白：即便尚未得着，神依然良善，依然信实

And so before where I would let it make me better ridden and so depressed and depleted, Through him building my faith through these years and the track record of my life, I know that if I don't have something yet, God is still good and he's still faithful.

祂为我生命所定的计划，正是最美好的计划

And the plan that he has for my life is the very best plan.

无论祂有没有赐给我想要的东西。

Whether He doesn't bring me what I want or not.

我知道，到头来我拥有耶稣。

I know at the end of the day that I have Jesus.

我真的拥有。

I truly do.

这并不意味着我不痛苦，但我依然继续前行。

That doesn't mean that I don't hurt, but I still keep going.

我不会让这件事把我困在床上，让我陷入抑郁。

I don't let that be the very thing that keeps me bedridden and depressed.

所以你并没有在等待中虚度人生。

And so you're not letting your life pass by waiting for something.

你是在等待中生活。

Are living in the waiting.

对。

Yes.

那在这样的时候，我们该怎么做呢？

And so what do we do in this time?

我特别感恩，我的痛苦和内心的伤痛。

I'm so grateful that my pain and the heart sick.

它让我学会完全倚靠神。

It motivated me to be dependent on God.

激发了我继续前行、持续服事的信心。

Activated a faith to keep going, to keep serving.

你看我这一生做了些什么。

Look at what I've done with my life.

你看，在我渴望婚姻和亲密关系之后，神为我预备了什么。

Look at what God had for me on the other side of me wanting to have that marriage and that relationship.

我一直坚持着，学习着，把自己献给神，你看祂在我生命中成就了什么。

I kept going and learning and been consecrated to God and look at what he's done in my life.

我们每个人都有祂所定的旨意。

There's a purpose for every single one of us.

是的，我很喜欢你说的这句话，我们不能让生活从指缝中溜走。

Yeah, we just I love that you say that we just can't let our life pass us by.

我知道，当你渴望某样东西却得不到的时候，那种感觉有多难熬。

I know how hard it is when you're longing for something and you are.

那种悲伤会让你觉得，我还能再好起来吗？

It's like this grief that makes you feel like, will I ever be okay again?

当你深陷这样的痛苦时，真的会连起床的力气都没有。

And that when you are dealing with such grief, it really makes you never wanna get out of bed.

我懂这种感觉。

I know that feeling.

但你得明白，神是信实的，他真的爱你。

But you have to understand that God is so faithful and that he loves.

《Girls Gone Bible》由大峡谷大学赞助，这是一所位于亚利桑那州凤凰城的实惠私立非营利基督教大学。

Girls Gone Bible is proud to be sponsored by Grand Canyon University, an affordable private nonprofit Christian university based in beautiful Phoenix, Arizona.

有人说，高等教育已经过时、毫无意义。

They say higher education is outdated, irrelevant.

GCU从不满足于现状。

GCU doesn't settle for the status quo.

他们直接打破它。

They shatter it.

格兰德峡谷大学是全美规模最大的大学之一。

Grand Canyon is one of the largest universities in the country.

在GCU，课程设置严谨、紧扣行业需求，注重培养实用技能，帮助每位学生做好职业准备，抓住发展机遇。

At GCU, academically rigorous, industry driven programs are built to move at the speed of relevance, with practical skills, career readiness, and opportunity for every learner.

截至2025年12月，GCU共开设了380个项目，包括153个学位课程、180个专业方向和56个证书课程。

As of December 2025, GCU offered three eighty programs overall, including 153 degree programs, 180 emphasis, and 56 certificate programs.

GCU相信，教育不该是少数人的特权，而应是人人都能负担得起的路径。

GCU believes education shouldn't be a privilege, but an affordable path for all.

基于基督教的真理，GCU致力于培养下一代，让他们以正直领导、以使命服务，并推动社区变革，创造真正有意义的未来。

Grounded in Christian truth, GCU works to empower the next generation to lead with integrity, serve with purpose, and help transform their communities, building a future that matters.

GCU所追求的，是目标明确的教育。

GCU is purpose driven education.

行动起来。

Take action.

在GCU找到你的使命。

Find your purpose at GCU.

私立的。

Private.

基督教背景的。

Christian.

价格实惠。

Affordable.

价格实惠，非营利性。

Affordable, nonprofit.

访问 gcu.edu 了解更多信息。

Visit gcu.edu to learn more.

朋友们，我想给你们介绍一个你们一定会喜欢的东西。

Guys, I wanna introduce you to something that I think you're really gonna love.

这款应用叫NOTA。

It's an app called NOTA.

NOTA能帮你深入了解上帝创造你的本意，增进信仰，发现祂为你生命预备的独特使命。

NOTA helps you dig into who God created you to be, grow your faith, and uncover the unique purpose He has for your life.

如果你想找一些真实又实用的方法，把信仰融入日常生活，还有专为你定制的挑战和反思，那它再合适不过了。

It's perfect if you're looking for real practical ways to live out your faith daily with challenges and reflections tailored just for you.

NOTA最打动人的地方，在于它鼓励你诚实地面对自己，也诚实地面对上帝，去探索真正重要的事——你的价值观、人际关系，还有你的呼召。

What's so beautiful about NODA is how it encourages you to be honest with yourself and with God to explore what really matters, your values, relationships, and your calling.

应用里还有温馨互动的引导，就像在和一个懂你、真心想帮你成长的人聊天。

And the app has friendly interactive guides that feel like a chat with someone who gets you and wants to help you grow.

如果你真想认真活出上帝造你时原本的设计，不妨试试NOTA。

If you wanna get serious about living your faith in a way that's true to who God made you, check out NOTA.

现在App Store就能下载，它会陪你一步步走好这段旅程。

It's available now in the App Store, and it's a great companion on your journey, one step at a time.

好了，各位。

Alright, guys.

我们正式进入了想要舒服，但又不想显得邋遢的时代。

We have officially entered the I want to be comfortable but still look like I care era.

我们想要柔软的面料、合身的剪裁，还有真正适合日常生活的单品。

We want soft fabrics, flattering fits, and pieces that make sense for real life.

Honeylove 寄来了他们的睡衣、居家服和运动裤，穿起来既舒适又不失精致。

Honeylove sent us their sleepwear, loungewear, and leggings, and it's giving cozy without looking careless.

无论是慵懒的早晨、放松的一天、睡前的时光，还是只是待在家里，都能让你感觉依然像自己。

Like you can wear it for a slow morning, a reset day getting ready, winding down at night, or just being at home and still wanting to feel like yourself.

他们的运动裤真的特别棒，舒服、有支撑力、显身材，活动起来也毫无压力。

And the leggings are so good, so comfortable, supportive, flattering, and easy to move in.

那种一穿上就知道会成为日常常备款的运动裤。

The kind of leggings that you put on and immediately know they're going into the regular rotation.

Honeylove 是一个由女性创立的独立品牌，看得出来，他们的设计出自真正懂女性需求的女性之手。

Honeylove is an independent female founded brand, and you can tell their pieces are designed by women who actually understand how women want to feel in their clothes.

给自己添置市场上最前沿的内衣和塑身衣吧。

Treat yourself to the most advanced bras and shapewear on the market.

使用我们的专属链接，在 honeylove.com/ggb 享受八折优惠。

Use our exclusive link to save 20% off Honeylove at honeylove.com/ggb.

就是 honeylove.com/ggb。

That's honeylove.com/ggb.

结账后，他们会问你是从哪里听说他们的。

After you check out, they'll ask you where you heard about them.

请支持 GGB，告诉他们是你从我们这儿来的。

Please support GGB and tell them we sent you.

用 Honeylove 体验舒适与支撑力的新标准。

Experience the new standard in comfort and support with Honeylove.

他爱你，然后他看见你，知道你正在默默付出。

Loves you and then he sees you and that he's working behind the scenes.

所以，这正是激励你继续坚持、继续前行的理由，因为丰收就在这个时候到来——当你持续努力时，他正在这段未知与病痛的时光里塑造你的品格。

So let that motivate you to keep serving and keep going because it's then when the harvest comes, when you keep It's then when he's developing your character in this time of the unknown and the sickness, he works through that.

这正是他为我所做的。

And that's what he did for me.

不断地把你内心的等候交托给耶稣，一直如此。

And just constantly submitting your waiting in your heart back to Jesus, constantly.

让你的心不生病的唯一方法，就是每天在隐秘处，重新回到最基本的操练，把心一次次地交还给祂。

Like the only way to keep your heart from getting sick is to continuously give it back to Him every single day in the secret place, back to the basics.

我总觉得，当我们经历心碎的时候，比如我最近就遇到这样的事，我脑子里想的居然是：得有个神奇的耶稣疗法，才能让我好起来，让我熬过去，让我的心不再受伤。

I feel like we just can't get away from, as I walked through a situation where my heart got sick, even recently, I remember thinking like I need some sort of magical Jesus remedy to get me better, to get me past this, to get me through this, to make my heart not sick anymore.

但其实我需要的，正是当初刚认识祂时所做的事——早上醒来读圣经、祷告，让耶稣来爱我，做回最初那些简单的举动。

And actually what I needed was the very thing that I did when I first met him, which is wake up in the morning, read the Bible, pray, let Jesus love me and do the things that I did in the beginning.

这些基本的操练，我们一辈子都离不开。

We never graduate from those basics.

我觉得，你与耶稣同行的时间越长，生活反而应该越简单才对。

I just feel like the longer you walk with Jesus, the more simple it should be getting.

这是我最深的体会。

That's what I've discovered the most.

根本没有什么神奇的办法，能让你学会耐心等候，或让心重新恢复。你唯一能做的，就是花时间与耶稣同在。

Like, if there's not some, like, magical thing to do to wait well or get your heart back in a good place, the only thing you can do is spend time with Jesus.

你唯一能做的，就是安息在耶稣的同在里，沉浸于神的恩典之中。

The only thing you can do is soak and bask in the goodness of God in the presence of Jesus.

这对我来说就是我学到的。

That's what I've learned for me.

关于等候这件事，我想分享一点想法。

And something that I want to say when it comes to, like, waiting.

圣经里有两个故事，我特别喜欢。

Two stories in the Bible that I love so much.

有伊丽莎白，她生下了施洗约翰。

We have Elizabeth, who gives birth to John the Baptist.

她等了很长很长时间。

She has to wait a long time.

她经历了一段漫长的等候期。

She has a long waiting season.

我想象她在等候中，心也渐渐疲惫了。

I imagine her heart got sick in her waiting.

以利沙伯必须在那个时刻生下约翰，好让他为耶稣的到来预备道路。

Elizabeth had to give birth to John the Baptist at the time that she did so that he could prepare the way for Jesus to come.

这与耶稣的生命有着神圣的关联。

That was divinely connected to the life of Jesus.

旧约里还有哈拿。

We have Hannah in the Old Testament.

她必须等待，直到生下撒母耳，好让撒母耳在对的时间、对的地方膏立大卫为王。

She had to wait to give birth to Samuel so that he could then be at the right time in the right place to anoint David as King.

就像阿里说的，我们的生命不只是为自己而活。

Like Ari said, our lives are not just for ourselves.

我们只是其中一小部分，是什么呢？

We are one little, what is it?

他们怎么说来着？

What do they say?

我们不过是上帝织锦中的一根细线。

We're like one little thread in the tapestry of God.

我们只是宏大故事中的一小部分。

We're one little part of a massive story.

当我们置身于比自己大得多的计划中时，怎能单凭自己的眼睛和理解去揣测上帝该如何在我们生命中行动呢？

We cannot try to figure out with our own physical eyes and understanding how God should move in our lives when we are connected to something so much bigger than us.

这总让我深受鼓舞——没错，我确实有很多计划。

And that always encourages me so much that like, sure, I have all these plans.

没错，我以为自己知道事情该怎样发展，但其实我根本不知道上帝在做什么。

Sure, I think I know the way that things should go, but I have no idea what God is doing.

我更不知道我的孩子们将来会与什么连在一起。

I have no idea what my children are gonna be connected to.

最后我想说一句，就像阿里提到的，培养品格才是最该触动你的事：如果上帝还没赐下你所期待的，那恰恰说明祂正在塑造你。

And then one last thing that I wanna say, like Ari talked about developing your character, this is what should be getting your heart unsick the most, is that if God hasn't brought you something yet, He truly is developing you.

我想给你们举个例子。

And I just wanna give you guys an example.

阿里和我当初从《女孩读圣经》开始，我相信事情的发展方式，正是上帝的旨意。

Ari and I began in Girls Gone Bible, and I believe it was the will of God that things happen the way that they happened.

但我们做播客事工的方式并不寻常。

But the way things happen for us in ministry with the podcast is not conventional.

这也不是上帝通常做事的方式。

And it's not the way that God typically does things.

耶稣在开始事工之前，是在默默无闻中被塑造的。

Developed Jesus in obscurity before Jesus ever started his ministry.

主却让我们在众人面前成长。

The Lord developed us in front of people.

这背后有着极大的美，因为人们亲眼见证了这一切。

And there's so much beauty in that because look what people got to witness.

两个女孩正在经历真实的成圣之路。

Two girls on a true sanctification journey.

真是太棒了。

It was amazing.

实在太美好了。

It was beautiful.

而且我们的品格根本没准备好面对这一切。

And also our character was not prepared for it.

你知道幕后到底是什么样子吗？

And do you know what it's been like behind the scenes?

我们一路跌跌撞撞地走过来。

Stumbling our way through this.

哭过，喊过。

Crying, screaming.

只是一心想要学习，可就连我们两个人一起，也常常力不从心。

Only trying to learn, but even us together.

问题出在我们的品格上。

It was our character.

我们根本没那个能力去支撑我们正在经历的一切。

Like we did not have what it took to sustain what we were walking in.

但靠着神的恩典，身边有家人、导师、牧者和领袖，还有圣灵一路带领着我们。

And like, by the grace of God, we had people around us, mentors, pastors, leaders, and the spirit of God walking us through.

感谢上帝，我们是彼此相伴走过来的，因为这段路真的特别混乱。

Thank God we did it with each other because it's been really messy.

感谢上帝，我们俩都在和一个愿意接纳对方的人一起做这件事。

Thank God we both are doing this with someone who accepts the other person.

这是我们经历过的最艰难的事——既要扛起这个平台，又要投入事工，还要面对接踵而来的不安、各种怪异的事，以及必须从我们里面清理掉的那些糟心的东西。

It's been the hardest thing we've ever walked through is trying to carry this platform platform and being in ministry and all the insecurity that comes up and all the weird stuff and all the yucky stuff that had to be purged out of us.

这段日子真的太煎熬了。

It's been brutal.

我说这些，是想说，我很感恩事情是这样发生的，因为从中结出了很多果子，但过程确实不容易。

So I say that to say, I'm so happy it happened the way that it did because there's been so much fruit that's come from it, but it's been hard.

我们亲眼见证了，什么叫在还没准备好承担之前，就被赋予了重担。

We've seen firsthand what it's like to be given something before having the character to sustain it.

到现在，我最渴望的，就是当一个妈妈。

Even now, I want to be a mom more than anything.

我目前正在接受大量心理辅导，也一直在与耶稣同行，因为我意识到自己有一些问题，绝不能传给孩子。

I am currently going through so much therapy and doing work with Jesus because I've been made aware of things that I do not want transferred onto my kids.

我明白。

I know.

就在一年前，我可能会用那种方式当父母，幸好现在还没孩子。

There are ways even a year ago that I would have parented that I'm so grateful I don't have children yet.

我从家族里继承了一些东西，现在觉得必须得改变。

There are things that I've adopted from my lineage that I'm like, I want this to be different.

我希望我的孩子能不一样。

I want it to be different for my kids.

我不想这样反应。

I don't want to react in this way.

我不想这样回应。

I don't want to respond in this way.

我真的很想当妈妈，比什么都想，真的比什么都想。

So while I want to have children, truly more than anything, more than anything, want to be a mom.

但我还有很多事要做。

I've got work to do.

我现在正在做的一些事，就是为了成为更好的父母。

There's work currently as of right now that I'm doing because I want to be a better parent.

所以没错，虽然我有这个愿望，但让我心里不那么难受的是，我知道还有很多事需要去做——以前我根本没想到这一点。

So yes, while I have this desire, what helps my heart not be sick is knowing that there's so much work to be done right And I didn't know that before.

以前我觉得，人生不就是该开开心心、生孩子、过好日子嘛，诸如此类的话。

Before I was kind of like, life is meant to be fun and have kids and just have a good life and blah, blah, blah.

不，真的有很多事等着你去做。

No, there's work to be done.

我很感恩，耶稣让我现在处于这样的境地——一个人，做着前所未有的、特别艰难的功课。

And I'm grateful that Jesus has me in the place that I'm in right now where I'm alone and I'm doing really, really hard work that I've never had to do before.

这其实是最大的恩典。

It's the greatest blessing.

有时候你觉得自己在受惩罚，但其实不是，是神的爱在引导，祂暂时收回了那个人，或者还没给你那个使命。

And in the moment you think you're being punished, and it's like, no, it is the love of God that he took that person away, or he hasn't given you that purpose yet.

因为正是在这样的时光里，你才学会并锤炼出原本不可能拥有的品格，成为今天的你。

Because it's in that time where you would not be able to learn and sustain the character and be the person you are without this time.

是的。

Yeah.

我单身的这段日子，经历了很多，真的只想说：谢谢你，上帝。

My singleness season, I have gone through so much, I am just like, thank you, God.

谢谢你，耶稣。

Thank you, Jesus.

让我没有和别人一起面对这些。

That I wasn't doing this with another person.

换作别人，我根本撑不下来。

I wouldn't have been able to do it.

我甚至会想，要是那样的话，我怎么可能投身事工呢？

And I just even think about, you know, yeah, like, how would I have how would I have been into ministry?

如果我有孩子、有丈夫，我还能四处奔波、到处巡回吗？

Would I have learned and been on tour and done all these things if I would have had kids and a husband?

所以，如果你现在正处在等候的阶段，我想分享一点：你读保罗说过，单身反而更好，因为能更专心于神的事。

And so if you're even in a waiting season right now, one thing I love, you read about Paul when he says, It is better to be single because you can focus more on the things of God.

所以有时候，当我单独与耶稣相处时，祷告中都会流泪，因为我觉得主让你单单与祂同在，真是太美好了。

And so sometimes when I'm even with Jesus, I have tears in my prayer time because I'm like, it's so sweet that the Lord has you just with Him.

祂现在就想把你留在身边。

He wants you to Himself right now.

别觉得天啊，别人都结婚了，只有我一个人。

Don't look at it as, oh my gosh, everyone's married and I'm alone.

相反，要把这段时光看作是神特别为你保留的宝贵时光。

No, look at this time as the precious time that God wants you for himself.

神真的一直想把我留在祂身边。

God has truly wanted me for himself.

我知道这些年来都是如此，因为我一直与祂同行，认识祂，真正体会祂的爱。

I know that for all these years because he I've been with him and I've gotten to learn about him and I've gotten to really understand his love.

我也学会了去爱祂的子民，成为服事他们的人。

And I've gotten to really love his people and be a servant for his people.

这实在太美了。

That's so beautiful.

所以如果你现在正处在等候的阶段，这可能是你生命中最珍贵的时光，哪怕已经过了好几年——因为圣经里每一个人，都不是一两年就等来的。

And so if you're in the waiting season right now, this is the most precious time of your life, even if it has been years, Because everybody in the Bible, it wasn't a year or two.

都是好多年。

It was years.

但你要成为上帝正在塑造的那个人，不是一夜之间就能完成的。

But to become the person that God is developing you into isn't overnight.

就像你看到庄稼生长，也不是一夕之间的事。

Just like when you see a harvest planting, it's not overnight.

这需要时间。

It takes time.

所以我深信，祂是良善的，是信实的，祂的时间恰恰是最好的。

And so I just know that he is good, he is faithful, and his time really is perfect.

所以每次你感到疲惫的时候，就把这一切带到祂面前，和祂一起面对，明白吗？

And so every time you start to get weary, bring it to him, partner with him in that way, you know?

但别让这种感觉把你拖到想放弃、想认输的地步。

But don't let it get you to the point where you say, I'm throwing the towel in, I'm giving up.

因为正是在这样的时刻，他才做最出色的工作。

Because it's in this place where he does his best work.

但经文最后说，心愿得偿，就是生命树。

But at the end it says, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.

我学到的是，即使那个心愿和你原本想的不一样，也未必是坏事。

What I learned is that even if that desire is different, it might be different from what you think it is.

我的情况就是这样。

And mine was.

我原以为自己的人生会完全不同。

I thought my life was going to be so different.

我以为我会当演员。

I thought I was going to be an actress.

我以为我会过上一种完全不一样的生活，和我当初想象的不一样。

I thought I was going to, you know, have this whole different life than what I pictured.

但神赐给我的这一切，让我对他的计划感到更加满足。

But what God gave me, I am more fulfilled with the plan he had for me.

所以看起来可能会不一样。

So it might look different.

我每天都在说，愿你的旨意成就，就像耶稣在汗如血滴之后说的：‘然而，不要照我的意思，只要照你的意思。’

It's just every day I always talk about of the opening of the hands of your will be done, just like Jesus after he was sweating blood, he said, but nevertheless, not my will be done, Your will be done.

我知道我现在心里很痛苦。

And so it's that constant of I know my heart is sick right now.

我知道我特别想要那些东西，但还是愿你的旨意成就。

I know there's these things that I want so bad, but your will be done.

我把这一切都交给你。

I give it to you.

在这个阶段，你想要教导我什么？

What are you trying to teach me in this season?

我该怎么继续服事你？

How can I keep serving you?

你就这样每天不断把这份痛苦带到他面前。

And it's just you keep bringing that pain to him every single day.

就是在那些时刻，你真真切切地看见了他。

That's in the moments where you literally see like you see him.

在你内心最痛苦的时刻，你看见了他。

You see him in that sick heart moment.

他就在这儿与你相遇。

That's where he meets you.

正是在这里，你培养出这份信任与信心。

That's where you cultivate this trust and faith.

就是在那些时刻

It is in the moments

当你内心最虚弱的时候，你感受到神的安慰、神的爱和神的信实。

of your deepest sickness in your heart where you feel the comfort of God, the love of God and the faithfulness of God.

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我之所以能坐在这里，坦然地跟你们说这些，不是因为我干这行多年，而是因为我亲身经历过，亲眼见证了上帝在我痛苦和伤痛中所行的奇妙。

I will tell you, that's why I can sit up here and boldly talk to you, not because I've been doing this thing for years, but because I lived it and I have seen the wonders of God through my pain and through my sick heart.

所以，别放弃。

And so don't give up.

别让那些迟迟未到、你一直期盼却还没实现的事，成为你放弃的理由。

Don't let this time of what has been delayed or what you want that hasn't come to fruition be the very thing that makes you give up.

因为正是在这段时期，祂正在塑造你，动工在你的生命里。

Because it is in this time where He is developing you and working in your life.

我都不确定我们是不是该把这种时候叫做‘等待的季节’。

I don't even know if we should have anything called a waiting season.

我们到底在等什么？

What are we waiting for?

我们根本不是在等。

We're not waiting.

我们其实已经拥有了所需要的一切。

We already have everything we need.

祂时时刻刻都在做着事情。

And he's currently doing something always at all times.

这么说其实根本说不通。

It's like, it actually doesn't even make sense.

我们根本不是在干等着。

We're not freaking waiting.

我们正在被塑造。

We're being developed.

我们正在生活。

We're living.

我们正在生活。

We're living.

明白吗？

Okay?

我们有多少年浪费在所谓的等待期里，只是眼睁睁看着生活从身边溜走，等着下一件事发生。

How many years do we waste in a waiting season because we're just letting our life pass us by waiting for the next thing to come.

不，我们必须彻底拒绝等待期这种想法。

No, we need to be radically anti waiting seasons.

因为那样你就会得到

Because then you get that

婚姻。

marriage.

而且

And

然后你结了婚，又想要别的东西了。

then you get that marriage and then you want something else.

这事儿没完没了。

It's a never ending.

我和我的

Me and my

朋友前几天聊了聊。

friend were talking the other day.

她说，我只要没什么期待的事，就会觉得难过。

She was like, you know, I'm always I get sad when I don't have something to look forward to.

比如我之前特别期待《驿站》那部剧。

Like, I get sad, like I had stagecoach and so I was really excited for that.

再之前，我也有一件事让我充满期待。

And then before that, I had this to look forward to.

现在我没什么旅行计划，也没安排什么特别的事。

Now, I don't have any like trips coming up or anything planned.

我觉得这种感觉其实挺正常的。

And I'm like, that's such a normal feeling.

但确实有点让人难过。

And it's also sad.

我们明明应该珍惜当下，你知道吧？

Like we should be happy right now, you know?

别总等着下一件有趣的事发生。

Not always just waiting for something, waiting for the next fun thing to happen.

今天是主所定的日子，我们要欢喜快乐。

Today is the day the Lord has made and today we will rejoice and be glad in it.

确实如此。

Truly.

我很喜欢这句话。

I love that,