第282期：为什么其他女性似乎已经自由了，我却还在为食物噪音困扰？你需要知道这些，以免明年还在原地踏步

嘿，宝贝，欢迎回到《她的最佳自我》播客。

Hey girl, welcome back to the Her Best Self podcast.

今天我想跟你聊点可能让人不舒服的事，但我太爱你了，不能眼睁睁看着你在饮食失调康复的泥潭里原地打转。

I want to talk to you about something today that might ruffle some feathers, but I love you too much to allow you to stay stuck in the messy middle of eating disorder recovery.

你一直在等，宝贝，可这种等待，恰恰把你困在这儿了。

See you're waiting around and that waiting sis, well it's keeping you here.

今天我们要聊的是，那种让女性真正获得持久自由、而不是多年陷在循环里的关键品质。

So today we're talking about the one quality that separates women who find lasting freedom from those who stay stuck in the cycle for years.

准备好啦。

So buckle up.

我们开始了。

Here we go.

嘿，宝贝。

Hey, girl.

欢迎来到《她的最佳自我》播客。

Welcome to the Her Best Self podcast.

我是林赛·尼科爾，以前是竞技花样滑冰选手，也是个完美主义者，现在是个听从上帝指引、接纳不完美的妈妈，还当上了数字企业的CEO。

I'm Lindsey Nicholl, former competitive figure skater and perfectionist, turned god led imperfect boy mom and digital CEO.

如果你总是脑子里绕着食物打转，天天怀疑自己会不会哪天突然就摆脱了那些控制你生活的强迫性想法和行为——那这个播客就是为你准备的，因为我太懂了，那种被饮食紊乱困住、活得一团糟的感觉。

If you find yourself constantly thinking about food and wondering if you'll wake up one day free from the obsessive thoughts and behaviors controlling your life, then I've created this podcast for you because I know exactly what it's like to be a downright hot mess trapped in a destructive cycle of disordered eating.

我最终找到了自由，亲爱的，你也可以。

I finally found freedom, and you can too, girlfriend.

如果你准备好跟食物和身材的关系彻底断开，砸碎控制你的锁链，真正活出健康最好的自己，那就拿出你最爱的Target笔记本，咱们现在就开始，让你真正活出最好的自己。

So if you're ready to kill your relationship with food and body and break the chains of control and show up in your best health, then grab your favorite Target journal, and let's get to it so you can start living your best life as your best self.

今天咱们聊的是‘速度’。

Today we're talking about speed.

不是康复本身有多快，也不是你得在多长时间内好起来。

Not the speed of recovery itself, not the speed of a timeline.

我经常跟我的姐妹们说，如果你刚来这儿，我得提一下，我康复路上的图腾是乌龟。

Okay, I often will share to my ladies and if you're new around here, I talk about my recovery spirit animal being the turtle.

在我自己的康复过程中，靠的就是日复一日的坚持，一点一点地，才终于走到了另一边。

Where in my own recovery, it took me consistency over time, little by little, to get through to the other side.

所以今天这期节目我要说的不是康复本身要花多快的时间，而是做决定和走出低谷的速度。

So I'm not talking about speed of recovery itself in today's show, but I am talking about the speed of decision making and bounce back.

你先听我慢慢讲。

Okay, so hear me out.

要是你受够了今年还停留在去年的原地踏步，那你的问题很可能出在做决定不够果断、或是遇到挫折后缓不过来。

If you are tired of being in the same place this year as you were last year, you could have a speed of decision making and or bounce back situation happening.

如果你不想明年还像今年这样，脑子里全是甩不掉的关于食物的杂念，那些声音只会越来越响，你懂吧？

And if you don't want next year to look like this year with the constant food noise in your mind and all that chatter, it's only going to get louder, right?

那这期节目一定能帮到你

Then this episode can help you.

我也真心希望今天这期内容能帮上忙

And I hope today that it does.

因为我在和大家交流的过程中，发现女性朋友主要分为两类

Because in my work with women, I see two distinct types of women.

第一类是只会原地等待的人

One, the waiters.

好吧。

Okay.

她在等自己感觉准备好了再行动。

She is waiting until she feels ready.

她在等动力出现，等别人来邀请，等那个完美的计划。

She's waiting for motivation, waiting for the invitation, waiting for the perfect plan.

她非得等到百分百确定不会搞砸了才肯动手。

She is waiting until she's sure she will not mess it up.

结果就在犹豫中，一拖就是几周、几个月，甚至好几年。

And she sits in indecision for weeks, months, and even years.

如果你是这种等的人，没问题。

And if you're a waiter, cool.

我超爱你的。

I love you.

我一路走来，也有过好多次当等的人的时候。

There were moments on my journey that I was a waiter.

这也没啥大不了的。

And that's okay.

但第二种女性不一样，她们会主动给我发邮件，成为我的客户，因为她们是做决定的人。

But the second type of woman are the women that come into my inbox and become clients of mine because they're the deciders.

她正在学会即使害怕也照样行动。

She is learning to act fast even in the face of fear.

我说的‘快’，不是指那种赶紧补救的快。

And when I say fast, I don't mean like the speed of we are recovering quickly.

明白吗？

Okay?

而是她愿意把事情搞砸。

It's more so of she's willing to mess it up.

我说的‘搞砸’，是指能从混乱中爬起来。

When I say mess it up, I mean recovering messy.

因为她知道，追求完美才让她卡在了今天这个地步。

Because she knows trying to be perfect got her here in the first place.

所以她做恢复决定时，能迅速做出主动的选择。

And so she's making recovery decisions that are pro choices quickly.

即使她做的决定没有为未来的自己铺好路，她也能快速从挫折中爬起来。

And even when she might not make the decision that is going to set her best future self up in a positive direction, she is bouncing back from setbacks with speed.

你好好想想，哪种人能真正获得持久的自由？

And I want you to think about this and guess which one finds lasting freedom.

是决策者，不是等着别人安排的人，每次都是，每次都一样。

The decider, not the waiter, every single time, every single time.

不过我要说得明明白白，今天我不是在说……

Let me be crystal clear though, about what I'm not saying today.

我不是在鼓励你仓促地完成康复。

I'm not talking about rushing through recovery.

明白吗？

Okay?

康复是个过程。

Recovery is a process.

我康复的过程就像乌龟一样，前面说过，很慢，但很稳，一天一天慢慢来。

I recovered like the turtle, as I mentioned, it was slow, it was steady, one day at a time.

乌龟最终赢了比赛，我可不是在说你要急着把康复赶完。

The turtle wins the race and that is totally I'm not saying that you should speed your way through healing.

事实上，根据我这套方法论，加上这些年我辅导女性的经验，我确信有一种有意识、有步骤的方式能帮你顺利走过这段路。

In fact, I believe with my frameworks and the coaching that I've done with women and the years that I've done it, there is a purposeful way to navigate you through this.

你的神经系统需要时间。

Okay, your nervous system needs time.

我说的不是这个。

So I'm not talking about that.

你的身体需要时间。

Your body needs time.

你的心也需要时间。

Your heart needs time.

你得接受，这件事就是得花时间。

You need to embrace that this is going to take time.

我所说的速度完全不一样。

The speed I'm talking about is completely different.

我说的是两种具体的速度。

I'm talking about two specific types of speed.

第一，做决定的速度。

One, decision making speed.

当一个康复的选择出现时，你多久能下定决心？

So when a recovery choice presents itself, how quickly do you decide?

你得纠结三天才决定要不要吃那口东西吗？

Do you spend three days debating whether to eat the thing?

还是说，你能在那一刻，从那个已经康复的自己、最好的自己、未来的自己出发，立刻做出选择？

Or do you decide in the moment from your healed self, from your best self, from your future self?

所以，做决定的那份力量和速度，还有第二点——反弹的速度。

Okay, so the power of decision making, the speed of that, and two, the speed of the bounce back.

当你状态下滑、肯定会出状况的时候，你多久能重新回到正轨？

When you have a bad day because you're going to, you 100 will, how quickly do you get back on track?

你一陷进去就是好几个星期吗？

Do you spiral for weeks?

你又复发了？

Do you relapse?

还是说，一有机会你就立刻重启？

Or do you reset at the next opportunity?

这两件事啊，朋友，首先得让你真正直面内心——你到底希望未来的自己是什么样子。

And these two things, friend, are going to require that you A, get really real and awareness of what it is that you actually want in terms of your future self.

而且，这也不允许你再抱着借口、否认，或者那些自欺欺人的想法不放了，因为这两种速度决定了一切。

But also it doesn't allow you to sit with an excuse anymore, or with denial, or any of that because these two speeds determine everything.

我现在的这个选择，是在推着我朝我想去的方向走，还是在拖我后腿？

Is the decision that I'm making propelling me, pushing me forward in the direction that I want to be or not?

犹豫不决本身也是一种选择，不管你愿不愿意，它就是。

And indecision is a decision, Whether you like it or not, it is a decision.

第二，我反弹得快不快，是在为成功铺路，还是在为失败埋雷。

And two, is how quickly I bounce back setting me up for success or failure.

我记得自己特别沮丧，还怪自己明明知道该做什么，却就是没行动。

Because I remember being so depressed and mad at myself for like not taking the opportunity to do the thing when I knew what to do and I simply didn't do it.

陷在自怜里头，我经常跟我的客户说：你可以在这儿待二十分钟，但咱们可不能在这儿盖房子。

Sitting in that pity party, I try, I say it to my clients all the time, you can sit in the room for like twenty minutes but we're not building the house around it.

明白吗？

Okay?

我希望你能好好感受这些情绪，但也要明白：感觉不是事实，该翻身了。

I want you to feel the feels and then I want you to realize that feelings aren't facts and it's time to bounce back.

现在，我手里还有什么能用的？

What power do I have now?

过去的事就让它过去，但下一顿饭、下一个机会、下一次邀请——我能做点什么？

The past is the past, but what power do I have at my next meal, in my next opportunity, At that next invitation?

我跟成百上千位女性合作后，总结出一点：

Here's what I've learned with working with women across hundreds of people.

是那个不完美也先干起来的女生，还是那个非要等完美时机才行动的女生？

The woman who acts imperfectly versus the woman who waits for the perfect moment.

根本没法比。

There's no comparison.

为啥？

Why?

因为等待本身就是一种选择。

Because waiting is a decision.

你其实是在选择原地不动。

You're deciding to stay where you are.

可能是潜意识里做的决定，但不管怎样，这都算数。

You're deciding maybe subconsciously, but neither here nor there.

你总想着，明天也许就会对自己负责了。

You are choosing that maybe tomorrow you will commit to yourself.

明天也许就会感觉更准备好了。

Maybe tomorrow you will feel more ready.

明天也许就会更有动力了。

Maybe tomorrow you will be more motivated.

也许明天你会更确定。

Maybe tomorrow you will be more sure.

但我问你，如果这真是你生活中的一个问题或困扰，难道今天不该是下定决心的日子吗？

But I challenge you, if this is an issue or a concern in your life, isn't today the day to be sure?

你真的还想再浪费一天，被这种心理问题、疾病、挣扎，或者食物噪音缠着吗？

Like, do you want to spend one more day with this mental illness or this disease or the struggle, the food noise?

我不在乎。

I do not care.

当你能真正确定这个选择时，你才能对自己坦诚，直呼它的名字。

When you can be sure of that choice, you can be real with yourself and you can just call it what it is.

我选择原地不动，是因为待在这里比往前迈一步感觉更安全。

I am choosing to stay where I am because this is more safe than to putting one step forward.

但我知道，以你这样的性格，这根本不是真正的你。

But I know because of the woman you are, that isn't really you.

但今天我想强调的是，给你一点温柔的能量：等待，其实也是一种选择。

But what I wanted to highlight today and give you that cis love energy is that waiting is a decision.

这其实是个选择。

It is a choice.

你的饮食失调正等着你做这个决定呢。

Your eating disorder is counting on that decision.

它靠你一直拖着才活得下去。

It is banking on you waiting.

她知道你犹豫得越久，她就越有底气说话、越能左右你。

And she knows that the longer that you sit in indecision, the louder that she gets to have influence and speak.

沉默的时候，心里那个声音越来越响；一行动，它就立马蔫了。

The voice inside gets stronger in the pause and weaker in the action.

我见过太多这样的女性，来跟我咨询时，聊得特别好，一副真心想改变的样子，说‘我想跟你合作，该怎么开始？咱们赶紧行动吧’。

I see this literally with women who will come to consults with me, will have a wonderful conversation and she's kind of coming to the table with I want to work with you, how do I work with you, let's make it happen.

可到了最后，她却说得去跟丈夫商量一下，其实也没啥大问题。

Then she towards the end of the conversation says she needs to go meet with her husband and there is nothing wrong.

如果你老公是你必须得商量钱的事的人，那我觉得你真该把他拉进来说清楚。

I think you should bring your spouse into the conversation if your husband is the person who you know you need to share the finances with.

我得跟老公好好谈谈这事。

I need to do that with my husband.

我完全理解你这种想法。

So like I totally understand that.

但咱们得直面问题的本质。

But let's call it what it is.

你一有空就坐着琢磨，跟老公聊，跟姐妹聊，跟朋友聊，没完没了地聊。

When you have time to sit and think and noodle and talk to husband and talk to sister and talk to friend and talk, talk, talk, talk, talk.

然后呢？

What happens?

进食障碍的声音在沉默中变大了。

The eating disorder voice gets stronger in the pause.

它在犹豫不决时变得更响。

It gets stronger in the indecision.

哎，你真需要这个吗？我也不确定。

Oh, I don't really know if you need this.

然后借口就来了。

Then the excuses start.

我真的不确定。

I don't really know.

我觉得这事你能自己搞定。

I think you can do this by yourself.

我觉得你能行，姐，我完全支持你。

I think you can do and you know what sis, I'm all for it.

我真挺支持的。

I am all for it.

但你知道吗，一旦你开始行动，

But guess what happens when you take action.

就会有一股火在你背后烧起来。

There is a fire that gets lit underneath of you.

那些康复了、下定决心的女生，从来不会陷在犹豫、拖延、反复纠结里。所以今天我想特别强调一点：你的决策速度，真的很重要。

Women who have recovered, that are determined to, they do not sit in indecision mode, in procrastination mode, in deciding, deciding when they're just like, so one of the biggest qualities that I wanted to highlight for today's show was that your decision making speed matters.

你站在冰箱前，纠结要不要吃，跟脑子里那个声音扯皮二十分钟，你觉得你越跟这声音纠缠，结果会怎样？

When you're standing in front of the fridge debating whether to eat, spending twenty minutes negotiating with the voice inside your head, what do you think is gonna happen the longer you marinate with that voice?

你会累，会垮掉。

You get tired, you get run down.

那些真正做出改变的女性，我见过不少。

The women who I'm seeing truly make change.

她们几分钟内，就从未来的自己角度做了决定。

They're deciding from their future self in minutes.

其实可能就几秒钟。

Actually probably in seconds.

那个已经康复的我，现在会怎么做？

What would the recovered version of me have right now?

啪，就这么定了。

Boom.

我不再问别人准不准了。

I am no longer asking permission.

我决定行动，哪怕恐惧还在。

I am deciding the action is taken even when the fear is there.

因为他们不怕搞砸。

Because they're not afraid to mess it up.

他们知道，乱中行动永远胜过完美拖延。

Because they know that messy action beats perfection every single time.

乱中行动永远强过完美地原地不动。

Messy action beats perfect inaction every single time.

他们明白这个道理，因为你根本想不出一条摆脱它的路。

And they understand this because you cannot think your way into being free from this.

如果你只听懂我这一句，也希望你听进去了。

I hope you hear that if you hear nothing else.

你得靠行动，才能走进自由。

You have to act your way into freedom.

你每多花一秒纠结，每一口气、每一分精力，都在浪费——每多一秒犹豫，你的饮食失调就有机会再争辩一次。

Every moment that you spend negotiating, every moment, every breath, every span of energy that you have, every breath, every second that you're spending an indecision is a second too long because your eating disorder gets to argue its case.

快速做决定能直接打断内心的拉扯。

Fast decisions shut down the negotiation process.

除了做决定的速度，另一个能改变一切的是你恢复的速度。

So the second speed that changes everything in addition to your decision making is your bounce back speed.

你从挫折中爬起来有多快。

How quickly you can bounce back from setbacks.

听好了，你肯定会遇到状态差的日子，可能还会经历糟糕的周、糟糕的月。

Because listen, you are going to have bad days, might have bad weeks, bad months.

你总会有些时刻，会节食，会听脑子里那个声音，明明知道该怎么做，就是做不到，一不小心又掉回老套路。

You are going to have moments where you restrict your food, where you listen to the voice in your mind, where you know what you should be doing, but you're just simply not there, where you fall into old patterns.

问题不在于你会不会跌倒，而在于你多久能爬起来，重新振作。

The question isn't if you will, the question is how quickly will you recover and bounce back from these moments?

我见过一些女生，只要有一天没做好，就觉得自己整个周、整个月都完了，觉得自己没戏了，这事儿根本不适合她，这辈子都改不了了。

There are ladies that I've seen that have one bad day and that turns into a bad week, a bad month, she's not capable of this, this isn't for her, she'll always be this way.

她把一次跌倒当成自己彻底失败的证据，觉得是自己不好、方法没用，干脆放弃算了。

She uses the setback as evidence that she is failing, that she is bad, that what she's doing isn't working and that she should simply give up.

但我的客户，吃错一顿饭，下一顿就立刻调整回来。

But my clients, they have one bad meal and they reset the next one.

遇到一次挫折，他们就把这当信息来用。

They have one setback and they use that as information.

当成机会，而不是自我定义。

They use that as opportunity, not identity.

这可不是说你得每次都完美无缺。

And this doesn't mean again that you have to be perfect.

只是别让一时的失误，定义了你整个过程。

It just means that you don't allow one moment to define your entire journey in this.

因为她更害怕的，是明年还停在原地，而不是偶尔一两天、一两周或一个月没做好。

Because she is more terrified of being in the same place next year than she is of having one imperfect day or week or month.

你知道这位女士真正害怕的是什么吗？

And do you know what this woman is actually afraid of?

不是怕恢复不了，也不是怕长胖或失控。

Not messing up recovery, not even gaining weight or losing control.

我知道这听起来有点让人震惊。

I know it's mind blowing.

对我来说，我最怕的就是原地踏步。

For me, I was terrified of staying exactly where I was.

如果你跟我一样，就是那个女人，晚上躺在床上时，你会想：一年后，我是不是还在跟同样的内心斗争较劲？

So if you're like me, and you're this woman, you're lying in bed at night and you're thinking, what if I'm having the same internal battle a year from now?

要是下一次度假，我还是被这些念头缠着，脑子里的声音变得更响怎么办？

What if that next vacation, I'm still thinking these What if that noise in my head gets even louder?

这可能吗？

Is that possible?

要是我又浪费了一年，困在这个循环里怎么办？

What if I waste another year of my life trapped in the cycle?

这种恐惧感，反而推着我往前冲。

That terror friend motivates speed.

我宁愿做个不完美的决定，也不愿等一个完美的时机拖太久。

You see, would rather make an imperfect decision than a slow perfect one.

关键就在这儿，你从挫折里能快速爬起来，而不是慢慢陷进复发的泥潭。

And that's the difference because you are bouncing back quickly from a setback and you're not spiraling slowly into a relapse.

我不是说，质疑自己的决定就不该有空间。

Now, I'm not saying that there's not room for people who are questioning decisions.

对，没错。

Okay.

但真正让你找到自己的，是行动——那种自由只有在行动中才能获得，因为饮食障碍最怕的就是行动。

But it's in the action where you find yourself, where you find that freedom because the eating disorder hates action.

只要你一步一个脚印地往前走，惯性自然会带来自由。

And when you can do that one foot in front of the other, momentum creates freedom.

我康复的过程就像乌龟，慢但稳。

I recovered like the turtle, slow and steady.

可就是在这么慢的康复里，我在做决定时却快得像闪电。

But within that slow recovery, I moved with lightning speed on decisions.

我记得我站在花生酱货架前，吓得不敢拿那瓶花生酱，你们肯定懂这个故事。

When I was standing in the peanut butter aisle terrified to buy the peanut butter, you guys know that story.

我在最近一期节目里讲过这件事。

I shared it on a recent episode.

我才不会花整整三周来纠结要不要买。

I didn't spend three weeks debating it.

我当时就打定主意：康复后的我再来这家店的时候，一定要把花生酱买回家。

I decided the recovered version of me the next time I come into the store is going to buy the peanut butter.

说干就干，直接冲就完事了。

Boom, let's go.

接着说哈。

Bring it.

要是哪天那个声音吵得不行，我实在忍不住听了它的，我也不会拿这事当证据，说自己彻底垮了。

When I had days where that voice was so loud and I couldn't resist but listen to it, I didn't use it as evidence that I was failing.

第二天一早我就重新调整状态。

I would reset the next morning.

这就是快速恢复状态的能力。

This is fast bounce back.

就是说，昨天过得真糟。

It's like, okay, yesterday sucked.

但恢复的速度并不体现在整个时间线上。

But the speed wasn't in the overall timeline.

速度体现在每一个当下的选择里。

The speed was in the moment to moment choices.

今天在节目里，我想说的就是这个。

And that is what I'm trying to express today on the show.

这种快速反应的能力——哪怕害怕也敢行动，决心迅速爬起来——这救了我的命，当然还有上帝和我妈。

And that kind of speed says that willingness to act fast, even when scared, that commitment to bouncing back quickly, that is what saved my life, in addition to God and my mom.

那你怎么培养这种反应速度呢？

So how do you develop this type of speed?

我建议你为恢复的决定定个30秒规则。

I want you to set thirty second rules for recovery decisions.

她会怎么做？

What would she do?

最好的自己会怎么做？

My best self, what would she do?

立刻做决定。

And decide immediately.

记住啊，不完美的行动，永远胜过完美的犹豫。

And I want you to remember that imperfect action beats perfect inaction every single time.

所以根本不存在失败。

So there's no failing.

你只是在行动而已。

You're just doing.

大声把这句话念出来。

Practice saying this out loud.

那个重新站起来的我，会先愣一下，然后直接干了。

The recovered version of me would blank and go do it.

如果你想要多一点反弹的力量和速度，我建议你在状态差的日子，给自己设个重启仪式。

Now, if you're trying to get a little bit more of that bounce back power and that bounce back speed, I want you to develop a reset ritual on your bad days, on your down days.

要记住，我完全可以拥有糟糕的时刻，这不会抹掉我之前所有的进步。

Remember, I'm allowed to have bad moments, and that doesn't erase my progress.

所以我会好好接纳当下的情绪，梳理清楚自己的感受，想明白到底是哪些事让我觉得失控，或是我抓得太紧了。

So I am going to sit in that moment, I'm going to process the moment, I'm going to try to figure out what I'm controlling or feeling out of control around.

同时我也要记得，这些负面状态只是成长过程里的一部分，并不代表我这个人就是这样。

And I'm going to remember that this is part of the process, but this is not who I am.

我不会把这些标签贴在自己身上。

This is not my identity.

这样等我明早醒来的时候，我就能跟自己说：下一个机会我一定要立刻回到正轨。

And then I can say to myself tomorrow morning when I wake up, I'm going to get back on track at the very next opportunity.

姐妹，咱们的目标可不是永远不栽跟头。

The goal sis isn't to never fall down.

也不是永远都不搞砸任何事。

It isn't to never mess up.

真正的目标是攒够势头，每一次跌倒后都能比上一次更快爬起来。

The goal is to create momentum, to get up faster every single time.

我想让你跟我一起想象一件事。

I want you to imagine something with me.

再过一年的今天，你还是坐在现在这个位置上。

It's exactly one year from today, you're sitting in the exact same place you're sitting right now.

一切都没变。

And nothing has changed.

对食物的执念还在那儿。

The food noise is still there.

可能还更严重了。

It's probably louder.

内心的挣扎照样在继续。

The internal battles are still happening.

你对自己管得比以往任何时候都更严了。

You're restricting even more than you ever have been.

可你还是在等自己准备好。

And you're still waiting to feel ready.

你还是卡在原地，拿不定主意。

You're still sitting in indecision.

遇到挫折之后，你还是要花好几个星期才能缓过来。

You're still taking weeks to bounce back from setbacks.

而且你到现在都没找过能帮你往前推进的人，在这条路上给你搭个手。

And you still have not worked with someone that can help support your journey forward.

这种感觉好受吗？

How does that feel?

如果这个画面，比快速做出不完美决定这件事更让你害怕，那恭喜你，

If that image terrifies you more than the idea of making fast, imperfect decisions, congratulations.

你已经准备好练出果断行事的能力了。

You're ready to develop speed.

这是我这周想让你完成的任务。

Here's what I want you to do this week.

我要你练习快速做决定。

I want you to practice decision speed.

下次遇到需要恢复的抉择时，直接做决定。

The next time you're faced with a recovery choice, decide.

问问自己，问问未来的你，选好了就立刻行动。

Ask yourself, ask your future self, make the choice and take the action.

当你遇到低谷时——别躲，一定会有的——马上重启。

And when you have a bad moment, because you will, reset immediately.

想发会儿脾气？给你二十分钟，随便你，我不拦你。

Give yourself twenty minutes to pout, I don't even care.

但别拖到周一。

But don't wait until Monday.

别等到下星期。

Don't wait until next week.

马上重启。

Reset.

下一顿饭、下一顿零食、下一个机会，就是你的重启点。

Reset at the next meal, the next snack, the next opportunity.

如果你厌倦了干等着，还指望结果会不一样，如果你已经准备好像我那些客户那样快速行动了，那就去 herbestself.co 申请和我一对一辅导吧。

And if you're tired of waiting around and expecting different results, and if you're ready to develop the speed that creates what I'm seeing with my clients, I want you to go to herbestself.co and apply for one on one coaching with me.

因为我知道一件事。

Because here's what I know.

那个即使不够完美也敢立刻行动的女生，一年后就能获得自由，或者至少有机会获得自由。

The woman who acts fast, even though not perfectly, will be free a year from now, or could be free a year from now.

而那个总等着完美时机的女生，只会一直等下去。

The woman who waits for perfection will still be waiting.

姐妹，你不需要更多时间。

Sis, you don't need more time.

你也不需要更充分的准备。

You don't need more readiness.

你需要的是更快地反弹、更快地做决定。

You need more speed in your bounce back and in your decision making.

问题是，你打算用起来吗？

The question is, are you going to use it?

下次再见，继续以正确的方式快速迈向你的自由。

Until next time, keep moving fast towards your freedom in all the right ways.

亲爱的，真的很感谢你愿意听我分享今天心里的话。

Oh friend, thank you so much for letting me share what was on my heart today.

我希望这个播客能帮更多女性从食物和身材的束缚中解脱出来。

My hope for this podcast is to help more women find freedom from food and body.

如果今天的话让你更有力量或感到温暖，一定告诉我。

If this has empowered or blessed you, let me know.

如果你愿意给我打分和写评价，我会非常感激；也特别欢迎你加入我的私人Facebook社群，和我互动。

I'd be honored for your rating and review of my show, and I'd love to connect with you and my private Facebook community.

你真的可以从追求完美，转向追寻意义。

You really can move from perfection to purpose.

咱们一起挣脱这些枷锁吧。

Let's break the chains together.

我会陪着你，帮你找到方向。

I'll help navigate the way.

下次再见。

Until next time.

拜拜啦，姑娘。

Bye for now, girl.