🌟 成就与鼓励（第三部分）

你好，亲爱的听众们，欢迎来到雅思口语第三部分。

Hello, hello dear listener and welcome into IELTS speaking part three.

今天我们讨论的是如何让孩子们感到自豪和获得奖励。

We are talking about feeling proud and rewarding children.

明白吗？

Okay?

当你奖励别人时，你会给他们一些东西。

When you reward people, you give them something.

不错。

Nice.

一些好的东西。

Something nice.

是的。

Yeah.

奖励通常是为了换取良好的行为或出色的工作而给予的。

And rewards are usually given in exchange for good behavior or good work.

所以，人们在工作中会得到奖励，是的，在学校、在大学里也是如此。

So, people are rewarded at work, yeah, at school, at university.

父母会奖励孩子。

Parents reward children.

所以，问题可能涉及如何奖励孩子，父母怎样奖励孩子，以及对孩子、对自己的自豪感。

So, questions could be about rewarding children, how parents reward children and about feeling proud of children, of ourselves.

你为自己感到骄傲吗？

Do you feel proud of yourself?

当然。

Absolutely.

每天都如此。

Every day.

我只是，你知道的，每天起床后对自己说：‘哦，玛丽亚，我真为你骄傲，宝贝。’

I'm just, you know, I get up and say, Oh, Maria, I'm so proud of you, baby.

我看着镜子里的自己，说：‘哦，你真美。’

I look at myself in the mirror and say, Oh, you're so beautiful.

干得好，你。

Well done, you.

好的。

Okay.

你今天十二点才起床，而不是早上九点。

You just got up at 12:00 instead of 9AM.

干得好，你。

Well done, you.

你知道吗？

You know?

这很重要，你知道吗？

And it's important, you know?

是的。

Yes.

非常重要。

Very important.

成年人在哪些情况下会为自己感到骄傲？

On what occasions would adults be proud of themselves?

我想，当他们完成了一些付出了大量努力的事情时，比如获得晋升或取得某种资格，这些让他们能够做更多事情，从而对他人甚至自己更有用。

I suppose after they've achieved something, they put a lot of effort into, like getting a promotion or a qualification that means they're able to do things or more things, so they can be more useful to people and, well, more useful to more people or even just themselves.

那孩子呢？

And what about children?

孩子什么时候会？关于孩子呢？

When do children and what about children?

孩子在什么时候会为自己感到骄傲？

When are children proud of themselves?

你得去问他们。

You'd have to ask them.

我想，大概是在他们达到或超越了周围人的期望，并且被人告知他们做到了的时候。

I suppose probably when they meet the expectations or exceed the expectations of people around them, and they're told that they did that.

这还挺棒的。

So that's pretty cool.

经常奖励孩子好吗？

Is it good to reward children regularly?

嗯，这当然取决于他们是否真正赢得了奖励，不是吗？

Well, surely that depends on whether they earned it or not, doesn't it?

我的意思是，如果你总是毫无理由地给孩子奖励，他们很可能会习惯于不劳而获，这种心态并不好，可能会让他们变得自私。

I mean, if you just give kids rewards all the time for no reason, then they're bound to become used to just getting something for nothing, which isn't a great mindset to have as it could make them selfish.

但如果他们努力工作并且对他人友善，那我就不觉得有什么不妥。

But if they're working hard and being nice to others, then I don't see why not.

这听起来是个不错的主意。

That seems like a great idea.

父母应该怎样奖励孩子呢？

Should parents reward children and how?

就像我说的，只要这是他们努力争取来的，为什么不呢？

Well, like I said, assuming it's something they worked for, why not?

这不仅是一种强化行为的好方法，也能庆祝一些美好的事情发生了。

It's a good way not only to reinforce the behavior, but also celebrate that something nice happened.

至于如何奖励，这 again 取决于父母拥有的资源。

As for how, well, again, that depends on what resources the parents have.

我怀疑低收入家庭可能负担不起太多，但他们完全可以送点小礼物，感谢孩子做得好。

I doubt that a low income family could afford much, but they could definitely get something small to say thank you for doing something well.

例如，父母究竟该如何奖励孩子呢？

For example, like, how exactly can parents reward their children?

可以是玩具或者糖果之类的。

It could be something like a toy or a sweet even.

或者如果有条件，也可以给钱，但金钱奖励总是很不错的。

Or if they have it, then it could be money, but financial reward is always quite nice.

那么，父母应该奖励孩子哪些行为呢？

And what should parents reward their children for?

至少，对于达到他们的期望和做正确的事，这是非常重要的。

Well, at least for meeting their expectations and doing the right thing, that's quite important.

我认为，任何父母希望孩子再次出现的行为都该得到奖励，至少有资格获得奖励。

Anything the parents want to see happen again should be rewarded, I think, or at least qualifies for our reward.

并不是每个人都会因为做好事而得到奖励。

Not everybody is rewarded for doing good things.

父母在什么情况下会为孩子感到骄傲？

When would parents feel proud of their children?

在一种文化中，孩子做的某些事情可能被视为了不起，而在其他文化中，人们可能会觉得这些行为令人反感或讨厌。

Some things that kids do in one culture could be seen as amazing while others might find it, well, downright offensive or obnoxious, I suppose.

总的来说，当孩子努力付出并取得了他们平时做不到、或大多数孩子难以达到的成就时，比如赢得比赛或提出一个非常有洞察力的问题，父母就会感到骄傲。

Broadly speaking, it could be when they work hard and achieve something they wouldn't normally have done or that might not be expected for the majority of kids like winning a competition or asking a really insightful question.

孩子通常会做些什么来让父母感到骄傲？

What do children usually do to make their parents proud?

除了我刚才说的，还有各种各样的事情。

Apart from what I said, all kinds of things.

比如帮忙做家务，这通常是让人非常高兴的；或者举止礼貌、成为模范公民，这样别人就会称赞父母教养出了这么优秀的孩子。

Helping out with the housework, for example, that's usually something people are very happy with or, being polite or a model citizen, so that other people compliment the parents on their work raising such a great child.

父母还可以做些什么来激励孩子取得更好的成绩？

And what else can parents do to motivate their children to achieve better results?

除了我刚才说的，我认为这些就是主要的了。

Apart from what I said, I think those are the main ones.

我的意思是，通常是一些能激励他们继续努力的事情。

I mean, usually, it's something that's going to motivate them to do things further.

总的来说，能激励成年人的东西，也应该能激励孩子。

So the same things that will motivate adults should motivate kids, broadly speaking.

也许奖励的大小会与他们付出的努力成正比。

Maybe there'll be like it could be proportional to the amount of work that they put in.

比如说，如果是一件很大的事，比如赢得比赛，或者在某项考试中名列第一，那就可以奖励一台笔记本电脑，因为这是巨大的成就。

So let's say it's like a really big thing, like winning a competition or coming first out of all of the students taking a particular exam, then it could be a laptop because that's a huge achievement.

所以巨大的奖励要与之相称。

So a huge reward is commensurate with that.

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As you know, we now release all of our premium content for free, and it's available for one month.

一个月后，这些内容就会进入我们的超级秘密档案库。

After one month, it goes into our super secret archive.

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To sign up for the archive, click the link in the description below.

很快见。

See you soon.

所以当考官问你是在哪些场合下，比如像事件这样的场合，基本上什么时候。

So when the examiner asks you on what occasions, Occasions like events, like pretty much when.

在哪些情况下，成年人会为自己感到骄傲？

On what occasions would adults be proud of themselves?

成年人什么时候会为自己感到骄傲？

When are adults proud of themselves?

你说人们在达成某些成就后会为自己感到骄傲。

And you say like people are proud of themselves after they have achieved something.

所以他们实现了目标，取得了某些成就，为此付出了很多努力。

So they have reached their goals, they have achieved something, They put a lot of effort into something.

所以他们会非常努力地去做某件事。

So they try very hard to do something.

他们为某件事付出了很多努力。

They put a lot of effort into something.

然后你可以举一些例子，比如获得晋升、取得资格证书、大学毕业。

And then you can make some examples like getting a promotion, getting a qualification, graduating from university.

当人们能够为他人做更多事情时，也会感到自豪。

And also people feel proud of themselves when they are able to do more things for other people.

所以，当人们帮助他人时，这通常会让他们感到满足。

So, when people help others, help other people, this usually makes them satisfied.

自豪并不是负面的情绪。

And being proud is not negative.

所以，你之所以感到满意，是因为你做了一些事情。

So, you're kind of like satisfied because you've done something.

而且，人们会因为自己做了一些事而感到自豪。

And again, like people are proud that they've done something.

或者人们为自己感到自豪。

Or people are proud of themselves.

你也可以说，比如感到高兴。

You can also say, like, to be pleased.

人们通常会因为种种原因感到高兴。

People usually feel pleased because blah blah blah.

人们会获得奖励。

People earn rewards.

这意味着他们需要努力工作才能得到奖励。

That means they work to get it or put some kind of effort in to get the reward.

是的。

Yeah.

还有一个不错的搭配是‘获得奖励’。

And a nice collocation earn a reward.

所以当孩子真正获得了奖励时，我们就可以奖励他们。

So when children really earn rewards, yes, then we can reward them.

这里罗里用了一个反问句来首先回答问题。

Here Rory uses a tag question to answer the question firstly.

所以他这么说：实际上这取决于他们是否真正赢得了奖励，不是吗？

So he says: Actually that depends on whether they earned it or not, doesn't it?

对吧？

Right?

语调是下降的，因为这并不是一个真正的问题。

And the intonation goes down because it's not a question.

它更像是一种陈述。

It's kind of like a statement.

所以，这是C2级别九分水平的内容，亲爱的听众。

So, it's like c2 band nine level, dear listener.

哦，是吗？

Oh, is it?

是的，绝对如此。

Yeah, absolutely.

技术类问题非常棒。

Tech questions are fabulous.

是的，它们能提升你的发音。

Yeah, they improve your pronunciation.

不是稍微改善，而是为你的发音增添多样性。

Not kind of improve, but they add variety to your pronunciation features.

而且它们的语法也非常棒。

And also it's great grammar.

所以，请正确使用它们。

So, use them correctly.

所以，你只有在想要达到九分时才用它们，对吧？

So do use them only if you want like a nine, right?

但因为它们相当难。

But because they are quite difficult.

罗里，你能再念一遍这句话吗？

Rory, could you pronounce this sentence again?

亲爱的听众，请注意罗里的语调变化。

And, dear listener, please notice where Rory's intonation goes.

它会上升或下降。

It goes up or down.

嗯，这取决于他们是否配得上，不是吗？

Well, surely that depends on whether they earned it or not, doesn't it?

是的。

Yeah.

就是这样。

There you go.

看到了吗？

See?

不是吗？

Doesn't it?

所以Rory并不是像这样问一个问题，不是吗？

So Rory doesn't ask a question like, doesn't it?

不是吗？

Doesn't it?

真的吗？

Really?

不。

No.

就像它这样子运作。

It's like it goes like it's like this.

就是这样。

It's this.

如果一直给孩子奖励，这不是个好主意。

If you give children rewards all the time, it's not a good idea.

对吧？

Right?

所以总是给孩子奖励。

So to give kids, children, kids rewards all the time.

给予奖励。

Give rewards.

所以孩子通过表现获得奖励，父母则给孩子提供奖励。

So children earn rewards and parents give rewards to children.

如果父母总是给予奖励，孩子必然会养成总是不劳而获、期待随时得到好东西的习惯。

And if parents give rewards all the time, children are bound to become used to getting something nice all the time for nothing.

是的。

Yeah.

所以习惯于做某事，习惯于总是收到礼物，就会形成总是期待收到礼物的惯性。

So to get used to doing something, to get used to getting presents, like to start having a habit of getting presents.

这不是一种好的心态。

And it's not a good mindset.

养成这种习惯并不好。

So it's not a good habit to have.

这是一种不健康的心理状态。

It's not a good mental situation.

这可能会让他们变得自私。

It could make them selfish.

如果孩子努力工作，父母应该奖励他们。

Parents should reward children if kids worked hard.

这样父母可以强化良好的行为。

So parents can reinforce the good behavior.

强化的意思是鼓励孩子重复这种良好行为。

Reinforce meaning to kind of encourage children to repeat the good behavior.

例如，如果孩子打扫了房子，我们可以给一些钱、一些糖果，或者我不知道，办个派对来强化这种良好行为。

For example, if a child cleans the house, we give some money or some sweets or, I don't know, throw a party to reinforce the good behavior.

孩子会记住：我打扫了房子。

The child remembers: So, I cleaned the house.

我得到了奖励。

I was rewarded.

所以下次我会再做，为了得到奖励。

So I'll do it again next time to get the reward.

这是典型的心理学，你知道的，基本的心理学。

This is typical psychology, you know, like basic psychology.

就像动物，比如狗，你知道的。

Like animals, dogs, you know.

那么父母应该如何奖励孩子呢？

And how should parents reward their children?

这取决于父母拥有的资源。

It depends on the resources the parents have.

这里罗里指的是经济资源，也许是父母拥有的时间。

Here Rory means financial resources, maybe time, the time that parents have.

因为如果父母工作太忙，花时间陪伴孩子也可以算是一种奖励。

Because spending time with your child could be kind of a reward if parents are too busy with their work.

低收入家庭。

A low income family.

所以，当你谈到贫困家庭时，可以用低收入家庭作为同义词。

So, if you talk about poor families, you can come up with a synonym like a low income family.

低收入家庭负担不起太多东西。

Low income families can't afford much.

也许吧。

Maybe.

所以

So

贫困家庭买不起太多礼物。

poor families can't afford many presents.

在这种情况下，说声谢谢就足够了。

In this case, saying thank you could be enough.

是的，只是说声谢谢，你知道的，也可以是一种奖励。

Yeah, just saying thank you, you know, could be a reward.

并不意味着你必须一直给孩子钱。

It doesn't mean that you have to give children money all the time.

只是说声谢谢，就像表扬孩子，对他们说些好听的话。

Just saying thank you, like praising children, saying nice words to them.

当孩子取得成就时，父母会为他们感到骄傲。

Parents feel proud of their children when they achieve something.

对吧？

Right?

而且again，这里Rory使用了升调疑问句。

And again, here Rory uses a tab question.

Rory，你能读出来吗？

Rory, could you read it out, please?

嗯，这真的取决于上下文，不是吗？

Well, that's really dependent on the context, isn't it?

是的。

Yeah.

不是吗？

Isn't it?

你明白吗？

You see?

所以语调是下降的。

So the intonation goes down.

并不是这样的，对吧？

It's not like, isn't it?

对吧？

Isn't it?

你明白吗？

You see?

我有点是在问你。

Kind of I'm asking you.

但在这里，罗里是在说，是的，这取决于语境。

But here, Rory is stating that, yes, it depends on the context.

因为，是的，这是对的。

Because, yeah, that's true.

我不是在问考官，我只是在使用C2级的顶级语法和发音。

I'm not asking you the examiner, but I'm just using c two band nine super grammar and pronunciation.

是的。

Yeah.

所以如果孩子努力学习，取得了成就，父母通常会感到骄傲。

So if children work hard, if they achieve something, parents usually feel proud.

所以如果孩子做了一些好事，就用现在完成时。

So if children have done something nice, present perfect.

然后你可以举一些例子，比如赢得比赛、提出有洞察力的问题、在学校取得好成绩。

And then you can give some examples like winning a competition, asking an insightful question, getting a good mark at school.

一个好的策略是使用‘除了我刚才说的’这个短语。

A good strategy is to use the phrase apart from what I said.

这也是如此。

It's also this.

所以有些问题可能很接近，你知道的，从想法上来说。

So some questions might be close together, you know, like in terms of ideas.

就好像考官在问你一些你已经说过的事情。

As if the examiner is asking you about something that you've already said.

所以在这种情况下，与其重复你刚说过的内容，不如说‘除了我刚才说的，孩子还可以做别的事情’。

So in this case, instead of repeating what you've just said, you say, apart from what I said, children can also do something.

除了我刚才说的。

Apart from what I said.

所以，补充我之前说过的，你还可以像我说的那样，像我说的那样。

So adding to what I have already told you, you can also say like I said, like I said.

孩子可以帮助做家务。

And children can help out with housework.

所以，帮助父母做家务，帮忙做家务或家务活。

So help parents with housework, help out with housework or housework chores.

家里的糟糕活计。

Horrible activities around the house.

打扫房子，洗碗。

Cleaning the house, washing the dishes.

孩子还可以成为模范公民。

And children can be model citizens.

所以，遵守法律等等。

So, following the laws and everything.

准备好了吗，听众朋友们。

Ready, listener.

非常感谢您的收听。

Thank you very much for listening.

我们将在下一期节目中再与您相见。

We'll get back to you in our next episode.

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Okay?

继续关注我们。

Stay with us.

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Love, hugs

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Bye.

成年人在什么情况下会为自己感到骄傲？

On what occasions would adults be proud of themselves?

我想，当他们完成了自己付出大量努力的事情时，比如获得晋升或取得某种资格，这让他们能够做更多事情，从而对他人甚至对自己更有用。

I suppose after they've achieved something, they put a lot of effort into, like getting a promotion or a qualification that means they're able to do things or more things, so they can be more useful to people and, well, more useful to more people or even just themselves.

那孩子呢？

And what about children?

孩子什么时候？

When do children?

那孩子呢？

And what about children?

孩子在什么时候会为自己感到骄傲？

When are children proud of themselves?

你得去问他们。

You'd have to ask them.

我想，大概是在他们达到或超越了周围人的期望，并且被人告知他们做到了的时候。

I suppose probably when they meet the expectations or exceed the expectations of people around them, and they're told that they did that.

这还挺酷的。

So that's pretty cool.

经常奖励孩子好吗？

Is it good to reward children regularly?

嗯，这取决于他们是否真的配得上，不是吗？

Well, surely that depends on whether they earned it or not, doesn't it?

我的意思是，如果你总是毫无理由地给孩子奖励，他们就会习惯于不劳而获，这种心态并不好，可能会让他们变得自私。

I mean, if you just give kids rewards all the time for no reason, then they're burned to become used to just getting something for nothing, which isn't a great mindset to have as it could make them selfish.

但如果他们努力付出，对别人友善，那我觉得没什么不可以。

But if they're working hard and being nice to others, then I don't see why not.

这听起来是个很棒的想法。

That seems like a great idea.

父母应该奖励孩子吗？如何奖励？

Should parents reward children and how?

就像我说的，如果这是他们努力争取来的，为什么不呢？

Well, like I said, assuming it's something they worked for, why not?

这不仅是一种强化行为的好方法，还能庆祝一些美好的事情发生。

It's a good way not only to reinforce the behavior, but also celebrate that something nice happened.

至于如何奖励，同样取决于父母拥有的资源。

As for how, well, again, that depends on what resources the parents have.

我怀疑低收入家庭可能负担不起太多，但他们完全可以送点小礼物，以感谢孩子做得好。

I doubt that a low income family could afford much, but they could definitely get something small to say thank you for doing something well.

例如，父母具体该如何奖励孩子呢？

For example, like how exactly can parents reward their children?

可以是玩具或者糖果之类的。

It could be something like a toy or a sweet even.

或者如果条件允许，也可以给钱。

Or if they have it, then it could be money.

经济奖励总是很不错的。

Financial reward is always quite nice.

父母应该奖励孩子哪些行为呢？

And what should parents reward their children for?

至少，满足他们的期望并做正确的事，这是很重要的。

Well, at least for meeting their expectations and doing the right thing, that's quite important.

我认为，任何父母希望再次发生的事情都应当得到奖励，至少有资格获得奖励。

Anything the parents want to see happen again should be rewarded, I think, or at least qualifies for our reward.

并不是每个人都会因为做好事而得到奖励。

Not everybody is rewarded for doing good things.

父母什么时候会为孩子感到骄傲？

When would parents feel proud of their children?

在一种文化中，孩子做的某些事情可能被视为了不起，而在其他文化中，人们可能觉得这些行为令人反感或讨厌。

Some things that kids do in one culture could be seen as amazing while others might find it, well, downright offensive or obnoxious.

我想是这样。

I suppose.

总的来说，当孩子努力付出并取得了一些他们通常做不到、或不是大多数孩子能预期到的成就时，比如赢得比赛或提出一个非常有洞察力的问题，父母就会感到骄傲。

Broadly speaking, it could be when they work hard and achieve something they wouldn't normally have done or that might not be expected for the majority of kids, like winning a competition or asking a really insightful question.

孩子通常会做些什么来让父母感到骄傲？

What do children usually do to make their parents proud?

除了我刚才说的，还有很多其他方面。

Apart from what I said, all kinds of things.

比如帮忙做家务，这通常是让人非常高兴的事；或者有礼貌、做个模范公民，这样别人会称赞父母教养孩子有方。

Helping out with the housework, for example, that's usually something people are very happy with or being polite or a model citizen, so that other people compliment the parents on their work raising such a great child.

父母还可以做些什么来激励孩子取得更好的成绩呢？

And what else can parents do to motivate their children to achieve better results?

除了我刚才说的，我认为这些主要是最重要的。

Apart from what I said, I think those are the main ones.

我的意思是，通常是一些能激励他们继续努力的事情。

I mean, usually, it's something that's going to motivate them to do things further.

总的来说，能激励成年人的东西，也应该能激励孩子。

So the same things that will motivate adults should motivate kids, broadly speaking.

也许奖励的力度可以和他们付出的努力成正比。

Maybe there'll be like it it could be proportional to the amount of work that they put in.

比如说，如果是一件特别大的事，比如赢得比赛，或者在某项考试中名列第一，那就可以奖励一台笔记本电脑，因为这是巨大的成就。

So let's say it's like a really big thing, like winning a competition or coming first out of all of the students taking a particular exam, then it could be a laptop because that's a huge achievement.

所以巨大的奖励应该与之相称。

So a huge reward is commensurate with that.