Office English: Socialising

你好。

Hello.

我是乔治，BBC英语学习频道的英语老师和主持人。

I'm Georgie, an English teacher and presenter at BBC Learning English.

我想给大家介绍一套我新做的关于口语的系列节目。

I want to tell you about a new series I've made all about speaking.

克服开口说话的焦虑，能帮你战胜说英语时的恐惧心理。

Beating speaking anxiety helps you fight your fears of speaking English.

每个视频都针对不同的恐惧，比如害怕犯错、害怕不理解他人，以及害怕公开演讲。

Each video tackles a different fear, like the fear of making mistakes, the fear of not understanding people, and the fear of public speaking.

这里有实用的建议，还能看到真实学员参与口语活动的实际场景。

Find practical tips and see speaking activities in action with real learners.

想克服开口说英语的焦虑吗？欢迎访问我们的网站 bbclearningenglish.com。

Find beating speaking anxiety on our website bbclearningenglish.com.

你在公司有朋友吗？

Do you have friends at work?

人们说不要把工作和私交混在一起。

People say don't mix business with pleasure.

对。

Yeah.

我确实认为在工作中有好朋友是可能的。

I definitely think it's possible to have good friends at work.

我不认为因为是同事就不能和他们成为朋友。

I don't think just because they're your colleague means that you shouldn't become friends with them.

我想如果和某人走得太近或者闹翻了，还得一起工作，事情可能会变得复杂。

I guess it can become complicated if you get too close to someone or fall out with them and then have to work with them.

今天在《办公室英语》中，我们来聊聊工作中的社交。

Today on Office English, we're talking about socialising at work.

大家好，欢迎收听《办公室英语》，你的职场英语播客指南。

Hello and welcome to Office English, your podcast guide to the world of work.

我是皮帕。

I'm Pippa.

我是菲尔。

And I'm Phil.

访问我们的网站，可以找到本集的文本和字幕，跟着一起读。

Visit our website to find the transcript and subtitles for this episode and read along.

网址是 bbclearningenglish.com。

That's bbclearningenglish.com.

菲尔，我们刚听了学习英语同事们的分享，聊聊在职场交朋友的话题。

So Phil, we just heard from our Learning English colleagues about having friends at work.

想在职场交朋友，有哪些方面需要留意？

What do we need to consider when we want to make friends at work?

这很大程度上取决于你们公司或办公室的氛围。

Lots of this is down to the culture in your company or in your office.

同时也跟你的个人感受有关。

It might also be about how you feel.

你是否觉得跟同事分享很多事情都很自在呢？

Do you feel comfortable sharing lots of things with your work colleagues?

还是说你觉得工作和私人生活最好还是分开一点？

Or do you think your work and your personal life are things that are best kept separate?

对，和同事成为朋友确实很有帮助，因为如果大家相处融洽，合作起来通常也会更顺畅。

Yeah, it can be really helpful to be friends with people at work, because if you get on well with people, you're probably more likely to work well with them.

但当然啦，也可能出现意见不合或者和朋友闹翻的情况，那样事情就会变得更棘手。

But of course, there could be a disagreement, there could be a falling out between you and a friend, and that would make things more difficult.

所以你可能得想想，随着你们逐渐熟络，情况可能会发生怎样的变化。

So you might want to think about how things might change over time as you become friends with someone.

今天我们要聊聊在职场交朋友时该用什么话术，同时还能保持专业形象。

Today, we're going to talk about some language for making friends at work and keeping things professional.

那 Phil，咱们先从交朋友说起吧。

So Phil, let's start with making friends.

假设你在一家新公司工作了几个月，觉得有些同事挺合得来，想多了解他们，进而成为朋友。

So imagine you've been working at a new job for a couple of months and you like some of your colleagues and you'd like to get to know them better and become friends.

这种情况下，有没有什么合适的表达方式呢？

Is there any language that can help with this?

我觉得，主动示好是个好办法。

I mean, a good thing is to make friendly offers.

比如可以说，要不要一起去吃个午饭？

So like, would you like to grab lunch together?

意思就是问对方，要不要一起出去吃个午饭。

It just means, would you like to come and have lunch together?

对，这样挺好的。

And yeah, it's nice.

这样就能在办公室之外创造一个空间，聊聊可能和办公室里不一样的话题。

It creates a space outside the office and you can talk about things, maybe that are different to what you talk about in the office.

是的。

Yeah.

另一个邀请可以说，能一起喝杯咖啡就太好了。

Another offer could be to say, it would be great to meet for a coffee.

不一定非得是咖啡，类似这样的就行。

Doesn't have to be a coffee, but something like that.

你可以在工作场所附近或者周围进行这样的活动。

And you can do that kind of near your workplace or around work.

人们通常发现，这是在与直接工作关系之外建立联系最简单的方式。

People often find that's the easiest way to start a relationship outside of your direct work with someone.

对，有时候你甚至可以提议，下班后要不要一起去做点什么？

Yeah, and sometimes you might even ask, well, shall we do something after work?

也许只是想找个地方吃点东西，或者在工作结束后跟某人聊聊天。

And maybe just want to find somewhere to get something to eat or have a chat with someone once you've finished working.

对。

Yeah.

这些问题真的很有帮助，因为通过问一些工作之外的小社交问题，比如一起吃午饭，你就能判断出对方是更想在工作中多社交，还是希望把工作和朋友分开。

And these questions are really helpful because asking a question about a kind of small social thing outside of work, such as lunch, you'll then get an idea of whether that person is interested in kind of socialising more at work or whether they like to keep work and friends separate.

好，咱们换个场景想想。

Okay, let's think about another scenario.

你在公司有很多朋友，但你刚升职了，现在你得做一些会影响你朋友们的决定。

You have lots of friends at work, but you've just been promoted, And now you'll have to make decisions which affect your friends.

你要确保自己在工作中保持专业。

You want to make sure you stay professional at work.

这种情况下，说什么话比较合适呢？

What language would be useful here?

其实，从一开始就跟朋友们聊聊这件事会很有帮助。

Well, it might be useful to talk to your friends kind of from the start about this.

你可以这么说：我得确保自己不能偏袒任何人。

So you could say something like, I need to make sure I don't show any favouritism.

偏袒就是因为你跟某人是朋友，就可能会对他们比对其他人更好，或者给他们一些别人没有的机会。

And favouritism is this idea that because you're friends with somebody, you might treat them better than other people, or give them opportunities that other people don't have.

作为老板，你肯定不想被人指责搞偏袒。

As a boss, that's not something you want to be accused of.

你也可以跟所有人聊聊，说明情况变得有点复杂，因为大家的关系已经变了。

You also might want to talk to everyone and just, you know, say that it's kind of complicated, that relationships have changed.

你可以说，现在的情况有些不同了。

You say something like, this is a new dynamic.

也就是说，大家相处的方式变了。

That means kind of it's a new way that people relate to each other.

你可以说，请多包涵，我还在适应这个变化，意思就是让我有点时间慢慢调整。

You might say something like, bear with me while I get used to the change, which is 'have patience with me while I work this out'.

我觉得这样挺好的，因为这说明你也是个普通人。

And I think that's useful because it's showing that you're human.

你只是个普通人在适应新情况而已。

You're just a normal person and you're adapting to a new situation.

我们还可以聊聊设定界限的问题。

Another thing we can do is talk about boundaries.

所谓界限，其实就是把两件事区分开来。

And boundaries are kind of like a separation between one thing and another.

比如你可以说，咱们尽量把工作事和生活事分清楚。

So you could say, let's try to keep a clear boundary between work stuff and life outside work.

这点对你们那些在职场认识的朋友挺有用的。

That might be useful when you're talking to friends that you have at work.

好的，菲尔，我们再聊一个场景。

Okay, Phil, let's talk about one more scenario.

假设你在公司有个朋友，你们因为工作以外的事情吵了一架。

So imagine that you have a friend at work, and you have an argument with them about something not related to work.

但之后你还是要去上班，还得跟他们一起共事。

But then you have to come into work and you have to work with them.

这种情况下，你怎么确保自己保持专业态度呢？

How do you make sure that you stay professional?

哦，这个问题确实挺难的。因为很明显，你们俩可能都对某些事情感到生气或者烦躁，而且这些个人情绪会非常强烈。

Oh, this is a really difficult one because obviously, know, you might be both of you might be quite angry or annoyed about certain things, And, you know, you will feel these personal feelings quite strongly.

但要想保持专业，你真正应该做的是去找那个跟你吵过架的人谈谈，说："听我说。"

But to be professional, really, what you should do is talk to that person that you've had an argument with and say, look.

我知道我们之间有分歧，但能不能先把情绪放一放？

I know we've had a disagreement, but can we park our feelings?

或者说，能不能把情绪搁置一边？

Or can we put our feelings aside?

也就是说，别让这些情绪影响到我们每天的工作。

And that means let's not let these feelings that we have affect us doing our job every day.

或者你可以试着跟他们沟通，缓和一下关系。

Or you could just kind of speak to them in terms of trying to patch things up.

意思就是修复这段关系，或者至少让情况稍微好转一点。

That means kind of fix the relationship or at least make it slightly better.

所以你可以问问，我们要怎么解决这个问题，才能在工作中保持礼貌和体面？

So you could ask, how can we resolve this so that we can be civil at work?

保持礼貌并不等于要成为朋友。

And being civil is not like being friends.

这更多是关于礼貌和专业，能够彼此沟通、合作，而不发生争执或情绪化。

It's more about being polite and professional, being able to talk to each other and work with each other without getting into an argument or being upset.

另外一点是你需要考虑的，当然这取决于你所在公司的文化、你和上司的关系等等，但你可能需要告诉他们。

And one of the things that you should think about, and obviously this will depend on the culture in your workplace, the relationship you have with your manager and and things like that, but you might want to tell them.

你可以让上司知道这件事，这样他们就能采取措施帮你把个人分歧留在办公室之外，不让它影响你的工作。

You might want to let your manager know so they can do things to help you keep these per this personal disagreement out side of the office and and not let it stop you doing your work.

本期职场英语就到这里。

That's it for this episode of Office English.

你在工作中有很多朋友吗？

Do you have lots of friends at work?

还是说你更倾向于保持专业的距离？

Or do you prefer to keep things professional?

欢迎告诉我们你的想法。

Let us know.

我们的电子邮箱是 learning english bbc dot co dot uk。

Our email address is learning english bbc dot co dot uk.

我们非常期待收到你们的来信。

We'd love to hear from you.

下周我们将继续回来，聊聊如何描述你的工作。

And we'll be back next week to talk about describing your job.

在此期间，请访问 bbclearningenglish.com 获取更多提升商务英语的课程节目。

In the meantime, find more programmes to improve your business English at bbclearningenglish.com.

再见啦。

Bye for now.

再见。

Bye.