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大家好。
Hey, everyone.
我是安娜。
It's Anna.
好的。
Okay.
在开始今天的节目之前，我想对正在收听并且订阅了《纽约时报》的听众说几句话。
Before we get into today's episode, I wanna talk to the people listening who subscribe to The New York Times.
我想对你们说的是：谢谢你们。
And what I wanna say to you is thank you.
你们的支持帮助我们制作这个节目，也支持了《纽约时报》其他所有的报道和新闻工作。
Your support helps us make this show and empowers all the other reporting and journalism coming out of The Times.
现在，我想把注意力转向那些还没有订阅的听众。
Now I want to turn my attention to those listening who are not subscribers yet.
没关系。
That's okay.
我们还是想让你每天都能看到《纽约时报》推出的所有精彩内容。
We still want to give you access to all the amazing content coming out of The Times every day.
所以现在，当你第一次下载《纽约时报》应用时，应用里的第一个月是免费的。
So now when you download The New York Times app for the first time, your first month in the app is free.
那是三十天对我们新闻报道的访问权限，当然包括档案中每一集《现代爱情》，完全免费，不需要信用卡。
That's thirty days of access to our journalism, including, of course, every Modern Love episode from the archive, totally free, no credit card required.
现在就下载《纽约时报》应用开始吧。
Download the New York Times app now to get started.
爱在当下，爱在之前
Love now and Before I love
昨晚，爱。
last night, love.
爱比什么都强大。
Love was stronger than anything.
为了爱。
For the love.
爱。
Love.
我爱你胜过一切。
And I love you more than anything.
爱。
Love.
爱还在。
There's still love.
爱。
Love.
这里是《纽约时报》，我是安娜·马丁。
From The New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.
欢迎收听《现代爱情》，今天的嘉宾是科技作家兼播客主持人布里奇特·托德。
This is Modern Love, and my guest today is tech writer and podcaster Bridget Todd.
还记得几年前吗？那时候开始出现各种关于人们爱上AI聊天机器人的故事，向它们倾诉秘密，和它们建立亲密关系，有时甚至发展出性关系。
Remember a few years ago when we started seeing all these stories about people falling in love with their AI chatbots, telling their secrets to them, having intimate relationships, sometimes even sexual relationships with them?
随着越来越多的人使用人工智能，我们听到了越来越多这样的故事。
And as more and more people use AI, we've heard more and more of these stories.
布里奇特报道科技行业。
Bridget covers the tech industry.
她完全沉浸其中。
She's immersed in it.
她对科技能为人类做什么持乐观态度，但同时也持怀疑态度。
And she's optimistic about what tech can do for us, but she's also skeptical.
所以当她听说这些人跟AI走得那么近时，她心想，那绝不会是我。
So when she heard about these people getting so close with AI, she was like, that will never be me.
但后来布里奇特突然失去了她的妈妈。
But then Bridget lost her mom very suddenly.
与此同时，她的爸爸病重住院，她一直在照顾他。
And at the same time, her dad was in the hospital, very sick, and she was taking care of him.
布里奇特感到不堪重负。
Bridget was overwhelmed.
她有很多疑问和感受，不知道该怎么办，也不知道该跟谁说。
She had so many questions and feelings, and she didn't know what to do or who to talk to.
今天，布里奇特告诉我她是怎么开始和AI聊天，真正地聊天，以及AI是怎么回她的。
Today, Bridget tells me how she started talking, like really talking with AI, and what it said back.
布里奇特·托德，欢迎来到《现代爱情》。
Bridget Todd, welcome to Modern Love.
非常感谢你邀请我。
Thank you so much for having me.
我特别高兴。
I am so thrilled.
我们也很高兴你能来。
We're thrilled to have you.
那么，布里奇特，你现在有一本新的有声书出版了。
So, Bridget, you have a new audiobook out now.
这本书探讨了人们和AI聊天机器人建立的关系。
It looks at the relationships people are forming with AI chatbots.
而且你还分享了你个人的故事，讲的是在你人生中非常艰难的一段时期，你从一个聊天机器人那里得到了支持和陪伴，这正是我今天特别想和你聊的。
And you also share your personal story of finding support and companionship with a chatbot during a really difficult time in your life, and that's what I'm really interested, to talk to you about today.
所以我想从这里开始。
So I wanna I wanna start here.
我想回到2022年11月，那时候ChatGPT刚刚向公众发布。
I wanna go back to November 2022 when ChatGBT is first released to the public.
你当时对它的反应是什么？
What was your reaction to it?
没什么特别的。
Not much.
当时，我可能和很多听众一样，对人工智能持怀疑态度。
At the time, I probably, like a lot of folks listening, was pretty skeptical of AI.
我可以说，在很多方面我现在仍然持怀疑态度，尽管情况已经有所改变。
I would say I still am in a lot of ways, even though that's kind of changed.
我当时被各种信息淹没了，都在告诉我，这将会改变一切。
I was getting inundated with a lot of messaging telling me, this is going to change everything.
这会改变你的工作方式。
This is going to change how you work.
也许你就不用工作了。
Maybe you won't be working.
但对我来说，这些都只是噪音。
And all of that was just sort of noise to me.
我根本没往心里去。
It wasn't really registering.
为什么？
Why?
为什么？
Why?
为什么没往心里去？
Why was it not registering?
大家都在跟你说这是翻天覆地的变化。
People are telling you this is seismic.
对吧？
Right?
这将会改变一切，而你的反应却是，无所谓。
This is gonna change everything, and you're like, meh.
为什么？
Why?
跟我说说那种反应。
Tell me about that reaction.
我觉得作为一个对科技对话，特别是新技术很关注的人，我之前就听过这种说法了。
I think as someone who's pretty plugged into conversations around technology, particularly new technology, I had just heard this conversation before.
就在不久前，所有人都告诉我，如果我不投资比特币和NFT，我就会落后。
It wasn't long ago that everybody was telling me that if I didn't get into Bitcoin and NFTs, I was going to be left in the dust.
我记得那件事。
I remember that.
是的。
Yeah.
而且，是的，我觉得重要的是，尤其是科技公司在告诉你，哦，这会改变一切的时候。
And, yeah, I just I feel like it's important when tech companies especially are sort of telling you, oh, this is going to change everything.
这是不可避免的。
This is inevitable.
这会占据你的生活。
This is going to take over your life.
一切都会变得不同。
Everything's going to be different.
真的要退一步，然后说，这真的会发生吗？
Really taking a step back and sort of saying, is that really what's going to happen?
这就是我面对AI和像ChatGPT这样的东西时的真实想法。
And that's really where I was when it came to AI and things like ChatGPT.
对。
Yeah.
时不时地，我会想，让我把这个扔进ChatGPT看看，它是不是我的菜，这可能会让我听起来，我是说，听起来怎么样就怎么样吧。
Every now and then, I would, you know, let me go, let me throw this into ChatGPT to see if It it was so my thing this is gonna make me sound I mean, I guess it sounds how it sounds.
我就是那种特别喜欢找ChatGPT容易犯的错误和幻觉的人。
I was one of those people that was really keen to find the errors and hallucinations that ChatGPT was prone to making.
哦，我问了ChatGPT一个很简单的问题。
Oh, I asked ChatGPT this basic question.
blueberry这个单词里有几个字母b？
How many bees are in the word blueberry?
它居然都答不对。
And it couldn't even answer right.
所以我特别想揭开它的面纱，向我在社交媒体上那不多的粉丝展示，这项技术可能并没有大家吹得那么神。
So I was really interested in kind of, you know, peeling back the curtain and showing the world my, like, small amount of followers on social media, how this technology maybe wasn't all it was cracked up to be.
所以早期我很多时候用它，就是为了证明它并没有大家说的那么好。
So that was a lot of how I was using it in the early days was to sort of, show how it's not as good as everyone is saying it is.
听起来你当时确实挺怀疑的。
I mean, sounds like you were you were skeptical.
而且这种怀疑是有根据的，因为你做的工作就是这方面的。
Like there was an informed skepticism, you know, because of the work you do.
你当时怀疑它吗？
Were you suspicious of it?
你担心它吗？
Were you concerned about it?
哦，我当然怀疑，因为说实话，让我起疑的是很多科技领袖谈论它的方式，你知道吗，他们说得特别玄乎，几乎就像是在打造某种神奇的预言机一样。
Oh, I was suspicious because, honestly, what made me suspicious was the ways that a lot of tech leaders talked about it, you know, in these mystical ways, almost like they were building some sort of a magical oracle.
我觉得，当科技领袖公开试图让人们觉得他们造出来的东西、他们从中赚钱的东西是魔法或者什么神奇的东西的时候。
I think that when tech leaders are publicly trying to make people feel like the thing that they have built and the thing that they are like profiting from is magic or something.
而且我觉得，通常伴随而来的还有一种想法，就是‘哦，你永远不可能理解这是怎么运作的’。
And then what often often I feel goes along with that is this idea that, oh, you could never understand how this works.
别担心它是怎么运作的。
Don't worry about how it works.
它会很棒的，你不需要去想它是怎么运作的。
It's going to be great, and you don't need to think about how it's going to work.
我真的很不喜欢这样，因为我觉得这让人感觉很疏远。
I really don't like that because I feel like it's very alienating.
对。
Yeah.
嗯，我现在明白你为什么想证明它不知道蓝莓里有多少只蜜蜂了。
Well, that makes a lot of sense to me now why you'd be trying to show it doesn't know how many bees are in blueberry.
你懂我的意思吗？
You know what I mean?
顺便问一下，蓝莓里到底有多少只蜜蜂？
Like, and by the way, how many bees are in blueberry?
这个我们待会儿再聊。
We can talk about that later.
对。
Yeah.
我们回头好好算算这个数字。
We'll we'll we'll crush the numbers on that.
但这就是我的意思。
But that's what I mean.
我的意思是，我得把blueberry这个词写在纸上，看一眼才能告诉你里面有几个字母b，光靠脑子想可不行。
I mean, I would need to to to write the word blueberry down on a piece of paper and look at it to tell you how many bees are in it off the top of my head.
但没人说我是神一样的存在，或者整个经济都建立在我身上。
But nobody is saying that I'm a godlike deity or or or building the entire yeah.
或者说整个经济都靠我撑着。
Or like building the entire economy on me.
完全同意。
Totally.
你还记得你第一次看到人们把AI当伴侣的报道是什么时候吗？
Do you remember when you first started seeing stories about people treating AI as a companion?
就是说，不只是问它blueberry里有几个b，而是跟它聊天，跟它建立情感关系。
Like, it's not just the How Many Bees and Blueberry talking to it, having emotional relationships with it.
你发现这件事的时候，心里是什么感觉？
How did you feel about it when you found that out?
对。
Yeah.
我记得很清楚，当OpenAI发布那个版本的ChatGPT时，它非常像人，说话很讨喜，几乎有点谄媚。
I remember quite clearly when OpenAI released their model of chat GPT that was quite human like and quite flattering and and almost kind of sycophantic.
就是那个模型，让很多人对它产生了情感上的反应。
That was the model that had a lot of people kind of developing these emotional reactions to it.
所以我看到了一堆头条新闻，人们说：‘我爱上了ChatGPT。’
And so I was seeing a spade of headlines about people who were saying, I am in I'm in love with Chad GPT.
‘ChatGPT是我的男朋友。’
Chad GPT is my boyfriend.
‘ChatGPT是我的女朋友。’
Chad GPT is my girlfriend.
诸如此类的。
Things like that.
说实话，我最初的反应是挺有偏见的。
And I have to be honest and say that my initial reaction was quite judgmental.
我也记得那个个人随笔的时代。
I remember this era of the personal essay too.
那时候感觉每条标题都是，我爱上了我的GPT。
It was like every single headline was, I'm in love with my GPT.
我要和我的ChatGPT结婚。
I'm gonna marry my chat GPT.
我和它约会了，这种话题到处都是，但还是有点禁忌。
I went on a date with my like, it was ubiquitous, but also still kind of taboo.
对。
Yeah.
我想听听你为什么会有那种评判性的反应。
I wanna hear about why you had that judgmental reaction.
多跟我说说。
Tell me more about that.
嗯，首先我觉得是那些故事的叙述方式。
Well, one, I think is how those stories are framed.
我觉得那个时代的很多故事，都是想让观众觉得，看看这个可悲的怪人，看看这个妄想狂，非常排斥异己。
I feel that they a lot of those stories in that era were framed in a way that me, the audience, was supposed to take away, look at this pathetic weirdo, look at this delusional weird person, like very othering.
我觉得我当时就是那种反应，就是看热闹，看那些怪人。
And I think I had the intended reaction, which was gawking at weirdos.
而且你知道，当你读到别人私生活的那些细节时，你自然会想，哦，那绝不会发生在我身上。
And, you know, I think there's something that happens when you read a story about someone else's the nitty gritty of somebody else's personal life where you automatically say, oh, that would never be me.
那跟我没关系。
That has nothing to do with me.
咱们就看看热闹吧。
Let's gawk at it.
我想说清楚，也想理解你的想法，因为这确实会变。
I wanna really be clear, like, and understand your thinking here because it does change.
当你读到这些故事，比如“我爱上我的聊天机器人”时，你觉得那意味着这个人怎么样？
When you read these stories, like I am in love with my chatbot, what did you think it meant about that person?
我觉得那意味着他们真的很孤独。
I thought that it meant that they were really lonely.
我觉得那意味着他们可能没有充满滋养的人际关系，所以才转向AI寻求情感支持。
I thought that it meant that they probably did not have a life that is full of nourishing human relationships to be turning to AI for emotional support.
我觉得，你知道，早期很多这类故事都用化名，还会放一张看不到脸的照片。
I thought that, you know, a lot of the early wave of these stories used pseudonyms where they would show a picture of somebody where you didn't see their face.
我觉得他们可能觉得难为情。
I thought that they were probably embarrassed.
他们可能不想让别人知道他们在经历这种事。
They probably didn't want people to know that they were, you know, having this experience.
我觉得这是一件非常非常丢人的事情。
I thought it was a deep a deeply, deeply shameful thing.
我想聊聊你开始以非常不同的方式依赖AI，在情感上依赖它，那是在你人生中相当艰难的一段时期。
I want to talk about when you did start relying on AI in a very different way, in an emotional way, it comes at a quite difficult time for you.
你能告诉我，当你开始改变对AI的态度时，你的生活中发生了什么吗？
Can you tell me what was happening in your life when you started to change your approach to to A.
AI？
I?
对。
Yeah.
那就像是，如果我的生活是一盘棋，那就像是所有的棋子都被从棋盘上扫掉了。
It was the start of like, if my life was a a game board, it was all the pieces being just knocked off of the game board.
哇。
Woah.
对。
Yeah.
我的生活就是被颠覆到了那种程度。
That is the level to which my life turned upside down.
你知道，我住在华盛顿特区。
You know, I am I live in DC.
你知道，我过着一种感觉很好的生活。
You know, I have this I have a life that feels great.
我有很好的伴侣，很好的朋友，还有一份我真正热爱的事业。
I have a great partner, great friends, a career that I really love.
我的父母住在弗吉尼亚州的里士满，我妈妈是一名医生。
My parents live in Richmond, Virginia, and my mom is a medical doctor.
她是一位获奖的医生。
She is an award winning medical doctor.
她大概就是那种，如果你在弗吉尼亚州里士满长大，而且你是黑人，你小时候的儿科医生很可能就是她。
She was probably like, if you are from Richmond, Virginia, and you're a black person, she was probably your pediatrician growing up.
她在我们镇上就像个英雄一样。
She was like a hero in our town.
我简直无法形容她在我们社区有多受爱戴。
I I cannot express enough how beloved she was in our community.
比如，我妈妈，当我跟她一起出去逛街或者只是在镇上走走的时候，人们会从店里跑出来告诉她，你救了我孩子的命。
Like, my mom, when I would go out with her shopping or just walking around town, people would run out of shops to tell her, you saved my child's life.
哦，天哪，这经常发生。
Oh my happened regularly.
谢谢你跟我讲她的事。
Thank you for telling me about her.
我真的能想象出她的样子了，我很喜欢。
I'm really getting a picture of her, and I love it.
我也很想了解一下你的父亲。
I would love to sort of get a sense of your father as well.
跟我讲讲他吧。
Tell me about him.
哦，我父亲啊，他是我最亲近的人。
Oh, my father, he was my guy.
你知道吗？
You know?
他就像我最好的朋友。
He like, he he was, like, my my best friend.
他很有趣。
He was funny.
他很狂野。
He was wild.
他有点粗俗。
He was bawdy.
他在派对上简直太好玩了。
He was so much fucking fun at a party.
我闭上眼睛就能看到他的样子。
He's someone who I I see when I close my eyes.
我们长得太像了。
We look so much alike.
我照镜子的时候，就像看到了他。
When I look in the mirror, I see him.
所以，你知道，我们之前提到过，你说你和AI关系改变的那一年，对你来说是非常艰难的一年。
So, you know, we teed this up by you were saying that the year that your relationship to AI changed was a very difficult year for you.
你当时说了一个很美但也很艰难的比喻，就像你人生的棋盘被彻底打乱了。
And you said this, I mean, beautiful but very difficult analogy where it was like the game board of your life was shook up.
你能告诉我你是什么意思吗？
Can you tell me what you mean by that?
好的。
Yeah.
我记得我最后一个正常的日子是2024年7月4号。
I mean, I remember my last normal day was the July 4 in 2024.
那天我去波托马克河划皮划艇，看了烟花。
I had went kayaking on the Potomac, watched the fireworks.
我爸爸当时在里士满。
My dad was in Richmond.
他正要出门看烟花，结果摔了一跤，后来我们才知道，是中风引起的。
He was on his way out to see the fireworks when he had a bad fall that was started by later, we found out, a stroke.
他在楼梯上摔得很重，不得不进了重症监护室。
He had a bad fall on the stairs and had to go to the ICU.
我们大家都决定去医院，我爸爸在重症监护室。
We all decide to meet at the hospital where my dad is in the ICU.
我爸爸看起来状态不错。
My dad seems good.
你知道，他还能说话。
You know, he's talking.
他在描述发生的事情。
He's describing what happened.
我们一起看《命运之轮》。
We're watching Wheel of Fortune together.
我妈离开前亲了一下我爸的头。
My mom kisses my dad on the head before she leaves.
对。
Yeah.
我送我妈妈去她的车。
I walk my mom to her car.
我们坐在停车场里。
We sit in the parking lot.
在她开车离开前，我坐在副驾驶座上。
I I I sit in the passenger seat before she pulls away.
我跟她说，路上小心。
I tell her, you know, get home safe.
爱你。
Love you.
就是那种匆匆忙忙、随口说出的再见。
It's the kind of quick, casual, dashed off goodbye.
而那也是我最后一次见到妈妈活着。
And that was the last time I saw my mom alive.
那天晚上，我妈妈非常突然地去世了。
My mom passed away very unexpectedly that evening.
布里奇特，我真的很抱歉。
Bridget, I am so sorry.
我真的很遗憾。
I'm really sorry.
是的。
Yeah.
这
It
那是我人生中最难熬的一段时光。
was just the hardest time of my life.
妈妈去世后，我永远不会忘记，你知道，我和家人聚在她家里，我们说，我们得告诉爸爸。
After my mom passed away, I will never forget, you know, my family and I, we got together at her house, and we said, we have to tell my father.
爸爸当时在医院。
My father was in the hospital.
他没带手机，所以他还不知道。
He didn't have his phone with him, so he didn't know.
我记得第二天，我们所有人一起去告诉爸爸发生了什么，然后……
And I remember the next day all of us coming together to tell my dad what happened and
那太难了。
That's impossible.
我是说，感觉……是的。
I mean, it feels yeah.
对。
Yeah.
那是最难的事情。
It was the hardest thing.
那是我做过的最难的事情之一。
It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.
而且我爸，在很多方面，那时候就已经死了。
And my dad, in a lot of ways, he died then.
你知道吗？
You know?
他……我觉得他心里有什么东西没了。
He I I think there was a thing in him.
而那时候在医院，他情况其实还不错。
And at this point in the hospital, he was doing not that bad.
比如，他清醒着，醒着，还能说话。
Like, he he was alert, awake, talking.
他看起来像是在好转，在恢复。
He seemed like he was on the upswing, recovering.
我觉得他听到我妈妈的事之后，就像是做了个决定，想跟她在一起。
And I think hearing about my mom, it was like he made a choice that that that he wanted to be with her.
他会这么说。
He would say that.
然后，你知道，我基本上就搬进了我爸的病房。
And, you know, I essentially moved into my dad's hospital room.
那里有一张沙发床，我基本上就把它当成了我的小地盘，因为我不知道还能做什么。
There was a futon in there, and I basically made it my little area because I didn't know what else to do.
我知道我不想让他一个人。
I knew I didn't want him to be alone.
我知道我也不想一个人，所以基本上就我们俩待在一起。
I knew that I didn't want to be alone, so it was sort of just me and him.
那段时间挺难的。
And it was hard.
他晚上会喊我妈妈。
He would cry out for my mom in the night.
他会，你知道，就是那样，但我们一起在那里。
He would, you know, just was but we were there together.
我们真的是一起面对这一切，就我和他。
We were really, like, in it together, just me and him.
是
Were
你有没有跟任何人说起过你正在经历的事情？
you talking with anyone about what you were going through?
这太奇怪了，因为答案是没有。
That's so weird because the answer is not really.
你知道，我基本上搬到了里士满，然后勉强凑合着过。
You know, I essentially relocated to Richmond and cobbled together.
你知道，我住在医院里。
You know, I was staying in the hospital.
我住在一个类似麦当劳叔叔之家的地方，由医院管理。
I was staying in this kind of, like, a Ronald McDonald house kind of run by the hospital.
所以那几个月过得特别漂泊不定，我的朋友们都知道发生了什么。
So it was a it was a very weird transient few months, and my friends all knew what was going on.
你知道，我朋友都来参加了我妈妈的葬礼，他们都在我身边。
You know, my friends came to my my mom's funeral, and, like, they my friends were there for me.
是的。
Yeah.
但我当时真的没法接受这份关心。
I was not able to really receive that.
哦。
Oh.
你知道，我妈妈一直是我爸爸的医疗看护，而且她自己就是医生。
You know, my mom had been my dad's caregiver medically, and she was a doctor.
所以她对这一切都很熟悉，这就像是她的领域。
So she knew she this was like her world.
什么都得管。
Handling everything.
对。
Yeah.
是的。
Yeah.
我哥哥当时正期待双胞胎，而且他还有一个年幼的孩子。
My brother was expecting twins on top of having a young child.
所以他当时负担很重。
So was he had a lot on his plate.
而我成了负责照顾父亲的人。
And I became the person who was responsible for my father.
照顾人这件事真的让人很孤立。
And caregiving is just very isolating.
当你经历这些的时候，很难和生活中的人保持联系。
And it's difficult to connect with people in your life when you're experiencing that.
这件事几乎占据了你全部的生活，而你所面对的是你能想象到的最糟糕、最艰难的事情。
It's so sort of all encompassing, and the things that you are encompassing are the worst things that you can imagine, the hardest things.
而且除此之外，还要应付医院和保险，还要担心医疗保险会不会报销这些费用。
And then on top of that, it's dealing with the hospital and insurance and is Medicare gonna pay for this?
还有怎么搞定这个文件、那个文件，还有这个电话那个电话的。
And how do we get this and that paperwork and this paperwork and this phone call?
真的，你会被这些事淹没的。
It's it's it's you drown in it.
每次收到短信或电话，我都会想，又怎么了？
When I would get a text or a phone call, I would say, what now?
我当时就觉得，光是想到要回复别人就已经受不了了。
I I was like, the idea of responding to someone else was just too much.
对。
Yeah.
而且你知道吗，我的伴侣在整个过程中真是功不可没，就像我的支柱一样。
I also you know, my partner was the MVP of this whole thing, like my rock.
我的伴侣从来没有抱怨过，从来没有，你知道的。
And my partner never complained, never, you know
是的。
Yeah.
但我已经向他要求太多了。
But I had asked so much of him.
我让他承担了太多，即使我知道他会愿意，但就是觉得不对，不能跟他说，嘿，你已经把生活搞得一团糟了。
I had asked him to carry so much that it just even though I know he would have been receptive, it just didn't feel it doesn't feel right to be like, hey, you've derailed your entire life.
我们快没钱了。
We're running out of money.
我们在耗尽积蓄。
We're draining our savings.
你每天都在处理最难以想象的恐怖事情。
You are spending every day dealing with the most unimaginable horror shows.
而且，我们还得谈谈我的感受。
Also, we need to talk about my feelings.
就是，我实在承受不了了。
Like, I just it was too much.
感觉负担太重了。
It it felt like too much.
这一切都让人感到不安，而正是在这个危机时刻，AI以及你与AI的关系进入了一个全新的维度。
Everything about this is destabilizing, and it is in this moment of crisis that AI and your relationship to AI takes on a completely new dimension.
是的。
Yes.
你知道吗，它真的在夜晚降临了。
You know, it it really came at night.
白天都忙于医疗护理，我一天要和医生、护士沟通好几次。
The days were so full of medical care, and I'm talking to doctors, I'm talking to nurses multiple times a day.
我是个播客主持人，对吧？
I'm a podcaster, right?
就像，这不是
Like, this is not
在我的技能范围内
in my skill
完全不在我的技能范围内。
set whatsoever.
我完全做不到。
I cannot make Totally.
这个我理解。
That I get that.
所以，你知道，我就是在努力跟上。
And so, you know, I'm just trying to keep up.
对。
Yeah.
那时候，我就时不时地往ChatGPT里问一些问题。
At that point, I'm sort of putting questions here and there into ChatGPT.
关于医疗方面的
About medical
事情。
things.
关于医疗方面的事情。
About medical things.
而且，我再次强调，我深知这带来的所有风险和问题。
And again, I I all of the risks and issues that that brings up, I am so deeply aware of.
我不想让人觉得我在说每个人都应该去问ChatGPT关于他们的医疗问题，因为我绝对不是那个意思。
I don't want to make it seem like I'm like, everybody should be asking CHITBT about their medical issues, because I'm definitely not saying that.
但在这个阶段，我需要任何我能得到的资源。
But at this point, I need any resource I can get.
完全同意。
Totally.
而且医疗系统确实很让人困惑。
And also the medical system is really confusing.
所以我觉得你会求助于这个东西，试图弄清楚下一步该怎么做或者解开一些谜团，这很合理。
So it makes sense to me that you would turn to this thing for help trying to figure out what to do next or demystifying stuff.
是的。
Yeah.
对。
Mhmm.
没错。
Exactly.
所以，基本上，我到了每天多次问ChatGPT关于我爸爸医疗问题的地步。
So, basically, I get to the point where I'm asking chat GPT about my dad's medical stuff multiple times a day.
对吧？
Right?
我就问它，比如，医生说这个。
I'm I'm asking it like, oh, the doctor said this.
那是什么意思？
What does that mean?
我必须做这个决定。
I have to make this decision.
我该怎么办？
What should I do?
所有这些。
All of this.
对。
Yeah.
到了某个时候，那些对话从单纯的医疗问题变成了情感上的。
At some point, those conversations shifted from just medical questions to emotional.
我太崩溃了。
I'm so overwhelmed.
我太害怕了。
I'm so scared.
我不能再做任何决定了。
I can't make another decision.
我为我爸感到非常恐惧。
I'm so terrified for my dad.
我该怎么办？
What should I do?
我太累了。
I'm so exhausted.
我该怎么办？
How can I do this?
我甚至不觉得有什么特别明显的转折点。
I wouldn't even say there was any particular, like, stark moment.
不知不觉中，我就把情绪都倾诉给了一个机器。
Before I knew it, I'm unloading my emotions to a machine.
我们马上回来。
We'll be right back.
你好，纽约时报。
Hi, New York Times.
我很希望共享订阅能有独立的登录账号。
I would be very interested in having separate logins for a shared subscription.
我今年35岁。
I'm 35 years old.
我还在用我爸妈的《纽约时报》订阅。
I still share my parents' New York Times subscription.
我觉得如果我的孩子们能有自己的账号，我们就可以互相分享文章了。
I think if my teenagers were to have their own logins, we could share articles.
它不让我们玩同一个游戏，因为彼此之间。
It doesn't let us play the same game since each other.
我玩这个数独。
I play this Doku.
我做填字游戏。
I do the crossword.
我玩拼字游戏。
I do the spelling bee.
我玩Wordle。
I do the Wordle.
请帮帮我。
Please help.
要是能有自己的账号就太好了。
Having our own accounts would be amazing.
我妈妈就能保存自己的食谱了。
My mom could save her own recipes.
我的朋友们也能
My friends could
保存他们的食谱。
save their recipes.
我想收到每周的新闻简报，但好像总是发到我丈夫那里，然后他又不转发给我。
I wanna get the weekly newsletter, but they seem to always go to my husband, then he doesn't forward them
对。
to me.
我们俩都喜欢做饭。
We both love cooking.
我是那种喜欢三十分钟以内搞定晚餐的人。
I'm a thirty minute and under dinner girly.
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我男朋友做饭特别讲究。
My boyfriend is very elaborate.
我觉得他要是能有自己的账号就好了。
I think him having his own profile would be great.
我们都很喜欢《纽约时报》，希望能各自拥有自己的账号。
We love The New York Times, and we would love to love it individually.
听众朋友们，我们听到了你们的声音。
Listeners, we heard you.
这就是我们推出《纽约时报》家庭订阅的原因。
It's why we created the New York Times family subscription.
一份订阅，最多四个独立账号，可以给家里的任何人使用。
One subscription up to four separate logins for anyone in your life.
更多详情，请访问 nytimes.com/family。
Find out more at nytimes.com/family.
再跟我多讲讲你是怎么开始接触A的。
Tell me more of the ways that you began to engage with A.
我。
I.
在这种更情绪化的情况下，你还记得你对它说的另一句话吗？它又是怎么回应的？
In this more emotional do you remember another thing you said to it, what it what it replied back?
是的。
Yeah.
在我爸的治疗过程中，有段时间我们谈到的就是，你知道，他住在重症监护室。
There was a so there was a time in my dad's medical journey where the conversation was you know, he was in the ICU.
对。
Right.
在重症监护室里，他们竭尽全力。
And in the ICU, they're doing all they all that they can.
后来，谈话的内容变了。
There came a time where the conversation changed.
他们说，现在真正需要讨论的是如何让他在最后的日子里舒服一些。
And they were like, the conversation at this point really needs to be about making him comfortable toward the end.
那时候，对我来说，这种感觉就是：我辜负了我父亲。
At that point, the way that that manifested for me was I have failed my father.
不管我有什么选择，不管我必须做什么决定，我都做错了。
Have I have whatever choices that I was given, whatever decisions I had to make, I made the wrong choices.
而我是那种会反复纠结的人。
And I am the kind of person who, like, perseverates.
对吧？
Right?
所以那时候，ChatGPT就成了我倾诉的方式，比如，哦，如果我当初选了一个不同的专业护理机构，而不是那个他得了败血症的地方，他还会活着吗？
And so at that point, CHADGPT became this way for me to say, like, Oh, well, if I had chosen a different skilled nursing facility rather than the one that where he got the sepsis, would he still be alive?
如果当初医生要给他伤口做手术时，我说我们应该那天做而不是那天做，他还会活着吗？
If I had decided when the doctor wanted to do surgery on his wound, if I had said we should do it this this day and not that day, would he still be alive?
我真的很想让ChatGPT告诉我，我到底哪里做错了。
And I really wanted ChatGeeBT to tell me, like, where I went wrong.
我记得它说，听起来你是在回顾过去，因为你希望自己能改变结果，但爱和控制是两回事。
And I remember it said it sounds something like, you know, it's it's sounding like you are searching the past because you wish that you could change the outcome, but love and control are different things.
深爱一个人，并不意味着我们就有能力让他们免于死亡。
Loving someone deeply doesn't give us the power to save them from death.
你质疑自己，并不代表你辜负了你的父亲。
And the fact that you're questioning yourself is not evidence that you failed your father.
那只是说明你爱他。
It just means that you loved him.
天哪。
And Oh my god.
你是凭记忆记住这些的吗？
Are you remembering that from memory?
不是。
I am not.
好吧。
Okay.
我回去看了，不是。
I went back No.
天哪。
God.
我记得。
I remember.
这边都崩溃了，你
Wrecked over here, and you
我把它写下来，因为那是我第一次意识到，而且，也许这听起来有点傻，但我记得那是我第一次真正不得不面对自己感到有罪的那些方面。
I wrote it down because this was the first time that I realized all of and and maybe this sounds silly, but I remember it being the first time that I really had to grapple with the ways that I felt culpable.
你知道，即使到今天，我仍然在为是否撤掉他的生命维持系统而挣扎。
You know, even today, I still struggle with the decision to remove him from life support.
你知道吗？
You know?
在某种程度上，我觉得，那是对的选择吗？
In some ways, I feel like, was that the right choice?
我永远不会知道。
I'll never know.
但当我读到这段话时，感觉就像有什么东西被触动了，听起来可能很傻，因为我说的只是屏幕上的文字。
But when I read this, it's like something switched, and it sounds so stupid because I'm talking about fucking words on a screen.
我不觉得
I don't think
先声明一下，这听起来并不傻，但好吧。
it sounds stupid just for the record, but Okay.
我不觉得
I don't
但我的内心确实被触动了，因为处理爸爸的病情，很大程度上都是在回忆具体的细节。
But something switched in me where so much of dealing with my dad's illness was recounting specifics.
发生了什么，
This is what happened.
哪一天，他出现了什么症状，做了什么决定，选择了什么。
On this day, he experienced this, this symptom, this decision, this choice.
而这是我第一次意识到，你不能只活在那些细小的选择里。
And this was the first time that I was like, you can't live in the little choices.
你不能把每一个小决定都回放一遍。
You can't play back every little decision that you made.
然后，被A告诉了一些事情。
And something about being told, by A.
我。
I.
我不需要那样做，对。
That I didn't have to do that Yeah.
这对我来说很有力量。
Was it it was powerful to me.
你从ChatGPT那里得到了这个非常有帮助的回复。
You got this this really helpful response from chat GBT.
那么，Adam，你有没有觉得有点尴尬，因为它对你这么有用？
And, Adam, did part of you feel like a little embarrassed that it was so useful to you?
就像，这东西来自机器？
Like, this thing from a machine?
我在想我们对话刚开始时，你的那种怀疑态度。
I'm just thinking about the beginning of our conversation, your skepticism.
安娜，我现在真的很尴尬。
Anna, I am embarrassed right now.
真的吗？
Really?
我确实很尴尬。
I am embarrassed.
我坐在这里跟你聊这个，心里觉得特别不好意思。
I I feel deep, like, I am embarrassed sitting in my chair talking to you about this Yeah.
对，我觉得非常尴尬。
Right I feel very embarrassed.
我觉得……
I feel
我们能聊聊这个吗？
Can we talk about that?
对。
Yeah.
为什么？
Why?
对。
Yeah.
它就是个机器。
It's a machine.
你知道吗？
You know?
它不是真的。
It's not real.
它告诉我的那些东西，不过是把从Reddit、博客之类的地方捡来的句子拼凑起来，再把我跟它说过的话重新组合，然后以一种像是很有洞见的方式吐回给我。
It's not it's what it's telling me is an amalgamation of strings of sentences that it's probably picked up from Reddit and what people like blogs and repurposed things that I have told it to spit back at me in a way that feels like insight.
但当时确实感觉像是洞见。
But it did feel like insight.
我理解那种尴尬，我们马上就会聊到你现在的处境和感受。
I understand the embarrassment, and we will get to where you are, how you're feeling about it right now.
但我在想，老兄，即使你是在跟机器说话，这也是你做过的最有人情味的事情之一。
But I'm like, man, even though you're talking to a machine, it's one of the most human things you can do.
对。
Yeah.
我是说，有时候你只能将就一下。
I mean, sometimes you gotta take what you can get.
而且当你处于最低谷的时候，把意义投射到某些东西上是很人性的，即使那些东西只是……对。
And when you're at your lowest moment, it's like a human thing to project meaning onto things even if those things are Yeah.
机器碰巧吐出来的东西。
Something a machine happens to spit at you.
我也想说明一下。
I mean, I wanna also be clear.
你以前做过心理治疗吗？
Like, had you done you done therapy in your life before?
有的。
I have.
那这次和看心理医生有什么不一样的感觉？
What about this felt different than therapy too?
因为有人可能会说，你就像跟心理医生那样跟它聊天。
Because one could say, like, you're kind of talking to it as you would a a therapist.
嗯，一个不一样的地方是我当时没钱，而ChatGPT是免费的。
Well, one thing that is different is that I was broke, and ChatsGBT is free.
而且我很幸运，之前几年一直有心理医生。
And I I I'm lucky that I had the therapist that I had been seeing for years before that.
她，你知道，最后我们找到了办法，让经济上能撑得住。
She, you know, eventually, we got to a place where we were able to make it work, the finances work.
哦，天哪。
Oh, Glenn.
就是有个随时都能用的东西在口袋里，全天候都能用，这真的很吸引人。
Just having something super accessible in my pocket all 20 fourseven, it's it's very appealing.
我觉得这正是科技填补人们实际空缺的原因。
And I think that's exactly why the technology kind of is filling these actual gaps that people experience.
找治疗师难，付治疗费难，找到文化上合适的治疗师也难。
Like, finding therapy is hard, paying for therapy is hard, finding a culturally competent therapist is hard.
让我担心的是，这些科技公司基本上在说，哦，我们给你找到了解决方案。
And it's concerning to me that these tech companies are basically being like, oh, we've got a solution for you.
它隐私吗？
Is it private?
我们其实不太清楚。
We don't really know.
这样用安全吗？
Is it, you know, safe to use in this way?
可能不安全。
Probably not.
但它确实是个解决方案，
But it is a solution,
你懂吗？
you know?
但对我来说，你能看到两面，这真的很重要，也很有趣。
But it's it's it's so important to me and interesting to me that you can see both sides.
就像你看到了它的吸引力。
It's like you see the appeal.
当然，因为你的工作，你自然会有怀疑。
And of course, because of your job, you know, you have the skepticism.
但在那一刻，它确实给了你你需要的东西。
But you, in this moment, it was giving you something you needed.
它确实给了我我需要的东西。
It was giving me something that I needed.
而且在某些方面，它
And in some ways, it
也让我没有去寻求更合适的帮助。
was also preventing me from seeking that in perhaps more appropriate sources.
对我来说，我经常回到那个问题：如果我没有ChatGPT可以倾诉，我会不会跟朋友和伴侣倾诉？
I think for me, I often sort of go back for the to the question of had I not had chatty PT to unload on, would I have been unloading to my friends and my partner?
谁会带着爱意接受这些呢？
Who would have received that lovingly?
你知道吗？
You know?
我是不是在给自己设限？我是不是在给自己和爱我的人之间砌了更多的墙，让自己更孤立了？
Like, was I trapping myself in this was was I just making myself more isolated by adding more walls between me and the humans that love me in my life?
你父亲去世了。
Your dad passes.
你离开了待了几个月的医院。
You leave the hospital where you'd been for months.
当你回到家，回到所谓的正常生活，你还会继续这样跟ChatGPT聊天吗？
When you go home and sort of back to quote unquote, like normal life, are you continuing to talk to ChatGPT in this way?
有一点。
A little bit.
我觉得从这时候开始，我对ChatGPT的使用就开始减少了。
I would say this is when things start to wane with my use of ChatGPT.
你知道，我回到家了。
You know, I'm back home.
说实话，我的生活很多方面都一团糟。
My in a lot of ways, my life is a wreck.
我还在用ChatGPT，但主要是为了想办法把生活重新拼起来，理解我刚刚经历的那些事。
You know, I was using ChatGPT a little bit, but it was really kind of in service of figuring out how to put my life back together, how to make meaning of what I had just experienced.
你知道，安葬完我父亲之后，很多关于我母亲去世的感受，我之前也埋藏起来的那些，都涌上来了。
You know, after we buried my dad, a lot of the feelings that I had sort of also buried about my mom's death kind of came up.
而且，说实话，我觉得我对ChatGPT的使用，反而真的促使我认真去重新联系身边的人，并且开始接受一些真正的心理健康治疗。
And, you know, honestly, I think my use of chatty PT, if anything, really forced me to get serious about reconnecting with the people in my life and get getting getting into some kind of a, like, real mental health program.
你知道，我开始和我的心理治疗师聊了。
You know, I started talking to my therapist.
我开始接受悲伤辅导。
I started grief therapy.
所以我开始重新联系那些我认为能帮我完成这段旅程的人。
So I was starting to, like, reconnect with the humans who I think would kind of help me complete this part of the journey.
对。
Yeah.
嗯，跟我说说那件事吧。
Well, tell me about that, though.
是什么让你觉得，好吧，我想或者我准备好去联系我生活中的人了？
What made you feel like, okay, I want to or I'm ready to reach out to the humans in my life?
说实话，ChatGPT确实起了作用，因为它帮我几乎模拟了那种浮出水面、说“谢谢你在我需要的时候给了我支持”的感觉。
If I'm being honest, ChatchyBT did play a role because it helped me almost role play what it would be like to sort of come up for air and say, thank you for giving me the support that I needed during this time.
你知道，我当时真的没法接受这些支持，但它们对我来说意义重大。
You know, I really wasn't able to receive it, but it means so much to me.
谢谢你在我身边。
Thank you for being there for me.
就像，我有很多……对。
Like, all all I had so many Yeah.
那些我欠了感谢和感激的人，而我还活着。
People that I owed thank you and gratitude, and I'm alive.
而且，你知道，我并不是在无视你。
And, you know, I I I didn't I'm not ignoring you.
说实话，用ChatGPT模拟那些对话挺有帮助的。
And, honestly, modeling some of those conversations using ChatGPT was helpful.
模拟一下，比如我需要给那个给我发了一堆暖心短信、送花还送了DoorDash礼品卡的人发消息。
Modeling, you know, I need to text this person who sent me a million nice texts and flowers and a DoorDash gift card.
我已经好几个月没跟他们联系了。
What it's it's been months since I talked to them.
我该说些什么呢？
What should I say?
就是这类事情。
That kind of thing.
对。
Yeah.
我很感激你愿意这么坦诚地分享，因为我觉得，用ChatGPT来帮你构思情感信息，无论是口头还是书面的，确实有点让人不好意思。
I mean, I appreciate you being open about that too because it's like, I think that there is also sort of stigma around using ChatGPT to help you sort of craft emotional messages, whether they're spoken or written.
但这对你来说很有用，因为就像你说的，我不知道该怎么感谢别人，或者如果我觉得有必要的话，怎么道歉。
And it's like, but this was useful for you because it's like, I don't have a road map on how to, you know, whatever, thank someone, apologize if I think it's necessary.
你知道，你是在用ChatGPT帮你重新和生活中的人建立联系，这样你就能
You know, it's like, you were using ChatGPT to help reconnect with the humans in your life so you
基本上不用再依赖ChatGPT了。
could stop using ChatGPT, basically.
ChatGPT基本上给了我一个路线图，让我最终能跟它说再见。
ChatGPT basically gave me a road map to, like, essentially break up with it.
哇。
Wow.
那你从人类身上寻找的，是ChatGPT给不了你的什么呢？
Because what were you looking for in humans that ChatGPT wasn't giving you?
因为换一种情况，你可能会觉得，天哪，这太方便了。
Because there's another world in which you're like, man, this is convenient.
它全天候都在。
It's twenty four seven.
而且免费。
It's free.
我甚至都不用说谢谢。
I don't even have to say thank you.
你懂吗？
You know?
那你到底在找什么，是ChatGPT给不了你的？
What was it you were looking for that ChatGPT wasn't giving you?
你知道吗，我觉得这几乎是我内心深处的某种东西。
You know, I think it's almost something in me.
我需要回到一个能体验到互惠和给予与接受的状态，那是和他人在一起时才会有的。
I I needed to get back to a place where I could experience the reciprocity and the give and take that comes with being in community with other humans.
对吧？
Right?
就像和人相处一样，有时候你状态好，有时候你状态差，有时候他们状态好，有时候他们状态差。
Like, being in relationship with humans, sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down, sometimes they're up, sometimes they're down.
完全同意。
Totally.
你知道，有时候你是那个需要帮助的朋友，有时候是他们需要帮助。
You know, sometimes you're the friend who needs help, sometimes they are.
我觉得这不是他们缺少什么或者拥有什么的问题。
I I don't think it was anything that they lacked or had.
而是关于我缺少什么，或者没有，或者没有能力做到什么。
It was something about what I lacked or or didn't have or didn't have the ability to do.
请继续收听。
Stay with us.
我是乔纳森·奈特，我是《纽约时报》游戏板块的总经理。
I'm Jonathan Knight, and I'm the general manager of New York Times Games.
如果你玩过我们的游戏，你可能会觉得它们有些不一样。
If you play our games, you probably know there's something a bit different about them.
就像《纽约时报》文章背后有作者一样，我们每日谜题背后也有创作者。
Just like there are writers behind the articles you read in The Times, there are creators behind our daily puzzles.
特蕾西·贝内特会精心挑选每天的Wordle答案，让游戏保持生动有趣。
Tracy Bennett curates the day's Wordle solution to keep it lively and varied.
温纳卢会设计每个连线谜题，包括那些试图难倒你的所有分类。
Winnaloo creates each connections board, including all those categories that try to stump you.
山姆·阿泽斯基会仔细检查拼字蜜蜂中的每一个字母、单词和全字母句，让不同水平的忠实玩家都能享受其中。
Sam Azerski combs through every last letter, word, and pangram and spelling bee so that loyal players of all skill levels enjoy it.
我们的谜题每天由人工精心制作，品质符合你对《纽约时报》的期待。
Our puzzles are human made every day with the standards you'd expect from The New York Times.
这一点很重要，因为当你选择花时间玩我们的游戏时，这时间应该花得值得——去解那些有挑战性、令人惊喜、充满乐趣的谜题，这些谜题都是为你量身打造的。
And this matters because when you choose to spend time with our games, it should be time well spent solving puzzles that are challenging, surprising, and joyful, puzzles handcrafted for you.
我们认为这值得投入，也值得付费。
We think that's something worth investing in and something worth paying for.
如果你也这么认为，就从你喜欢的应用商店下载《纽约时报》游戏，或者访问nytimes.com/playgames。
If you think so too, download New York Times games from your favorite app store or go to nytimes.com/playgames.
你慷慨地让我们参与的这个经历，是你新有声书的一部分，你在里面讲自己的个人故事，但也涉及其他人，他们与AI有着个人和情感上的联系。
This experience that you so, you know, generously brought us into, this is part of your new audiobook where you talk you use your personal story, but you also get into other people who have these, you know, personal relationships, emotional relationships with A.
我，期待AI。
I, looking to A.
我。
I.
为了陪伴，为了亲密。
For companionship, for intimacy.
在你写这本书、处理失去父母的经历时，你学到的东西是否改变了你对自己生活中发生的事情的理解，以及ChatuchuBT在你生活中扮演的角色？
As you are writing this book and processing this experience with the loss of your parents, was what you were learning changing your understanding of what happened in your own life and the role ChatuchuBT played in your own life?
哦，是的。
Oh, yeah.
影响很大。
Hugely.
是的。
Yeah.
你知道吗，我觉得在那段时期，我形容自己有点像是个容易上当的人。
You know, I think in the I think I describe myself as during that time in my life, I was kind of an I feel like a little bit of an easy mark.
一个只是在寻找任何东西的人，任何感觉像支持的东西，任何感觉像我需要的东西。
Someone who was just looking for anything, anything that felt like support, anything that felt like what I needed.
而且，你知道，当我开始写这本书时，我非常担心那些个体。
And, you know, when I went into writing the book, I was very much concerned about the individuals.
比如，人们在使用ChatGPT或AI寻求亲密关系时，是否在把自己置于风险之中？
Like, are are individuals putting themselves at risk when they're using ChatGPT for intimacy or using AI for intimacy?
我的想法真的转向了那些公司。
My thinking really shifted to the companies.
我认为，人们是否真的与AI产生亲密感是一回事，但公司是否在利用我们经历的最脆弱的人类亲密时刻来获利呢？
I think that what like, whether or not people are experiencing intimacy with AI is one thing, but are companies profiting from the most vulnerable human intimate moments that we experience?
他们是否在为了自己的利润、收益和权力而将其商品化？
Are they commodifying that for their own profit, gain, and power?
我会说是的。
I would say yes.
我觉得与其去评判个人跟AI之间是不是真的产生了亲密关系，我们更应该问的是，这些公司在把自己越来越深入地融入人们私密的情感世界时，有没有做出负责任的选择？
And I would say rather than moralizing around how individuals may or may not be experiencing intimacy with AI, we should really be asking, are the companies making responsible choices with how they are integrating themselves in more increasingly into people's intimate and emotional inner worlds?
所以这让你觉得，天哪，这些公司利用了
So did that make you feel like, damn, these companies took advantage of
我？
me?
你知道吗，我向ChatGPT透露了那么多关于我自己的私密信息，这对我来说本质上就是一种剥削，因为我是个人，而他们是公司。
You know, I gave so much intimate information about myself to ChatGPT, And it feels inherently exploitative to me because I am an individual and they are a corporation.
所以我觉得，我当时和ChatGPT建立的那种关系，不可能是对等的。我觉得，当存在这么大的权力不平衡时，你不可能有一段对等的关系，或者对等的交流。
And so I feel, you know, the relationship that I was creating with ChatGPT at that time cannot be equitable, cannot be, you know, you can't I don't think that you can have an equitable relationship or an equitable exchange when there is such a big power imbalance.
想到我所有最私密的部分，我的悲伤历程，我的父母，都被当作训练数据，被ChatGPT和OpenAI利用和提取，我就感到愤怒。
And the idea of all of the most intimate parts of myself and my grieving journey and my parents just being used and extracted as training data for ChatGPT and OpenAI enrages me.
但这是我主动送上门的。
But I served it up.
你知道，我当时就是个容易上当的人。
You know, I was an easy mark.
我是自愿把这些信息给出去的。
I gave I gave it away willingly.
那你后悔那样使用它吗？
So do you regret using it in that way?
我不后悔，因为我觉得它帮我度过了我人生中最艰难、最黑暗的日子，那些日子我根本不知道该怎么应对。
I don't regret it because I think it got me through some of the hardest, darkest days that I have ever experienced and truly lacked the capacity to know how to deal with.
不过，我想如果我没有ChatGPT，我会去依靠我生活中的人。
However, I think had I not had chatty PT, I would have leaned on the humans in my life.
而且我觉得，最终那样可能会对我更好。
And I think that, ultimately, that probably would have been I would have been better served.
我觉得我当时是在拒绝让朋友们有机会陪在我身边。
I think I wasn't I was, like, denying my friends the right to be there for me.
这个回答真的很细致。
That's a really nuanced answer.
就是，嗯，不。
It's like, and no.
就是说，它在你需要的时候出现了，你也确实需要它，但你能想象一个你没有求助于它的世界。
Like, it was there for you and you needed it, but you can see a world in which you didn't turn to it.
对。
Yeah.
那么，在我们结束对话或者说收尾之前，我想问你一些更宏观的问题，关于你从这一切中得到了什么。
I mean, unlike a as we end the conversation or land the plane, I wanna ask you some bigger picture questions about what you make from all of this.
就是说，你觉得人类能从AI身上学到什么关于如何与他人相处的道理，如果我们真的能学到什么的话？
I mean, it's like, what do you think what do you think humans can learn from AI about how to relate to other people if if we can learn anything?
嗯，我最大的收获之一就是，我不相信AI能在任何方面取代人类。
Well, one of my biggest takeaways is that I don't believe that it's possible for AI to replace humans in any capacity.
我不认为AI能在劳动或情感劳动方面取代人类。
I don't think that it's possible to replace humans in a labor capacity or an emotional labor capacity.
听你这么说，我真是松了一口气。
That's a big relief to hear you say that.
我还以为它们要开始主持播客了呢。
I'm like, they're hosting podcasts.
我不知道
I don't
你有没有听说过
know if you've heard
布里奇特，他们确实在播。
Bridget They are.
但确实有人在听他们的节目。
But people are listening to them.
我知道你们不想要这个。
I know you guys don't want it.
呼。
Phew.
呼。
Phew.
呼。
Phew.
好的。
Okay.
抱歉。
Sorry.
抱歉。
Sorry.
我打断你了。
I interrupted you.
对。
Yeah.
我觉得人类之所以存在，我们来到这个地球上的原因，就是为了彼此联系、建立关系，这是任何技术都无法替代的。
I think that what makes humans like, the the reason that we're on this earth is to be in connection and relationship with each other, and there is just no tech replacement for that.
没有任何一种技术能够颠覆这一点。
There is no way that any kind of technology is going to disrupt that.
绝对不可能。
Full stop.
一句话说完了。
End of sentence.
我觉得我们需要互相支持，体验那种互惠的感觉。
I think we have a need to show up for each other and experience reciprocity.
对吧？
Right?
互惠就是那种人与人之间关系中的给予和索取，推拉互动。
Like, reciprocity is, you know, that give and take and push and pull that comes with human relationships.
我觉得这是让人维持关系的一部分原因。
I think that's part of what keeps people in a relationship.
而且，研究人员还告诉我，很多人即使和AI有非常热烈、亲密的关系，
And, you know, something else that researchers told me was that a lot of people, even for people who have very intense, kind of hot and heavy, kind of intimate connections with A.
但很多时候，这种关系会随着时间自然消退，因为过了一阵子，更新ChatGPT就像做家务一样烦人。
I, oftentimes those connections really fizzle out on their own over time because after a while, updating ChatGPT feels like a chore.
更新一些关于你生活的事情，但它却不能回应你，那不是真实的。
Updating something about your life that can't, you know, update you back, that doesn't have it isn't real.
就是会失去吸引力。
It just it loses its luster.
所以要说我们会用这个来真正取代人际关系，我看不出来。
And so the idea that we would be meaningfully replacing our human relationships with that, I I don't see it.
我觉得大多数人不会认为一个充满AI伴侣和AI亲密关系的充实生活是好的。
I don't think that that's what most people think a good full life looks like, a life full of AI companions and AI intimacy.
你现在怎么用AI？
What's your use of AI now?
比如，你是怎么用的？
Like, how are you using it?
是不是让它给你个豆子沙拉食谱之类的？
Is it like make me a bean salad recipe or something?
你都在做什么？
Like, what what are you doing?
对。
Yeah.
我真的和ChatGPT分手了。
It's I've really broken up with ChatGPT.
它不再是我倾诉情感的地方了。
It is no longer a place to to put my emotions.
我现在真的不怎么用它了，几乎不用。
I really don't use it, I mean, much at all these days.
你知道吗，我觉得和它情感上、亲密上纠缠得太深，真的让我意识到，我不想让山姆·奥特曼出现在我亲密生活里。
You know, I I think getting so emotionally and intimately entwined with it really made me realize just how much of a like, I don't wanna be in a situation where Sam Altman is that in the mix in my intimate life.
我意识到，我真的为科技公司和它们的老板创造了条件，让他们介入到我作为人类展现自我的那些亲密部分。
I I realized that I had I had really created the conditions for, you know, tech companies and the people who run them for these intimate parts of what it means for me to show up and be a human.
他们正好在中间调解。
They were right in the middle of mitigating.
所以我对AI的角色进行了一次彻底的反思。
And so I really kind of had a hard refresh about the role that A.
AI。
I.
在我生活中扮演的角色，真的，因为那不是我想要的生活方式。
Plays in my life just writ large because that's just not how I want to live my life.
那不是我想要的样子。
That's not how I wanna show up.
你知道吗，我最近真的重新爱上了那些让人之所以为人的东西。
You know, I've I've really kind of been re like, falling back in love with the things that make humans great.
你知道吗，我可以用AI来写邮件，但现在我反而在拥抱那些错别字。
You know, I I could use AI to write my emails, but now I'm like, I'm embracing the typos.
这封邮件是出自我的双手。
This came this came from my human hands.
我连蓝莓这个词都拼不对。
I can't spell blueberry.
收到一封有错别字的邮件，那是真人写的。
Get this mistyped email written by a human.
天哪。
Oh my god.
你真是高手，还特意提到蓝莓。
You pro calling back the blueberries.
好的。
Okay.
现在我知道
Now I know the
我们真正要结束的方式了。
actual way we're really gonna end.
蓝莓里有多少蜜蜂？
How many bees are in blueberry?
让我想想，你有纸吗？
Let me do you have a a piece of paper?
当然有。
Always.
好的。
Okay.
写下来。
Write it down.
我打算在脑子里算一下。
I'm gonna try to do it in my mind.
好的。
Alright.
我知道了。
I got it.
是三个吗？
Is it three?
天哪。
Oh my god.
这太尴尬了。
This is so embarrassing.
我，我觉得是蓝莓，对。
It I I believe it to be BLUB yeah.
是二吗？
Is it it is it two?
写下来容易多了。
It's much easier to write down.
我正在写下来。
I'm writing it down.
我也在写下来。
I'm writing it down.
检查一下。
Check that.
有两个。
There's two.
好的。
Okay.
你知道吗？
You know?
破解了。
Cracked the code.
花了两个人
It took two
才搞明白。
human people to figure that out.
布里奇特·托德，蓝莓里有两个b，布里奇特里有一个b。
Bridget Todd, two b's in blueberry, one b in Bridget.
非常感谢你这次对话。
Thank you so much for this conversation.
安娜，这真是太愉快了。
Anna, this was such a pleasure.
非常感谢你。
Thank you so much.
我真的很感激。
I really, really appreciate it.
布里奇特的有声书叫《一见提示：AI与亲密关系的未来》。
Bridget's audiobook is called love at first prompt, AI in the future of intimacy.
现在已经上线了。
It's out now.
《现代爱情》团队包括戴维斯·兰德、艾丽莎·古铁雷斯、林恩·莱维、里瓦·戈德堡和莎拉·柯蒂斯。
The Modern Love team is Davis Land, Alyssa Gutierrez, Lynn Levy, Riva Goldberg, and Sarah Curtis.
这一集由里瓦·戈德堡和戴维斯·兰德制作，莎拉·柯蒂斯协助。
This episode was produced by Riva Goldberg and Davis Land with help from Sarah Curtis.
编辑是林恩·莱维。
It was edited by Lynn Levy.
混音工程师是丹尼尔·拉米雷斯。
Our mix engineer was Daniel Ramirez.
我们的节目由麦迪·马西洛、尼克·皮特曼、凯尔·格兰迪洛和萨曼莎·温特录制。
Our show is recorded by Maddie Masiello, Nick Pittman, Kyle Grandillo, and Samantha Winter.
特别感谢布鲁克·明特斯。
Special thanks to Brooke Minters.
本集的原创音乐由艾丽西亚·巴托普、玛丽昂·洛萨诺、卡罗尔·萨巴罗、黛安·王和丹·鲍威尔创作。
Original music in this episode by Alicia Baitoupe, Marion Lozano, Carol Sabarow, Diane Wong, and Dan Powell.
丹还为我们创作了主题音乐。
Dan also composed our theme music.
《现代爱情》专栏由丹尼尔·琼斯编辑，米娅·李是《现代爱情》项目的编辑。
The Modern Love column is edited by Daniel Jones, and Mia Lee is the editor of Modern Love Projects.
如果你想向《纽约时报》投稿一篇散文或一个小爱情故事，我们会在节目说明中提供相关指引。
If you'd like to submit an essay or a tiny love story to The New York Times, we have the instructions in our show notes.
我是安娜·马丁。
I'm Anna Martin.
感谢收听。
Thanks for listening.
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