EP10 “别害怕。”

我正在

I having

生孩子

a baby

走起路来像拉裤子了。

walking like I pooed myself.

你吗？

Did you?

我妈妈跟我说，别这样走路。

My mom was saying to me, stop walking like that.

我问，怎么走？

I was like, walking like what?

她说，就像你拉裤子了那样。

She was like, like, you've pooed yourself.

我就说，好吧。

And I was like, alright.

没人会来。

No one's coming.

根本没人探望。

Like, no visits.

她问：为什么？

She was like, why?

我说：因为你刚说我现在走路的样子像拉裤子了，周围的人都在笑。

And I was like, because I'm you just said I'm walking like, I've like, pooed myself and he was laughing around.

她说：不是的。

She's like, no.

我只是在开玩笑，想让自己好受点。

I'm only joking, like, trying to feel better.

我说：不是的。

And I was like, no.

没人会来。

No one's coming.

不。

No.

没人。

No one.

然后有人来了。

And then people were coming.

我当时说，起不来。

I was like, can't get up.

因为我在走路，结果我弄脏了自己之类的。

Like, because I'm walking, like, I pooped myself or what

我在说呢。

I'm saying.

是因为护垫，还是因为你撕裂了但还没缝针？

Was that because of the pad or because you tore and you hadn't had stitches on?

之后只是觉得不舒服。

Was just uncomfortable after.

疼痛。

Pain.

你还在流血吗？

Are you still bleeding?

是的。

Yeah.

你流血持续了多久？

How long did you bleed for?

我记不太清了，但我觉得不是在生完她一个月后才停止的。

I can't remember exactly, but I don't think it was a month after I had had her.

我觉得大概是两三个星期。

I think it was, like, two, three weeks.

好的。

Okay.

现在不多了。

It's not heavy now.

这就像正常的月经一样。

It's just like a normal period.

你明白我的意思吗？

Do get what I mean?

是的。

Yeah.

可承受的。

Corpable.

是的。

Yeah.

你觉得生孩子之后怎么样？

Are you finding having a baby then?

全部都是。

All of it.

是的。

Yeah.

我的生活更有规律了。

I have more of a routine.

就像我跟我兄弟说的，你还记得我怀孕时整天都穿着睡衣吗？

Like, I said to my brother, you remember when I was pregnant and I was constantly in my pyjamas?

他当时说，是的。

And he was like, yeah.

而我现在必须每天早上起床，给她喂奶、换尿布、准备好出门用品，然后自己收拾好，再决定一天做什么。

And I was like, but now I have to like, I literally get up in the morning, give her a fresh feed and change her nappy, get air ready and then get myself ready and then see what I'd do for the day.

你明白我的意思吗？

Do you get what I mean?

那你平时一天都做些什么呢？

So what do you normally do with your day then?

带她去城里购物、买菜，或者去拜访朋友和家人。

Go out the town shopping or go food shopping with her or go and visit friends, family.

嗯。

Mhmm.

或者有时候我会放松一天，然后做做家务，是的。

Or sometimes I'll just have a chill day and then do housework or Yeah.

你和你妈妈一起住了吗？

And are you back with your mom?

是的。

Yeah.

那感觉怎么样？

How how's how's that then?

因为这

Because that's

乱七八糟的。

Crumpy.

因为我现在和宝宝一起住在那个小卧室里，到处都是她的东西。

Because I'm, like, in the little box bedroom with a baby with all her stuff.

她把我的衣柜搬走了，现在我连衣服都没地方放了。

She took off my wardrobe and now I've had to get no.

就是那些储物箱，我把衣服放进那些小塑料箱里，然后放在我的奥斯曼床底下，因为她说把我的衣橱拿走了。

Like, them storage boxes and put my clothes in them, like, little plastic boxes and put them under my Ottoman bed for my clothes in because she took off my wardrobe.

所以，妮可，我们知道尤金·多蒂的父亲一直没怎么参与，但你确实收到过他的消息。

So we know, Nicole, that Eugene Dottie's dad hasn't really been on the scene, but you have heard from him.

你能跟我们说说具体情况吗？

What can you tell us about that?

我觉得他还没能接受这个事实。

I don't think he's came to terms with it yet.

我觉得他可能需要几个月才能意识到：天啊，我有个女儿了。

I think it probably will take a few months for him to think, shit, I've got a daughter.

至于我，我怀了她九个月。

Well, me, I've carried her for nine months.

所以现在是十个月了。

So it's Ten.

是的。

Yeah.

十个月，整整十个月。

Ten ten months.

所以实际上，我有一个小时，完全属于我自己的时间。

So it's literally, like, I've got an hour, like, it's mine.

但他呢，他在纽卡斯尔上大学。

But with him, he's in Newcastle at uni.

所以他过着自己的生活。

So he he's living his life.

而我，每天早上起床都要起来夜奶、换尿布。

Where me, I get off every morning with a I do night feeds, change of bum.

我觉得如果他能更成熟、更理智地面对这个情况，他早就接受了，但我觉得有些人就是应该接受现实，而他就是做不到。

I think if he was more grown up and mature about the situation, he'd have came to terms it, but I just think some people just should come to terms it, but he just can't.

他去看过孩子吗？

Has he been to see him?

是的。

Yeah.

是的。

Yeah.

他来见过她一次，但是

He came to see her once, but

你不必说任何你不想说的。

You don't have to say anything you don't want I

我只是觉得他很困惑。

to just think he's just confused.

他根本不知道自己想要什么。

He just doesn't know what he wants.

我想当你提到你之前说过，对女孩来说这件事更真实，我觉得她确实如此，我觉得这是

I suppose when you're saying about you've carried a you said in an earlier episode about how it's more real for girls, and I think she's I think that's that's

一个很好的观点。

a good point.

他只见过我一次，那时我刚怀孕，肚子还很小。

He's seen me once when I was pregnant and I literally had a tiny bump.

所以你没再见过他？

I'd So you've not seen him

直到他出现之前已经好几个月了？

for months until he came?

一次。

Once.

确切地说，我觉得是七个月。

Literally, I think it was seven months.

哇。

Wow.

所以当他……我正想着，他突然毫无预兆地出现在我家门口。

So when he I went like, he just turned up at my house out of the blue.

我打开前门，还以为是我的快递包裹到了。

So I opened the front door, I thought it was my boohoo parcel.

于是我开门一看，他和他朋友就站在那儿，我当时就想：所以他没打招呼就突然出现了？

So I opened it and him and his friend were just like stood there and I was like So he turned up without warning?

是的

Yeah.

所以当时就是

So it was just like

真没必要。那他见到她时反应如何？

unnecessary How did he react when he saw her then?

她坐在一个豆袋椅里，就是那种东西，他直接跪下来，一直盯着她看。

She was in a beanbag, like a thingy, and she was just he just kneeled down and was just staring at her.

我当时就在心里说‘不行’，虽然表面上在笑，但其实不行。

And I, like, I was just, like, no inside when you're laughing, but you can.

我不得不假装在闻马桶。

And I had to, like I was, like, I'm just sniffing the toilet.

你觉得那是紧张的笑吗？

Was it nervous laughter, do you think?

是的

Yeah.

我当时坐在马桶上，刚小便完，就这样。

Like, I was sat on the toilet after a wee like this.

我双手抱着头，心想：他怎么来了？

Like, my hands on my head, like, hit, like, why has he turned up?

就像

Like

我猜你的心跳一定加速了。

I bet your heart was pounding.

是的。

It was.

我当时想：我该说什么？

Like, I was like, what do I say?

我该怎么办？

What do I do?

那你说了什么？

So what did you say?

我只是说，你想怎么抱她？

I just said, how would you wanna hold her?

他说，我太害怕了。

And he was like, I'm too scared.

我一直在发抖。

I'm just shaking.

于是我对他朋友说，你想抱她吗？

So I said to his friend, do you wanna hold her?

他回答，好。

And he was like, yeah.

对。

Yeah.

我来抱她。

I'll hold her.

我当时说，那我来抱她吧，说着玩的。

I was like, I'll pick her up then, like, joking.

他直接把她抱了起来。

He just picked her up.

你没事的。

You're fine.

但他抱她的时候是这样的。

But he was holding her like this.

我吓了一跳，好像她

I popped like she

有点

was a little

害怕或者

afraid or

什么的。

something.

我当时就说，天哪。

And I was like, oh my god.

但我只是觉得时间

But I just think time

会说明一切，不是吗？

will only tell, won't it?

你希望会发生什么？

What would you hope will happen?

你的期望是什么？

What's your hopes?

我希望他能站出来，做个父亲。

I hope he'll just step up and be a father.

我不是在向他要钱。

Like, I'm not even asking him for money.

是的。

Mhmm.

我只是希望他能像我一样，和女儿建立感情，因为我不知道如果我从未和她建立过感情，我会怎么办。

Like, I'm literally asking him to grow a bond with his daughter like I have because I don't know what I'd do if I never had a bond with her.

所以某种程度上我感到难过，因为他无法像我一样和她建立联系。我猜你可能会想，路易斯肯定和她建立了深厚的感情，对吧？

So I'm sad in a way that he can't have a bond with her like I I bet you're like, I bet Louis got a bond with her as hasn't he?

是的，这正是我所做的。

He is and then, like, that's that's what that's what I do.

因为路易斯从第一天起就对她特别好。

Like, because Louis, like, he's he's he's just been so good with her from day one.

甚至在我怀孕的时候，他一直都在，尽他所能帮助我，我真的很感激他能陪在我身边，因为我不知道，如果我单身并且发现自己怀孕了，我会怎么办。

Like, even when I was pregnant, he was always there and just help him with whatever he can, and I'm just so grateful that he is there because I don't know what I would have done if I was single and found out I was pregnant and

所有这些。

all this.

我还会住在父母家。

I'd still be living at my arms.

当你听到妮可讲述她那个不在身边、在离家一小时外上大学的男友的经历时，你有什么想法？

When you hear what Nicole is saying about her experience of a boyfriend who isn't there and is at university an hour away, What do you think when you hear that?

我只是觉得这太令人反感了，因为路易斯从来都不是那样的人。如果她真有个不想管她的父亲，我可能会改变想法，但路易斯一直都在。

I just I just I generally think it's disgusting because, like like, Lewis has never I might change my mind if I if she did have a dad who didn't wanna bother with her, Lewis has just always been there.

所以我真的无法想象有人会不希望见到女儿，嗯。

So I just can't imagine someone who wouldn't Mhmm.

想见女儿，因为每次他去接她的时候，你能明显看出她爱他。

Wanna see the daughter because when he picks her up, she, like, you can tell she loves him.

你能从她的眼神里看出来。

Like, you can see it in her eyes.

我看着他们站在一起，他抱着她、亲吻她，我就觉得，这真是太美好了。

And I just I look at them stood there together and, like, he's cuddling her, he's kissing her and I just think, like, it's it's just it's just gorgeous.

我很庆幸她拥有这些，而我没有。

Like, I'm so glad she's got that because I didn't.

现在，我可以向妈妈要钱而不觉得难为情，但爸爸那里，我不喜欢向他要任何东西。

And now, like, I can ask my mom for money without being shy and stuff, but my dad, I don't like asking him for anything.

即使我们一起去外面，到现在我们也不怎么说话，感觉完全不一样。

I don't like even when we go out together, even now, we we don't speak to each other and it's just not the same.

像你和你爸爸

Like, I don't You and your dad

如果我不

don't If I

如果没有我的继父，我可能就没有父亲了。

didn't have my stepdad, then I probably wouldn't have a dad.

我只是非常感激刘易斯一直留在身边，我们确实交流过，他说即使我们分开了，他也会每天来家里带她出去，如果必须的话，他并不介意。

And it's just that I'm I'm so grateful that Lewis has actually stuck around and he we we have spoke and he said if we did split up, like, he would still come to the house and take her out every day if he if he had to, he's not he's not bothered.

所以我真的非常感激他。

So I am just really grateful for him.

当你听到这些，妮可，你觉得如何？

When you hear that, Nicole, what do

你有什么感受？

you how do you feel?

我只是觉得，是他没有错过，而不是我。

I just think, like, it's him not missing out, not me.

如果他想幼稚、可怜、浪费生命，那就去这么做吧。

Like, if he wants to be immature and pathetic and just a waste of space, then try and be it.

嗯。

Mhmm.

我不明白，一个人怎么能说出这么伤人的话，还如此不尊重对方。

I don't know how someone can, like, say bad things and treat someone with disrespect that small.

她根本就没有做错任何事。

Like, she literally doesn't do anything wrong.

是的。

Yeah.

不仅如此，我觉得他不仅让宝宝的生活更艰难，最终也让妮可的生活变得更艰难。

Not only that, I think how can he, like, not only is he making life harder for the baby, he's making life harder for Nicole at the end of the day.

她可是怀胎十月才把孩子生下来的。

Like, she she's had to carry this baby for ten months.

现在她得一辈子照顾这个孩子，而听上去，她还得独自一人承担这一切。

Now she has to look after the baby for the rest of her life, and by the sounds of it, she has to do it alone.

当然，她有妈妈和家人，但如果你连男朋友都没有——而他还是孩子的亲生父亲——那你到底还能依靠谁呢？

Obviously, she's got a mom and family, but if you haven't got your boyfriend, who who the baby's dad is, then who have you really got?

嗯。

Mhmm.

你刚才说，你小时候没有像刘易斯对待斯凯勒那样的父亲吗？

Did you say that you didn't have a dad who was like Lewis' with Skylar when you were little?

是的。

Yeah.

我妈妈告诉我，我小时候，他其实想和我建立感情，但他就是做不到。

Like, my mom my mom's just told me that, like, when I was younger, he just he, like, he wanted to bond with me, but he just couldn't.

他就是不想有孩子。

Like, he just didn't he just didn't want a kid.

我出生的时候他多大？

How old was he when you when you were born?

我觉得他当时18岁。

I think he was 18.

好吧。

Okay.

我觉得是的。

I think so.

但后来我妈妈说，他在我大约六个月大之前对我很好，然后他就离开了。

But then my my mom said he was brilliant with me until I was about six months, and then he just he just left.

这对你童年有什么影响吗？

How did that affect your childhood?

我不觉得它影响了我的童年，因为我真的不记得有过爸爸，所以我一直只有妈妈。

I don't I wouldn't say it affected my childhood because I've I didn't I can't really remember having a dad, So I've I've always just had my mom.

我习惯了只有妈妈。

I'm used to having my mom.

但当我听到别人说他们和爸爸很亲近，爸爸给他们买这个买那个的时候，

But it would when I hear, like, people say that they are close to the dad, the dads get them this than that.

这让我觉得，如果我小时候能和爸爸说话，我可能会有那样的关系。

And it does make me feel like, well, if I did speak to my dad when I was younger, I might might have that relationship.

嗯。

Mhmm.

因为我现在确实和我爸爸有联系，他就住在离我不远的地方。

Because I I, like, I do speak to my dad now and he only lives down the road from me.

所以我们现在关系还挺近的。

So we are kinda close now.

但我就觉得，当我想要什么东西时，我应该去问他。

But I I just think that, like, when I want something, I should I should ask him.

我总是向妈妈要东西，那为什么我却觉得不能向他开口呢？

Like, I asked my mom for stuff, so why why do I feel like I can't ask him?

他曾经提供过帮助吗？

Did he ever contribute?

接着说。

Go on.

我总是向妈妈要东西。

I always ask my mom.

我妈妈就像

My mom's like,

是的。

well Yeah.

你为什么不去问你爸爸呢？

Why don't you ask your dad?

我说，因为我不想问。

And I'm like, because I don't want to.

感觉他好像很害怕，对吧？

Like, it feels as though he's scared, doesn't it?

是的。

Like Yeah.

因为过去我被拒绝过太多次了。

Because I've had so many nos in the past.

你就是觉得又会遭到拒绝。

You just feel like you're gonna get nos again.

是的。

Yeah.

我不知道。

And I don't know.

我只是。

I just

所以你不去问你爸爸，是因为你觉得他会拒绝你吗？

Is that why you don't ask your dad because you think you're gonna get a no?

还是说你不去问他，是因为他从来就不是那种会为你提供帮助、给你经济支持的人？

Or do you not ask him because he's just never been someone to do that kind of thing for you, provide, help you financially?

是的。

Yeah.

他从来就不是那种我可以依赖的人。

It's it's he's never been he's never been on someone he's never been someone I rely on.

所以他现在也不是我可以依赖的人。

So he's not someone I rely on now.

这是因为你已经意识到不能依赖他吗？

Is that because you've learned that you can't rely on him?

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

这是《未成年妈妈》播客，记录三位少女走向母职之路的故事。

This is Pregnant Teens, the podcast that follows three teenage girls on their way to motherhood.

尼科尔，你有没有觉得有责任去劝说你的前男友参与他女儿的生活，还是你只是觉得，

Do you feel any kind of responsibility, Nicole, to try and convince your ex that he should get involved in his daughter's life, or do you kind of think,

我打算

I'm gonna

由他去吧？

leave it to him?

我真的放弃了。

I literally give up now.

我已经试过很多次了，但他们总觉得，她才一个月大。

Like, I've tried so many times, and they just think, she's a month old.

他只来过一次。

He's been once.

如果他真想参与她的生活，早就来过不止一次了。

If he wanted to be in her life, he'd have came more than once.

他每天都会发短信问我她怎么样，但他从不。

And he texts me every day to see how she is and he doesn't.

所以。

So

什么？

What?

他确实给你发过短信，在

He did text you in the

没有。

No.

他根本从不，真的从不。

Like, he doesn't He literally never

他给我发消息。

texts me.

他现在给我发消息，但只是为了惹我生气。

He texts me now, but just to be horrible.

所以我真的拉黑他，然后取消拉黑，再拉黑，再取消拉黑。

So I literally block him, unblock him, block him, unblock him.

是的。

Yeah.

你只是厌倦了一切吗？

Do and you're just tired of it all?

你只是

And You just

我只是不知道我会怎么做。

I just I don't think I'd know what to do.

我不知道。

I don't know.

因为很明显，你们俩合不来，所以你想拉黑他。

Because obviously, you two don't get along, so you wanna block him.

但如果你拉黑他，他可能会反过来问：那我怎么见你？

But if you block him, he could turn around and say, well, how can I see you?

是的。

Yeah.

但他有我妈妈的号码，他妈妈也有我妈妈的号码。

But then he's got my mom's number and his mom's got my mom's number.

比如，即使他给他们发消息说：‘我可以去见多蒂吗？’

Like, even if he messaged them and said, oh, do you mind if I pop around and see Dotty?

而我妈妈会说：‘当然可以。’

And my mom would say, oh, yeah.

显然，她会问我。

Obviously, she'd ask me.

而我会说：我从不会阻止他去见她。

And I'd say, I'd never stop him from seeing her.

是他自己停不下来。

It's him not stopping himself.

你明白我的意思吗？

Do you get what I mean?

所以他确实有办法能联系上，这是肯定的。

So he does have ways that he can get in Definitely.

如果我拉黑他，只是为了半小时，好让我能休息，或者干脆拉黑到早上，好让我睡个好觉。

If I block him, it's literally for half an hour so I can get or it's literally late until the morning so I can get a good night's sleep.

所以

So

如果刘易斯突然从生活中消失了，我的意思是，你会怎么做？

If Lewis suddenly wasn't in the picture, I mean, what would you do?

你会搬回去和你妈妈一起住吗？

Would you move back home with your mom?

大概不会。

Probably not.

不。

No.

我可能会试着自己租个地方住，但我觉得会难很多，因为我现在做的事情已经很多了。

I probably would try and get my own place, but I think it would be a lot harder because I I do do quite a lot at the minute.

每次她需要喂食时我都给她喂，给她换尿布、穿衣，等等一切。

I feed her every time she needs feeding and change her and get her dressed and all this.

但有时候我会感到有点压力，需要刘易斯陪她一个小时，让我去睡觉之类的。

But there is sometimes when, like, I am getting a bit stressed out and I need Lewis to just sit with her for an hour while I go to bed or something.

所以我想，我不会搬回去和我妈妈住。

So I think if it like, I wouldn't move back in with my mom.

当你照顾她、喂她、给她洗澡、做家务的时候，刘易斯在做什么呢？

So When you're doing the looking after her, feeding her and bathing her and doing the house stuff, what's Lewis doing then?

你是让她只是整理一下或者把衣服收一收吗？

Do you leave her just tidy up or sort of clothes out?

就只是找点我

Just just find something that I

需要做。

need to do.

你希望他多帮点忙照顾斯凯勒吗？

Would you like him to do more with Skylar maybe?

不。

No.

大概不会。

Probably not.

因为如果我来做，我知道事情会做好。

Because if I do it, I know it's getting done properly.

好的。

Okay.

所以即使我有时会抱怨，说你做得不够多。

So even though I do, like, mourn some arms to say that, oh, you don't do enough.

实际上，我很高兴他不做这些事，因为我知道如果我来做，事情就会做好。

Actually, like, I'm glad he doesn't do all that stuff because I know that it's getting done properly if I do it.

这是BBC的《怀孕少女》节目。

This is Pregnant Teens from the BBC.

我是菲利帕·戈默。

I'm Philippa Goymer.

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妮可尔，你对罗宾有什么问题吗？关于自己住在家裡以及需要考虑的那些事情？

Nicole, have you got any questions for Robin with about living in our own house and having all those things to think about?

没有。

No.

其实没有，因为我住在妈妈家，她去上班了。

Not really because I live at my mom's, she's at work.

所以实际上是我一个人住在家裡，因为她上班的时候，我负责打扫、吸尘、带狗出去。

So it's literally me living in my own house because while she's at work, I hang, hoover up, clean up, take the dog out.

带狗出去，还有那个公交车椅，天啊。

Taking the dog out and the bus chair, god.

这很艰难，因为你得准备BAP和舞会，然后还要带狗去意大利。

It is a struggle because you get the BAP and a prom and then get the dog in Italy.

然后你走到一半，突然想起来：我忘了带奶嘴。

And then you get halfway down the road and then you think, I forgot a dummy.

所以你得走回头路去拿奶嘴。

So you have to walk back up the road to get a dummy.

就是不停地做这些事，是的。

It's just doing you just Yeah.

这就像是自己住在一个房子里。

It's just like having your own house.

但等我妈妈下班回家时，她已经喂完最后一顿了。

But then by the time my mom gets in from work, she's had her last feed.

她正在洗澡，还穿着睡衣。

She's in the bath and she's got her jams on.

所以如果她要是有什么事，我就能去洗澡，是的。

So if she if anything, my mom watches away, I can get a bath and yeah.

你怎么样？

How are you

感觉如何，罗宾？

finding it, Robin?

我知道我之前去过你家，但几周后，现在怎么样了？

I know we I've been to see you in the house, but any few weeks later, how how's it going?

还不错。

It's going fine.

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

我觉得

I think

你现在有了自己的房子，有规律了吗？

Are you in a routine now that you've got your own house?

比如，你觉得我得在这个时间给婴儿洗澡，然后哄她睡觉吗？

Like, do you think, like, I need to bath the baby by this time, put her in bed?

还是她自己就会？

Or does she Yeah.

只是

Just

她确实会。

She yeah.

她每晚九点前就总是睡着了，最晚十点。

She's always asleep before nine, 10:00 at night.

但我还是会让她待到那个时间，因为如果她能熬到九点，她就能一整夜睡到第二天早上九点。

But I'll let Adja I'll let her stay up until that time because if she does stay up till 09:00, she'll sleep right through till 09:00 in the morning.

所以你就

So So you get

晚上能多睡一会儿吗？

a bit of a longer sleep during the night?

我就让她自己去吧。

I'll just

我会让她自己来。

I'll let

她自己去做吧。

her get on with it.

只要她不晚于十点睡觉就行。

As long as as I do like her asleep no later than ten, though.

所以。

So

你现在开始给她戒奶了，是吗？

And you are starting to wean her now, aren't you?

我见过你的一些做法。

I've seen some of your Yeah.

是的。

Yeah.

我们问过她今天有没有吃点心。

We've asked if she had a crisper today.

开心。

Happy.

那进展得怎么样？

How's that going then?

她吃东西了吗？

Did she'll eat anything?

是吗？

Was it?

是的。

Yeah.

她真的什么都吃。

She'll literally eat anything.

我觉得如果我给她，她会吃的。

Think she would if I give her it.

是的。

Yeah.

她太贪吃了。

She's so greedy.

简直难以置信。

It's unbelievable.

因为健康访视员、助产士等等都告诉我，要等到她六个月大才能给她吃固体食物，但她现在都喝九盎司了。

Because the the the health visitors are telling and midwives and everything are telling me not to give her food till she's six months, but she's on nine ounces.

我不能给她超过九盎司，因为买不到更大的奶瓶。

I can't give her any more than nine ounces because you can't get the bigger bottles.

嗯。

Mhmm.

所以她只是需要那一点点额外的。

So she just need that little bit extra.

她还是饿。

She's just still hungry,

是的。

is Yes.

而且这也没对她造成什么伤害，所以他们只是……

And it's not doing her no harm, so they're just,

你知道的。

you know

那你现在给她吃什么呢？

So what you're giving her then?

就吃一点你正在吃的东西吗？

Just a bit of what you're having?

她还没吃过正经的饭菜，但我只是会把奶嘴蘸点肉汁，或者做些傻乎乎的事，比如让她舔一片薯片。

She hasn't had like a proper meal or anything yet, but I just I'll dip a dummy in gravy or just daft things like that or I'll let her lick a crisp.

所以……

So

这是《未成年怀孕》第一季的最后一集，因为我们已经没有更多的未成年孕妇了。

Well, this is the final episode in series one of pregnant teens because we have no more pregnant teens.

我们有带着孩子的青少年。

We have teens with babies.

所以我想衷心感谢你们两位，允许我进入你们的生活，与你们共同度过过去的几个月，因为我们已经谈论了各种话题。

So I just wanted to say a really, really big thank you to both of you for letting me into your lives and sharing the last few months with me because we've talked about all kinds.

我们聊得越来越亲近、越来越个人化、越来越深入。

We've got close, we've got personal, we've got intimate.

我想就这样为这一季画上句号。

And I think I just wanted to end this series.

我们可能会推出《带着幼儿的青少年》这一季，谁知道呢？

We might come back with Teens with Tots, who knows?

对于那些有了更多孩子的青少年，你们有什么建议？

Would your advice Teens with more babies.

你们会给那些正在听这个节目的年轻女孩什么建议？她们可能和你们几个月前一样，十六岁，刚刚发现自己怀孕了？

What is your advice to any young girl out there listening to this who's maybe in the place you were in a few months ago, 16, teenager, and finding out they're pregnant?

你们会对她们说些什么？

Would you say to them?

别害怕。

Don't be scared.

听从你内心的指引。

Do what your mind is telling you to do.

忽略所有的负面情绪，专心照顾你的宝宝。

Ignore any negativity and just concentrate on your baby.

我可能会说，千万别放弃，因为怀孕时你对宝宝的爱，和宝宝真正出生后的感觉是完全不同的；怀孕时，你确实能感受到对宝宝的爱。

I'd probably say just don't give up because, like, you feel like the love for your baby when you're pregnant is and I think it's totally different to when the baby's actually here because when you're pregnant, you'd like you you really have love for that baby.

你知道自己即将迎来一个宝宝。

Like, you know that you're having a baby.

但当你第一次看到他或她时，那种感觉真的令人心碎。

But then you just you see you see him or her for the first time, and it really is just heartbreaking.

无论如何，都要面对它。

Just just whatever you do, deal with it.

别做可能让你后悔的决定。

Don't don't make don't make decisions that you might regret.

谢谢你，罗宾。

Thank you, Robin.

谢谢你，妮可。

Thank you, Nicole.

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