Embrace Discomfort

大家好。

Greetings.

我是凯松加。

This is Kessonga.

周一快乐，欢迎收听《头脑空间》电台。

Happy Monday, and welcome to Radio Headspace.

能再次和大家一起聊聊正念、冥想，还有生活中的点点滴滴，我真的很兴奋。

I'm so very excited to be joining y'all again along this journey of just talking about mindfulness, meditation, and just life in general.

我想先带大家重温一下我的小栏目——正念时刻。

I thought I would kick things off with a revisit to my segment called mindful moments.

所谓正念时刻，就是你的思绪、情绪和身体完全同步的那一刻。

Remembering that a mindful moment is a moment where your mind, emotions, and body are in synchrony with each other.

换句话说，就是你真正活在当下的时候。

In other words, when we're fully present in that moment.

这些时刻可能是压力重重的，也可能是充满喜悦的，但在这档节目里，我会重点分享那些积极正面的正念时刻。

And they can be stressful or joyous, but for the purpose of these episodes, I'll be focusing on positive mindful moments.

今天这个正念时刻，讲的是主动走进不适感。

Today's mindful moment is all about stepping into discomfort.

我知道听起来好像不太积极，但你先听我说完。

Now, I know that doesn't exactly sound positive, but just hear me out.

我写这段的时候，我大女儿刚去巴黎留学。

At the time of me writing this, my oldest daughter has just been away studying abroad in Paris.

这是她第一次真正体验独立生活。

This was her very first taste of true independence.

她跟我特别像。

And she's a lot like me.

她特别谨慎，也特别爱分析。

She's very cautious and very analytical.

在做任何重大决定之前，她都得先有个周全的计划。

Before making any serious moves or decisions, there has to be a plan in action.

总之，我女儿在巴黎那阵子，每天晚上睡觉前都会给我们打电话。

Anyway, while my daughter was in Paris, she called us every evening before she went to bed.

就是想让我们知道她那边的趣事，还有她一切都好。

Basically just to let us know about her adventures and that she was doing okay.

我今天想聊的这个正念时刻，就发生在其中一次通话里。

The actual mindful moment that I'm referencing today was during one of these conversations.

那天晚上，她跟我们说，她对第二天团队要参加的一个活动特别紧张，有点不敢上。

On this particular evening, she was expressing how she was feeling nervous about participating in one of the excursions or activities that her group was going to embark on the very next day.

她其实很想参与，但就是紧张得不行。

She stated that she really wanted to do it, but she was just super anxious about participating.

那一刻我特别有感触，因为她愿意跟我分享她最脆弱、最自我怀疑的时刻，说明她在觉察自己的情绪，也信任我。

This was such a mindful moment for me because it showed me that she was practicing awareness and trusting me with her most vulnerable moments of self doubt.

我跟她说，我懂，这种感觉完全正常，我不会逼你做任何事。

I told her that I understood, that there's nothing wrong with what she was feeling, and that I wasn't going to force her to do anything.

这事儿得你自己决定。

That would have to be her decision.

但我鼓励她想想，这么强烈的情绪，说不定正是个信号，说明她正走在对的路上，或者是在提醒她：该稍微跨出舒适区了。

But I also invited her to think about how strong emotions, they might be a sign that she's on the right path or a prompt to help her step out of her comfort zone just a little bit.

我真心觉得，只有当我们走出舒适区，真正的成长才会发生。

I truly believe that it's when we step out of our comfort zone that true growth and development occur.

这才是学习的方式。

That's how you learn.

让我特别开心的是，我女儿听了进去，真的去参加了那个活动。

Much to my joy and happiness, my beautiful daughter listened and followed through with the activity.

第二天她告诉我，虽然还是紧张，但她记住了我的话，坚持了下来。

She told me the next day that she was still feeling anxious about it all, but she remembered my words and she stuck with it.

结果她玩得特别开心。

And she actually ended up having a great time.

很多人一感觉到有点不舒服或者遇到点困难，就马上放弃，甚至根本不敢去尝试。

I think that people often quit, stop, or don't even pursue certain goals as soon as they perceive or encounter any sort of discomfort or difficulties.

可那些目标，说不定正是他们真正热爱的。

And these may be goals that they are actually passionate about accomplishing.

当年我读研想放弃的时候，有个教授跟我说过：凡是你真想要的东西，过程中肯定有段日子会觉得特别糟。

As a professor in grad school once told me when I was thinking about quitting, anything worth having is going to feel like shit at some point or the other.

在你前进的路上，感到压力山大、害怕或者焦虑，这完全正常。

And there's nothing wrong with feeling super stressed out, fearful, or anxious along your journey.

别忘了，你的练习一直都在那里等着你。

And remembering that your practice is always there for you.

先承认当下的感受，深呼吸一口，然后留意身体哪里不舒服，那些想放弃、想躲起来的念头也别忽视。

Acknowledging what's present, maybe taking a deep breath, then perhaps locating where in your body you're experiencing difficult feelings, and also any thoughts that are coming up, like quitting or not even showing up.

等你准备好了，再做出更明智、更合适的决定。

And then when you're ready, proceeding with a wiser or more appropriate choice.

其实，这些绝望的时刻，恰恰可能变成你成长的契机。

Again, these moments of despair can actually become moments of growth.

好了，各位伙伴们。

Alright, party people.

今天谢谢你们陪我聊这些。

Thanks for checking in with me today.

别忘了去HeadspaceApp里做一下身体扫描冥想。

And please check-in with the Headspace app for the body scan meditation practice.

我觉得在那些不舒服的时刻，这个方法会特别有帮助。

I think it'll be really beneficial during those moments of discomfort.

别忘了，如果你在尝试正念生活时有什么问题，随时发给我。

And remember, please send me any questions that you may have about adopting a mindful lifestyle.

你可以在Instagram上找我，账号是k_giscombay，或者发邮件到askkessonga@headspace.com。

You can hit me on Instagram k giscombay or email me at askkessonga@headspace.com.

明天咱们再继续聊，我挺期待的。

I look forward to talking to you some more tomorrow.

保重，祝你今天开心又健康。

Take care and have a happy and healthy day.