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这确实对我们帮助很大。

That has really helped us.

那很好。

That's good.

所以，唯一的目标就是能否从中学习和理解一些东西

So, that the only objective is can we learn and understand something out of

这个？

this?

哦，那太完美了。

Oh, that's perfect.

只要你持之以恒地这样做

As long as you do this consistently

就像至今为止我们进行的每一次对话都是这样。

Like till now in every conversation we've done this.

我们所做的是，一旦对话结束，比如这次完成后，就像这项工作完成了，然后我们会思考，好吧，现在如何充分利用我们已经获得的内容。

What we do is once the conversation is out, like once this is done, like this job is done, then we try to think, ok, now how do we make best out of whatever we have gotten.

我们的观点形成过程不会在录制播客之前就开始。

The process of views doesn't start before we have shot the podcast.

完美。

Perfect.

这其实挺酷的。

That's actually quite cool.

我认为关于恐惧的一个话题是，最好的人能将恐惧转化为好奇心。

I think 1 topic to touch upon on fear is best people convert fear into curiosity.

什么

What do

你是指解释吗？

you mean explain?

看，每个人都有恐惧。

See, everybody has fear.

这当然是有保证的。

यह तो guaranteed है.

同意。

Agreed.

有些人对恐惧的反应截然不同。

Some people have a very different reaction to fear.

大多数人会有一种反应，就是直接关闭。

Most people have a reaction कि यार shut down.

壳牌不会行动。

Coun shell not act.

小人物的做法是将恐惧转化为好奇心，看看会发生什么？

Small persons of people convert their fear into curiosity कि देखते हैं क्या होता है?

我们去看一看，做一做。

जाकर देखते हैं, करते हैं.

对吧？

Right?

比如那些喜欢冒险运动的人。

जैसे people who would do adventure sports.

Are they not fearful?

Are they not fearful?

They absolutely are.

They absolutely are.

But there is this curiosity that takes over.

But there is this curiosity that takes over.

They convert that fear into this weird curiosity कि करके देखता है.

They convert that fear into this weird curiosity कि करके देखता है.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And it appeals to them that risk, that curiosity appeals to them so much and they continue to do well.

And it appeals to them that risk, that curiosity appeals to them so much and they continue to do well.

Right?

Right?

कि एक करके देखता है.

कि एक करके देखता है.

会发生什么？

क्या हो जाएगा?

对吧？

Right?

而这实际上推动着他们在人生中不断前进。

And that actually allows them to propel forward in life.

对吧？

Right?

所以将恐惧转化为好奇，让你觉得‘天啊，让我看看’

So converting fear to curiosity where where you're like, Oh my god, let me see.

就像，有种奇怪的吸引力在吸引着你。

Like, there is this weird thing that attracts you.

风险吸引着你。

Risk attracts you.

对吧？

Right?

就像很多人谈论埃隆·马斯克时，说他根本不会评估风险。

Like a lot of people, like, talk about Elon Musk and say that he has no ability to process risk.

这可能是真的，看他不断做的那些事，你会觉得难以置信这家伙居然敢这么做。

And it's probably true the kind of stuff that he constantly does, you are like, I can't believe that the guy is doing this.

对吧？

Right?

但这种对风险的天然吸引力伴随着判断力，对吧？

But there is this natural attraction to risk with judgment, right?

看吧，如果你只是被风险吸引，那你也可以被称为赌徒，伙计，●●●（此处保留原文印地语未翻译部分）

See, if you are just attracted to risk, you can also be called a gambler कि यार इसको खाली attraction है risk से, पर जीतता कुछ नहीं है.

但当你将判断力与风险承受能力或风险吸引力相结合时，你会发现那些人做得很好。

But the moment you combine the judgement ability with risk tolerance or risk attraction, you will see those guys do well.

确实。

True.

你是否觉得，大多数所谓的成功人士其实都走了各自不同的道路？

Do you, don't you feel most people who are successful quote and go in different different ways?

你觉得他们更多是被对低效的恐惧所驱动，还是对被排除在出身地或当前地位的恐惧所驱动？

Do you feel they are more driven out of fear of inefficiency or fear of fear of not being at a place where they come from or where they are today.

所以主要是恐惧在驱使他们改变。

So its mostly the fear which is driving them to change.

所以在某些情况下，恐惧实际上是在推动人们前进，不是因为吸引力或好奇心，而是因为我感觉不想被困在一个地方窒息。

So in some cases, fear is actually really helping people to move forward, not in terms of attraction or curiosity, which just in feel of I don't wanna be suffocated by staying in that 1 place.

我认为

I think

他们并非总是在逃避恐惧，而仅仅是在逃避。

it's not always fear they are escaping, they are just escaping.

所以，人们逃避的事物各不相同。

So, there are different things people escape.

好吗？

Ok?

对吧？

Right?

人们在逃避他们的创伤，逃避处境，逃避恐惧，0逃避身份。

People are escaping their trauma, people are escaping their circumstances, people are escaping their fear, People are escapping their identity.

人们正在学习。

People are escapping their country.

人们正在逃离他们的社会。

People are escapping their society.

逃避驱动着人们。

Escapeping drives people.

对吧？

Right?

恐惧只是其中之一。

Fear is just 1 of them.

但你会发现一个现象，大多数成功人士都多少有点强迫症倾向。

But you'll notice 1 thing that कि most successful people are some version of 0CD.

他们就是一遍又一遍地重复这种模式，完全不需要外界的驱动力。

They are repeating this pattern again and again and again and again and again without any drive coming from outside.

是的。

Yeah.

对吧？

Right?

存在自我驱动的机制。

There are self fueling mechanism.

顺便说一句，他们不需要励志演讲者。

They don't need motivational speakers by the way.

确实如此。

True.

对吧？

Right?

你永远不会看到被激励演说家驱使的有动力的人。

You will never see driven people driven by motivational speakers.

对吧？

Right?

所以，几乎是一种反向趋势。

So, almost a reverse trend.

需要励志演讲者的人不太可能有内驱力。

People who need motivational speakers are unlikely to be driven.

对吧？

Right?

而且，如果你把它视为一条商业分界线来说的话。

And and which is if you think about it as a business breaking line to make.

但问题是那些在逃避某些事情的人。

But the thing is that people who are escaping something.

他们没时间听励志演讲。

They don't have time for motivational speakers.

他们只是想要不断投入其中，持续投入，持续投入。

They just want to just be added at it, added at it, added at it.

想象一下最优秀的运动员。

Imagine the best athlete.

想象一下最优秀的企业家。

Imagine the best entrepreneur.

他们只是付诸行动。

They are just act it.

他们在逃避。

They are escaping.

他们在逃避他们的无关紧要。

They are escaping their their they are escaping their irrelval relevance.

他们在逃避现状。

They are escaping their current state.

他们感到力不从心。

They are feeling inadequate.

对吧？

Right?

我遇到过很多很多成功人士。

I have met many many successful people.

每个人都在说'兄弟，我这辈子一事无成'。

Everybody is like यार, कुछ भी नहीं किया achieve life में.

比如，糟糕透了。

Like, shit.

我什么都没做。

I have done nothing.

我已经变得无关紧要了。

I have become irrelevant.

我已经做到了。

I have done this.

我还没有理解这一点。

I have not understand this.

我对人工智能一无所知。

I have no understanding of AI.

我是这样那样的。

I am this and that.

他们就像以一种非常怪异的方式被驱使着。

They are just like driven in a very weird manner.

是啊。

Yeah.

对吧？

Right?

而且他们总是在逃避某些东西。

And they're always escaping something.

主要是在逃避他们的束缚。

Escapeing their strato mostly.

对吧？

Right?

驱动他们的几乎是强迫症（OCD）般的东西。

And what drives them is the 0CD, which is obsessive compulsive disorder almost.

对吧？

Right?

现在我们用疾病和病症的形式来描述这些词汇。

And now we say these words in form of disease and and illnesses.

但关键在于这是一种状态。

But the thing is it's a state.

是啊。

Yeah.

对吧？

Right?

如果你有机会——我强烈建议很多人想办法去观察一位精英运动员的训练过程。

If you see ever and I would, I would encourage, like, a lot of people to find a way to observe an elite athlete training.

你会发现一些非常不同的东西。

Like, you will see something very different.

无论你观察到什么。

Whatever you observed.

比如说，他们每天坚持做某件事348小时的这种一致性，这在体力上是极其耗费的。

For example, their consistency to do something for 348 hours a day, which is physically taxing.

对吧？

Right?

而且没有人，没有人享受这个过程。

And there is nobody is no nobody is enjoying that.

没有人享受这个过程。

Nobody is enjoying that.

但你可以看到他们那种不断坚持的动力。

You can see but that drive to just be at it, at it, at it.

几乎到了没有它就无法生活的地步。

And almost that they can't live without that.

你不觉得那是对无法发挥潜能的恐惧，或者是对平庸的恐惧吗？

Don't you think that's fear of not being able to live up to potential or maybe fear of being average?

并不总是恐惧。

It's not always fear.

有些人是因为创伤而驱动的。

Some people are driven through the trauma.

并不存在恐惧。

There is no fear.

他们只是受到了创伤，想要逃离那种创伤。

They are just traumatized and they want to escape that trauma.

他们有时想要逃离那种孤独感。

They want to escape that feeling of being alone sometimes.

有些人成为工作狂是因为如果独处，他们会害怕面对真实的自己。

Sometimes people are workaholic because if they are left alone to themselves, they'll be fearful about meeting themselves.

是的。

Yeah.

对吧？

Right?

所以，你必须明白这些行为的驱动力来自多方面。

So, you have to understand that these things are driven from multiple places.

有时候你身处一群有进取心的人之中，这种氛围也会推动着你前进。

Sometimes you're also in the company of driven people and that drives you.

对吧？

Right?

我们，我们总是与我们相处最多的五个人的平均水平相当。

We are, we are always the average of 5 people we spend time with.

你相信通过。

You believe by.

你对此深信不疑。

You are absolutely believe it.

对吧？

Right?

因此，许多正在成长的人发现很难保持同样的朋友关系。

And therefore, a lot of people who are growing find a hard to keep the same friends.

这说法有问题。

Now that's a problematic line.

对大多数印度人来说。

For most Indians.

变得太高高在上了

क्या बहुत बड़ा हो गया.

现在都不跟我们往来了

अब तो हमारे साथ मिलता भी नहीं है.

连话都不说了

बात भी नहीं करता.

而我们对这种界限非常恐惧

And we are very fearful of that line.

是啊

Yeah.

但这种情况很可能会发生

But that is likely to happen.

为什么你认为我们会害怕

Why do you think we are fearful that when we

作为一个集体社会，我们得满足每个人的期望

are a collective society that like we have to meet everybody's expectation.

你看，在社交媒体出现之前，要是不可能保持住所有朋友的联系。

See, back before social media, it was impossible to keep up with all the friends.

你搬到了另一个城市或其他地方。

You move to a different city, somewhere else.

你搬到了另一个国家，情况就不同了。

You move to a different country, something else.

就是这样。

That's it.

现在有了社交媒体，你好像和每个人都联系上了。

Now with social media, like you are connected to everyone.

正在给所有人发生日快乐祝福。

सबको happy birthday कर रहे हैं.

对吧？

Right?

每个人都在做些什么。

सबको कुछ कर रहे हैं.

早些时候

Earlier it

根本不可能做到。

was impossible to do.

我们会逐渐融入所交往的圈子。

We would evolve into the circles we were spending time with.

是啊。

Yeah.

但社交媒体却奇怪地将我们锚定在相同的现实中。

But social media is a weird thing of keeping us grounded to the same realities.

但很难跟上节奏，毕竟一天只有24小时。

But it hard to keep up because you only have 24 hours.

对吧？

Right?

会有人告诉你你变了、成长了或是退步了吗？

Do people tell you what that you have changed or you have grown or you have a poor?

我确信他们说过，但我对生活中听到的内容有着非常挑剔的过滤机制。

I am sure they do but I have a very selective filter on what I hear in life.

因为对我来说，我会永远站在需要我的人身边。

Because for me, I'm always going to be there for people who need me.

但我的时间是我要保护的，因为这是你、我或任何其他人拥有极少的货币。

But my time is something that I protect because that's the currency you and I or anybody else has very less off.

对吧？

Right?

有时候帮助别人临时应急很容易，但要持续付出时间就很难，对吧？

Often sometimes it's easier to help somebody sub need something but giving time consistently, right?

我认为我们必须置身于一个能让我们不断成长的环境中。

I think we have to be all in environment which is constantly growing us.

对吧？

Right?

例如，我不支持远程工作的原因之一是

For example, the reason I am not in favor of work from home, which is a very problematic topic, is all the growth happens in the company of people you keep.

Not about working somewhere.

Not about working somewhere.

If you work from home and you chose to be around 5 really smart people at your home who are working along with you.

If you work from home and you chose to be around 5 really smart people at your home who are working along with you.

I'm all for work from home.

I'm all for work from home.

Where you will discuss something at lunch, discuss something at dinner, discuss something while playing a game with them and you are constantly making each other better, then by all means work from home.

Where you will discuss something at lunch, discuss something at dinner, discuss something while playing a game with them and you are constantly making each other better, then by all means work from home.

But if you are going to be in a place where अरे यार, I am avoiding commute, I am avoiding this.

But if you are going to be in a place where अरे यार, I am avoiding commute, I am avoiding this.

मेरा rent बच गया, मेरा रिक्शा और taxi का पैसा बच गया.

मेरा rent बच गया, मेरा रिक्शा और taxi का पैसा बच गया.

You've made a terrible decision for your life.

You've made a terrible decision for your life.

Because remember all the times we learned was in the company of great people.

Because remember all the times we learned was in the company of great people.

对吧？

Right?

然后你会想，天啊。

And you're like, Oh my god.

当我们回想这个人说的话，或是她说了些特别有意思的，或是他说了些特别有意思的，我就会觉得哇。

When we reflect on what this guy said or she said something so interesting or he said something so interesting and I'm like wow.

就像，它触动了我。

Like, it hit me.

是啊。

Yeah.

对吧？

Right?

这就成了你的体系。

And that becomes your system.

确实。

True.

但现在，我不知道。

But now, I don't know.

我们花在短视频和快照上的时间比与真正优秀的人相处还多。

We spend more time with reels and shots than really good people.

因此，现在你几乎能遇到所有人。

And therefore, now you meet almost everyone.

他们就像刚看过的最后10条短视频那样。

They are like the last 10 reels that they have watched.

就像，那就是他们的平均人格。

Like, that's their average personality.

这样不好。

That is not good.

因为如果你让他们逐行解释，就会发现毫无实质内容。

Because if you ask them एक नीचे एक line उसके ऊपर, there is no substance.

是啊。

Yeah.

That is so true.

That is so true.

That is so so true.

That is so so true.

You know, you tweeted something about it.

You know, you tweeted something about it.

You said, mediocre people often have a clear tell.

You said, mediocre people often have a clear tell.

You'll often see them hanging out with other mediocre people probably because the A plus folks avoid them.

You'll often see them hanging out with other mediocre people probably because the A plus folks avoid them.

Now when you say that most of the people are average of the 5 people they hang out with and if you come from a mediocre background and you are a mediocre person in that.

Now when you say that most of the people are average of the 5 people they hang out with and if you come from a mediocre background and you are a mediocre person in that.

How do you break out of this?

How do you break out of this?

How do you go to the A plus category because A plus folks are avoiding them.

How do you go to the A plus category because A plus folks are avoiding them.

是的。

Yeah.

首先，所有A+级别的人都觉得自己平庸。

First of all, all A plus folks feel their mediocre.

我不认为平庸的人会觉得自己平庸。

I don't think if the mediocre people feel they are mediocre.

这是第一点。

That's number 1.

第二点是这是个相对概念。

Number 2 is it's a relative term.

对吧？

Right?

并没有明确的分类说这是A+，这是平庸。

There is no categorization कि यह a plus है, यह mediocre.

这是一个光谱，就像我们都知道存在于人类身上的这种等级体系。

It's a spectrum, like and we all know this ranking system that exist on human beings.

例如，如果我们要对库纳尔和拉吉在内容理解方面进行排名，你会远远领先于我。

For example, if we have to rank कुणाल and राज on understanding of content, you would be like miles ahead of me.

对吧？

Right?

在某些话题上，我可能遥遥领先于你，这就是人类的特性。

On on some topics, I would be miles ahead of you and that's what humans are.

对吧？

Right?

例如，如果我们俩要想想谁是最懂车的人，可能就不是我们。

For example, if both of us have to think about who's the best person to understand cars, maybe it's not us.

这是我们一位非常非常擅长的朋友

It's a friend of our's who's very very good at

它。

it.

而他们遥遥领先。

And they are miles ahead.

So there is a spectrum in each of these things.

So there is a spectrum in each of these things.

But anybody who's excellent at anything is not accidentally excellent anything.

But anybody who's excellent at anything is not accidentally excellent anything.

Nobody is gifted to be oh, I am good at cars or I am good at content.

Nobody is gifted to be oh, I am good at cars or I am good at content.

Right?

Right?

It happens because they are obsessive about this and get there.

It happens because they are obsessive about this and get there.

Right?

Right?

Now if you are in a company or people obsessive about anything, you learn something from them.

Now if you are in a company or people obsessive about anything, you learn something from them.

You meet a musician, you meet an athlete, you you meet a startup entrepreneur, you meet somebody who's building great content the way you're doing and you'll always learn.

You meet a musician, you meet an athlete, you you meet a startup entrepreneur, you meet somebody who's building great content the way you're doing and you'll always learn.

Right?

Right?

And is that the relationship?

And is that the relationship?

What I'm saying is that if a relationship is not teaching you something but are only validating you, then growth is limited.

What I'm saying is that if a relationship is not teaching you something but are only validating you, then growth is limited.

How do you find these people who teach?

How do you find these people who teach?

They always exist.

They always exist.

I think people who make us uncomfortable are a good

I think people who make us uncomfortable are a good

set.

set.

That's a good feedback.

That's a good feedback.

Right?

Right?

Because if you think they are right to offends you, that's the exact person to spend time with.

Because if you think they are right to offends you, that's the exact person to spend time with.

But what we do is we judge the tone of their feedback.

But what we do is we judge the tone of their feedback.

I don't judge tone of feedback of anyone.

I don't judge tone of feedback of anyone.

Anybody who mocks me or takes a shot at me or whatever.

Anybody who mocks me or takes a shot at me or whatever.

And if they have some good lesson, I will only remember the lesson.

And if they have some good lesson, I will only remember the lesson.

I will not remember what the tone was and I will not even remember who the person was.

I will not remember what the tone was and I will not even remember who the person was.

But people have, so I often say this but I repeat it, like, people have substance and their own perception about themselves.

But people have, so I often say this but I repeat it, like, people have substance and their own perception about themselves.

जब यह gap बड़ा wide होता है, it's easy to offend people.

जब यह gap बड़ा wide होता है, it's easy to offend people.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Right?

Right?

अगर यह gap छोटा है तो offend नहीं होते लोग.

अगर यह gap छोटा है तो offend नहीं होते लोग.

Right?

Right?

But this gap exists only when you have not improved this part.

But this gap exists only when you have not improved this part.

Right?

Right?

For for example, if you told me that कुणाल, you are so old.

For for example, if you told me that कुणाल, you are so old.

Right?

Right?

Yeah, I am older to you.

Yeah, I am older to you.

So, it's a fact.

So, it's a fact.

How can I be offended by that?

How can I be offended by that?

But a lot of people get offended by these words.

But a lot of people get offended by these words.

Right?

Right?

I often say that, oh कुनाल, if somebody calls you overweight.

I often say that, oh कुनाल, if somebody calls you overweight.

But that's a fact.

But that's a fact.

On all mathematical ways, it's a right answer.

On all mathematical ways, it's a right answer.

But if I'm like, cancel.

But if I'm like, cancel.

So, I think we have reached the point where we have taken so much pride in being offended.

So, I think we have reached the point where we have taken so much pride in being offended.

The good news is you put content out there of being offended, you get too many likes.

The good news is you put content out there of being offended, you get too many likes.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So you think it's a great quality to have.

So you think it's a great quality to have.

So you see so many people on social media are per perpetually putting their outrage out there of being offended.

So you see so many people on social media are per perpetually putting their outrage out there of being offended.

Because multiple people are like, हां, I also agree with this and then they wanna be part of that tribe.

Because multiple people are like, हां, I also agree with this and then they wanna be part of that tribe.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But the really good people or people who are growing people or compounding people have no time to mock someone or be offended by someone, they're too busy achieving what they need to achieve.

But the really good people or people who are growing people or compounding people have no time to mock someone or be offended by someone, they're too busy achieving what they need to achieve.

They don't care.

They don't care.

Right?

Right?

Like, I often say that if you bark back at a dog, are you a dog?

Like, I often say that if you bark back at a dog, are you a dog?

It's as simple as that.

It's as simple as that.

You've you tweeted something on this.

You've you tweeted something on this.

All नौकरी is accepting lower status.

All नौकरी is accepting lower status.

Yeah, It's it's funny.

Yeah, It's it's funny.

Right?

Right?

But we will never mock somebody who's lower status than us.

But we will never mock somebody who's lower status than us.

Imagine you are meeting with friends and you are blocking your staff who drives you.

Imagine you are meeting with friends and you are blocking your staff who drives you.

Have you ever seen that behavior?

Have you ever seen that behavior?

But we all get together and mock our bosses.

But we all get together and mock our bosses.

Mock politicians, mock somebody because it allows people to create a tribe कि god a gossip करेंगे, हम mock करेंगे तो दोस्ती बनेगी हमारी.

Mock politicians, mock somebody because it allows people to create a tribe कि god a gossip करेंगे, हम mock करेंगे तो दोस्ती बनेगी हमारी.

But that's a very cheap way to build bonds.

But that's a very cheap way to build bonds.

But most people do

But most people do

that and they change shit.

that and they change shit.

Why?

Why?

But most people are also not successful,

But most people are also not successful,

no.

no.

You feel successful people don't gossip?

You feel successful people don't gossip?

They they gossip for a very different intent.

They they gossip for a very different intent.

They gossip to no information.

They gossip to no information.

Interesting.

Interesting.

Or improve the intelligence about something.

Or improve the intelligence about something.

It's not their need.

It's not their need.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Successful people actually are extraordinary keeping secrets.

Successful people actually are extraordinary keeping secrets.

You will never see a wealthy person who's terrible at keeping secrets.

You will never see a wealthy person who's terrible at keeping secrets.

You will say, इसको बोल दिया यह आगे नहीं transfer होगा.

You will say, इसको बोल दिया यह आगे नहीं transfer होगा.

They become the holder of asymmetric insights and therefore you create trust with them.

They become the holder of asymmetric insights and therefore you create trust with them.

想想你所有的朋友，你会说‘哎呀这个告诉他就会传出去的’

Think about all your friends that you say अरे यह तो उसको बोलेगा तो आगे हो जाएगा.

你不能信任他们

You can't trust them.

和他们出去玩可能很有趣，但你不会分享那些可能对你有害的私密信息

They might be fun entertaining to go out with but you would not share very intimate information with them that can be damaging to you.

是啊

Yeah.

这太对了

That is so true.

你只会和那些你信任且能保守秘密的人分享某些见解

You share certain insights with people who you trust and who can keep secrets.

这些人通常地位比你高，或者在群体中

And there are often the people who are at the higher status than you or maybe in the group

或者未来更有可能取得成功的人

or are likely to be more successful in the future as well.

Likely to be more.

Likely to be more.

You think people who are able to keep secrets at a young age are likely to be more successful in future.

You think people who are able to keep secrets at a young age are likely to be more successful in future.

So let's just,

So let's just,

let's just break the, all the people who are very successful or wealthy at least, are going to be somebody who are extraordinary at keeping secrets.

let's just break the, all the people who are very successful or wealthy at least, are going to be somebody who are extraordinary at keeping secrets.

Right?

Right?

Which means they don't feel the need कि जो पता चला उसका content बना के आगे दे दिया.

Which means they don't feel the need कि जो पता चला उसका content बना के आगे दे दिया.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Right?

Right?

大多数人保持有趣的方式就是八卦。

Most people the way they remain interesting is to gossip.

得到一些内容后就要告诉别人。

कुछ content मिला and they have to tell people about it.

这就是他们保持有趣的方式。

And that's how they remain interesting.

对吧？

Right?

有些人你跟他们分享一些事，你知道不会传出去。

Some people you share something with them, you know कि आगे नहीं जाएगा.

他们会保守秘密。

They hold it.

我并不是说这一定会成功，因为成功还需要其他因素。

Now, I'm not saying that this is likely to become successful because other factors that come into being successful.

但你很少会看到成功人士不具备这种特质。

But you will rarely see somebody who is successful who doesn't have this trait.

Ok.

Ok.

Fair.

Fair.

So, all wealthy people are good secret keepers.

So, all wealthy people are good secret keepers.

That's what you are saying.

That's what you are saying.

So, it's like a first level, first first in fact

So, it's like a first level, first first in fact

what you will see is that the moment second, third generation who is not good at keeping secrets, the wealth will again go away.

what you will see is that the moment second, third generation who is not good at keeping secrets, the wealth will again go away.

Like wealth, yeah, wealth is like flows

Like wealth, yeah, wealth is like flows

forward.

forward.

Have you seen it?

Have you seen it?

Yeah, you will see it.

Yeah, you will see it.

Observe it next time.

Observe it next time.

Like the second third generation is not good at keeping secrets, the money will flow through them.

Like the second third generation is not good at keeping secrets, the money will flow through them.

Were you good at keeping secrets from childhood?

Were you good at keeping secrets from childhood?

I think I was good at keeping people's trust.

I think I was good at keeping people's trust.

Explain.

Explain.

When people share secrets and they can feel the trust that that was not going to be used against them, you become trustworthy.

When people share secrets and they can feel the trust that that was not going to be used against them, you become trustworthy.

So, it's not about secrets, it's about buying more trustworthy.

So, it's not about secrets, it's about buying more trustworthy.

Most wealthy people will always have a strong correlation of being trustworthy.

Most wealthy people will always have a strong correlation of being trustworthy.

Right?

Right?

And I'm not saying they are generally trustworthy but they are specifically trustworthy.

And I'm not saying they are generally trustworthy but they are specifically trustworthy.

For example, banks will trust them, investors will trust them, employees will trust them.

For example, banks will trust them, investors will trust them, employees will trust them.

Right?

Right?

So, I think I was always the person who people knew that the gossip would not move forward.

So, I think I was always the person who people knew that the gossip would not move forward.

I would never encourage it.

I would never encourage it.

I would never like, I would treat this as a mark of respect that somebody shared something with me.

I would never like, I would treat this as a mark of respect that somebody shared something with me.

Yeah.

Yeah.

It's a

It's a

little bit like being a gold smith.

little bit like being a gold smith.

That if people are storing gold with you,

That if people are storing gold with you,

then it's

then it's

you have to be somebody that I can be trusted with.

you have to be somebody that I can be trusted with.

But what's the difference?

But what's the difference?

Let's say you you told me you had this when you were pretty young.

Let's say you you told me you had this when you were pretty young.

People of your age, people in your group, might not have this trait.

People of your age, people in your group, might not have this trait.

What was the difference?

What was the difference?

What do you think is difference?

What do you think is difference?

I think

I think

it probably helps to be an introvert.

it probably helps to be an introvert.

Like, you were not trying to be interesting.

Like, you were not trying to be interesting.

But lot of people try to be interesting.

But lot of people try to be interesting.

我知道。

I know.

这也是社会所奖励的事情之一。

That's 1 of the things that society rewards also.

没错，但我想说的是，如果变得有趣是通过成为信息的超级导体来实现的。

Exactly, but I'm saying that if that being interesting comes by being the super conductor of information.

从这里获得并在其上添加香料后继续推进，对吧？

यहां से मिला उस पर मसाला के आगे बढ़ाया, right?

这不太可能赢得尊重，但会获得喜爱，

It's unlike to be crading respect, will be liked,

同意。

agreed.

所以我认为关键指标是，人们大多试图被喜欢而非被尊重。

So I think the key metric is people are mostly trying to be liked not respected.

所有社交媒体都让'点赞'成为现实。

All social media has made likes happen.

Respect कहां है?

Respect कहां है?

Why do you think people are, people want to be likedd more than they want to be respected?

Why do you think people are, people want to be likedd more than they want to be respected?

Because when you ask people, everybody will say they wanna be respected but their actions tell you otherwise.

Because when you ask people, everybody will say they wanna be respected but their actions tell you otherwise.

It's about how we shape the society, right?

It's about how we shape the society, right?

Respect is a long term behavior like is a short term behavior.

Respect is a long term behavior like is a short term behavior.

Right?

Right?

Can I do 1 thing and be respected?

Can I do 1 thing and be respected?

No.

No.

But I

But I

can make a nice joke and I can be like by your entire office.

can make a nice joke and I can be like by your entire office.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So, the world is becoming more and more short term and less and less long term.

So, the world is becoming more and more short term and less and less long term.

Why?

Why?

Because the society is rewarding that right now.

Because the society is rewarding that right now.

But every now and then the society corrects itself.

But every now and then the society corrects itself.

Ok.

Ok.

Then

Then

we like, oh, should we can't be short term, it will become long term.

we like, oh, should we can't be short term, it will become long term.

Right?

Right?

Imagine the human invention of monogamy, relationships, marriage came from realizing, oh my god, we can't be short term.

Imagine the human invention of monogamy, relationships, marriage came from realizing, oh my god, we can't be short term.

It's not good for society.

It's not good for society.

Look at religion.

Look at religion.

Every religion only does 1 thing, makes you not do short term behavior and make you do long term behavior across any religion.

Every religion only does 1 thing, makes you not do short term behavior and make you do long term behavior across any religion.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Tribal religion to organize religion any country, any state.

Tribal religion to organize religion any country, any state.

Don't do short term behavior do long term behavior.

Don't do short term behavior do long term behavior.

That's the core thing every human realizes के and how do you think religion got invented?

That's the core thing every human realizes के and how do you think religion got invented?

Because you must have seen that humans are not doing well, right?

Because you must have seen that humans are not doing well, right?

For example, do not steal because it causes a cycle of distribution and destruction, violence, deaths, all of that stuff.

For example, do not steal because it causes a cycle of distribution and destruction, violence, deaths, all of that stuff.

So do not steal is be more long term.

So do not steal is be more long term.

In fact, every human behavior that we consider as bad behavior is nothing but a short term behavior.

In fact, every human behavior that we consider as bad behavior is nothing but a short term behavior.

Now, where does the short term behavior come from?

Now, where does the short term behavior come from?

Right?

Right?

We have 2 brains, the near cortex and Emic Dulla.

We have 2 brains, the near cortex and Emic Dulla.

Emic Dulla is the fight or flight animal brain as we call it, or the lizred brain, which is designed for short term.

Emic Dulla is the fight or flight animal brain as we call it, or the lizred brain, which is designed for short term.

In fact, all the joyful stuff that we experience is coming from the short term brain.

In fact, all the joyful stuff that we experience is coming from the short term brain.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Right?

Right?

Being long term makes us successful, makes us wealthy, makes us wise, makes us achieve long term success, makes us healthy, builds our muscle, builds our reputation.

Being long term makes us successful, makes us wealthy, makes us wise, makes us achieve long term success, makes us healthy, builds our muscle, builds our reputation.

All of that comes from there.

All of that comes from there.

In fact, that is the brain that tells the short brain to behave.

In fact, that is the brain that tells the short brain to behave.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Calam down.

Calam down.

And it keep getting strengthened the more and more you do it.

And it keep getting strengthened the more and more you do it.

Practice it.

Practice it.

But the thing is that the more we encourage this smaller brain to become the boss.

But the thing is that the more we encourage this smaller brain to become the boss.

And therefore you will see people who have not very long term about things there either very happy or very sad.

And therefore you will see people who have not very long term about things there either very happy or very sad.

Yeah.

Yeah.

他们有着极端的情绪。

They have that extreme emotions.

对吧？

Right?

但那些更倾向于新皮质的人会说，他们在两种情况下都更加平衡。

But people who are more neo cortics oriented they will say they are more balanced in both the situations.

事实上，你会发现我们使用的许多刺激物，或者说镇静剂，都是为了抑制新皮质。

In fact, you will see that lot of the stimulus or rather sedatives that we have are to suppress the Neo cortex.

当我们喝酒时会感到更快乐和傻笑。

We are happier and gigly when we have alcohol.

对吧？

Right?

这正是为了暂停长期思维，因此我们在醉酒或受到某种

And that's exactly what it is to suspend the long term mind and therefore we are like to do more short term behavior when we are drunk or under some kind of

影响时会做出更多短期行为。

a influence.

所以，整个社会都在鼓励这种行为。

So, overall society is rewarding this.

我们该如何改变它？

How do we change it?

这非常困难。

It's very hard.

社会需要认识到其中的错误，有时这需要几十年时间，然后我们会意识到：天啊，我们都做了些什么？

Society will have to realize the mistakes of it, it takes decades sometimes and we will realize oh my god, what have we done?

然后我们对事物会变得稍微保守一些。

Then we become slightly more conservative about things.

我们会更注重长远考虑。

We become more long term about things.

你是什么时候意识到需要着眼长期而非短期的？

When did you realize that you need to be long term not short term?

我想，比如当我看到家庭经历财务危机时，我意识到某些短期行为导致了整个家庭的困境，对吧？

I think when you see like for example when the family went through financial crisis and I realize कि यार कुछ short term behavior cause this for the whole family, right?

You just start thinking that you need to do more something more long term in nature, right?

You just start thinking that you need to do more something more long term in nature, right?

And what I realize that what was long term is skill, reputation, trust, wisdom, wealth, health and I'm just thinking more and more about these things, right?

And what I realize that what was long term is skill, reputation, trust, wisdom, wealth, health and I'm just thinking more and more about these things, right?

Mattered early on in life because I was never having the luxury.

Mattered early on in life because I was never having the luxury.

I have no, I had no money to hang out with young friends and go for a party or being able to afford a trip.

I have no, I had no money to hang out with young friends and go for a party or being able to afford a trip.

Like, I didn't have the money for anything.

Like, I didn't have the money for anything.

I probably must have taken a trip abroad for fun after many many many years, I probably I was your age or slightly younger.

I probably must have taken a trip abroad for fun after many many many years, I probably I was your age or slightly younger.

When I had done a lot of work to build first something and I think that, for example, we were thrown from our houses to वचौल.

When I had done a lot of work to build first something and I think that, for example, we were thrown from our houses to वचौल.

So, I was the 1 who actually bought a house and home loan before I travel abroad for a vacation.

So, I was the 1 who actually bought a house and home loan before I travel abroad for a vacation.

But the younger generation is doing the exact opposite because they have the support of somebody's house that they know at least my parents house is there or I can go back to their house or whatever.

But the younger generation is doing the exact opposite because they have the support of somebody's house that they know at least my parents house is there or I can go back to their house or whatever.

I didn't have any of that.

I didn't have any of that.

So, I think sometimes not having anything long term forces you to become long term.

So, I think sometimes not having anything long term forces you to become long term.

You said most of us who are driven, they are escaping something.

You said most of us who are driven, they are escaping something.

Were you escaping something?

Were you escaping something?

Yeah, escaping fear of lower.

Yeah, escaping fear of lower.

Poor, See, when you are also poor, when you suddenly become poor in your family, you will start seeing everybody distancing from you.

Poor, See, when you are also poor, when you suddenly become poor in your family, you will start seeing everybody distancing from you.

Friends, family, nobody really wants to hang around with poor people.

Friends, family, nobody really wants to hang around with poor people.

Specially if you have become poor through your own choices and like people try to keep you there but like you know that they don't like want to really hang with you.

Specially if you have become poor through your own choices and like people try to keep you there but like you know that they don't like want to really hang with you.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And that drives you that, ok, you cannot be that.

And that drives you that, ok, you cannot be that.

Right?

Right?

And you're escaping that in some ways but I think it becomes eventually the Australia that you want to continuously escape only.

And you're escaping that in some ways but I think it becomes eventually the Australia that you want to continuously escape only.

Right?

Right?

You're always thinking about I need to escape even more and further and further and further and it drives you.

You're always thinking about I need to escape even more and further and further and further and it drives you.

So, what is your fear today?

So, what is your fear today?

Or what is escape?

Or what is escape?

What is escape today?

What is escape today?

I think I'm checking today?

I think I'm checking today?

I think more my my fear always remains in that if I don't understand things, for me not understanding how things work and becoming better at things that I don't have an understanding of is what drives me.

I think more my my fear always remains in that if I don't understand things, for me not understanding how things work and becoming better at things that I don't have an understanding of is what drives me.

फिर of irrelevant.

फिर of irrelevant.

That I, what if I don't understand the younger generation?

That I, what if I don't understand the younger generation?

Right, like what if I don't see what they are doing and and understand their patterns.

Right, like what if I don't see what they are doing and and understand their patterns.

For example, how is AI going to shape our behaviors?

For example, how is AI going to shape our behaviors?

我对这个非常非常感兴趣。

I am very very interested in that.

对吧？

Right?

因为这是常态。

Because this is a norm.

我们我们我们没有意识到，但也许大多数人已经与他们的AI建立了某种关系。

We we we not realize it but maybe a large majority of people already having some version of relationship with their AI.

是的。

Yeah.

例如，假设你是男性或女性，你与你的可充电性（注：此处应为‘可对话性’或‘AI伴侣’，根据上下文推测原文可能有误）建立了更充实的关系。

And that ships for example, say you are a male or female and you have a more fulfilling relationship with your chargeability.

如果你发现人际关系变得

What if you find human relationships to be

次优？

subopting?

很有可能。

Highly possible.

那人类社会将会变成什么样子？

What will happen to human society then?

就像，如果你不考虑这些事情，在它们发生之前你不太可能采取行动或意识到它们。

Like, if you don't think about these things, you're unlikely to do something about or be aware of it before it happens.

看，如果你减少，如果你持有对生活越来越少的惊喜的心态。

See, I'm if you reduce, if you have the mindset of having less and less surprises about life.

这将需要你不断对事物保持警觉。

It will require you to constantly be aware about things.

但为什么需要理解这件事呢？

But why is this need to understand this thing?

为什么需要预测或试图寻找一个尚未出现但可能成为问题的问题？

Why is this need to predict or try to find a problem which is not there yet but might become a problem.

是什么驱使你实际上思考如果未来人们与AI建立关系，我该怎么办？

What drives you do actually कि कल पर अगर relationship लोग AI से बनाएंगे तो मैं क्या करूंगा?