1030. Q&AF：战胜“贫穷心态”，成功会改变他人的对待方式吗？社交媒体成功带来的压力

好吧。

Okay.

听我说，兄弟。

Look, dude.

有理想主义，也有现实主义。

There's idealism, and then there's realism.

对。

Yeah.

明白吗？

Okay?

这是理想主义的答案。

Here's the idealism answer.

真正重要的，只有你内心的想法。

The only thing that matters is in your heart.

最重要的是你是个好人，对人友善。

All that matters is that you're a good person and that you're nice to people.

那只是

That's

对。

right.

这才是最重要的。

That's all that matters.

这才是最重要的。

That's all that matters.

真正重要的是。

All that matters is that.

人人都一样，都这样都那样。

And everybody's the same and everybody's this and everybody's that.

这不对。

That is not true.

对人友善重要吗？

Is it important to be nice to people?

是的。

Yes.

拥有坚强的品格重要吗？

Does it matter to have strong character?

是的。

Yes.

但如果你根本没有发挥出自己最大的潜力，你的品格又算多坚强呢？

But how strong is your character if you actually aren't the best that you could be?

明白吗？

Okay?

如果你根本不打算把上帝赐予你的天赋贡献给这个世界，你又算得上是怎样的人呢？

How good of a person are you actually if you're not actually trying to put your gifts that were given to you by God into the world?

明白吗？

Okay?

这是《圣经》里的一个原则。

It's a biblical principle.

就是才干的比喻。

The parables of the talents.

你去读读看吧，兄弟。

You can fucking read about it, dude.

明白吗？

Okay?

你有责任做到最好的自己。

You have an obligation to become the best that you can be.

你以为只要坐着浪费生命，再装出一副道德高尚的样子，就能算好人？那根本站不住脚。

And this idea that you could sit around and waste your life and some morally posture yourself as this good person, that's just not real.

这不对。

It's not true.

所以那些理想主义者总说，只要做个好人就够了。

So the idealist people will say shit like, All that matters is that you're a nice person.

不，那远远不够。

No, that matters.

那可不是唯一重要的事，明白吗？

That's not all that matters, okay?

现实的说法是，人人都会根据你的举止、待人方式、外表、赚多少钱、成就如何来评判你，这些事真的很重要，不管你认不认同。

And the realist answer is everybody's gonna judge you based upon how you carry yourself, how you treat people, how you look, what kind of money you make, how your success is, these things fucking matter whether you think it's right or wrong.

这就是现实。

It's just reality.

对。

Yeah.

你走进一间屋子，身材健壮，这本身就传递了信息。

When you walk into a room and you are fit, it sends a message.

它在说：我一切都掌控得很好。

It says, I have my shit together.

我能控制一些别人控制不了的事。

I can control things that other people can't control.

我把生活当回事。

I take my life serious.

这个人自然会得到更多尊重。

That person automatically gets more respect.

这个人也会获得更多信任，因为大家觉得他连小事都不会搞砸。

That person automatically gets more trust because people know they're not gonna fumble the ball on little shit.

明白吗？

Okay?

所以没错，你的身体状态好坏，会极大影响别人怎么对待你。

So yes, the world treats you massively differently depending on how physically fit you are.

说到钱，情况也是一样。

Now when it comes to money, it's the same thing.

很多这类事背后，其实就是别人想分一杯羹。

A lot of that shit comes from, you know, people wanting to get a little piece of it.

会对你不一样。

Will treat

对你不一样。

you different.

明白吗？

Know?

很多人对你态度不一样，就是想从你碗里分一口汤。

There's a lot of people that will treat you different because they want a little bite of your fucking off your plate.

我说的不是这种人。

That's not the people I'm talking about.

明白吗？

Okay?

要想成功，得靠其他已经成功的人认可你，觉得你也算有点本事，机会才来。

To be successful, it takes other people that are successful to recognize that you are somewhat successful, and that's where the opportunities come from.

明白吗？

Okay?

总有人说人脉就是财富，但前提是你自己得有分量。

Everybody keeps saying, oh, well, network is your net worth, not if you're a piece of shit.

没错。

That's right.

明白吗？

Okay?

你花多少钱都没用。

It doesn't matter how much you pay.

不管你待在哪个房间，关键是你得进对那个圈子。

It doesn't matter how how what room you're in or I gotta get in the right room.

如果你自己都乱七八糟，是个不靠谱的大块头，现实生活里啥正事也干不成，那你再怎么努力讨好房间里的人也没用，他们一眼就能看穿你。

If you don't have your shit together and you are a big fat motherfucker and you're not doing things in real life, you're still not gonna get the opportunities no matter how hard you try to impress the other people in the room because they're gonna see you for what you are.

你是个连自己都兑现不了承诺的人。

You're someone that can't fulfill promises, not even to yourself.

你对细节完全不上心。

You're someone who's not detail oriented.

你根本没把正经事当回事。

You're not serious about taking things serious.

没人会信任这样的人，因为这就是事实。

People don't trust people like that because it's the truth.

对。

Mhmm.

如果你连对自己的承诺都做不到，也无法对自己保持高标准，那些成功的人凭什么愿意跟你谈生意？

If you can't keep promises to yourself and you can't hold yourself to a high standard, why would any of these other successful people wanna do anything business wise with you?

而这一点，是达到一定高度所必需的。

And that is required to get to certain levels.

明白吗？

Okay?

所以，没错，人脉确实某种程度上就是你的资产，但前提是，你得能融入那些人当中。

So, yes, your network is your net worth, sort of, as long as you, like, fit in with those people.

是的。

Yeah.

没错。

Yeah.

我不是说你要模仿他们，穿一样的衣服。

I don't mean be like those people, don't wear the same clothes.

我是说，你要对自己有高标准。

I mean hold yourself to a high standard.

我是说，你要认真对待自己。

I mean taking yourself seriously.

我是说，你要活出成功该有的样子。

I mean living what success is supposed to look like.

然后呢，那些比你更成功的人就会注意到，他们会说：哎，你看——

And then what happens is is these people up the ladder from you, they will recognize this and they'll say, you know what?

我身家上十亿了。

I'm worth a billion plus dollars.

那家伙一年才赚五十万，但你看看人家多有条理。

That guy's only doing, you know, $500,000 a year, but look how fucking much he has his shit together.

我得帮帮这哥们儿。

Let me help this dude.

我得给他点支持。

Let me do something for this guy.

让我和这位兄弟合作一下。

Let me work with this guy.

因为他们看重的是你付出的努力，不是你说了什么，而是你看起来怎么样、实际在做什么。

Because they recognize the effort that is being put in, not because of what you say, but because of how you look and what you're actually doing.

这才是真本事。

And that is real shit.

对。

Yeah.

这在商业关系里也一样。

And that goes for business relationships.

在人际关系里也一样。

That goes for personal relationships.

对朋友也是如此。

It goes for your friends.

对恋人、潜在伴侣也一样。

It goes for girlfriends, boyfriends, potential mates.

老兄，我真搞不懂一件事。

Like, dude, here's the one thing I can't understand.

你看看外面那些家伙，整个人都乱七八糟的。

Is, like, you see all these fucking dudes out here that don't have their shit together.

胖得不行，赚不到钱，

They're overweight.

可他们居然觉得自己配得上最漂亮的女生？这到底凭什么？

They don't make any money, and somehow they feel entitled to, like, the most beautiful women that that are, like, the most desire what the fuck?

你到底觉得自己是谁啊？

Who the fuck do you think you are, bro?

人家根本没必要欠你什么。

They don't owe you shit.

人家有资本，自然想找一个同样靠谱的人。而你作为男人，该做的就是当个提供者和保护者。

They have assets and they're looking to have match with someone who also and your job as a fucking man is to be a provider and a protector.

如果你整天打游戏、没收入、生活一团糟，那你就只能得到你配得上的东西。

And if you're a sloppy idiot that plays video games all day and doesn't make any money, doesn't have shit together, dude, you're not gonna you're gonna get what you are.

说到底，兄弟，就是这么回事。

And really, that's the bottom line, bro.

对，兄弟。

Yeah, bro.

说到底，就是这个道理。

That's the bottom line.

是的。

Yeah.

你从这个世界得到的，正是你本身的样子。

You are going to get from the world what you are.

就这么简单。

That's it.

你得先把自己建起来。

And you've gotta build that first.

那还重要吗？

So does it matter?

是的。

Yeah.

一点关系都没有。

Doesn't matter a little either.

这跟他妈的一切都有关，兄弟。

It's like fucking everything, dude.

我不是说你身材不好就完全没法取得一点成功。

Now I'm not saying you can't be marginally successful being out of shape.

我就是。

I was.

兄弟，我当时都快觉得算了。

Dude, I was about to be like, okay.

我当时就是，就是……

I was I I

大多数人根本不知道这一点，兄弟。

was Most people don't know that, dude.

大多数人根本不知道。

Most people do not know.

你那时候你那时候我

You were you were I

体重三百五十磅。

was three hundred fifty pounds.

当你听到我讲，听到我说‘胖鬼’的时候，你要明白，我有资格这么说，因为我真的懂那种感觉。

Were When you hear me fucking talk about when you hear me say, hey, fat fuck, understand, I can say that, because I know what the fuck it's like.

我知道连续十年不敢去泳池派对，就因为不敢脱衣服。

I know what it's like to not go to a pool party for ten fucking years because I'm embarrassed to take my shirt off.

我知道每天穿同一件衣服是什么感觉，就想着能骗别人看起来没那么胖。

I know what it's like to wear the same outfit every motherfucking day, because I thought that it was like fooling everybody into looking that slimmer than it was.

我知道讨厌买衣服是什么滋味。

I know what it's like to hate going shopping for clothes.

我知道整天拽着衣服是因为自己太胖是什么感受。

I know what it's like to tug on my clothes all the time because I'm fucking fat.

我懂那种感觉。

I know what it's like.

所以我才说什么身体积极运动全是扯淡，现在你们也明白了吧，真相就是如此。

That's why I know the body positivity movement's all bullshit, and now you all know it's bullshit too because here's the reality.

两年前那些大肆鼓吹这玩意儿的人，现在都用了奥兹empic，瘦了将近一百公斤。

All those people preaching it two years ago, I took Ozempic, they've lost 200 pounds.

如果他们真对自己满意，那为啥要瘦掉一百公斤？

So if they were really fucking happy with who the fuck they are, then why did they lose 200 fucking pounds?

没错。

That's right.

好吧，他们全都是在装样子。

Okay, they're all full of shit.

你可以一直骗自己。

Okay, you could convince yourself all you want.

你可以说，也没那么糟。

You could say, oh, it's not that bad.

那是你在跟自己讨价还价。

It's got the that's you negotiating with yourself.

那是你在骗自己，这正是那些走在你前面的人不愿跟你合作的原因。

That's you telling yourself lies, and that is the exact reason why people who are ahead of the ahead on the food chain don't wanna work with you.

因为你相信了自己编的谎话。

Because you believe your own lies.

这确实是最糟糕的部分。

Oh, that's the worst part.

真的，这最让人头疼。

That's the worst part, dude.

大多数人根本不知道这一点。

Most people don't know that.

我记得，那时候我们好像在加州谈话。

I remember, I think we were in California during that talk.

你还记得那个站起来的人吗？

You remember that guy that stood Yeah.

是的。

Mhmm.

你知道的，对。

You know Yeah.

他直接站起来了，说他至少有三百五十磅。

He fucking stands up and he goes he goes he's at least three fifty.

至少。

At least.

至少。

At least.

对。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

至少。

At least.

我觉得我得给他点赞，这事儿他干得不错。

I would say I'm giving him some fucking credit there.

对。

Yeah.

他讲义气，站起来就说：兄弟，听我说。

Being loyal He stands up and he's like, yo, man.

我跟你一样，真的，我就跟你一个样。

I'm I'm this you know, I'm just like you, dude.

我想法跟你一样，心态也差不多。

I got the same mentality and this and that

而且我干得特别出色。

and I'm killing it.

你懂的。

You know?

我看着他，心里想：行吧。

And I looked at him and I'm like, okay.

有成千上万人，我就说过这话。

There's thousands and I said this.

我说过，这房间里有成千上万人。

I said, there's thousands of people in this room.

你真要我现在就回应这个吗？

Do you really want me to address that right now?

是的。

Yeah.

对。

Yeah.

当然了。

Of course.

没错。

Yeah.

我说了，你他妈纯属胡说八道。

I said, well, you're fucking full of shit.

你他妈都三百八十磅了，兄弟。

You're fucking three hundred and fucking eighty pounds, bro.

你跟我根本不是一类人。

You ain't nothing like me.

你可能觉得自己是，但你根本不是。

You might think you are, but you're fucking not.

你可能想成为那样的人，但你不是，因为你根本没资格。

You might wanna be, but you're fucking not because you have not fucking earned it.

这就是事实。

That is the truth.

有人说，没人比谁更高明。

And people say, well, no one's better than anybody else.

这又是另一个谎言。

That is another fucking lie.

明白吗？

Okay?

有些人就是更强。

There are people that are better.

这就是现实，兄弟。

That's reality, dude.

对。

Mhmm.

明白吗？

Okay?

我们可以骗自己，说哎呀，你知道的，然后争论这到底对不对。

And we can lie to ourselves and say, oh, well, you know, and we can argue whether it's right or wrong.

但那不是我们现在要谈的。

But that's not what we're talking about.

我们现在谈的是事实到底是什么。

We're talking about what is and isn't.

对。

Mhmm.

现实就是，人们会因为你外表怎么样、你有多成功，还有其他一大堆乱七八糟的因素，对你完全另眼相待。

And what is is that people will treat you entirely different based upon your physical appearance, based upon how successful you are, based upon all this other shit.

你九岁那会儿你妈跟你说，内在才最重要——那都是骗人的。

When your mom told you when you were fucking nine years old that all that matters on the inside, that's a lie.

没错。

Yep.

那就是个谎言。

That's a lie.

你照着那套去活，结果怎么样啊，兄弟？

How'd that work out for you, bro?

那些女生真买账吗？

Did all the girls appreciate that?

你按那套活，最后怎么样？

How'd that work out for you?

我不是说这不重要。

I'm not saying it doesn't matter.

我的意思是，还有别的事情也很重要。

I'm saying there's other things that matter too.

同样重要。

As well.

没错。

Yeah.

所以说确实如此。

So Yeah.

别搞错了。

Make no mistake.

做个好人，才是这一切的根本基础。

Being a good person is the fundamental foundation of all of this shit.

就算你身材好、赚得多，但为人很差，照样混不下去。

Because you could be fit, you could make money, and you could be a shithead, and you still won't get ahead.

明白吗？

Okay?

还有另一种普遍看法，纯属胡说八道。

And there's that's another common belief that's total bullshit.

那些顶层的人，全是一群空谈家。

All these guys at the top, they're all a bunch of fucking blah blah blah.

这不过是穷困的人对他们的污蔑之词。

That's just lies that broke people say about these people.

明白吗？

Okay?

我认识的最成功的人，也是我认识的最好的人。

The most successful people I know are also the best people I know.

这可是实话。

That's the truth.

就是真正善良的人。

Like just good people.

他们都是好人。

They're good people.

是的

Yeah.

他们做正确的事。

They do the right thing.

如果你是个混蛋，怎么可能有五百人、两千人，甚至上万人愿意追随你或为你工作？

You can't have 500, a 2,000, 10,000 people that wanna follow you or work for you when you're a fucking piece of shit.

这根本行不通。

It won't work.

对

Mhmm.

明白吗？

Okay?

所以，你妈妈说得对。

So, yes, your mom was correct.

做个好人确实是这一切的根本基础，但光有这个还不够，还有很多其他重要的东西。

Being a good person is the fundamental fucking foundation for all of it, but there's a lot more that matters than just that.

这样可没法让你达到你想去的地方。

That's not gonna get you where you wanna go.

你得是个全方位的人。

You gotta have be the whole package.

所以别人对你态度不一样吗？

So do people treat you different?

那当然了。

Fucking a.

差别可大了。

Way different.

根本没法比。

It's not even close.

压根不是一个档次。

It's not even in the same ballpark.

简直是天壤之别。

It is literally alpha and omega difference.

明白吗？

Okay?

就是从头到尾的区别。

It's a and z.

这是生死之别。

It's life and death.

差距就是这么大。

It's that much different.

完全是天壤之别。

It's polar fucking opposite.

对。

Yeah.

明白吗？

Okay?

我知道，因为我亲身经历过。

And I know because I lived it.

明白吧？

Alright?

所以当你听到我说这些的时候，是这样的。

So when you hear me say this shit Yeah.

就拿我以前胖的时候来说，根本没人愿意跟我合作。

Understand, like when I was fat, nobody was fucking wanting to work with me.

没人当真对待我。

Nobody was taking me seriously.

我以前特别生气，直到有一天我意识到，他们说得对。

And I used to get pissed until one day I realized they were right.

然后我就改了。

And I fixed it.

是的。

Yeah.

而且，说句题外话，你

And, like, for context, you

你那时候虽然胖，但状态还不错吧？

were you were you were pretty You were doing okay even when you were big though, right?

或者说，到那时为止，情况还行，对吧？

Or to that point, right?

我们当时有个一亿美元的生意。

We had a $100,000,000 business.

是啊，这真够疯狂的。

Yeah, that's crazy.

我只是想说，但我的其他生活一团糟。

So I'm just saying, but the rest of my life was fucked up.

对啊。

Mhmm.

我不是个称职的领导者。

I wasn't a good leader.

真的，你想想，老兄。

Wasn't Dude, like, look, dude.

你现在做的任何事，都会被这些东西放大。

Whatever it is you're doing right now can only be amplified by those things.

但总会遇到一个天花板，除非你家真的富得离谱，那就不在乎了，明白吗？

And there will come a ceiling that you get to unless you're just absurdly family wealthy and it doesn't matter, okay?

比如伊利诺伊州的州长普利茨克，你知道吧？

Like you take a guy like Pritzker, who's the governor of Illinois, okay?

这钱来得不干净，亲爱的。

That's blood money, darling.

他体重四百磅，听说瘦了一点，这点我得给他点赞。

He's four hundred pounds, I think he's lost a little weight, which I give him credit for.

我对他政治上一点好感都没有。

I'm not a political fan of him at all.

我觉得他确实瘦了一点。

I think he has lost a little bit of weight.

这挺好的。

Good for him.

但他要是没有家族的支持，根本不可能坐上这个位置。

But he could not have gotten that position unless he would have had that family backing.

这跟他是谁根本没关系。

It's not based around who he actually is.

关键在于他能带来什么价值。

It's based around what he brings to the table.

他带来的资金实力足够强大，让他一路走到了相当高的位置。

And he brings enough leverage to the table monetarily that it got him far it got him pretty far.

但你猜怎么着？

But guess what?

你可不是他。

That ain't you.

你永远也不可能变成他。

It ain't never gonna be you.

所以我们没必要争论对错、有没有道理，不如直接面对现实：你到底需要什么才能成功。

So we can argue about what's right or wrong or what is or isn't, or we can just address the reality and the bottom line of what it's gonna take for you.

而你要想成功，就像我一样，必须认真对待每一个细节。

And what it's gonna take for you, just like what it's taken for me, is to take every motherfucking detail seriously.

每一个细节都不能放过。

Every single one.

你根本没资格在只使出一半力气的情况下赢过那些人。

You are not good enough to beat these other people at half your game.

你确实没这个本事。

You're just not.

我也没这个本事，但我照样能把你打得落花流水。

I'm fucking not, and I'll beat the fuck out of you.

没错。

That's right.

明白了吗？

Okay?

没错。

That's right.

在生意场上。

In business.

没错。

That's right.

你明白我的意思吗？

You get what I'm saying?

没错。

That's right.

不，这是真的。

No, that's real.

所以啊，老兄，这事儿就是没人愿意承认。

So Yeah, dude, it's like, dude, it's a thing that nobody really just wants to admit it to.

我在对正在听的人说话。

Like, I'm speaking to the person listening.

你对人的态度是不一样的。

You treat people differently.

你心里清楚你确实这样。

You know you do.

你心里清楚你确实这样。

You know you do.

光是从他们的样子、气质，你就对他们不一样对待。

Just from how they look, how they like, you treat them differently.

但没人愿意承认，因为这听起来不太体面。

But nobody wants to admit, like, nobody wants to admit that because it doesn't sound nice.

那是因为他们是理想主义者。

That's because they're idealists.

对。

Yeah.

这个节目叫《真实到爆》。

This show is called Real AF.

它不叫《理想化人生》，这是真相，不是另一个播客主说‘你已经足够好了’那种。

It's not called Ideal This is the truth and this is not another podcaster that says, oh, you know, you're enough.

不，你根本不是。

No, the fuck you aren't.

还不够。

Not enough.

你本可以，但现在还不是。

You could be, but you ain't right now.

这就是你得明白的。

And that's what you gotta realize.

明白吗？

Okay?

你现在就是一块未经雕琢的原始花岗岩。

You are a raw fucking piece of granite that has not been chiseled out yet.

你得拿起锤子，把你想打造的东西一点一点凿出来。

And you need to get the fucking hammer in so that you can chisel out what the fuck you're trying to create.

等你雕成了，人们自然会欣赏。

And then once that thing is sculpted, people appreciate it.

没人会欣赏一块光秃秃躺在那里的大理石原石。

Nobody appreciates a big block of granite when it's just sitting there.

根本没人会走进来说：‘嘿，快看这个。’

It's just fucking Nobody comes in and says, nobody comes in and says, there's a, look at this.

大卫雕像和那块原始石料一样美。

That sculpture of David is just as beautiful as that block of granite.

历史上从来没人说过这种话。

There's not a fucking single person in history that's ever said that.

所以你觉得你能成为第一个？

So you think you're gonna be the first one?

那你有这个能力吗？

Now do you have the ability to do that?

当然有。

Sure.

那你有在做吗？

Are you doing it?

也许吧。

Maybe.

你有没有发挥出全部的实力？

Have you done it to your maximum ability?

大概没有。

Probably not.

如果你真想成为你所说的那种人，你就该已经成了。

And if you wanna be what it is you say you wanna be, you would become that.

太棒了，兄弟。

I love it, dude.

太棒了，老兄。

I love it, man.

各位，安迪，我们第三个也是最后一个问题是。

Guys, Andy, our third and final question.

这儿有个年轻人。

Got a young buck here.

第三个问题。

Question number three.

安迪，我觉得社交媒体彻底扭曲了我对成功的理解。

Andy, I believe social media has completely messed up my perception of success.

我今年23岁，每天都能看到跟我同龄的人说自己已经是百万富翁了。

I'm 23, and every day, I see people my age claiming they're millionaires.

他们买表。

They're buying watches.

他们买车。

They're buying cars.

他们买房。

They're buying houses.

而我呢，还在努力

Meanwhile, I'm trying

找清楚自己的职业方向，按时交房租。

to figure out my career and pay my rent on time.

说实话，我知道比较没意义，但还是总忍不住往心里去。

Realistically, I know comparison is stupid, but it still gets in my head.

那你觉得我该怎么专注现实，而不是总被网络搞得觉得自己落后了？

So how do you recommend I stay focused on the real world when the Internet constantly makes me feel behind?

嗯，有道理。

Okay.

这里头有几点要注意。

There's a couple things here.

第一，你得明白，你没做错什么。

Number one, you have to understand you're not wrong.

明白吗？

Okay?

我亲眼看着互联网一路发展过来的。

I have watched the Internet evolve.

你懂吧？

Alright?

我2012年刚开始用社交媒体的时候，上面只有少数几个创业者，他们给出的建议很实在，而且真的做出了实际的东西。

When I started on social media in 2012, you had a few entrepreneurs that were giving good advice that had actually built real things.

我说的实际东西，就是你能看得见、能买到他们的产品。

Like, what I mean by real things is like you could see them, you could order their product.

他们真有货，真在做生意。

They were like, they had real shit, real businesses.

明白吗？

Okay?

现在呢，这一切变成了一场盛大的表演秀。

Now, this has evolved into a big horse and pony show.

这些年轻人呢，出去搞个所谓的赚钱门道，然后把赚来的钱全拿去租一辆兰博基尼，签个十二年只付利息的租约，就是为了装样子，让你——真正的普通人——看了之后觉得：我得买他们卖的东西。

And these kids, what they do is they go out, they create some sort of hustle, and then they take all that money and they go lease a fucking Lamborghini for whatever, for a twelve year interest only lease trying to posture so that you, the actual guy, will look at them and say, I'm gonna buy whatever they're selling.

他们肯定有两下子。

They must be doing something right.

没错。

Right.

是的。

Yeah.

这彻底扭曲了人们对创业真实含义的理解。

This has completely fucked the perception of what entrepreneurship is actually about.

创业是你一生中会做出的最艰难的工作。

Entrepreneurship is the hardest fucking job you will ever choose in your entire life.

当你看到某个年轻人说，我23岁就做到了，你是怎么做到的？

And when you see some kid out there saying, I'm the guy that got this at 23, how did you get it?

你的公司在哪里？

Where's your company?

你的员工在哪里？

Where's your employees?

你卖的是什么产品？

What do you ship?

你提供什么服务？

What service do you offer?

我能跟你客户聊聊吗？

Can I talk to your customers?

他们在哪？

Where are they?

他们是谁？

Who are they?

明白吗？

Okay?

你得学会分辨这些假象，因为根本不需要卖多少产品或者搞什么花哨玩意儿，就能租个每月三千块的办公室，装出一副成功的样子，懂吗？

And you have to learn to vet this shit out because it doesn't take a whole bunch of selling widgets or bullshit to afford a $3,000 a month lease to then pretend to be successful, okay?

你得搞清楚真伪。

You have to know the difference.

如果你连真假都分不出来，那你也别想成功。

And if you lack the discernment to be able to tell the difference, you're not gonna be successful anyway.

因为你根本没那个本事。

Because you don't have enough intelligence to do it.

这不过是实话。

That's just the truth.

毕竟，你得有最基本的认知能力，能做背景调查，判断一个人是不是真的，这很重要。

Like there's a bare minimum you can There is a bare minimum intelligence that's required, and being able to do due diligence, to understand if someone is real or not, that's one of them.

而且说实话，问题就在于我们总想相信这种故事。

And dude, part of the problem is we wanna believe that story.

对。

Yeah.

明白吗？

Okay?

尤其是你十九、二十、二十一、二十二岁的时候，特别容易相信这些。

Especially when we're 19, 20, 21, 22, we wanna believe it.

我们总想相信，自己也能成为那个二十四岁就开着法拉利、躺在游艇上的人。

We wanna believe that we can be the guy who's on a yacht, you know, and driving a fucking Bugatti when they're 24 years old.

我们就是想，因为这听起来实在太酷了。

We wanna, because that sounds fucking awesome, man.

你做得到的。

You can do it.

老兄，我24岁的时候，要是有人跟我说‘你也能开上布加迪’，我肯定信了，心里还琢磨：他们到底是怎么做到的？

Bro, when I was 24, if someone was saying, oh, dude, you could drive a Bugatti, I for sure would've bought their shit, because I'm like, how the fuck did they do it?

你缺乏足够的见识，没法看清这事儿的真相，这才是大问题。

So you lack the perspective to understand what it's actually about, and this is a big problem.

这就导致很多根本不适合创业的人，误以为这条路适合他们。

And what it does is it creates this issue where a lot of people who are not cut out for the lane of entrepreneurship start believing that that's the right lane for them to be in.

但他们根本不是这块料，老兄。

But they're not built for it, bro.

这事儿难到离谱。

It's hard as fuck.

得搭上你所有的一切。

It takes everything you got.

你得愿意放弃很多东西。

You have to be willing to give things up.

你会失去一些人际关系。

You're gonna lose relationships.

你会失去朋友。

You're gonna lose friends.

要想成功，你得放弃很多东西。

You're gonna lose fucking a lot of shit to be successful.

你会错过很多机会。

You're gonna pass up on a lot of shit.

而且你得这样坚持很长一段时间。

And you're gonna have to do that for a really long time.

在这整个过程中，你都会怀疑这一切到底能不能成。

And that entire time that you're doing it, you're gonna have to wonder if it's ever gonna work out.

真正能一直埋头苦干、却始终不知道会不会有结果的人，少之又少。

Very few people are actually set up to just hammer and hammer and hammer and hammer and never know if it's actually gonna materialize.

这种人，真是特别罕见。

That is a fucking special kind of person.

这种心理韧性很特别，不是每个人都能扛得住。

That's a special kind of mental toughness, and not everybody's equipped for that.

也不是每个人都愿意放弃周末、夜晚和聚餐，其实也没必要。

And not everybody wants to give up their weekends and their nights and their dinners, nor should they.

确实没必要。

Nor should they.

踏踏实实赚钱，过一种让你开心的平衡生活，完全没问题。

There's nothing wrong with earning an honest living and having a balanced life that makes you happy.

你没必要非得这样。

You don't have to be this.

你真的没必要。

You don't have to.

但那些真想要的人，就得能分清什么是真的，什么是假的。

But for the ones that really want it, you have to be able to discern what's real and what's fake.

这世上假东西太多了，他们几乎没法分辨，因为这些人装得特别像，而你缺少那种视角——像我这样在现实中真正干出过大事的人，回头看时才看得清楚。

And there's so much fake out here that it's almost impossible for them to tell because these people are good at faking it and you lack the perspective that someone like me who's built really fucking massive things in real life has from looking back down the mountain.

明白吧？

Okay?

当你在山脚下，看到有人已经爬了四分之一，你就会想，天哪，他怎么这么快就上去了？

Like, when you're at the bottom of the mountain and you see someone that is, you know, a quarter of the way up and you're like, fuck, how'd he get there so fast?

可你没看见直升机飞过来，直接把他扔在那儿了。

Well, you didn't see the helicopter come over and drop him the fuck off.

对。

Mhmm.

你知道的，那都是绿幕拍的。

You know, that it's a green screen.

是的。

Yeah.

没错。

Yes.

你根本没看到那些事儿，兄弟。

You didn't see that shit, dude.

是的。

Yeah.

你得明白，网上这99%的人全在吹牛扯淡。

So you have to realize that, like, literally, 99% of these people on the internet are full of fucking shit.

说真的。

Real talk.

到此为止。

Full stop.

99%。

99%.

如果你看不到他们的公司，买不到他们的产品，也联系不上他们的客户，或者根本没有服务，根本认不出是哪家企业，他们也不肯告诉你——这些全是明显的警告信号，你必须搞清楚。

If you can't see their company and you can't order their product and you can't talk to their customers or they don't have a service or they don't you can't recognize the businesses or they won't tell you the businesses or they like, that's all red flag shit that you have to fucking understand.

每个如果，让我问你一个问题。

Every if let me ask you this.

如果你真有那么多实体企业，有一大堆小公司运营着，你真在认真做事，那有什么理由会不告诉别人呢？

If you had real businesses and you had this massive portfolio of small businesses and shit and all these things going on and you were actually trying to, wouldn't you tell, what would be the reason you wouldn't tell people that?

如果你真想帮人们做这件事的话。

If that's what you're trying to help people do.

那你为什么要藏着掖着？

Why would you hide that?

这完全没道理。

There's no reason for it.

你应该让别人看到才对。

You would be showing people.

你应该亲自去那些企业看看。

You would be going into the businesses.

你会说，这是我合伙的公司。

You would say, Here's this business that I'm partners in.

我们正在做这些事、那些事。

We're doing this and this and this.

这是我们在运营的公司。

Here's this business that we're doing.

我们就是这样做的，一步一步来。

We're doing this and this and this.

这是我和我帮过的人。

Here's this person that I helped.

他们从原来的状态，一路走到了现在。

They did they went from here to here.

那个人会说，没错，是我自己做到的。

And that person would say, yeah, I did it.

这可是实实在在的证据。

Like, there would be real world evidence.

你完全可以去下单买他们的产品。

You'd be able to go order their products.

你还能去看他们的用户评价。

You'd be able to read their reviews.

你得亲自去核实这些事情，明白吗？

This you have to verify this shit, okay?

如果你做不到，那他们就是在撒谎，因为如果真有这回事，他们早就拿这个当卖点大肆宣传了。

If you can't do that, they're fucking lying because if they were doing it, it would be an asset and a marketing advantage for them to show that shit.

你要明白这一点。

So understand that.

现在到处都是人卖数字教练服务，吹嘘自己靠这套方法赚了大钱，可他们除了可能有几辆车，公司到底叫什么名字？

There's all these people out here that are selling digital coaching that are saying, oh, I made all this money doing this and this and this and and this and they got like, they might have a couple cars, they might have, but their businesses, what are the names of them?

他们的公司在哪里？

Where are they?

为什么你从没见过他们拍视频的地方是办公室？既然有这些成就，干嘛总在自家前院拍？

How come you're never shooting how come if you've how come if you have these things, why are you shooting content in your front fucking yard?

对啊。

Yeah.

为什么你从来不在办公室露面？

Why aren't you like, why we never see you in your office?

没错。

Mhmm.

咱们怎么从来没见过你呢？你明白我的意思吧？

Why we never see you you see what I'm saying?

对。

Yeah.

到底是为什么？

Like, why?

因为他们根本就是在骗人。

Because they're lying.

明白吗？

Okay?

他们赚的每一分钱，都是卖给你一些根本没干过的事。

And they're making all of their money selling you something that they never actually did.

明白吗？

Okay?

所以你要心里有数。

So keep that in mind.

你现在得明白，那种说法纯粹是胡扯。

Now what you have to understand is that there's a That's the bullshit.

现实是，你得准备好去闯过这一关。

The reality is that you are going to have to be prepared to run the motherfucking gauntlet.

你猜怎么着？

And guess what?

这一关根本就没完没了。

The gauntlet never fucking ends.

它没有终点。

It's not something there's an end to.

你永远到不了头。

You're not gonna get to the end of it.

兄弟，隧道里根本没有光。

There's no light at the tunnel, bro.

这是一场持续不断的战斗。

It's a constant fight.

这就是你选择的路。

That's the path you're choosing.

你选择了一条贯穿一生的持久战斗，而你将获得的，是一种别人永远体会不到的生活方式和经历。

You are choosing a path of a constant battle that's going to last your entire life, and what you're going to get out of it is a lifestyle and an experience that other people will never have.

我们当然可以争论哪种更好，但事实就是如此。

And we could argue what's better or not, but that's the reality.

明白吗？

Alright?

你不用操心吃饭的钱。

You're not gonna have to worry about paying for dinners.

你不用纠结去哪儿度假。

You're not gonna have to worry about where you go to vacation.

你不用为开哪辆车发愁。

You're not gonna have to worry about which car you wanna drive.

你不用为房贷发愁。

You're not gonna have to worry about making mortgage payments.

那些人就得为这些事操心。

Those people are gonna have to worry about them.

但他们能拥有你没有的东西。

But they are gonna have things that you don't have.

他们能拥有自己的周末。

They are gonna have their weekends.

他们能拥有和家人共度的夜晚。

They are gonna have their nights with their families.

他们还能拥有其他一些你根本无法同等享受的东西。

They are gonna have other things that you just won't be able to have in the same capacity.

所以在你决定投身之前，得先认清现实。

So we gotta understand the reality before you fucking sign up for it.

明白吗？

Okay?

你之前问的是，我总觉得自己落后了。

And your question was, I always feel like I'm behind.

是啊，老兄。

Well, yeah, man.

因为你一直在看网上那些胡扯的东西。

Because you're consuming Internet bullshit.

对。

Yeah.

明白吧？

Okay?

你知道吗，外面有多少人正在实实在在地打拼事业，在真正成功的公司里做实事，可他们也觉得自己远远落后，就是因为那些人撒谎。

You know how many motherfuckers out here are out here building real careers, doing real shit in real companies that are becoming very successful that probably feel like they're way behind because these other people are lying.

我的意思是，这问题可不小。

Like, dude, it's a big problem.

没错。

Yep.

你懂的。

You know?

你得提醒自己，这根本不是真的。

And and you just have to remind yourself, dude, that it's just not real.

对。

Yeah.

就是假的，别当真。

It's just not real shit.

明白吗？

Okay?

我在这行混得够久了。

I've been doing this long enough.

明白吗？

Okay?

在个人成长这事儿上，我已经站在顶点了。

In in the personal development game, there's I couldn't really go any higher.

这可是实话。

That's the truth.

明白吧？

Okay?

我后来实在干腻了。

I got to the point where I got tired of doing it.

2020年我就彻底放下了MFCO。

That's when I switched off MFCO in 2020.

就像我终于赢了这场游戏一样。

Like, it's like I won that game.

你懂我意思吧？

You know what I'm saying?

我其实不是不想做，而是它现在搞出了一堆空洞的烂事。

I just don't that's a whole another thing because now it created a vacuum for all this stupid shit.

你们得想清楚，兄弟。

You guys got to understand, man.

真正去打造点实在的东西，花点时间，这完全没问题。

There's nothing wrong with building something real and it taking a long time.

事情本来就是这样的。

That's actually how it goes.

明白吗？

Okay?

那些跟你说不一样的人，还让你买他们的产品，他们全靠卖货赚钱。

And all these people who are telling you different and then saying buy my shit, they're making all their money off buy my shit.

明白吗？

Okay?

这根本就是装模作样。

It's a fucking act.

对。

Yeah.

这根本就是演出来的角色。

It's a fucking character.

如果你在外面努力工作、聪明做事，真正在打造一些东西，我可以向你保证。

And if you're out there and you're working hard and you're working smart and you're genuinely building something, I can promise you this.