拒绝=重新定向-第15集

大家好。

Hi, guys.

这是《青少年》节目，青少年真心话。

It's Teens And it's Teens Talking Truth.

今天我们能来到这里，感到非常兴奋。

We're so excited to be here today.

我们现在正从圣地亚哥开车回家。

We're actually driving home from San Diego right now.

今天过得特别开心。

We've had such a fun day.

我们去圣地亚哥看望了上大学的兄弟们。

We went to visit our brothers who are in college up in San Diego.

然后，是的，我们现在就在开车。

And, yeah, we're just driving.

这真是一次很棒的行程。

It was a great run.

我们正在做播客的时候，

We had a

后面有辆警车跟着我们，

police just behind us while

我们有点紧张。

we were podcasting, and we were a little nervous.

但你知道吗？

But you know what?

上帝庇护了我们，我们现在很好。

God cut us, and we're doing good.

我们都很好。

We're all fine.

一切都很好。

Everything's fine.

所以今天我们的主题是关于拒绝。

So our topic today, we are going to be talking about rejection.

我们只是想聊聊拒绝，因为我觉得最近我们在这方面经历了很多，比如申请大学之类的。

And we just wanna talk about rejection because I think it's something that we have experienced a lot lately with, like, colleges and just, like, stuff like that.

显然，拒绝是正常的，也是不可避免的。

Obviously, rejection's normal, and it's inevitable.

我觉得我们都经历过拒绝，无论是在感情、事业中，

And I feel like we've all faced rejection whether it's in relationships or careers or,

是的。

like Yeah.

或者个人目标方面。

I don't know, personal goals.

但我只是想谈谈拒绝，以及我们如何将拒绝重新理解为不是坏事，而是一种指引。

But I think I just wanna, like, talk about rejection, how we can reshape rejection into seeing it as, like, not something that's bad, but something that can just be, like, redirection.

而且，我本来想问问热内瓦，她是否有过想分享的关于拒绝的个人经历，或者拒绝在她生活中是如何体现的。

And, yeah, I was gonna ask Geneva if she has any personal experience with rejection that she wants to talk about or how rejection has been in her life.

是的。

Yeah.

拒绝是真实存在的，我觉得我们不愿意向别人承认，因为我们害怕他们会以某种负面的眼光看待我们，天啊。

Rejection is a real thing, and I feel like we don't wanna admit it to people because we're scared that they will look at us in, like, a bad way or, like, oh my gosh.

比如，她没考上那所大学。

Like, she didn't get in that college.

比如，我考上了，不管怎样。

Like, well, I did and whatever it is.

我觉得，无论你人生处于哪个阶段，拒绝都一定会发生。

And, like, I think no matter where you're at in life, like, rejection is going to happen.

而且，显然我们每个人在不同的情境下都会经历拒绝。

And, like, we all have it obviously in different, like, situations.

有的是和人有关，有的是和情况、学校、运动队等等有关。

Like, some are with people and some with are with situations and schools and, you know, sports teams and everything.

但就我个人而言，我一直在通过我的运动与拒绝作斗争。

But I think, personally, I've battled battled with rejection through my sport.

我觉得我曾感到被教练，或者可能被一些队友拒绝了。

I feel like I felt really rejected by my coach or by possibly some teammates.

而且，那真的很难，因为我每天都得在那里。

And, like, that was really hard because I had to be there every day.

是的。

Yeah.

每天我都感受到这种被拒绝的感觉，我觉得这真的让人谦卑，而学会谦卑是件好事，但同时也真的很悲伤，而且我感到羞耻。

And, like, every day I felt that rejection, and I think it was really humbling and humbling being humbled is a really good thing, but it was also really, like, sad and, like, I was shamed.

我有时候会感到羞耻。

I felt shame sometimes.

那你呢？

But how about you?

你觉得你过去或现在是如何应对拒绝的？

How do you feel like you've dealt with rejection in, like, your past or your present?

我觉得我不太擅长应对拒绝。

I think that I am not good at dealing with rejection.

我觉得当我面对拒绝时，我会陷入消极情绪，哪怕只是一次小小的拒绝。

I think that when I'm faced with rejection, like, I think I can spiral a lot, and it, like, it'd be one small rejection.

然后我就想，好吧。

And then I'm like, okay.

所以我被拒绝了。

So I'm rejected.

这意味着我很蠢，意味着我将没有未来，意味着每个人都讨厌我。我真的很擅长胡思乱想，这是一个需要改掉的坏习惯。

So that means I'm stupid, which means I'm gonna have no future, which means everyone hates like, I'm really bad at, like, spiraling, and it's a really bad habit I need to get out of.

所以我会说，我在应对拒绝方面并不擅长，但我会说，我正在努力训练自己，重新塑造对拒绝的看法，因为我觉得这会给我带来巨大的情绪负担。

So I would say I'm not the best at dealing with rejection, but I will say that, like, I'm trying to train myself to, like, reshape how my mind thinks about rejection because I think I can, like it takes reduction takes, like, a really big emotional toll on me.

我觉得我需要承认，被拒绝时带来的伤痛、失望和沮丧都是正常的，要知道感到难过是没问题的，但因为被拒绝而失控地胡思乱想并不好。

And I feel like I need to, like, acknowledge, like, the feelings hurt and disappointment and frustration that come with rejection and know, like, it's okay to feel upset when you're rejected, but it's not, like, good to, like, spiral out of control because of rejection.

所以……

And so

我有个想法。

I have a thought.

是的。

Yeah.

我觉得，因为我们在一个情境中被拒绝了，就会把这种感觉扩大到一切事情上。

I feel like because we get rejected with one situation, then we turn it to, like, maybe, like, everything.

当然了。

Oh, for sure.

这就像是糟糕的一天演变成糟糕的一周，再变成糟糕的一个月，以此类推。

And, like, it's like that one bad day becoming a bad week and then becoming a bad month and whatever it would be.

但问题是，我们为什么不去想，好吧，

But it's like, how we how don't we why don't we think of it like, okay.

一次拒绝而已。

One rejection.

想想看，我们从其他地方收到过多少积极的反馈呢？

Think about how many, like, positive feedback we've gotten from this and that.

还有，我们对现在所处的位置，难道不应该心怀感激吗？

And, like, what about, like, being grateful of, like, where we're at right now?

我觉得，能这样想真的很棒：你知道吗？

And I feel like it's so cool to be like, you know what?

我们可以想，天哪。

We can think, like, oh my gosh.

那一次拒绝会毁掉我的一天，甚至毁掉我的未来。

That one rejection is gonna ruin my day or just ruin my future.

但我觉得我们真的需要退一步，好好想想，哇。

But I think we have to, like, actually step back and just be like, wow.

我们与其一直规划一切，不如感恩当下所拥有的。

We can just be, like, grateful for where we're at right now instead of, like, planning everything.

对我来说，我真的觉得我需要找一个室友。

Like, for me, I, like, really I'm like, I need to get a roommate.

我需要知道自己的方向，必须把一切都安排妥当。

I need to know where I'm going, and I needed to, like, have everything figured out.

你知道吗？

And it's like, you know what?

我觉得上帝让我经历这段等待期，一定有他的深意。

Like, I think God's putting me putting me through this waiting period for, like, a real reason.

是的

Yeah.

这太好了，热内瓦。

That is so good, Geneva.

我也认为，重要的是要意识到，有时拒绝是因为上帝为你预备了更美好的东西。

I also think that it's important to realize that, like, sometimes rejection can be used because, like, god has something so much greater for you.

所以你当时可能看不到这一点，只觉得被拒绝了，但你必须退一步，意识到也许上帝正是通过这次拒绝在保护你，为你将来预备更美好的事物。

So it's like you don't see it in the moment, and you just feel like you're being rejected, but then you have to, like, take a step back and realize that maybe God is actually protecting me through this rejection for something that's gonna be so much greater in the future.

我也觉得，有时候你会觉得被拒绝就是一切的终结。

And so I also think, like, sometimes that you feel like the rejection is, like, the end will be all.

你觉得被拒绝就是终点，但其实拒绝可能是更美好事物的开端。

Like, that's the rejection is the end, but rejection could actually be the beginning of something so much greater.

如果我们能改变对拒绝的看法，把拒绝看作是上帝在引导我们远离不属于我们的东西，而不是把它当作负面的事情，那就会明白，这其实是上帝在说：这不是为你预备的。

And I think if we, like, change our perspective on rejection and, like, what if we saw rejection as, like, god guiding us away from things that aren't meant for us instead of rejection as something negative, it's something that is just God saying, like, this isn't for you.

嗯

Mhmm.

你知道吗？

You know?

这真是太好了。

That's really good.

你知道吗，我也在想，有时候我们忘记了拒绝的来源。

You know, I was also thinking, I think sometimes we forget, like, where rejection came from.

就我个人而言，我是四个或五个孩子里最小的。

Like, for me personally, I'm the youngest of four or five kids.

所以我觉得小时候，我总是被拒绝。

And so I feel like when I was younger, I always was rejected.

不。

Like, no.

你是最小的。

You're the youngest.

你不能做这个。

Like, you don't you can't do it.

或者你就是那种类型，所以也许这就是为什么我比以前更擅长处理这些，你知道的？

Or you're that like and so that's maybe why I've, like I'm a baby a little bit better at, like, you know what?

随便吧。

Whatever.

但我觉得当我感到被拒绝时，我并不会真的受创伤，只是会想起那个年幼时觉得自己不够好的自己，而现在我不想再相信那些谎言了，因为我小时候确实相信过。

But I think I also get really, like, not traumatized, but, like, when I feel rejected, I'm like, oh, that kinda reminds me of, like, that younger, not good enough self where now it's like, I don't wanna believe those lies because I did when when I was younger.

我相信，比如，

I believe, like,

彼得·斯特龙。

Peter Strong.

你让拒绝来左右你对自己的感受。

You let rejection, like, dictate how you feel about yourself.

是的。

Yes.

而且，显然，我小时候觉得自己特别成熟。

And, like, how like, obviously, I felt like I was really mature when I was younger.

所以很多人不知道我的年龄。

So a lot of people didn't know my age.

他们真的不清楚，因为他们会想，你这么年轻，怎么可能进行这样的对话？

They didn't really know because they were like, how can you, like, have conversations like this when you're, like, that young?

但我觉得当人们发现这一点时，我会感到羞愧，因为我感觉很少有人能感同身受，或者理解你即使只有十岁，也能明白情绪和人与人之间的关系。

But I think when people figure that out, I was shameful because I felt like not a lot of people could relate or not relate, but, like, understand that, like, you can be that old or be 10 years old and, like, understand, like, emotions and, like, how people are.

所以我觉得这是另一件事。

So I feel like that's another thing.

我感到被拒绝，因为我觉得我的感受不被认可，因为我太年轻了。

Like, I felt rejected because I felt like my feelings weren't valid because I was young.

嗯哼。

Mhmm.

而且，你没经历过多少事。

And, like, well, you haven't lived that much.

我当时就想，你知道吗？

And I was you like, know what?

我见过很多人经历了许多事。

I've seen other people live, like, a lot.

我觉得被这个世界拒绝的方式有太多不同了，无论是直接的拒绝，还是那种自然而然发生的拒绝。

So I feel like there's so many different ways that you can be, like, rejected, like, from this world or whether it's, like, a flat out rejection or just, like, a rejection that, like, comes naturally.

我觉得在面对拒绝时，相信过程真的很重要，虽然我说这话时自己都觉得有点虚伪，但我也在对自己说这句话。

I think that with rejection, I feel like it's really important to, like, trust the process, which I me saying this, it feels like hypocritical, but I'm saying it to myself too.

我需要相信这个过程，相信很多事情，即使现在还不清楚，也要相信未来会有更好的安排等着我。

Like, I I need to trust the process and a lot of things and believe, like, there's something better in store for me even if it's not, like, immediately clear.

是的。

Yeah.

我相信上帝为我安排了计划，而且这个计划远比我自己的更伟大。

And that I can see that God has a plan for me, and it's greater than my own.

我可以把拒绝当作个人成长的机会，我认为拒绝也能帮助你更清晰地认识自己想要什么、擅长什么、以及需要在哪些方面成长，拒绝会给你很多答案。

And that I can, like, use rejection, like, for like, personal growth and that I think that reject rejection can also lead to, like, a clearer sense of, like, what you want and what you're good at and where you need to grow, and rejection gives you a lot of answers.

所以我觉得，相信过程、相信时机，真的很重要。

And so I think in I think it's important to, like, trust the process, trust the timing.

有时候事情不会按照你的节奏发生，这对我来说真的很难，等待和耐心。

Like, sometimes things don't happen in your timeline, which is, like, really hard for me, like, waiting and being patient.

我必须记住，即使事情没有在我期望的时间发生，也不意味着它们永远不会发生。

And I just have to remember that, like, just because things are happening exactly when I want them or in my timeline, it doesn't mean that they're not gonna happen at all.

这并不是放弃的理由，要相信你人生旅程的时机，上帝为你安排的计划是如此重要。

And that's not a reason to, like, give up and, like, trust in the timing of your journey and, like, the plan that God has for you is so, so important.

我有一个

I have a

这真的很棒。

and this is really cool.

我觉得有时候我们会忘记，其实我们想要的是一种温和的拒绝。

I feel like sometimes we forget, like, we want that, like, lukewarm, like, rejection.

我们不想要那种直截了当的拒绝，比如‘我不想再当你朋友了’。

We don't want that, like, straight up, like, I don't wanna be your friend anymore.

我不能做你的男朋友，或者我不能做你的女朋友，不管是什么情况。

I can't be your boyfriend or I can't be your girlfriend, whatever it is.

但你想啊，你想要一个明确的 yes 或 no。

But it's like, think about how, like, you want a yes or no.

你希望自己是个干脆说 yes 或 no 的人。

You wanna be a yes and a no person.

你不想成为一个说 yes maybe 或 no maybe 的人，因为假设你真的想要

You don't wanna be a yes maybe or no maybe because say you do want

那个，或者你并不想要

that or you don't want

那个？

that?

你希望自己的 yes 就是 yes，no 就是 no。

Like, you want it to be like, my yes is my yes, and my no is my no.

拒绝。

Rejection.

你不想得到一种模棱两可的拒绝。

You don't wanna a lukewarm rejection.

我觉得我们生活在一个社会里，那里你总是被列在候补名单上，或者被推迟，或者遇到各种各样的情况。

I think we live in a society where it's like, well, you're waitlisted or you're deferred or you're all these things.

然后你就想，这根本就不是，我不知道怎么说。

And you're just like, this is, like, not even, like I don't know.

我真的很困惑。

I'm, like, confused.

你知道吗？

You know?

我觉得有时候，我宁愿直接被明确告知，这是我的同意，那是我的拒绝。

And I think I think sometimes, like, I'd rather just be told straight up, like, this is my yes and this is my no.

你知道吗？

You know?

我觉得当我们正处于现在这个阶段时，真的很难，有些事感觉像拒绝，但有些事又像同意，因为你还不确定。

And and I think it's hard when we're, I think, in that stage right now where it's like, some feel some things feel like a no, and then some things also feel like a yes because it's like, you're not you don't know yet.

是的。

Yeah.

百分之百。

A 100%.

我觉得这非常好。

I think that that's really good.

我讨厌这样。

I I hate that.

比如，没有明确的 yes 或 no，然后你就感到困惑。

Like, having, like, not a clear cut, like a yes or no, and then you're just confused.

我觉得这不仅发生在大学里，还以很多其他方式发生。

I think that's happens, like, not just college, but in a lot of different ways.

它也可能出现在关系中，比如你就会说，是的。

It can be in, like, relationships where you're like Yeah.

我们到底算什么？

What are we?

我们是朋友吗？

Like, are we friends?

我们不是朋友吗？

Are we not friends?

像有很多情况，你能不能直接给我个答案？

Like, so many things where it's like, can you just give me answers?

我觉得这其实又回到了一点，那就是承认自己的情绪，并且对自己温柔一点很重要。

And I think that it kinda goes back to, like like, it's important to acknowledge your emotions and, like, be kind to yourself.

我觉得你应该提醒自己，被拒绝并不决定你的自我价值或潜力，重要的是要对自己有同情心。

And I think that it's like, remind yourself that rejection doesn't determine your self worth or, like, your potential and that it's important to, like, be compassionate to yourself.

我还做了一些研究，发现关于拒绝的一些重要事情，比如转移你的注意力。

I also think that I did some research and it says, like, some important things with rejection is, like, shift your focus.

在最初的 emotional upset 之后，比如我很难过。

And, like, after the initial, like, emotional upset and, like, I'm so sad.

我被拒绝了，或者我觉得自己经历了很多拒绝，你可以从拒绝中学习。

I've been rejected or I feel like, I experience a lot of rejection, like, you can learn from rejection.

你可以问自己，我能改进什么？

You can ask yourself, like, what can I improve?

这可能会开启什么样的新方向呢？

What is an what new direction might might this, like, open up?

因为这次拒绝，我能有什么新的机会？

Like, what's a new opportunity I can have because of this rejection?

我认为，最终这会为你建立韧性，并再次强调拒绝能带来力量。

And I think, ultimately, like, that's gonna, like, build resilience for you, and, like, it's gonna reiterate that, like, rejection builds strength.

随着时间推移，当你积累了一些被拒绝的经历后，你会变得更加坚韧，也更少害怕被拒绝。

And over time, you'll become more resilient and less afraid when you have experience with rejection.

我认为在长大之前经历拒绝真的很重要。

And I think it's really important to experience rejection before before you're grown up.

显然，我们的观众主要是青少年，我觉得青少年时期经历拒绝会特别艰难，因为你还没完全成熟，但我觉得经历拒绝非常重要，因为这个世界终究会拒绝你。

Like, obviously, like, most of our audience is, like, targeted towards teens, and I think experience rejection as a teen can be super hard because, like, obviously, like, you're not fully, like, emotionally mature yet totally, but I think it's really important to experience rejection because, like, the world world is gonna reject you.

我认为在踏入真实社会之前，了解并经历拒绝很重要，因为外面的世界充满了拒绝。

And I think it's important to learn about rejection and experience rejection before you're out in the real world because there's a lot of rejection out there.

所以，日内瓦将为我们朗读一段关于拒绝的经文。

And so Geneva's gonna read us a verse about rejection.

是的。

Yeah.

这段非常好，因为它直接呼应了你刚才说的。

This one's really good because this goes right back to what you just said.

这出自《约翰福音》，我觉得《约翰福音》特别好。

And it's in John, which I think John's so good.

是《约翰福音》15章18节。

It's John fifteen eighteen.

如果世人恨你们，要知道他们在恨你们之前就已经恨我了。

If the world hates you, keep in mind that he it hated me first.

哦，这是上帝在说话吗？

Oh, was that that's God talking?

是的。

Yeah.

这是耶稣吗？

Is that Jesus?

那是耶稣。

That's Jesus.

是的。

Yeah.

这个世界确实恨过耶稣。

The the world did hate Jesus.

世界迫害了他，显然还把他钉在十字架上，这非常有意思，因为我觉得这种被排斥的感觉，无论是大规模还是小规模，常常如此。

The world persecuted him and obviously crucified him, which is so interesting because I feel like that's sometimes, like, in rejection on a lot started large smaller scale.

它可能让人觉得每个人都讨厌你。

It can feel like everyone hates you.

好像因为你的这种经历，没人想要你。

Like, nobody wants you because of your like, this experience.

对吧？

Right?

但我认为重要的是要明白，这并不真实。

But I think it's important to realize, like, that's not true.

而且，这没什么关系，因为耶稣，这个世界上最完美的人，并不是每个人都爱他。

And, like, that's that's okay because, like, Jesus, the most perfect man in the world, like, not everyone loved him.

你知道的？

You know?

我觉得知道耶稣被这么多人拒绝，而且至今仍被拒绝，但他却是最有力量的人，这真的很有鼓舞作用。

And I think that that's, like, really encouraging to know that, like, Jesus was rejected by so many people, and he's still rejected, and he's the most powerful person.

所以，被拒绝并不总是因为你做错了什么才导致被拒绝。

So, like, rejection isn't always something that, like, you did to be rejected.

它只是会发生的事情，是每个人都会经历的。

It's just something that happens and something that everyone experiences.

就连耶稣也经历过被拒绝。

Even Jesus experienced rejection.

所以我觉得这真是一个很好的鼓励，也是我可以提醒自己的事。

So I think that's a really good encouragement, and that's something I can remind myself.

当我经历被拒绝时，我可以对自己说：嘿。

Like, when I'm experienced rejection, I can be like, hey.

耶稣也经历过拒绝。

Jesus experienced rejection too.

像我这样并不孤单，这些经历是如此普遍，每个人都会遇到。

Like, I'm not alone, and these same experiences are experiences that are so universal that everyone experiences.

我只是

I just

我觉得这真的很有鼓舞作用。

think that's really encouraging.

我非常喜欢这一点。

I love that.

我觉得特别有意思的是，当你追随一种不同于这个世界、却为了这个世界、并鼓励世人跟随耶稣的世界观时。

I think it's so interesting how when you do follow, like, a different, like, worldview and, like, not of this world, but for this world and, like like, encouraging people of this world, like, to to follow Jesus.

要时刻记住，我们不应该害怕被拒绝，因为我们总会被世人、事物所拒绝，这确实很难，说实话。

It's so good to keep in mind that, like, we shouldn't be afraid of rejection because we're gonna constantly be rejected by, you know, the people, like, things, and it's gonna be it's hard, honestly.

我觉得被拒绝真的很艰难。

I think rejection's really hard.

是的。

Yeah.

但说真的，我觉得当我意识到‘哇’的时候，我才感觉自己最强大。

But seriously, like, I feel like I'm the strongest when I'm, like, understanding, like, wow.

你知道吗？

You know what?

我经历过那种拒绝，但事实上，我现在比以前更强了，因为我明白，正是因为经历了这个低谷，我才能挺过下一个低谷。

I got I went through that rejection, but I'm literally stronger than I was before because I know that, like, I can get through the next valley because of this valley.

对。

Right.

这样说你明白吗？

That makes sense?

还有，关于友谊，当你被某些友谊拒绝时，你会找到真正适合你的朋友。

And then, like and also, like, friendships, you'll realize when you get rejected from, like, friendships, you'll find, like, the right ones.

完全没错。

Oh, totally.

而且，被拒绝并不一定非得是口头上的拒绝。

And, like, rejection doesn't have to be, like, verbal rejection.

你可能会看到他们生活中的行为，然后心里想：哇。

It's like, you could see actions in their life, and they're just like, wow.

这实际上就是在拒绝我们是谁，以及我们的友谊是什么样子。

Like, this is you're basically rejecting what we, like, I what we are and how, like, our friendship is.

如果你觉得有必要去沟通这个问题以改善关系，但如果你没看到任何改变，那这就相当于明明白白地告诉你：算了。

And if you I think, obviously, addressed addressing that to get it better, but if you don't see any change in that, like, that's kind of, like, a flat out, like, okay.

他们不适合我，这么说你能明白吗？

They're not for me, if that makes sense.

是的。

Yeah.

我觉得，总结一下你刚才说的，我认为拒绝其实能带来很多成长和改变。

I think, like, really, like, summing up what you said, I think rejection can bring so much growth and, like, change.

被拒绝之后，我觉得你真的能从中获得很多成长。

And after you are rejected, I feel like, yeah, you can grow a lot from that.

然后回到前面说的，我突然意识到，这让我回想起三年前，我曾参与过很多友谊，但那时我总感觉不舒服，或者在那些关系中被排斥。

And then going back to the front thing, I'm just like, that, like, brought me back, and I was thinking, like, three years ago, like, there's so many friendships that I feel like I was in that I felt, like, not comfortable or I felt kinda, rejected in that relationship.

我当时想，一定是我的问题。

And I was like, oh, it must be me.

一定是我哪里不对。

Like, there must be something wrong with me.

百分百如此。

Like, a 100%.

因为我确实感觉在那段友谊中被拒绝了。

Because I felt, like, rejected in that friendship.

现在回头看，我觉得那是上帝在为我指明方向，如今我拥有了如此棒的朋友，和我真心喜欢相处的人。

And I think that looking back, like, that was just God redirecting me, and now I feel like I have such amazing friends and people that I really love to spend time with.

而如果回头来看，我不认为那是拒绝。

And I don't think that, looking back, that was rejection.

那纯粹是上帝在说：这不适合你。

That was literally just God saying, like, this this isn't for you.

我有别的东西要给你。

I have something else for you.

那对你来说会更好。

That's gonna be better for you.

当时我肯定没这么想。

And in the moment, I'm sure I was not thinking that.

我肯定在想，我是不是哪里有问题？

I'm sure I was thinking, like, I'm be like, what's wrong with me?

这些人不想和我在一起吗？

Like, do these people not wanna be with me?

你知道吗，在面对拒绝时，你可能会有很多想法，会充满自我怀疑，但我最终认为，上帝确实有他的计划，我知道这听起来很老套。

Like, you know, I think that there's so many things that you can think, so much self doubt you can have in face of rejection, but I ultimately think, like, God really does have a plan, and I know it's, like, so cliche.

我不得不一遍又一遍地提醒自己，因为现在我正处于一个对未来毫无头绪的阶段。

And I have to remind myself that over and over again because I'm in, like, I'm in a phase right now where I have, like, no answers, like, in my future.

我不知道明年会是什么样子，我有点感到慌乱。

Like, I have no idea what my next year looks like, and I I kinda feel, like, frantic.

但接着我必须提醒自己，即使我不知道，上帝却知道，所以我能获得平安。

But then I have to remind myself, like, I can have peace by knowing that even though I don't know, god knows.

上周在教会时，我写了一些东西，然后发给了日内瓦。

And I actually in church last week, I wrote something down, and I sent this to Geneva.

我可以去翻看，但我记得大概内容。

And I can go look, but I think I remember it.

我写的是，尽管我感到担忧，但明天的作者知道我的下一步该怎么做。

It was saying that, like, even though I'm worried, the author of tomorrow knows my next steps.

所以耶稣是明天的作者。

And so Jesus is the author of tomorrow.

祂是下周的作者，也是明年未来的作者。

He's the author of a week from now, the author from a year from now.

对吧？

Right?

祂是万物的作者，完全知道我的下一步该走向哪里。

He's the author of everything, and he knows exactly my next steps.

他已经写好了我的一生。

And he already has the my life written out.

他的书已经完成了。

He has the book finished.

因此，我知道即使我不明白，我在天上的父却知道，并且为我预备了计划，这让我得着安慰。

And so I can have comfort knowing that even though I don't know, my my father in heaven knows and has a plan for me.

所以我认为神是细心的。

So I think that God is careful.

神有计划，祂极其有目的，祂对你的每一次拒绝都有明确的旨意。

God has a plan, and he's so intentional, and God is intentional with every rejection you get.

神不会允许任何不利于你的事发生，也不会应允任何祂不希望你拥有的事。

And God isn't gonna take anything God isn't gonna say no to anything that's for you, and God isn't gonna say yes to stuff that he doesn't want you that doesn't want for you.

所以我认为，知道神对你的拒绝早有计划，这真的很关键。

So I think that knowing that God God God has a plan for your rejections, honestly.

我认为这就是最重要的事——信靠祂

I think that's just, like, the main thing and trusting

在他那个计划中。

in that plan he has.

阿门。

Amen.

我喜欢回想起来，知道每件事的发生都有它的原因。

I love going back to, like, knowing, like, everything happens for a reason.

我认为，是的，有些事情真的很难接受，我们有时需要花上好几年才能接受。

And I think, yes, things are really hard to accept, and we sometimes take years to accept things.

但真正知道，也许那次拒绝有着完全的意义。

But, like, actually knowing that maybe that rejection had a full on purpose.

我刚刚跟戴莉妮说了这个。

And I was telling Delaney this.

我正在读一本书，叫《你的平台不是你的目的》。

I'm reading this book, and it's called Your Platform Is Not Your Purpose.

我觉得这本书非常好，因为我们常常忘记了自己真正的目的。

And I think it is so good because we forget what our purpose is.

对我来说，我知道德勒尼也是这样，去爱别人，去爱上帝。

And for me, and I know Delaney too is, like, to love others and to love God.

也就是说，

Like, that's,

对，没错。

like Right.

我认为，我们的目的就是如此。

What our purpose is is, I think.

所以我相信。

So I believe.

我觉得这本书强调了，你越爱别人，就越是在践行你的使命，而你的平台自然会随之而来。

And I feel like this book highlighted, like, the more you love people, like, you're living out your purpose, and your platform platform will will come come with with that.

就是这样。

That.

所以，如果你擅长通过艺术去爱别人，或者擅长通过跳舞、表演、唱歌，无论是什么方式，无论是做女企业家还是男企业家，都一样。

So if you're really good at loving people by art, if you're really good at loving people by dancing or by acting or by singing, whatever it is, being a businesswoman, man, whatever.

随便吧。

Whatever.

如果你真的很擅长通过爱别人、帮助别人成功来表达自己，那就去做吧。

Like, if that's what you're really good at loving other people and making other people succeed, then do it.

去努力吧。

Like, go for it.

但如果你并不擅长这个，那就别去追求了。

But if that's not your like, what you're good at, like, don't pursue that.

我觉得有时候我们想追求某件事，只是因为它看起来很光鲜。

And I think sometimes we think we wanna pursue something because it looks good.

它看起来很有趣，是最时髦的事情。

It looks, like, like, fun and the most trendy thing to do.

但事实上，我们需要这种拒绝，因为我们没有活出自己的使命。

But in reality, like, we need that rejection because we're not living out our purpose.

所以这对我来说真的很棒，我推荐每个人都去读一读。

And so that was, like, really cool to me, and I recommend everyone to read that.

这本书的作者是个无名之士。

It's literally by a nominous.

那个人不想署名，因为他对这本书非常谦逊。

Like, the person didn't wanna have credit for it because he was, like, so humble about this book.

但这本书很感人，我正在意识到，我做的每一个举动，要么是为了自己，要么是为了别人。

But it's pretty touching, and I think I'm realizing, like, every action I make, like, it's either for myself or for, like, other people.

所以我正在努力学习如何更好地爱别人，因为这样最终也能帮助我更好地爱自己。

And so I'm trying to find, like, how to love other people better because then that ultimate ultimately help help me love myself better too.

你觉得呢？

So what do you think?

是的。

Yeah.

我觉得这非常好。

I think that's really good.

我觉得重要的是要明白，拒绝并不总是坏事。

I think that it's important to know that, like, rejection isn't always a bad thing.

我觉得这真的很重要。

Like, I think that's so important.

我觉得说起来容易做起来难，因为我知道，面对拒绝时你很容易自我责备。

I think it's easier said than done because I I know, like, you can beat yourself up over rejection a lot.

我想鼓励每一个正在经历拒绝的人：一切都会好起来的，你可以大胆分享你的拒绝经历，因为你知道，你并不孤单。

And I just wanna, like, encourage each and every one of you who's going through rejection that it's gonna be okay and that you can really, like, share your experience with rejection because know, like, you're not alone.

有太多人和你有着相似的经历，你不是唯一一个正在经历这些的人，因为这确实是生活中不可避免的一部分，但它并不能定义你。

And, like, so many people have similar experiences to you, and you're not the only one that's, like, experiencing this because it's it's honestly, like, it's an inevitable part of life, but it does not define you.

而这种转向，可能只是在等待更适合你的机会。

And that re redirection can just be, like, waiting for opportunities that are either even better for you.

所以我认为，当你面对拒绝时，不必压抑沮丧的情绪，因为感到难过是正常的。

And so I think that when and you're in faced with rejection, like, you don't have to suppress the emotions of upset because upset is normal.

但我也认为，你不必过度自责，要明白一切发生都有它的原因。

But I also think that you don't have to, like, beat yourself up and, like, know that, like, everything everything happens for a reason.

而且，如果有人正在经历拒绝并想聊聊，这更多是关于寻找你未来的道路，而不是关于个人的不足。

And, yeah, I feel like if anyone's, like, going through rejection and wants to talk about it, and, like, it's less about personal inadequacy and more about, like, finding your future path.

所以我觉得，我想鼓励你，我知道我也有过不少被拒绝的经历，这些感觉真的一点都不好。

And so I think that I just encourage you that, like, I know I've had my fair share of rejections, and, like, they don't feel good at all.

有时候这些感觉会特别糟糕，但其实就是一种被忽视或被拒之门外的感觉，而且它可能以各种方式发生。

And, like, sometimes they can feel, like, so awful, but it's just, like, the feeling of being, like, dismissed or turned away, and it can happen, like, in so many ways.

我觉得重要的是要意识到，在被拒绝时很容易感到孤立，觉得只有自己遭遇这种事，为什么会发生在我身上？为什么上帝要这样对我？

And I think it's just important to realize that, like, it's easy to feel isolated in rejection, but and, like, thinking it only happens to you and, like, why did this happen to me and, like, why would god do this to me?

但请相信，你并不孤单。

But feel like you're not alone.

实际上，你身边有非常多的人。

Actually, like, you actually have so many people.

最成功的人在达到如今的成就之前，都经历过多次拒绝。

Like, the most successful people have faced multiple rejections before they reach where they are now.

所以我觉得，这可以成为一种鼓励，一个成长的契机，一次重新调整方向的机会，让你找到更好的未来。

And so I think that it can, like, let that be encouragement and, like, a moment for growth and opportunity for redirection before you find something that's even greater.

哦，这太棒了，德莉妮。

Oh, that's so good, Delaney.

我觉得现在是时候好好反思一下了。

I feel like this is a great time to, like, reflect.

而且要正视你的拒绝，因为我们有时不愿承认，或者太害怕面对。

And your reject rejection because sometimes we don't wanna admit it or we're too scared to.

嗯。

Mhmm.

我觉得当我们真正面对它时，会想：你知道吗？

And I think when we actually, like, face it and we're like, you know what?

在这种情况里我被拒绝了，那确实很难受，但我因此变得更好了，我坚信这一点。

Like, we were rejected at in this situation, like and that was really hard, but, like, I'm a better person for it, and, like, I firmly believe that.

我想用另一件事来结束这段话：要清楚你是谁。

Another thing I will wanna end this with is, like, know who you are Right.

在你的拒绝中认清自己。

Through your rejection.

因为你是被上帝精心创造的。

Because, like, you are fearfully made by God.

我相信这一点。

I believe that.

每个人都是。

Everyone is.

你有目标，显然你活着是有原因的。

And you have a purpose, and you obviously are living for a reason.

所以我觉得，只是提醒自己，面对拒绝时你要记住，你其实很坚强。

So I think just, like, reminding yourself, like, who you are facing rejection because you're really strong.

我认为每个人都能记住这一点，都需要这样的鼓励。

I think everyone can remember that and needs that encouragement.

因为你非常坚强，而且愿意付出这么多。

Because you're super strong, and you're willing to do so much.

但确实。

But yeah.

所以我觉得这太好了，我们回来了，而且比以往任何时候都更强。

So I feel like this is so good, and we are we are back and better than ever.

我知道。

I know.

我们回来了，而且比以前更稳定地更新内容了，但最近生活太忙了，我们会努力更频繁地发帖。

We're back and better than more consistent posting, but life has been crazy, and we're gonna try to be more consistent with our posts lately.

给我们一些点子吧。

So Give us ideas.

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Tuned.

是的。

Yeah.

给我们一些点子吧。

Give us ideas.

在Instagram上给我们发私信，或者如果认识我们，直接发短信。

DM us on Instagram or just text us if you know us.

有我们的号码。

Have our numbers.

但是，是的，我们非常希望听到你们的声音。

But, yeah, we'd love to hear from you guys.

而且，是的，我们下次再见。

And, yeah, we'll see you guys next time.

好的。

Alright.

爱你们。

Love you guys.

再见。

Bye.