Episode 5 - Turning Left Or Right - The Power Of Hope

早上好，下午好，晚上好，无论你现在在世界的哪个角落。

Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you are in the world.

欢迎。

Welcome.

我是尼克·邓宁。

Nick Dunning here.

很高兴再次见到你们。

How lovely to see you again.

希望你们圣帕特里克节过得开心。

I hope you've had an exciting Patrick's Day.

我们这里确实过得很开心。

We certainly did have here.

太阳居然出来了，你信吗？

The sun was actually shining, would you believe?

感觉就像夏天快要来了一样。

It almost feels as if there was kind of kind of like summer has started to come along.

所以我想欢迎你来到《五分钟播客》，这将是第五集了。

So I want to welcome you to The 5Minute Podcast, and this is gonna be episode five now.

很多人都在某种程度上与这个产生共鸣。

And so many people are kind of, like, kind of connecting with this.

这真是太棒了。

It's just wonderful.

每次都有大约130人参与进来。

I've been getting like 130 people every single time coming to this.

所以，记得告诉你的朋友们，帮忙宣传一下，亲爱的。

So, you know, do tell your friends and spread the word, babes.

这太棒了。

This is great.

好的，那么。

So, okay.

今天我想聊的是，前几天我收到一封邮件，有人谈到他们如何经历非常困难的处境，以及如何应对这些。

So what I wanna talk a bit about today is I I got an email from somebody the other day and they were talking about how they go through very difficult situation, how to handle them.

嘿，Indra。

Hey, Indra.

见到你真好。

How nice to see you.

Indra过来打个招呼。

There's Indra popping over to say hello.

Walden。

Walden.

哎呀哎呀……

Well well...

欢迎。

Welcome.

所以，还有其他人吗？

So these are the, anybody else out there?

还有谁在呢？

Who else is out there?

很高兴见到你。

Lovely to see you.

你现在在哪儿，Indra？

And where are you now, Indra?

告诉我你在哪里。

Tell me where you are.

你在世界上的哪个地方？

Whereabouts are you in the world?

你现在还在伦敦吗？

Are you still in London at the moment?

我知道你给我留了个言。

I know it dropped me a line.

所以事情是这样的。

So this is the thing.

这家伙……

This guy...

总之，这个……

Anyway, this...

我收到的邮件里提到有人遇到了非常困难的处境，他们的处境就是刚刚被拒绝了。

The email that I have was talking about someone having a very difficult situation and what their situation was that they'd just been rejected.

也很高兴见到你。

Nice to see you too.

太好了。

Lovely.

谢谢，Inja。

Thanks, Inja.

好极了。

Great.

真的很高兴见到你。

Really good to see you.

这个人被一个经纪人拒绝了。

This person was being rejected by an agent.

你还在伦敦啊。

You're still in London.

太好了。

Fantastic.

听到这个消息很高兴。

Good to hear.

所以这个人告诉我，事情是这样的：他们被那个经纪人拒绝了，他们觉得非常糟糕，非常崩溃，因为在他们心里，这个经纪人被想象成他们能想到的最重要的人。

So this person was telling me that what was going on was that they'd been rejected by this agent, and they felt terrible, devastated, because this had been built up in their mind as being the most important person that they could think of.

这是他们想要把所有注意力都集中在一个经纪人身上。

This was the one agent that they wanted to focus all of their attention on.

这不仅仅是一个经纪人。

It wasn't just an agent.

这是那个经纪人。

It was the agent.

所以这个演员对这种情况产生了一种非常特别的、你知道的，那种感觉上的联系，就是觉得非常糟糕，非常难受。

And so this actor had developed this extraordinary kind of, like, you know, relationship to the feeling about that situation by feeling terrible, by feeling dreadful.

所以这位演员问我，我该怎么扭转这个局面？

And so this actor asked me, how do I turn this around?

你会怎么做？

What do you do?

当你需要扭转类似局面的时候，你会有什么反应？

What what happens to you when you need to turn something around like that?

你们有人有同感吗？

Do any of you relate to that?

你们有没有遇到过类似的情况，就是感觉处境很艰难？

Have you ever been in any situations like that where you felt, you know, there's been a difficult situation?

也许你被经纪人拒绝了。

Maybe you've been rejected by an agent.

也许你被经理或者公关之类的人拒绝了。

Maybe you've been turned down by, I don't know, a manager or a publicist or something.

也许你明明知道自己非常适合那份重要的工作，但就是没得到。

Maybe you've, you know, you didn't get the big job that you knew you were perfect for.

类似这样的情况。

Something like that.

我希望你们能随时分享一些例子，我可以给你们展示，并帮你们立刻扭转局面。

I'd love you to pop down any, you know, examples of what I can show you and help you literally turn that around right now.

我会教你们如何扭转生活中任何困难的事情。

I'm gonna show you how you turn around anything that is difficult in your life.

首先，你要意识到自己处于什么样的状态。

And what you do is, first of all, you have to realize where it is that you get to.

明白吗？

Okay?

你……

You...

首先，你得稍微觉察一下这种情况发生在哪里。

First of all, you have to become a little bit aware of where that is happening.

你知道吗？

You know?

让我们……

Let's...

好的。

Okay.

所以第一件事，你会说，好的。

So the first thing you go, okay.

我发现自己没拿到这个代理。

I I found out I didn't get this agent.

我现在感觉怎么样？

What am I feeling?

我现在看到什么？

What am I seeing?

我现在经历什么？

What am I experiencing?

我现在听到什么？

What am I hearing?

我感觉像夜晚一样。

I'm feeling like night.

我感觉糟透了。

I'm feeling terrible.

我感觉很低落。

I'm feeling low.

我的精力下降了。

My energy is down.

我在自责。

I'm berating myself.

我给你们举个例子，这是我在疫情期间发生的事。

And I'll give you an example of this that happened to me during COVID.

有一段时间，我就是……

There was a time when I was just...

像我们大多数人一样，已经很长时间没有工作了，然后我不得不去拍一部电影。

Hadn't been working like most of us hadn't been working for a long time, And I had to go and do a film.

我接到了一部电影，挺好的，是一部霍尔马克电影。

I got a film, which was great, which was a Hallmark movie.

说实话，剧本不算特别好，但其实还挺……

And, to be honest, it wasn't the world's greatest script, but it was actually kind of...

我真的很感激能有这个机会，但我当时特别焦虑，对整件事怕得要命。

I was really grateful to have the opportunity, but I was feeling really anxious and feeling terribly scared about the whole thing.

感觉这件事就像……

And it felt like this thing was...

然后我在脑子里把它无限放大了，变成了那种，哦，好可怕的事情。

And I blew it up in my mind, and it became like, oh, this terrible thing.

我做不到。

I can't do this.

我不确定自己行不行。

I'm not sure if I'm able.

你知道吗？

You know?

我还能做到吗？

Can I still do it?

我是不是……

Have I...

我已经快一年没演戏了。

I haven't acted for nearly a year.

我还有可能重新回到这个状态吗？

Is there a possibility that I can kind of get back to this at all?

我不知道。

I don't know.

我感觉糟透了。

And I'm feeling terrible.

所以，我当时面对的就是这种情况。

So that was the situation that I was faced with.

然后我想起我的一个教练跟我说过的话，我想跟你分享，就是每当你到了这种所谓的消极状态的时候，你其实……

And I remembered what one of my coaches said to me, and I want to share this with you, is that whenever you get to this point of this sort of so called negativity, you are...

因为你是人，你被赋予了……

Because you are a human being, you've given...

你有机会选择向左转还是向右转。

You're given this opportunity to turn left or turn right.

你可以做点什么。

You can do something.

你可以做出选择。

You can make a choice.

我想你应该同意我的看法吧。

I mean, I'm I'm presuming you're agreeing with me on that.

对吧？

Okay?

所以你有那个技能，那个能力去做出选择。

So you do have that skill, that ability to make a choice.

如果你向左转，通常会发生的是，你会陷入我所说的，也是我自己经历过的，那种绝望的思维。

Now if you turn left, what tends to happen is that you go into what I call, which is what I did, you go into hopeless thinking.

绝望的思维，也就是说，感到绝望。

Hopeless thinking, which means hopeless.

周围几乎看不到希望。

There is less hope around.

明白吗？

Okay?

希望越来越少。

Hope less.

就是绝望。

It's hopeless.

我这么说是什么意思呢？

And what do I mean by that?

我的处境。

My situation.

我感到绝望。

I feel hopeless.

我干不了这份工作。

I cannot do this job.

我没法再回到这一行，回到这个行业里了。

I'm not gonna be able to get back into this, into the business.

这件事让我感到心烦意乱，整个人都被击垮了。

I am feeling distraught and destroyed by this.

我觉得自己被打败了，怎么也走不到那一步。

I am feeling beaten up, and I cannot get there.

明白吗？

Okay?

这就是我当时脑子里的想法。

That was the the way my brain was thinking.

那是我当时选择去相信的想法。

That's what I was choosing to think at that time.

然后我想起了我的教练对我说过的话。

And then I remembered what my coach said to me.

一旦你陷入那种情况，你就已经左转了。

Once you're in that situation, you've turned left.

但如果你再次回到中间点，就是那种‘好吧’的状态。

But if you go back to the middle point again where you just go, okay.

现在我仍然处于这种情况中。

Now I'm still in this situation now.

我接下来要怎么做？

What is it that I'm gonna do?

然后你觉得自己可以做个决定，改向右转。

And you think you can make a decision to turn right instead.

你要做的就是选择所谓的‘充满希望的思考’。

What you do is you choose what's known as hopeful thinking.

然后看看会发生什么。

And just notice what happens.

如果你在悲观地思考，而这只是一个数字上的选择，悲观思考就意味着‘我做不到’。

If you're thinking hopeless, when it's just a digital choice, hopeless thinking means I cannot do this.

这不可能。

It is impossible.

没有希望了。

There is no hope.

这行不通。

It cannot work.

我做不到。

I will not be able to.

你脑子里都是这种想法。

You're thinking thoughts like that.

你在用你的大脑消极地思考。

You're using and utilizing your brain to think in a negative way.

这正是你正在做的事情。

That is specifically what it is that you are doing.

但如果你再次回到中心，回到你的……

But if you come back to the center again, to your...

就是，你知道，在你经历创伤或者困难的时候，或者在你需要做选择的时候，你本来该往右转，但你开始往积极的方向想了。

This, you know, your traumatic moment or the difficult moment or the the the place where you need to make choices from and you turn right instead, you start thinking hopeful thinking.

你开始往有希望的方向想了。

You just start thinking hopeful.

所以我现在又站在了同样的地方。

So here I am at the same place.

我记得在去都柏林拍摄那个枪战场景的路上，我也是这么做的……

And I remember doing this on the way into the the the shooting in in in Dublin when we did this...

就是那部霍尔马克电影。

The Hallmark movie.

然后我开始把它转变成积极的思考。

And I started to turn it around into hopeful thinking.

我的意思是，我开始想，我能做到。

And by that, what I mean was I started thinking, I can do this.

这是有可能的。

It is possible.

这有可能。

It could be possible.

你也许不会一下子变得百分之百积极。

You may, you know, you may not go straight to, you know, a 100% positive.

你知道，我完全有能力做到百分之百。

You know, I'm absolutely able to do this a 100%.

不。

No.

不。

No.

也许你做不到那一点。

Maybe you can't do that.

但也许你可以开始往好的方面想。

But maybe you can start thinking hopeful.

我抱着希望，觉得自己也许能做到。

I'm hopeful that I might be able to do this.

当你心怀希望，并且积极地在生活中运用希望，事情就会开始发生变化。

When you have hope and you actively engage hope in your life, things start to happen.

我希望我能表现出色。

I hope that I can perform well.

我希望我们能准时到达场地。

I hope that we will get to the venue on time.

我希望我能记住台词。

I hope that I will be able to remember my lines.

我希望我能做到这些事情。

I hope that I'm able to do these things.

我现在开始对自己正在做的事情感到更有希望，而且我感觉越来越好，越来越好。

I am now beginning to feel more hopeful about what it is that I'm doing, and I started to feel better and better and better.

所以，当你处于一个不知道自己身处何方的境地时，这就是你需要做的。

So that is what you need to do whenever you're in a situation where you don't know where you are.

如果你对此有任何疑问，随时给我发邮件到Nick@NickDunning.com，或者你随时可以访问网站，问我这些问题。

Now if you get any situations about that, just drop me a line at Nick@NickDunning.com, or you can pop over to the website anytime you like, and you can ask me these questions about this.

再说一遍，我想总结一下，因为这件事非常重要。

And, again, I just wanna recap because it's a vital thing.

比如说……

Let's say...

我们现在换个完全不同的事情来说。

Let's choose a completely different thing now.

比如说，不是刚才那种情况，而是你，比如说，在一个会议上，有个选角导演完全无视了你。

Let's say instead of it being like that, let's say you were, let's say, a casting director completely ignored you at a at a a at a conference or something like that.

或者你参加了一个选角导演的工作坊，你本来觉得跟那个选角导演真的建立了联系，我们有时候都会这么想。

Or you went to a a casting director workshop, and the casting director who you thought was the one that you'd really made the connection with, and we all think that sometimes.

好的。

Okay.

然后到了那个点，选角导演却对你视而不见，直接走开，完全不理你。

So you get to that point, and the casting director blanks you and totally walks away from you and ignores you.

好的。

Okay.

有人经历过这种情况吗？

Anyone been there?

我觉得你有过。

I think you have.

假设这种事情发生了。

Let's say that kind of thing happens.

对吧？

Okay?

现在抓住那个时刻，记住，不要抱希望，然后我开始想，哦，她没看我。

Now take that moment and remember, hope less thinking, and I start to think, oh, she's not looking at me.

哦，她不喜欢我。

Oh, she doesn't like me.

她对我没兴趣。

She's not interested in me.

她对我这个演员已经没有任何看法了。

She has no opinion about me as an actor anymore.

她再也不想看我演的任何东西了。

She doesn't want to see me in anything else.

我的职业生涯要完了。

This is the end of my career.

一切都会崩溃，我会死掉。

It's all gonna fall apart, and I'm going to die.

这就是我们陷入的那种境地。

Which is where we go.

所以我们会陷入这种境地，或者也许只有我这样。

So we go to these places, or maybe that's just me.

但这就是我会陷入的境地。

But that's where I go.

你会陷入什么样的境地？

Where do you go?

告诉我吧。

Let me know.

有问题的话，随时联系我。

Any questions, drop me.

邮箱是Nick@NickDunning.com。

Nick@NickDunning.com.

好，我们回到中心点。

So, okay, get back to the center.

现在中心点就在中间。

Here's the center in the middle now.

这时候，我们要向右转，开始往积极的方向想。

And at this point, we're gonna turn right, and we're gonna go for hopeful thinking.

那当选角导演刚刚没理你的时候，积极的想法是什么呢？

So what is the hopeful thinking when the casting director has just blanked it?

积极的想法可能是，她正在考虑别人。

The hopeful thing is maybe she's thinking about someone else.

也许她正打算去享受一个美好的夜晚。

Maybe she's going over to have a nice night.

也许她是和朋友一起来的。

Maybe she's here with some friends.

也许她就是在做这件事。

Maybe that's what she's doing.

我希望她是在关注那些人，然后会回来找我。

I'm hoping that what she's doing is she's paying attention to those other people, and then she'll come back to me.

我希望自己能注意到，她虽然有点忽略我，但第二天会联系我。

I'm hopefully paying attention to the fact that what she's doing is she's ignored me slightly, but she's going to contact me the next day.

或者，如果她第二天没联系我，也许我会决定主动联系她。

Or in fact, if she doesn't contact me the next day, maybe I'll make a decision to go ahead and contact her.

大概就是这类事情吧。

Maybe that's the kind of thing.

所以你真的在掌控自己的大脑。

So you're literally taking charge of your brain.

如果你决定在生活中做出这个改变，我保证，我向你保证，一切都会好转。

And if you decide to make that change in your life, I guarantee you I guarantee you everything will turn around.

来看看吧。

Check it out.

试试看。

Give it a try.

有什么问题吗？

Any questions about it?

你不确定吗？

You're not sure?

给我留言吧。

Drop me a line.

Nick@NickDunning.com。

Nick@NickDunning.com.

如果你想聊聊，可以跟我免费通话三十分钟。

If you want to have a conversation, you can have a free thirty minute call with me.

你知道这些东西就在那里。

You know those things are there.

它们非常棒。

They're superb.

它们真的能帮到人。

They really help people.

没有任何义务。

There's no obligation.

是的。

Yes.

我可以建议你，如果你想接受的话，你可以……

I can suggest to you that if you want to take it on, you could...

我有一些课程，如果你想的话可以参加。

There are courses I have, which you can do if you want.

而且，是的，如果你愿意的话，我们也可以做一些辅导。

And, yes, we can do some coaching if you wish to.

但没有任何义务。

But there's no obligation.

我说没有义务，是真的没有。

And when I say there's no obligation, I mean that.

没有义务。

There's no obligation.

来聊聊吧。

Come and have a chat.

如果我能帮到你，我一定会帮。

And if I can help you, I will help you.

所以赶紧上……

So jump on the...

上网站看看。

Onto the website.

还有一件事我想告诉大家，欢迎所有新加入行动俱乐部的人。

Another thing I wanted to just let you know, welcome to all the new people who signed up to the, Action Club.

前几天我们发了邮件通知大家这件事。

We sent around some emails the other day about that.

如果还有人想这么做，虽然截止日期已经过了，但接下来几天给我留个言，我会帮你搞定的。

And if anyone wants to still do that, although the deadline is gone, just drop drop me a line in the next couple of days, and I'll I'll I'll sort you out.

没问题。

No problem.

好的。

Okay.

最后一件事。

Final thing.

现在网站上，nickdunning.com，有一个我新创建的培训课程，叫做《智能演员》。

On the website now, nickdunning.com, there's a new training course that I've created called The Intelligent Actor.

我以前卖197欧元，现在完全免费了。

I used to sell it for a €197, and it's now completely free.

你可以完全免费获得它。

And you can have that totally free.

我真的建议你去学这个，因为如果你去学，你会得到三个很棒的有声催眠音频，你可以听。

I really suggest that you do this because if you go ahead and take this, you will get three wonderful hypnotic audios that you'll be able to listen to.

其中一个会帮你应对自我录制试镜。

One of them will help you with self taping.

它会让你进入一个非常强大的心态，让你对自己的身体状态感到非常自信。

It will get you into the really powerful state of mind so you're feeling very confident about what's going on inside your body.

你会清楚自己在做什么，并且能够把这件事做得非常出色。

You'll know what it is that you're doing, and you'll be able to make that work beautifully.

还有另外两个是惊喜，我不打算告诉你，但其中一个跟韧性有关。

And there are two others that are a surprise I'm not gonna tell you about, but one of them is to do with resilience.

其中一个跟这类事情有关。

One of them is to do with this kind of thing.

当你把那个免费音频里学到的韧性训练，和我们今天讨论的内容——左右移动、做出选择、选择对未来抱有希望——结合起来，一切都会变得更好。

When you mix the resilience training that you get in that free, audio with what we're talking about today, moving left and right, choosing, making that choice to be hopeful about what's coming up, everything changes for the better.

大家保重。

So take care, guys.

记得告诉你的朋友们，然后，嗯，保重。

Do tell your friends, and, you know, take care.

再见啦。

Bye now.