The Goal No One Teaches You (And Why It Matters Most)

欢迎收听《自信青少年播客》。

Welcome to the Confident Tween and Teen Podcast.

我是劳拉，每周都会为你带来短小精悍的节目，帮你鼓起勇气，充满信心地开启新的一天。

My name is Laura, and I'm here to bring you mini episodes each and every week to give you courage and confidence to start your day.

我想提醒你，你已经足够好，也完全有能力成就了不起的事。

I want to remind you that you are enough and that you are capable of amazing things.

只要有一点勇气，就能慢慢建立起自信。

All it takes is a little bit of courage to build up your confidence.

准备好学习新东西了吗？

Ready to learn something new?

我们开始吧。

Let's get started.

大家好，欢迎回到《自信青少年播客》的又一期节目。

Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of the Confident Tween and Teen Podcast.

非常感谢你收听这一期的内容。

Thank you so much for being here and tuning into this week's episode.

现在是2026年。

It is 2026.

我对新的一年特别期待。

And I'm so excited for the new year.

我真的很喜欢每一年的开始。

I absolutely love a new year.

那种焕然一新、充满可能的感觉，特别让人兴奋。

I love how it feels fresh and exciting.

今天我想聊一个很多人在年初定目标、立新年决心时根本不会提到的话题。

And I really want to talk about something that you don't really hear about when you are thinking about goal setting in the beginning of a year and setting a new year's resolution.

在开始本期内容之前，别忘了去节目笔记里领取‘自信计划’，这个工具能帮你真正建立起自信。

But before we dive into this week's episode, I want to remind you to head over to the show notes and get the confidence project because that is something that is going to help you build and grow your confidence.

我花了很多心思做这个计划，它是一个21天的练习，能帮你逐步增强内在的自信。

I worked really hard on this, and it's a twenty one day project that is going to help you build more confidence within yourself.

如果你今年的目标就是提升自信，那这个‘自信计划’就是为你准备的。

So if your goal this year is to build and grow your confidence, the confidence project is for you.

在这二十一里，你会学会信任自己，迈出勇敢的小步，建立起持久的真实自信。

And then in those twenty one days, you are going to learn how to trust yourself, how to take small, brave steps and build real confidence that lasts.

这正是我最希望年轻女孩们能拥有的。

And that's all that I want for young girls.

我希望她们能成长，学会建立自信，而‘自信计划’正是帮你实现这一点的工具。

I want them to grow and learn how to build their confidence, and the CONFIDENCE PROJECT is going to help you do just that.

里面的内容简短精炼，都是快速可完成的课程和挑战。

It has really quick lessons and challenges.

还配有引导你反思的问题。

It has reflection questions for you.

另外还有语音鼓励，帮你深入理解每一课，陪你一步步走完。

It also has audio pep talks to really help you and guide you through each lesson.

每项内容都短小易行，不费力。

They're quick and easy.

别忘了，我女儿格蕾丝并不喜欢读书。

Remember, my daughter Grace is not a reader.

她不想坐那儿再做额外的功课。

She doesn't wanna sit there and do any more extra work.

她只想好好学习。

She just wants to learn.

这正是我们设计的目的。

And that's what this is.

内容很简短。

It's quick.

操作也很轻松。

It's easy.

我们一起打造了这个，就是为了帮你。

We built this together to help you.

别忘了我免费送的《自信启动工具包》，它能帮你快速点燃自信，而《自信计划》则会帮你持续保持下去。

And also remember my freebie, the Confidence Kickstart Toolkit is going to help you really kickstart that confidence, and the CONFIDENCE PROJECT is going to help you keep that going.

好了。

Alright.

那咱们就开始这期的内容吧。

So let's dive into this week's episode.

每到年初，大家都忙着定目标、做愿景板之类的。

So at the beginning of the year, everyone talks about setting goals and making vision boards and things like that.

但今天我想聊聊一个没人教过你要设立的目标。

But today, want to talk about a goal no one really teaches you to have.

这个目标就是学会坚持下去。

And that goal is learning how to keep going.

很多人一开始都特别兴奋，充满干劲，立下一大堆目标，新年决心什么的，但自信并不是在起点建立的。

So a lot of people start things, they get really excited, they feel motivated, they're setting all these goals, and, you know, New Year's resolutions, but confidence isn't built at the start.

自信是在你努力朝着目标前进的过程中慢慢积累的。

It's built in the middle of trying to get towards that goal.

这个过程中间，事情会变得很枯燥。

The middle is where things feel boring.

困难来了，挫折来了，原本的乐趣也渐渐消失了。

They get really hard and frustrated and just they don't feel fun anymore.

目标本身变得一点都不有趣了。

The goal just doesn't feel fun.

这时候你就想放弃了。

And that's when you want to quit.

但很少有人会提到这一段——那段艰难的中间过程。

And no one really talks about that part, the hard part, that hard middle.

你定了个目标，试了一阵子，然后就遇到坎了。

So you set a goal, you try it for a while, and then something gets hard.

要么漏了一天，要么搞砸了，或者突然就没了动力。

You either miss a day, you mess up, you lose that motivation.

你却不觉得这是正常的。

And instead of thinking, this is normal.

这本来就是设定目标后会经历的事。

This is what happens when you set a goal.

反而觉得自己根本不会定目标。

You think I'm so bad at goal setting.

我从来都坚持不下去，总是半途而废。

I never follow through I always quit.

但放弃并不意味着你缺乏信心。

But quitting doesn't mean you don't have the confidence.

只是你从来没被教过，该怎么在困难的时候继续坚持下去。

It just means you were never taught how to keep going how to follow through when things get really hard.

所以坚持到底是一种能力，它能改变一切。

So following through is a skill, and it's something that changes everything.

就像任何技能一样，这种能力是可以通过练习培养的。

And like any skill, it can be practice.

目标不是要完美无缺。

The goal isn't to be perfect.

目标是练习继续前进——在状态差的时候继续，在搞砸之后继续，在错过一天之后继续，在不再觉得有趣的时候依然继续。

The goal is to practice continuing, continuing after a bad day, can tip continuing after you mess up continuing after you missed a day, continuing when it's not exciting anymore.

你的信心，就是从这些时刻开始慢慢建立起来的。

That's where your confidence is going to start to grow.

所以现实中你可以这么做：继续往前走。

So how this can look in real life is you keep going.

就算搞砸了，也别直接放弃，可以降低点目标，但别彻底撂挑子。

Even if you mess up, you do a little less instead of quitting, you adjust your goal instead of just abandoning it and quitting on it.

在追求目标的那段艰难又混乱的中间阶段，这些小选择特别重要。

Those moments really matter when you're trying to reach a goal in that hard messy middle.

自信不是来自从不停下。

Confidence doesn't come from never stopping.

自信来自重新开始时，不觉得自己很差劲、不感到内疚——因为你根本没那么糟。

It comes from restarting without feeling guilty or like you stink because you don't.

事情总会变难，生活总有起落。

It gets hard, things get hard, there's going to be ups and downs.

所以别再只盯着要达成什么目标了，我建议你试试这个：

So instead of setting a goal about what you want to achieve, I want you to try this.

今年，我练习的是不放弃自己，你今年一定会坚持到底。

This year, I'm practicing not giving up on myself, you're going to follow through this year.

就这样。

That's it.

你不需要时间表，也不需要完美的计划。

You don't need a timeline, you don't need a perfect plan.

你只需要下定决心，坚持做你真心想做的事。

You just need the decision to keep going to follow through on something that you have set your heart on.

坚持到底，能让你真正建立起对自己的信任。

Following through really helps you build trust within yourself.

当你开始信任自己，信心自然就会增长。

And when you start to trust yourself, that's when your confidence is going to grow.

所以，如果你曾经觉得自己不擅长设定目标，其实你并不是。

So if you ever thought you're bad at goals, you're really not.

你只是没被教过怎么坚持下去。

You just weren't taught how to keep going.

而这是可以学会的技能。

And that's a skill you can learn.

明白吗？

Okay?

每次你选择坚持下去，每次你选择做到底，信心就会增长一分。

Confidence grows every time you choose to continue, every time you choose to follow through.

我知道你做得到。

And I know that you can do it.

所以当你想到一件你真心想实现的事，我只希望你能坚持完成一次，就在今年2026年，把它做到底。

So when you think of something that you really want to work towards, I just want you to follow through on it one time, I want you to follow through on it this year in 2026.

因为这会真正帮你建立起内心的自信。

Because it's going to help you really build that confidence within yourself.

只要你坚持做完一件事，你的自信就会越来越强。

Because when you follow through on something, your confidence grows more and more.

而自我信任，就是这样一点一点建立起来的。

And that's where self trust is built.

这真的是一件很棒的事。

And it's just an amazing thing.

所以每次你做到最后，信心都会一点一点地积累起来。

So every time you follow through, that confidence is going to build little by little.

希望这一集对你有帮助。

So I hope this episode was helpful.

希望你能学会真正地去践行那些你心里想做的事。

I hope that you are going to learn to really, you know, start following through on the things that you wanna do in your life.

明白吗？

Okay?

说到做到是一种能力。

Following through is a skill.

得靠练习才行。

You have to practice it.

跌倒了就再爬起来。

You have to just get back up again.

别再对自己说那些消极的话了。

Get rid of that negative self talk.

站起来，再试一次。

Get back up and go again.

希望这一期对你有帮助。

So I hope this episode was helpful.

如果觉得有帮助，麻烦分享给需要增强信心的朋友，我会非常感激。

And if it was, I'd be so grateful if you could share it with a friend that might need a little bit of confidence building.

我特别期待很快让Grace来参加节目。

I'm so excited to have Grace on the show soon.

我们正在一起准备接下来的几期，肯定会特别有意思。

We are getting our episodes ready and together, and it's going to be so much fun.

她真的是个特别棒的人。

She is just such a wonderful person.

她有很多深刻的见解。

She has so much insight.

她内心很有自信，也非常愿意帮你建立自信。

She's confident inside herself, and she would really love to help you build your confidence as well.

希望你今天过得特别好，永远记得你很勇敢，你已经足够好，你完全属于这里。

So I hope that you have a wonderful day and always remember you are brave, you are enough, and you belong here.

我们下一期节目见。

And I will see you on next week's episode.