If You're Paralyzed By Other People's Opinions, Listen To This | Seth Godin

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Hi.

我叫刘易斯·豪斯，欢迎收看每日激励节目。

My name is Lewis Howes, and welcome to the daily motivation show.

你平时如何帮助自己克服自我怀疑或不安全感？

What do you do to help overcome self doubt or insecurity for yourself?

所以我有一个博客。

So I have a blog.

我已经连续写了7500篇文章。

I've written 7,500 posts in a row.

明天早上，也就是星期五，会有一篇新文章发布，但并不是因为那是有史以来最好的文章，也不是因为我决定明天发布它。

And tomorrow morning, which will be a Friday, there will be another post, but it won't be there because it's the best post ever, nor will it be there because I decided to post it tomorrow.

它会发布，仅仅因为今天是星期五，而我二十年来从未重新考虑过这个决定。

It will be there because it's Friday and I haven't reconsidered that decision in twenty years.

所以我不需要和自己开会讨论是否该写一篇博客文章了。

So I don't have to have a meeting with myself about whether or not it's time to write a blog post.

会有一篇博客文章。

There will be a blog post.

你劈柴，你打水。

You chop the wood, you carry the water.

通过消除这种争论，你想一想，你过去做过多少在100年前被认为不可能的事情。

By getting rid of the debate, then you I mean, think about how many things you do that were impossible 100 ago.

当电影刚出现时，据说人们去电影院会有特别的安排——我不知道你是否知道，因为人们害怕会因观看电影而心脏病发作或昏倒。

That when movies first opened, they had special I don't know if you know this, had special attendance at the movies because they were afraid people would have a heart attack or faked.

因为看到电影屏幕上有一列火车驶来，会让人感到极度震撼。

Because seeing a train coming on the movie screen was so traumatic.

在汽车刚问世的头几年，人们经常在转动汽车启动手柄时扭伤手臂。

And the first few years that cars were available, people broke their arms on a regular basis, turning the starter of the car.

在洗衣机和洗碗机刚出现的早期，每户人家通常只有一个电源插座。

And early in the days of washing machines and dishwashers, washing machines, they only had one plug in people's houses.

所以你得先拔掉电灯的插头，再插上洗衣机的插头。

And so you had to unplug the light and plug in the washing machine.

而且洗衣机不平衡，所以会移动。

And the washing machine wasn't balanced, so it would move.

每年都有数十人因电线缠绕脖子而死亡。

Dozens of people died every year because the cord would wrap around their neck and kill them.

所以我们现在做的一切都习以为常，比如开车穿城而过，过去可是生死攸关的事，但我们已经习惯了。

So there's all this stuff we just do as a matter of course, like driving across town used to be death defying, but we get used to it.

我们为此建立了一种模式。

We build a pattern into it.

因此，我努力让自己每天写博客，写给一百万人看时不再紧张，因为我每天都这么做。

And so what I've tried to do is make it so that writing a blog post for a million people doesn't make me nervous because I do it every day.

所以，我就能专注于——是的，明天我有机会说一些可能帮助别人的话。

And so therefore I can then focus on, yeah, but I have this chance tomorrow to say something that might help someone.

让我就专注于这一点，因为我已经训练自己，这并没有那么危险。

Let me just focus on that because I've trained myself that it's not that risky.

那你什么时候感到最强烈或最多的恐惧呢？

When do you feel the biggest or the most amount of fear then?

我会说，如果我承诺了一个比博客文章更大的重要项目，并且要向我信任的人推介，我会担心一两件事。

I would say if I've committed to a significant project that's bigger than a blog post and I am going to pitch it to people who I trust, I'm worried about one or two things.

要么他们立刻都喜欢，那样的话我做的事情就有点肤浅，然后我得从头再来。

Either they'll all like it right away, in which case I did something sort of trivial and then I have to start over.

或者

Or

而且你必须推出这个项目，投入所有的精力和时间。

And you have to launch that thing and put all this energy and time into it.

是的。

Yeah.

或者他们说你完全搞错了。

Or they say I've completely missed it.

现在我遇到了真正的问题，因为我已经训练自己爱上我所承诺的每一件事，就像我们一开始说的那样，要对你所做的事情充满热情。

And now I've got a real problem because I have trained myself to fall in love with whatever I'm committing to, like we started with, be passionate about what you do.

所以现在我得决定：在面对所有质疑的情况下，我是否依然愿意对我所做的事情充满热情？

And so now I gotta decide, am I willing to be passionate about what I do in the face of all the skepticism?

所以如果你回想起1989年、1990年，我当时住在纽约，创办了最早的互联网公司之一。

So if you think back to 1989, 1990, I was living here in New York and I started one of the first internet companies.

我认识的每一个人，我的所有亲戚都说我完全疯了。

And every single person I know, all of my relatives said that I was completely delusional.

这种状况持续了多年，过程非常艰难，因为你并不是在1991年、万维网出现之前起步，然后转眼就赢了。

For years this went on and it was a hard slog because it's not like you started something in 1991 before the World Wide Web and the next thing you know, you won.

它花了七十七年半才成功。

It was it took seventy seven and a half years for it to work.

我身边都是不理解这个笑话的人。

And I was surrounded by people who didn't get the joke.

这是一种可怕的感觉，因为你已经向他人承诺了他们的生计。

And that's a scary feeling because you've made a promise to people about their livelihood.

你已经向未来的自己承诺了你正在从事的这份工作。

You've made a promise to your future self about this work you're doing.

有时候，你必须坚持下去。

And sometimes you have to persist.

而其他时候，你得说，你知道，我错了。

And other times you have to say, you know, I was wrong.

这两种情况都极具挑战性。

And either one of them is really challenging.

是的。

Yeah.

我有一个理论，我们害怕三件主要的事情。

Have this theory that we're afraid of three main things.

我们害怕失败。

We're afraid of failure.

我们害怕成功，这正是你刚刚提到的两种情况；而第三种则是对评判的恐惧。

We're afraid of success, which is why you just shared both of those and kind of the third one is just the fear of judgment.

无论是认识你的人还是不认识你的人，都会对你做出评判。

People judging you that know you or that don't know you.

那种无处不在的评判，无论对方是否亲近你。

Just the constant judgment that people have, close or not close to you.

这三种恐惧会让我们陷入瘫痪。

And those three fears kind of cripple us.

我们中的一些人可能更倾向于其中一种，或者全部都有。

And some of us lean more into one of them than others or all of them.

对我来说，我从不害怕失败，因为作为一名运动员，我早早明白，你必须犯错才能学会提升投篮、接住橄榄球，或者任何其他技能。

For me, it was never fear of failure because as an athlete, I learned early on, you gotta make mistakes to learn to, you know, improve the shot or to catch the football or whatever it is.

你必须失败，才能学习和成长。

You gotta you gotta fail to learn and grow.

所以我欢迎这些错误。

So I I welcomed the mistakes.

我也不害怕成功，因为我渴望成功。

I wasn't afraid of success because I wanted to succeed.

我有自己的目标。

I had these goals.

我们会设定团队目标。

You know, we would have team goals.

我当时就想，我们一定要赢。

I was like, let's win.

但我极度害怕别人的看法，无论是认识我还是不认识我的人对我的评判。

But I was deathly afraid of people's opinions and the the judgment of people that knew me or didn't know me.

正是因为我太在意每个人的评价，才让我感到不安全，这让我长期处于不快乐的状态。

And that's what made me feel insecure was caring so much about everyone's opinion, and it made me very unhappy for so long.

我出了一本新书，叫《轻松赚钱》。

I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy.

如果你希望在生活中获得更多的财务自由，渴望富足，并想停止让赚钱变得艰难，而是让它变得更轻松、更顺畅，感受到丰盛，那就立即前往 makemoneyeasybook.com 获取一本吧。

And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you wanna make it easier, you wanna make it flow, you wanna feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com right now and get yourself a copy.

我真的认为这本书能帮助你从现在开始彻底转变与金钱的关系。

I really think this is gonna help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward.

我们即将带来一些重磅嘉宾和精彩内容。

We have some big guests and content coming up.

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