12条规则助你在12个月内改变人生

我知道在座的许多人会认同我的观点：当你有准则可循时，生活会美好得多。因为在我看来，大多数人被误导以为他们渴望自由。他们可能不明白的是，绝对自由——即毫无限制、毫无约束——等同于绝对的混乱。你认为自己渴望自由的唯一原因，是你正遵循着一套并非由你制定的规则生活。当你觉得需要逃离生活时，你会请假去度假。但大约一周后，模拟的蜜月期结束，旅游的新鲜感消退，你会发现自己空虚失落，渴望回归有规律的生活。

I know that many of you will agree with me when I say that life is so much better when you have a code to operate by because most people, in my opinion, have been tricked to think that they want freedom. What they may not understand is that absolute freedom, so no limitations, no restrictions, is synonymous with absolute chaos. The only reason you think you want freedom is because you're living by a set of rules you didn't create. When you feel like you need to escape your life, you take time off from work and go on vacation. But after a week or so, the simulated honeymoon phase ends and the tourist novelty wears off, and you find yourself unfulfilled wanting to go back to structure.

长期来看，对于大多数讨厌工作的人（我知道'讨厌工作'像是最近的流行词），但在我所有视频中，我都在分享亲身经历。我曾讨厌我的工作。讨厌工作没关系，但问题在于你迫不及待想退休。而退休这个概念从你童年起就被营销给你，就像带四十年倒计时的销售页面。你很少意识到，你想象中的退休不过是另一个终将厌倦的假期——因为这就是大脑的运作方式。

Now in the long term and for the majority of people who hate their jobs, and I know hate their jobs is like the latest buzzword, but all in all of my videos, I'm speaking from experience. I used to hate my job. It's okay if you hate your job, but the thing there is is that you can't wait to retire. And retirement in this case is a promise that was marketed to you since you were a child like a click funnels landing page with a forty year countdown timer. Little do you realize that your idea of retirement is just another vacation that you will get bored of because that's how the mind works.

我们大脑的核心机制是模式制造机，进化来用有限资源解决具体问题，而非应对无限可能。米哈里·契克森米哈赖，心流心理学之父提出：快乐源于掌控意识内容，创造所谓'心流状态'——完全沉浸的时段，人们体验深度愉悦、创造力与生命投入感。因此意识中的秩序等于享受，意识中的混乱或精神失调等于混沌等于不快乐。重申：你渴望的并非自由。

The core mechanism of our brains is that they are pattern making machines, evolved to solve specific problems with limited resources, not to handle unlimited possibilities. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi and the godfather of flow psychology argued that happiness comes from taking control over the contents of our consciousness, creating what we know as the flow state, periods of complete absorption where people experience deep enjoyment, creativity, and a total involvement with life. So order in consciousness equals enjoyment. Chaos in consciousness or disorder in the mind or mental disorder equals chaos equals not enjoyment. So again, you don't want freedom.

你渴望的是制定游戏规则的自由。你不想要父母、老师或雇主指派目标，却误以为这是彻底拒绝结构化生活，于是你渴求那个会让生活急剧恶化的东西——自由。若想提升生活中的愉悦感、创造力并减少干扰，你需要像所有成功人士那样，发现并创建一套行事准则。你需要打造自己的小世界并沉浸其中。多数人会试图给你目的地。

You want the freedom to create your own rules of the game. You don't want to be assigned goals from parents, teachers, or employers but you mistake that for not wanting structure as a whole so you crave the one thing, freedom, that will make your life substantially worse. So if you want to increase the enjoyment and creativity and lack of distractions in your life, you need to do what every other successful person has done, and that is to discover and create a set of principles that you operate by. You need to create your own little world and become immersed in it. Most people will try to give you the destination.

对吧？社交媒体和YouTube上随处可见，甚至这个视频《十二个月改变人生》也是。你被目的地吸引，有些人会给你旅程步骤，但极少人提供让你自创目的地和步骤的导航系统。所以本视频不会提供另一位大师的已验证体系，而是给你一个元框架，助你发现属于自己的独特规则。

Right? That's what you find on social media and YouTube, even this video, twelve months to change your life. You're attracted toward the destination, and then some other people will give you the steps in the journey, but very few people give you the navigation system to create your own destination and create the steps. So in this video, you're not gonna find another guru's proven system. Instead, I want to give you a framework, a meta view that allow you to discover what your unique rules can be.

以下是改变人生的12条规则，或者说创建个人规则的12条准则。第一条必须优先，因为其他规则乃至人生所有事都由此衍生：拒绝平庸生活。拒绝普通。拒绝乏味。你必须达到这个人生节点：意识到自己不愿平庸，因为人生是一连串决定，而那个决定所有其他决定的抉择，就是激烈抗拒你出生时既定的轨迹。

So these are 12 rules to change your life or 12 rules to create your own rules. Rule one and the thing that absolutely has to come first here because all other rules or anything else in your life is downstream of this, and that is to reject the average life. Reject being regular. Reject being boring. You have to reach this point in your life where you realize that you don't want to be regular because life is a series of decisions and the single decision that determines all other decisions is to vehemently reject the trajectory you are set on at birth.

当你真正厌恶与众人同款的结局时，就会开始形成逆向愿景。我们常讨论这个，因为它很重要。如果你已知晓却未奏效，可能是因为当时生活情境尚未成熟。这不是你花三十分钟做完就期待见效的事——若你只为快速获取多巴胺，想在三十分钟内感觉掌控了人生的话。

When you truly despise the outcome of being like everyone else, you begin to form an anti vision. We talk about this all the time because it's important. So if you already know about this, it could be wise to come back to it. If it didn't work for you the first time, that's because you may not have been in the life situation where it would have actually worked. This isn't something that you sit down for thirty minutes and do and expect it to work because you're here for a quick dopamine hit and you want to feel like you have control over your life in the next thirty minutes.

事情不是这样运作的。这是一辈子的事。如果你想创造这种强大的负面能量源，它能引导你走向积极的一面，对吧？所以你要兼顾两端。你不能只是乐观地想着并希望自己朝那个方向前进。

That's not how it works. This is a lifelong thing. So if you want to create this potent negative source of energy that can lead you toward the positive, right? So you have both ends. You don't just think positively and hope that you move towards it.

有时这招管用，有时不行。这不是可持续的策略，但你可以通过也拥有负面一面来完善它。但如果你沉溺于负面，显然你的人生最终会变得消极。所以你需要两者兼备，但这是基础。负面是一种非常、非常强大的能量源，能推动你走向积极。

Sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't. It's not a sustainable tactic, but you can round that out by having a negative side too. But if you get absorbed in the negative, then obviously your life is gonna end up negative. So you need both, but this is the foundation. The negative is a very, very potent energy source that can push you toward the positive.

每当你经历不喜欢的事情时，把它写下来。散步时思考如果你继续做同样的事，生活将走向何方。回顾过去，记下你绝不想再经历的事情。收集所有当你被他人框架迷惑时忽略的数据点。一旦你真的这么做，一旦这个反面愿景在你脑海中至少有些清晰，它就会变得很有力量。

Every time you experience something you dislike, write it down. Go on a walk and think about where your life is heading if you keep doing the same things. Reflect on your past and note what you never want to experience again. Gather all of the data points you skipped over while you were under the spell of someone else's structure. Once you actually do this and once this anti vision is at least somewhat clear in your head, right, it's kind of potent.

你会感受到它，而且一定会感受到。现在你可以停下来思考，决定生活中是否该做某个选择，因为现在你有了要远离的东西。这意味着你能做出导向更好人生的选择。如果仅凭反面愿景并做出远离它的决定，你就在朝更好的生活方向前进。但通过设定一个奋斗目标，我们可以让这个过程更加精准。

You feel it and you will feel it. You can now stop, think and consider whether or not you should make a certain decision in your life because now you have something to work away from. And what that means is that you can make a choice that leads to a better life. If you simply have an anti vision and make decisions that move you away from that, you are moving in a better life direction. But now we can make that even more accurate by having something to aim towards.

这就引出了第二条准则：致力于卓越。现在我说这些时尽量不显得傲慢，但你们脑海中只有对我的想象。对吧？你们看我的视频，对我有某种认知，但那只是真实的我1%。你们没有日常接触或交谈。

So that leads to rule number two, which is to commit to excellence. And now I try to say these things without sounding arrogant, but you guys only have an image of me in your head. Right? You guys watch my videos and you have this idea of who I am, and that's like 1% of who I am. You don't see me or talk to me on a daily basis.

你们只是通过视频了解我，这完全没问题。我来这里做我该做的事。我说这些是为了说明：我从未困惑于想要什么，因为我从一开始就知道不要什么。我的未婚妻/妻子（现在我就称她为妻子）正在考普拉提教练证，她的导师——那位普拉提女掌门告诉我妻子如何逐步矫正体态。方法就是在公共场所观察别人的姿势，当你注意到‘哦，糟糕的体态原来是那样’，就会慢慢纠正自己。

You just know me from my videos, and that's perfectly fine. I'm here to do what I need to do. So I say this to illustrate a point, is that I've never had a problem knowing what I want out of life simply because I knew what I didn't want from the start. My fiance slash wife, I'm just gonna call her my wife at this point, is getting her Pilates certification and her instructor, the big boss Pilates girl, told, my wife how to fix her posture over time. And the way you do that is whenever you're in a public space, you just judge people's posture because then when you notice, oh, that's what bad looks like, then you slowly correct your own.

这对我同样适用。我知道评判他人听起来不好，我们称之为观察与辨别。但年轻时我去杂货店，看到不符合我理想形象或行为方式的人，通过观察他们购买的商品、购物方式和与人交谈的样子，很容易就能调整自己的行为避免那样。我上学时也是如此。

The same holds true for me. And now I know judging people sounds bad. Let's call it observation and discernment. But when I was younger, I would go to the grocery store, I would see someone who didn't look how I wanted to look or act like I wanted to act, and I could see what they were purchasing at the store, how they were shopping, how they were speaking to other people, and it was pretty easy for me to correct my own actions to not do that. I would go to school.

我会去教堂，然后观察。一切都显而易见。你能看到自己不愿做的事，周围充斥着平庸，因为那本是事物的自然状态，除非人们努力创造并追求自己的愿景，而大多数人恰恰做不到。所以，更应评判或观察社会。

I would go to church, and I would see. It's just in plain sight. You can see things that you don't want to do. You can see mediocrity all around you just because that's the natural state of how things are unless people put effort into creating their own vision and pursuing it, which most people just don't do. So judge or observe society more.

你无需告诉他们这些。只需观察并修正自己的行为。因此，我小时候很容易明白自己该做什么——我必须追求卓越，必须成就非凡。

You don't need to tell them these things. You simply observe and correct your own actions. So from that, when I was a kid, it was pretty easy for me to figure out what I had to do. I had to commit to excellence. I had to do something great.

对我而言，这意味着无论失败多少次都要成为企业家（我失败了七次），这样才能掌控工作时间和内容。我还知道必须通过坚持训练和营养来打造强健美观的体魄，换言之，我必须成为自己的导师和私人教练，学习所有这些知识——至今我仍热爱钻研这些。

And for me, that looked like becoming an entrepreneur no matter how many times I failed, and it took seven failures so I can control how long I work and what I work on. I also knew I had to build a strong aesthetic and energetic body by making training and nutrition a nonnegotiable. In other words, I had to become my own teacher and personal trainer. I had to learn all of these things. I still love studying these things.

探索身体的精妙机制，研究化学物质、营养素乃至万物与身体的互动乐趣无穷。一旦理解这些，你的选择就会近乎本能——当你知道'把这种东西吃进嘴里会带来种种长期恶果'时，无论多美味你都会视其为泔水。最后，我明白必须通过渐进式承受不确定性和情感劳动来培养强大心智。

It's so fun to learn about the intricacies of your body and how chemicals and nutrients and really anything interacts with it. Once you have that understanding, your decisions are kind of automatic because when you know, oh, I'm putting this thing into my mouth, here's all the downstream horrible effects, especially long term. You just don't wanna put it in your mouth no matter how good it tastes. You see it as slop. And the last thing, I knew that I had to nurture a strong mind through the progressive overload of uncertainty and emotional labor.

这种追求卓越的承诺形成了某种愿景框架。如果我能训练心智驻守其中不被干扰（所谓分心就是脱离参照框架却不自我归位），这个由你如何解读世界并决策构成的参照框架，一半是追求卓越的愿景，另一半是远离平庸的反向愿景。当你身处这个小世界时，那就是你的天地。

So this commitment to excellence created some form of vision. So if I trained my mind to stay within that frame, if I didn't get distracted, that's what distracted is. It's breaking outside of your frame of reference and not bringing yourself back in and your frame of reference, how you interpret and see the world and make decisions is formed. One half is your vision, commitment to excellence, and the second half is your anti vision, which is moving away from mediocrity. So when you are in this little world, that's your little world.

这是你人生的外部准则框架。只要做到这点，无论采取什么步骤人生都会精彩，因为这些步骤终将把你从散落的反向愿景带向愿景。你未必精准抵达某点，但方向正确就足够。明白吗？我关于创业、健身和修心的例子或许不适用于你，但我相信每个人都渴望这类事物的某种形态。

That's the outer frame of the code that you live your life by. If you can just do that, your life will end up great no matter the steps you take because the steps are gonna be going from anti vision all over the place somewhere to vision. You're not gonna hit an exact spot, but you're just moving in the right direction. Makes sense. Now my examples of becoming an entrepreneur and fixing my body and nurturing my mind, those may not resonate with you, but I have a feeling that everyone wants some form of those things.

人们渴望自由，对吧？但他们将自由误解为退休或默认路径。实际上，他们想要的是成长、进化，想要超越并包容过去的自我。

They want freedom, right? They misinterpret their desire for freedom as retirement or what the default past set them on. In reality, what they want is to grow. They want to evolve. They want to transcend and include their past self.

他们想要解决自己的问题，突破潜能的限制。你内心深处明白，关于人生该做什么的答案，就是在真正重要的领域不断进步：心智、身体、精神、事业。事业也部分属于精神层面，它是价值交换。

They want to solve their own problems, remove the limits on their potential. You know deep down that the answer to what do I do with my life is to progress in the only areas that matter. Mind, body, spirit, business. Business is also partially spirit. It's value exchange.

它是社群，是对你所索取资源的世界做出贡献。你在回馈社会。问题在于，对未知的恐惧、对人生做出改变的恐惧，远超过沦为平庸的恐惧。所以我们需要降低踏入未知领域的这种感知恐惧。

It's community. It's contributing to the world that you take resources from. You're giving back. The problem here is that the fear of the unknown, the fear of doing something different with your life is greater than the fear of ending up like everyone else. So we need to decrease that perceived fear of stepping into the unknown.

这样，避免沦为平庸就会成为优先事项，你才更可能采取行动。这就引出了第三条法则：标准塑造身份。你未能达到理想状态，是因为安于现状。如果你满足于银行账户里的50美分，就不会有改变的欲望，提升健康、人际关系或财务状况的许多机会也将对你关闭。而若你以10万美元为标准，任何低于这个数字的情况都会被视为需要解决的问题。

That way, ending up like everyone else takes priority, and then you are more likely to act. So that leads to rule number three, which is that standards create identity. You aren't where you want to be because you are okay with where you are. If you are okay with having 50¢ in your bank account, you won't have the desire to change that, and many opportunities to improve your health, relationships, or finances will be closed off to you. Now, if you're okay with a $100,000 in your bank account, you will see anything less than that as a problem that needs to be fixed.

当问题被视作项目时，它们会让生活充满乐趣——因为项目正如我们讨论过的，是另一种为意识建立秩序的方式。如果你的生活是一系列突破潜能限制的问题解决项目，你就更可能活在某种心流状态中，从而专注追求卓越。当你持有高标准时，大脑的生存机制会主动发现有助于维持这些标准的机会。我们不仅在肉体层面生存繁衍，在精神层面同样如此。

Problems when treated as projects are what make life enjoyable because projects are another way to bring order to consciousness as we discussed about. So you're more likely to live in some degree of a flow state if your life is just a series of projects that solve problems that remove the limits on your potential so that you can commit and pursue excellence. Now, when you have high standards, your mind's survival mechanism notices opportunities that help you maintain those standards. Right? We don't only survive or reproduce on a physical level, but on a mental level as well.

我们不仅拥有物理身体，还拥有精神体——这就是我们的身份。心智进化到也能在概念层面求存。当身份或标准受到威胁时，你会真切感受到压力。

We don't have only have a physical body. We have a mental body. It's called our identity. Our mind has evolved to survive on the conceptual level as well. If your identity is threatened or your standards are threatened, then you quite literally feel stressed.

狗不会这样，因为它们没有语言能力。它们不活在概念世界里。所以当银行存款低于你的标准时，这种痛苦会驱使你重回标准之上。这就是多巴胺发挥作用的地方。

Dogs don't do that because they don't have language. Right? They don't live in the world of concepts. So if your money in the bank is lower than the standard of what you have, you will feel that pain and that pain will push you to get back above that standard. That's where dopamine comes into play.

你会注意到生存机遇：谷歌搜索开始转向获取更好技能，与朋友展开关于金钱的对话。所有这些微小选择逐渐累积成结果。你根据对特定问题的有意识探索，重塑思维模式。

You notice survival opportunities. Your Google searches start to change to acquire better skills. You start having conversations about money with your friends. All of these tiny choices begin to compound into results. You rewire your thinking patterns based on your intentional search for specific information relating to the problem you are facing.

所以如果你让自己周围环绕着这样一群人——无论是现实中还是网络上——他们让你觉得体重超标一百磅、身无分文、做厌恶的工作、与憎恶的伴侣相处、每晚买醉等等都无所谓，你觉得你的人生最终会变成什么样？现在，如果你的标准要求你保持健康饮食，那么你会对麦当劳嗤之以鼻。实际上，我们来聊聊这个。在我上一个视频里，我用了个比喻：社交媒体是社交的垃圾食品，电子游戏是娱乐的垃圾食品，结果很多人对此很不满。

So if you surround yourself with people, physical or digital, that make it seem like it's okay to be a hundred pounds overweight or have zero money or work a job you hate or stay with a partner you despise or get drunk every night and the rest, how do you think your life will end up? Now if your standards require you to eat clean, then you will look at McDonald's and discuss. And actually, let's talk about this. On my last video, I threw a metaphor in it where I said social media is the fast food of socialization, blah blah blah. Video games are the fast food of entertainment, and people did not like that.

但你们没理解重点。我偶尔也吃快餐，这没关系，因为我清楚它对我人生发展的整体影响。当然有些游戏不会腐蚀心智，你可以玩。但对大多数人而言——就像曾经的我，以每天沉迷《魔兽世界》十二小时毁掉自己生活的亲身经历来说——这些不值得辩护。如果你急于向我辩解电子游戏的好处，这恰恰说明它们对你有害。因为如果你真正掌控人生，清楚游戏在生活中的位置，你根本不会产生这种辩护冲动。

But what you're not understanding is the point. I eat fast food sometimes, and that's okay because I understand its overall impact on my progress in my life. Sure, there are games that aren't inherently entropic to your mind and you can play them but for most people, for my past self, again, I'm speaking from experience here where I'm clocking twelve hours a day of World of Warcraft just ruining my life. That is not something to be defended. If you have the desire to tell me or justify why video games are good for you, then that's kind of a surefire sign that they're not because if you were comfortable and had a big picture and nuanced understanding of your life and where video game sat in it, you wouldn't feel the need to defend yourself because you would feel confident in what you're saying.

回到正题，你觉得健康饮食、厌恶麦当劳或鄙视电子游戏很可笑，唯一原因就是你的标准太低。重视健身的人无法忍受吃不健康食物，这对他们不是折磨而是享受。而你觉得不吃垃圾食品才难受。

So back to the point where we left off, you only think this sounds stupid, eating clean, or looking at McDonald's in disgust, or looking at video games in disgust because your standards are abysmal. Someone who values fitness find it painful when they don't have the option to eat clean. It's not hard for them. It's actually enjoyable to eat clean. You find it painful not to eat clean.

这些是标准，但还有我们姑且称之为'反标准'的东西——你为实现目标不愿做的事或不愿做的牺牲。通过不断缩小选择范围，我们才能避免分心，进入心流状态享受生活。比如我众多目标之一是创业，但我不愿像多数人那样牺牲健康或人际关系，而他们却认为这是创业必经之路。

So those are standards, but there's also something that let's just call them anti standards for the sake of cohesiveness. And we can consider these what you are not willing to do or sacrifice to achieve your goals. So we're just continuing to narrow our frame so that we can't get distracted and we can become more in flow state and enjoy our lives. For myself, I have one goal out of many of building a business, but I am not willing to sacrifice my health like most people do or my relationships like most people do. And most people think that that's just a natural part of starting a business.

你必须牺牲这些。必须长时间工作？不，根本不必。因为设定限制条件才是激发创造性成果的关键。

You have to sacrifice those things. You have to work long hours. No. You don't. Because setting constraints is how you actually get creative results.

正因如此更具挑战性。要在不牺牲健康、人际关系或过度工作的情况下创业，你必须进行创造性思考。这需要自主探索、形成独立见解、真正明确目标。假设你承诺每天工作四小时而非多数创业者鼓吹的十二小时，最终会像JK Molina那样——他离开每天工作十二小时赚大钱的代理公司后自问：'我能否用四小时工作赚百万？'

Because in order to do that, it's more difficult. In order to not sacrifice your health or your relationships or how much you work, you have to think creatively so that you can build a business, as an example, to do those things. That requires you to figure things out on your own and come to your own insights and conclusions and really understand what your goals are. Let's say you were to commit to four hours a day of work instead of twelve hours a day of work like most hustle and grind entrepreneurs. Then you would end up like someone like JK Molina who left working with his agency with another person for twelve hours a day making a lot of money, but he was like, I can I have the knowledge and skill to make a million bucks working four hours a day?

他现在实际每天只工作三小时。当你这样做时，思维会捕捉到追求其他目标时注意不到的高价值商机。因此他的服务极具价值，能收取更高费用、服务更少客户、投入更少时间。铺垫到此为止，现在我们来讨论第四条规则：基于项目的学习。既然已知人生不想要什么，也勾勒出理想生活轮廓，接下来就需要掌握填补两者差距的技能与知识。

He he's actually working three hours a day. But when you do that, your mind notices higher leverage business opportunities that you wouldn't have noticed when you're pursuing another goal. So for him, his offer and how he delivers it is so valuable that he can charge higher prices, work with less people, and work less time on it. Now that's enough for that. So let's talk about rule number four, which is just just project based learning because you know what you don't want out of life and you have an idea for what you want out of life, and now you need to acquire the skills and knowledge that bridge the gap between both.

那么如何通过建立秩序来应对未知旅程中的潜在混乱？答案就是个人项目。因为最佳学习方式就是动手做一个真实项目，只在需要时搜索信息。你的学习成果与项目进展直接相关。如果只是无休止地看教程，只会让大脑充斥无用信息。

So how do you start moving into the unknown by having a way to order any potential chaos along the way? Personal projects. Because the best way to learn is to build a real world project and only search for information when you need it. How much you learn is directly correlated with how much progress you make on the project. When you do something like watch endless tutorials, you just fill your mind with excess noise.

这些信息大多会被浪费，因为你没有实践应用。对吧？我们都有这种经历——读完一本书后，和朋友讨论其中概念时却支支吾吾说不清楚，就是因为学而未用。难道我是在说读书不好吗？

Most of that information goes to waste because you don't apply it. Right? We've all experienced this. You learn all You read a book and then when it comes to talk to your friend about the actual concept or what you learned, you're like stuttering and you can't articulate it because most of what you learned went to waste because you didn't apply it. Now am I saying that reading books is bad?

不。我是在说看YouTube视频不好吗？也不是。我想说的是这些都不是学习，只是娱乐消遣。

No. Am I saying that watching YouTube videos is bad? No. What I'm saying is that that's not learning. That's entertainment.

它们属于生活的其他领域——可能是为了思维清晰、心灵平静或减压之类的目的。但算学习吗？不算。当然也可以用于学习，但效率极低。更关键的是，如果为了学习而读大量书或看YouTube，你只是在往大脑里塞满无穷无尽的选择项。

It's for another domain of your life. Maybe it's for, mental clarity or calming your mind or stress relief or something of that nature, but is it for learning? No. And I mean, sure, it can be for learning, but it's a very ineffective way to learn. But the other thing with that is if you're reading a bunch of books for the sake of learning and for YouTube and or and watching YouTube for the sake of learning, you're filling your mind with endless options.

这只会制造更多混乱。项目可以是任何事：健康管理可以是项目，创业可以是项目，用Photoshop修图也可以是项目。

You're just creating more chaos. Now a project can be anything. Your health can be a project. Your business can be a project. An image in Photoshop can be a project.

项目就是实现目标的结构化路径。当计划、策略与行动相遇时，项目就诞生了。所以不要只盯着计划或策略，它们只是项目的副产品。真正要做的是行动起来建设项目，并在过程中迭代优化计划策略——因为没有行动和迭代的计划策略，不过是一张永远不会发生的愿望清单。连接现状与理想的桥梁，正是一系列体现你个人成长价值的项目。若你愿意，还可以将项目转化为产品，既然你已解决了自己的问题，现在就能帮助他人做到同样的事。

A project is simply a structured way of achieving a goal or making progress toward a goal. A project is when a plan and a strategy meet action. So don't focus on a plan, don't focus on a strategy, those are byproducts of a project and then you act and build the project and iterate on the plan and the strategy because the plan and the strategy without action and without iteration are just a list of things that aren't going to happen. The bridge between where you are and where you want to be is a series of projects that reflect the value you've developed in yourself. And if you'd like, you can turn that project into a product because you've solved the problem in your own life and can now help others do the same.

项目是你开始赚取独立收入唯一需要的资质。如果你正苦于梳理这些概念——反愿景、愿景以及项目计划，我推荐你尝试「人生重置引导」。我会把链接放在简介里，这个工具会通过提问对话帮你理清所有思路，最终生成一份可迭代改进的动态人生规划文档。

A project is the only qualification you need to start earning an independent income. Now if you're struggling to think through all of these things, your anti vision, your vision, and now your projects or plan, I would recommend going through the life reset prompt. I'll link it in the description, but it helps you. It questions you. It converses with you to come up with all of these things and it spits out a document with kind of your entire life plan that isn't static that you can iterate on and improve.

现在第五条规则是项目之后的日常杠杆。每天至少完成一到三项优先任务，这些任务能推动你的项目进展。这是你一生中唯一需要的生产力建议。一个好的经验法则是：两周后，如果你在目标上没有取得任何明显进展，说明你没有推动正确的杠杆。

Now rule number five after projects is daily levers. Every single day, complete at least one to three priority tasks that move the needle toward completing your project. That is the only piece of productivity advice you will ever need in your life. Now a good rule of thumb for this is this. After two weeks, if you haven't made any noticeable progress toward your goals, you are not moving the right levers.

你做错了什么。大多数人不会承认这一点，或者他们会故意做一些忙碌的工作来避免取得进展，因为他们内心深处想要失败。这是一个更大的问题。你的大脑会注意到实现目标的机会。这是它的本能。

You are doing something wrong. Most people won't admit that or they will intentionally do busy work to avoid making progress because secretly they want to fail. And that's an even bigger problem. Your mind notices opportunities to achieve your goals. That's what it does.

大多数人内心深处有一个无意识的编程目标，那就是保持不变。所以他们朝着这个方向努力，甚至没有意识到。到目前为止，我们的框架——为生活带来乐趣的东西，我们遵循的代码——由反愿景、愿景、标准、项目和推动我们远离平庸、走向卓越的杠杆组成，形成了一个紧密的反馈循环，使生活大部分时候成为一个愉快的游戏。这是基础，也是推动你深入未知的动力。但你如何在实际过程中应对高潮、低谷、情绪和不确定性呢？

And most people have this deep and unconscious programmed goal of staying the same. So that's what they work toward and they don't even realize it. So far, our frame, the thing that is gonna bring enjoyment to our life, the code that we operate by, is composed of anti vision, then vision, then standards, then projects, then levers that lead to progress away from mediocrity and toward excellence, creating a tight feedback loop that makes life an enjoyable game for the most part. That's the foundation and that's what pushes you deeper into the unknown. But how do you actually navigate the highs, lows, emotions, and uncertainty along the way?

第六条规则是成为一个深度通才。以我之前引用过的丹尼尔·施马赫滕伯格的话开始：传统教育和过度专业化是让人们服从于主导范式或系统的一种方式。研究自然的普遍原理，做一个深度通才。因为人类天生就是通才。我们不会在特定的领域里茁壮成长。

Rule number six is to become a deep generalist. Start this with a quote from Daniel Schmachtenberger that I've said before: Traditional education and hyper specialization is a way to make people subservient to the dominant paradigm or system. Study the generalized principles of nature and be a deep generalist. Because humans are natural generalists. We don't thrive in a specific niche.

就像北极熊在阿拉斯加茁壮成长。如果它去了狮子繁茂的草原，它会死。如果狮子去了阿拉斯加，它也会死。但人类，我们去阿拉斯加是因为我们制造了工具。我们制造了外套。

Like a polar bear thrives in Alaska. If it were to to the savannah where a lion thrives, it would die. And if a lion went to Alaska, it would also die. But humans, we go to Alaska because we built tools. We built a coat.

我们制造了空调和暖气。我们去草原，我们有一辆带空调的车，或者我们有一个水壶，这是动物没有的。所以人类制造工具。你是一个工具制造者。人类制造工具以适应并在任何环境中茁壮成长。

We built air conditioning and heating. We go to the Savannah and we have a car with air conditioning, or we have a water bottle, which animals don't have. So humans build tools. You're a tool builder. Humans build tools to adapt and thrive in any environment.

这不仅仅局限于物理工具。人类发明了心理工具，如语言、文化、概念、宗教和故事，以便他们能够适应、构建和获取在任何情况下茁壮成长所需的知识和技能。这是使我们独特的能力。这是大多数人已经失去的能力。你看，作为孩子，我们喜欢冒险。

And this extends beyond physical tools. Humans invented mental tools like language, culture, concepts, religion, and stories so they could adapt, build, and acquire the knowledge and skills necessary to thrive in any situation. This is the ability that makes us unique. This is the ability that most people have lost. You see, as children, we love to adventure.

我们热爱探索。我们热衷于解决问题。我们犯错，并从中学习。我们触碰火焰。我们承担风险。

We love to discover. We love to figure things out. We make mistakes, and we learn from them. We touch fire. We take risk.

但后来我们的学习不再关乎真正的错误。它开始关乎父母和老师不喜欢的特质，那些他们认为烦人或不够文明的特质，那些他们认为不会导向他们被灌输的成功版本的特质——他们尚未领悟到，从来不存在唯一正确的道路。那条所谓的唯一正确道路是什么？那条默认路径是什么？它就是让你感到迷失、困惑、焦虑、不堪重负的根源。

But then our learning stops being about real mistakes. It starts being about the traits our parents and teachers dislike in us, the traits they find annoying or uncivilized, the traits they don't think will lead to the version of success they were conditioned to believe is the only one true path, and they haven't opened their mind to the discovery that there is never only one true path. And what is that one true path? What's the default path? It's the reason you feel so lost, confused, anxious, overwhelmed, and the rest.

这条本应安全稳妥的道路，实则最不安全稳妥。你每天被按在政府培养的专家面前六小时——这些专家又是由显然没活出你理想人生的政府专家所培养——被告知该学什么、如何行事，同时不断被推向象征地位的职位和学位。若你了解心智运作原理，就会明白构成你世界观的目标（光鲜学位和高薪工作）决定了你心智的发展潜力与自由。你的目标决定了你的视野。所以请允许自己研习并追求多元兴趣。

It was the path that was supposed to be safe and secure, but was the least safe and secure. You were plopped in front of a government trained expert, trained by government trained experts who are clearly not doing what you want to do in life for six hours each day, being told what to learn and how to act while constantly being prodded toward the status symbol of a job and degree. And if you understand how the mind works, you understand that the goals that compose your worldview, fancy degrees and high paying jobs, determine your mind's potential development and freedom. Your aim determines what you see. So give yourself permission to study and pursue multiple interests.

你拥有互联网。你拥有AI。去学点东西吧。现在第七条法则是：创业是精神的修行。这是我的预言。

You have the internet. You have AI. Go and learn something. Now rule number seven is that entrepreneurship is spiritual. And here's my prediction with this.

我曾多次谈及此，简言之：未来工作将主要由创业者构成，若非创业者，就是具备创业特质的精英雇员——这类岗位会越来越稀缺。入门级岗位将消亡。AI没有降低标准，而是抬高了标准。于是我们只剩两个选择：依赖政府救济过着勉强温饱的生活，或完全为自己负责成为创业者。遗憾的是，创业和经商已沦为贬义词。

I've talked about this a few times, but in brief, the future of work will consist mostly of entrepreneurs, and if not entrepreneurs, elite employees who have entrepreneurial traits in increasingly rare positions. The entry level will go extinct. AI isn't replacing the bar, it's raising the bar. So this leaves us with two options: Rely on government support with a marginal chance at a good life, or take full responsibility and become an entrepreneur. Now unfortunately, entrepreneurship and business have become dirty words.

人们认为创业专属于有钱有闲的天选之子。让我快速重新定义：雇员与创业者的区别，就是低自主权与高自主权的区别。高自主权者自设目标并不经许可去追求；低自主权者被分配目标去完成，因其思维程序让他们看不见其他选项。

People believe entrepreneurship is reserved for talented people with a lot of money and a lot of time. So let me redefine it really quick. The difference between employee and entrepreneur is the difference between low agency and high agency. High agency individuals create their own goals and pursue them without permission. Low agency individuals are assigned goals and pursue them because their programming doesn't allow them to see other options.

工业化教育模式与雇佣制度滋生自满，对心灵有害。它违背了你需要不确定性、挑战和持续进步才能茁壮的天性。成长、进化——宇宙正在如此运作，你也是如此运作，而你试图停滞求稳只会让生活更糟。人们攀爬企业阶梯这类阶梯，是因为心智渴望挑战，但最终他们会习以为常直至感到乏味。对吧？

Industrial style schooling and employment breed complacency and are dangerous for your psyche. It goes against your nature of needing uncertainty and challenge and constant improvement to thrive. Growth, evolution, that's what the universe is doing, that's what you're doing, and you trying to stop it to stagnate and become comfortable is making your life worse. People climb ladders like the corporate ladder because their mind craves challenge, but eventually they get so used to it that it becomes boring. Right?

度假、退休，你会进入这种状态，起初会喜欢一阵子，但很快便会感到乏味。你需要下一个挑战，而这通常与工作相关。但问题是大多数人厌恶自己的工作，因此他们不相信存在理想的工作。他们不认为自己能创造工作，也不认为自己能追寻毕生的事业并真正享受工作、掌控工作。

Vacation, retirement, you're gonna go into it, you're gonna like it for a bit, then it's gonna become boring. You need that next challenge, and usually that involves work. But that's the other thing is that most people hate their work, so they don't think that there is good work. They don't think that they can create their work. They don't think that they can pursue their life's work and actually enjoy work and control it.

因此至少在我看来，创业是长期思考者唯一合乎逻辑的选择。这是一条充满不确定性的道路，需要学校从未教授的技能。你必须能接受失败、拒绝和缓慢的进展。别再视雇员与创业者为头衔，而应将其视为思维状态。

So it's my belief, at least, that entrepreneurship is the only logical option for long term thinkers. It's the path of uncertainty requiring skills not taught in schools. You must be okay with failure, rejection, and slow progress. So stop thinking of employee and entrepreneur as titles. Think of them as states of mind.

雇员是被动接受学习指令的个体，创业者则是主动设定愿景、因好奇而学习、创造推动人类进步的解决方案的个体。关键在于培养一项极具影响力的技能，让你不得不分享它。你解决自己的问题，出售解决方案，并推动人类进步——这就是创业。

Employees are passive individuals told what to learn. Entrepreneurs are assertive individuals who set their own vision, learn by curiosity, and create solutions that push humanity forward. The secret is cultivating a skill set so impactful that you can't help but share it. You solve your own problems, sell the solution, and improve humanity. That's entrepreneurship.

雇佣制并非人类天然状态。你的心理机制是为狩猎而设。但当今的威胁是心理与精神层面的，而非物理的。没人愿做格子间里的猴子，每个人都渴望成就更伟大的事业。这就引出了第八步：成为创造者——因为数百万年来，创造力曾是神的专属。

Employment isn't our natural state. Your psyche is wired to hunt. But today's threats are psychological and spiritual, not physical. Nobody wants to be a monkey in a cubicle and everyone feels that pull to achieve something greater. That leads into step eight which is to become a creator because for millions of years creativity was reserved for the gods.

人类曾不知万物运行的原理。我们不创造事物，尚未制造工具。后来我们逐渐领悟，意识到：原来我们能创造火焰。

Humans didn't know how things worked. We didn't create things. We didn't build tools yet. And then we slowly started to figure it out. We realized, oh, we can create fire.

而后历经岁月，我们能造飞机，如今能创造人工智能。这就是进化，疯狂至极。我们打造的工具让我们在任何环境中生存，驾驭能量，改造地球。

And then down the road, we can create planes. And now we can create AI. It just evolves. It's insane. We built tools that allowed us to survive in any environment, harnessed energy, and transformed the earth.

人类接过了创造者的角色，但太多人迷失了方向。越来越多人将创造者角色让渡给AI。善用AI的核心在于坚守创造者身份。我们无法预知AI等技术的未来，但很可能不会如许多人（包括我自己）渲染的那般极端。

Humans took over the role of creator, but so many have lost their path. And so many are giving up their role as creator to AI. The entire key to using AI well is to maintain the role as the creator. Now we don't know what the future holds when it comes to AI and other things. It's probably not gonna be as drastic as many people made it out to seem, myself included.

但我们知道两件事。其一，问题是无限的；其二，问题是可以解决的。无论我们发展到何种程度，总会不断涌现新问题需要解决，因为一）进化会催生更多复杂性，就像人工智能让我们能获取更多信息那样。这在一定程度上并非变得更好，而是更加混乱，从而引发更多问题。

But we know two things. One, problems are infinite, and two, problems are soluble. No matter how developed we come, there will always be a new problem to solve because one) evolution creates more complexity just like how AI allows us to access more information. That's not better to an extent, that's more chaotic. That introduces more problems.

而这些难题会创造就业机会或创业机遇，让我们能在现有方案基础上构建更多解决方案。这个过程可以无限循环，直到太阳消亡——除非我们解决了那个终极问题。现在分享我书中的一段话（我的Substack上可免费阅读《目标与利润》），我认为它很好地阐述了成为创造者的核心要义：如果幸福或快乐源于在为超越自我的事业做出贡献的过程中取得进步，而这两者都通过为自己和他人解决问题来实现，且问题需通过创造力来解决，那么你未来唯一合乎逻辑的根本目标，就是通过成为创造者来践行创造力。

And those problems create jobs or opportunities to become an entrepreneur that allows for more solutions building on top of the current ones. And that can go on forever and ever and ever until the sun dies out unless we solve that problem. Now here's an excerpt from my book. It's free to read Purpose and Profit on my Substack, but I think it gets the point here of becoming a creator across quite well. If happiness or enjoyment is the combination of progress being made in contribution to something greater than yourself, and both are accomplished by solving problems for yourself and others, and problems are solved through creativity, then the only logical and fundamental aim for your future is to embody creativity by becoming a creator.

换言之，你通过创造性地解决自己感兴趣的问题，传播这些方案以推动人类进步，并在更复杂的下一批问题出现时重复这个过程，从而找到目标与利润的交汇点。虽然问题会变得更复杂，但你也将积累更多知识、技能和经验来应对。如果你学会控制混乱（这本身也是个难题），那么随着问题难度提升，生活反而会变得更好。每个问题都蕴含着达到新目标高度的机遇。成为创造者或承担创造者角色始终是可能的，但从未像现在这样触手可及。

In other words, you find the intersection of purpose and profit by creating solutions to problems you deem interesting, passing on those solutions to contribute to the progress of humanity, and repeating the process when the next set of more complex problems arise. Although problems become more complex, you become more equipped with knowledge, skill, and experience to solve them. Life gets better as problems get harder if you learn to keep chaos at bay, which is a problem within itself. With every problem comes the opportunity to reach a new level of purpose. Now becoming a creator or adopting the role of a creator has always been possible, but it's never been so accessible.

我们正处在第二次文艺复兴时期，这次变革通过互联网在全球更快地发生。在这个数字社会，任何人都可能成为下一个爱因斯坦或莎士比亚。所以保持未来竞争力的路径就是：从消费者转变为创造者。解决自己的问题，在全球市集（即互联网）上传播你的方案，吸引志同道合者。

We're in the second renaissance and it's happening on the internet, everywhere, faster than before. A digital society where anyone can be the next Einstein or Shakespeare. So the path to becoming future proof is this: shift from consumer to creator. Solve your own problems, distribute your solutions in the global town square, which is the Internet. Attract people who share your vision.

即使只有一千名忠实拥趸，你也能获得创造美好生活的力量。现在第九条重要法则是：不确定性是信号，而非噪音。因为你本应感到迷茫，本应感到不堪重负，本应觉得自己手足无措——每个人都是如此。当你试图改变人生或学习新事物时，难道指望会发生什么？

Even with just a thousand true fans, you'll find the power to create a good life. Now rule number nine, and an important one, is that uncertainty is signal, not noise. Because you're supposed to feel lost, you're supposed to feel overwhelmed, you're supposed to feel like you have no idea what you're doing. Everyone feels that way. What do you expect to happen when you're trying to change your life or learn something new?

难道你以为刚开始做某件事，所有相关知识和技能就会瞬间注入大脑？当你追求卓越时，你就选择了与不确定性共存的人生，因为你选择了终身学习。你能拥抱多少不确定性，决定了你的潜力上限。但关键在于，最成功的人对此毫不畏惧，他们从不将不确定性视为危险。

Did you just think that all possible knowledge and skill would just be deposited into your head the second you started something? When you commit to excellence, you commit to a life of uncertainty because you commit to a life of learning. Your potential is determined by the amount of uncertainty you're willing to embrace. But the thing is, the most successful people don't even flinch at this. They don't perceive uncertainty as something dangerous.

他们如何做到？因为他们明白，所有超额收益都源于拥抱、管理和延展不确定性的能力。他们深知确定的人生回报最低——工作是确定的，你的薪水反映了这点；生意是不确定的，取决于你的运营层级。

How do they do this? Because they realize that all outsized gains lie in their ability to embrace, manage, and extend uncertainty. They realize that the certain life is the least rewarding. A job is certain, your paycheck reflects that. A business is uncertain, depending on what level you are operating at.

从本地业务、代理工作、自由职业甚至信息产品起步属于第一层级。虽然充满不确定性但操作简单，年收入上限约100万到500万，之后你需要通过组建团队或将商业模式拓展至软件、实体产品等领域来进一步提升。投资亦是如此，将积蓄投入401k退休计划就是第一层级。

Starting out with a local business or agency work or freelancing or even information products is level one. It's uncertain, but it's simple, and you have a cap of about 1 to 5,000,000 a year before you need to increase the stakes even further by hiring a team or expanding the business model into something like software or physical products. And the same goes for investing. You can invest your savings in a certain four zero one k. That's level one.

投资股市则属于第二层级，因其相对可预测且收益通常高于401k。第三层级则是投资企业、加密货币或更高风险的资产，这些自然能带来最高回报，但要求你具备驾驭和理解风险的能力。因此在开始改变人生的阶段，必须尽可能对冲风险。

And you can invest in the stock market. That's level two because it's kind of predictable and you'll probably make more than in a four zero one k. And then level three is that you can invest in businesses or crypto or even more uncertain assets. Naturally, those have the highest returns on investment, but it requires the ability to navigate and understand risk. So you need to hedge against risk as much as you can, especially when you're just starting to change your life.

所以你要量力而行地突破——从第一层级逐步进阶到第三层级，不贸然挑战超出能力范围的事。若确信能应对第三层级的挑战，那就放手去做。若执意要挑战第三层级，就必须通过改变生活环境来对冲风险，比如搬进廉价公寓。

So you punch just above your weight. You go from level one to level two to level three, and you don't take on a challenge you can't handle. If you can handle level three challenge, then take it. And if you want to go further and take the level three challenge anyways, then you need to hedge against that by changing your environment and how you live. You need to move into a cheap apartment.

你需要过一年粗茶淡饭的生活。年轻时未承担风险就背负越多责任，日后改变人生的阻力就越大——这正是默认人生路径的可怕陷阱。第十条独特法则是：设计你的热情。我们常听说必须痴迷目标，因为人们总是用这种狂热精神描述成功者。

You need to live on beans and rice for a year. The more responsibilities that you adopt before you've had a chance to take risks in your youth, the more difficult it is to justify changing your life. That's the horrible trap of the default path. Now rule number 10, a unique one, is to engineer enthusiasm because we hear all the time that you need to be obsessed. You need to be obsessed with your goal because this is how people describe successful people with an intense spirit.

但若你真有这种偏执性格，除非学会将其从人际关系转移到技能、兴趣或事业上，否则会反噬生活。其实更准确的说法应是「热情」——这个词源自希腊语enthusiasmos，字面意思是「神驻心中」或「神启」。

And if you are intense, you have that intense spirit, you have that kind of obsessive personality that can really hurt your life unless you learn to direct it away from people and toward other things like a skill or an interest or a business. But the real word for this is enthusiasm. That's what we should aim for. That just doesn't feel as cool or edgy as obsession. The word enthusiasm comes from the Greek word enthusiasmos with the literal translation of having God within or God inspired.

它原指被神性灵感附体的状态，暗示真正的创造力或精神力量超越个体。美好生活的终极密钥，就是用令你热情澎湃的事物填满日常。最关键的是逆向分析你生活中的热情来源，然后剔除、外包或接受那些不相关的事物。留意哪些活动让你能量充沛、忘却时间、专注毫不费力，哪些能激发你的好奇与开放心态。

It referred to being possessed or inspired by a divine spirit suggesting that true creative or spiritual power came from beyond the individual self. The master key to the good life is to fill your average day with that which makes you enthusiastic. So one of the most important things you can do is to reverse engineer where enthusiasm comes from in your life and then eliminate, outsource, or accept all of the things that don't align. Notice which activities make you feel energized, which distort time, and which make focus effortless. Notice what makes you excited, curious, and open minded.

尤其要注意那些让你因思绪澎湃而失眠的时刻。竭尽全力增加这类体验，扫除一切阻碍。每天严格预留1-2小时追逐热情，这就引出第十一条法则：自我实验。因为唯有通过自我实验，才能永久解决你的问题。

Especially notice when you can't sleep because you are having too many ideas. Do everything in your power to fill your day with more of these and remove things that prevent you from doing so. Literally block off one to two hours a day to pursue your enthusiasm. And that leads into rule number 11, which is self experimentation. Because self experimentation is the only way to solve your problems for good.

人们可以诊断并为你提供问题解决方案，但他们往往忽视了问题持有者在视角、目标和经历上的差异。举例来说，对于想赚钱的人有两种不同方式：A君完全遵循某位导师所言，谨小慎微地遵守规则，根据他人蓝图降低生活标准；B君则从多方获取建议，通过观察共性模式自主决策。

People can diagnose and prescribe solutions to your problems, but they often lack regard for the difference in perspective, goals, and experience from the person with the problem. As an example, here's two different approaches for a person who's wanting to make money. Person A follows exactly what a guru says. They play it safe, follow the rules, and downgrade their life style based on someone else's blueprint. Person b pulls advice from multiple sources to make decisions based on the patterns they notice between all.

他们借鉴方法论建议，但只为发掘可融入自身目标追求的原则。最终通过学习和实践，他们会顿悟出独特的实现方式。以营养或减肥为例，A君处境更危险——他们找到鼓吹素食主义的导师，净化饮食后将其建议奉为圭臬，见效后便固守该意识形态并成为布道者。这是低认知水平的典型表现：虽因体重减轻精力充沛，却因理解局限认定唯有素食能达到此效。

They use how to advice, but only to discover principles that can be integrated into the pursuit of their goals. Eventually, with education and effort, it clicks and they know how to make it work in their own unique way. As an example with nutrition or weight loss, person A is in a much more dangerous position because they find a guru preaching veganism, then clean up their diet, then follow their advice as law, see results, and then attach to that ideology and become a prophet for it. This is dangerous in the definition of low consciousness. You lost weight and felt more energetic, but from a lack of understanding decided that only the vegan diet can do that.

（此处仅以素食主义为例，我并非针对特定饮食方式）若你面临感情问题，可尝试咨询治疗师、刷遍YouTube建议、参加疗愈营，通过实践筛选最佳方案。首次尝试的方法往往非最优解。若事业停滞，不妨购买课程、聘请教练、测试新软件、跳脱框架或制定新策略。

And I'm just using the vegan diet here as a punching bag. I don't really care which diet you go with. If you're going through problems in your relationship, hire a therapist, binge watch YouTube advice, go on a retreat, and experiment with options until you find the right solution. The first one you try probably isn't the best way. If your business isn't growing, buy a course, hire a coach, test a new software, zoom out, or create a new strategy.

解决问题总有办法，但若执着于某个未必能根治问题的方案，便是自我剥夺这种力量。第12条法则关于如何活出独特人生：最大错误正是拒绝犯错。你能坚持观看至此，正因你与众不同——你不甘于默认人生，对此你心知肚明。

There's always a way to solve your problems, and you strip yourself of that power when you latch onto one solution that probably won't solve the problem for good. Now rule number 12 is how to live a unique life, and that is that the greatest mistake is not making mistakes. Because the thing with all of this, the reason you've made it so far in this video is that you're different. You don't want to live the default life. You're aware of this.

你敏锐却沉默，因惧无人倾听而压抑真实想法，但这种缄默正侵蚀着你。你曾尝试合群，将未来托付他人，甚至妖魔化金钱与成功——虽知美好生活无需这些，但创造价值才是贡献社会、连接更宏大存在的方式。你有能力挣脱机械生存的枷锁，却仍在寻找所谓唯一真理。而我要说：这样的真理并不存在。

You're observant, maybe a bit quiet, afraid to speak your mind because they won't listen anyway, but that silence is killing you. You tried to fit in. You tried to trust others with your future. You tried to demonize money, success, and the rest because you don't need it to live a good life, but you need to build because that's how you contribute to others, connect to something greater than yourself, and embark on a unique journey that brings an end to robotic living you have the money to remove your dependency from that robotic living. The thing is, you're still looking for that one true path, and I'm here to tell you that there isn't one.

你未能抵达理想之境，只因恐惧犯错。若要用一句话锚定人生，那便是：错误是自然的指南针。若快乐离不开悲伤，成功便离不开失败。

You aren't where you want to be because you're afraid of making mistakes. I cannot express that enough. If there were one true sentence in which to orient your life, that would be it. Mistakes are nature's compass. If happiness can't exist without sadness success can exist without failure.

这是宇宙定律、现实规律、自生命诞生之初就存在的现象——正如「有」必依存于「无」。在常规路径（学校与职场）中犯错，你仍朝着狭隘目标前进，这些错误不会引向更好的新路径，只会滋生自怜。当你决心自由，摒弃出生时被灌输的局限目标——正是它们让你思维狭隘陷入负面漩涡——你的错误将成为黑暗中的光。

It's a universal law, a pattern of reality, a phenomenon that has been around since the first sign of life because something can't exist without nothing. You can make mistakes on the conventional path, schools and jobs, but you are still working toward a narrow goal. The mistakes don't lead toward a new, better path. They simply lead to you feeling sorry for yourself. Now when you decide to be free and reject the goals assigned to you at birth that made you think small and trapped you in this negative bubble of thoughts, your mistakes are your light in the dark.

但问题在于你根本不知道自己想要什么。你没有意识到你永远无法预知自己的渴望。它属于未来，尚不存在。

But you don't know what you want. That's the problem. You don't realize that you will never know what you want. It's in the future. It doesn't exist.

那都是虚幻的。人生无常，此刻所求明日可能截然不同，下个十年更是天翻地覆。但你永远不会开启这个筛选净化的过程，因为你似乎无法容许自己失败。当你认清生活中不想要什么，并朝相反方向努力时，人生目标自会清晰。

It's imaginary. Life changes. What you want now could and will absolutely be different tomorrow, the next day, or the next decade. But you'll never embark on this process of refinement and purification because you can't seem to allow yourself to fail. What you want out of life becomes clear when you realize what you don't want out of life and work in the other direction.

既然你从未在自己道路上犯错，自然不明白人生所求。现在听我建议：想做就做，无需他人许可。去参加派对、喝个烂醉、创业、整夜刷手机，随心所欲。

Since you haven't made any mistakes on your own path, it's obvious why you don't know what you want out of life. Now here's my advice. Do what you want without permission from someone else. Go to the party. Get drunk, start the business, scroll on your phone all night, do whatever your little heart desires.

认真地说，压抑欲望只会让你被其束缚。但有个前提——你必须能意识到何时这些事是错的。若清晨无需承担重要责任，夜夜买醉就不算过错，它不影响你达成目标。

Seriously, because denying those desires is only going to bind you to them. But there's a catch. You need to be able to realize when those things are a mistake. Getting drunk every night isn't a mistake if you don't have meaningful responsibilities to wake up to every morning. It's not hurting your ability to achieve the goal.

当派对和酒精开始影响比它们更重要的事物时，你自然懂得节制。既然学业和工作对你不够重要，你便肆无忌惮。你需要建立自己的目标，而唯有彻底厌倦现状、推翻所有既定认知，才能孕育这些目标。你必须从零开始。感谢观看。

Managing parties and alcohol becomes a lot easier when it impacts something more important than parties and alcohol. Since your schooling and job aren't more important, you don't care and you do it anyway. You need your own goals, and you can only generate those goals by getting absolutely fed up with where you are and rejecting everything you thought was true. You need to start from scratch. Thank you for watching.

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