幸福是一种技能（如何走出困境）

我们生活在一个幻觉中，认为我们可以在不经历困难的情况下取得进步。

We live in a delusion that we want to make progress without it being hard.

因此，我们成了‘应该如此’的奴隶，而我们的‘应该如此’却是轻松的。

So we become slaves to what should be, and our should be is easy.

例如，人们一想到在天气太热时出去散步就会发疯，但他们去桑拿房时却毫无怨言。

An example is that people will go insane at the thought of going on a walk outside when it's too hot, but then they will go into a sauna without complaint.

而这里的区别在于期望和意图。

And the difference here is expectation and intention.

当然，我说的是，这两者是不同的。

Now, of course, I'm saying, like, these two things are different.

我只是想说，你可以在炎热的天气里出去散步，不抱怨，也不给自己制造不必要的痛苦。

I'm just saying that you can go into you can go and walk in hot weather without complaining and causing unnecessary pain for yourself.

同样地，当你走进寒冷的环境中时也是如此。

And the same thing is when you go out into the cold.

你的本能反应是抗拒、颤抖，并抱怨天气太冷。

Your automatic reaction is to fight and shiver and complain about it being cold.

这很合理，对吧？因为寒冷确实让人不舒服。

And it makes sense, right, because the cold is uncomfortable.

所以我们专注于那些充斥大脑的强迫性负面想法，陷入这种思维循环中。

So we focus on the compulsive negative thoughts that flood our brain and we get stuck in this loop of thinking.

但如果你能调整自己的期望，使之真正与现实和你所处情境相符，并接纳它、顺应它。

But if you were to change your expectations to actually align with what reality is and what is happening in the situation that you are in and be with it, flow with it.

你就会开始意识到，不适是人类体验的一部分，同时也会发现，是你对想法的解读导致了你的痛苦。

You would then start to realize that discomfort is a part of the human experience, and you would also find that the interpretation of your thoughts is the culprit of your suffering.

我一生中多次学到过这个教训。

I've learned this lesson many times in my life.

我脑海中第一个浮现的是，我在大学停车场因持有大麻而被逮捕，而校园里对此绝不轻饶。

The first that sticks out in my head is the time where I got arrested for the possession of marijuana in a college parking garage, and they don't take that lightly on campus.

第二次是我向我爸借了2000美元，刷爆了我的第一张信用卡，并贷款支付了大学第五年的费用，当时我正努力经营多家生意，主要是电商生意，但最终惨败。

The second was after I borrowed $2,000 from my dad, maxed out my first credit card, and took out loans to fund my fifth year of college while I was trying to make, multiple businesses work, but primarily an ecommerce business work at the time, and it failed miserably.

第三次是在哥斯达黎加。

The third was in Costa Rica.

在我刚刚创下业务月度新高后，我非常兴奋，当时还有一位刚交往的女朋友。

After I just hit a new monthly high in business, I was very excited, and I had a girlfriend at the time, brand new girlfriend as well.

我以为这是个明智的主意。

And I'd thought it would be a wise idea.

嘿。

Hey.

我们飞去哥斯达黎加吧。

Let's fly off to Costa Rica.

在那里待两周，好好享受一下。

Let's stay there for two weeks and just have a great time.

因为我当时被金钱的高涨情绪冲昏了头脑，做出了冲动的决定，结果我们一到那里第一天就分手了，第二天就飞回来了。

Because I was riding the money high and made an impulsive decision, and we ended up breaking up the first day we got there and flew back the next day.

虽然哥斯达黎加确实很棒，是个非常美丽的地方。

And while it was cool, Costa Rica is a very nice place.

我希望有一天能再回去。

I hope to go back one day.

但即使在经历了如此糟糕、看似愚蠢的事情之后。

But even after something as bad or as what is seemingly stupid.

比如，那真是个愚蠢的决定，但我直到犯了这个错误、亲身经历了这一切后，才真正领悟到一个别人无法教会我的宝贵教训。

Like, what a stupid decision that was, but I only realized that, after I made that mistake and exposed myself to that experience and learned a very valuable lesson that someone else couldn't teach me.

别人可以一整天都告诉你别这么做，但除非你自己去做了，亲身领悟其中的教训，否则你永远无法真正内化它。

Someone else could tell me, oh, don't do that all day long, but unless I go and do it myself and learn the actual lesson, that's the only way I'm going to internalize it.

所以，所有这些经历都有一个共同点，那就是心理上的煎熬。

So all of these experiences had one thing in common, and that is mental turmoil.

不仅仅是压力轻微增加，而是压力急剧上升，以至于你的注意力变得狭窄，感到被困住。

Not just a slight increase in stress, but a huge increase in stress to the point of where your attention narrows and you feel trapped.

最微小的任务都变成了不可能完成的高山。

The smallest tasks turn into a mountain of impossibility.

每一个念头都变成了试图将你困在这场心理游戏中的敌人，隧道尽头的光亮消失了，你不禁怀疑自己是否能逃出去。

Every thought becomes an enemy that is trying to keep you trapped in this mental game, and there ceases to be a light at the end of the tunnel, and you can't help but wonder if you'll ever get out.

显然，生命中的这些阶段并不愉快。

And these phases of life aren't fun, clearly.

但生命中的这些时刻，恰恰提供了唯有通过方向转变才能领悟的教训。

But these moments in life are the ones that offer a lesson that can only be received with a shift in direction.

所以，所有这些重大挣扎都有几个共同点。

So all of these major struggles had a few things in common.

首先，所有通过进步获得的快乐都被剥夺了，就像高潮过后突然切换到新电影场景一样。

The first is that all progress induced happiness was stripped from me like an abrupt transition to a new movie scene after the climax.

我感到迷失，几乎不再有动力去延续过去目标的进展。

I felt lost, had little desire to sustain the progress of my previous purpose.

我已经达成了它，必须继续向前。

I'd achieved it and had to move forward.

我从内在和外在两个方面都进行了探索。

I experimented both inward and outward.

我尝试了各种内心平静的技巧，同时设立了新的目标，并辅以学习和实践。

I tried techniques for inner peace while creating new goals with accompanying education and practice.

随着时间推移，拼图的碎片逐渐拼合，带来了清晰的认知，并将我推向了一个新的高强度阶段，而这正是我们今天要深入探讨的内容。

With time, the pieces of the puzzle came together, brought clarity, and launched me into a new season of intensity, and that is what we are here to unpack.

那么，这为什么重要呢？

Now why does this matter?

这样你才能识别出自己当时所处的人生阶段。

It's so you can identify the point in life that you were at.

你可以跳出这种思维泡沫。

You can break out of this thought bubble.

你可以抽身远观，看清自己在人生故事中的位置，看到隧道尽头的光，避免在过于疲惫之前长时间原地踏步。

You can zoom out, see where you're at in the story of your life, see the light at the end of the tunnel, and avoid treading water for too long before you're too tired to get to shore.

有两种类型的幸福。

There are two types of happiness.

一种来自于目标的达成。

One is derived from achieving goals.

另一种来自于一无所成。

The second is derived from achieving nothing.

但这种平静与进步的平衡，必须由一种掌控感来维持。

But this balance of peace and progress has to be upheld by a sense of mastery.

否则，这将变成一种肤浅的追求，最终让你感到失望。

Otherwise, it becomes a shallow pursuit that will leave you disappointed.

幸福是一种技能。

Happiness is a skill.

它不是被给予的，而是被创造的。

It is not given, but it is created.

与所有技能一样，它需要不断磨练、实践，并融入你的生活。

And as with all skills, it must be refined, practiced, and adopted as a part of your life.

当被孤立起来时，当我们试图孤立、维持并理解这种名为幸福的东西时，它就失去了意义，因为如果没有不快乐的参照点，它就无法被理解。

And when isolated, when we try to isolate and sustain and make sense of this thing called happiness, it it ceases to make sense because it can't make sense without an unhappy reference point.

对吧？

Right?

如果没有过去经历过像在哥斯达黎加和女友分手、浪费了很多钱、不得不飞回家这样的事，我就无法为未来设定目标。

I wouldn't be able to set a goal for the future without having a previous experience like breaking up with my girlfriend in Costa Rica and wasting a lot of money and having to fly back.

因此，这揭示了新时代积极运动的问题。

And so this illustrates the problem with the new age positivity movement.

你可以一整天都保持积极的想法，但人们往往忽视了，每一个积极的想法都蕴含着消极的种子。

You can think positive thoughts all day long, but what people fail to realize is that every positive thought holds a negative seed.

这就是为什么几乎每一次伟大的成功都发生在巨大的失败之后。

And this is why almost every great success comes after great failure.

因此，你需要意识到两种心态：存在与行动。

So there are two states of mind to become aware of being and doing.

从类似的角度或另一种视角来看，那就是平静与进步，或静止与运动。

On a similar note or in from another perspective, that is peace and progress or stillness and movement.

当你将注意力集中在这些纯粹生活模式中的任何一种时，你就进入了当下时刻。

And so when your attention is focused on either of these modalities of pure living, you tap into the present moment.

纯粹的平静或纯粹的进步，你的注意力完全投入到当前的任务中，或完全不投入任何任务中。

So pure peace or pure progress where your attention is fully engaged in either the task at hand or no task at hand.

每个人都想要金钱、肌肉和一个有吸引力的伴侣。

Everyone wants money, muscles, and a desirable partner.

实现这些目标的过程在一开始会让人感觉无比美妙。

The act of achieving those goals feels incredible at the start.

如果你在追求物质财富时没有一种哲学或掌控感，迟早会迎来一次残酷的觉醒。

If you don't have a philosophy or sense of mastery behind your material pursuits, you're in for a rude awakening.

即使你的行为没有改变，背后的动机却可以改变。

Even if your actions don't change, the why behind them can.

一位在经历痛苦分手后开始健美训练的人，如果能让自己的心灵超越对物质世界的认同，就能在训练这一微观生活中找到意义。

A bodybuilder that got started after a tough breakup can shift his focus to find meaning in the microcosm of life that training is if they allow their mind to see beyond the identification with the material world.

那些确实实现了物质欲望的人，外表发生了变化，但内心却并未改变。

Now, those that do often acquire their material desires change on the outside, but not on the inside.

许多人身体已经六十岁，心灵却仍像十二岁孩子一样，经历着情感上的青春期。

Many people turn a physical 60 years old while still having the mind of a 12 year old going through an emotional puberty.

佛教的核心教义是无常。

The main Buddhist teaching is that of impermanence.

这意味着没有任何事物能被心灵孤立并固定不变。

That is nothing can be isolated and held static by the mind.

这包括思想、感受、情绪、人物、地点，以及我们试图抓住并期望永远不变的一切。

This includes ideas, feelings, emotions, people, locations, and everything else that we try to latch onto and expect to say the same forever.

对意识形态、教条以及其他静态心理结构的认同，是我们痛苦的根源。

The identification with ideology, dogma, and other static mental constructs is the source of our suffering.

当这些事物受到威胁，或对它们的依附受到挑战时，就像琴弦被拨动，我们会感到身体上的威胁。

When those things are threatened or attachment to them is threatened, like the string is plucked, then we are physically threatened.

但思考本身并不坏，对吧？

Now, thinking is not bad, right?

因为你必须思考这些事情，才能与它们产生关联。

Because you have to think about these things in order to be able to attach to them.

但思考本身并不坏，尤其是批判性思考。

But thinking is not bad, especially when it is critical.

但当不受控制时，强迫性思维会创造出一种无法逃脱的内心混乱的个人现实。

But when gone unchecked, compulsive thoughts can create a personal reality of inescapable turmoil.

当一个人静止时，他的心却渴望移动。

When one is still, their mind wants to move.

当一个人在行动时，他的心却渴望静止。

When one is moving, their mind wants to be still.

如果没有刻意练习，心灵会试图抓住过去或未来，试图将无常变为永恒。

Without deliberate practice, the mind will try to latch on to the past or the future in an attempt to make the impermanent permanent.

这是不快乐的根源，但不应被妖魔化，因为那样恰恰违背了主旨。

This is the cause of unhappiness, but it is not to be demonized because that is against the point.

当你感到不快乐时，观察这种感受，贴近它，让它像手指指向月亮一样，向你揭示生活试图教给你的教训。

When you feel unhappy, observe that feeling, lean into it, let it point a finger at the moon and present the lesson that life is trying to teach you.

从低谷中，贴近即将到来的高峰。

From that low, lean into the coming high.

现在，那些将你带入这些愉悦心理状态的活动，无论是存在还是行动，都是个人化的。

Now the activities that launch you into these blissful states of mind, either being or doing are personal.

你必须观察、假设、实验、失败、学习，并重复这个永无止境的过程。

You must observe, hypothesize, experiment, fail, learn, and repeat this never ending process.

即使你已经达到了某种客观的成功，也是如此，因为就连那种成功也不是永恒的。

That is even once you've reached some form of objective success because even that isn't permanent.

如果你上床时并不疲惫，醒来时也不兴奋，你就需要更多的强度和目标。

If you aren't tired when you go to bed and excited when you wake up, you need intensity and goals.

秘诀在于让心灵与生命的无常共舞，而不是试图将生命的无常强行纳入某种永恒的结构中。

The secret is to engage the mind with the impermanence of life and flow with it rather than the mind trying to fit the impermanence of life into some form of permanent structure.

我们现在讨论的，正是我们大多数人曾经历过的强度阶段。

Now, are seasons of intensity that most of us have experienced, and that's what we're talking about here.

我们谈论的是强度与探索的循环周期。

We're talking about the cyclical seasons of intensity and experimentation.

当我们经历这些阶段时，通常会是宇宙协调一致、一切顺利契合，你付诸行动了一个看似完美的想法。

And so when we experience these seasons, it usually goes along the lines of the universe aligns, everything clicks, and you act on an idea that makes perfect sense.

你对自己的目标清晰明了，技能达到新高度，并享受这个过程。

You have clarity on your goals, reaching new levels of skill, and enjoying the process.

你感受到一种使命感，觉得一天的时间根本不够用，但你丝毫不愿改变这种状态。

You feel a sense of purpose and it seems like there isn't enough time in the day, but you wouldn't change it for a thing.

纯粹的进步感无可比拟。

The feeling of pure progress is unmatched.

没有干扰，绝对清晰，一块、两块、三块砖地搭建你未来的愿景。

No distractions, absolute clarity, placing one, two, three bricks down to build your vision for the future.

那么，让我们的日常生活充满能够维持这种感觉的活动，是不是很合理呢？

Now, would make sense to fill our days with activities that we can sustain this feeling with, right?

当我们无法进行这些活动时，就会转向平静。

And when we aren't able to do those activities, then we resort to peace.

对吧？

Right?

所以我们需要在平静与进步之间取得平衡。

So we balance the peace and progress.

这正是我们今天要讨论的内容。

That's what we're here to talk about.

而强度的阶段其实并不是这里的问题。

And the seasons of intensity aren't really the problem here.

我们并不担心这些阶段，因为它们发生在感到迷茫的阶段之后。

We're not we're not worried about those because those happen after a season of feeling lost.

而真正的问题就在于这些感到迷茫的阶段，因为人们没有将这种情况视为一种机会。

And that is exactly the problem here, is those seasons of feeling lost because people don't perceive that situation as an opportunity.

在这些感到迷失的时期，你没有明确的目标去追求，也没有进步可言，只是在不断努力拼凑碎片，为下一个高强度阶段做准备。

And during these times of feeling lost where you don't really have a purpose to work towards, you don't have progress to be made, you are just in this grind of trying to gather pieces and preparing yourself for that next season of intensity.

因此，正是在这些时候，你的内心容易陷入精神动荡的可能性中——就像我们之前提到的，要么经历巨大转变，要么在一段进步之后逐渐下滑，陷入低谷，从而可能被困在恶性循环里。

And so this is where your mind opens itself up to the potential of mental turmoil, the things we talked about earlier when either a massive shift happens or you just gradually decline after a season of progress into this low point where you have the possibility to get stuck in a rut.

如果你能在这些挣扎时期掌控自己的内心，那么负面情绪就不会那么负面了，你能够把注意力集中在正确的事情上，这不仅能让你在这些时期感觉更好、对生活更有掌控感，还能加速你进入下一个高强度阶段的过程。

And so if you can master your mind in these periods of struggle, then the negativity ceases to be so negative, and you can engage your attention in the right things that will lead to not only a better feeling during these times and more sense of control over your life during these times, but it it expedites the process to reaching another stage or season of intensity.

因此，在这些感到迷失的时期，或任何其他时候，自我实验才是彻底解决你问题的唯一方法。

So during these seasons of feeling lost or really at any time, self experimentation is the only way to solve your problems for good.

别人可以诊断你的问题并给出解决方案，但那通常是一场来回试探的猜谜游戏，试图对齐目标，找出最适合你的方案。

People can diagnose and prescribe a solution to your problems, but that's usually a guessing game of back and forth of trying to align goals and figure out what the best solution for you is.

但即使是一个被推荐的方案，也可以给任何人使用。

But even a prescribed solution can be given to anyone.

它并非为你量身定制，意味着它不可持续，你最终还是得寻找新的解决方案。

It's not tailor fit to your situation, meaning that that it isn't going to be sustainable and that you're going to have to find a new solution anyway.

所以，最好从一开始就进行自我实验。

So it's better to just self experiment from the start.

所以，我们假设你现在感到精力低落，对吧？

So let's imagine that you're feeling low energy, right?

你并不处在一切顺利的进展阶段。

You're you're not in the season of progress where everything is going well.

你正处于一个感到迷茫和挣扎的阶段，我们称之为低能量状态，而这就是你想要解决的问题。

You're in this season of feeling lost and in a season of struggle, we'll call it where you're feeling low energy and that is a problem that you want to solve.

因此，既然你正在经历这个问题，你潜意识里就在寻找解决方案。

So since you're experiencing this problem, you're subconsciously in search for a solution.

于是，当有人在你的信息流中自信满满地出现，声称素食饮食能解决你所有的具体问题——因为这就是营销人员的套路，当然，这本身并没有错。

And so when someone pops up onto your timeline with confidence and conviction, saying something like the vegan diet is going to solve all of these specific problems that you have because that's what marketers do, and there's not a problem with this, of course.

但你必须批判性地思考哪些方法适用于你的情况，必须从整体角度看待，而不是盲目追随他人推广的饮食理念。

But you have to think critically as to what applies to your situation, and you have to view it holistically and not just latch on to this diet ideology that someone is promoting.

很多人，包括我过去，都会这么做——虽然不一定是针对素食主义，但当你感到精力低落时，就会决定尝试某种饮食法。

And so what a lot of people do and what I've done in the past, not specifically with veganism, but you're you're feeling low energy, you decide to try out the diet.

在这种不明智的状态下，你清理了饮食，像遵守法律一样遵循他们的建议，然后看到了他们所提及或承诺的效果。

And from this unenlightened state, you clean up your diet, you follow their advice as if it were law, and you see the results that they mentioned or promised.

然后大多数人会固守这种饮食理念，成为它的传道者，并将你所经历的成果归功于这种方法。

And then most people attach to that diet ideology and become a prophet of it, and you attribute the results that you experienced to that specific method.

很多人将素食主义视为唯一的选择，并像捍卫生命一样捍卫这种理念或他们所形成的认同，因为对他们来说，这种认同受到了威胁。

And a lot of people latch onto it as if veganism is the only option, and they will defend that ideology or that identity that they formed like their life depended on it because that's how it feels for them since their identity is threatened.

实际上，在这种情况下，发生的事情与素食主义无关。

In reality, what happened is independent of veganism in this case.

你摄入了更多营养密集的食物。

You ate more nutrient dense foods.

你的行为是为了维护你的素食身份。

Your actions work to survive your vegan identity.

你通过遵循有纪律的营养计划，获得了清晰而非混乱的状态。

You had clarity, not chaos, by following a disciplined nutrition regimen.

人们常常低估了清晰度在尝试新方案时能带来多大的帮助——当你每天有明确的步骤可循时，这种清晰感会带来超越一切的愉悦感。

People often write off like how much clarity really helps when you experiment with a solution or you try something new and you have the clarity in your day because you have the step by step thing to follow, that's what makes you feel good beyond all measure.

是的。

Yeah.

如果你改善饮食，你会获得更多的能量，但大部分其实是精神能量被释放了。

If you clean up your diet, you're gonna have a bit more energy, but most of it is psychic energy being freed up.

因此，你实际上拥有了更多的空间和开放的专注力，不再那么狭隘和焦虑地去解决这个问题。

So you actually have the space and open focus and you're not so narrowed in and stressed on solving the problem.

但如果你没有过于执着于这种饮食理念，而是尝试一个月素食、一个月肉食、一个月灵活饮食、一个月生酮饮食，你就能在这些饮食方式之间建立联系，从而揭示健康的本质。

But now if you were not too attached to this diet ideology and you were to try veganism for a month, carnivore for another month, flexible dieting for another month, keto for another month, you would make connections between the diets to reveal the fundamentals of health.

模式识别等于多巴胺。

Pattern recognition equals dopamine.

你会在做这些事时感到愉悦。

You would feel good doing this.

你会选择那些你喜欢的饮食方法，这意味着它们能带来可持续的效果。

You'd pick and choose certain methodologies that you enjoy, meaning they will bring sustainable results.

接下来，你会完善一套完全契合你个人特质的系统。

Next, you'd refine a system that fits your individual nature to perfection.

你明白你正在做什么吗？

You see what you're doing here?

你正在采纳这些不同的视角，看清它们的本质——它们是暂时的、良好的指导原则，然后你去实践它们，提取出最适合你的部分。

You're adopting these different perspectives and seeing them for what they are, which are impermanent and good guidelines, and then you would test them out and pull the things that work best for you.

好的。

Okay.

这就是自我实验的目的和重要性。

So that was the purpose of self experimentation and the importance of self experimentation.

但我们现在需要再次把两者区分开。

But what we need to do now is separate two again.

对吧？

Right?

所以存在着‘存在’与‘成为’，或‘存在’与‘行动’，或‘平静’与‘进步’。

So there's being and becoming or being and doing or peace and progress.

对吧？

Right?

因此，在我们感到迷茫的这些时期，我们需要向内探索，也需要向外探索。

And so what we need to do is both in these periods of feeling lost, we need to experiment inward and we need to experiment outward.

所以我们先从内在开始，为了追求平静而进行探索。

So we'll start with inward or experimenting for the sake of peace.

在感到迷茫的时期，这一点尤为重要，因为这样你才能真正获得视角，从而在向外探索时不至于担心世界会崩塌。

And this is important during these times of feeling lost so you can actually gain perspective and then be able to experiment outward without just worrying that the world is going to end.

你感到迷茫，是因为你缺乏一个能维持生活基本清晰度的体系。

So you feel lost because you don't have a system to maintain a baseline level of clarity in your life.

当你进入人生的新篇章，也就是页面翻转或电影场景切换到人生低谷时，建立清晰感应成为首要任务。

And when you enter a new chapter of life, that is when the page turns or the movie scene cuts to a sad point in life, clarity creation should be a top priority.

仅这一项就能使你的意识变得有序，让你对未来的掌控感增强。

That alone will order consciousness to the point of you gaining a sense of control over your future.

要向内探索，你将主要尝试的技巧包括非物质哲学、灵性或情绪智力方法。

And to go inward, the main techniques that you're going to be experimenting with are immaterial philosophy, spirituality, or emotional intelligence techniques.

你可以尝试的技巧包括但不限于阅读、冥想、观察、自我反思、沉思、长时间散步，这些活动都能让你的注意力聚焦于当下。

The techniques you can experiment with include but are not limited to reading, meditation, observation, self inquiry, contemplation, long walks, these activities engage your attention with the present moment.

和所有技能一样，你需要通过渐进式超负荷来提升，就像在健身房增加举重重量一样。

And as with all skills, you improve with progressive overload like you would weights in a gym.

通过逐步增加挑战难度来匹配你技能的提升，这样你就不会感到焦虑或无聊。

And that is by gradually increasing the level of challenge as your skill increases so that you don't get anxious or bored.

如果挑战太高，你会感到焦虑，从而不愿意去做。

If the challenge is too high, then you get anxious and you're not going to do it.

如果挑战太低，你会感到无聊，同样也不会去做。

If the challenge is too low, then you get bored and you're not going to do it.

这就像冥想一样，你不会一上来就冥想一个小时，对吧？

It's like with meditation, you don't start with an hour long meditation, right?

你从五分钟开始，然后到十分钟，再到二十分钟。

You start with five minutes, you go to ten minutes, you go to twenty minutes.

因为如果你一坐就是一小时，虽然可能有益，但你第二天可能就不想再做了。

Because if you sit there for, an hour, it may be beneficial, but you're not going to want to do it the next day.

你没有把这套方法融入到你的日常生活中。

You're not working the system into your day.

这样你就无法让它成为一种习惯。

You're not making it habitual that way.

内在实验的目标是采用其中一种最适合你的方法，或者创造属于你自己的方式，让你能够在一整天中保持内心的平静。

And the goal with inward experimentation is to incorporate either one of these techniques that work best for you or create your own way of doing things that allows you to sustain this inner peace throughout your day.

这必须成为你生活的一部分。

This has to become a part of your life.

你每天都需要做一些事情来帮助改善你的心理健康和思维清晰度。

You need something every single day to help with your mental health and clarity.

所以我的做法是，每天走大约两万步。

And so mine, I walk like 20,000 steps a day.

有时少一点，有时多一点，但这就是我的习惯。

Sometimes less, sometimes more, but that's what I do.

我经常去散步。

I go on walks all the time.

如果我感到无聊，就去散步。

If I'm bored, go on a walk.

即使不无聊，我也去散步。

If I'm not bored, go on a walk.

如果我没事做，就去散步。

If I have nothing to do, go on a walk.

如果需要，接个商务电话，或者要写篇文章，就去散步，掏出手机。

If I need to, take a business call, if I need to write an article, go on a walk, pull out my phone.

我真的是用手机写通讯简报的。

I literally write my newsletters on my phone.

所以，从这种内在平静的状态出发，当然，你可能也猜到这并非一蹴而就，需要时间。

So now from this place of inner peace, and of course, you can probably assume that this isn't instant and this is gonna take time.

我们在这里为人生打下基础。

We're forming a foundation here for life.

但接下来，要从这种平静的状态向外探索。

But the next thing is to experiment outward from this place of peace.

所以，你感到迷茫的第二个原因是，你失去了与那些曾为生活带来秩序的目的、目标或习惯的联系。

So the second reason that you feel lost is that you lost connection with a purpose, goal, or routine that brought order to your life.

对吧？

Right?

所以，假设你翻到了人生的新一章，搬了新地方，现在完全打乱了原有的日常安排。

So if you, let's say, flipped the chapter into a new phase of life and you moved location and now you're completely out of routine.

对吧？

Right?

你不再有那种心理机制了，比如：早上我要去咖啡店散步。

You don't have the mental system of, okay, I'm gonna walk to the coffee shop in the morning.

我要走这条固定的路线。

I'm gonna take this exact path.

你会想：我该去哪家咖啡店呢？

You're gonna be like, okay, which coffee shop do I need to go to?

今天我要走这条路。

I'm gonna walk this way today.

然后你慢慢建立起这种习惯，它能释放更多的心理空间。

And then you slowly form this habit that allows, that frees up more mental space.

但这就是关键所在。

But that's just the thing.

你会让自己陷入潜在的混乱。

You open yourself up to potential chaos.

因此，在这段时期，请记住我们仍然处于迷失的感觉中，正试图通过追求新目标来摆脱这种状态。

And so during this period, remember that we're still in a period of feeling lost, and we're trying to get ourselves out by pursuing a new goal.

所以你需要留意那些指向新目标的线索，不要让生活中的教训从你身边溜走。

So you need to stay mindful of hints at a new purpose and don't let the lessons of life pass you by.

你需要设定一个新目标，并通过这个目标的视角去看待生活中的各种情境。

You need to set a new goal that you can perceive life situations through the lens of that goal.

再次强调，这会带来模式识别、多巴胺分泌，以及不断收集拼图碎片，直到画面清晰。

Again, this leads to pattern recognition, dopamine, collecting puzzle pieces until the image is clear.

我所说的这意味着，如果你有一个目标，比如我想变得健康，那么你会注意到生活中那些有助于实现这个目标的事物。

And what I mean by this is that if you have a goal, like I want to get fit, then you are going to notice things in life that will help you achieve that goal.

你会注意到，哦，那里有一家健身房。

You're going to notice, oh, there's a gym right there.

哦，那里有一家瑜伽馆。

Oh, there's a yoga studio right there.

哦，屏幕上这条推文给了我一些关于如何健身的好点子。

Oh, this tweet on the screen has given me some great ideas for getting fit.

如果你没有这个目标，或者这个目标并不明确，你就不会把这些事情视为重要。

And if you didn't have that goal or that goal wasn't conscious, then you aren't gonna register those things as important.

接下来是识别你与目标之间的差距，如果没有障碍阻碍你，那就围绕这个目标进行学习、构建和实验。

And then the next is identify the gap between you and your goals and no problem standing in the way, then study, build, and experiment in alignment with that goal.

所以退一步想想，你目前生活中最紧迫的问题是什么？

So zoom out and think what is the most pressing problem in your life right now?

如果是不快乐、缺乏平静，或者只是精神上的混乱，那就参考前面关于向内探索的部分。

If it is the unhappiness thing or the lack of peace or just mental turmoil, then refer to the previous section on experimenting inward.

但如果你目前的主要问题尚未发展到超越这些层面，那它很可能属于健康、财富、人际关系和幸福这永恒的领域。

But that your main problem right now, if you haven't developed yourself to the point of transcending these things, going to fall within the eternal markets of health, wealth, relationships, and happiness.

所以好好想想。

So think about it.

你目前最大的问题是什么？

What is your biggest problem right now?

是自尊心的问题吗？

Is it self esteem?

你得去健身房锻炼吗？

Are you going have to get in the gym?

你是不是总感觉身体迟钝？

Do you feel sluggish all the time, like physically sluggish?

你的银行账户里没钱吗？

Do you not have any money in your bank account?

你在做的工作让你感到没有成就感吗？

Do you not feel fulfilled in the work that you're doing?

你可以静下心来思考一下这个问题。

And you can sit with this and contemplate.

现在，当你识别出这个问题后，你真的能立即着手解决它吗？

Now, the other thing, when you identify this problem, are you actually able to work towards this problem right now?

还是说，有一个更根本的问题导致了这个问题，你需要先解决它？

Or is there another problem that begets that problem that you have to solve first?

比如，如果你在想，好吧，我想解决我的财务问题。

Like, if you're thinking, okay, I wanna solve my money problems.

目标是什么？

What's the goal?

好吧。

Okay.

也许我可以创业。

Maybe I'll start a business.

你有时间创业吗？

Do you have time to start a business?

你有精力创业吗？

Do you have the bandwidth to start a business?

可能有，也可能没有。

Possibly, possibly not.

如果你没有，那你就得先尝试其他方法，比如制定预算、学习融资知识、学习如何找到更好的工作，或者钻研新技能，以便将来能创业或找到更好的工作，对吧？

If you don't, then you need to experiment with other techniques first, like starting a budget, learning about financing, learning how to get a better job, studying a new skill so that you can eventually start a business or get a better job, right?

你不能从零直接跳到五，必须从零开始到一。

You can't go from zero to five, you have to go from zero to one.

在自尊或人际关系方面，如果这是你生活中的问题，你想找男朋友或女朋友，这真的合理吗？

And in terms of like self esteem or relationships, if that's a problem in your life and you want to attempt to get a boy or girlfriend, does that even make sense, right?

你需要退一步，认真反思，对自己诚实。

You have to step back and think, be honest with yourself.

你是否在经济上，甚至精神上，有能力维持一段终身伴侣关系？

Are you in the financial or even spiritual position to be able to sustain a lifelong partner?

如果你的目标不同，只是想随便玩玩，那尽管去吧。

Now if your goal is different and you just wanna sleep around, go ahead.

去试试看。

Try it out.

就像我过去一样，你会从错误中学习，但这并不能改变一个事实：如果你这么做，而最终又想要一段终身伴侣关系，你只是在当前问题前蒙上了一层纱，问题依然需要解决。

You learn from your mistakes as I have in the past, But that does not take away from the fact that if you do that and you eventually want a lifelong partner, you're putting a veil in front of your current problems and you're still going to have to solve it.

因此，一旦你明确了想要追求的目标，就需要研究并尝试各种能帮助你实现它的方法。

And so once you identify this goal that you want to pursue, you need to research and experiment with techniques that allow you to reach it.

因此，当你逐步经历这个实验的阶段——这也是对挣扎阶段的一种重新定义——清晰感开始逐渐凝聚。

And so as you progress through this season of experimentation, which is a reframe of a season of struggle, clarity begins to culminate.

对吧？

Right?

这并不是立即发生的。

It isn't immediate.

即使当最后一块拼图终于嵌入到位时，那种顿悟是瞬间的，而那时你才真正进入一个进步的阶段。

Even though when that last puzzle piece clicks into place, it is immediate, and then that's when you launch into a season of progress.

在这些进步的阶段中，你会达到新的高峰。

And during these seasons of progress, you will hit new highs.

对吧？

Right?

因此，当你向外和向内探索时，无论哪个方向，你都会达到新的幸福基准，比如业务收入创下月度新高。

So as you're experimenting outward and inward, you're going to reach new baselines of happiness in either direction, like hitting a new monthly high in business revenue.

但你必须明白，所有的高峰最终都会回落一些。

But you have to understand that all highs come down bit.

当你想到进步时，它就像一条曲线，先上升再下降，但比上次更高，然后再次上升到比上次还高，却又下降到比上次更低，接着又上升到比上次更高的水平。

Like when you think of progress, it's a curve where it's like up and then down, but higher than last time, and then up higher than last time, but down lower than last time, and then up higher than last time.

所以你会经历起起落落。

So you're gonna go up and down.

对吧？

Right?

因此，我们需要维持一个特定的基准线。

And so we want to sustain a certain baseline.

在你这段高强度的时期里，你必须时刻牢记系统的重要性。

And as you're doing this in your season of intensity, you have to keep in mind the importance of systems.

这就像健美中的增肌期和减脂期。

It's like bulking and cutting in bodybuilding.

在增肌期，你会感觉很棒。

When you bulk, you're you feel great.

刚开始时，你会想：我吃得更多了，我的举重成绩也在提升，但随后你增了一点过多的脂肪。

Like, at the start, you're like, I'm eating more food, my lifts are going up, and then you put on a bit too much fat.

在这种情况下，我们谈论的是精神上的疲惫。

And in this case, we're talking about mental fat.

然后你开始感到迟钝、昏沉，心想：天啊，我是不是有点过头了。

And then you start to feel sluggish, groggy, and you're like, man, maybe I took this a bit too far.

我觉得我需要减缓节奏，从头再来，但这次要建立在已有的新肌肉基础上。

I feel like I need to cut back and just start from scratch, but from a place of newfound muscle.

对吧？

Right?

我所建立起来的新的基础肌肉水平。

The new baseline level of muscle that I've built.

所以，如果没有一个合适的系统，当你进入削减阶段时，很可能会失去大部分这些肌肉。

And so when it comes time to cut without a proper system in place, you're going to lose a lot of that muscle.

对吧？

Right?

你不能太快地削减，试图直接达到另一个基准线，尤其是在商业收入方面；你甚至可以思考一下，这种现象在人际关系中是如何发生的。

You can't just cut super quick and try to reach this other baseline, especially in like business revenue, or you could even think about a connection of how this happens in relationships.

当你从一个进步的阶段转向实验的阶段，触及新的月度高点并知道它终将回落时，你需要能够区分信号与噪音。

So as you're turning the final page into, like, from a season of progress into a season of experimentation, when you hit a new monthly high and you know it's gonna come back down, you to be able to separate signal from noise.

你每天所追求的杠杆是什么？哪些东西根本不属于其中？

What are the levers that you have been pursuing in your day and what just doesn't belong there?

当你专注于那些真正带来成果的杠杆，并将它们系统化、融入日常，成为生活的一部分时，你就能维持这些更高的基准线。

And when you focus on the levers that are actually getting you results and you're able to systemize and make those habitual in your day, make them a part of your life, then you can start to sustain those higher baselines.

从实验中解决问题、对人生新阶段获得清晰认知、推向新高点、系统化流程以维持成果——这一整套过程，正是生活的本质。

The entirety of this process of experimenting to solve your problems, gaining clarity on a new chapter in life, pushing to new highs, systemizing the process to maintain results is the essence of life itself.

人们已经与它脱节了。

People have just lost touch with it.

事实上，这不过是科学方法的另一种视角。

And in fact, it's just another perspective on the scientific method.

所以，你可以随意运用这些信息。

So do what you will with this information.

我只是一个追求目标、找到解决方法并传递经验的普通人。

I am but another human that pursued a goal, figured it out, and I'm passing down my lessons.

我鼓励你也这么做。

I would encourage you to do the same.

好了，这个视频就到这里。

So that's it for this video.

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就这样了。

So that's it.

感谢你的观看。

Appreciate you watching.

祝你剩下的时间愉快。

Enjoy the rest of your day.

再见。

Peace.