302. 最常见的自信骗局，却没人谈论（重发）

欢迎收听《Mindsetbabe》播客。

Welcome to the Mindsetbabe Podcast.

如果你想获得更多自信和动力，那你来对地方了。

If you want more confidence and motivation, then you're in the right place.

每周都能获取实用的自我成长建议和方法。

Every week, get your dose of self development advice and strategies.

我是你们的主持人佩里·理查德森，人生教练、NLP执行师、励志演讲者，也是心理健康倡导者。

I'm your host, Perry Richardson, life coach, NLP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental health advocate.

我的目标是帮助你找到更多快乐，并在生活中采取更多行动。

My mission is help you find more happiness and take more action in your life.

好，我们开始吧。

Now let's begin.

你好。

Hello.

你好。

Hello.

你好，宝贝。

Hello, babe.

欢迎回到《Mindsetbabe》播客。

Welcome back to the mindsetbabe podcast.

今天这期，我要聊一个没人提过的、提升自信的终极秘诀。

In today's episode, I'm gonna talk about the number one confidence trick no one is talking about.

我翻遍了博客、播客，也啃了不少书，但真的，真的，还没人提到过这个简单又有效的窍门，能彻底改变你的自信。

I've been looking on blogs and podcasts and digging into some books and no one, no one, I have not yet seen this simple, easy hack to truly transform your confidence.

我特别期待这期内容，因为我知道，它会彻底改变你对自信和自尊的看法。

I'm so excited for today's episode because I know it's gonna change everything for you when it comes to your confidence, to your self esteem.

让你真正从心底认可自己，认可自己正在做的事。

So you're able to feel good about who you are and what you're doing.

这个话题我早就列在清单上了，整整几个月了，今天终于能聊，我太兴奋了。

I've had this topic on my list literally for months now, so I'm so excited.

那我们直接进入正题。

I'm gonna get right into it.

你准备好了吗？

Are you ready?

没人提过的最厉害的自信秘诀。

The number one confidence trick no one talks about.

就是庆祝。

It is celebration.

庆祝，庆祝，庆祝。

Celebration, celebration, celebration.

庆祝是我最爱的提升自信的方式。

Celebration is by far my favorite way to gain confidence.

简单、容易，而且真的能改变一切。

It's simple, it's easy and it truly changes everything.

你看待自己的方式、你的举止、你的自尊和对自己的爱。

The way that you see yourself, the way that you carry yourself, your self esteem and self love that you have for yourself.

我想聊聊为什么庆祝这么重要，该怎么庆祝，还有庆祝带来的种种好处，以及为什么今年你必须养成庆祝的习惯。

I want to talk about why celebration is so important, how to celebrate and all the amazing things when it comes to celebration and why you need a celebration routine this year.

我保证，这会彻底改变你的一切。

I promise it will change everything for you.

好了，咱们来聊聊这个简单又容易的自信秘诀，它能彻底改变你的状态。

All right, let's talk about this simple, easy confidence trick that will change the game for you.

说真的，庆祝是我最喜欢、也最简单的提升自信和自尊的方法。

Celebration by far y'all is my favorite and easiest way to gain confidence and build self esteem.

这是一种很好的方式，让你停下来反思，提醒自己：你真的很厉害，你有能力，你正在做成事情。

It's a great way to reflect and to remind yourself that you're a badass, that you are capable, that you are doing the thing.

庆祝其实就是一个简单的思维转变，一个每天都能轻松做到的小技巧。

Celebration is just a super simple mindset shift, a simple hack that you could do every single day.

我有一些庆祝的小仪式，待会儿会在播客结尾跟大家分享。

I have a couple of celebration rituals that I'll share towards the end of the podcast.

庆祝之所以这么重要，是因为我们每天会有六万个念头，其中百分之八十都是负面的。

But celebration is so important because we have 60,000 thoughts per day and 80% of those thoughts are negative.

所以，你大脑的大部分时间都在责备你，而不是为你喝彩。

So 80% of the time your brain is going to be shaming you instead of celebrating you.

你得刻意去关注自己的成就，因为你的大脑天生就会自动聚焦在失败上，总想着你该做什么、本可以怎么做，反而一味地数落自己，觉得自己一无是处。

So you have to really intentionally look at your success because your brain's default, like the autopilot of your brain is to look at all your failures, to look at what you should be doing, what you could have done, and really looking at all the ways that you're a loser instead of being a winner.

我超爱这句 quote，真的太棒了。

I love this quote so freaking much y'all.

你越懂得庆祝生活，生活就越会回报你。

The more you celebrate life, the more life celebrates you.

你越懂得庆祝生活，生活就越会回报你。

The more you celebrate life, the more life celebrates you.

每一天都是宇宙送给你的礼物，都是恩典，我们该每天醒来就明白，值得庆祝的事多得数不清。

Every single day is a gift from the universe, every day is a blessing and we should wake up knowing that there is so much celebrate.

今天我在庆祝。

I'm celebrating today.

明天我也要庆祝。

I'm celebrating tomorrow.

上周的事我也在庆祝。

I'm celebrating last week.

生活中有太多美好的东西了。

There's so much goodness.

有太多值得感恩的事了。

There's so many things to be thankful for.

我常说的是，你现在正活在曾经许下的愿望里。

Something that I famously always say is you are currently living one of your prayers.

你现在的处境，其实就是你曾经祈求过的。

Where you are right now, you prayed for the situation.

你曾经渴望那份工作、那辆车、那段关系，现在你全都拥有了。

There is a time where you wanted that job, where you wanted that car, where you wanted that relationship, and you finally have it.

所以，请停下来好好感受这一刻，好好庆祝一下，因为庆祝本身就是一种感恩的方式。

So make sure that you just take that moment to pause and celebrate because celebration is another way for having gratitude, in your life.

当你道谢、当你庆祝的时候，宇宙也会回应你：谢谢你，然后带来更多美好。

But when you say thank you, when you celebrate, the universe says no, thank you and delivers more goodness.

庆祝的方式有太多太多了。

There's so many different ways to celebrate.

我其实想退一步说。

I I actually wanna take a step back.

我想跟你聊聊关于庆祝的几种不同理解。

I wanna give you some different terms when it comes to celebration.

去年我问过一位同事：你最近有什么值得庆祝的事吗？

Last year, I was asking one of my coworkers, like, what are you celebrating?

她反问我：庆祝？

And she was like, celebrating?

我就说：对啊。

And I was like, yeah.

她根本没明白我在说什么。

And she didn't really understand what I was talking about.

我所说的庆祝，指的是你人生中那些小小的胜利、成就，是你一直努力追求、最终实现的目标——任何你达成的事，都是值得庆祝的。

So when I think about celebrations, I think about just wins that you've had in your life, accomplishments, things that you work towards and you finally got it, just any wins, any accomplishments, anything that you achieved is a celebration.

我也特别喜欢庆祝，因为真的让人感觉很好。

I also love celebration because it feels good.

谁不喜欢一场美好的庆祝呢？

Who doesn't love a good celebration?

不管是喝香槟、红酒，还是吃个冰淇淋，只要能为自己感到骄傲，那种感觉就特别棒。

If it's with a glass of champagne or a glass of wine or ice cream cone, whatever it is, it's just such a great feeling to be proud of yourself.

我们之所以庆祝，就是为了培养这种自豪感。

And that's why we celebrate so you cultivate the feeling of proud.

我注意到，很多有冒名顶替综合征的人，是因为他们不承认自己的成果。

I see with imposter syndrome, a lot of people have imposter syndrome because they don't own their results.

他们不认可真实的自己，而认可自己的一个方式，就是庆祝生活中取得的每一个成就。

They don't own who they are and one way to own who you are is to celebrate the results that you have in your life.

这真的很有趣。

It's so interesting.

很多人取得了成绩，却说：‘我不知道自己是怎么做到的。’

People get results and they're like, well, I don't know how I did it.

我不明白自己是怎么达成的。

I don't know how I achieved it.

你之所以不清楚自己是怎么走到今天的，就是因为没留意过自己的进步。

And the only way you don't know how you got to where you are now is because you didn't look at the progress.

你没为这些进步庆祝，也没真正看清自己是从A点一路走到Z点的，对吧？

You didn't celebrate the progress and really see how you got to point A to Z, right?

中间总是有无数个小步骤，关键是要察觉、认可并庆祝每一个小进展，同时好好反思它们。

There's always steps in between and making sure that you recognize, notice and celebrate the steps, evaluate the steps.

如果你想听第150期播客《重启》，那是我最钟爱的教练工具之一，我总是习惯庆祝，也会认真复盘我的庆祝方式。

If you wanna listen to podcast episode 150, The Reset, one of my favorite coaching tools, I always like to celebrate and I like to evaluate my celebrations.

我该怎么把它做得更好？

How can I make it better?

我该怎么让它更有滋味？

How can I make it juicier?

我该怎么让过程更有趣？

How can I have more fun?

在追求目标的时候，真正地全情投入，尽情享受。

And really go go all out when it comes to my goals.

我今天特别想做这一期，因为我想庆祝我创业四周年。

I really wanted to do this episode today because I wanna celebrate my fourth year in business.

真不敢相信。

So crazy.

我刚刚算了算时间。

I was like doing the math.

我记得我是2021年2月4号开始创业的。

Was like, I started my business 02/04/2021.

我心想，天哪，真的已经四年了吗？

I'm like, oh my God, is it has it really been four years?

时间都去哪儿了？

Where has time gone?

我想借此好好庆祝一下。

But I wanted to celebrate with that.

今天我想和你一起分享这份喜悦。

I wanted to celebrate that with you today.

所以我决定，这期节目就彻底围绕庆祝来展开。

And so I was like, let me get this episode all about celebration.

那你平时怎么庆祝呢？

So how do you celebrate?

我想聊聊我一些不同的庆祝方式。

I wanna talk about different ways how I celebrate.

我习惯每天晚上睡觉前，回想一到三件值得庆祝的事，比如把衣服收好了、把屋子打扫干净了、录完了这期播客，或者和家人待在一起，这些我都当成庆祝。

I like to celebrate at the end of every single night before I go to bed, I think of like one to three celebrations and it could be I'm so, I'm celebrating putting the laundry away or cleaning the house, I'm celebrating for recording the podcast, I'm celebrating for hanging out with my family.

庆祝的方式其实多得很，我建议你从生活的各个层面去发现值得庆祝的时刻。

You can think of celebrations, there's so many different ways to celebrate and I recommend looking at all categories of life.

比如财务上有没有值得高兴的事？健康方面有没有进步？事业或职业上有没有突破？人际关系有没有升温？玩得开心的时候？个人成长的瞬间？这些都可以是庆祝的理由。

So looking in places in your finances where you can celebrate, in your health where you can celebrate, in your business, in your career, where you can celebrate relationships, where you can celebrate fun, where you can celebrate personal growth that you can celebrate.

生活中有很多方面都值得你去庆祝。

There's different areas in your life where you can celebrate.

庆祝不只限于钱、健康或者事业这些事。

It's not just financial and health and business stuff.

有太多微小的事情都值得庆祝了。

Like, there's so many little things that deserve celebration.

跑题了，但我还是得补上这一句。

Totally went off topic, but I had to add that there.

不管怎样，我习惯在睡觉前想想一两件值得庆祝的事。

Anywho, so I like to celebrate before I go to bed thinking about one or two celebrations.

每周末我都会做一次复盘和评估。

At the end of every single week, I do the reset my evaluation process.

这个过程的设计初衷，就是为了帮你庆祝。

And in that process, it's designed to help you celebrate.

所以每个星期天，我都会好好庆祝一番。

So I celebrate at the end of every single week on Sunday.

我喜欢庆祝，喜欢复盘，然后安排下一周的日程。

I like to celebrate, I like to evaluate, and then I do my schedule for the week.

每个月底，我也会专门庆祝一次。

And then at the end of every single month, I celebrate.

如果你在Instagram上关注我，我总会把我的庆祝时刻发到动态里，让大家看到，只要努力，每个人都能取得成就。

If you follow me on Instagram, I always post my celebrations on my story to show the possibility of things to know that you can achieve greatness.

我就是一个普通的女孩，没什么特别的。

I'm just a regular girl, nothing special about me.

我每天都坚持出现，从不缺席。

And I show up every single day.

想要成功，你只需要坚持出现就够了。

And that's all you have to do to be successful is to show up.

你不需要有多有天赋。

You don't have to be talented.

也不用非得特别出色、漂亮或者样样都好。

You don't have to be amazing and beautiful and all the things.

你只需要坚持出现。

You just have to show up.

所以我每个月都会公开庆祝一次。

So I always celebrate every single month publicly.

我都在Instagram的故事里发这些。

I do that on my Instagram story.

如果你也想搞个情侣庆祝仪式，我未婚夫道格——你可能还不知道，我们定在4月6号结婚，时间过得真快，就剩两个月了——过去两年，我们每周都会写一张庆祝小纸条，放进一个广口瓶里。

And if you want to have like a partnership celebration, My fiance and I, Doug, which you didn't know, we're getting married April 6, which is coming up so quickly, two more months, which is a celebration of my fiance and I, soon husband, for the past two years, every single week, we write a celebration on a sticky note and we put that sticky note in a mason jar.

到了第二年第一天，我们第一件事就是把整年写的所有小纸条全拿出来读一遍。

And at the beginning of the following year, our very first day of the new year, we read all of our celebrations throughout the year.

和彼此一起回顾过去一年，想想那些小事，真的特别有意思，比如：‘你还记得那天吗？’

And it's just so fun to have a moment to celebrate with each other, to look back on the past year and be like, oh my goodness, like you remember that?

这特别提醒我们：我们其实很厉害，我们就是牛人，生活中有太多事情正朝着好的方向走。

It's just such a great reminder that we are capable, that we are a badass, that there are so many things that are going right for us.

但你的大脑总爱盯着错的、羞愧的、内疚的事情。

Again, your brain is always gonna look at the wrongness, the shame, the guilt.

你本该做得更好。

You should have done this better.

大脑天生偏向负面，所以我们得有意识地跟自己对话。

Your brain is hardwired to negativity, and we have to intentionally talk to our brain.

前几天我听一个播客里说，我们得更多地主动跟自己的大脑对话，而不是光听它的。

I recently heard the other day on a podcast, we need to talk to our brain more than we listen to it.

因为如果你光听它的，那全是胡扯、谎言、借口，全是消极的东西。

Because if we listen to it, it's just bullshit, lies, excuses, negativity.

我们真的得主动跟自己的大脑说话。

We really have to talk to our brain.

所以我最喜欢的一种跟大脑对话的方式，就是庆祝。

So one of the ways I love to talk to my brain is by celebrating.

我每周、每天、每个月都会这么做。

I do it every week, every day, every month.

这真的太棒了。

It's just so fucking amazing.

谁不喜欢一场精彩的庆祝呢？

Who doesn't love a good celebration?

这可是提升自信最有效的一招，可偏偏没人提。

That is a number one confidence trick that no one is talking about.

我跟你保证，只要你每天、每周、每月都庆祝一下——不一定要三者都做，但至少选一个。我建议你每周末、每个月底都专门停下来，好好看看自己有多棒，真心接纳真实的自己，认可自己取得的成果。这样做，会给你带来巨大的动力，激发你的积极性，让你更有行动力去实现每个月的目标和每一个梦想。

I swear to you, if you celebrate every day, every week, and every month, it doesn't have to be all three, but at least one of those, I challenge you to celebrate before you go to bed at the end of every single week and every single month, I promise you, if you take that intentional pause to look at how awesome you are and to really own who you are and to own the results, It creates so much more momentum, creates motivation and it really helps you take action towards each month and every single goal that you have.

好了，今天的内容就这些。

Alright, that's what I have for you in today's episode.

别忘了庆祝。

Make sure you celebrate.

为你自己庆祝，为你做的每一件事庆祝。

Celebrate who you are, all the things that you're doing.

我特别喜欢翻看我的日历，然后想：哦，我跟朋友聚了，存了这么多钱，把家打扫干净了，试了个新菜谱，发布了四期播客，今年还正好创业四年，马上就要结婚了——所有这些，我都希望你能为自己疯狂打call，做自己最强的粉丝，做自己最铁的拉拉队。

I love just to look at my calendar and be like, oh, I hung out with my friend and I saved this much money and I cleaned up the house and I tried a new recipe and I posted four podcast episodes and I'm having four years in business today and I'm about to get married, just all the things I really want you to hype yourself up, be your biggest hype man, be your biggest cheerleader.

我真的超爱你。

I love you so much.

如果你想跟我一起工作，想彻底改变人生，想提升自信和自尊，今年我可以一对一辅导你。

If you wanna work with me, if you're ready to transform your life, if you want to increase your confidence and self esteem, you can work with me one on one this year.

我今年还剩几个一对一 coaching 和导师名额。

Have a couple spots for my one on one coaching and mentorship.

这个项目是为了帮你改变对自己的看法，重新认识自己，重新感受自己。

This program is to help you change the way you view yourself, the way you see yourself, the way that you feel about yourself.

这真的能彻底改变你的自信。

It's a true confidence game changer.

我希望我的学员最终都能相信，自己已经足够好，有能力，也值得被爱。

I hope my clients finally believe that they're good enough, that they are capable and they are so lovable.

如果你感兴趣，觉得这适合你，想在今年把自信提升到新高度，可以通过节目简介里的链接预约免费咨询。

If you're interested, if this applies to you, if you want to take your confidence to the next level this year, you can schedule a free consultation call with the link in the show notes.

好了，宝贝。

Alright, babe.

我真的很爱你。

I love you so much.

祝你今天过得愉快。

Have a great day.

别忘了为自己喝彩，因为你真的很了不起。

Don't forget to celebrate yourself because you are a badass.

再见。

Bye.

非常感谢你收听《MindsetBabe》播客。

Thank you so much for listening to the mindsetbabe podcast.

如果你希望提升自信，朝着梦想迈出实际行动，我诚邀你和我一起工作。

If you are looking to get more confidence and take action towards your dreams, then I want to invite you to work with me.

我提供一对一的私人指导。

I offer private one on one mentorship.

通过这个指导，你会学到目标设定、时间管理与吸引力法则的全部内容，帮助你彻底转变心态。

This mentorship will teach you everything about goal setting, time management, and manifestation so you can transform your mindset.

掌握这些工具，成为你本该成为的强者。

Get the tools to become the badass you were meant to be.

点击节目简介中的链接报名吧。

Register with the link in the show notes.